you can build your dream life in 12 months, here’s how…
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Your dream life is less than 12 months away, and it begins with 9 principles of success. These are the principles that helped me go from a broke 24-year-old to running my own business that generates over $100 million in revenue a year. They help me find my dream life, build amazing businesses, and love the work I do every day. And you can apply these today without having a rich family, getting lucky, or being early.
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Your dream life is less than 12 months away, and it begins with principles of success.
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And it's these principles that help me go from a broke 24-year-old to running my own business
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that generates over $100 million in revenue a year. They help me find my dream life,
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build amazing businesses, and love the work I do every day. And you can apply these today
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without having a rich family, getting lucky, or being early. So I've distilled all these
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into nine principles to build your dream life. Starting with principle number one,
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be willing to be misunderstood most people hold back because they're scared of being too much
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but the truth is if you want to be extraordinary you have to be okay with extra it's in the word
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extraordinary the other day i was talking to one of my clients and he said to me my wife doesn't
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support my growth i feel like she's scared that our paths are going to divert and we'll be too
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far apart or we're going to be different and what i said to him is you have to be willing to go
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support your wife but also understand she may not understand what you're about to do and that's okay.
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Oftentimes your family are just too close to you to see your greatness and be okay with that. Don't
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fight them for it. Just understand they've seen you grow up. They've seen you at your worst. I
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don't expect them to understand. I know that if I want to be the best at what I do and other people
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don't that my weird dreams means a dream life. That for other people they can't comprehend why
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anybody would want to get up and be that driven to create if they've never touched it. When you're
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living your truth, you're also showing them where they've been living a lie. And it's not their
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fault. Nobody's ever done that for them. They need to see you the way they see you because it allows
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them to tell themselves a story for themselves that makes you the villain and their opinion on
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you is not your business. Nobody needs a change for me to achieve my dreams. Nobody has to be
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different. Nobody has to give me approval. You need to have everybody in your life. Understand
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every decision you make is what's going to slow you down. If you want to be extraordinary, you
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need to be extra. But you can't achieve your dream life without defining it. Which brings us to
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principle number two, visualize your dreams. Napoleon Hill, who wrote the book Think and Grow
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Rich, talks about this all the time. The concept is to have a primary aim. If you don't have a
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target? How are you supposed to hit it? Most people say, I just want to be richer. I want to
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be happier. I want to have more love. But when you say, what does that mean? They go, I don't know,
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just more. More is not a strategy. Everything you see around you was first imagined in someone's
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mind. They couldn't create this chair, this mic, the camera I'm using right now, if they didn't
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clearly see it in their mind. I call it the rule of 300%. You want to have 100% clarity towards
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your target. I'm talking specifics. I want you to tell me colors, tell me amounts, tell me where,
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be 100% clear. The second part is 100% belief. Can you have 100% belief that you can achieve it?
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Because if you're thinking about something you want, but then immediately tell yourself you
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can't do it, that's not going to work. Then the last part of the 300% rule is 100% of the time.
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Can you have 100% clarity, 100% belief, 100% of the time? To your ability to have those three,
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you will attract into your life the thing you're after.
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and looking at the things I want to achieve this year.
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I visualize them, I get in the energy of achieving them,
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and I ask myself, is my calendar reflecting the priority
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If I put $10 million into your bank account, but you couldn't touch it for 10 business days,
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how would you feel tomorrow walking around the world knowing in 10 days you're going to receive
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$10 million tax-free? Would you walk around slowly or fast? Would you be upset or happy?
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Could other people make you upset or it would be impossible? Would you be excited about the future
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or pessimistic about it? My gut tells me you would have this energy of excitement and confidence and
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you'd be looking forward to the end of those 10 days. Now, here's the gotcha. You have to act like
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that without that $10 million there. If you act as if it's there, that energy will attract it into
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your life. Having the belief and being in that energy will create the opportunities around you
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for you to plug in and get those results. But you can't get your dream life just thinking about it.
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Which brings us to principle number three, ask better questions. As a coach, I realized the way
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I program my clients' minds is through my questions. Asking better questions gets them
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to reflect. Then they come up with the answers and they build the plan. See, if they build the
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plan, they won't fight the plan. If they tell me what they're going to do because I give them
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clarity through my questions, then they create the strategy they got to go execute. And it's
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not my fault if it doesn't work out. It's their inability to do the work. So one of my favorite
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questions, for example, is if somebody bought your business tomorrow, what's the first thing
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it would change? Why haven't you made that decision yet? What's coming up for you? Questions I truly
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believe are the programming language of the mind. Last year, I went to Date with Destiny, a Tony
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Robbins event with my wife, and there he teaches the idea of a primary question. And for me, the
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one I came up with that I use three, four, five times a day is how can I appreciate even more
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God's grace and guidance in this moment? And when I ask myself that question, everything gets better.
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There's just something really powerful a question delivers when you asked it properly that reset
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As Tony often says, ask a better question, live a better life.
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You're allowed to ask yourself a question like,
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for me not to be fearful of making that decision?
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What would need to be true for me to be excited
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The answer to those questions will give you the strategies
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A problem well-defined is a problem half-solved.
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If you don't learn how to define your situation
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so that you can get it to a question that's clear,
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But your dream life won't materialize without movement.
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Which brings us to principle number four, default to action.
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I get young men asking me every day on social media,
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It is doing something versus thinking about it.
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The wealthiest people default to action. They don't overthink things. They literally say,
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I'm going to make a decision, then make the decision right. I don't wait until I make the
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right decision. As Wayne Gretzky famously said, you miss a hundred percent of the shots you don't
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take. If today you overthink your situation and do nothing versus actually take a shot on goal,
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then by definition, it's like you didn't even try to take a shot. What changed for me in my life
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is when I realized that the only thing I needed to learn is shorten the distance between knowing
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and doing. That's why I came up with this mantra, JFDI. It's a license plate on my cars. It's my
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life philosophy. The end of the day, if my soul says yes, then I have to take action. I was
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literally sitting on a book deal, a million dollar book deal that I almost didn't do, but I decided
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yes. Why? Because I already had all the information I need to make the decision. I just was putting
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it off. There's no need for that. Just say yes, or it's a no. Whatever it is, don't sit on it.
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Success is making decisions with imperfect data.
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So, JFDI, you've got to close the gap between knowing and doing.
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But action on its own won't create your dream life.
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Which brings us to principle number five, measure what matters.
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Most people struggle getting a result in their life because they don't measure.
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I remember one time I was on a call with one of my friends,
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and I could see in his face he had put on some weight.
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And I just asked him, when's the last time you got on a scale?
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Now, I know that may not sound nice, but I loved him too much not to ask.
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And his response was, it's been a while. And that day, he will tell you that he went on a journey
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to transform his life. His name is Matt Verlach. He is one of my best buds and business partners.
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And if you saw the 60 pound heavier version of Matt on that Zoom call to who he is today,
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running ultra marathons and triathlons and hitting the gym, he will tell you it was on the back end
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of that question and changing the fact that he measures not every week, but every day. And not
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only his weight but also his food and his workout routines. And I just learned a long time ago what
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you focus on expands. If you want to get rich, measure more. If you want to lose weight, measure
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more. Every day you have a chance to improve your situation. If you can't measure it, you can improve
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it. Most people just hope. Hope is not a strategy. Without measuring, you're just guessing. Increase
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the specificity and increase the frequency of what you measure and watch it grow, including your bank
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account measuring every day brings positive expectancy around the outcome that you want
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and that energy is what makes it happen but you can't create your dream life without focusing on
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this which brings us to principle number six focus follow one course until successful every day i ask
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entrepreneurs what do you do and the ones that are small say i do a few things i have several
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businesses what they really want to say is i have one business that makes profit and six others that
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suck that profit dry. The thing that you will notice between people that are successful and
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wealthy versus ones that are still struggling is the wealthy person did one thing really well.
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He pushed that boulder up the mountain. He put all of his resources behind that one arrow to
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hit the target. Once he had product market fit, once he had a repeatable scalable model,
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then he diversified. Too often people hear diversification is how you create wealth.
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No, wealth creation requires concentration, and diversification is diversification.
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The truth is, when you're starting, multiple streams of income will not make you rich.
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Deciding that one thing to do the 10,000 hours, or better said, dedicate 10 years.
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If you show up every day to dedicate yourself to mastery around one business,
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it would be inevitable, impossible for you not to achieve your goal. And what you then learn is how
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to say no. And a no is a yes to your dream. And a yes today without properly understanding what it
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is, is a no to your future. Which brings us to principle number seven, play to win. I have
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conversations with people every day that are talking about ways to save on taxes or things
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they can do to save their expenses or how they have this idea. They do this, this and this,
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I have friends that have moved countries to save taxes.
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The big issue with that is that they don't realize
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they're telling themselves that they can't create more
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and instead they're trying to save what they have.
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Instead of trying to fear and minimize the downside,
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do enough to protect yourself, do enough to buy insurance,
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If you focus on trying not to lose, guess what?
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and you will see more resource come into your life.
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A while ago, I was coaching this woman, and I asked her what her five-year goals were,
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And she goes, so then I could tell everybody, F you.
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She's like, to every person that didn't believe in me.
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You should Google what percent of women-founded companies get to $7 million in revenue.
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it's like 0.01%. So in many ways, you have already been able to tell them F you. Why do you need
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a hundred million dollars to feel the way you want to feel at that level? And she got silent
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and she started to cry. Because what she realized in that moment was all of the goals that you set
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for yourself are just a criteria to give yourself permission to feel enough. And you actually have
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everything you need right now to feel that way. And I would argue being in that energy, truly
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believing that today would actually bring that future into your life even faster. Your dream
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life doesn't need anyone's signature of approval. Just the fact that you're watching this tells me
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you're already enough, that you're here wanting to be better. And that's the process. My coach
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says it this way. He says, you have to be blissfully dissatisfied. In this moment, you're
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allowed to be blissfully happy for everything you have and also realize that you have more to give
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the world. And that is why we're here. We're here to create. It's finding the happiness in the
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pursuit, not the pursuit of happiness. Now that you know the how, this last one will make sure
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you don't give up. Which brings us to principle number nine, define your why. The reason I love
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to do the work I do is because I love helping people find their why. The challenge is that
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most people don't want to go look for it because I learned a long time ago that every person's
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purpose, the reason for being alive, what they're meant to do. Some people call it a divine
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assignment sits right next to the worst thing that's ever happened to them. And it's because
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of that pain that they went through that actually shaped them uniquely to help another person
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overcome or avoid that in their life. And they might think, well, I'm here to do this art or
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I'm here to create this or I've got this business I'm building. And all those things can still be
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true. But until you understand your big Y, capital Y, all caps, bolded, highlighted Y,
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and use that to be your North Star as you build, you'll always feel like you're not on the right
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journey. You'll always feel like you're missing something. You'll always see other people that
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are following that and be a little jealous or be frustrated. Why do they have that pep in their
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step? Why do they show up that way? How do they have that level of excitement in their life?
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And for me, I have to reconnect the work I'm doing on a daily basis to a higher purpose.
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Without that, the energy that I use to create won't be felt by my audience.
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If I'm just going through the motions, you're not going to listen to this and take action.
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You're going to be like, man, he's just reading from a script.
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And the truth is, is you don't have to save the world, but you can save your world.
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Imagine in 12 months, you just designed your dream life, but there are still fundamental
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