In this episode of Freshman Fit, we are joined by Mary Kate of Mary Kate's Matchmaking, your favorite matchmaker in Miami, Florida. We are doing a speed dating round with a couple, a man and a woman, and an icebreaker round with icebreaker questions to get to know each other better. We hope you enjoy this episode, and if you do, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts, and tell us what you thought of it in the comments section below! Thank you so much for being a part of this community, and we can't wait to do more of this in the future! Love & Light, MLD & the Freshmen Fit Squad! - The Freshman Podcast (featuring: Mary Kate & MKD) Mary Kate s Matchmaking - Your Favorite Matchmaker, Mary Kate is a matchmaker who helps people find the love of their life through up-leveling their communication style to lead overall more meaningful lives. She is the leader of the only centralized Passport Bro community in Miami and is also a men s self-improvement coach, as well as a men's self-development coach. Thanks for listening and supporting the show! . MLD is a proud member of the FreshmanFit Community. (The Freshman PODCAST). - Thank you for checking us out! We appreciate you guys, we really appreciate the support. - MLD and the support us! (Thank you for all the love and support us, we appreciate you, we truly appreciate you. and we are looking forward to you, coming back next year to the next episode with you all of you! XOXOXO! - Mary Kate xo - M.K & M.D. . . . - M.A. & MLD . (Mary Kate , M.C.M. (The Matchmaker) (the matchmaker ) Thanks, M.E. , MLD (the host of the podcast with M.FIT, the matchmaker and M.S. (M.K) - the host of this episode! & MKFIT (the co-host of the show, ) & MLK (the founder of M.P. (the podcast, ) . ,
00:13:46.000How's dating nowadays, you think, for people, men and women in general?
00:13:49.000Oh, it depends on where you are in the world.
00:13:51.000In the West, it's kind of a nightmare, quite frankly.
00:13:56.000I personally think, if you want to go to the root issue of it, I think that we have a family problem in the Western world.
00:14:04.000Civilization, you know, and I think more and more people coming from single mother households, single households in general, typically don't have good models for relationships because their model is a broken relationship.
00:14:19.000And I think that it's kind of a perpetuating thing.
00:14:22.000So I'm doing my best to help turn that thing around and let's see what we have here today.
00:16:23.000You know, I'm not really into sports like that, but when they come around and I'm invited, I like to go just because it's enthralling and it's just something else to do other than the regular Miami thing.
00:20:24.000It's not trivial things like that, no.
00:20:28.000But like I said, it's more like, because it's Miami.
00:20:31.000Miami is, it does have, I was born and raised here, so I've lived here my whole life.
00:20:36.000So there's nobody that can tell me anything about Miami.
00:20:40.000Actually, sorry, real quick, not to interrupt you, Janelle, someone told me the other day, who I think is around your age, yeah, 34, 35, 36, and he was saying, actually, people who are born and raised in this city have better luck in dating.
00:21:07.000There's a lack of transparency and a lack of communication that we have, honestly, from both sexes.
00:21:12.000I had a date a while back, and everything actually went good.
00:21:17.000Had the dinner and everything else, too.
00:21:19.000She actually spent the night, and then the day after, when we were going down the elevator, she asked me if I'm going to send her some money.
00:21:45.000You know, and honestly, too, I think that if she was a person where she was very, very honest from the beginning, as far as, like, hey, this is what it is, you gotta pay for this, then, like, I will actually be able to have the choice in order to do that, but you perceived yourself as, or you presented yourself as a person that you wanted to get to know me, but then you're asking for a cash app afterwards.
00:22:02.000But, just as a context here as well, that is a common occurrence here in Miami.
00:22:06.000You meet a girl, cool vibes, whatever, and then it's like, oh, wait, uh, I gotta pay my phone bill or something.
00:26:42.000I think, yeah, I haven't had any crazy, that crazy story, but yeah, it was all the dinner was just awkward and the things that it doesn't have sense with things that he was saying.
00:30:01.000I don't know if you believe in reincarnation, but I guess I would like to know if you were to be reincarnated tomorrow, what kind of animal would you pick?
00:32:10.000I mean, like, I feel like the frequency was still there.
00:32:12.000Like, I was still taking her out at least once or twice a week.
00:32:15.000Or if not, do a little bit more than that.
00:32:17.000But, yeah, it was just kind of some of the things that we were doing.
00:32:20.000I would pay for a little bit more, like, adventurous things to do.
00:32:23.000And I guess over time, I was kind of paying for a little bit less or wanting to do kind of more basic things that didn't require a lot of money.
00:36:32.000I guess what I learned about it is just, you know, I think it's good to give the opportunity to meet someone different.
00:36:40.000Another thing that I discovered is that I generally value a lot like sense of humor.
00:36:47.000And I think there is some things about culture sometimes that it doesn't connect that well.
00:36:52.000So I think I have to be someone that is super open to learn about different cultures, about different, like, I would say slang, but different things about yourself.
00:38:37.000We have some time that we're down distance as well.
00:38:41.000And later in Chile I have two years relationship.
00:38:45.000Real quick, is that a red flag for you guys, if you meet someone at 33, at 28, and they've never had a long-term relationship?
00:38:53.000I guess, for me, I'd have to ask a little bit more questions.
00:38:56.000I'd have to be like, who are the men that influence you in your life, and what have you learned from them?
00:39:01.000If I can see that you got some good knowledge and I can take the chance, but if it's like I don't have that type of manly authority around to learn from, I don't know if I want to teach you.
00:40:51.000I feel like they're good watchers of the Fresh and Fit podcast.
00:40:55.000I feel like they know what they're doing.
00:40:56.000Okay, so we're going to have you plan a date, because obviously you're the man, so just choose location, time, where you want to be, and then we'll start there.
00:41:04.000Yeah, I would usually like to have a date where we're going to be a little bit competitive, so I'd probably take you bowling.
00:41:10.000Okay, so let's say we're at Strike 10 down the street.
00:41:23.000I'm going to Uber her, just because I feel like some women don't feel comfortable with guys picking them up, so I feel like just Ubering them to the place is probably the best idea.
00:41:44.000I mean, honestly, part of it would be part of the game, so I'd just be flirting with you in terms of like, come on, can't you do a little bit better than that?
00:41:51.000Because I actually am really good at bowling, so like...
00:41:57.000So I would just tease you and be like, oh yeah, no, I'm not that good.
00:42:00.000And then after a couple of rounds, I would definitely start picking up the game.
00:48:00.000So this is your first date, taking her out, and you can choose the location, time, where it's going to be, and we'll start the ball rolling.
00:48:09.000Okay, so if I'm going to take you out, I'll say, hey, I don't want to go in a restaurant with you.
00:53:08.000You know, I mean, you got the fitness, you have the leadership, you have the confidence, you know how to carry a conversation, you know how to lead and guide.
00:53:15.000She followed well during that conversation as well.
01:03:29.000And without further ado, man, just to keep it real, who wants to have shriveled beans for coffee versus strong, good, rich beans, like what they have for coffee right here?
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01:04:09.000And I hate to say that, because I'm not an entrepreneur at Spirit, and as an entrepreneur, you have to be a dreamer, you have to be a go-getter, so I hate to be like, stop being unrealistic.
01:04:18.000But the truth is, you have to look at the stats.
01:04:20.000You have to look at what you're looking for.
01:04:22.000If you're looking for a man or a woman in a certain five, ten year age demographic, and then you put on the stipulation that they can only be six foot plus, and then they can never have had kids, and they can never have been married, but yet they're between the ages 40 and 45.
01:04:38.000You have to look at all that you're looking for and really, truly be logical, because falling in love is 50% emotional and 50% logical.
01:04:45.000When you look at it, you're like, well, that brings me to about.05% of the population.
01:04:55.000I just think men and women across the board need to lower their standards.
01:04:59.000I think everybody is just so out of touch with reality, men and women.
01:05:04.000I obviously deal with the majority of coaching men, male clients, but when I deal with women on the fucking podcast, How you guys made your fortune.
01:05:12.000The delusions of the average modern woman is just too out of control.
01:05:16.000I think that, you know, everybody just needs to chill out and give the other person a little bit more leeway.
01:05:21.000Because, you know, I think men and women are so quick to next each other.
01:05:24.000And everybody thinks they're so fucking amazing.
01:05:27.000Everybody thinks they have no red flags.
01:05:29.000Everybody thinks, like, I deserve this perfect person.
01:05:37.000So I just think everybody needs to fucking chill out, sit down, and really just have a kind of objective look at what they want and lower their standards to get that.
01:05:48.000And another thing related to what you just said is just that if you're dating someone and there's a clear no-go...
01:05:58.000Like for me, if I'm dating a girl and she drinks alcohol...
01:06:04.000So if I know I'm dating a girl and she's like consistently slamming back booze, I'm like, this girl, you know, she's got a couple months at best, you know.
01:06:13.000But you've got to walk away from what you don't want so you can find what you do want.
01:06:56.000But I think lifestyle seems like we have this part of like technology, like career thing that I realized that for me is kind of important and someone to kind of understand a little bit more of that.
01:07:07.000So, that would be more for that, not for, like, it doesn't...
01:07:11.000Because I think I could talk with, you know, in this short period of time, I could have good conversation with both.
01:07:17.000I think, like, De Juan seems so cool, like, very charismatic, you know?
01:09:07.000Successful singles, it's called, at DUA here just down the street.
01:09:10.000This really is for the person who is not looking for the games, really wants to get behind, not get behind the screens, be in real time, and meet people who are looking for the goals that you're looking for, which is long-term relationships.
01:09:20.000So see you there, DUA. May 31st and get at mkmatchmaking.com your tickets.
01:10:12.000Jabril says, can we get behind the scenes on Castle Club during the after-hour show because I'm trying to see FNF girls' reaction when the girls saying some dumb shit, okay?