Dan Martell - July 19, 2024


The 21 Principles of the Top 0.01%


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The 21 Principles of Success are what make the top 0.01% of people successful. Some of these principles are what I've used to make my first million dollars at 27 years old, and others are from what I ve observed rubbing shoulders with some of the richest people you know. Now, I do attribute a lot of success in life to luck or grace of God and timing, but there are principles you can implement every day to fast track this luck and attract wealth into your life.

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00:00:00.000 I'm gonna share with you the 21 principles of success.
00:00:03.100 These principles are what make
00:00:04.660 the top 0.01% of people successful.
00:00:07.960 Some of these principles are what I've used
00:00:10.000 to make my first million dollars at 27 years old.
00:00:13.080 And others are from what I've observed rubbing shoulders
00:00:15.500 with some of the richest people you know.
00:00:17.740 Now, I do attribute a lot of success in life
00:00:19.960 to luck or grace of God and timing,
00:00:22.280 but there are principles you can implement every day
00:00:24.660 to fast track this luck and attract wealth into your life.
00:00:28.060 So without further explaining it,
00:00:29.440 These are the principles of success.
00:00:31.940 The first principle is to be misunderstood.
00:00:34.360 The other day I was talking to one of my clients
00:00:35.980 and he said, my wife doesn't support my growth.
00:00:39.680 And he got frustrated that every time he'd do something
00:00:42.180 to try to grow, his wife said something.
00:00:44.880 He felt like she didn't support his growth.
00:00:47.560 And my feedback was very simple.
00:00:49.220 The people closest to you are sometimes too close
00:00:51.800 to see your own greatness.
00:00:53.280 And the reason why is because they know you the best
00:00:55.520 and they've seen you try and fail
00:00:57.960 and say you're gonna do something and don't follow through.
00:01:01.000 They're literally the people
00:01:01.960 that have seen you at your worst.
00:01:03.160 And now you're trying to grow and expand
00:01:04.680 and you're upset that they don't support your growth.
00:01:07.700 Jeff Bezos said it best.
00:01:08.960 If you wanna be successful,
00:01:10.020 you have to go long periods of time being misunderstood.
00:01:12.960 And the reason why is because if you know something
00:01:15.400 very few people know,
00:01:16.600 and you're trying to demonstrate progress and success,
00:01:19.520 you'll go a long period of time not being successful,
00:01:22.420 not showing that you know how to do that.
00:01:24.180 And expecting other people to see
00:01:25.680 what you see inside your mind is not gonna work.
00:01:27.960 So here's my big philosophy.
00:01:29.180 This is what I explained to my client.
00:01:30.440 No one needs to change for you to win.
00:01:32.680 Nobody.
00:01:33.320 Sure, it'd be easier.
00:01:34.420 It would feel better.
00:01:35.520 It wouldn't feel so lonely sometimes,
00:01:37.560 but nobody else has to do anything for me to win.
00:01:42.480 That is my philosophy and my invitation to you.
00:01:44.740 So don't expect them to understand.
00:01:46.400 And the other thing is like not being understood.
00:01:48.800 That's weird.
00:01:49.720 Guess what's weird?
00:01:50.800 Rich.
00:01:51.080 People that are weird are actually richer.
00:01:53.440 Why?
00:01:53.880 Because they're doing things that other people would never do.
00:01:56.520 That's why they're weird.
00:01:57.640 They're the people that wear the same clothes every day.
00:01:59.540 They're the people that drive around
00:02:00.800 and do the things they wanna do.
00:02:02.120 They don't mind being clear about what they want.
00:02:04.700 Some people are like, man, you're too much.
00:02:06.560 Man, if I'm too much, go find less.
00:02:08.360 And people don't understand this,
00:02:09.560 but to have a life that other people want,
00:02:11.740 it means you have to be extra ordinary.
00:02:14.460 It means you have to be extra.
00:02:16.980 And being extra will mean you're gonna be misunderstood.
00:02:20.260 So you do you,
00:02:21.260 because it's what you've always loved
00:02:22.760 about every celebrity out there.
00:02:24.520 The people you admire, what you love about them
00:02:26.700 is they are authentically them.
00:02:28.560 This is who they are.
00:02:29.400 This is how they wanna live.
00:02:30.500 And because they've allowed themselves to do that,
00:02:32.520 you admire them.
00:02:34.000 Why don't you take a cue from how they're living
00:02:36.260 and go be that person?
00:02:37.720 Which brings us to our second principle,
00:02:39.540 which is to ask better questions.
00:02:41.360 Anytime I'm coaching a business owner or CEO,
00:02:44.120 I always like to ask this one question.
00:02:46.080 If somebody bought your business tomorrow
00:02:48.300 that knew your industry,
00:02:50.040 what's the first thing they would change?
00:02:51.500 Most people can immediately go to that.
00:02:53.240 They're like, well, they probably do this, this, and this.
00:02:55.460 My follow-up is, why haven't you made that decision yet?
00:02:58.720 See, most people know what they need to change,
00:03:02.000 but they all have these backstories
00:03:03.780 for why they haven't made that decision.
00:03:05.880 So I just like using questions to give people the clarity
00:03:09.360 of where they should focus their time and attention.
00:03:12.160 You know, if you ask a better question,
00:03:13.660 you'll live a better life.
00:03:14.720 So for example, my one-three-one rule,
00:03:16.720 it's a very simple premise.
00:03:17.800 What's the one problem you're dealing with?
00:03:19.260 What are the three options you evaluated?
00:03:20.880 And what's the one recommendation
00:03:22.240 that you have for your life?
00:03:23.500 I can use that framework to have anybody reporting to me
00:03:27.080 make decisions on my behalf
00:03:29.120 and 98% of the time, they're awesome.
00:03:31.620 Another question I love to ask people
00:03:33.200 is what are you pretending not to know?
00:03:35.260 I had a friend the other day
00:03:36.300 and he was building out a sales team
00:03:38.380 and he hired a VA in the Philippines for 1500 bucks a month
00:03:42.320 plus 4% of the sales commission.
00:03:44.640 And this is interesting
00:03:45.540 because this is a person that knows how to grow a business
00:03:47.720 but for some reason he decided
00:03:49.460 I'm gonna go hire somebody in another part of the world 0.90
00:03:51.740 paying them very little and only 4% of the sales.
00:03:54.460 For what?
00:03:55.100 So that you don't get sales?
00:03:57.140 When it didn't work out and he asked me what was going on, 0.96
00:03:59.380 I said, dude, hire a killer. 0.84
00:04:00.960 Go find somebody that actually knows how to sell. 0.99
00:04:02.920 Give them 20% of the sale
00:04:04.420 and get back to building the business.
00:04:06.320 I said, truthfully, what are you pretending not to know?
00:04:09.940 He's like, you're right.
00:04:10.880 I knew better.
00:04:11.860 I know.
00:04:12.880 Stop doing that.
00:04:14.080 A lot of people think if this is true,
00:04:16.140 this is true, this is true, then I'll do the business.
00:04:18.560 Whereas that person,
00:04:19.720 every other time they've had success in their life,
00:04:21.480 know that it doesn't work that way.
00:04:23.840 And I always ask them,
00:04:24.600 what are you pretending not to know?
00:04:26.520 One of my favorite questions I ask myself,
00:04:28.460 it's the primary question every day,
00:04:29.960 dozens of times a day.
00:04:30.860 Anytime I'm frustrated or I'm angry
00:04:33.240 or I'm upset a little bit,
00:04:34.800 I always go back to this question
00:04:36.080 to help give me clarity and focus.
00:04:38.020 How can I appreciate even more
00:04:39.900 God's grace and guidance in this moment?
00:04:42.060 Every time I ask myself that question,
00:04:44.340 I don't know why, but I take a deep breath in,
00:04:46.280 I look around and I get super appreciative.
00:04:49.560 Gratitude fills me up.
00:04:51.100 For the fact that I'm here,
00:04:52.820 I'm shooting this video for you,
00:04:54.560 I'm having a conversation,
00:04:55.680 I get to connect with you guys in the comments,
00:04:57.260 I get to meet people out that have seen my work,
00:04:59.540 I get a chance to reflect on that
00:05:01.220 and understand that it's all part
00:05:03.140 of this beautiful world we live in.
00:05:05.020 The technology that enables this,
00:05:06.640 that's where I go with that question.
00:05:08.520 But think about it, power of questions.
00:05:11.080 See, what questions do is they focus our mind.
00:05:14.600 Questions cut through all the noise
00:05:16.420 and give us clarity of what we need to do next.
00:05:18.720 I love asking my team questions to help guide them
00:05:22.000 because telling them means I always got to tell them.
00:05:24.780 If I ask them a question that gives them clarity
00:05:26.420 and direction, then they can ask themselves
00:05:28.380 the exact same question when I'm not around.
00:05:30.420 So my philosophy is very simple.
00:05:31.960 A problem well-defined is a problem half solved.
00:05:34.340 And if you ask the right question,
00:05:36.160 you'll get to the defined problem.
00:05:38.740 The uncreative mind can spot wrong answers,
00:05:41.120 but it takes a very creative mind to spot winning questions.
00:05:44.500 I think a lot of people don't realize
00:05:46.000 that our lives are dictated by the questions we continue to ask ourselves am i enough am i doing
00:05:51.600 the right thing am i successful enough literally the questions to find their life but they don't
00:05:55.600 actually go and research other questions that could help them come up with better answers and
00:06:01.120 that's why this is such a powerful principle which brings us to the third principle which is
00:06:05.200 to be resourceful in all my companies i have this thing called the 50 to fix it it's kind of cool
00:06:10.640 principle it's 50 to fix it if you're just a frontline worker 500 if you're a leader
00:06:15.360 $5,000 if you're a manager, and $50,000 if you're an executive. But essentially, I've given a
00:06:20.640 budget, I've empowered people to be resourceful to solve problems. Why would I be the only person
00:06:26.960 that can solve problems in an organization? That's really slow. I believe it's not the people that
00:06:31.640 have a title or have a lot of money that are successful. It's the people that are resourceful.
00:06:37.020 They find opportunities to do things. Even when everybody else doesn't believe that there's a
00:06:42.940 path forward they get resourceful think about elon musk okay he said my mission is to colonize mars
00:06:49.340 he believes being a multi-planetary species is a smart move now to actually go to mars it's going
00:06:55.580 to cost a bazillion dollars so where does he find the money starlink see most people don't realize
00:07:01.180 that the telecommunications space on planet earth that market is huge it might be a couple trillion
00:07:07.100 dollars so what does he do he comes up with some innovation to send satellites into space so that
00:07:11.740 he can connect the whole world and eventually skipping over all the telcos isn't that crazy
00:07:16.300 most people don't realize this he's funding his mission to mars through starlink he's essentially
00:07:21.740 going to colonize mars through the money he makes from starlink that is resourceful right when i was
00:07:26.700 building my company flowtown we had to pivot the whole product essentially we found out one day
00:07:32.300 our product only had two months to live because they were changing an api for the way it worked
00:07:35.980 and we were working with third-party data and it became an issue did we fail no i called up my
00:07:40.700 my co-founder, Ethan, I said, hey dude, let's go to the office. Let's try to figure it out.
00:07:44.560 Let's be resourceful. I don't know the answer today. I don't know the path forward. I just
00:07:49.060 know a process for winning and that is deciding there is a path and eventually just execute a
00:07:54.960 plan of discovery and search for a solution till we find it. Once we got it, we go all in. So my
00:08:00.940 question to you is, is in what you're doing, is there any sawdust? Is there opportunity? It could
00:08:06.160 even be like the by-product of what you're doing where there might be some other opportunities
00:08:10.280 right there, some sawdust in your life that you could take advantage to actually move things
00:08:15.320 forward. Can you tap into it? Can you be resourceful? See, most people, unfortunately,
00:08:20.180 they pretend they don't have the resources. They sell themselves on this story of not enough. Like,
00:08:26.740 I would love to do that, but I'm not that person. I'd love to do this, but I don't have that kind
00:08:30.880 of money. Nobody said you needed the money. Have you even asked, is there another way? Have you
00:08:35.020 ever reached out to people and said, hey, I don't have the money today, but is there a different
00:08:39.480 way that i might be able to add value to i could be able to go on that thing or join that community
00:08:44.200 or drive that car you never know like i'm always fascinated by people that just decide hey i know
00:08:49.880 on the surface it doesn't look like this will work for me but i'm so determined to end up in this
00:08:55.480 outcome that i would do anything to make it happen and i just want to call and just find out what
00:08:59.880 would need to be true for me to make that happen that is resourcefulness i remember one guy wanted
00:09:04.280 to coach with me and he couldn't afford it couldn't afford my fees but he reached out and he looked at
00:09:08.200 at my YouTube videos. This was about seven, eight years ago. And he went through all my videos and
00:09:11.920 he sent me a Google doc with all of the tweaks to all the last dozen videos. When I got that Google
00:09:17.840 doc and the depth of attention and energy he put into it, I immediately reached back out, asked him
00:09:23.100 for a cell number, got on a phone with him and found a way to work with the guy. I mean, here's
00:09:28.000 somebody that demonstrated his value ahead of time, even though we didn't need it. And I was
00:09:32.440 just like, so grateful. I was just like, man, I will do that. That is resourceful. Most people
00:09:36.940 think, oh, don't have the money. Job's not there. Can't get it. No, no, no, no, no. Don't be that
00:09:42.200 person. Decide what needs to be true for me to get this opportunity, which brings us to number
00:09:46.100 four, which is give to get. When I was 17, I ended up in rehab. I was hanging around with the wrong
00:09:51.380 people doing stuff I shouldn't have been doing. And I ended up a drug addict. And I went through
00:09:55.500 this 11 month program, this place called Portage, and it literally saved my life. I was not going to
00:10:01.620 continue walking on this earth prior to going to this place. I just didn't have any self-worth and
00:10:05.960 it helped me really understand my value. And the best part is helped me rebuild the relationship
00:10:11.280 that I'd broken with my family. And one of the biggest ideas that I got from being in rehab
00:10:16.120 is this philosophy that if you want to keep your sobriety, you get to help other people stay sober.
00:10:21.600 It's such a simple idea. The more you help other people achieve something, the more you'll have it
00:10:26.300 for yourself. And it's one of kind of the 12 steps, the whole idea of being a mentor to somebody else,
00:10:31.400 being somebody else's sponsor.
00:10:33.360 And I think that philosophy,
00:10:34.920 when I look at all the most successful people in my life,
00:10:37.480 people I look up to, my mentors, my coaches,
00:10:40.120 these are people that have a desire to help other people
00:10:43.460 in a way that very few understand.
00:10:45.400 A long time ago, I realized
00:10:46.900 you receive what you desire for others.
00:10:49.660 Think about that.
00:10:50.340 If you wanna be rich,
00:10:51.480 you should desire other people to get rich.
00:10:53.700 If you wanna be healthy,
00:10:54.500 you should desire other people to get healthy.
00:10:56.320 And you can only keep what you give away.
00:10:58.580 So if you want more love, don't wish.
00:11:00.500 why don't people love me more i'm actually going to tell you go give more love if you're like hey
00:11:05.220 why don't i have more opportunity how much opportunity have you given somebody else lately
00:11:09.780 when's the last time you took a shot on a random person you understand that it's the law of
00:11:13.540 reciprocity in many ways because you don't have this approach that's more giving you're hoarding
00:11:20.180 back opportunity on yourself that bad behavior that bad belief that friction you're creating
00:11:26.500 for other people. It's coming back to you. You don't even see it. See, the law of reciprocity,
00:11:31.580 it allows us to receive in proportion to what we give or do for others. Think about that. If we
00:11:37.280 want more, we have to give more, which makes it really hard for people to understand that don't
00:11:42.240 have a lot because they're like, I have no money. How do I give money to get money? It's not about
00:11:46.220 the money. The scripture makes it clear. We receive the same thing we give, such as mercy,
00:11:50.920 tithing, 10% of our money. I would actually go further. It's not 10% of our money. It's also
00:11:56.080 time, right? It can be money or time. See, I think there's a big opportunity that if you want to show
00:12:01.140 abundance, show up with your time, help other people that are in need. If you want to get in
00:12:05.440 the best shape of your life, why don't you go help two or three other people, your friends, get in
00:12:08.960 the best shape of your life, go to the gym, be kind to other people. Guess what's going to come
00:12:12.500 back? Kindness. It is this beautiful concept. Now you should never do it to get because then it's
00:12:18.800 very transactional. But I think it's just this belief, this principle that if you can get behind,
00:12:23.560 It'll serve you in the biggest ways, which brings us to number five, which is to have extreme
00:12:28.360 ownership. During COVID, I was training for an Ironman. And because of all the things that went
00:12:33.820 on in the world, which makes total sense, our race got canceled. And in that moment, after training
00:12:39.000 a year and a half, I had to make a decision. Do I accept that the race got canceled and I just put
00:12:44.280 off maybe a year or two years? Or do I focus on what I can control, what I call controlling the
00:12:50.100 controllables and really focus on how I responded to that situation. And after reviewing our options
00:12:55.840 and consideration, we decided to race and we kept training. And six months later, we ran our own
00:13:02.080 unofficial Ironman. We called it Corona Man. And that race became the cornerstone of my Ironman
00:13:08.180 career. For the next few years, not only did I do a half, I ended up doing a full. Then I did
00:13:12.700 another couple of halves and I ended up doing an official half and an official full at Mont
00:13:17.500 Tremblant, Ironman. And I look back at this moment where I could have decided to not continue
00:13:23.160 training, not race our own race. And in that moment, I wouldn't have taken extreme ownership
00:13:28.840 for that situation. And what I share with people is that it's not about what happens to you. It's
00:13:34.740 how you respond. See, it sounds crazy, but even if you're walking down the street and a car just
00:13:40.180 happened to jump over the curve and hit you and then run off, obviously let's assume everybody's
00:13:45.980 healthy and safe and all that stuff. What I would ask myself is how did I contribute to this
00:13:51.180 situation? I know this is so hard for people. Some of you guys want to blame everybody else
00:13:56.560 in the world for how your life looks. And I'm telling you, you can do that or you can be 100%
00:14:02.200 accountable for your situation. For example, why was I walking on that sidewalk in that moment?
00:14:06.520 Why didn't I stay home? Why didn't I take a car? Why didn't I take a different path? Like even
00:14:11.320 though i have no control over somebody else hitting me i do have control over how i respond even if
00:14:17.080 it's in a breakup in that moment you can blame them they did this this happened it's not my fault
00:14:22.360 i can't believe they did this to me or you could say how did i contribute to this situation you
00:14:26.920 pick them you might have accepted some red flags you might have allowed them to say or do things
00:14:32.680 that in hindsight you probably should have put your foot down but you didn't and i think what's
00:14:37.160 powerful about that is that you then take control back to the situation you bring power back to you
00:14:43.640 you control the controllables then you hold the power see i don't want anybody else to control
00:14:49.640 my situation i don't want the government to control it i don't want another person to control
00:14:53.160 it i don't want the bank to control it i want to say hey i'm accountable 110 percent for my
00:14:58.600 situation i'm in today one of my biggest philosophies in life is that the world will
00:15:03.400 show me where i'm not free anytime i feel something and i go against that or i get upset you know i
00:15:09.720 just don't feel like that's right or somebody did something wrong i always ask myself like well how
00:15:14.200 did i create that situation i know it's a big one but extreme ownership is probably one of the most
00:15:19.960 powerful ways for you to take control of your life and not give the power to somebody else
00:15:24.040 which brings us to number six which is learn do teach see i have this overarching philosophy
00:15:29.480 in my life which is i believe everyone is here to become the person god made you in his image
00:15:35.480 you know if you have a higher power higher faith you have a future you let's call it the 10.0
00:15:40.680 version of you that you have the potential to become you know who that person is because it's
00:15:44.760 like take all the best moments you've ever shown up in a day most courageous empathetic direct
00:15:50.520 driven and you put them all together what if you could live like that all the time that's part one
00:15:55.080 of this second part of this is that share that process with the world share what's worked with
00:16:00.360 you with the world that's where learn do teach comes from see i think that if you learn something
00:16:05.880 that makes your life better that helps you overcome something in the past then it's your
00:16:10.120 responsibility to share it with other people my philosophy is that if you've made it to the top
00:16:15.080 it's your responsibility to send the elevator back down if you don't share what's worked for you i
00:16:20.600 consider that incredibly selfish think about this if you want more abundance in your life then you
00:16:25.240 should have an abundance mindset don't have an abundance blocker if something's worked for you
00:16:30.040 don't gatekeepers like well what if i share my secret plan your plan ain't that secret you
00:16:35.240 learned it there's probably a hundred thousand other people that know it and if you think that's
00:16:38.920 the thing that's going to stop you from winning because somebody else won that is a scarcity
00:16:43.320 mindset you know but what if i share it and people don't like it you know they say i'm scared of what
00:16:47.960 other people think this is way bigger than you this is an opportunity for you to shine your light
00:16:53.560 to not only help the people that you were once like but even more importantly to have the people
00:16:57.960 that are looking for you to find you so i think a lot of people are being quiet because they don't
00:17:02.280 want the responsibility of shepherding helping coaching guiding somebody else but the truth is
00:17:07.880 is i don't want you to let your insecurities rob you of helping the world a lot of people their
00:17:12.600 world is their kids their community their crossfit gym maybe their city and they're like that's about
00:17:17.640 as far as i'm going i don't want to share with the world you know i was saying this to alan my
00:17:21.640 my coach the other day i was in his gym and i was like hey man why aren't you posting more why aren't
00:17:25.800 you sharing more the guy has the body of a superhero he's 250 pounds lean and he looks the
00:17:31.480 part and i was like you're not even sharing on facebook on instagram you're not sharing anything
00:17:35.400 and he's like ah it's just not my thing and i looked around the gym and there was pictures of
00:17:39.640 all the greats on his wall like literally their physiques their poses on all the walls and i said
00:17:46.520 what if all these people had that same mentality are these people that inspired you yeah they
00:17:51.560 inspire me arnold etc yeah these people inspired me to become who i am what if they never allowed
00:17:56.680 another person to take a picture of them where would you be i could tell in that moment he got
00:18:00.920 it this isn't about him it's his opportunity to help the people that are in his position where
00:18:06.040 he was when he first discovered their physique isn't that cool that we live in a world and that's
00:18:10.200 kind of our purpose all of us i can tell you from personal experience your life will feel full of
00:18:16.520 of fulfillment when you start shifting to learn,
00:18:20.020 do and teach other people.
00:18:21.580 Which brings us to number seven,
00:18:23.100 which is to invest in your priorities.
00:18:25.200 See, there's this incredible book
00:18:26.480 called High Performance Habits by Brendan Burchard.
00:18:28.800 It's the book I recommend to my high performers.
00:18:31.420 And his whole philosophy is helping people
00:18:33.540 obviously understand where they wanna go
00:18:35.060 and what they wanna achieve,
00:18:36.340 but then really understand how to invest
00:18:38.860 in developing the skills, acquiring the resources,
00:18:41.800 the network or whatever you need
00:18:43.500 to accomplish those outcomes.
00:18:45.320 See, a long time ago, I learned if I wanna achieve anything,
00:18:48.140 I could ask myself two questions.
00:18:49.620 Where in my calendar is there time dedicated to that goal?
00:18:52.520 And where in my bank account
00:18:53.860 can I see transactions investing in that goal?
00:18:57.220 See, your calendar and bank account
00:18:58.780 tell me what's important to you.
00:19:01.040 So if you say my family and my health is important,
00:19:03.260 then show me in your bank account
00:19:05.060 and in your calendar where you've invested in it.
00:19:07.200 Show me that you've blocked the time out
00:19:09.320 and you've been deliberate
00:19:10.200 about what you're gonna do with that time.
00:19:12.220 See, money and time is a clear indication
00:19:14.540 of what's important to you because what you invest in grows.
00:19:17.940 A lot of people believe the grass is greenest
00:19:19.780 in the other yard.
00:19:20.740 I believe the grass is greenest
00:19:22.100 where it's watered and fertilized,
00:19:23.540 which brings us to number eight,
00:19:25.280 which is to ask for bigger problems.
00:19:27.980 I know, you're like, what?
00:19:29.380 Why would I want bigger problems?
00:19:30.900 Here's my philosophy.
00:19:32.160 If we want a bigger life, we have to have bigger problems.
00:19:35.940 One time Oprah was getting sued for a billion dollars.
00:19:38.760 The mad cow industry was mad at some things
00:19:40.700 she said about the meat quality or something like that.
00:19:42.820 And somebody asked her like, oh my gosh, Oprah,
00:19:44.540 aren't you upset that you're getting sued for a billion dollars? And her response was actually,
00:19:50.080 I'm grateful to be sued for a billion dollars because it means I'm the kind of person that has
00:19:54.600 a billion dollars. So my question to you is, are you grateful for your problems? Because the bigger
00:20:00.120 the problem, the bigger the life. You don't have $10 million problems in your life if you're still
00:20:05.840 trying to make your first hundred grand. Would you rather be a gardener in a war or a warrior
00:20:10.600 in a garden, right? Would you want to become the person who can deal with bigger issues or always
00:20:16.240 play a small life? The easy path today makes for the hard path tomorrow. See, most people are always
00:20:22.020 looking for easy. They're like, if I had the money, if I won the lottery, I would just go on vacation
00:20:26.540 and I would live on a beach and I'd call it a day. It's actually because of that, that those things
00:20:31.000 will never come to you because you're not preparing to receive. You're saying, I don't want challenges.
00:20:36.100 I don't want hardship. I want things to be easy. The challenge is that anything you want in life,
00:20:40.940 it will challenge you because in the challenges where you develop and grow, it's kind of crazy,
00:20:47.180 but understand this. The reason it's a challenge for you and not for somebody else is because the
00:20:52.880 other person has grown past it. See, some of you guys can't even manage $100,000. I'll tell you,
00:20:58.400 because you can't do that, you ain't going to be given a million. A long time ago, Jim Rohn said,
00:21:01.960 you better hope nobody gives you a million dollars until you become a millionaire because getting a
00:21:05.740 million dollars is not the same as becoming a millionaire. A millionaire knows how to create
00:21:09.920 a million dollars. He also said something I loved. He says, don't wish life was easier. Wish you were
00:21:15.320 better. Don't wish for easy opportunities. Wish for the skill to overcome any opportunity. You
00:21:21.560 should be grateful for bigger problems. You should seek bigger problems because bigger problems
00:21:25.340 equals bigger life. Which brings us to number nine, which is everything is a blessing or a
00:21:30.140 lesson. When I was 18, I started my first company. I worked my butt off. I went all in. I worked
00:21:35.460 hard and even after all of that effort a year and a half of focus and energy and trying to build this
00:21:41.500 and figuring it all out I got my butt kicked somebody else competed against me and took all
00:21:46.960 of my customers why because they decided to build a product for a bigger market and I was trying to
00:21:53.360 build a product for a small market and in that moment I realized that I was playing way too small
00:21:59.300 that was the lesson and now at the time it sucked because I worked my butt off to try to get all
00:22:03.800 these customers and they all went to this bigger company. But I use that for the rest of my life
00:22:08.820 to always play bigger. Why was I only focusing on Canada as a country? Why wouldn't I focus on
00:22:14.260 the US or even better, which is today global? Why should you ever say, well, I can only sell
00:22:19.440 these small group of customers? No, no, no. Think massive. You know, John Maxwell has this incredible
00:22:25.020 book called sometimes you win and sometimes you learn. It's the same concept. Everything you do
00:22:29.960 in life is going to bring you closer to your goals. You'll either win and make some leaps
00:22:35.280 forward or you won't and you'll learn and you'll make some leap forward. Those challenges or
00:22:40.260 setbacks, they're there to guide you to your higher self if you learn. Otherwise, you'll
00:22:46.040 repeat yourself. I have a friend, he's almost 50 years old. His whole life, he's been dealing with
00:22:51.040 the same problems over and over. Every business, 15 businesses now, up and down, up and down,
00:22:55.760 up and down. Why? Because he does not see the lesson in the challenges. And because of that,
00:23:01.860 he'll never find the blessing. So you have to make sure you learn from your mistakes. Do not
00:23:06.500 move on from it until you find that seed of opportunity, as Napoleon Hill said, to then
00:23:11.500 reinvest it and plant it in something that could be even bigger than the thing you just failed at.
00:23:16.100 Brings us to number 10, which is to scare yourself every day. If you follow my stuff for a while,
00:23:21.340 you'll see that not only have I done
00:23:23.440 half full distance Ironmans,
00:23:26.040 I've done project visible abs
00:23:27.860 where I went from 231 pounds
00:23:29.600 down to 197 pounds in 90 days.
00:23:32.540 I've done 12 hour walks.
00:23:34.260 I've done ultra marathons.
00:23:36.480 I've said yes to creating content full time
00:23:40.280 with a whole team of people,
00:23:41.620 follow me around to put out stuff to help other people.
00:23:44.160 Like all these opportunities
00:23:45.960 that at the time I made these decisions scared me.
00:23:48.720 It was in those moments that I realized
00:23:50.360 That's actually what I should be doing.
00:23:51.900 See, I believe you should set goals to grow you.
00:23:54.380 People go, how do you just choose what business to do next?
00:23:57.220 It's kind of simple.
00:23:58.420 Which one is going to develop me the most?
00:24:00.720 One of the big lessons when I did the 12 hour walk
00:24:03.060 is I pondered a very important question.
00:24:05.940 And it's a quote by Joseph Campbell.
00:24:07.640 And it says, the cave you fear to enter most
00:24:10.260 holds the treasure you seek.
00:24:12.380 So I kept asking myself, what is the cave I fear to enter?
00:24:16.320 You know, and having been doing personal development
00:24:18.220 now for 27 years. I feel like I've worked on a lot of stuff, but as I kept asking myself this
00:24:23.400 question, there were conversations with certain people I hadn't had that I knew I had to have,
00:24:28.360 and I wrote their names down. And it's just, it could be as subtle as that conversation. It could
00:24:32.640 be as important as deciding where you're going to live. It could be even more important as deciding
00:24:37.380 to change your career and go start a business. I don't know what it is for you, but there's
00:24:42.340 something that you haven't made a decision around that is scaring you. That is your comfort zone.
00:24:47.980 staying where you're at even if it's not positive the devil you know is a lot less scarier than the
00:24:53.180 devil you don't know so some people just stay in the same place even though it's not positive
00:24:57.500 because they're scared sometimes people don't make decisions because they're worried to have
00:25:00.860 imposter syndrome i actually think it's a good thing if i have imposter syndrome around what
00:25:04.700 i'm about to do it tells them i'm on the right path you know another philosophy is exposure
00:25:09.420 therapy a lot of phobias out there one of the easiest ways to help people get over that is to
00:25:13.980 literally get them in that environment where they just got to allow their central nervous system to
00:25:18.780 regulate and eventually they will get over that phobia another one of my favorite frameworks is
00:25:23.460 the rule of a thousand or the expert frame by my buddy alex hermosi his philosophy is this is that
00:25:28.840 if you're scared to make a decision pretend you've made this decision a thousand times what if you
00:25:33.700 just did this thing a thousand times firing somebody dating somebody raising capital from
00:25:38.880 somebody, how would you feel the thousands and one time? It would feel pretty normal. And that's
00:25:44.220 kind of the whole idea is sometimes you have to do things over and over again until it just becomes
00:25:48.660 the norm so that you can expand your exposure. You can expand what scares you so you can kind
00:25:54.660 of keep pushing at the edges. Because once a mind is expanded, it cannot contract so that you keep
00:26:00.080 growing and pushing yourself outside your comfort zone. Which brings us to number 11, which is to be
00:26:05.160 a river, not a reservoir. See, when I started my last company, SaaS Academy, which is today has
00:26:11.020 become the number one coaching organization for software CEOs. I created this flywheel concept,
00:26:17.200 and I got this from Amazon and the book, Good to Great, which is how do we create value in the
00:26:22.540 market? What are the key movements we want to perfect? And one of them was to give away 100%
00:26:27.780 of everything we knew how to do. No gatekeeping, for free, public, not hidden behind a paywall.
00:26:34.280 we wanted to demonstrate that we knew how to do stuff
00:26:37.820 by just giving it away.
00:26:39.420 And I remember my team pushed back.
00:26:41.200 They were like, how about we do 98%?
00:26:43.840 And I said, no.
00:26:44.780 The whole philosophy is if we give our best stuff away,
00:26:47.420 we attract our best clients that resonate.
00:26:49.320 We help a lot of people, people talk about us,
00:26:51.500 and then that gets us the best clients.
00:26:52.960 The clients get the best results
00:26:53.980 and then track the top talent
00:26:55.420 that helps us create better content
00:26:56.960 that then we give away to the world
00:26:58.380 and the whole flywheel works away.
00:27:00.340 So my whole philosophy is give away your best stuff.
00:27:03.040 Let the information flow through you.
00:27:05.480 My buddy Taki said it best once.
00:27:06.860 He says, information is free, implementation is paid.
00:27:10.400 Give away your best stuff to attract people,
00:27:12.620 then they'll pay you to help implement that.
00:27:15.260 Here's a big idea.
00:27:16.480 If you do it right, your marketing will help more people
00:27:19.020 than your product or service ever will.
00:27:20.940 I think that is a cool concept.
00:27:22.780 Give it all away for free, help people, and trust me,
00:27:25.880 it'll come back 10 times in opportunities for your business.
00:27:29.220 Which brings us to number 12,
00:27:30.520 which is to praise in public and criticize in private trust me this one was the hardest for
00:27:35.560 me to adopt because i'm the kind of person that loves feedback i love people being direct with me
00:27:40.680 no holds bar you can't hurt my feelings just tell me the challenge with that is that other people
00:27:45.560 turns out they don't like that especially in a in a group setting so i was always going around
00:27:50.600 giving public feedback to people giving them cues and opportunities to improve it but in my one-on-ones
00:27:55.800 or other people's one-on-ones i get the feedback that i was hurting people's feelings or i was
00:27:59.640 embarrassing them in big meetings so here's what i tweaked i eventually created this list called
00:28:04.680 ad agenda it's all my direct reports and anytime i saw anything that wasn't being done right i would
00:28:09.320 just write it on the list i did it today with my assistant she actually said at the end of the
00:28:13.080 meeting she goes thank you for not texting me on the weekend 14 things that were broken instead
00:28:17.160 using the agenda list structure and i said no 100 i used to believe that doing that was slow
00:28:22.760 now i've learned is actually faster and it feels way better for somebody so a few things that i
00:28:28.360 believe first off is catch people doing good it's like i was watching my son play soccer this weekend
00:28:33.480 a lot of the people the other parents were screaming at their kid when they weren't doing
00:28:37.800 the right thing pick it up the line why are you throwing it that way i'm just like okay you go
00:28:42.760 play the game and let me criticize and scream at you from the sidelines so what i do instead is
00:28:47.080 when i saw my son do something great i would then tell him nice kick way to run up the field why
00:28:54.520 Because it's accomplishing the same thing,
00:28:56.680 but it's reinforcing the positive behavior.
00:28:59.420 And I just think it's a lot better strategy
00:29:01.340 to praise in public and criticize in private
00:29:04.360 so you don't undermine your team in front of their peers.
00:29:07.360 So if you gotta give them feedback, do it in a one-on-one.
00:29:10.060 If you wanna give them a praise, do it in the group setting.
00:29:12.960 Which brings us to number 13,
00:29:14.440 which is understand the four C's of leverage.
00:29:17.420 So when I was 20, I moved to San Francisco
00:29:19.040 and I met some incredible people,
00:29:20.860 some billionaires and really successful entrepreneurs
00:29:23.540 and investors. But one of the people that really stands out is this guy named Naval Ravikant.
00:29:27.960 A lot of you guys have seen his stuff online. He was on Joe Rogan. He's arguably one of the
00:29:32.260 best angel investors to ever come out of Silicon Valley. He invested in Uber and many other
00:29:36.000 companies. One of the things that I learned from him was this concept of leverage and the 4Cs
00:29:41.520 specifically, because his philosophy is that if you can master these skills, then you can accomplish
00:29:46.920 anything. So I consider these the four master skills of doing more. Because a lot of people
00:29:51.480 say, I would do more if I had more resources. No, you could do more if you understood these
00:29:56.160 four master skills. The first one is content, but content is two parts. Content for me is
00:30:00.980 internal systems and playbooks. Like how do I document the way we do things? And the other one
00:30:07.160 is media. If you have leverage of pieces of content you put out into the world, you can go
00:30:11.540 viral and get hundreds of millions of views on your stuff. So what's cool about content is if I
00:30:16.120 build a playbook, then I can take something that works for one person and replicate it a million
00:30:20.380 times. And if I create a piece of content like a podcast with this video, it could be seen by
00:30:24.500 100 million people and there's no extra cost to the organization. Huge leverage. The second one
00:30:29.520 is capital. It takes money to expand quickly. But if I take a dollar and I can turn it into 10
00:30:34.920 within 30 days, how much money do I have access to in the world? Unlimited. See, most people don't
00:30:39.880 look at their business through that lens. So they're always thinking, well, I need money to
00:30:43.880 make money. No, you need an engine that can produce capital to borrow capital to repay it
00:30:49.280 And to the degree you can do that,
00:30:50.900 you have amazing amounts of leverage.
00:30:53.040 The third C is code.
00:30:54.800 This is the one I fell in love with.
00:30:56.140 This is learning how to code at 17, literally saved my life.
00:30:59.680 It became my new addiction coming out of rehab.
00:31:02.140 Code is building a system that repeats
00:31:04.740 and will always do that thing through automation, through AI.
00:31:08.440 That's all code.
00:31:09.800 And it will allow you to give massive amounts of leverage, right?
00:31:12.460 Just information systems that are written through software
00:31:15.280 so that you can just build automation
00:31:17.600 and workflows into your business.
00:31:19.120 That's the biggest amount of leverage.
00:31:21.040 The fourth one is collaboration.
00:31:22.820 And it's really about having other people
00:31:24.640 support you in your journey.
00:31:26.340 If you wanna go super fast, go alone.
00:31:28.380 But if you wanna go far and build something massive
00:31:31.220 and have leverage, you need to invest in labor dollars
00:31:34.440 and collaboration in people.
00:31:35.900 It's your team.
00:31:36.840 Those four Cs, content, capital, code, and collaboration.
00:31:40.740 If you've mastered those four skills,
00:31:42.480 you have unlimited amount of scale
00:31:44.040 for what you can do ahead of you.
00:31:45.220 Which brings us to number 14,
00:31:46.900 which is to buy back time.
00:31:49.180 This is obviously one of my favorite topics.
00:31:51.140 It's why I wrote a book on it.
00:31:52.540 See, where most people get it wrong
00:31:53.720 is they think that time is infinite.
00:31:56.220 They got all this time, but it's not.
00:31:57.780 Money is infinite.
00:31:58.680 There's unlimited amount of capital
00:32:00.220 for creativity and resourcefulness.
00:32:02.160 Time, we all got the same amount.
00:32:04.140 Everyone has the same 24 hours.
00:32:05.920 It doesn't matter how rich or poor you are,
00:32:07.520 you do not manufacture more time.
00:32:09.440 What most people do is they spend time to save money,
00:32:12.580 but what rich people do is they spend money to save time.
00:32:15.980 If we've got more time back to then reinvest it
00:32:19.140 in our skills to become more valuable to the market,
00:32:22.220 then we will be compensated at a higher level
00:32:24.740 for those increases in skill.
00:32:26.920 It's easy for you to be your cleaner,
00:32:30.000 your laundry person, your grocery delivery person.
00:32:32.580 But if you actually step back and say,
00:32:34.360 how do I buy back more time?
00:32:35.920 Why don't you have somebody else clean your house,
00:32:38.200 do your laundry or deliver your groceries?
00:32:40.320 These are simple apps in today's world.
00:32:42.460 You don't need to be doing everything yourself
00:32:44.500 just because you can do it.
00:32:45.840 See, most people have a hard time
00:32:47.220 giving anything to somebody else
00:32:48.460 because there's fear around it.
00:32:50.420 What if they do it wrong?
00:32:51.520 That's the skill that you need to go develop
00:32:53.880 is how to delegate.
00:32:55.580 Why does everything need to happen yourself?
00:32:57.740 My belief is you wanna figure out what you do
00:32:59.940 that creates the most value in this world
00:33:01.420 that you actually enjoy doing
00:33:02.800 and then delegate everything else to other people
00:33:05.820 so you can get the time back to do the thing
00:33:08.040 that makes you the most money that you actually enjoy.
00:33:10.760 Which brings us to 15, which is the 108010 rule.
00:33:14.040 This is for people that have creative positions and they're like,
00:33:17.160 there's no way somebody else can help me.
00:33:19.400 It requires a very unique mind and I am a artist or a creative and it's hard to get other people to help me.
00:33:25.940 If you didn't know this, all the top, top creative people that you know about have done this at scale.
00:33:32.060 People like Steve Jobs, you know, when he would go into the design studio,
00:33:35.520 he would sit down with Johnny Ives and they would collaborate on that first 10% of a new product idea.
00:33:41.200 and then johnny and his team would go out and spend 80 trying to prototype stuff and then steve
00:33:46.080 would come back a couple weeks later and they'd spend the next 10 of that project's life trying
00:33:50.400 to figure out how to integrate and perfect it and really make it work gary vaynerchuk that's how he
00:33:54.960 does team gary he's got a bunch of people that he collaborates with that then take those ideation
00:34:00.240 phases and creates different ideas and content and then sends it back to him so that he can
00:34:04.400 publish it on all his different social media so i've broken this down into those three parts the
00:34:08.800 The first phase is ideation, the 10% where you sit down
00:34:11.820 and you collaborate on what does this look like
00:34:14.080 when it's done, and here's the different resources
00:34:15.980 and ideas I have around getting it done.
00:34:17.900 The second phase is execution.
00:34:19.740 It's the 80% done by somebody else,
00:34:22.380 having somebody else support you
00:34:23.860 so that you can go and do a bunch more
00:34:25.700 of those other 10% with other creatives,
00:34:27.920 and then when you get that back,
00:34:29.540 you are an editor, not an author.
00:34:31.500 The third phase is integration.
00:34:33.800 Take the final product and give feedback to tweak it
00:34:37.200 so that you can then present it or use it,
00:34:40.140 but you don't have to be the person
00:34:41.900 that does the whole thing.
00:34:43.320 It is way easier to be an editor than an author,
00:34:46.960 and it gives you scale, especially in creative projects.
00:34:50.260 Which brings us to number 16, which is the 10X mindset. 0.99
00:34:53.840 My philosophy, I call it add a zero strategy.
00:34:57.100 Anything in your business that you're working on,
00:34:59.220 maybe it's lead generation, sales, onboarding customers,
00:35:02.900 what would happen if you added a zero
00:35:05.220 to the number of things going on in that department.
00:35:07.980 What would break?
00:35:08.900 In Dan Sullivan's book, 10X is Easier than 2X,
00:35:11.400 he argues is actually easier for you to build a 10X vision
00:35:15.020 and execute against it versus just a 2X, why?
00:35:17.900 A 10X vision requires you to fundamentally shift
00:35:20.660 the way you've been thinking about solving the problem.
00:35:22.780 It allows you to attract talent
00:35:24.600 that wants to work on big, meaningful problems,
00:35:27.500 and those people are usually a lot more fun to work with.
00:35:30.540 And the whole philosophy of just adding a zero to stuff,
00:35:32.780 It just makes your dream and your execution
00:35:35.500 and the energy just more fun.
00:35:37.080 So it is in many ways easier than 2X.
00:35:39.280 Now, to do that, you have to have a BHAG,
00:35:42.120 a big, hairy, audacious goal.
00:35:43.880 You have to have a huge vision.
00:35:45.500 And if you do, then the team can grow within it.
00:35:48.360 What I love about this strategy
00:35:50.220 is that it requires you to change your calendar every year.
00:35:53.720 If you wanna 10X your business in 12 months,
00:35:56.400 80% of your calendar has to be different.
00:35:59.060 So it really forces you to figure out like,
00:36:00.920 who do you hire and give it to?
00:36:02.180 MrBeast talked about this the whole time
00:36:04.000 he was building his YouTube channel.
00:36:05.420 He would hire people and he would just like
00:36:06.760 give people swaths of work that was taking up his time
00:36:09.640 so that he could just focus on the most important
00:36:11.900 and creative projects.
00:36:12.980 See, most people just aim for a little bit more.
00:36:15.520 And what happens is a little bit more
00:36:17.380 gives you linear growth.
00:36:19.180 What you want is exponential growth.
00:36:21.340 You wanna build a business to expand,
00:36:24.120 not a business not to contract.
00:36:26.000 You wanna play to win.
00:36:27.160 You don't wanna play not to lose.
00:36:28.940 and it focuses on quantity of scale, not quality.
00:36:33.420 Some of you guys are perfectionists,
00:36:34.660 which is essentially a closet procrastinator, okay?
00:36:37.640 What are the main things you need to be doing right now
00:36:40.280 to add a zero to your business
00:36:42.740 so that you can then really force yourself
00:36:44.860 to innovate and expand way outside your comfort zone
00:36:47.940 to achieve your dreams?
00:36:48.960 Which brings us to number 17,
00:36:50.500 which are the four levels of luck.
00:36:52.400 I first read about this on Naval's blog back in the day,
00:36:55.660 where he was talking about Warren Buffett.
00:36:58.280 These four levels of luck work this way.
00:36:59.980 You have pure luck, which is people that buy lottery tickets.
00:37:02.960 It literally is random.
00:37:04.240 It's pure luck.
00:37:05.040 You might win a bunch of money, but there's no skill.
00:37:07.780 There's nothing involved, just pure luck.
00:37:09.540 Second level is grit luck.
00:37:10.960 This is where because you're showing up
00:37:12.960 and you're being determined,
00:37:14.460 eventually you take enough shots on goal,
00:37:16.120 one of the shots are gonna go in.
00:37:17.720 That's just grit luck because you show up.
00:37:20.040 The third level of luck that's better luck is skilled luck,
00:37:22.920 where you are so skillful that other people
00:37:26.560 want to partner with you because you are the tip of the spear at what you do. The highest level of
00:37:31.660 luck is prepared luck. This is where preparation, skill level, being in the market and just deciding
00:37:38.380 to be at the top of the game brings you prepared luck. That's Warren Buffett type luck. What does
00:37:43.700 that mean? It means all of a sudden now other people's luck, people that have grit, luck,
00:37:48.020 and skilled luck bring you their luck, their opportunities to you because you're the best
00:37:52.420 at what you do. So Warren Buffett luckily gets access to deals that are never on market. He has
00:37:58.600 people that want to sell to him and only him because he's been doing this forever. He's
00:38:04.040 demonstrated his character. He's got the skills and people want to work with him. So he's getting
00:38:09.680 advantage of their luck in their situation. Just like me, I get access to buy software companies
00:38:14.100 that nobody else will ever see because I've been doing this for almost 30 years. And people want
00:38:18.640 to sell me their company because I have a track record for what I do with those companies, which
00:38:22.320 brings us to number 18, which is to be blissfully dissatisfied. I first heard this from one of my
00:38:27.920 coaches, this guy named Ed Milet. He's one of the most successful people I've ever met. I've spent
00:38:33.220 time with him at his home. I've interviewed him for my YouTube channel. And he's somebody that I
00:38:37.540 speak to regularly about strategy in life. And his philosophy is that just because you want more,
00:38:43.820 it doesn't mean you don't appreciate what you have. A lot of people can't allow themselves
00:38:47.880 the permission to desire anything more in their life because they tell themselves a story that
00:38:53.080 if I want more, that means I don't appreciate or I'm not grateful for what I have. And his whole
00:38:57.140 philosophy is like, no, you have to be blissfully dissatisfied. You have to acknowledge that what
00:39:02.700 you have is absolutely incredible and beautiful and have gratitude for it. And in the same breath,
00:39:08.460 acknowledge that there is more that you can become because that's the truth. God won't give
00:39:13.720 you more if you can't handle what you got. See, God created you as a creator. He wants you to
00:39:18.520 create. You have to have desire because it's required to have a vision on what's possible.
00:39:23.820 Imagine, and I truly believe whatever you desire in life, whatever you want, whatever car you want,
00:39:28.640 house you want, relationship you want, anything, if it's on your heart, it's because he thinks you
00:39:33.540 can have it. The key is to prepare to receive. If you were finding out that in eight, seven months,
00:39:39.080 you were going to have a baby, wouldn't you get ready? Wouldn't you maybe talk to other people
00:39:43.680 that have babies or get the room ready or read a book or buy some clothes. You will get ready to
00:39:48.920 receive. Most people have goals they want to achieve and they don't get ready. They don't
00:39:52.940 prepare because they don't even allow themselves to desire more. You can be both. Both can be true.
00:39:59.400 You can have absolute bliss for everything you have and be dissatisfied for where you're at in
00:40:04.080 life because you know there's more for you to become. Which brings us to number 19, which is
00:40:08.460 to make it about other people. One of my favorite stories to share is the one around Oliver Anthony.
00:40:13.680 maybe you've heard his song before richmond north of richmond it became a number one top billboard
00:40:19.760 charting song came out of nowhere people thought he was an industry plant he was on joe rogan and
00:40:25.600 here's what he said that i absolutely loved on this topic he said the day i gave my life to god
00:40:31.040 and stop making about himself and start making about other people my life changed here's what
00:40:36.400 i believe the moment you dedicate yourself to being successful not for you but to help other
00:40:42.400 people, that's the moment when everything gets activated. It requires energy of doing it for
00:40:48.880 others. The energy of doing it for others is what's going to activate all your dreams.
00:40:53.620 So stop thinking about you. Stop thinking about making yourself rich. Start asking yourself,
00:40:58.120 how can I help other people get rich? Because it's not about you. Think about your customers.
00:41:02.220 Do you read books for your customers? Or do you just read books for yourself? Do you listen to
00:41:06.840 your audience if you're creating content? Or do you just pretend like they're not there and just
00:41:10.420 keep creating for yourself? Do you create from a place of service or do you create from a place of
00:41:15.420 what will I get? See, a lot of you guys are so focused on achievement, you forget that it's
00:41:21.200 about contribution. Nobody's ever became broke by helping other people. Nobody's ever been sad when
00:41:27.460 they're in a position to serve. Yet most people never learn this lesson. They make it about the
00:41:32.740 I, the me, what will I get out of this? I'm always asking myself, how do I create more value for
00:41:37.800 anybody else in the world than anybody else in their world? That's the question. That keeps me
00:41:42.800 focused. That makes it about all of you. That's how you win. You could be one creative project
00:41:48.860 away from absolutely changing your life, your whole life, one, but it's going to have to come
00:41:53.620 from a place of serving other people, which brings us to number 20, which is to think in decades,
00:41:58.020 not days. See, the other day I was on the phone with John Maxwell. He's the GOAT, the greatest
00:42:02.440 of all time when it comes to leadership. I couldn't even believe I was on this phone call
00:42:05.520 And I thought it was going to be a quick call. It turned out to be 45 minutes the whole time.
00:42:09.840 I'm just asking him questions. Like, why do you want to talk to me? And you know, oh my gosh,
00:42:14.500 you've done all these things in your life. I was just crazy impressed. And he says to me,
00:42:18.580 Dan, don't be that impressed. I've been doing this for 53 years. I've been doing one thing
00:42:23.440 for 53 years. I said, well, the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership, what book number was that?
00:42:29.620 because that was number 13. I was like, what? I literally right there, I have his platinum edition
00:42:36.600 signed by John Maxwell himself, collection of books. He gave me this as a gift. Crazy.
00:42:42.280 Many people are impressed with others who've had crazy amounts of success, but what they don't see
00:42:47.120 is all the years of trying, all the years of failure, all the times they got pushed down and
00:42:51.760 got back up. I've been doing what I've been doing for 27 years, real meaningful entrepreneurship.
00:42:58.160 And anybody that's going to compare their chapter three to my chapter 27 is silly.
00:43:03.880 Just like trying to compare your first book to John Maxwell's 13th book.
00:43:08.400 What I would encourage you to consider is what could you do for a decade instead of
00:43:13.180 beating yourself up after six months of trying, three years of trying, five years of trying,
00:43:17.560 actually start at the beginning and say, I'm going to do this for a decade.
00:43:21.300 I'm going to commit to this for the next 10 years.
00:43:23.740 Just like when I started my YouTube channel,
00:43:25.780 I said I will publish every week for the rest of my life
00:43:29.700 and I've done it now for almost nine years.
00:43:32.940 Here's the reality.
00:43:34.040 You can tell how successful someone is
00:43:35.940 by how far in the future they are thinking.
00:43:38.200 If you're planning in years or months,
00:43:40.620 you're just not thinking big enough.
00:43:42.420 You want to dedicate a decade to a goal
00:43:45.020 that is, I don't know how I'm gonna achieve it,
00:43:46.980 but I know if I showed up every day for a decade
00:43:49.160 and dedicated myself, that I would win.
00:43:51.480 I would encourage people to give themselves a life sentence
00:43:53.460 because then it's a way of being and who they are,
00:43:57.040 the identity, not something you do.
00:43:59.380 See, a lot of people are like,
00:44:00.340 oh, I don't really want to go to the gym
00:44:01.780 for the rest of my life.
00:44:02.680 Or you just decide you're an athlete
00:44:04.200 or you just decide you're somebody that lifts weights
00:44:06.500 and that's just who you are.
00:44:07.880 And then it's not hard.
00:44:09.160 See, if every time you go to the gym,
00:44:10.320 you have to have a negotiation with yourself 0.99
00:44:11.900 to get off your butt to go to the gym 0.99
00:44:13.340 because it's not something that's easy to you 0.99
00:44:15.080 and you keep telling yourself it's hard,
00:44:16.580 guess what?
00:44:17.120 It will be hard.
00:44:18.280 But if you say, hey,
00:44:19.040 this is just what I've dedicated myself to
00:44:20.580 for the rest of my life.
00:44:21.300 I've got a life sentence.
00:44:22.100 I wanna be in a great shape, I wanna have energy,
00:44:25.140 I wanna have focus, I wanna feel good.
00:44:27.720 And that is my life sentence.
00:44:29.400 So here's the standard, the routine, the habits,
00:44:31.880 the rituals that I'm committed to.
00:44:33.340 And because of that, you will live the rest of your life
00:44:35.420 at a high quality life.
00:44:36.540 But not if you do these short six month sprints,
00:44:39.120 three month things, or whatever it is.
00:44:41.060 No, dedicate a life sentence to achieving.
00:44:43.980 Which brings us to number 21,
00:44:45.860 which is there's no place to get to.
00:44:47.980 I was coaching one of my clients once
00:44:49.640 and she was a very successful entrepreneur
00:44:51.600 doing about six or 7 million.
00:44:53.280 And I asked her, what's the big goal?
00:44:54.840 What are we gonna accomplish together?
00:44:56.580 And she said, 100 million exit within the next three years.
00:44:59.740 I said, cool, easy.
00:45:00.920 I'm just curious why, why that number, why that timeline?
00:45:04.920 And she says to me,
00:45:06.140 so that I can finally tell them all, F you.
00:45:09.360 And I was like, interesting.
00:45:10.820 I said, have you ever Googled
00:45:12.700 what percent of entrepreneurs,
00:45:15.400 women-led businesses founded by women actually 0.62
00:45:17.920 have achieved 7 million in revenue, top line,
00:45:21.360 especially in the last, she did it in five years.
00:45:23.440 She's like, no.
00:45:24.440 Turns out it's 0.02%.
00:45:26.700 I then asked her, what are you waiting for?
00:45:29.200 You've actually already achieved the thing
00:45:30.740 you've been wanting to do.
00:45:31.660 You created this arbitrary rule
00:45:33.740 that unless it's a hundred million dollar exits
00:45:36.400 within the next three years,
00:45:38.160 that you're not allowed to feel good about yourself,
00:45:41.000 to tell them, F you.
00:45:42.960 See, what I learned a long time ago
00:45:44.500 is that if I asked you,
00:45:46.100 what are your dreams and goals in life?
00:45:47.760 And you told me we made a list of those things.
00:45:49.740 essentially what most people do is that list are the rules that need to be met for you to feel
00:45:57.480 happy, for you to feel enough, for you to feel successful. It's actually a trap. It's the biggest
00:46:03.360 trap of success. It's why most people that get to the mountaintop immediately look to the next
00:46:07.880 mountain to climb. And I'm no different. The difference is I've learned a long time ago that
00:46:12.000 my self-worth is not tied to external success. My self-worth is not tied to possessions,
00:46:17.520 is not tied to recognition,
00:46:19.440 it's not tied to anything external.
00:46:22.480 I can decide, you can decide in this moment,
00:46:25.480 just like my client, to feel enough.
00:46:27.680 And when I shared that with her, she broke down.
00:46:29.560 She got emotional because she realized
00:46:32.140 there was no place to get to.
00:46:33.820 See, I want you to design a life that you want to live,
00:46:37.400 not this future place that someday maybe you get to
00:46:41.180 and in that moment, you'll feel successful enough
00:46:43.800 to vacation, to tell people how much you appreciate them.
00:46:47.940 See, if you had to take one principle away
00:46:50.020 from these 21 principles, it would be this one.
00:46:52.800 There's no place to get to.
00:46:54.660 The process is to learn to enjoy the journey,
00:46:57.460 to actually fall in love with the work,
00:46:59.660 to be excited that you get to do what you get to do every day.
00:47:02.860 But there is no place to get to
00:47:04.840 because you attract who you are.
00:47:06.480 And the more you realize that you already are enough,
00:47:09.380 you get to attract more of that into your life.
00:47:11.120 Those are the 21 principles of success.
00:47:13.200 If you want to learn my 15 laws of success, click the link and I'll see you on the other side.