In this episode of the Fresh & Fit Podcast, we talk about how hard it is to find true love in today's dating world. Is it easier or harder than it used to be? We also have a new segment called "Blind Date" where we take you on a blind date to see if you can find love with someone you just met. In this episode, we have a fresh match, but also a BLINDING DATE! Is it harder to find love if you're blindfolded or if you go on a date with someone else? Can you make a connection with someone without knowing that they're not ready for a relationship? What does it take to be a good date? How do you feel about what it takes to be honest with someone and be vulnerable? Do you think it's possible to be vulnerable and open up to a potential partner? Are you willing to take that leap of faith and let someone else be vulnerable with you? or do you shy away from vulnerability? We have a special guest on the show, Isaiah, and we discuss what it means to be open and vulnerable with someone new and how it can help you find love. We hope you enjoy this episode and can't wait to do it again next week with another fresh match and a BLOWN DATE with someone who's not ready to commit to you! . Thank you so much for listening and supporting the show! Peace, Blessings, EJ & Cheers! - The Crew, Ej and Fit, Elicia & Mckay & MK. - EJ&F. . . . EJ and EJ, - & MK, EK & EJ. (Isaiah ( ) and Ej & MK ( ) . & EK ( ) ( ) - Ej&F ( , EJ ( ) and MK ( . ( ) and MK & MK ( ). EJ/ MK ( , MK ( ), EJ( ) ( , EK, ) & Ej ( ) & MK& MK ( , ) ( . ) , , MK ( ), . ) ( & MKE ( ) ! , & EO ( ) , ) and EK( ) ( ), and EZ ( ) with EJY ( )
00:10:23.000I have a nine-year-old, so I'm looking for somebody.
00:10:26.000Obviously, I'm looking for someone to share a life with.
00:10:35.000Is dating harder in your 40s, or was it easier, you would think, in your 20s?
00:10:40.000No, I think in the generation that we live in, I don't think I look like a beat-up 40-year-old, so I don't have a problem with that, but it's just finding...
00:10:49.000The maturity in a man to cater to what I need, which is, you know, I'm not in the clubbing scene anymore.
00:14:59.000So, we'll do another question, and then we're going to close out here.
00:15:02.000So, I guess the first question for you guys is, well, actually, Isaiah mainly, if you're taking Vanessa on a first date, where'd it be, and what'd it be like?
00:15:12.000I'm thinking, because there's so many places that we could go, but I'd probably take her to A nice restaurant.
00:18:06.000I think how people respond to when you give them a command or, for example, you make a statement, shows a lot about who the person is, you know?
00:19:56.000My name is Christine and I'm 33 and I'm a child birth educator, a birth doula, so I do blessing ways for pregnant women and I help prepare them for going into labor.
00:22:04.000I'd say because people aren't ready for a real relationship, I think that sometimes people are kind of split between wanting to be with somebody but not willing to put in the work and not willing to compromise and not ready,
00:22:44.000You know, just not being truthful with each other, not being yourself, you know, and that's not really, you know, much anybody could ask for, you know, it's just to be yourself at the end of the day, because...
00:22:54.000You know, nobody's going to really judge you.
00:22:56.000And if they do, then, you know, that person's not right for you.
00:23:40.000I felt like I stated everything before, kind of in a way.
00:23:44.000I mean, I... I will put a little bit, I mean, I guess looks always comes last.
00:23:49.000I mean, there's nothing really too important to me, but obviously if you do keep yourself up to par and, you know, because, you know, women do take, you know, good care of themselves, but you also have a percentage who, you know, don't really care that much, you know, so I really like to see that a woman likes to take care of herself and also,
00:24:07.000you know, her family as well, just, you know, showing that she's passionate and, you know, caring for others and, you know, stuff like that, so...
00:24:15.000And Christine, what are the top three qualities?
00:24:18.000Definitely being adventurous and I would say someone who's passionate about their job, whatever it is, just being excited to go to work the next day.
00:24:30.000I don't think I could be with someone who's just resenting their job and their life and not looking forward to what takes up most of our lives, which is our work.
00:24:45.000So I think, yeah, passion for your work and spirituality for me is really important.
00:24:49.000Someone who, you know, believes in something else that's out there.
00:25:03.000Well, I'm from South Africa, so I kind of still think in rands, so I haven't really calculated out what I want my partner to make, but I'd like him to make more than what I do.
00:25:52.000It seems like ambition was important, like the drive and the passion.
00:25:56.000So if he's like, that's my goal and I'm working on it, does that qualify him?
00:26:00.000If he's working on it, I'm definitely a team player and I love to support my partner.
00:26:06.000I'm a Capricorn, so I like to grow and help other people grow.
00:26:11.000And so as long as they're ambitious and I just want to know that, you know, when there's rough times for me that someone's got my back, So, you know, as long as we're a team and we're both working on things together,
00:27:12.000So I just, you know, work hard every day.
00:27:15.000Not even just on the social media side because, you know, some people would like to, you know, train in person.
00:27:20.000So, you know, I just spend a lot of time with people.
00:27:23.000As much as I can, you know, I never say, oh, I can't see you in person to not, you know, help you reach your goals.
00:27:29.000And, you know, I never just set that bar like that, you know, and leave myself in a box, you know, to make the money that I want to, you know, the goal that I want to hit in that month.
00:28:17.000Yes, I would because at the end of the day, that money still has to come in, you know, and when you're not being realistic with yourself and that's how you hit rock bottom real quick, you know, you gotta, at the end of the day, you could always end up right where you started and that can't go, you know, especially like, you know how she said that you have kids and,
00:28:35.000you know, I don't have any kids, but let's just say if I was, like, I can't have that mindset and to have that early to understand that, then, you know, I'm going in the right direction, I think.
00:31:22.000So, yeah, the fact that, like, I loved how just honest you were being, you know, from the get-go, like, the whole commonalities and, like, values and qualities that you're looking for.
00:31:32.000You definitely crossed over a lot of similarities, so I thought it was good.
00:36:40.000Well, I do feel like Miami is probably the hardest place that I've been for dating, just because I think...
00:36:49.000You know, there's this whole show that everybody's kind of, you know, all dressed up and it's about money and being beautiful and sexy.
00:36:59.000And so I think to get past that and to really communicate with each other, yeah, I think that that's to meet someone who really does want to be vulnerable and be authentic and share what they really want.
00:38:13.000I'm definitely sexual, but I wait until I really believe that someone's very interested in me and that we really like each other and that there's a deeper connection.
00:38:27.000I wouldn't enjoy sex if that wasn't there.
00:41:23.000So if you portray yourself as someone and you come up to me and I see a completely different person, I'm like, this is not the person that I courted.
00:41:31.000This is not the person that I was messaging.
00:43:27.000And also, age shouldn't really be that much of a factor sometimes, but because he was definitely around our age group and older, it made it a little bit more palatable 100% more receptive.
00:45:20.000Now, this is going to be your first date challenge in this exercise here.
00:45:25.000Now, as a man, you're picking the first date, picking where you go, what time it is, and the setting.
00:45:31.000And we're gonna play it out right here on-air live.
00:45:34.000So let's say you go to South Beach, you go to Brickhole, you go to a restaurant, where you going, what time it is, and then we're gonna act it out live right now.
00:51:21.000So when I was blindfolded and I heard this kid tell me I'm 22, I'm like, fuck, there's only one thing that's going to come out of this shit.
01:03:22.000And if the man who are watching don't know this, once she starts laughing, that's your foot in the door.
01:03:27.000And also what you should do is learn how to dance.
01:03:29.000Because if you can dance with a woman, especially on a first date, salsa, merengue, bachata, and even, you know, Caribbean dancing, whining.
01:03:37.000You're going to make a way to her heart that's not possible to most people because you dance with her, you connect with her, touching her body is like body language.
01:05:06.000And it's more like, if you can see it in real time...
01:05:09.000Hopefully it inspires you to do more for yourself and your family.
01:05:11.000I think for most people here, you're scared because you're nervous that you're going to look crazy, you're going to look not interesting, you're going to look sad or whatever.
01:05:20.000But, as you guys can see, three guys came up here, showed you it's possible, and even though they might have gotten the dates, you know what they got?
01:05:30.000So the more you do it, the more you go out, the more you talk to girls, the more you go on dates, the better you should become if you're taking notes for yourself and learning from that.