Dan Martell - May 21, 2018


THE INTEGRATED LIFE ｜ Dan Martell Original (Micro-Doc)


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

142.5069

Word Count

1,085

Sentence Count

54


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Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I still remember the moment that Renee told me that she was pregnant. There was a sense of
00:00:11.760 excitement. I always wanted to be a father and then there was this huge sense of fear
00:00:19.060 because I didn't want to repeat some of the elements of my childhood that didn't serve me.
00:00:26.640 I didn't want to be a father that was always on the road and I didn't want to be disconnected emotionally, have alcoholism around my kids.
00:00:36.380 You know, if you've come from a challenging environment like I have, one of the most beautiful things is being the generation to stop that behavior.
00:00:43.640 behavior. I think the most incredible thing you can do is break a pattern that didn't
00:00:53.520 serve your family or yourself from being kind of propagated forward.
00:00:58.400 Okay, hit the button.
00:01:03.400 There you go.
00:01:06.400 All right, what's to do to eat?
00:01:09.400 Do you want a snack?
00:01:11.400 Yeah?
00:01:12.400 Okay.
00:01:13.400 How about you grab the snack and then we'll go sit on the couch, okay?
00:01:17.400 I know a lot of high-performing entrepreneurs, they're committed to not only their family
00:01:37.840 and to their work, but also their personal health and their hobbies and their friendships.
00:01:40.980 And the only way to get all those things in balance is creating a schedule and designing not only our day, our week, and our month, but really the year between Renee and I.
00:01:52.160 I have a hard time when people say, well, it's not easy, you know, having your health in check, your relationship with your partner, your kids, and your business continue to thrive.
00:02:02.220 I love you.
00:02:03.220 I love you.
00:02:04.340 Yes, it's not easy.
00:02:05.680 But is it doable?
00:02:06.960 100%.
00:02:07.480 Is it something you can aspire to?
00:02:08.900 100%.
00:02:09.520 I don't accept people that say,
00:02:12.020 well, sometimes you need to put those things
00:02:13.700 on the back burner.
00:02:15.000 You know, I feel my muscle.
00:02:17.720 Whoa, calm down.
00:02:19.960 Calm down, it's too big.
00:02:22.480 And what I decided is take that belief,
00:02:25.100 wrap it up, throw it out the window
00:02:26.340 because it's not a good one.
00:02:27.440 It actually is not true.
00:02:28.780 And then ask myself,
00:02:30.320 what would the integrated life look like?
00:02:33.320 Can it work?
00:02:34.040 And the answer is absolutely.
00:02:35.580 having a partner that's on the same page with you is everything if renee wasn't on board with that
00:02:47.860 vision if we didn't co-create that vision together that would be like pushing a 10 000 pound boulder
00:02:54.060 up a mountain it would be almost impossible i think it's to create this environment for
00:03:01.900 our boys to to learn and to know that they're loved and respected and to teach
00:03:06.620 them the values of serving other people. It requires Dan, it requires myself being
00:03:13.220 happy and healthy and us connecting and having great relationships with the boys.
00:03:16.780 Can I get the strawberries out of the freezer?
00:03:20.540 Yep, I need to check.
00:03:22.540 Okay, now you have to open this and go like this and tear it open as hard as you can.
00:03:28.460 I would also say that we have some very unique approaches to letting them struggle.
00:03:36.560 There's actually parents out there that literally do everything for their five-year-olds.
00:03:42.620 And it's hard, especially as a mother, it's hard to let go of these things,
00:03:46.840 like filling up their own water bottles from the water thing on the fridge,
00:03:50.460 or filling up their own, you know, cereal bowls, but you have to let go.
00:03:55.500 Ah, ew, disgusting.
00:03:58.460 Yummy. It makes it green.
00:04:02.460 What does it imply?
00:04:04.460 Right, so guys, why are you putting your headphones on?
00:04:06.460 Because we can't hear it.
00:04:09.460 Oh, so it's less loud? Okay.
00:04:11.460 You know, I believe that every kid is homeschooled,
00:04:13.460 and the only difference is do the parents know it or not.
00:04:18.460 It's like the best homeschooling is done whether or not you choose for it to happen.
00:04:28.460 The only thing your kids want is for mom and dad to be happy like that's it number one thing yes
00:04:48.280 they want toys at Christmas and they want vacations and they want to go play you know hockey or
00:04:52.720 whatever it is but truth is at their core they just want to see mom and dad happy so if you
00:04:56.580 don't prioritize that and you tell me that you the most important thing in your life is your kids
00:05:01.520 then there's a disconnect there. They're watching and you can say you should do this and you should
00:05:07.400 do that but they're paying attention to what we're doing. Renee and I's priority is that we need to
00:05:18.060 be good if we want to be good for the kids. I know that she's my number one priority and if we're
00:05:23.840 good, then the kids are good. And if the kids are good, then we're all good.
00:05:36.680 I'll be the first one to admit that we don't have a perfect life. And I don't want to.
00:05:43.800 It's just, you know what we have? We have a desire to want to make things better.
00:05:48.820 we have a want to make sure that the other person feels seen cared for and I think that we've
00:05:58.680 instrumented the structure to allow us to ensure that things can't get bad for too long without us
00:06:05.740 being aware of it we have a playbook for our family we use that as guidance we kind of look
00:06:14.300 at what do we want to stand for? What are our values? How do we, how do we want to show up in
00:06:19.060 our community as a family? And I really believe that it's in every family, an entrepreneurial
00:06:26.480 family or not, to integrate their life in a way that you can bring a level of joy and excitement
00:06:33.620 and passion and presence for your kids, for your partner, that maybe you've never experienced
00:06:40.160 before. That possibility is the why that drives me on a daily and weekly basis to keep pushing
00:06:46.500 things forward. And it will always be my default approach to ask myself, does this still serve us?
00:06:56.260 We just try to look at it from an integrated family point of view. How do we
00:06:59.840 get everything we want to work? And if you look at it that way, it's actually not that hard. It's
00:07:04.820 just most people never take the time to just design it.
00:07:14.300 I don't take today for granted,
00:07:16.500 and I want to make sure that every minute of today
00:07:19.820 was planned in a way to add as much as I can
00:07:23.660 to the people around me that I care the most about.
00:07:34.820 Bye, bye, bye.