Dan Martell - You don’t find the person, you become the person

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00:00:00.000 What I've learned about relationship is

00:00:01.720 you don't find the person,

00:00:03.180 you become the person who attracts the person.

00:00:05.280 I, Dan, had to look in the mirror and go,

00:00:07.600 if I want this person and I wrote down all the attributes,

00:00:11.040 who would I need to become to be desirable to that person?

00:00:13.820 Because how do I write down on there deep family values?

00:00:16.940 You can't even show up for Christmas.

00:00:18.960 For about a two-year period, three-year period,

00:00:20.560 I went on the journey of just trying to improve myself.

00:00:24.620 And one day through Twitter,

00:00:26.540 I ended up meeting the love of my life.

00:00:28.500 But if she would have met me even a year before, I'm pretty sure she would have ran.

00:00:32.640 The big thing I wanted to do, I just wanted to be the family that stops the bad stuff.

00:00:38.260 My parents grew up around alcoholism.

00:00:39.960 I wanted to just start a new family tree because I decided to do the deep, deep, deep work that was going to be required.

Dan Martell - October 16, 2023