00:15:41.540And the conversations were fascinating to me because what I noticed was most of the people in that room were in a different headspace, a different energy space around success.
00:15:51.740And eventually one of my mentors explained it to me this way because I asked him, I said, I didn't really like that.
00:15:55.960And he said, oh, that's because those people are in wealth preservation mode and you're still in wealth creation mode.
00:16:01.220And I realized that that is the difference between playing not to lose versus playing to win.
00:16:06.140i would encourage you the top people the most successful people the ones that you read about
00:16:09.900in the magazines that inspire you these are people that are in wealth creation mode they're showing
00:16:15.100up to play to win they're trying to figure out where is the next opportunity not how do i protect
00:16:20.300the empire built so far people playing not to lose are often more focused on avoiding making mistakes
00:16:26.140than making plays expansion and creation and to be a great player you can't fear failure always be on
00:16:32.860the offense not the defense or over time you'll get frail this brings us to number 12 which is to
00:16:38.460express your preferences see successful people do this very simple thing they ask for what they want
00:16:44.540the reason most people are struggling to get what they want is because they've never asked for them
00:16:49.100whether big or small so you never get a dollar more than you think you deserve if you want to
00:16:53.740raise you gotta ask for it if you want money from investors you gotta ask for it if you want your
00:16:58.220you're steak medium rare and it comes out rare,