Dan Martell - What I Learned From My Fiance Leaving Me

00:00:00.000 I was engaged back when I was 28 and I came home, found my fiance in tears.

00:00:05.160 She couldn't even speak.

00:00:06.220 She was just beside herself and eventually she blurts out, I can't do this anymore.

00:00:10.380 And she walked past me and went to her parents' house and that was the last day we were together,

00:00:14.520 like seven weeks before the wedding.

00:00:16.300 Oh, wow.

00:00:17.200 This was after three years of working my butt off, 100-hour weeks, trying to be successful

00:00:21.480 because I had two failed companies prior to that.

00:00:23.100 I was just like finally found something that was working and was so scared that if I even

00:00:27.080 tweaked the formula that it would just stop.

00:00:29.280 six months later, I exit the company. Here's the crazy part. At no point did she ever ask me for

00:00:34.340 any of that. She didn't ask me to become a multimillionaire. She didn't ask me for a big

00:00:38.520 house. She didn't ask me for any of it. She just wanted me to be present when we went out for date

00:00:42.340 night. There's zero desire of the other stuff. And yet we make these stories in our heads about

00:00:46.780 I'm doing this for them and I'm doing this for our future. And why can't they see this? And

00:00:50.940 how did they not understand? And it's like, I get when we start, that's how we were.

00:00:54.880 If you ask me, do I believe that's how it has to be? The answer is no.

Dan Martell - January 06, 2024