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00:00:00.080 give two people poor person a million dollars wealthy person a million dollars poor people

00:00:04.160 get money and they start calculating the new furniture they could buy the trips they can go on

00:00:08.720 the new car they could lease they essentially spent the million dollars before it's even finished the

00:00:13.120 wire transfer the wealthy person doesn't rush to do anything with the money and starts considering

00:00:18.080 based on their allocation in their portfolio where can i get the best return that makes the most

00:00:22.640 sense for the long term poor people use money to consume wealthy people use money to create more

00:00:28.240 money why do you think most people are broke i think most people are broke for a few reasons

00:00:40.960 the first one is is that they don't

00:00:45.760 they're they don't they don't realize that they're responsible 100 for their life like a hundred

00:00:51.840 percent they're accountable like there's nobody coming to save you there's nobody that's going

00:00:55.760 going to do it for you there's no moment where somebody passes away and leaves you a bunch of

00:00:59.480 money there's no lottery tickets there's no going to the casino and winning there's literally you

00:01:05.060 saying if i don't make this better it will not get better that needs to happen second part is

00:01:11.860 they're broke because they don't realize that the world will compensate you based on the value you

00:01:16.980 bring to the world so if you're upset with what you're making income wise or you feel like people

00:01:23.580 are taking advantage of you, you have to ask yourself, what could you do to become more

00:01:28.280 valuable? What are the skills you have to acquire? How do you, how do you add those skills? Like

00:01:34.380 that to me, those two things, if you can be a hundred percent accountable for your situation

00:01:38.640 and develop yourself to become more valuable for other people. And then I would say the third thing

00:01:44.540 is to know your worth. Cause I don't think even if you had those first two, if you didn't believe

00:01:50.600 you deserved more you'll never get a penny more than you think you're worth so if you don't feel

00:01:55.860 you're worth more even if you're more valuable even if you're 100 accountable but you don't ask

00:02:00.420 for it it will never show up in your life that's why i think people are broke is because they're

00:02:06.920 not willing to be accountable for their situation they're not willing to invest in themselves to

00:02:10.360 acquire new skills are more valuable and they're not willing to ask for what they think they

00:02:13.620 deserve because they don't think they deserve a lot and no other person is going to going to teach

00:02:19.000 you how to deserve more. You have to decide that you are worth it. Tell me something about rich

00:02:26.880 people that 99% of people don't know. That rich people are harder on themselves than anybody else

00:02:38.260 will ever be on them. I think most rich people are so misunderstood because people think they

00:02:45.040 have the easy life and what i've discovered is the people that have wealth are wealthy because

00:02:50.080 they were willing to do the work in many ways i think their work ethic is a reflection of their

00:02:54.720 gratitude it's my experience i think rich people honor the fact that they've been given an

00:03:01.080 opportunity and a blessing i'm not talking multi-generational wealth i'm not talking about

00:03:05.300 people that are trustworthy i'm talking to people that have created their situation and it doesn't

00:03:09.880 mean that they own a business it could be somebody's an executive at a company that gets paid a

00:03:14.900 lot of money to do what they do what you will quickly learn if you spend time with them is

00:03:19.400 they are more hard on themselves more critical of their performance more more um driven to do better

00:03:26.280 than anything any person could say to them and for some of them it's not a life you would want

00:03:32.900 to live and i think that's that's misunderstood a lot of people say well i want to be rich it's

00:03:37.020 like i don't know if you want to have all that comes with being rich because it isn't easy it

00:03:43.240 only becomes easy if you learn how to deal with those emotions the feelings that come with being

00:03:47.660 rich and realize that to the degree that you can deal with bigger problems you will actually live

00:03:53.500 a more fulfilling life you went from rehab to being a multi-millionaire what what changed

00:04:13.240 what changed rehab to multimillionaire

00:04:23.480 kind of everything like everything had to change my whole world view when i when i

00:04:32.280 go back 25 years coming out of this place portage that literally saved my life

00:04:39.180 after spending 11 months there

00:04:41.300 trying to learn about myself

00:04:42.580 and what made me tick.

00:04:50.300 There was so much that had to change.

00:04:53.180 I would say the thing that is universal though

00:04:56.860 for me for sure

00:04:58.420 is that I believed I could do it

00:05:01.120 but that belief came from other people.

00:05:05.080 So I didn't believe I could do it.

00:05:08.180 other people believed that i could do more but i accepted the belief and like that's a different

00:05:15.360 thing because there's been situations where people have talked about kind of what they think they see

00:05:18.940 me do and i'm like oh i wasn't ready to believe it but the one thing for sure is because i had

00:05:25.160 shown up and got sober and then got out and started in business and even though i failed

00:05:30.200 for seven years of trying back-to-back failures people still believed because of what i went

00:05:37.660 through and where i was at even in the failures that i had potential that they saw the passion

00:05:43.380 i brought to anything i did they believed that there was eventually going to be some kind of

00:05:48.100 success i don't think any of us could have predicted what it became but that was that

00:05:52.580 was probably the big thing that shifted for me was just the belief that i could be one of those

00:05:57.780 people because i grew up my whole life not believing that i was even worth breathing the

00:06:02.040 is taken up. I mean, well, if you do believe in a creator, that's a great place to start.

00:06:26.400 That was just the truth, man.

00:06:32.040 I've just got so much gratitude when I look at like what I went through and

00:06:39.280 what life I get to live today. And just like,

00:06:41.560 there's no other way any of this happened without, without him.

00:06:52.240 And that's why I think I wake up every day to just try to be better is just,

00:06:55.560 I want to honor the fact that I was given a chance.

00:06:57.720 like there's no world statistically where i'm alive let alone thriving let alone

00:07:06.280 having resources that i get to choose to do what i want to do what i want to do with whoever i want

00:07:12.320 to do and be wherever like i mean it's just it's just an honor and when i think of how close it

00:07:18.640 came to that not being the case it just gets me emotional i'm just

00:07:22.400 i think that if you don't have anybody that can believe in you know that he believes in you

00:07:32.480 that your creator believes in you if you follow my content i believe in you i don't even need to

00:07:39.200 know you because i know who you were created by and i believe in you like i legit see you doing

00:07:46.120 something incredible with your life i think it's why you're watching this video sometimes people

00:07:51.500 want to see a sign they're like show me a sign and the sign's right there the sign could be this

00:07:59.080 conversation it literally is not it doesn't have to be a big grand gesture it can be a moment with

00:08:04.900 a person a video an audio something you hear or see or you read and you're like oh i've been asking

00:08:11.720 for this and it's right there i think i've had hundreds of those show up in my life sometimes i

00:08:18.860 wasn't paying attention sometimes i was sometimes i played it down sometimes i played it up but

00:08:25.600 there's opportunities every day

00:08:31.240 to see the absolute blessing that is called life and we get to live in it

00:08:38.700 and whether we want to do something with it or not time's going to pass today's going to pass

00:08:44.960 this minute like literally every day seconds are going to pass and i can either choose to actively

00:08:51.040 engage in my life and create something from it the fact that i have consciousness and i have

00:08:57.220 the ability to have judgment and make decisions you know i'm alive those are all those are all

00:09:05.720 real things i can be grateful in this moment for the air i breathe like crazy grateful

00:09:10.340 because in three minutes if you didn't have any air to breathe you would wish you did so

00:09:16.640 i don't know i think sometimes we

00:09:19.720 we need more than we think we need to actually decide to just change things

00:09:26.700 i don't i don't need any person to validate my ideas i just got to realize that like hey

00:09:35.000 i don't do it nobody else is going to do it and i don't need anybody to believe in me because

00:09:38.380 what if they can't see my greatness because they're too close what if the fact that they're

00:09:44.620 my family or my friends and they've known me for a long time and they don't see what's changed

00:09:48.160 inside that's the hard part is the you know fitness journey people see that physically they

00:09:54.140 see it it's easy to correlate oh you used to be this now you're that but when you're on a journey

00:09:59.080 of personal development and growth and mindset growth they don't see it right away and it's

00:10:03.980 it's easy to feel like they don't understand it's not their fault because they don't understand what

00:10:10.840 you see inside they don't they don't hear the words you say to yourself but you've seen this

00:10:14.640 whole new pattern emerge and you got to be willing to be misunderstood by the people closest to you

00:10:21.920 because they're too close to see the greatness that's brewed inside and you just have to be okay

00:10:27.100 being misunderstood for long periods of time and over time if you show up and you do the work and

00:10:31.820 you just you swing it'll connect and then they'll all go like oh yeah overnight success

00:10:38.260 not really if anything not impressive if anything 25 years in the making

00:10:45.540 how can i overcome the fear of starting

00:10:52.000 for me the way i always overcome the fear of starting anything is realize one the people

00:11:05.200 that i care about their opinion are more worried about their own life than my life right everybody's

00:11:12.380 living in this movie called me movie or me ink and they're like worrying about what everybody

00:11:17.600 else thinks of them and we think they're thinking about us but they're not so first off judgment

00:11:23.020 from other people about what i do with my life i usually park those things because i realize that

00:11:28.880 their beliefs in my decisions are 100 a reflection of their own limitations judgment reality of their

00:11:36.660 life they've lived not on my reflection of my life and decisions so that's one two

00:11:42.100 two most people's worst case is actually other people's dream scenario think about that most

00:11:50.680 people's worst case scenario of having to live with their parents again having to lose everything

00:11:55.940 and sell it or whatever it is based on where they live in the world the worst case for them

00:12:00.880 is some other person in the world's dream outcome some other person in the world that woke up today

00:12:07.740 that doesn't have any food a place to sleep anybody that cares about them your worst case

00:12:13.400 scenario would be their dream life put that into perspective so like starting or trying is kind of

00:12:20.000 silly if you take that into consideration and then the other thing is tomorrow is definitely

00:12:26.320 not guaranteed but i don't even look at it that way i think about in five-year increments 0.84

00:12:31.440 like if i only had five years to live five years to breathe five years to expand and grow and

00:12:37.160 create and spend time with people what would i want to do over those next five years

00:12:42.420 people should get really familiar with the concept that their life is very impermanent

00:12:48.220 it is it's here and gone five years is enough time to do something meaningful without being

00:12:55.100 wasteful right like i don't think people should pretend like i only got a week to live and go

00:12:58.940 stay on a beach no five years is like hey i want to leave an impact i want to i want to serve i

00:13:04.740 want to create. I want to help other people. How could I do that? And I just think that getting

00:13:11.160 comfortable with the fact that you're going to die is a beautiful way to prioritize decisions.

00:13:17.260 And if you have any inclination, here's the crazy part. I don't believe God puts ideas on your heart

00:13:22.220 that he doesn't think you can pull off. You wouldn't even have the idea to start a business

00:13:27.860 if it wasn't possible. And there's never been a situation, I know this to be true for all people,

00:13:34.080 where you've been put in a tough situation

00:13:35.940 that you didn't make it through.

00:13:37.340 I'm not saying you got the outcome you wanted,

00:13:39.560 but it's very rare for somebody to be pushed into a corner

00:13:43.160 that rose up that didn't get through that tough situation

00:13:46.940 some way, somehow.

00:13:48.740 And I think we just forget that if you just decide,

00:13:52.720 the reason it was on your heart

00:13:53.760 is because it's meant for you to go create that outcome,

00:13:57.160 that business, go after your dreams,

00:13:59.760 that you will be given the strength to accomplish that.

00:14:03.160 and it's why for you specifically you've had this thought you probably have a dream that i've never

00:14:09.000 even considered nothing i'd ever want to desire or get or anything you have a unique vision of

00:14:15.320 your life that i've never had that's only yours and the reason why is because it's meant for you

00:14:20.760 i'm setting goals and dreams but i'm not achieving any of them what should i do

00:14:33.320 measure and get feedback if you're setting goals and dreams okay and you're not achieving them

00:14:40.200 two things that are missing measuring progress where are you at now where do you want to be

00:14:47.320 what should you be making progress towards what's the number most people don't break things down

00:14:52.740 into actions right so if i know i want to be a millionaire by the time i'm 30 it seems to be

00:14:59.120 everybody's or make 100k a month now it seems like that's a new number then where are you at

00:15:05.180 if you're 22 you want to be a millionaire at 30 that's eight years break it down now it's not it's

00:15:09.780 not linear it usually kind of goes exponentially but you should be on pace then you measure it

00:15:14.040 every quarter and every month so now we have a measurement timeline but then we got to back it

00:15:18.540 up by like what kind of activities or decisions would create the scenario for that to be true

00:15:22.480 obviously if you want to start a business or you want to get into a structure in your current

00:15:26.360 company where you can get paid based on performance those are all things that could

00:15:29.240 you know you could save your way to that you can invest your way to that definitely invest

00:15:32.880 over save but then you have a measurement now what will happen is along the way at some point

00:15:39.900 you will plateau. Here's what I know to be true 100% of the time is there will be issues.

00:15:44.860 There will be problems, or I like to call them puzzles. You will face adversity. And the way

00:15:51.100 to overcome that is to get feedback. It's to find people that have built the million a year business

00:15:56.220 or more and ask them for feedback to analyze your strategy. And those people typically will come in,

00:16:02.140 look at it, and within seconds go, oh, change this, tweak that, start this, stop that. And all

00:16:08.100 of a sudden the momentum builds back up there's no person i know that if they're honest with

00:16:14.180 themselves measured their progress along the way and if at any point they felt like they hit a wall

00:16:19.480 went and seeked advice or feedback from people that have been there before

00:16:23.100 and took that feedback and change and tweak their strategy i don't know anybody who hasn't been

00:16:28.340 successful but a lot of people just lie to themselves along that journey and they'll say

00:16:33.120 oh it's not for me or it's hard or it's not working it's not working because you don't want

00:16:36.640 it to work because you're not giving feedback you're not seeking out why this is uncomfortable

00:16:40.820 yeah i know that's the work that has to be done anything that's easy that's like that's immediately

00:16:46.100 you know that's not the right thing it's supposed to be hard you're supposed to deal with adversity

00:16:52.160 that will make you better steel sharpen steel and through that journey is how you actually

00:16:58.360 become successful

00:17:00.000 what's the number one trait in successful people that that you've observed through the years

00:17:07.040 number one trait

00:17:10.280 man that's a great question number one character trait the number one like if i had to like there's

00:17:21.300 a lot of stuff you know determined grit resilient but i would say is they have the the ability

00:17:32.400 to drive like and and it's not like some people can have spurts of it successful people are driven

00:17:42.280 they're driving they're they're in the driver's seat of their dreams they're that the people on

00:17:50.720 their team feel the energy of forward motion and even if they have a flat tire they fix the tire

00:17:58.520 and they're back to being driven successful people literally feel different when you talk to them

00:18:04.780 they're they're not looking at their feet they're looking at the the skyline like there's a

00:18:10.240 different energy of even their language their focus what they work on but the word that always

00:18:16.720 comes to mind if i think of like my mentors my coaches the people i work with my friends that

00:18:21.440 are incredibly successful driven individuals it doesn't matter are they outgoing introverted

00:18:27.780 you know creatives engineers left brain right brain doesn't matter what's true amongst all

00:18:33.380 them is they are driven you can feel that energy to forward motion and creation

00:18:39.740 what makes someone successful in your opinion

00:18:48.720 financially successful

00:19:01.980 see this is the thing is words matter and meaning matters right so like for me success is not

00:19:09.220 wealth success you know if you do things primarily for money or every decision you make is based on

00:19:16.840 money then i don't actually think that's success i think success is this concept i got from my coach

00:19:26.120 which is blissfully dissatisfied i think success is waking up every day and being so ridiculously

00:19:32.280 grateful i think success is waking up every day and being so ridiculously grateful that it could

00:19:38.420 bring you to tears and in the same breath realize that you were here to create more not out of a

00:19:45.560 place of lack not out of a place of recognition not to fill a void that's inside not the not to

00:19:53.200 create because you don't feel enough know you're enough feel that realize how big of a blessing

00:20:00.640 everything in your life currently is no matter how good or bad it is just absolutely feel the

00:20:05.540 gratitude for the presence and knowing that same breath that you're here to do more with your life

00:20:12.160 that to me is success and it's not a number in a bank account

00:20:16.140 how can i find my purpose

00:20:22.560 i think every person's purpose sits right next to the worst thing that ever happened to them

00:20:35.540 and here's why i usually ask people at like what level of income is it 100 grand 500 grand a

00:20:43.340 million dollars 10 million dollars 100 million dollars a year what level of income personally

00:20:46.940 to you do you stop thinking about accumulation and things you could buy and start thinking about

00:20:53.760 giving to other people and that's a fascinating question because some people it's like 100 000

00:20:58.720 they're thinking i'll give 50 away i can live off 50 some people it's it's north of 10 million so

00:21:03.840 there's a big range. But what usually follows that is if you had that surplus, what cause

00:21:11.100 would you want to invest that into? What pain or challenge do you see people face that you would

00:21:17.660 love to help them overcome or make easier for them? And it's usually aligned with the worst

00:21:24.220 thing that's ever happened to them. Growing up in poverty, growing up without a father,

00:21:30.500 growing up and being abused in some way,

00:21:33.660 experiencing medical illness or whatever it is,

00:21:37.780 just some kind of pain you've ever experienced.

00:21:39.980 Maybe it was a loved one.

00:21:41.660 And usually right next to that pain is your purpose.

00:21:47.560 And when you can pair your vision

00:21:51.360 for what you're here to do, the purpose in your life,

00:21:53.820 if you can figure that out

00:21:55.580 and then you pair that up with a way

00:21:57.720 to create a business that supports that it's aligned with that where the business and the

00:22:05.240 purpose are the same thing or directionally serve the same thing that is a winning recipe

00:22:11.200 so i just can't see a world where somebody wakes up and says hey by helping people

00:22:17.460 i get to collect resources aka make money and then take that and support a cause an organization or

00:22:26.540 people that you feel absolutely compelled to serve based on what you experience in your life

00:22:31.820 that's super unique to you i think if every person woke up with that drive and desire that would

00:22:36.940 change the world it literally would we don't need billionaires to fix problems we need people to go

00:22:42.220 create millionaires and then solve the problems around them in their community

00:22:49.580 is making a lot of money a bad thing no be everybody should want to be rich every person

00:22:56.460 should have a desire to create resources to do more i have a problem when people say that they

00:23:01.780 really care about helping people and they think that playing small is helping anybody because if

00:23:07.700 you see other people be rich or have more money than you and you think that they're not using it

00:23:12.640 right great go become a millionaire go go grab that resource go create a better mousetrap go

00:23:19.880 build a business go become more to go be rich and then do what you want with the money you know

00:23:26.320 when people say, well, it's not about the money. Well, I say, well, go become a millionaire and

00:23:29.480 then decide what you want to do with it. But don't tell me it's not about the money because

00:23:33.060 the money is a reflection of the value created in the world. So I think every person should have a

00:23:37.340 desire to be rich, go get as much money as you possibly can. And then as you're doing it,

00:23:44.080 choose what you do with it. And I think that is just a beautiful way to wake up every day.

00:23:49.920 It's not about, you know, saying, well, rich is bad. There's nothing wrong with creating resources.

00:23:56.320 like every day the more options you have the the bigger the opportunity to live a fulfilled life

00:24:02.620 so if you want to donate to a charity do you want to donate a little or a lot i want to donate a

00:24:07.700 lot cool go get rich if you want to help a cause you want to help a little bit or you help a lot

00:24:11.660 i want to help a lot great go get rich you know you got this person you want to bless you want

00:24:15.700 to bless them a little bit you want to bless them a lot great go get rich there's nothing wrong with

00:24:21.020 being rich. The desire for why I think is a problem. What you do once you collect it is a

00:24:27.020 problem. The way you think about yourself or make decisions, once you have money, it could be a

00:24:32.400 problem. But money is a tool no different than a fork is a tool. It can be used to nourish your

00:24:37.740 body or it can be used to take somebody's life. It's the same thing. You decide what you do with

00:24:42.820 that resource, but every person should have a desire to be rich because what you're saying is

00:24:45.800 i deserve i'm worth it i can create value in this world i i i i'm capable of growing my skills

00:24:58.380 growing my beliefs growing my character traits to become the person that i was created to become

00:25:04.480 your 10.0 version your best version if you took all the best moments in your life where you

00:25:10.240 stepped up powerfully and you're creative and you're resourceful and you're kind and you're

00:25:13.420 gracious all those things if you took the best moments of your life put them all together

00:25:16.740 if you actually live like that all 18 hours you're awake or whatever amount of time you're awake

00:25:21.480 can you imagine that person that's that's that's it so when i say rich i just say best version of

00:25:28.540 yourself you should want that what do you think about legacy

00:25:39.300 here's the deal i think purpose is required you can't have perseverance without purpose

00:25:49.540 because if you did some people call that grit i call it a grind if you want to see somebody's soul

00:25:55.320 just get deteriorated have them work on something and not know why and i think that's what happens

00:26:01.220 with a lot of people they they feel fatigued they feel like burnt out and it's like i've never been

00:26:05.980 burnt out doing something i love for a purpose that's way bigger than me what was the question

00:26:11.580 again so the challenge is is that i believe that focusing on other people is a good thing i think

00:26:20.520 using language around legacy can sometimes be another part of the ego playing tricks on you

00:26:27.160 to do things for long term so you don't enjoy the short term so a lot of people make sacrifices for

00:26:33.320 legacy for their family for multi-generational wealth whatever it is they sacrifice in the short

00:26:38.420 term and i find that as a cop-out instead of just saying hey can i be present now can the best thing

00:26:45.720 that i leave the world is me now in this moment for the rest of my life not a sacrifice for this

00:26:53.380 generation that you'll never meet that in three generations will never know your name you cannot

00:26:58.460 tell me your great great grandparents names maybe 0.1 percent of you guys but very few people know

00:27:05.340 their lineage nor does it matter what matters is how did you show up today who did you impact today

00:27:11.580 what kind of conversations you have today what kind of energy did you bring to every interaction

00:27:14.740 with every person you had today that that's legacy but it's not legacy the way most people

00:27:22.780 think about it it's a decision to leave the world a better place i think the best thing you could

00:27:27.900 ever leave the world is your if you have kids is your kids like that's my my gift is not a

00:27:34.040 financial bucket of money my gift is going to be my children it's going to be the relationships the

00:27:39.700 people that came into my life it's the the teams that i've built i think legacy is just used as a

00:27:47.220 cop-out for sacrificing today and not living today i want to encourage people to just like

00:27:56.660 show up fully present in the moment for now try to get it done in this lifetime afterwards it's

00:28:04.280 going to get redistributed to everybody the idea of ownership is hilarious nothing you have you own

00:28:10.120 you think you do it's gone your home not yours you think you own the land you don't

00:28:15.980 think you have that money in that bank account you don't none of it you it's all borrowed it's

00:28:22.140 It's kind of like you're a custodian of it

00:28:24.580 for a short period of time

00:28:26.120 and it all goes back to the economy once you're done.

00:28:29.740 So you might as well just say,

00:28:30.800 how can I use this to be the most present

00:28:33.240 and supportive and giving person now,

00:28:37.200 not worrying about 300 years from now?

00:28:39.820 It turns out though, if you do that,

00:28:41.720 you'll probably leave on a mark.

00:28:43.880 It turns out if you do that,

00:28:45.320 you'll probably leave a mark on the world

00:28:47.080 that will last 300, 500, 1,000 years.

00:28:50.180 That's the funny part.

00:28:50.980 if you actually live that way i think it has the best chance of you living that long the whole idea

00:28:56.580 of like donating money to a hospital to put your name on a new section of the building which in 20

00:29:02.020 years will literally sell your naming rights to the next person's highest bidder that's not legacy

00:29:07.140 legacy is how you show up today you had a tweet go viral um a couple days ago normalize leaving

00:29:17.060 people in whatever reality they have chosen um can you expand on that yeah the tweet that went

00:29:24.500 viral i wrote normalize leaving people in the reality that they've chosen and the reason why is

00:29:33.300 if you come to the understanding that every person is choosing their reality okay they're choosing

00:29:41.300 the world as they want to see it because the world isn't as it is the world is as you are

00:29:46.420 So whatever world that they see, the limitation, the lack, the frustration, the challenges,

00:29:51.540 it's their world.

00:29:54.800 I can't save any person.

00:29:57.060 I can't convince other people to change their beliefs on the world.

00:30:02.500 I can offer them perspectives and what I call POVs, points of views, that might influence

00:30:07.100 them to make a decision to change that, but it's up to them.

00:30:11.460 So I've just gotten to a place where I'm 100% comfortable and okay with somebody not

00:30:15.900 seeing things the way I want to see it or doing things in a way I wouldn't agree with not being

00:30:20.080 upset about it but just letting them go through their world be on their journey and it not affect

00:30:25.400 me because it truly is not my responsibility and I think when I say normalizing is like I would

00:30:31.040 just hope everybody gets to understanding that sooner than later so that they can actually live

00:30:36.340 a life that's way more peaceful because once you realize there's nobody else to fix and it's really

00:30:42.880 just you that i can control that i have agency over and i can move through the world with that

00:30:49.040 understanding i'll just let everybody else kind of figure out their stuff at their own timeline

00:30:52.280 is imposter syndrome a good or bad thing i think imposter syndrome is cool because imposter

00:31:03.480 syndrome tells you where you're at your upper limits of your comfort like my favorite thing

00:31:08.060 is to get in a room where i know that if anybody figured out that i was in it they'd probably kick

00:31:12.340 me out of it okay at the same time the nerves means i care so the fact that you have imposter

00:31:19.420 syndrome is actually a beautiful thing because it tells you that you're honoring the opportunity

00:31:23.500 you've been given the challenge is when you act out of that feeling and you don't take action to

00:31:30.580 be in that room you convince yourself to not go you you know let somebody else take the spot

00:31:38.260 you know whatever it is like you just don't want to not step into it but imposter syndrome

00:31:43.200 is part of the process anytime that you're trying to do something for the first time

00:31:48.420 it's going to require you to show up in a way that from the outside seems confident but you

00:31:54.960 know inside it's kind of like the duck on the top of the water it's just moving around the water

00:31:58.980 really calm and collected and underneath it's got his two feet just moving you know frantically

00:32:02.860 that's like your internal emotions i remember one time i got invited to an event and i had to go for

00:32:09.140 a walk because i was so nervous because every person i looked up to is in that room like all

00:32:15.380 the people people i follow on the internet they were in the room i went to the gym in the morning

00:32:19.500 13 people that i absolutely adore from instagram were working out in that room and i'm sitting

00:32:25.980 there going holy moly i hope they like who i am i mean i was legit scared i called my dad i said

00:32:31.900 hey dad I'm like way in over my head my dad's like are you serious like do you remember where

00:32:38.520 you came from did you forget what you've accomplished and I was like yeah but these

00:32:43.700 people are way more accomplished he goes Dan they'd be lucky to have a conversation with you

00:32:50.520 like I know you and it blows my mind what you've done what you're doing where you've come from I

00:32:55.200 don't even understand it and I don't know anybody that's ever done that I would love to have a

00:32:59.940 conversation with them. And I think that's a big idea for people to consider is that

00:33:04.400 inspiration doesn't come from the size of the thing you've accomplished. It comes from the

00:33:09.000 place you started and how much you people believe that that was hard for you. And in many ways,

00:33:16.100 imposter syndrome is just acknowledgement that, Hey, this is really tough, but I, I showed up

00:33:20.400 anyway, in spite of my fear of being discovered, not liked, rejected, kicked out my fear. I showed

00:33:28.860 up i could have stayed in my hotel room nobody would have known i didn't show up except for me

00:33:34.700 so i hope you have a dad like i have that every once in a while he knows the exact words to say

00:33:41.020 but i think imposter syndrome is just part of part of the the journey

00:33:50.700 how do wealthy people look at money two things wealthy people look at money

00:33:57.100 as a way to invest to get a return poor people look at money as a way to buy things and literally

00:34:03.580 that is the language you give two people poor person a million dollars wealthy person a million

00:34:07.740 dollars poor people get money and they start calculating the debt they could pay off the

00:34:13.580 the couch they could buy the new furniture they could buy the trips they can go on the new car

00:34:18.300 they could lease etc they essentially spent the million dollars before it's even finished the wire

00:34:23.100 transfer the wealthy person doesn't rush to do anything with the money and starts considering

00:34:28.780 based on their allocation in their portfolio where can i get the best return that makes the

00:34:33.100 most sense for the long term they don't think of acquiring more stuff they think about it working

00:34:38.860 for them poor people use money to consume wealthy people use money to create more money that is the

00:34:46.140 big difference between poor people and wealthy people how do wealthy people look at time

00:34:53.100 i think wealthy people look at time as a resource that they can't get back

00:34:59.020 and they're always looking for ways to spend money to save time not spend time to save money

00:35:07.360 and that's the big difference the end of the day money can be created and generated and based on

00:35:14.820 the creativity and resourceful that you can make more it doesn't matter what economic class you

00:35:21.280 come from rich poor middle class etc you cannot manufacture time so understanding how to spend

00:35:31.380 money to get time is the skill of wealthy people and that's the difference between poor people

00:35:37.880 and wealthy people poor people think well i'll just work harder and then i'll save money and

00:35:42.220 that's how i collect money no you have to become better to create more money so that's how you get

00:35:48.480 money wealthy people are always about how do i buy that time to then use the new time to go do things

00:35:54.400 that are going to make me more money so that i can start building a surplus what are your thoughts on

00:36:04.000 what are my thoughts on worthiness

00:36:09.680 i have a lot of thoughts

00:36:18.480 i don't know where to start it's kind of like worthiness has different

00:36:23.220 like kind of angles to it there's the part of like

00:36:28.040 am i worth another person's time right like i know i can add value to them but if i don't feel

00:36:37.080 like i can do that clearly i might not be worth their time so there's a worthiness of like do i

00:36:43.220 feel regardless of the situation that interacting with another person could be valuable to them

00:36:48.740 under the right circumstance that is one part of worthiness like just in conversations and

00:36:53.440 interactions the other part of worthiness is you know what do i deserve to have you know do i

00:36:59.820 deserve to be rich do i deserve to have a nice car do i deserve to be in a loving relationship

00:37:05.420 if you don't believe that you deserve you won't you won't receive it right because you'll never

00:37:13.140 fight for that outcome if you believe that you're an evil person you've done some bad things you

00:37:19.560 have a lot of shame then you'll never bring into your life the the the the results of being somebody

00:37:30.660 that deserves those things as many ways i've said this so many times you'll never get a penny more

00:37:35.820 than you think you deserve so even like the worthiness of like having money is on the byproduct

00:37:43.740 of believing that what you do is valuable and i think a lot of people discount what they do because

00:37:50.880 they think that everybody else knows how to do it they don't realize it took you four years to learn

00:37:55.580 that or you do it two times faster than anybody else that's closest to you that your result is

00:38:02.480 very abnormal because you know it so well you're so close to it you're just like oh everybody knows

00:38:07.280 this no they don't and if you can consistently get a result for somebody that's worth a lot

00:38:14.960 it's it's worth a fraction of whatever result you can get for them

00:38:20.800 that's what i think of worthiness there's like different dimensions to worthiness

00:38:24.960 worthiness isn't just one component it's a worthiness in a relationship worthiness in all

00:38:30.480 aspects of love and family and business and career. And then there's the worthiness of just

00:38:37.120 attracting wealth into your life. I have friends that can't receive gifts because they don't feel

00:38:44.780 worthy of those gifts because they feel like I have to earn those things. When they don't realize

00:38:50.380 that we don't earn those things, we attract those things by becoming valuable. And if somebody wants

00:38:55.140 to bless you you should learn to accept a compliment a gift it all comes down to worthiness

00:39:03.200 what's your definition of greatness

00:39:07.720 my definition of greatness is very simple are the people closest to you better for having you in

00:39:16.540 their life that's that's greatness do people your family your friends your peer groups your co-workers

00:39:24.380 would they say their lives got better the more time they spent with you the more interactions

00:39:32.860 they had with you the more time they got to work with you the more time they had conversations

00:39:36.440 with you do would they all say like man having that person around having you around made my life

00:39:43.040 better that is greatness a great person finds the greatness pulls out the greatness holds

00:39:48.380 expectations of other people's greatness to the highest potential and shows them through their

00:39:53.820 own actions that it's possible that's that's my definition of greatness great people bring

00:40:01.860 greatness into other people's lives what do you hope to teach your kids about life

00:40:06.920 i got a list of things i want to teach my kids about life but there's a handful of stuff first

00:40:14.780 off and they're they're pretty much all our core values one you don't deserve anything that you

00:40:21.000 didn't go and create no no country no family no situation will ever get you what you think you

00:40:29.500 deserve you don't deserve anything unless you've created an environment or you've created the

00:40:35.220 scenario where you've you've helped other people and you've you've collected a piece of that so

00:40:40.280 there's i think right off the bat it's like just because it's a certain time of day or a certain

00:40:44.720 day of the week, you don't deserve anything right off the bat. Number two, you are incredible. I do

00:40:51.340 this cool thing where I tell my kids about them. I tell them about their greatness. I tell them

00:40:54.860 about their giftedness. I tell them about the Jesus I see inside of them. I tell them about

00:40:58.800 their giftedness. Like you are really good at this. You are awesome at this. I'm a big fan of

00:41:04.460 teaching them that I'm teaching. I love teaching my kids to communicate with other people,

00:41:09.520 especially adults when you meet an adult walk up to them look them in the eye introduce yourself

00:41:15.820 say your name clearly with confidence ask them what their name is smile simple will change the

00:41:24.320 game for them in life i teach them about collaboration that if you want to go fast

00:41:30.320 sometimes you go alone but if you want to go far you got to go with people right and just showing

00:41:35.620 them how to collaborate with other people how to play nicely with other people how to partner how

00:41:40.860 to set agreements how to manage expectations how to repair arguments huge area i teach my kids

00:41:48.620 grit i always celebrate the progress not the outcome i whenever my kid accomplishes in something

00:41:58.480 i say tell me about how much effort you put into that how many times did you want to quit tell me

00:42:04.180 about those moments i'm really proud of what you created but i'm really impressed with the never

00:42:09.980 ending drive to get to that outcome because some kids stuff comes easy other ones it comes hard

00:42:14.800 what i've discovered is people that are willing to do hard for long periods of time typically do

00:42:19.180 really great in life um i teach them about compassion about caring about the things the

00:42:25.120 people they care about care about and if people in your life care about helping the community

00:42:32.260 helping other kids helping other families then caring about those things is is is empathy it's

00:42:39.900 compassion and i think you know i always tell them that like that person could be your brother could

00:42:45.560 be your dad could be me could be your cousin just because they're not they could be so if you had a

00:42:52.680 stranger come across your cousin how would you want them to treat that person if somebody you

00:42:58.080 My son Noah, one time we saw a person struggling and I said, what if that was Max, your brother?

00:43:03.860 What if your brother, you didn't know where he was and he was walking around in a city and a stranger went up to him?

00:43:10.180 How would you want that stranger to interact with them?

00:43:12.040 That's how you should interact with that person.

00:43:14.140 Assuming that that is some person's brother, son, father, you don't know.

00:43:20.520 What else do I teach him?

00:43:21.740 i teach them about physical fitness health is wealth that if you don't have the energy to keep

00:43:29.000 pushing when you get tired that that's a decision you can make that you have the capacity to turn

00:43:33.860 that around that what you put in your body affects your mind i mean i teach them a lot of stuff i

00:43:41.200 teach the adults i teach them the stuff that i know are going to be forced multipliers to have a

00:43:46.820 a fulfilling life i teach them to acquire knowledge to read that there's it's impossible

00:43:51.640 for you to know what you need to know already it will always be external and you have to bring it

00:43:56.080 internal everything that you want to achieve is going to be on the back end of learning something

00:44:01.380 new and bring it into your life those are the big things i teach my kids how can someone raise kids

00:44:08.860 to not be entitled i think the best way to raise kids and not be entitled is to not do things for

00:44:16.320 them right I'm not saying treat them bad abuse them all that stuff I people misunderstand me

00:44:21.400 all the time I'm saying let your kids learn how to do things let your kids learn how to tie their

00:44:26.820 shoes make their own lunches make clean their rooms do their laundry my kids do all of those

00:44:33.340 things ever since they were like six seven eight years old because I want them to understand that

00:44:38.580 these are things that if you want to have happen you got to make them happen for yourself the other

00:44:43.820 thing is, is I don't buy them everything they want. I get them what they need. I pay for food.

00:44:48.440 I pay for clothes. I pay for the needs. And then we split the wants. The wants are 50, 50. They

00:44:53.300 got to go make money by working, finding opportunities in the house, offering me up

00:44:57.820 different chores and projects. I don't put them on a salary or an allowance. They have to find

00:45:02.340 things to do and I'll pay them. And if they can come up with half the money, then they can get

00:45:06.660 what they want. But I only pay for the things they need. And I go 50, 50 on the wants. The final

00:45:11.280 thing I'll say on this is set the context for your, your kids. Like my kids know when they're

00:45:17.180 18, they have to leave the house. Now, whether I do that or not, doesn't matter. But the fact

00:45:23.100 that I've been telling them since they were little kids has gotten them prepared for leaving

00:45:27.440 the affluent environment that they are growing up in. Okay. Fly around on jets, live in a big

00:45:33.440 homes, flying around, driving around in supercars. That is not their reality. That's my reality.

00:45:38.960 That's their parents' reality, okay?

00:45:41.100 Say often, I'm rich, you're not.

00:45:43.400 These people don't work for you.

00:45:45.260 I'm here to love you.

00:45:46.560 I will do that.

00:45:47.560 I don't need to be your best friend.

00:45:48.820 I can care about you, but I will support you

00:45:52.760 in you creating and achieving value

00:45:54.660 in the world independently yourself.

00:45:58.040 That's how I avoid raising entitled children.

00:46:02.760 What's the best piece of parenting advice you ever heard?

00:46:05.700 The best piece of parenting advice I ever heard.

00:46:21.000 I think the best piece of parenting advice I ever heard was celebrate the progress, not the destination.

00:46:26.480 if a kid's climbing a mountain and they're struggling stop point down to the bottom

00:46:34.240 show them how small the parking lot was look how far you've come point to the mountaintop

00:46:38.720 celebrate the progress once they get to the top talk about moments they want to give up

00:46:44.980 celebrate those moments what's the secret to a successful relationship a successful relationship

00:46:53.620 i can only speak from my side of the table like a male's opinion um don't try to fix things

00:47:01.140 like unless you're being asked to fix something just listen but actually listen and want to

00:47:10.760 listen the cool part is you don't have to remember anything for the most part and you don't have to

00:47:15.440 fix anything so just listen intentively and care and have empathy that's like 80 of the challenge

00:47:22.660 how do you know if you found the one

00:47:33.500 yeah i don't know if i believe in the one

00:47:38.820 i believe in finding a partner that you feel confident that you want to invest your life with

00:47:49.740 and i think that there's probably a few people that that could have worked out with but at the

00:47:57.620 end of the day what matters is that you have a deep connection and appreciation for who they

00:48:04.380 are and their character and and you're committed to that investment like you want to co-create a

00:48:10.660 future with this person and trying to find the one is actually a kind of a crazy idea

00:48:15.200 and finding and investing because like there's no a relationship that starts off perfect and

00:48:21.520 stays perfect it's going to require work but what is going to be true is the desire to put

00:48:27.260 that effort into the relationship to make it work why do you do what you do

00:48:35.340 i do what i do for little dan i do what i do because i know there's kids out there

00:48:46.480 watching what i do making decisions about how they show up in life and if i can share my story

00:48:51.900 of where i came from where i'm at today and all the different challenges that i had and continue

00:48:58.460 to have that I bring hope to those kids. That's why I do what I do. The success is required to

00:49:06.420 get the attention of the people I really want to serve. Because I'll tell you, I don't know about

00:49:13.080 you. I didn't go to university, but if I did, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't just happen to come up on

00:49:20.780 my professor's Lamborghini in a parking lot. But when I look at my mentors and roll up to

00:49:28.440 their jet or their yacht, that inspires me. And I know when I show up to these kids to a rehab

00:49:37.140 center, to a crisis center, to a group home or whatever in a supercar, I get their attention

00:49:43.680 and I get to have a conversation with them. That's why I do what I do.

Dan Martell - May 03, 2024

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