Fresh & Fit - A Fresh Match With Fresh&Fit Ft. Rollo Tomassi & Michael Sartain

00:00:00.000 Thank you.

00:10:07.000 Today we're some special guests on the show.

00:10:08.000 For the dating show, let's get into it.

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00:10:42.000 All right, we are back.

00:11:01.000 So it's a little bit different.

00:11:02.000 It's a fresh match for Fresh and Fit.

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00:11:14.000 Without further ado, welcome to the guests on the panel.

00:11:16.000 Michael, Mary-Kate, and Rolo.

00:11:18.000 Mary-Kate.

00:11:18.000 Go first, Michael.

00:11:19.000 Hey, what's going on guys?

00:11:20.000 Welcome.

00:11:21.000 I'm excited.

00:11:21.000 I watched your first episode.

00:11:22.000 It was really interesting.

00:11:23.000 So I'm kind of interested to see how this goes. 0.98

00:11:25.000 But, you know, we're going to talk about dating and what the fuck is happening with dating right now. 0.98

00:11:30.000 It's tough. 0.91

00:11:31.000 What's up, everyone?

00:11:32.000 Mary-Kate.

00:11:32.000 Mary-Kate's Matchmaking.

00:11:33.000 I hope people believe in love again by helping them connect to their ideal partner.

00:11:37.000 Maybe she can help me. 1.00

00:11:38.000 I don't believe in that shit. 1.00

00:11:39.000 I'm just kidding. 1.00

00:11:40.000 I'm kidding.

00:11:41.000 I'm sorry.

00:11:41.000 Yeah, right, man.

00:11:42.000 That's okay.

00:11:43.000 That's a little bit heavier than I thought.

00:11:44.000 How dare you?

00:11:45.000 I'm Rola Tomasi, the author of The Rational Mail, a five-series book series, and it's good to be back, finally.

00:11:52.000 Also, a co-host from Access Vegas, along with Mike.

00:11:55.000 Let's go!

00:11:55.000 Welcome back, guys.

00:11:57.000 So, Myron's actually doing a live stream with Vitaly right now and Ada Ross, catching some, you know, people, if you won't say what they are.

00:12:03.000 So, tune into that after this as well.

00:12:05.000 But whatever you do, guys, please tell us your idea of the current dating market, how to solve the problems we have with dating men and women.

00:12:11.000 What do you think so far?

00:12:11.000 Yeah, so, there's two main issues.

00:12:13.000 One of them is the one of boys and men.

00:12:17.000 Richard Reeves wrote a book about this concept.

00:12:19.000 Whereas, as women... 1.00

00:12:21.000 Start to gain in socioeconomic status.

00:12:23.000 So 60% of college graduates now are women, or I'm sorry, enrollees are 60%, 68% are graduates.

00:12:29.000 As more and more women graduate from college, they're going to earn more income. 1.00

00:12:33.000 As they earn more income, they're going to look for men that are at their level or across.

00:12:37.000 It's like Rihanna who's worth $100 million dating a billionaire, right?

00:12:40.000 And so the number of men that they have to choose from becomes smaller and smaller.

00:12:43.000 But they're not just competing with other women who are educated and make $100,000 a year. 1.00

00:12:47.000 They're also competing with women who are just like working at Twin Peaks and are broke. 1.00

00:12:51.000 So they're educated women, but they're also competing with uneducated women. 1.00

00:12:54.000 And so what's happened is there's a small group of men that they're all competing for.

00:12:59.000 Six feet tall and make $100,000 a year.

00:13:01.000 That makes you in the top 2.3% of men.

00:13:04.000 There's all these women trying to get with those men. 1.00

00:13:06.000 And because they can't get with them, they're settling for those men. 0.99

00:13:09.000 But if you were to look at it on a socioeconomic record, they're not settling.

00:13:12.000 They're actually going directly across.

00:13:14.000 But women are complaining they're settling. 1.00

00:13:15.000 Because one of the issues is Kim Kardashian and the average girl in Kansas are seeing the same images on social media.

00:13:21.000 They're seeing the exact same images as each other is seeing.

00:13:25.000 Now, from a man's standpoint, the issue is this.

00:13:28.000 There's this bottom third of men that have just been left out of short term dating.

00:13:32.000 Mac and Murphy talks about this concept.

00:13:34.000 They just don't have any chance.

00:13:35.000 And what they're being told is you need to wait until your girl is done with her short term dating so that you get her for your long term dating.

00:13:43.000 So when she turns 30 and she's done with her fun stage. 0.95

00:13:47.000 You get the leftovers.

00:13:49.000 When she went to Raccoon and Ultra.

00:13:52.000 If your girl has been to Ultra, Burning Man, and she's been to Miami Squim Week, and Atlanta Swim Week, and she's been to Ibiza, and she was at EDC, and she was at Coachella.

00:14:01.000 And Dubai!

00:14:02.000 And she's been to Dubai.

00:14:03.000 Oh, Lord!

00:14:05.000 Yes, for sure, man.

00:14:06.000 I'm sure she belongs to the street.

00:14:08.000 She is the street, bro.

00:14:09.000 At that point, she is a fire hydrant.

00:14:14.000 Get the water hose! 0.99

00:14:16.000 The point is this bottom third of men, they're being left behind.

00:14:20.000 And so there's other studies that show that as men make less money, the likelihood of them going a year without any sexual intercourse increases.

00:14:27.000 So it's actually proportional.

00:14:28.000 So we're just talking about money.

00:14:29.000 We can talk about game.

00:14:31.000 We can talk about height.

00:14:32.000 We can talk about looks.

00:14:33.000 We can talk about charisma.

00:14:34.000 We can talk about social status.

00:14:35.000 Or my favorite one, obviously, which is pre-selection, make-choice copying, women approving you, making more women be attracted to you.

00:14:41.000 Those things are not being taught in general.

00:14:43.000 And so you have a bunch of women that are dissatisfied because they think they're settling because they're going after this small group of men at the top. 1.00

00:14:50.000 And you have a bunch of men at the bottom who are dissatisfied.

00:14:52.000 And the main thing is Andrew Tate does not become incredibly popular unless those men were not being spoken to.

00:14:59.000 And the reason why he became so popular is because no one was speaking to those men.

00:15:04.000 Richard Reeve even admits he's like, academicians were ignoring the idea that men could be in crisis.

00:15:10.000 The idea that men could be in crisis or men could be a victim of anything was just so anathema to anything that academics believed.

00:15:16.000 And because of that, that's the reason why Andrew Tate blew up so big, because no one was speaking to that group of people.

00:15:21.000 Well said.

00:15:22.000 Okay.

00:15:22.000 Interesting.

00:15:23.000 I like to simplify it much more.

00:15:25.000 And really what it comes down to is a couple things.

00:15:28.000 One, like I said last episode, dating is a skill set.

00:15:30.000 You can either choose to learn it, get better, which is essentially getting better at yourself, making yourself more attractive.

00:15:36.000 Whether that be making more money, whether that be going to the gym, whatever it is, get better at being more attractive.

00:15:43.000 And the second thing is action, man.

00:15:45.000 Nothing's going to happen without action.

00:15:46.000 People are literally waiting in their house, watching Pinion on Netflix, waiting for their Prince Charming to come knocking on the door, or their princess.

00:15:52.000 It does not come without massive action.

00:15:55.000 It is a numbers game at the end of the day.

00:15:57.000 I have a question.

00:15:58.000 You match both men and women.

00:15:59.000 Do women want to improve to find their man, you think? 1.00

00:16:01.000 Yes.

00:16:02.000 I will not let women work with me unless they're open to being coached. 1.00

00:16:05.000 It doesn't work that way.

00:16:06.000 It doesn't work that way.

00:16:07.000 Because, again, why would you hire me if you already have the love of your life?

00:16:10.000 If you're already set?

00:16:11.000 Clearly there's something there we've got to tweak.

00:16:12.000 There's something they're not listening to.

00:16:13.000 Some feedback they're not taking, maybe.

00:16:15.000 Something, yes.

00:16:15.000 Yeah, that the world's giving them.

00:16:16.000 All right, and Rolo?

00:16:16.000 Well, first off, I think a lot of the problems that we see with dating right now and meeting people is this right here.

00:16:24.000 It's the buffer of social media, the buffer of technology.

00:16:28.000 I think a lot of guys just simply sit behind a buffer so that they don't have to make the approaches or it's easier.

00:16:34.000 It's a buffer against rejection.

00:16:36.000 And I know a lot of guys will teach text game and everything else, but really there's no substitute for face-to-face.

00:16:41.000 That's why I kind of like when you wanted to invite me on this show.

00:16:44.000 I'm like, oh, finally.

00:16:45.000 Now we can see what's going on.

00:16:46.000 Some of the most popular shows I've ever done with other creators, when I do collabs, is when we sort of do like a play-by-play of dating like there's a video of a guy like you know kind of hitting on a girl or whatever and then really kind of I hate to say like be like John Madden you know like okay here's where he screwed up and here's where she's that kind of stuff and so so you can see it happen like live in real time or at least sort of an after-action kind of thing and honestly I think like everything you know that Mike and MK has said so

00:17:16.000 far you know would be in full agreement with right you know Mike's gonna give you the nuts and bolts of it here But I think when it comes to doing something actionable and that's practical, it has to be face-to-face.

00:17:26.000 And I think both men and women, when I talk to women, they'll say, you know, Rola, I've done everything right.

00:17:32.000 I've got my job together.

00:17:33.000 I've got my education together.

00:17:34.000 I've got the bag.

00:17:35.000 I'm 32 years old.

00:17:37.000 Where's my man?

00:17:37.000 Yeah.

00:17:38.000 And there's no pushback.

00:17:41.000 There's no approach.

00:17:43.000 There's no action on her part.

00:17:45.000 There's no action on the guy's part either, right?

00:17:47.000 And so it's like you've got the boys on one side of the playground, you've got the girls on the other side of the playground, and then neither one of them want to lower themselves to actually come together and do anything.

00:17:55.000 And I think a lot of guys will say that they're afraid of making an approach because they're afraid that they're going to get a me too, or they're going to get some kind of rejection, like a serious ass rejection.

00:18:06.000 And so what do they do?

00:18:08.000 They rely on things like OnlyFans.

00:18:09.000 They rely on things like, you know, Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, that kind of stuff, which is actually starting to, like, really lose popularity these days.

00:18:16.000 So I think, like, shows like this or, like, learning the skills to actually approach live in real time is a lost art.

00:18:23.000 Right now so I think really making those approaches and as you said taking action some something that's very important.

00:18:28.000 I just what he just said right there there's a survey I recently saw came out women under the age of 30 something like I believe somewhere between 17 and 23 percent of them said that a man coming up and approaching them constituted harassment yes yes now that's not the majority of women but even the fact that a quarter or a fifth of women I would say that constitutes harassment.

00:18:50.000 Everybody has the opportunity to ask once.

00:18:52.000 You can ask once.

00:18:53.000 But the fact that we've done that, so now when you consider that, now there's that 17% who think that's harassment.

00:18:59.000 Then there's that next 20% who are probably annoyed by it, but maybe don't think it's harassment. 0.99

00:19:03.000 But that's enough to where men are like, fuck this. 0.99

00:19:06.000 Why would I put up with this? 1.00

00:19:07.000 Why even try?

00:19:08.000 And I totally understand where that comes from.

00:19:10.000 So there was a question on TikTok, social media going around, where it says, if you're in the woods, do you rather encounter a bear or a man?

00:19:17.000 Or a man, yeah.

00:19:17.000 And to see the answer was alarming.

00:19:19.000 It goes to show how much women think about men. 0.79

00:19:21.000 But without further ado, guys, we're doing a show today, speed dating slash matchmaking, a fresh match.

00:19:26.000 We have some guys and some girls here to do a show, and we're going to find out today if they're going to match or not match.

00:19:31.000 But ultimately, here's a video that kind of explains dating in Miami and pretty much the rest of the States.

00:19:36.000 So play it real quick.

00:19:37.000 This video kind of depicts what's happening in the dating scene.

00:19:42.000 One second.

00:19:44.000 All right.

00:19:45.000 You just get these intense levels of frustration, and I've got to the point where I'm actually fishing somewhat mechanically.

00:19:52.000 I'm casting, I'm casting, and I've lost that expectation.

00:19:55.000 I've lost that belief that I'm going to get something.

00:19:57.000 I just want to feel anything.

00:19:58.000 I don't care what it is.

00:19:59.000 Something alive.

00:20:00.000 At the same time, you just get these intense levels of frustration, and I've got to the point where...

00:20:06.000 I'm going to remember this when I'm on the charter fishing boat on Friday.

00:20:09.000 Yeah, yeah.

00:20:10.000 I gotta do something like that for Instagram.

00:20:12.000 And as you guys know, I have my issues as well.

00:20:15.000 But whatever we're going to do, guys, we're going to bring the people in here.

00:20:17.000 Let's do it.

00:20:17.000 Guy and girl.

00:20:18.000 This is the icebreaker section.

00:20:20.000 We're going to do an icebreaker game where, for example, they're going to come in, meet each other, feel each other out, and then decide...

00:20:25.000 They've never met each other before?

00:20:27.000 No.

00:20:28.000 So first time, guys and girls, let's see what happens.

00:20:30.000 All right.

00:20:30.000 So let's say tour.

00:20:31.000 Let's do it.

00:20:34.000 Let's do it.

00:21:04.000 Let's do it.

00:21:34.000 Let's do it.

00:21:54.000 All right.

00:21:55.000 Welcome, everyone.

00:21:56.000 Welcome, welcome.

00:21:57.000 All right, guys, so you've got your icebreakers.

00:21:59.000 Have at it.

00:22:00.000 All right, here we go.

00:22:01.000 We've got a three-minute speed date.

00:22:02.000 Ready?

00:22:02.000 Why don't you, do you want to go first?

00:22:04.000 Sure.

00:22:05.000 All right, what was the best advice anyone ever gave you?

00:22:09.000 Ooh.

00:22:11.000 I think when, oh that's tough, let's see, never trust anybody that says trust me.

00:22:18.000 I think I'm gonna go with that.

00:22:19.000 Anytime somebody says trust me, I've been let down, they didn't follow through, their advice was wrong, so I think I'm gonna go with that one.

00:22:29.000 Do you have a question, Tam?

00:22:31.000 Yeah, so what is the longest relationship you've had and why did it end?

00:22:36.000 So, my longest relationship was four months, so I actually haven't had anything longer than that.

00:22:43.000 Part of the reason why I pursued the career I did.

00:22:47.000 And although my dating relationships have been short, they've been intense and they've been very beautiful.

00:22:53.000 In this situation, there was infidelity, so I was cheated on.

00:22:58.000 But it's actually interesting because within that relationship, I really learned how to still love and choose myself.

00:23:04.000 And we actually became really close friends.

00:23:06.000 We became even closer intimately afterwards than before that.

00:23:10.000 So you said intense.

00:23:12.000 Would you describe yourself as a passionate person?

00:23:15.000 Of course, yes.

00:23:16.000 Okay, what does passion mean to you?

00:23:18.000 Yes, I would say passion is really looking for that depth and self-discovery.

00:23:24.000 So part of my values is evolution and evolution of self.

00:23:28.000 And as much as, you know, learning about yourself, what is your truth?

00:23:31.000 What is your truth in relationship and in life?

00:23:34.000 And really finding your purpose in that sense.

00:23:38.000 Can I ask another one?

00:23:39.000 Keep going!

00:23:41.000 In Miami, I've run into a lot of people that are shallow, right?

00:23:44.000 You don't find that depth.

00:23:45.000 So how have you kind of maneuvered through the dating scene, the dating apps?

00:23:50.000 What has it been like for you?

00:23:51.000 Yeah.

00:23:52.000 So I would say Miami for me really is a city where you can find community.

00:23:57.000 I don't think other places do community as well as Miami does.

00:24:01.000 And I can say this because I'm part of the entrepreneurial community.

00:24:05.000 I am part of the conscious community.

00:24:06.000 So I do have a lot of friends that are spiritual that are on this conscious intimacy journey.

00:24:13.000 So it is different.

00:24:14.000 Like, you know, even coming to Brickle, I don't come here that often.

00:24:16.000 I was like, oh, yeah, it's really like different pockets everywhere.

00:24:19.000 Right.

00:24:19.000 But I'm a firm believer that you can really find what you're looking for.

00:24:23.000 You just have to set the intention and you have to put yourself out there.

00:24:26.000 Okay.

00:24:27.000 Alright.

00:24:28.000 We got one more.

00:24:29.000 Yeah.

00:24:30.000 We got one minute left.

00:24:31.000 Yeah, for sure.

00:24:33.000 So, yeah, what type of relationship are you looking for?

00:24:37.000 I'm looking for a wife. 0.92

00:24:38.000 I'm not going to lie.

00:24:39.000 I've done the situationships.

00:24:41.000 I've done the casual dating.

00:24:43.000 I've done long-term during college, a little bit after that.

00:24:46.000 Recently in Miami, I haven't had the best luck with finding that next partner.

00:24:50.000 I just turned 30.

00:24:52.000 I just bought a house.

00:24:52.000 I'm kind of pretty settled in my life, and I think, you know, I got the backyard.

00:24:56.000 I want the dog.

00:24:58.000 I want the backyard.

00:24:58.000 I want everything.

00:24:59.000 I think I'm looking for something serious.

00:25:02.000 Now, am I on the dating apps?

00:25:03.000 Yes.

00:25:04.000 Have I had bad luck with the dating apps?

00:25:06.000 Of course.

00:25:06.000 But I've met some really good women.

00:25:08.000 I've met some beautiful women, ins and outs, but they just didn't last. 1.00

00:25:12.000 I think we just didn't align.

00:25:14.000 Whether it was me or her, they just didn't align.

00:25:16.000 So I think that's why I'm here today.

00:25:18.000 That's why I'm more of an in-person.

00:25:20.000 I'm going to walk up to you at the bar.

00:25:22.000 I'm going to go to a yoga class and kind of talk to you.

00:25:24.000 I'm going to try to ask you out to coffee.

00:25:26.000 So I think the dating apps don't work, but I think I think I'm looking for someone serious, so yeah, that's where I'm at right now.

00:25:31.000 Alright, time is up.

00:25:32.000 Buzzer sound?

00:25:33.000 Okay.

00:25:34.000 Listen.

00:25:36.000 Now, ladies and gentlemen, choose from your...

00:25:39.000 Actually, you know what?

00:25:40.000 No, the ladies part as well. 0.99

00:25:42.000 There's going to be an actual sign next to you.

00:25:44.000 Thumbs up, thumbs down.

00:25:45.000 Thumbs up, thumbs down.

00:25:46.000 Now you're going to choose if he stays or if he goes.

00:25:48.000 Green is if he stays, red is if he has to go.

00:25:51.000 Just the lady? 0.98

00:25:52.000 Just the lady? 0.98

00:25:53.000 Olivia, go. 1.00

00:25:55.000 Olivia, get him green. 0.89

00:25:57.000 Now, tell us why he gets to stay.

00:26:01.000 I think, for me, I really feel energy, and I think he's being genuine in his answers.

00:26:08.000 So, yeah, I think it's something that I could learn more about him, and maybe it goes for him.

00:26:13.000 Okay, great.

00:26:13.000 Love it.

00:26:14.000 Alright, so both of you can leave.

00:26:15.000 There you go.

00:26:16.000 Now both of you can leave.

00:26:17.000 Round one.

00:26:17.000 Do we have to?

00:26:18.000 Yeah, because that means that she chose him.

00:26:20.000 So that's pretty good.

00:26:21.000 Alright, and then next couple coming up.

00:26:23.000 Possible couple.

00:26:25.000 Roller, what do you think so far, man?

00:26:26.000 I thought that was a good exchange.

00:26:28.000 Definitely a value exchange, for sure.

00:26:33.000 Nice conversational skills on his part, for sure. 0.97

00:26:35.000 But she said four months, my nigga!

00:26:37.000 Slipping that into the conversation was pretty cool.

00:26:42.000 But at the same rate, you know what?

00:26:46.000 It's funny, because I talked to this about clients.

00:26:48.000 Should you judge someone based off of having a really crazy, like, oh, it was two years, but maybe it was toxic.

00:26:54.000 Maybe it was a toxic two years, and maybe, like, he's still or she's still recovering from those toxic two years, you know?

00:26:58.000 Mike, maybe she was a, or he was a narcissist. 0.91

00:27:01.000 You know what?

00:27:02.000 I don't want you to.

00:27:04.000 This is so funny, it's like 3% of the population are narcissists, but all of you are dating narcissists.

00:27:09.000 Somebody is not good at math.

00:27:12.000 But no, the thing is, so the first thing, I thought Tan, when he started off asking questions, there's this one survey in the UK that shows that When women say me or I seven times during a date, they're far more likely to have a second date.

00:27:24.000 They looked at thousands and thousands of speed dates from that.

00:27:27.000 But the other part was, at the end, I thought he was giving too much.

00:27:30.000 And I know it was a three-minute date, but he doesn't need...

00:27:32.000 I would never express, and I know you may disagree with this, but I'm a dating coach.

00:27:37.000 The difference between being a matchmaker.

00:27:38.000 I would never express that I wanted to get married on the first date, ever.

00:27:42.000 Okay.

00:27:42.000 For any reason whatsoever.

00:27:44.000 The thing is, in most situations...

00:27:46.000 I agree.

00:27:46.000 In most situations, the way the date is going to be is he's going to be chasing her.

00:27:52.000 And so this way we do it the other way.

00:27:53.000 All right.

00:27:54.000 That's a good assessment.

00:27:55.000 Okay.

00:27:56.000 So we got Jihan and the lovely Katie.

00:28:03.000 Awesome.

00:28:03.000 So three minutes on the clock.

00:28:05.000 And at the end, she's going to choose if you have to stay or go, brother.

00:28:08.000 All right.

00:28:09.000 And by the way, you can ask questions from the top of your dome.

00:28:11.000 It doesn't have to be on the cards there.

00:28:13.000 But if you want to, you can.

00:28:14.000 Let's back up.

00:28:15.000 Let's run it.

00:28:18.000 Got it.

00:28:21.000 Want to start with Katie?

00:28:22.000 Yeah, Katie, if you want to open up a card, go for it.

00:28:24.000 Let's go!

00:28:24.000 Okay, I just picked one?

00:28:25.000 Yep.

00:28:26.000 By all means.

00:28:32.000 What is a hidden talent of yours?

00:28:34.000 Into the microphone.

00:28:35.000 What is a hidden talent of yours?

00:28:38.000 I can do the splits.

00:28:39.000 I'm pretty flexible.

00:28:41.000 Oh, cool.

00:28:42.000 That's like a strange hidden talent for a guy, but yeah.

00:28:46.000 I'm done.

00:28:46.000 I think you guys are perfect for each other.

00:28:48.000 I'm sorry.

00:28:49.000 I've seen enough.

00:28:51.000 I've seen enough. 0.98

00:28:53.000 What the heck?

00:28:57.000 What would be your dream job, Katie? 0.76

00:29:01.000 Okay, this is going to sound lame, but I would just want to be a school teacher.

00:29:06.000 That's what I'm working toward right now.

00:29:08.000 Wait, can we see the split, bro?

00:29:11.000 Oh, shoot.

00:29:13.000 That was a while ago.

00:29:15.000 Okay, I can put my leg over my head, but I can't do the splits anymore.

00:29:18.000 Let's see it, bro.

00:29:19.000 Let's see it.

00:29:19.000 Come on.

00:29:19.000 Like, actually.

00:29:20.000 Oh, my God.

00:29:21.000 I'm sure Kenny would be impressed.

00:29:22.000 I was in capital.

00:29:23.000 There goes your three minutes. 1.00

00:29:25.000 Damn, you can't. 1.00

00:29:27.000 That's incredible, man. 1.00

00:29:28.000 Oh, shit! 0.98

00:29:30.000 At first, I thought the question that I opened was supposed to be for me, and I was going to say jumping rope, so it's kind of similar. 0.99

00:29:37.000 Nice.

00:29:39.000 Well, what were you like as a kid?

00:29:41.000 Were you like a nerd, popular?

00:29:44.000 I was not popular.

00:29:45.000 I was all about tennis and family, and I was very innocent growing up, naive.

00:29:52.000 I'm a lot different now, but growing up was kind of awkward, shy.

00:29:56.000 What are you like now?

00:29:57.000 You're not as shy anymore?

00:29:58.000 No.

00:29:59.000 What made you, what made the difference?

00:30:02.000 Probably coming to Miami, honestly.

00:30:04.000 Like, I'm from a small town up in Michigan, and things were just more sheltered over there.

00:30:09.000 Yeah, I feel that.

00:30:10.000 Here I was able to come out of my shell a lot.

00:30:12.000 It didn't take long.

00:30:13.000 When did you move down here?

00:30:14.000 I was 19, and I'm 29, so 10 years ago.

00:30:18.000 What made you move?

00:30:20.000 There was just something in me that wanted to get out of the Midwest, and so I took the chance when I had it.

00:30:26.000 Something in you?

00:30:27.000 Yeah.

00:30:30.000 I mean, yeah, same pretty much.

00:30:37.000 I'm from Alabama, so it's a pretty small town I'm from, and I decided to move down here actually half a year ago.

00:30:44.000 Oh, okay.

00:30:46.000 I mean, so I'm pretty new here, but...

00:30:48.000 Yeah, well, I meet a lot of people that are new, and a lot of people assume I'm new, too, or that I'm a tourist, but I've been here for a while.

00:30:55.000 What's your favorite thing to do here?

00:30:57.000 I live on the beach, so I really just love whenever I have free time, going down to the beach with some friends, hitting a pool party, something like that.

00:31:04.000 You just got a place by yourself, or you live with family?

00:31:07.000 I have a different situation.

00:31:09.000 I have two kids, so they're with me most of the time.

00:31:12.000 But when they're not, then I have the place to myself.

00:31:14.000 Oh, nice, nice.

00:31:16.000 I see you.

00:31:17.000 What happened with the dad, like...

00:31:21.000 That's a good question.

00:31:22.000 We were just never really in love.

00:31:25.000 There's no hard feelings, and we're really good friends.

00:31:27.000 We were just really young when it all happened.

00:31:30.000 So, I don't know.

00:31:31.000 I just think there were too many bad things that happened, and we just kind of lost love after that, and we never really had it in the first place.

00:31:38.000 Did you guys like purposely have kids or just came back?

00:31:42.000 No.

00:31:43.000 So our first kid, we just were like hanging out and we had our first daughter.

00:31:50.000 Hanging out does it.

00:31:51.000 Hanging out will cause you to have a kid sometimes.

00:31:53.000 We tried to make it work after that.

00:31:56.000 We tried to make it work after that.

00:31:57.000 I think it was, you know what, it was just too forced.

00:32:00.000 It was too forced.

00:32:01.000 And there was too much pressure from the outside.

00:32:04.000 Speaking of pressure, time is up!

00:32:07.000 Incredible.

00:32:09.000 You have to, Katie, you both.

00:32:12.000 Right there, the thumbs up.

00:32:13.000 The thumbs up and the thumbs down if you'd like to continue.

00:32:17.000 Thank you very go Just for future episodes, I think it might be better if the dude leaves and then she does No, he's great.

00:32:29.000 I'm not saying this.

00:32:30.000 I'm just saying in general.

00:32:31.000 Hold on, Katie.

00:32:32.000 Why yes to him?

00:32:34.000 Why?

00:32:34.000 We had a good conversation.

00:32:36.000 Oh, we had a good conversation.

00:32:37.000 I agree.

00:32:38.000 I think you guys are perfect for each other.

00:32:39.000 You ever had a wonton soup?

00:32:43.000 Of course.

00:32:44.000 Okay, great.

00:32:45.000 You in there, buddy.

00:32:46.000 Alright, let's go, Jehan.

00:32:47.000 I cannot wait for the after hours.

00:32:49.000 Let's go.

00:32:49.000 Okay, my boy.

00:32:51.000 Oh, my God.

00:32:53.000 We're here making love happen, bro.

00:32:55.000 One couple at a time. 1.00

00:32:56.000 Let's fucking go, bro. 1.00

00:32:57.000 Let's go. 1.00

00:32:58.000 I love this shit, man. 1.00

00:32:59.000 Who's next? 1.00

00:33:00.000 Who's next?

00:33:02.000 Thank you, China, man.

00:33:06.000 One thing I want to say is, like, when you're on a date like this and a girl brings something up that's, like, chaotic, like the last two girls have, like, keep pushing that.

00:33:13.000 Go further.

00:33:13.000 Like, see how crazy you can get the stories to get.

00:33:16.000 That's always really good.

00:33:17.000 Keep digging.

00:33:18.000 I'm almost like, really?

00:33:19.000 No, tell me more.

00:33:20.000 Yeah, tell me more.

00:33:21.000 Exactly.

00:33:22.000 Your mic's off.

00:33:22.000 Exactly, yeah.

00:33:24.000 Your mic's off.

00:33:25.000 Because I'm mostly like, really?

00:33:27.000 Tell me more.

00:33:27.000 Tell me more?

00:33:27.000 Yeah, you know what I'm talking about.

00:33:29.000 Give them enough rope.

00:33:30.000 Just keep giving them rope.

00:33:31.000 That is the best.

00:33:32.000 Please tell me more.

00:33:33.000 Open-ended.

00:33:34.000 All right.

00:33:34.000 We have Ariana and we have Sean.

00:33:37.000 And guys, you can pick any number of questions you see to ask the other.

00:33:40.000 Ladies first.

00:33:41.000 Or just go off your head. 0.99

00:33:43.000 Exactly.

00:33:44.000 Or you don't have to ask questions.

00:33:47.000 Okay.

00:33:48.000 Where do you see yourself in five years?

00:33:51.000 To the moon.

00:33:52.000 To the moon.

00:33:54.000 No, honestly, probably a wife, kids, house, stuff like that, as far as I see myself.

00:34:01.000 Okay.

00:34:03.000 Do you have anything else you want to say about that?

00:34:05.000 No?

00:34:05.000 No, I mean, if you want to give me details.

00:34:08.000 How about you?

00:34:09.000 Same vibe, definitely committed.

00:34:12.000 How many kids?

00:34:13.000 Housewife, two. 0.90

00:34:15.000 Two?

00:34:16.000 Only two?

00:34:17.000 Not three, four, five, six?

00:34:18.000 That's a lot.

00:34:19.000 I'm just playing with you.

00:34:20.000 I'm trying to lighten the mood a little bit.

00:34:24.000 These questions are kind of...

00:34:26.000 So here's a question.

00:34:28.000 You told me earlier that you're a makeup artist, right?

00:34:31.000 And you own your own shop.

00:34:32.000 Is that correct?

00:34:33.000 Yeah.

00:34:34.000 Okay.

00:34:34.000 Who's the most interesting person that you've done makeup for?

00:34:40.000 So, I did makeup on a doctor.

00:34:43.000 She's a scientist.

00:34:45.000 Okay.

00:34:45.000 And she was about to give a speech.

00:34:48.000 She was about to give a talk on sleep patterns and how to manage your stress and how to make stress actually your ally and how to use it as a power.

00:34:59.000 That was super interesting.

00:35:00.000 I meet the coolest people all the time and we have the best conversations.

00:35:03.000 That's what I love about my job most.

00:35:05.000 Awesome.

00:35:06.000 Well, that's good that you like that.

00:35:08.000 You got any questions for me?

00:35:13.000 What are your hobbies?

00:35:15.000 Well, I got a lot of hobbies.

00:35:17.000 I like working out.

00:35:19.000 I like to run.

00:35:20.000 Running is like a big stress relief for me.

00:35:22.000 People see me around Brickle.

00:35:23.000 I run about 10 miles a day.

00:35:26.000 I actually teach firearms for a living on the side.

00:35:29.000 It's my side business.

00:35:30.000 Kaz underscore actual.

00:35:32.000 So folks on YouTube know who I am.

00:35:35.000 But I train military SWAT teams. 0.57

00:35:37.000 I just like shooting guns.

00:35:38.000 It's fun.

00:35:39.000 And we train actors.

00:35:40.000 So shout out to the actors at BMF for 50 Cent's production.

00:35:44.000 Okay, very cool.

00:35:46.000 Nice.

00:35:48.000 What's your favorite food?

00:35:51.000 Tacos.

00:35:52.000 Tacos, come on.

00:35:53.000 I mean, honestly, I love all food.

00:35:55.000 I'm a big foodie.

00:35:57.000 But that is like a top.

00:36:00.000 But what kind of tacos do you like?

00:36:01.000 I mean, there's so many different types of tacos.

00:36:03.000 Shrimp, fish.

00:36:05.000 Okay.

00:36:07.000 Carne asada.

00:36:07.000 She's Hispanic, you know.

00:36:08.000 Yeah.

00:36:12.000 Would you be able to give them a recommendation on the best place in Miami to eat tacos?

00:36:15.000 Yeah.

00:36:18.000 Tacos stand in Wynwood.

00:36:19.000 Okay.

00:36:19.000 I like Wynwood.

00:36:20.000 I like Wynwood.

00:36:21.000 Yeah, I mean, I like tacos that are well made and they're tasty, so I recommend those.

00:36:26.000 Okay.

00:36:27.000 So like 4 a.m.

00:36:28.000 after you go to 11, you would go to this place?

00:36:30.000 I wouldn't know I don't do that, but...

00:36:32.000 I like that.

00:36:33.000 See?

00:36:34.000 It was a trick.

00:36:35.000 I know, I know.

00:36:36.000 I like that.

00:36:36.000 Where are your body used?

00:36:43.000 Like, what do you look for in a woman? 1.00

00:36:45.000 Oh, man.

00:36:48.000 You know what?

00:36:52.000 Loyalty.

00:36:52.000 That's my number one thing is loyalty.

00:36:55.000 I'm trying to keep you PG here, but loyalty is my number one thing.

00:36:59.000 Without that, you don't have anything.

00:37:01.000 Loyalty and respect, the top two.

00:37:04.000 Everything else, you know, if you have loyalty and you have respect, everything follows suit.

00:37:09.000 Sometimes you will lose the attraction.

00:37:13.000 Obviously everyone ages, right?

00:37:14.000 We're not going to stay the way we look right now.

00:37:16.000 We will get older.

00:37:17.000 We will age a little bit.

00:37:18.000 But at the end of the day, as long as you have those core values of loyalty and respect, your relationship will be there forever.

00:37:24.000 My parents were married 30-something years.

00:37:27.000 Okay, time is up!

00:37:29.000 All right.

00:37:30.000 So the lovely taco eater.

00:37:32.000 Thank you.

00:37:35.000 You can choose.

00:37:36.000 I knew you were going there.

00:37:37.000 It's all in the chat.

00:37:39.000 I'm watching the chat.

00:37:40.000 You can choose from the sign right there.

00:37:43.000 I'm just kidding, by the way.

00:37:45.000 Yes or no.

00:37:46.000 Green is yes.

00:37:47.000 Red is no.

00:37:47.000 Just there or go.

00:37:51.000 Okay!

00:37:52.000 Please tell us, why in the world are you choosing this guy?

00:37:57.000 He's awesome, by the way.

00:37:58.000 Why him?

00:38:00.000 I'm interested in getting to know him better.

00:38:03.000 Okay.

00:38:05.000 I like that.

00:38:06.000 Good job, guys.

00:38:08.000 That was a good exchange.

00:38:10.000 The last...

00:38:12.000 People here.

00:38:14.000 And we have an Easter egg coming up.

00:38:16.000 An Easter egg of a lot of proportions.

00:38:18.000 Yeah, go ahead, guys.

00:38:19.000 Actually, not fertilized eggs, by the way.

00:38:21.000 Not fertilized.

00:38:22.000 They're unfertilized.

00:38:23.000 Unfertilized eggs.

00:38:24.000 We have one of our own in studio.

00:38:28.000 Oh no.

00:38:30.000 We have, without further ado, welcome Abby Daniel!

00:38:38.000 Hello!

00:38:39.000 Hello, how are you?

00:38:49.000 Good, good.

00:38:49.000 I'm getting the special treatment today, getting the insight.

00:38:53.000 I'm lucky you get to go at the end and get to see how everybody do their interactions.

00:38:57.000 We are on the clock.

00:38:58.000 Get ready.

00:38:59.000 Let's go.

00:39:00.000 If you guys want icebreakers, choose from any of these questions.

00:39:02.000 I don't think this one has been asked to you.

00:39:04.000 Or ask for yourself.

00:39:05.000 If you have something you want.

00:39:06.000 If you don't need it, you don't need it.

00:39:08.000 I could choose this one.

00:39:09.000 Whatever you want.

00:39:10.000 Speak from the heart.

00:39:11.000 Do you like overdressed sweaty guys?

00:39:14.000 No, I'm kidding.

00:39:16.000 I do.

00:39:17.000 I like it.

00:39:19.000 I like it.

00:39:20.000 I got one on my side already.

00:39:22.000 What would be your dream job?

00:39:24.000 Look at that.

00:39:25.000 I don't want a job.

00:39:30.000 The chat likes that.

00:39:33.000 I'm doing it now.

00:39:38.000 So what would be your dream job if you could do anything tomorrow?

00:39:42.000 I think she's serious.

00:39:43.000 She is serious.

00:39:43.000 For the rest of your life.

00:39:44.000 There's a gun to her head since she's at work. 1.00

00:39:47.000 Fly a plane. 0.96

00:39:48.000 I'll be a pilot. 0.99

00:39:50.000 Goddamn it. 1.00

00:39:50.000 A pilot? 1.00

00:39:51.000 I would never get on a plane.

00:39:52.000 I would never get on that plane, bro.

00:39:54.000 Nope.

00:39:54.000 Be like MH370 all over again.

00:39:56.000 Yeah.

00:39:57.000 Oh my god.

00:39:58.000 Too soon.

00:39:59.000 Too soon. 0.98

00:40:02.000 This nigga, bro. 1.00

00:40:04.000 Is it my turn to ask a question? 0.98

00:40:06.000 Yes.

00:40:06.000 Abby, I would totally get on your plane just to let you know.

00:40:08.000 That's a bad idea.

00:40:11.000 What is something that is true about you that most people wouldn't believe?

00:40:15.000 Oh, that wouldn't believe.

00:40:21.000 That wouldn't believe.

00:40:25.000 Hard to think of one.

00:40:26.000 He's white.

00:40:27.000 Yeah, I think most people...

00:40:28.000 Unbelievable!

00:40:30.000 Most people actually tell me I look like Denzel Washington.

00:40:32.000 That's usually the first thing that...

00:40:34.000 Yo! 1.00

00:40:35.000 That's usually the first thing I hear about it.

00:40:37.000 You what?!

00:40:38.000 People tell me I look like Fresh, so...

00:40:44.000 No, usually when I run into people, they don't think, especially when I'm traveling outside of Miami, that I actually live in downtown Miami because I'm your average looking white dude who speaks zero Espanol.

00:41:00.000 So they're like...

00:41:01.000 It kind of takes them a second to say, I'm not kidding, I'm not kidding.

00:41:04.000 Because I also think they know I'm from Jersey, New York, because chocolate, coffee, those accents hit quick.

00:41:13.000 So people don't really believe that I live in Miami for the last three, four years.

00:41:18.000 Or actually, better yet, that I'm a six-foot white dude that I didn't play college basketball.

00:41:23.000 I would say that's the number one thing that I would probably say.

00:41:28.000 Okay.

00:41:30.000 Well...

00:41:31.000 No, it's up to you guys. 1.00

00:41:33.000 You motherfuckers have to be grown-ups now. 1.00

00:41:35.000 It's your turn for a question. 1.00

00:41:36.000 Okay, Abby, tell me about your last relationship and why it ended up.

00:41:41.000 Ooh! 0.96

00:41:43.000 So my favorite.

00:41:45.000 So my favorite.

00:41:46.000 I haven't been in a relationship.

00:41:47.000 Ever?

00:41:48.000 Ever.

00:41:50.000 So just single?

00:41:52.000 You're so single, you're on the clearance rack at this point?

00:41:54.000 So then what would you want in a relationship, Abby?

00:42:04.000 What would I want in a relationship?

00:42:05.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:42:06.000 Listen, time is over, but listen, keep going, keep going.

00:42:08.000 Finish that last question.

00:42:10.000 Finish the last question.

00:42:12.000 What would I want in a relationship?

00:42:13.000 Yes.

00:42:14.000 I'm sorry.

00:42:21.000 More respect than you're getting in this room right now.

00:42:23.000 So I just turned into a roast of Abby.

00:42:25.000 All right, let her speak. 0.64

00:42:28.000 Let her speak. 0.94

00:42:30.000 Guys, real quick.

00:42:31.000 By the way, if you're in the chat watching right now, Super Chat in your comments live or post it during the actual interaction so it'll be funny as hell.

00:42:39.000 But let's continue.

00:42:40.000 Go ahead.

00:42:40.000 Go ahead, Abby.

00:42:41.000 I would just say loyalty.

00:42:43.000 That's the first thing I can think of.

00:42:46.000 Okay.

00:42:46.000 Same quality here.

00:42:50.000 Now, you asked me a question.

00:42:52.000 I said, what's your last relationship like?

00:42:54.000 You said zero, which is hard to believe.

00:42:56.000 Now, are there other people on Earth that thought you were in a relationship with them when you actually weren't?

00:43:01.000 That's a great question.

00:43:02.000 That is a great question.

00:43:04.000 Daniel, spin!

00:43:07.000 No.

00:43:08.000 So if we asked them, they wouldn't say they were in a relationship with you?

00:43:11.000 No.

00:43:11.000 Okay, got it.

00:43:13.000 Okay.

00:43:13.000 Okay, we can stop it there.

00:43:15.000 Okay, so Abby.

00:43:16.000 Bravo.

00:43:17.000 This is in your, the ball's in your court.

00:43:19.000 No pun intended here.

00:43:20.000 Uh, raise your, raise your flag.

00:43:23.000 Green for yes, red for no.

00:43:26.000 Okay!

00:43:27.000 Okay, all right!

00:43:28.000 Okay!

00:43:29.000 I'm always gonna, I'm always gonna say yes.

00:43:34.000 It doesn't make any difference.

00:43:35.000 Dana, it's not, they're not getting married.

00:43:36.000 I guess you're hopping onto her plane then.

00:43:38.000 I'm kidding.

00:43:43.000 Go back there and check it out.

00:43:45.000 You love birds?

00:43:46.000 Get out of here! 1.00

00:43:48.000 You crazy kids. 0.99

00:43:50.000 Okay, so, guys in the chat. 0.98

00:43:53.000 You can see clearly here, right?

00:43:55.000 Dating is not as simple as it seems.

00:43:59.000 Is that what we're seeing?

00:44:00.000 The interactions between man and woman are not always smooth.

00:44:04.000 It can be a little bit weird, a little bit dry, and usually, no offense to girls here, but they'd be lacking in conversation. 1.00

00:44:10.000 So you need to mind up with the man.

00:44:11.000 How dare you?

00:44:13.000 But guys, real quick.

00:44:14.000 Interactions here, conclusions.

00:44:17.000 Let's go.

00:44:17.000 You want to go first?

00:44:18.000 No, you go.

00:44:20.000 Overall...

00:44:20.000 I said yours first.

00:44:22.000 Overall, I absolutely could have used more interaction from the women. 1.00

00:44:25.000 I'm not going to lie.

00:44:26.000 I wish they were pricking up a little bit more with the men we're putting down, you know?

00:44:29.000 And there were, I'd say, at least three of the guys who were continuously asking questions, which I think was good.

00:44:35.000 But then there was one point, I'm not going to name any names, but it was almost like he was scrounging for questions.

00:44:40.000 And it's like, at the end of the day, guys, if you're on a date and the energy's not being matched for energy, just say, hey...

00:44:45.000 Best of luck to you.

00:44:46.000 You know, like, hey, let's split ways.

00:44:47.000 Like, don't waste any more of your time.

00:44:48.000 Because at the end of the day, a lot of people are like, I'm wasting so much time.

00:44:50.000 Don't waste the time.

00:44:51.000 You need to match energy for energy.

00:44:53.000 And it was not equal in the four that I was seeing.

00:44:57.000 Okay.

00:44:58.000 Rollo, what do you think?

00:44:59.000 I will...

00:45:00.000 The one thing I'm going to comment about with the guys that actually surprised the hell out of me is that these guys actually had some conversational skills.

00:45:06.000 I know you've got the questions here, but the fact that they could ask stuff and sort of improvise on the fly like that, that's a skill right there.

00:45:15.000 Those are social skills.

00:45:16.000 So being able to carry on a conversation.

00:45:18.000 One of the things I tell guys when we're on Access Vegas or when people call in for some sort of advice or whatever, one of the things I talk about is if you haven't taken a class in improvisational theater or something like that, you probably should, especially for guys who tend to be more introverts.

00:45:35.000 I don't think we have one introvert here.

00:45:36.000 And even the guy that can put his foot over his head, it takes a certain amount of extroversion to do that.

00:45:45.000 If you tend to be more of an introverted guy or you fumble for conversation, this is probably one of the most common things.

00:45:55.000 Asks for advice that we get is like, I can't carry on a conversation.

00:45:59.000 I know what to say.

00:45:59.000 I don't know how to keep things floating.

00:46:03.000 I think if you had some sort of ability or some practice ability to do improvisational theater, one of the first things they teach you in improv is never say no.

00:46:13.000 Always say yes.

00:46:14.000 Because a no kills a conversation.

00:46:18.000 Yes always keeps going.

00:46:19.000 So if you ask open-ended questions and you can lead to a yes to a yes to a yes, even if you're just goofing, right?

00:46:24.000 Even if you're just doing a green amplify, it's still a yes and it still keeps the conversation going.

00:46:28.000 And also, the guys were very animated too.

00:46:31.000 I was actually pleasantly surprised.

00:46:32.000 I expected these guys to come in here and just sort of like, you know, clam up.

00:46:36.000 If you need an improv coach, by the way, in Miami, I know the best one.

00:46:39.000 Good advice.

00:46:40.000 So a couple things. 0.93

00:46:40.000 Women are the gatekeepers to when you guys are going to have sex. 0.93

00:46:44.000 Men are the gatekeepers to when you're going to be in a relationship. 1.00

00:46:47.000 And two of the guys started talking about being in a fucking marriage in the first couple minutes. 0.99

00:46:52.000 No. 0.99

00:46:53.000 Even if you want to get married, that is something that she has to earn throughout the interaction. 1.00

00:46:58.000 I really don't like the idea of giving up that much that soon.

00:47:02.000 Because one of the things that happens is some women may actually see you as just, hey, this is a hot guy I want to hook up with.

00:47:07.000 And some women may see you as relationship material. 1.00

00:47:09.000 As soon as you say, I'm here to get married, that hot guy they wanted to hook up with, that relationship or that reality is fucking gone now. 0.96

00:47:15.000 That's why you don't do that. 0.97

00:47:17.000 That's one of these things where...

00:47:18.000 Guys, just consider her figuring out that you're a doctor or you bragging to her that you're a doctor.

00:47:25.000 Let her discover these incredible things about you. 0.91

00:47:27.000 And the fact that you have a nice house and kids, or you want kids and all this other shit, she needs to discover that. 0.95

00:47:33.000 She needs to work for it. 0.99

00:47:35.000 And so one of the things I always say is like, and one thing that I will say I really appreciate, because I've seen other shows like this, the guys start complimenting the girls on their physical appearance.

00:47:42.000 It's okay to compliment them on other things, but physical appearance right off the bat, in dating today, is just such a terrible idea.

00:47:50.000 I'm glad none of the guys did that here today.

00:47:52.000 Again, if you're a matchmaker, I think it's different, but as a dating coach, For men today, most women are not interested in most men.

00:47:58.000 Women swipe right 5% on dating apps. 1.00

00:48:01.000 Men swipe right 55% on dating apps.

00:48:04.000 And so in order to do that, you have to build your value.

00:48:07.000 You have to build your value by getting her to invest.

00:48:09.000 And when you start off the conversation with a bunch of compliments, or you start starting off by basically just giving up the farm and saying, I'm a Ready to get married off the gate, you are not only less attractive, you're less mysterious.

00:48:24.000 And so that's why I tell guys, never do that.

00:48:26.000 You can do it, but she needs to earn it. 1.00

00:48:27.000 I want you to consider the situation.

00:48:29.000 Most dating now, this is the way it's set up, a man is trying everything he can to keep a woman's attention so that maybe he has a chance of having sex with her and going on another date.

00:48:40.000 He's a pitch man. 0.99

00:48:40.000 You need to fucking break that paradigm. 0.99

00:48:42.000 As a man, you have got to destroy that paradigm. 1.00

00:48:46.000 You need to look at her like she has chlamydia. 1.00

00:48:48.000 If that's what you've got to do, so you stop sitting there.

00:48:50.000 You cannot be in a situation where it's like, I'm putting her under a pedestal. 0.72

00:48:55.000 And women will appreciate it more because you get to be more of your authentic self when you behave like that instead of staring at her big boobies. 0.99

00:49:03.000 Got it?

00:49:03.000 Beautiful.

00:49:04.000 I have a quick question about that real quick because I always preach like date intentionally, you know, date with a plan.

00:49:09.000 But I so agree with you.

00:49:10.000 First date, not the time and the place to be talking about marriage.

00:49:12.000 It's just not, even though that's what you want.

00:49:14.000 But how do you still show or deliver that you are serious?

00:49:19.000 What's one way to do that?

00:49:20.000 You can deliver that you're serious, but again, this is where the difference is.

00:49:23.000 In your situation, because you're talking about being a...

00:49:26.000 A lot of times the guys who are watching the show are just having trouble getting women to go on dates with them, period.

00:49:32.000 My advice is for them.

00:49:35.000 What you're talking about, you're a matchmaker.

00:49:36.000 So in your situation, you have two people who have come to the realization, I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to be matched.

00:49:42.000 In that case, you can have the conversation.

00:49:44.000 And by the way, I didn't say women can't talk about marriage.

00:49:46.000 Women can talk about marriage. 1.00

00:49:47.000 If I was talking to a woman and she's like, I want to be faithful to my husband and I want to have kids, that's two thumbs up for that. 1.00

00:49:52.000 That's totally fine.

00:49:53.000 Because we kind of assume women want monogamy. 1.00

00:49:56.000 That's not a secret for us, and that doesn't make women less attractive to us.

00:49:59.000 This format already removes one step, which is the approach, which is, is this guy hot enough?

00:50:05.000 Is this girl hot enough? 0.98

00:50:06.000 They're already here.

00:50:07.000 They know they're going to have the conversation, so it removes one step in the flow.

00:50:11.000 We're supplying the environment for them to thrive.

00:50:14.000 Right, so that the conversation can take place.

00:50:15.000 Okay, so guys, we're going to actually have a segment here because before we give the girls the power, they got to choose who went and who came. 1.00

00:50:25.000 But now the guys have the power to choose who they're going to date with.

00:50:28.000 So guys and girls come in.

00:50:30.000 We're going to do guys on one side, girls on one side. 0.56

00:50:32.000 And the guys can actually choose...

00:50:34.000 Who they want to take on a date.

00:50:36.000 So guys, think about a date you want to go on.

00:50:38.000 For example, maybe Olive Garden, walk in the park, maybe some tacos, maybe even the movies if you want to.

00:50:47.000 And then we'll have the guys pick one girl per guy. 1.00

00:50:52.000 Okay, so who wants to go first?

00:50:53.000 Daniel.

00:50:54.000 Yes, sir.

00:50:55.000 Pick who you want and they'll come next to you. 0.77

00:50:57.000 Olivia.

00:50:58.000 Alright, Olivia.

00:50:59.000 Head over there.

00:51:03.000 Okay.

00:51:04.000 Four and four basketball?

00:51:05.000 What are we doing?

00:51:07.000 I'm gonna say tacos.

00:51:11.000 You can't do that!

00:51:15.000 I gotta do that!

00:51:16.000 Not you!

00:51:19.000 Wait, hold on, hold on.

00:51:21.000 That's originally inappropriate.

00:51:22.000 Unless you're fresh.

00:51:23.000 Then it's totally fine.

00:51:25.000 Say whatever you want.

00:51:26.000 Trust me, bro, I'm black.

00:51:27.000 I can do this. 0.91

00:51:27.000 You can't do this. 0.91

00:51:31.000 Uh, Chinaman! 1.00

00:51:32.000 Chinaman! 0.61

00:51:32.000 You're next! 0.61

00:51:33.000 Who do you pick?

00:51:34.000 Chinaman! 0.61

00:51:36.000 Chihuan! 0.98

00:51:37.000 Oh! 0.60

00:51:37.000 You can pick nobody! 0.60

00:51:38.000 Oh, you pick Abby! 1.00

00:51:39.000 Okay, cool, Abby!

00:51:39.000 Alright!

00:51:41.000 Young thing.

00:51:41.000 And then last but not least...

00:51:43.000 Yeah, it's all good.

00:51:44.000 Okay, Tan.

00:51:45.000 Okay, so guys, here's the scenario.

00:51:47.000 You guys can tell them real quick what's the scenario for the date.

00:51:50.000 Okay, guys.

00:51:51.000 So, yes, the gentlemen have the honor of creating your ideal date with this woman.

00:51:57.000 So, you have like five, ten seconds.

00:52:00.000 No, we're going to do one by one.

00:52:01.000 But, yeah, you guys are going to create the date scenario and you're going to act as if you're on the date.

00:52:06.000 So, time, place...

00:52:09.000 Sit right there.

00:52:10.000 Three minutes on the clock.

00:52:11.000 Let's do it.

00:52:12.000 We'll do an order, so we'll do Danielle and Olivia first. 1.00

00:52:14.000 Let's do it.

00:52:15.000 Come on down, guys.

00:52:16.000 The press is right.

00:52:19.000 And the rest can...

00:52:20.000 Oh, go to the back. 0.84

00:52:21.000 File out.

00:52:23.000 Yeah.

00:52:26.000 You can head to the back, guys.

00:52:28.000 Yeah.

00:52:29.000 Thank you.

00:52:30.000 All right.

00:52:31.000 So first couple here...

00:52:33.000 Olivia and Dan, well, hopefully we can see some action here.

00:52:38.000 Some good action.

00:52:39.000 Can't wait to see it.

00:52:40.000 Some arms distance action or is that?

00:52:43.000 Whatever works, bro.

00:52:45.000 Alright.

00:52:46.000 You guys ready?

00:52:47.000 Yes, sir.

00:52:48.000 Three, two...

00:52:50.000 Oh, by the way, before you begin, Daniel, tell us the location, the place, tell us the time of day it is.

00:52:55.000 Already got it.

00:52:55.000 Perfect.

00:52:56.000 Alright.

00:52:57.000 One, two...

00:52:58.000 Three! 1.00

00:52:59.000 Let's go!

00:53:00.000 All right, Olivia, we are at North Italia.

00:53:03.000 It is 4 p.m.

00:53:04.000 in the afternoon.

00:53:04.000 We both just got off of work.

00:53:06.000 We're hitting happy hour, casual drinks, outside bar, right in Mary Brickle Village.

00:53:11.000 Getting some appetizers, getting some cocktails, a kind of wine, get a little comfortable with each other.

00:53:17.000 We did meet off of Bumble, though, just to kind of set the stage there.

00:53:21.000 Okay, because you swiped on me, we swiped, we connected, then you messaged me first because we're on Bumble.

00:53:27.000 So you start off, you dig me.

00:53:30.000 We match.

00:53:30.000 Now we're at Mary Brickle Village.

00:53:32.000 And just ordered us a couple of Caesar salads.

00:53:37.000 I love the energy.

00:53:39.000 This guy is dangerous.

00:53:40.000 Caesar salads. 1.00

00:53:42.000 He's trying to fuck tonight. 1.00

00:53:45.000 The deal is I pick... 1.00

00:53:47.000 I'm like going to go with the nachos or something.

00:53:50.000 Not that they have it there.

00:53:51.000 But the deal was I pick the appetizers, you pick the drinks.

00:53:54.000 So you're up.

00:53:55.000 All right.

00:53:56.000 So I continue telling this story.

00:53:59.000 Okay.

00:54:00.000 So I picked the drinks and I hope North Italia has a spicy fruity mezcal margarita.

00:54:08.000 Okay.

00:54:09.000 A little tajina on the rim we're doing?

00:54:10.000 Yes.

00:54:11.000 Yes.

00:54:11.000 Exactly.

00:54:12.000 A little spicy girl.

00:54:12.000 I like it.

00:54:13.000 I like it.

00:54:14.000 Okay.

00:54:14.000 So the intro is done.

00:54:15.000 Imagine you're at a table sitting across from each other.

00:54:18.000 Let's go.

00:54:19.000 Okay.

00:54:19.000 So Olivia, what's your favorite color?

00:54:24.000 The worst thing to ask ever.

00:54:26.000 So why'd you match with me on Bumble?

00:54:31.000 Yeah, I was curious of meeting someone new and learning about what they're into.

00:54:39.000 Okay, but what was it about my profile?

00:54:41.000 What made you want to swipe right on it though?

00:54:43.000 Was it my selfies or my bio?

00:54:48.000 It was a bio that had a description of, yeah, some of the things that you're into and perhaps also it was some of the work that you're doing.

00:54:58.000 I noticed that you were either on, you know, social or on stages and really passionate about what you're doing work-wise.

00:55:06.000 Well, I'm from Jersey and I work with some non-profits.

00:55:09.000 I also do podcasting on the side as well.

00:55:11.000 So that's what grabbed?

00:55:13.000 That was the grab or that was the hook?

00:55:14.000 Yes, that was the grab.

00:55:15.000 Okay.

00:55:15.000 Did you think I was attractive?

00:55:19.000 Oh, the start of the hesitation!

00:55:23.000 No, I felt like, okay, if you're in your power and you're really stepping up, yeah.

00:55:27.000 Okay, okay.

00:55:28.000 Well, I just finished that first mezcal.

00:55:29.000 We're going to do a second round.

00:55:30.000 That's okay?

00:55:32.000 Sure, we're going to do a second round.

00:55:33.000 Okay, even though you're not even halfway through, that's all right.

00:55:36.000 How's the Caesar salad?

00:55:38.000 Not really my choice, but yeah, it's kind of to the side at this point.

00:55:43.000 We'll flip it then.

00:55:43.000 You pick the entrees and I'll pick the drinks, alright?

00:55:47.000 So we're going to do two double McAllens neat.

00:55:51.000 They can come over now.

00:55:53.000 McAllen's definitely not drinking that.

00:55:57.000 You just switched from tequila to whiskey.

00:56:01.000 Mezcal, mezcal.

00:56:02.000 No, tequila.

00:56:03.000 Mezcal's tequila.

00:56:04.000 I know, I know.

00:56:06.000 That was a McAllen.

00:56:08.000 Hey, we got a donation from Dr.

00:56:10.000 B84. What'd he say?

00:56:11.000 He said, forget about it.

00:56:13.000 He said forget about it.

00:56:14.000 Okay.

00:56:16.000 Dr.

00:56:16.000 B84 in the building.

00:56:17.000 Okay, continue.

00:56:18.000 I'll pull up to Joey Cerviani.

00:56:19.000 How you doing?

00:56:20.000 Type of language.

00:56:21.000 But, um...

00:56:23.000 Well, where are you from, Olivia, by the way?

00:56:24.000 Michigan?

00:56:25.000 No, I'm originally from Chicago.

00:56:26.000 Oh, Chicago.

00:56:27.000 Okay, okay.

00:56:27.000 What brought you down to Miami, then?

00:56:29.000 So, yeah, seven years ago.

00:56:31.000 No, I was working for an SMS marketing company, and they acquired an office here.

00:56:36.000 Okay, and it was your choice, or did you move on with the company?

00:56:40.000 I moved out.

00:56:41.000 It was my choice, ultimately.

00:56:42.000 How do you like it so far?

00:56:43.000 No, I've been loving it.

00:56:44.000 I mean, the reason I came to Miami is because it was such an international city.

00:56:48.000 I had my heart set on Europe, but Miami happened, and for now it's been where it's at.

00:56:53.000 Have you met a cute boy yet?

00:56:56.000 Yes, I feel like there's really attractive, a lot of attractive people in Miami.

00:57:00.000 Do you have boys?

00:57:02.000 I do.

00:57:02.000 Same.

00:57:06.000 Love that, love that.

00:57:08.000 Here come the rumble jokes.

00:57:11.000 Why are these jokes about 1939 going on here?

00:57:16.000 What's going on here?

00:57:18.000 That McAllen's starting to settle in now.

00:57:20.000 There we go.

00:57:22.000 Why are they telling you to invade Poland? 0.99

00:57:24.000 What the fuck is that? 0.99

00:57:25.000 I mean, I shouldn't see the mustache. 1.00

00:57:42.000 Yo, nigga, you are funny, bro.

00:57:46.000 Okay, so we have the actual date here.

00:57:52.000 I don't know what you want to say to this, but how's the date?

00:57:55.000 And we're talking about the young lady here.

00:57:58.000 How's the date?

00:57:59.000 Yeah, I'm not really into it, so it's just nothing.

00:58:03.000 I'm just curious.

00:58:05.000 Why?

00:58:05.000 Please tell us why.

00:58:07.000 I mean, even personally, like, from where it was set, like, the stage, like, it's not really my type of thing.

00:58:13.000 Was he too pushy and, like, was he taking control too much?

00:58:17.000 Did you feel like that?

00:58:18.000 Yeah.

00:58:19.000 You could say, yeah, it was intense.

00:58:20.000 It was a little too intense.

00:58:21.000 When he was saying, why did you like my...

00:58:23.000 Yeah, I was like, oh, you're really assuming a lot of things here.

00:58:28.000 Wait, so question.

00:58:29.000 If he didn't assume or had that set up from the very beginning, would it have been more, like, I guess, relaxing to talk to him?

00:58:35.000 I guess if it was the question, like, oh, like, what made you really curious about, you know, getting to know me?

00:58:40.000 I feel like that's a different type of energy than assuming already, like, I don't know, it was just, yeah, it was, yeah, maybe the intensity.

00:58:47.000 So I'm guessing he can't get on your plane?

00:58:54.000 And that's okay, because not everyone's for everyone.

00:58:56.000 Daniel, sir, you did the best you could.

00:59:00.000 But don't worry, you're not out yet.

00:59:01.000 We've got some other people here.

00:59:02.000 So let's bring the other people in.

00:59:04.000 Good job, guys.

00:59:06.000 I think what Daniel did would have worked with a lot of women. 0.99

00:59:09.000 Sometimes you're just not, like she said, don't match energy.

00:59:12.000 I just don't think it was a match, yeah.

00:59:13.000 And there's nothing wrong or right about it.

00:59:15.000 Alright.

00:59:17.000 Okay, number two coming in hot and heavy.

00:59:19.000 Thanks, guys.

00:59:21.000 Yo, Daniel's funny, man.

00:59:22.000 I like this guy.

00:59:24.000 Bringing up history along the way.

00:59:27.000 Setting the stage.

00:59:28.000 Dude, that's Harvey Specter right there.

00:59:30.000 That's Harvey Specter.

00:59:31.000 Yo! 1.00

00:59:32.000 Whoa! 0.71

00:59:33.000 He got the chair for her?

00:59:36.000 He came with the chair.

00:59:40.000 He got the chair tacos tonight.

00:59:42.000 She's not eating tacos tonight.

00:59:46.000 She's not eating tacos.

00:59:48.000 Okay.

00:59:52.000 Okay, so set the stage, brother.

00:59:53.000 Time, place, where you guys are at?

00:59:55.000 So, we're going to go to a paint sip starting out because she did tell me that she's a makeup artist, so she likes to do stuff with her hands.

01:00:02.000 I know she likes to paint, so I want to find something that she likes to do because it's going to bring her into the fold, right?

01:00:10.000 And then after that, I would take her to Gecko's.

01:00:13.000 They have like sushi.

01:00:14.000 It's like a place here in Brickle.

01:00:16.000 It's a nice little spot.

01:00:18.000 I cook my own food, and I also bake my own food, so I don't actually eat out a lot.

01:00:24.000 So sushi is where I have like the ground of where I can meet you at.

01:00:29.000 Perfect.

01:00:29.000 So let's start at the first location and then move to the second location.

01:00:32.000 Let's go.

01:00:33.000 Alright, so I guess, hey, they picked you up or your Uber or something like that.

01:00:38.000 We got to the restaurant or we got to the pain and sip.

01:00:41.000 I guess I can draw with my little...

01:00:43.000 You got your little thing there, too.

01:00:45.000 Yeah.

01:00:45.000 Here, you can have mine.

01:00:47.000 So let's have the conversation.

01:00:48.000 We guys are there right now.

01:00:49.000 What's going on?

01:00:52.000 How about one of you guys tell us something to draw or something?

01:00:55.000 Hmm.

01:00:56.000 Okay, you know what?

01:00:57.000 I got something a little easier.

01:00:58.000 How about two lies or two truths and a lie?

01:01:00.000 So Mike could be the actual conductor there and then you tell him what to do.

01:01:03.000 Yeah, let's do this.

01:01:04.000 I want you guys to tell two things that are true and one thing that's a lie to each other.

01:01:08.000 Can you guys do that?

01:01:09.000 Alright.

01:01:09.000 So you're going to say three things.

01:01:10.000 Go ahead and tell him three things and two of them are true and one of them is a lie.

01:01:14.000 And you have to draw an eagle on your paper at the same time.

01:01:20.000 Okay.

01:01:21.000 I was married once before.

01:01:25.000 I used to dance professionally.

01:01:30.000 I have three dogs.

01:01:45.000 Okay!

01:01:46.000 Which one do you think is a lie?

01:01:48.000 So, in my prior career, I was an interrogator for the U.S. Army.

01:01:52.000 But I'll say this, because interrogations are actually control and repeat questions, and so I have not had enough time to actually sit here and talk to you and be able to figure out what is true and what's not true.

01:02:05.000 So, there's some pseudoscience there for you guys.

01:02:07.000 But out of those three, I would say maybe the dancer?

01:02:14.000 The dancer's what? 0.72

01:02:16.000 Fake.

01:02:16.000 False.

01:02:17.000 No.

01:02:18.000 Oh.

01:02:18.000 I know which one it is.

01:02:20.000 The dogs.

01:02:21.000 The one that took us on the first one.

01:02:23.000 Oh, you're never married.

01:02:24.000 Oh, you're never married.

01:02:25.000 Oh, wow.

01:02:25.000 Actually, I said two lies on one truth.

01:02:30.000 Oh, she said, okay, so...

01:02:33.000 So which one is the truth?

01:02:38.000 Oh, it's a professional dancer.

01:02:40.000 Okay, where at?

01:02:41.000 Here.

01:02:42.000 I mean, I'm talking which club.

01:02:44.000 No.

01:02:48.000 Oh, so you're that type of dancer.

01:02:58.000 Okay, all right. 1.00

01:02:59.000 I mean, I'm stupid. 0.99

01:03:02.000 I did date a dancer back in Atlanta for a couple of years. 0.99

01:03:06.000 In Atlanta, they're wholesome men.

01:03:08.000 I have a question.

01:03:11.000 First date, if I was you, it would be a course of AR-15 followed by MP5 and then maybe a Barrett and then we're going to do a Six Sour and a Gold Desert Eagle.

01:03:21.000 That's what I would take a girl on my first date if I was you. 0.82

01:03:23.000 I don't do that.

01:03:24.000 And the reason why I don't do that is because I'm a professional and I charge for that.

01:03:28.000 And so it is work for me.

01:03:30.000 So I don't actually get enjoyment going shooting guns as much as I used to.

01:03:35.000 Because I've trained thousands of people all across the United States.

01:03:38.000 So for me, it's like work.

01:03:39.000 And I want to get away from work as much as I can.

01:03:42.000 Got it.

01:03:42.000 Okay.

01:03:43.000 Beautiful.

01:03:44.000 But I get what Mike is saying.

01:03:46.000 Taking her into your frame of what you do normally.

01:03:49.000 Okay.

01:03:50.000 You got like what?

01:03:52.000 20 seconds left?

01:03:54.000 You gotta ask me something.

01:03:56.000 Oh! 0.60

01:03:56.000 Or actually, the two truths. 0.60

01:03:58.000 Yeah, your turn. 0.98

01:04:00.000 I've been married, I have a bastard son out there, and I have a cat. 0.99

01:04:07.000 What?! 0.99

01:04:08.000 Which one's a lie?

01:04:10.000 The cat.

01:04:11.000 No. 1.00

01:04:11.000 The bastard son is a lie. 1.00

01:04:14.000 That'd be a cat. 1.00

01:04:17.000 When he said he's a dog person. 1.00

01:04:19.000 If he had a bastard study, he wouldn't even know. 1.00

01:04:23.000 Question, question. 1.00

01:04:24.000 Would you date a guy with kids?

01:04:27.000 No.

01:04:28.000 He would not date a guy with kids?

01:04:29.000 No, because I did that before and I didn't like it.

01:04:33.000 It was a baby's mama kept coming back in. 1.00

01:04:34.000 Yeah, it was very dramatic.

01:04:36.000 There was a lot going on all the time.

01:04:37.000 It felt very draining.

01:04:39.000 No.

01:04:40.000 Okay.

01:04:42.000 Alright, so time is up.

01:04:45.000 Now, question for you.

01:04:47.000 How's the date?

01:04:48.000 And would you go on a third date or second date with him?

01:04:53.000 Well, I don't like that you pick two things to begin with.

01:04:57.000 Okay.

01:04:58.000 So I felt like we can start somewhere and then let it happen.

01:05:02.000 Always, always.

01:05:02.000 I'm just giving the narrative or whatnot.

01:05:06.000 But yeah, you're correct.

01:05:07.000 Because, I mean, if the first date was crappy, I'm going to be like, hey, I'm going to call you an Uber and that's going to be it, right?

01:05:11.000 Yeah.

01:05:12.000 Yeah.

01:05:14.000 Other than that, I did like the idea of it being painted with a twist.

01:05:17.000 I do prefer an experience, an activity.

01:05:19.000 So, yeah, for that reason, I would go on a third date, yeah.

01:05:23.000 Okay, and last question.

01:05:25.000 Rate him one out of ten.

01:05:27.000 Anna, you rate her one out of ten.

01:05:28.000 Oh my gosh, no pressure.

01:05:31.000 That's mean.

01:05:32.000 Yeah.

01:05:32.000 We were so uncomfortable.

01:05:35.000 She's a good person.

01:05:36.000 Like, I talked to her back behind here. 1.00

01:05:38.000 It's like, oh shit! 1.00

01:05:39.000 Oh shit! 1.00

01:05:39.000 It's not a... 1.00

01:05:40.000 Okay, you know what?

01:05:41.000 You know what?

01:05:42.000 How about this?

01:05:43.000 Is it a match?

01:05:44.000 Yes or no?

01:05:46.000 I really need her to open up more.

01:05:48.000 I want to know who she is, because right now I just see the looks, and there's a million beautiful Hispanic women here in Miami, and trust me, I'm a good-looking dude. 0.53

01:05:58.000 I get plenty if I really want that, but I'm not in that mindset.

01:06:01.000 I'm really looking for someone to settle down with, someone I can have connection with, and I need to see the humor, baby.

01:06:08.000 I know you've got it in you.

01:06:08.000 Where's the humor at?

01:06:09.000 You're going to ask me the questions.

01:06:11.000 Wait, I take you to a comedy show.

01:06:12.000 How about that?

01:06:13.000 See you laugh.

01:06:16.000 Okay, so I think we're good here, right?

01:06:18.000 All right.

01:06:20.000 Good.

01:06:20.000 Second date?

01:06:21.000 Second date?

01:06:21.000 I like it, guys.

01:06:22.000 All right, there you go.

01:06:24.000 Thank you.

01:06:24.000 Think about this.

01:06:28.000 Think about this.

01:06:29.000 Think about this one.

01:06:32.000 We got the third.

01:06:35.000 People here coming through, man.

01:06:38.000 Scrap!

01:06:40.000 Okay, uh...

01:06:41.000 That was pretty funny, actually.

01:06:43.000 I'm back!

01:06:44.000 We got Chinaman!

01:06:45.000 and Abby.

01:06:46.000 This is hilarious.

01:06:52.000 Okay, so you can choose location, time, and scenario.

01:06:58.000 Let's see.

01:06:59.000 Alright.

01:07:00.000 We are at Petco at like 2 p.m.

01:07:04.000 because I dropped out of high school, so we're not in a school or don't have any work.

01:07:10.000 Okay.

01:07:11.000 So we're in Petco looking for hamsters.

01:07:14.000 Yeah.

01:07:16.000 Have you ever had a hamster?

01:07:17.000 Yeah, I actually did.

01:07:19.000 Like in first grade, I had like five hamsters.

01:07:21.000 I just named them like Jihan Junior, Senior.

01:07:27.000 I don't know.

01:07:28.000 They're cute, but they bite you. 1.00

01:07:31.000 They shit all over the house and stuff. 1.00

01:07:34.000 Oh, they also have kids. 1.00

01:07:35.000 Oh, they eat their kids, by the way.

01:07:37.000 That's why you have to train them.

01:07:38.000 Yeah, I was traumatized.

01:07:39.000 I came back from school one day, preschool.

01:07:43.000 Yeah, no, no, no.

01:07:44.000 I was in fifth grade.

01:07:46.000 Yeah, I came back from school and I found out one of my amsters just got eight.

01:07:51.000 Not by my family, by the way.

01:07:53.000 By another hamster like my mom. 1.00

01:07:55.000 No, that's racially inappropriate.

01:07:57.000 What?

01:07:59.000 What's culturally inappropriate?

01:08:03.000 So, I have a question for you.

01:08:06.000 Yeah.

01:08:06.000 Since I've never been in a relationship and I'm a virgin, how would you treat me on a first date?

01:08:12.000 Like, honestly, to be completely honest, I'm a virgin as well.

01:08:17.000 I've never had a girlfriend, and so, um...

01:08:20.000 Wait!

01:08:21.000 Stop the show! 0.83

01:08:22.000 Stop the show! 0.83

01:08:23.000 There we go.

01:08:23.000 Stop the show!

01:08:24.000 Wait, wait! 0.87

01:08:25.000 Count the basket.

01:08:28.000 Emotional damage!

01:08:29.000 Wait, you're telling me you're a virgin too, bro?

01:08:31.000 Yeah, I mean, just look at me.

01:08:34.000 This man is very self-aware.

01:08:37.000 Two virgins and petco.

01:08:40.000 Wait, Abby, how old are you, Abby?

01:08:42.000 19.

01:08:43.000 Wow, you're both 19 and virgins?

01:08:45.000 Exactly, there's a first time for everything.

01:08:48.000 Okay, so how would you be here on a date? 0.95

01:08:50.000 You know, I'm not going to be the one guy who's going to say, oh, I'll take you on a date to some crazy-ass place.

01:08:56.000 We're just going to keep it simple. 0.54

01:08:58.000 We're going to go to a cafe, maybe go get some ice cream.

01:09:03.000 That sounds great.

01:09:04.000 What's your favorite ice cream flavor?

01:09:06.000 Chocolate.

01:09:07.000 Chocolate?

01:09:08.000 Oh, okay.

01:09:13.000 Did that mean something?

01:09:15.000 Did chocolate, did that mean something?

01:09:17.000 I'm really confused.

01:09:19.000 I was thinking maybe you would say like...

01:09:21.000 Dark chocolate.

01:09:24.000 Dark chocolate?

01:09:25.000 Oh, shoot.

01:09:27.000 Wait, Abby, are you a BBC game?

01:09:30.000 No, I'm a virgin.

01:09:32.000 I know, but do you want to be?

01:09:35.000 No, I like Asian guys.

01:09:37.000 Okay, continue.

01:09:47.000 You're almost done.

01:09:48.000 Yeah, yeah, just get some ice cream.

01:09:51.000 What's your favorite ice cream flavor?

01:09:53.000 It really depends.

01:09:55.000 I like the cookies and cream.

01:10:00.000 Yeah, yeah.

01:10:01.000 This is so sweet.

01:10:02.000 He's complex.

01:10:03.000 Like you, Biden, it's soft, crunchy, tastes good.

01:10:09.000 Is it bad for your braces?

01:10:11.000 Yeah, it is pretty bad for my braces, I'm not going to lie.

01:10:15.000 I'm getting them off in another year or so.

01:10:18.000 Do things ever get stuck in your braces?

01:10:21.000 Oh yeah.

01:10:22.000 Like what?

01:10:24.000 Like steak.

01:10:27.000 How do you get your steak cooked?

01:10:29.000 Like pink.

01:10:32.000 Because if you cook it too much, then it's too hard to chew on.

01:10:36.000 It's too hard.

01:10:39.000 You like it.

01:10:40.000 Yeah, I like your pink.

01:10:44.000 Okay.

01:10:46.000 Okay, so time is up.

01:10:48.000 Yo, if this doesn't get a second date, I'm out.

01:10:51.000 Okay.

01:10:52.000 I'm out.

01:10:53.000 They're perfect.

01:10:54.000 So Abby.

01:10:54.000 Absolutely perfect.

01:10:55.000 Abby, you're on a date.

01:10:57.000 How was the date?

01:10:58.000 It was great.

01:11:00.000 Okay, question for you.

01:11:01.000 Yes or no?

01:11:03.000 Yes.

01:11:04.000 Yes.

01:11:06.000 Wow!

01:11:08.000 You know what?

01:11:09.000 I am shocked.

01:11:10.000 You know why I'm shocked?

01:11:11.000 They're both virgins, both 19, and they both like Asian food.

01:11:16.000 Yeah.

01:11:17.000 That's great!

01:11:18.000 What are the odds?

01:11:21.000 It was very humorous.

01:11:25.000 I think the idea of going to Petco is brilliant.

01:11:29.000 It's simple.

01:11:30.000 Especially if you're 19 and you can't go to a club and drink.

01:11:34.000 Exactly.

01:11:35.000 Keep it fun.

01:11:37.000 Keep it at your level.

01:11:39.000 Don't try to be some generation you're not.

01:11:42.000 I'm not going to lie.

01:11:43.000 At the beginning, I thought you guys had almost staged this.

01:11:46.000 Here's what we're going to say.

01:11:47.000 No, it is true.

01:11:48.000 Okay, okay, okay, this is good.

01:11:49.000 I like it.

01:11:49.000 The flow was good, and you guys were genuine.

01:11:52.000 So, thank you.

01:11:53.000 There you go.

01:11:53.000 Thank you.

01:11:54.000 I think Jihan is so genuinely authentic that he just doesn't even know better to just say these things.

01:12:00.000 And I think a lot of women might like that, so I think that's actually pretty refreshing. 0.96

01:12:04.000 Like, he does not seem to give a shit about what anybody else thinks. 0.98

01:12:08.000 Yeah, I'm just going to be myself. 0.98

01:12:09.000 You know, you don't want to pretend to be someone you're not, and then later on, you guys have issues.

01:12:14.000 Well, that's why Abby gave you the green thumb. 0.96

01:12:16.000 Unless she wanted to give a black thumb for some reason. 0.99

01:12:18.000 I don't know what that was.

01:12:23.000 Okay, good job, guys.

01:12:25.000 That's a match right there.

01:12:26.000 That's a fresh match.

01:12:29.000 Okay, good job, Abby.

01:12:32.000 Good job, Jihan.

01:12:33.000 Okay.

01:12:36.000 Nobody's going to tell her that she's a 5. 0.99

01:12:38.000 No one's going to say that. 0.99

01:12:39.000 There's fucking 10,000 people watching this. 0.99

01:12:43.000 No pressure. 1.00

01:12:44.000 Last group here.

01:12:46.000 I am so happy to be a part of this, man.

01:12:49.000 Matches everywhere.

01:12:50.000 Good laughs.

01:12:53.000 Myron's going to be back soon, right?

01:12:55.000 Yeah, so we'll be back for half hours.

01:12:59.000 Scenario, time, place.

01:13:00.000 Let's go.

01:13:01.000 Yeah, I mean, we can kind of top off at what everyone else did, right?

01:13:04.000 So I'm more of an outdoors kind of guy.

01:13:06.000 So I think sunset hour, you know, five o'clock, six o'clock, sun is setting.

01:13:11.000 We grab a blanket.

01:13:12.000 We go to Virginia Key Beach, you know, not too crowded.

01:13:14.000 We stay away from the South Beach.

01:13:16.000 We get a bottle of wine, red, obviously, hopefully.

01:13:19.000 We keep a second bottle in the tuck, hopefully, because, you know, one's good for now, and then if we like each other, we'll stick around for the second.

01:13:25.000 And then, yeah, we just kind of vibe, you know, make some eye contact, good conversation on the beach, and then potentially jump in the water based on how much we drink.

01:13:35.000 I live on the beach, so that's a perfect match for me.

01:13:37.000 I think that's the ideal date, and if we like each other's company, we'll go get food.

01:13:41.000 I think first we start off with some drinks, get comfortable, you know, get on the beach, and then if we like each other, we'll go get some food after, and then we'll see where it goes from there.

01:13:49.000 Okay, let's start a date.

01:13:51.000 Alright, let's go.

01:13:52.000 So, I pick you up, ask you where you live, pick you up, tell you to kind of bring a bathing suit for backup in case we want to jump in the water, maybe dress for the night, you know, don't tell you where we're going after.

01:14:04.000 Well, hold on, hold on.

01:14:05.000 Let's imagine you're already at the lake or beach right now.

01:14:09.000 You're at the location.

01:14:10.000 What's the conversation like?

01:14:11.000 What's happening?

01:14:12.000 Okay, so a lot of eye contact.

01:14:14.000 The sun's reflecting off your eyes.

01:14:16.000 I see the blue eyes.

01:14:18.000 We're getting deep.

01:14:21.000 Let's talk like you guys are right there.

01:14:24.000 You're in the moment right now.

01:14:26.000 You don't have to worry about the backup outfit.

01:14:28.000 I'd probably wear a cover-up that's made for going out just in case we do go out after.

01:14:33.000 Okay, so we'll start off with why are you single or why is dating in Miami not worked out for you?

01:14:40.000 Because it's Miami.

01:14:44.000 What do you expect to be different?

01:14:46.000 With me picking you up, you obviously said yes for a reason.

01:14:49.000 What do you expect to be different?

01:14:51.000 I don't know.

01:14:52.000 With you, I could pick up that maybe you were ready for something a little bit more serious.

01:14:58.000 Was it the wife comment?

01:15:00.000 Yeah.

01:15:01.000 What are your thoughts on the wife comment?

01:15:03.000 Let's talk about that because somebody didn't like that.

01:15:05.000 Oh, it's not that I don't like that.

01:15:08.000 I mean, it is coming on a bit strong, but I come on strong too.

01:15:11.000 Okay.

01:15:11.000 So maybe we're a good match.

01:15:12.000 Okay.

01:15:13.000 Wait, you come on strong?

01:15:14.000 Yeah.

01:15:15.000 You come on strong?

01:15:16.000 Hey, come on. 0.77

01:15:16.000 Off strong. 0.77

01:15:17.000 I don't know.

01:15:19.000 Okay, so we have the first bottle of wine.

01:15:23.000 We're getting intimate.

01:15:23.000 We're talking about past trauma.

01:15:25.000 We're talking about previous relationships.

01:15:26.000 When do you know that you're going to stay with me the night?

01:15:29.000 Or when do you know that we're going to hang out after?

01:15:31.000 We're going to continue the night.

01:15:33.000 For me, it doesn't take too long to figure it out.

01:15:35.000 Like, I don't need to text all my friends to figure out if I like a guy.

01:15:37.000 Like, if I like you, I like you.

01:15:39.000 It's, like, super clear.

01:15:40.000 And usually it's before the date.

01:15:41.000 I can tell if, like, I like someone.

01:15:43.000 Okay.

01:15:43.000 Are we jumping in the water, yes or no?

01:15:45.000 Very important.

01:15:46.000 Yeah, as long as my hair doesn't get wet.

01:15:48.000 Oh, I was going to ask.

01:15:49.000 Do you care about the makeup coming off?

01:15:51.000 Okay, the hair is the one thing, but do you care about the makeup coming off?

01:15:53.000 I can splash my face with water.

01:15:55.000 That's fine.

01:15:55.000 Okay, okay.

01:15:56.000 These are all good answers.

01:15:58.000 Yeah, so what do you think?

01:16:02.000 Are we going to dinner?

01:16:03.000 We're going to dinner.

01:16:04.000 We're doing Netflix after.

01:16:06.000 We're watching a murder documentary.

01:16:08.000 I like scary movies.

01:16:10.000 Okay, okay.

01:16:11.000 Are you...

01:16:12.000 Can we do a quick never have I ever?

01:16:15.000 How about the between the two of you?

01:16:16.000 Never have I ever.

01:16:17.000 Okay.

01:16:21.000 Something you've never done, but you think he has done.

01:16:24.000 Okay, never have I ever been on this kind of date before.

01:16:28.000 So I've done something like this.

01:16:31.000 Not blind date, but during COVID, I was on a social media platform where you submit a video and then females would DM you or reach out to you.

01:16:39.000 So I had like over 100 dates on that, which went really well for me.

01:16:44.000 So I've done something like this.

01:16:45.000 Not a blind, specifically, they would DM you and you would talk. 1.00

01:16:48.000 Oh, I'm so sorry.

01:16:48.000 I meant like a beach date.

01:16:49.000 Like I've never actually.

01:16:50.000 Oh.

01:16:51.000 Oh.

01:16:52.000 Roll it back, roll it back.

01:16:53.000 Hilarious.

01:16:54.000 I've never done the beach day, okay.

01:16:57.000 Hilarious.

01:16:57.000 What's your typical date?

01:17:00.000 Is it more of a nighttime date for dinner?

01:17:03.000 Why have you not done a beach day?

01:17:05.000 What I'm used to is just going out for drinks and then whatever happens after that.

01:17:10.000 But I'm just not used to an actual date, so that's kind of refreshing.

01:17:14.000 Okay.

01:17:15.000 Why do you think that guys have not asked you out to a beach type of date?

01:17:20.000 Do you think that you give off the energy where you just want to go get drinks and that's it?

01:17:24.000 No, I personally don't think I give off that energy.

01:17:27.000 I just think that's what they're kind of looking for more than anything else.

01:17:30.000 And have you voiced your opinion about the fact that you prefer a different type of date?

01:17:35.000 No.

01:17:36.000 I'll be honest.

01:17:37.000 I'm very passive.

01:17:38.000 That's like a weakness of mine.

01:17:39.000 My next question is, do you have a problem voicing your opinion?

01:17:41.000 I do.

01:17:42.000 It's hard for me.

01:17:44.000 So are you more the submissive type?

01:17:48.000 I guess, yeah.

01:17:49.000 If I really like somebody, I'm agreeable.

01:17:52.000 And it's hard for me to express myself.

01:17:54.000 If I like somebody, I go along too much with what they want.

01:17:58.000 Do you ever challenge or question the decisions made by the men, or do you just go along for the ride?

01:18:05.000 I mean, there is to a point, right?

01:18:08.000 But yeah, usually, I mean, things haven't really worked out, so I can't say that there was any, like, usually it ends before that even becomes an issue.

01:18:16.000 So do you think you're going to change your ways going forward?

01:18:19.000 And after our date, do you think this has changed your mind a little bit?

01:18:22.000 Changed my ways in terms of, like, speaking up more?

01:18:24.000 Yeah.

01:18:25.000 Yeah.

01:18:26.000 I think, like, with you, you're someone who actually seems to want to communicate with me, so with you, I think I would be able to do that, yes.

01:18:33.000 Okay, so is there a second date after this?

01:18:39.000 I like it.

01:18:40.000 The time is up.

01:18:41.000 Fresh putting it together.

01:18:43.000 Fresh match.

01:18:44.000 Okay.

01:18:45.000 Before you leave though, quick question.

01:18:50.000 Would you be a girl that has kids?

01:18:53.000 Um...

01:18:53.000 No.

01:18:55.000 I would not.

01:18:56.000 She has kids.

01:18:56.000 Nope!

01:18:57.000 Shit. 1.00

01:18:58.000 You do have kids, don't you? 1.00

01:18:59.000 You told me that.

01:19:00.000 Uh...

01:19:00.000 Yeah, of course I would.

01:19:01.000 Of course I would.

01:19:02.000 Wait a minute!

01:19:04.000 That sounded better on your head, didn't it?

01:19:07.000 There's a different tool for every...

01:19:09.000 Every problem.

01:19:10.000 There we go.

01:19:11.000 He used a new tool.

01:19:12.000 Of course I would.

01:19:14.000 Of course I would.

01:19:15.000 Did he just switch it up like that?

01:19:16.000 Okay!

01:19:17.000 You should trust him.

01:19:18.000 Did he just switch the cable?

01:19:19.000 All right.

01:19:21.000 Thank you, ladies and gentlemen.

01:19:23.000 Okay, we're going to do conclusion thoughts here, and then we're going to pick the couples at the very end.

01:19:27.000 Chat is involved as well.

01:19:28.000 They can help decide as well.

01:19:30.000 So, thoughts on this, Rolo?

01:19:32.000 I thought that, like, he was asking a lot of questions, first of all.

01:19:35.000 I mean, maybe that worked really well with her because she was passive, right? 0.61

01:19:39.000 But I think most guys, if they feel like they have to carry the conversation like that, then you need to have a different tact.

01:19:46.000 What I would have suggested, maybe Mike's familiar with this, is to use a breadcrumb technique, you know, like to sort of like lead from one question to the, like leading questions, I guess, like leading from one to the next to the next.

01:19:57.000 So she's talking about herself, rather than saying, here's my, it's like negotiating the terms of a contract.

01:20:04.000 As opposed to actually having some sort of human conversation.

01:20:07.000 And maybe that's just because of the format that we're on right now.

01:20:09.000 But I know that a lot of guys, when they are struggling with conversations, it's usually because they're the one that's floating the conversation the whole time.

01:20:18.000 All right, Swallow Tomasi, man.

01:20:21.000 Yeah, well first off, I love the dating scenario, by the way.

01:20:26.000 And just so for all the men in Miami dating right now, I know you feel like there's so much pressure, like I gotta get rid of sexy fish and all that.

01:20:32.000 Like, here you have a woman who lives on South Beach who says, oh my gosh, a bottle of wine on a sunset?

01:20:37.000 Yeah, by all means, let's do it.

01:20:39.000 You know, oh, I've never been asked this before.

01:20:41.000 So there you go.

01:20:41.000 That's just a little hint to the guy's date in Miami or maybe even Las Vegas, too.

01:20:44.000 Action dates usually.

01:20:45.000 I mean, I think a lot of people think of it as like, oh, you meet a girl at a club and then you go have dinner and then you go like that kind of stuff.

01:20:50.000 I think a lot of guys need to understand that, like, when they're trying to make an emotional impact on a woman, they need to have something that they can associate that emotion with.

01:20:57.000 So if it's like...

01:20:58.000 I don't know, hang gliding or parasailing or rock climbing.

01:21:01.000 I'm throwing out really extreme ideas, but you get the idea.

01:21:04.000 I hate to say it, but the Petco idea, the pet store idea was actually pretty novel.

01:21:09.000 And I think that's actually, it's not necessarily an action, but you're seeing like animals there and it's like, oh, what kind of animal would you like if we were a couple kind of thing?

01:21:16.000 Yeah, be creative.

01:21:17.000 Have an experience.

01:21:18.000 And yeah, that does create emotion, which again, anyways, I don't have to go along about what emotion can do in a relationship.

01:21:23.000 We call that smart rizz.

01:21:24.000 Drizzle, drizzle. 0.93

01:21:25.000 There you go.

01:21:26.000 But also, I wish there would have been more back and forth.

01:21:30.000 But she did admit she was passive.

01:21:32.000 And he was kind of a little too strong with the questions.

01:21:36.000 I wish there was a little bit more give.

01:21:39.000 I mean, a little take and give.

01:21:40.000 It's a dance.

01:21:43.000 There's innate sex differences between the genders, and it's way more important for a man to be interesting than a woman to be interesting on a date. 0.91

01:21:50.000 It's just the fact of the matter.

01:21:52.000 Men are more interested in a woman's physical attractiveness, and women are not as interested in men in general.

01:21:57.000 If you're one of those 4.5% of men where women are always swiping right on you, Don't listen to anything I'm saying. 1.00

01:22:02.000 Just go direct, whatever you need to do.

01:22:03.000 But for the rest of us out there, what you need to do instead is you need to get her to qualify. 0.94

01:22:08.000 And so one of the things where I felt like these guys, you talk about breadcrumbs, I like making things not toxic, but fucking chaotic.

01:22:15.000 I like to go places like, why?

01:22:17.000 Who cheated on what? 0.98

01:22:18.000 And your girlfriend did what?

01:22:19.000 And then you found him doing this?

01:22:20.000 I want, please tell me more.

01:22:22.000 I want things to go as crazy as they can and get as wild as they can to where she's barreled over laughing and At the first place we go, my man Austin Dunham, he likes to say two locations and two hours.

01:22:33.000 Two locations and two hours for the first date.

01:22:35.000 And then you as the man and the first date.

01:22:37.000 I would like to see that before too.

01:22:39.000 But what these guys were doing were asking interrogation questions.

01:22:42.000 I don't want to do interrogation questions.

01:22:44.000 I want her to talk so much that she's almost glowing. 0.98

01:22:46.000 And she's telling a story about some crazy shit that happened in her life. 0.97

01:22:50.000 Because those crazy stories, like, that kind of goes across... 0.98

01:22:53.000 I mean, that's what this whole Fresh and Fit program is about.

01:22:56.000 It's women telling crazy stories about their life and men are listening to it. 0.62

01:22:59.000 So that's where you can kind of cross the gender gap by doing that.

01:23:01.000 So I would have liked to see a little bit more of that.

01:23:03.000 But I think that takes a little bit of practice.

01:23:04.000 I love Never Have I Ever, Two Lies and the Truth.

01:23:06.000 There's a bunch of different games you can get.

01:23:08.000 A bunch of different drinking games you can get that'll get people to turn things...

01:23:12.000 To where they start telling the truth very quickly on.

01:23:15.000 So that's what I'd like to see a little bit more.

01:23:17.000 That emotional association doesn't necessarily have to be a positive one.

01:23:20.000 It could still be a negative one as long as you're leaving her feeling something.

01:23:23.000 I think the vibe just means she can talk about herself in totality, not be judged for it, and actively listen to her, what she's saying, give it back to her in a plausible way.

01:23:34.000 I think it makes a lot of sense.

01:23:35.000 Okay, guys, come back in.

01:23:37.000 We're not going to choose the couples for the last segment here and close out the show.

01:23:41.000 So come back in if you don't mind one more time.

01:23:43.000 And then Rolo, MK, and Michael, you guys tell me and the audience who's going to fit in your eyes and why.

01:23:53.000 Alright.

01:23:54.000 Coming right now.

01:23:56.000 Hey man, this is pretty funny, man.

01:23:59.000 Okay.

01:24:03.000 Let's see the folks here.

01:24:06.000 Let's feel the vibe.

01:24:07.000 Wink, wink.

01:24:10.000 What's the vibe in the room?

01:24:12.000 Okay.

01:24:13.000 So, Rolo, you go first.

01:24:15.000 I think Jihuan and Abby are actually perfect for each other.

01:24:19.000 I'm sorry, I was going to say the same thing.

01:24:21.000 It's Jihuan and Abby.

01:24:24.000 They're going to make it, but I want to watch.

01:24:26.000 I want to watch the day.

01:24:29.000 Abby, can you come on screen?

01:24:31.000 That's a show I would watch.

01:24:33.000 Stand next to Jihuan real quick.

01:24:36.000 Hey, you want to come here?

01:24:37.000 There's potential because there's sincerity behind it.

01:24:40.000 There's genuinity.

01:24:41.000 And that's something that's lacking in today's day.

01:24:43.000 I can see like a genuine couple right here.

01:24:46.000 We've got orange chicken and no seasoned chicken at all.

01:24:50.000 What?

01:24:51.000 No seasoned chicken.

01:24:52.000 No seasoned chicken and orange chicken.

01:24:53.000 That's great.

01:24:54.000 You're the seasoned chicken.

01:24:55.000 No, no, no.

01:24:55.000 You are happy.

01:24:56.000 Oh, you are.

01:24:58.000 Wow.

01:24:59.000 Okay.

01:24:59.000 MK, next couple.

01:25:01.000 All right.

01:25:02.000 I'm going to say Sean and Mariana, but I do agree with Sean.

01:25:08.000 I do think that there can be more coming out of you.

01:25:11.000 And I don't know if it's because there's like a dozen cameras on you, you know, which is understandable.

01:25:17.000 But I see some potential there because not having no Sean, but I do know Mariana a little bit more.

01:25:23.000 I think that you have some attributes she's looking for.

01:25:26.000 So I see something.

01:25:27.000 Okay, do you agree?

01:25:29.000 Second date?

01:25:31.000 Yes or no?

01:25:31.000 Mariana.

01:25:32.000 Me?

01:25:33.000 Yeah.

01:25:34.000 Yeah, I guess I want to get to know him better, but I mean, I think it blowed here, I guess.

01:25:40.000 Okay, stand next to each other if you don't mind.

01:25:43.000 Alright, and then Sartain.

01:25:46.000 I actually liked Olivia and Daniel.

01:25:49.000 I don't even care if they have chemistry.

01:25:50.000 I just want to see that, like for my own personal. 1.00

01:25:53.000 I just want to see them go talk shit. 0.99

01:25:56.000 Dating should be fun. 1.00

01:25:57.000 I know everyone's like, hey, let's go dating to figure out whether or not we're going to get married.

01:26:01.000 Why put so much pressure on the interaction?

01:26:03.000 It's not 1953.

01:26:04.000 We don't have to do this anymore.

01:26:05.000 Dates should be fun.

01:26:06.000 You should be throwing axes.

01:26:08.000 You should be driving... 0.99

01:26:09.000 You should be fucking going out on, like, water skiing. 1.00

01:26:12.000 You should be doing crazy shit. 1.00

01:26:13.000 You should be going on rollercoaster rides or eating the butter cake at Mastro's. 1.00

01:26:16.000 Some fun shit that you'd be doing anyway with your buddies. 0.97

01:26:19.000 That's what dates should be like. 0.86

01:26:20.000 So just, I want to see cool people doing fun stuff.

01:26:23.000 Do you agree, yes or no?

01:26:25.000 We went to North Italia.

01:26:26.000 That was not a cool thing.

01:26:29.000 Hold on.

01:26:30.000 Hold on.

01:26:31.000 That's fine.

01:26:32.000 Okay.

01:26:33.000 I think, personally, Tan and you should have matched.

01:26:36.000 What do you think?

01:26:38.000 Tan and you.

01:26:39.000 No.

01:26:39.000 Hold on.

01:26:39.000 Tan and Olivia.

01:26:40.000 Yeah.

01:26:41.000 I can see that, too.

01:26:42.000 Yeah.

01:26:42.000 What do you think?

01:26:43.000 Yeah, I think more so Tan.

01:26:44.000 So, hold on.

01:26:45.000 Real quick.

01:26:46.000 Two minutes on the clock.

01:26:47.000 Let's go.

01:26:48.000 You two.

01:26:48.000 Wait, what?

01:26:49.000 Right now.

01:26:50.000 Come on down, guys.

01:26:52.000 Sit down.

01:26:53.000 Olivia, sit here. 1.00

01:26:54.000 Tan, sit over there.

01:26:56.000 Okay.

01:26:57.000 This is your chance, Tan.

01:26:59.000 Get him, Tan! 0.97

01:27:00.000 Take her home, buddy. 0.91

01:27:01.000 Redemption.

01:27:02.000 Get him, Tan! 0.97

01:27:03.000 Okay.

01:27:04.000 New date.

01:27:05.000 New location.

01:27:06.000 Time.

01:27:07.000 Set it.

01:27:07.000 Do we have to do the date again?

01:27:09.000 Yes.

01:27:09.000 You know what?

01:27:10.000 Just wherever you want it to be.

01:27:11.000 First thought, when Daniel picked you, go.

01:27:14.000 Wait, what do you mean?

01:27:15.000 When Daniel chose you instead of me getting to choose you, what was your first thought?

01:27:19.000 That's a good question.

01:27:21.000 Very good question, love it.

01:27:22.000 I think he chose you maybe more so for physical attraction.

01:27:26.000 Oh, he's shaking his head.

01:27:29.000 Okay.

01:27:33.000 So you mentioned energy last time.

01:27:39.000 So what do you describe as good energy to you?

01:27:42.000 What does good energy mean to you?

01:27:44.000 Yeah, so I mean, my work, I'm an intuitive sex and intimacy guide.

01:27:49.000 So I do sexual energy healing work.

01:27:51.000 So for me, I really know if someone is doing things out of their ego.

01:27:57.000 I know if a man is ungrounded, I know where there's power plays.

01:28:03.000 So for me, energy is important that you're really just self-aware.

01:28:07.000 You know yourself, and obviously no one's perfect, but there is a desire to want to be better and to be your best self.

01:28:17.000 Okay, so you mentioned you've never been in a long-term relationship.

01:28:19.000 So I'm assuming the energy was off each time, every relationship you've been in.

01:28:23.000 No, I think the energy was really intense.

01:28:26.000 At the time, I had a lot of codependency.

01:28:28.000 So what I call love addiction.

01:28:31.000 So for me, it was these highs were super high, but the lows were low.

01:28:35.000 So it was my own journey of really realizing where I wasn't being vulnerable.

01:28:40.000 What do you think about love bombing?

01:28:44.000 I mean, love bombing is horrible.

01:28:47.000 Have you fallen for the love bombing?

01:28:54.000 No, to be honest, I would say I always, I actually had a hard time trusting what men would say to me.

01:29:01.000 And I think now actually, now that you mentioned that, it makes sense because maybe on an energetic level, I could feel they weren't being authentic.

01:29:08.000 So, yeah, sometimes it takes time to see if someone is really taking action versus just saying things.

01:29:14.000 Got it.

01:29:15.000 So the men have described their perfect date.

01:29:17.000 What's a perfect date to you?

01:29:19.000 What would we do on our first date?

01:29:21.000 Yeah, so I'm definitely big in nature.

01:29:23.000 So a hike, I would love a hike somewhere where it's like lush, almost like fairyland.

01:29:29.000 I'm super into that type of stuff.

01:29:35.000 Okay, time is up.

01:29:38.000 So Tan, sorry, Tan, right?

01:29:41.000 Tan, yeah.

01:29:42.000 Yes or no?

01:29:42.000 Of course, yes.

01:29:44.000 Olivia, yes or no?

01:29:45.000 Yes.

01:29:46.000 Alright!

01:29:47.000 Let's get it!

01:29:49.000 The sexual energy is there.

01:29:53.000 Daniel, Kate, T, would you see a match with you guys at all?

01:30:02.000 What'd you say?

01:30:03.000 Do you see a match with you guys?

01:30:05.000 Yeah, they were having a good conversation.

01:30:08.000 Last round.

01:30:09.000 Two minutes.

01:30:10.000 Let's go.

01:30:10.000 On the clock.

01:30:11.000 Do it.

01:30:11.000 Let's do it.

01:30:16.000 Shut up, Meg. 1.00

01:30:20.000 Okay, last round. 1.00

01:30:22.000 Oh, I see what you're doing.

01:30:23.000 Are we doing the thumbs up?

01:30:24.000 Yeah.

01:30:25.000 When do you finish?

01:30:26.000 Two minutes.

01:30:26.000 Nine o'clock.

01:30:29.000 Already.

01:30:29.000 Okay, new date.

01:30:31.000 New date.

01:30:33.000 Well, no, it was between me picking before.

01:30:35.000 I want to go back to that.

01:30:36.000 It was between Katie and Olivia, but Olivia won the Rock, Paper, Scissors contest between her and Katie before, so that's why I picked the one.

01:30:41.000 Okay!

01:30:44.000 That's funny.

01:30:45.000 All right, go ahead.

01:30:46.000 Katie, we're going to go to North Italia.

01:30:49.000 There's a nice outdoor boar there.

01:30:56.000 The bartenders definitely don't know me there by now.

01:30:59.000 Oh my God.

01:31:01.000 That's what's up though.

01:31:05.000 Exactly, exactly.

01:31:06.000 But we did meet in person this time.

01:31:07.000 You had a similar client that you worked with, that I worked with, and then we met over work.

01:31:14.000 And then I kept you later and wasted a lot of your time at work in order to talk to you more.

01:31:21.000 Then they asked you out.

01:31:22.000 You said yes.

01:31:23.000 Now we're sitting down at North Italia.

01:31:25.000 So thank you for coming.

01:31:26.000 Oh, thanks for asking me out.

01:31:28.000 Of course, of course.

01:31:29.000 You are gorgeous.

01:31:30.000 We're sitting down in North Italia, having some drinks.

01:31:33.000 What's she drinking?

01:31:34.000 She is a McAllen fiend. 1.00

01:31:40.000 Do you like scotch?

01:31:42.000 It's not my go-to.

01:31:43.000 It's not mezcal.

01:31:44.000 It's your go-to, right?

01:31:46.000 Let's just have a rum and coke.

01:31:47.000 No one drinks mezcal on purpose. 0.99

01:31:50.000 It tastes like fucking burnt rubber. 1.00

01:31:53.000 They only drink mezcal when they're on a shitty date. 1.00

01:31:57.000 But what brought you down to Miami, Katie?

01:32:01.000 I had a change of heart when I was in my older teens and I just wanted to leave the Midwest and I had a chance to do it so I took it.

01:32:07.000 Okay, well, congrats.

01:32:08.000 You just came down here in a whim by yourself?

01:32:10.000 Well, I transferred, so I was going to a school in Ohio on a scholarship for tennis, and so I was contacting some coaches down south because I wanted to come.

01:32:19.000 So you played tennis in college as well?

01:32:21.000 Wait, you played tennis in college?

01:32:22.000 Yeah!

01:32:23.000 Basketball and tennis, yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:32:24.000 Wait, how do you do two college sports?

01:32:26.000 Different seasons.

01:32:27.000 But there's a lot of overlap, obviously, because basketball is basically from August through March and April.

01:32:35.000 And tennis was basically because it was up in Pennsylvania at the time.

01:32:38.000 So you're basically just hoping that that cold weather...

01:32:42.000 Outlast throughout basketball season.

01:32:44.000 And then you gotta make a good relationship with your coach and let him know that you're not going to the preseason little voluntary but non-voluntary practices.

01:32:54.000 But yeah, did both.

01:32:56.000 I've never heard of someone doing two college sports.

01:32:59.000 That's really cool.

01:33:00.000 Yeah, thanks.

01:33:00.000 No, it was a lot.

01:33:04.000 But at the same time, tennis was basically freeing, because basketball season, it's like a nine-month season, and tennis is like two and a half, plus you're outside, not in the five-degree Scranton weather up there.

01:33:19.000 So when it came time to play tennis, it didn't really feel like a college sport.

01:33:23.000 Plus, I was already in shape because of basketball, so...

01:33:26.000 I didn't have to go through all the, you know, the grueling exercise and whatnot.

01:33:29.000 I could kind of just step on the court and play and just practice skills.

01:33:33.000 Yeah.

01:33:33.000 I found tennis to be a lot harder once I came to Florida because it was just so hot.

01:33:37.000 It was like overwhelming, the heat.

01:33:38.000 It is, and plus the floods and the rain.

01:33:40.000 So Nova Southeastern, actually in Fort Lauderdale, their courts actually bend in.

01:33:45.000 Because it rains so much up there that they're planning on the draining system.

01:33:50.000 So you're actually hitting up more than anything?

01:33:54.000 Because the water, when it lands, it has to go towards the net.

01:33:57.000 So they plan on the rain.

01:33:58.000 I wish I could have seen that.

01:33:59.000 We never played against them.

01:34:00.000 I went to FIU. Maybe we'll have to go up there and play together.

01:34:03.000 Yeah, I want to check out these courts.

01:34:04.000 Do you like serving volleyers?

01:34:06.000 I'm more of a baseliner.

01:34:07.000 Hmm.

01:34:08.000 Okay, so we would have some stressful matches against each other.

01:34:13.000 Overhead, yeah.

01:34:14.000 Okay, time is up!

01:34:16.000 Okay.

01:34:17.000 I'm ready for mixed doubles.

01:34:20.000 Katie! 0.99

01:34:22.000 Yes or no?

01:34:23.000 Yeah.

01:34:24.000 Have a good time.

01:34:25.000 Daniel, yes or no?

01:34:26.000 I've had mine up since I sat down.

01:34:28.000 He's had his own pause.

01:34:31.000 He's had his own pause.

01:34:35.000 So we've got our matches right now.

01:34:36.000 Is everyone happy with their matches?

01:34:39.000 I'm very happy.

01:34:40.000 Ask her about the single mother thing.

01:34:42.000 Oh! 0.60

01:34:43.000 I gotta ask you, brother.

01:34:45.000 She has kids.

01:34:46.000 Is that okay?

01:34:47.000 Yeah, yeah.

01:34:47.000 How many?

01:34:49.000 I'm hoping at least three to four.

01:34:51.000 No, I only have two.

01:34:55.000 Only two?

01:34:56.000 I'm going to hold my tongue.

01:34:58.000 I'm going to go easy.

01:35:01.000 Okay.

01:35:02.000 This was a great interaction here.

01:35:04.000 Thank you, Katie and Daniel.

01:35:06.000 Daniel, you're funny, by the way, bro.

01:35:07.000 You're hilarious.

01:35:08.000 Okay.

01:35:09.000 Thanks, sir.

01:35:09.000 You can get him now.

01:35:11.000 So, we'll close up the show here.

01:35:13.000 Rolo, MK, and Michael, last thoughts on this.

01:35:16.000 I want Daniel to manage my hedge funds.

01:35:20.000 They give you 17% guarantee month over month.

01:35:25.000 Overall, how was the show, Rolo, you would say?

01:35:29.000 I thought it was great.

01:35:30.000 I haven't done this before.

01:35:31.000 I may only watch the one or two before this, and this is actually a great interaction.

01:35:35.000 I think we've got great couples and stuff on here as well.

01:35:37.000 What should guys take away from this show, you believe?

01:35:39.000 I think learning dating skills is very similar to learning social skills and just being able to have conversations in the first place.

01:35:46.000 I think that's something that's very lacking in most guys these days.

01:35:49.000 And so seeing it done or in as controlled an environment as possible, I think just having examples of this is very valuable to guys.

01:35:58.000 What's your growth takeaway?

01:36:00.000 That there are actually guys who can actually carry on a conversation.

01:36:05.000 And the one thing I get the feedback from, maybe you do too, as being dating coaches, is when women are saying, I really wish guys would just approach.

01:36:13.000 I really wish guys would just come, you know, a live approach.

01:36:16.000 As opposed to, oh, we've got to meet on Tinder.

01:36:18.000 Oh, we've got to meet on Bumble.

01:36:19.000 Oh, we've got to have this digital buffer between the two of us.

01:36:22.000 Rather than, I think we've said this on Access Vegas.

01:36:25.000 I ask the girls, I say, when was the last time you met a guy live, in person kind of thing?

01:36:30.000 And it's usually, some of them will say yes, but for the most part, it's done digitally.

01:36:35.000 There's the buffer between them.

01:36:36.000 And so I think having this right here is a good example of how you can carry on a conversation and also what you should and should not do.

01:36:44.000 Thank you, Rolo.

01:36:45.000 MK, for guys and for girls, what should they learn from this?

01:36:48.000 No, I love that you put this together because, honestly, this is what's lacking, you know?

01:36:52.000 Face-to-face interaction.

01:36:53.000 That's what's required.

01:36:54.000 What you said in the beginning, like, how are you going to build meaningful connections behind the screen?

01:36:58.000 It's just not going to happen.

01:36:59.000 So, guys, yeah, take this as a lesson, like...

01:37:02.000 Out there, whether this works, whether it doesn't work, but out there, please be confident enough to approach women because, yes, they do want it.

01:37:09.000 Yeah, and it is a skill set, and so continue to follow us for that skill set.

01:37:12.000 Because guys in the chat, you might laugh at the guys on the screen, but they had the courage to come here and talk to those in person, and that is huge, by the way.

01:37:17.000 That's very huge because most guys are like, oh, I don't want rejection or me too, which is understandable, but you've got to take that risk, man.

01:37:25.000 Okay, Michael.

01:37:26.000 Yeah, I believe in the concept of immersion.

01:37:27.000 So do the hardest thing you can first and then work back down.

01:37:31.000 So consider these people are, you know, there's 10,000 people watching you right now.

01:37:34.000 With all the pressure you have, when you guys are alone, it's going to be so much easier to communicate.

01:37:38.000 I recommend you guys go out and do this as much as possible.

01:37:41.000 And I know it's hard because you're going to have some bad interactions. 0.98

01:37:45.000 But, like, you can even make bad dates funny if you make the shit crazy enough. 0.97

01:37:49.000 If you make... 0.88

01:37:50.000 If you can make the conversations interesting enough, even bad dates can be fun.

01:37:53.000 That's what I'm saying.

01:37:55.000 So what I would tell you guys is get as much experience as you can.

01:37:58.000 Approach a bunch.

01:37:59.000 Get as much experience as you can.

01:38:01.000 Go on a bunch of these dates.

01:38:02.000 And even if it doesn't work out, do something that you enjoy.

01:38:04.000 And guys, you've seen my L's on camera, man.

01:38:06.000 Grant Cardone told me no.

01:38:07.000 That was a very shocking thing for me on camera.

01:38:09.000 Again, told no.

01:38:10.000 And now I'm doing a podcast with some of the best people here.

01:38:13.000 Rolo, Mike, MK, Moe, Bills.

01:38:16.000 So, you're going to take L's in life. 0.96

01:38:17.000 It's normal.

01:38:18.000 But, if you give up, then you lose.

01:38:21.000 But keep trying, man.

01:38:22.000 Just keep trying.

01:38:23.000 Okay.

01:38:24.000 Some chats here, Bills?

01:38:25.000 Yes, sir.

01:38:26.000 Cool.

01:38:27.000 Alright, so we got Cam two times.

01:38:28.000 Cam says, Abby and Jackie Chan are supposed to be my favorite and most entertaining of this dating game.

01:38:35.000 They should be each other's first, but I don't think they would be each other's last.

01:38:39.000 I hope they do.

01:38:40.000 Also, Abby, you look like Cheyenne Cooper. 0.91

01:38:43.000 If you know, you know.

01:38:44.000 Who is that?

01:38:46.000 I kind of want to look him up.

01:38:46.000 I'm gonna have to look that up.

01:38:49.000 We have Jay Ichiban.

01:38:52.000 Oh, Castle Club.

01:38:53.000 Guys, we're doing Zoom calls.

01:38:55.000 You asked for it, we'll give it to you.

01:38:57.000 Trust me, we got you guys.

01:38:58.000 And we're doing cash giveaways.

01:39:00.000 Is that her? 0.98

01:39:03.000 What the hell? 1.00

01:39:05.000 Nigga, she got some titties though. 1.00

01:39:11.000 Yeah, so Castle Club, we're giving away cash prizes every week and doing zone calls for you guys because you guys supported us thick and thin.

01:39:19.000 We love you guys, man.

01:39:20.000 Okay, cool.

01:39:21.000 Yo, Fresh, was there a winner for the raffle?

01:39:24.000 Instead of ending and naming the winner, you'd be in contact shortly.

01:39:27.000 Yes, there's a winner, but I'm doing something special for the winner as well as everybody else that participated in the actual raffle, so stay tuned for that as well.

01:39:35.000 I'll hit you guys on the side about that.

01:39:37.000 Other name Taken says, W Rollo from my father. 0.74

01:39:40.000 Oh, God.

01:39:41.000 Rational male is brilliant.

01:39:42.000 Your elaboration on the female matrix is beyond accurate.

01:39:45.000 This book should be mandatory reading in all schools.

01:39:47.000 I agree.

01:39:48.000 W Big Mo.

01:39:50.000 You can find my book on Amazon.

01:39:53.000 All five of them are on there.

01:39:55.000 Please, if you're wondering how to read the books, read the first one first, and then the other ones aren't in any particular order.

01:40:02.000 Okay.

01:40:03.000 Welcome, brother.

01:40:05.000 Nordy3 says, can you get Taekwondo on the show?

01:40:07.000 Yeah, I heard about him.

01:40:08.000 He would be a perfect guest, especially for this matchmaking show and after hours.

01:40:13.000 He's a professional dating coach.

01:40:14.000 He has also been collabed with Sneeko a few times.

01:40:16.000 Oh, sure.

01:40:17.000 I don't see why not.

01:40:19.000 Okay.

01:40:20.000 DJ Bill says, W Fresh.

01:40:21.000 Thank you, bro.

01:40:21.000 Hey, man.

01:40:22.000 I take my L's, bro.

01:40:24.000 And, you know, I take W sometimes.

01:40:26.000 Alright.

01:40:26.000 That's it.

01:40:27.000 We caught up.

01:40:27.000 That's it.

01:40:27.000 We caught up.

01:40:28.000 Guys, this was a great show.

01:40:29.000 I think we learned a lot.

01:40:30.000 Each and every person here.

01:40:32.000 Ladies, thank you for coming. 0.99

01:40:33.000 Guys as well.

01:40:34.000 And listen, dating is hard nowadays.

01:40:36.000 We understand 100%.

01:40:37.000 But if you give up, you lose the battle.

01:40:39.000 Listen, there's AI bots, there's robots, there's videos, OnlyFans.

01:40:44.000 That's cool and all, but bro, you want real love, man.

01:40:46.000 And look, I've failed a bunch of times.

01:40:48.000 You guys see my emails online.

01:40:49.000 But guess what?

01:40:50.000 I ain't giving up, man.

01:40:51.000 And guess what?

01:40:51.000 I ain't going to China.

01:40:52.000 We're done!

01:40:53.000 Let's get out of here! 0.98

01:40:54.000 Let's get out of here! 0.98

01:40:56.000 Oh, you gotta see what he did there.

01:40:57.000 I'm not going anywhere.

Fresh & Fit - May 15, 2024

A Fresh Match With Fresh&Fit Ft. Rollo Tomassi & Michael Sartain

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