In this episode, we introduce ourselves and talk about who we are, what we do for a living, and what we are looking for in a significant other. We also talk about what it means to be single, and why we are single.
00:18:42.000Typically, it depends on the situation.
00:18:45.000Depends on if I'm drinking, depends on if I'm sober, depends on how you catch me.
00:18:50.000You can catch me at Publix, you can catch me at Dunkin' Donuts, you can catch me on the street, or you catch me at the club, you know what I mean?
00:19:25.000I I'm I I'm an open book, so until I see something that I feel that perhaps it's gonna be a doubt, or you know, I I'm pretty good at discerning in a sort of thing.
00:20:07.000Um, I think that uh the online dating options provide up additional opportunities to meet people, and I'm very selective, so I need all the opportunities right now.
00:20:17.000I'm interested in guys that are from New York, from different parts of the world potentially, because there's not enough in Miami.
00:20:25.000There's not what I'm looking for here.
00:20:42.000Just I think Guys with money, you would say, real money.
00:20:46.000Yeah, but but guys who are well educated who have who went to the best colleges, when I'm on a dating app down here, there's so much to filter through.
00:20:55.000So many people who they just went to high school, they don't list their school.
00:20:59.000Um I'm obviously I'm educated, so I'm looking for somebody who I can connect with on that level.
00:21:05.000Um they don't have to be have a master's degree, and I mean they don't even have to necessarily have a college degree, but they have to educate themselves and have a commitment to learning throughout their lives.
00:21:15.000And so, I mean, if someone went to Yale or whatever school, like if my sister, she but both of my sisters are dentists and dentists in the making.
00:26:37.000Make you fuck with me, like genuinely, you know what I'm saying?
00:26:40.000Because like for me, like having like a promoter background, there's a lot of women that I've come across that you know, a lot of them are just you know, they're trying to get what's best for them.
00:26:48.000Yeah, so I've I've learned that being a friend first, they love you as a friend, they won't try you in certain ways, they won't do certain things to you, and then after they just get to know me and I'm around me a certain amount of time, then it kind of develops into something.
00:28:04.000You know, like are we moving up or are we staying stagnant or what's going on?
00:28:09.000Because based on that is where we measure people and see like if this person is gonna be a weight or it's gonna be a blessing, you know, someone that's gonna take you on to the next level or someone's gonna pull you back.
00:28:20.000So I'm very it I it just you know, I play with the lovers for sure.
00:28:26.000I think that if I g okay, if I give somebody my phone number with my phone number and five dollars, you can find out all of my information online.
00:28:34.000So that's not internet safety, but if somebody were to walk up to me direct and be like, hey, put your Instagram in my phone, then that's something different.
00:28:42.000Then okay, yeah, I'll give you my Instagram because I like that confidence.
00:28:46.000But if we're talking a long-term relationship, I do like to date my friends.
00:29:55.000Um yeah, but uh he what he said like if somebody makes me feel safe at first, there's no pressure in the beginning, then I might take interest in them.
00:30:05.000So you're all saying basically in a nutshell, friendship first is better.
00:30:17.000But let's be honest, most men that do that, you're gonna stay in a friend zone.
00:30:20.000So how would you differentiate between friend forever or upgrade to man?
00:30:25.000Because that that's kind of difficult to do.
00:30:27.000I don't think that's actually difficult to do.
00:30:30.000I don't think it's such a strict black and white friend zone thing.
00:30:33.000Like it's one thing if you call if it's it's like you know, you're like my brother, and then that's more of like I'm friend zoning you.
00:30:40.000But um I think that if you're just genuinely trying to see what you have in common and I feel it's a safe space, it could be within the same night that we take it to a next the next level.
00:30:52.000It doesn't have to be three months, could be the next that night that we flirt a little bit after I feel safe for a five minutes with this person.
00:30:59.000So comfort is very important for sure.
00:31:01.000But okay, friend the friend zone itself is difficult.
00:31:05.000And I'll spend what because let's say for example, right?
00:31:08.000I like you, and I'm a bit nervous about getting to know you better because I feel like you might reject me.
00:31:12.000I'll be your friend and say, okay, I'm your friend.
00:31:22.000I don't think that anyone should pretend ever.
00:31:25.000Like I don't I I'm authentic from the start.
00:31:28.000And uh, I mean, I guess in the past, I used I'm 34 now, and in the past I used to uh try to go by the rules a little bit, but now I just I I don't want to fall for somebody who's pretending to this happened in my past relationship one of my past relationships where the first year I thought that my ex was somebody who it turned out not to be because he was doing little things to win me over and then that was just to win me over and
00:31:57.000and so i'm like especially the safety thing it's like i if someone's authentic that's really i can tell authenticity good point okay that's it what about you is that really your friend because i'm pretending to be your friend to smash no i think that if you want to smash you should say that okay so so but no most guys do that because they'll be like i like her but like i'm gonna be your friend first it's different but like most guys yeah so
00:32:27.000he's he's capping to kind of try to like get you yeah i don't agree with that i mean don't get me wrong it's definitely fucked me up sometimes like it's not every single time i'm i'm the homeboy there's times i've definitely been stuck like damn she's so bad you know what i'm saying but yeah it's i've mastered my game i don't i'm not i'm not i'm not i'm not i'm not a you know what i'm saying i don't i don't have the quick draw like that like i know who i am and and you know how i come off what i'm about so i just you know i just keep it cool and chill and i'm not ugly you know i got personality so yeah how many of them are willing
00:32:57.000to put the niggas that already smashed and in rotation aside during those three months you're talking to me no i'm actually i i see what you so he's in in a nutshell so let's say you're talking to the guy right and you're kind of like in a friend zone pretty much trying to figure him out starting off his friend how many guys that you're smashing currently would you put off to the while you're talking to the guy as a friend?
00:33:27.000a man you should elevate a woman that's hard differentiate as a man you should elevate a woman if you can't elevate a woman get the fuck out of my face like you know what I mean period okay no no no that's a good answer put me in a better position she's saying basically she's gonna play all the cards yeah yeah I'm gonna play the game like you baby problem why should a dude wait three months try to be your friend but friend you do it that way if other niggas are being able to then just say that off the rip so you at the same time recommended for dudes to come with a friendship they're losing in the end.
00:33:57.000I don't want to then just say that what you want to do for you say that if then we're supposed to give you what you want but you don't know what she wants and you but you said you want the friendship.
00:34:07.000Listen no that nigga loses so the one that you want is the one that's gonna lose it.
00:34:12.000I'm just saying if you want to if you want to push you that way the way that you won't you want to be approached as a friend.
00:34:16.000No he does that he loses because other niggas is hitting while he's waiting for his opportunity three months later.
00:34:21.000I never said I want you to approach me as a friend I want you to approach me with confidence.
00:34:24.000I haven't been laid in months I would just I guarantee you after this show we're gonna change that for you okay we'll change that for you I'm willing and able okay awesome I need a I need a co-star.
00:34:45.000Trust me I need a I need a content co-star well just so you know I I was a creator back in my in my day you know um okay allegedly so okay real quick what about you made a very a very good question if the guy you're talking to is in the preliminary friend zone right what you start talking to other guys you're smashing during that period.
00:35:04.000You know the funny thing is that you don't approach dating like a zero zone game.
00:35:08.000You know you approach it based on the instinct you you approach it based on what you know it could be mutually mutually beneficial for both parts you know I know that men have their urges to get things done and that's fine.
00:35:20.000You know that's why we're here for it.
00:35:22.000But at the same time it has to be mutual and it has to be consensus I feel like there's just levels right because okay there's some people that you just skip the line just some people that can just skip the line if you're in Europe if you know what I'm saying just somebody that can skip the line whether it's them tricking or paying bills or like if you come out the gate like that you skip the line.
00:35:42.000Me, I'm kind of like it's a little bit different.
00:35:45.000I'm waiting in line for my turn essentially but I'm I'm saving so much things like for example the person that the the guy that skips the line that's tricking on short and getting it because he's tricking yeah she he she's giving it up because he's tricking her he's doing every case is me she's fucking with me because she fuck with me genuinely.
00:36:43.000But if someone chooses to enter that in a dominant space, that nigga not only getting past the condom level, after two months, he's hitting row and nutting in the bitch.
00:36:52.000That bitch is gonna be having none of her by the time that other nigga get a chance.
00:37:26.000Yeah, because you know, what if in the case you know you're a nice guy and everything, but it just doesn't add up, and you we can go on many dates, but at the same time, perhaps it's not connecting.
00:37:38.000He's paying, he's paying the whole time.
00:37:39.000Yeah, he's paying the whole time, by the way.
00:37:41.000I can understand it, but just about 10 minutes ago, it was recommended to be that guy.
00:38:29.000Yeah, and I'm focused on finding the man that's gonna be my husband.
00:38:34.000And um, if somebody I I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me, and I think it's silly to go after somebody who doesn't like there's so many people out there.
00:38:47.000There's gonna be somebody who's gonna be receptive, obsessed with you, who's going to want you as much as you want them.
00:38:53.000And if you're wasting your time chasing these people that are willing to find somebody at the club, and you know that that that's they're willing to put you last, then that's not your person, and like just move on faster, make yourself available.
00:39:08.000Like I'm actually acting kind of what I think like most men do right now, because I am focused on on finding the one, and I don't want to get stuck with the wrong person.
00:39:20.000So I'd rather be not even not going on, I'm not going on dates, I'm matching with some people, but I'm like going on a few dates because my time, I'm a business owner, and I'm building my practice, and I wanna I don't want to waste times on time on the wrong ones where I could be finding the right one.
00:40:15.000Like I'm being choosy, and I'm like, I'm I'm looking at my list of things that bot, like they need to be a good communicator of the list, okay?
00:40:36.000Um, whatever it is, the degree, tell them right now what you want to do.
00:40:40.000I want somebody who's kind and authentic and um and who wants to build a future together, wants to I want to have a kid or two, um, and I want them to prioritize me.
00:41:04.000Well, I okay that I have to I'm very I'm an emotional person, but I'm emotionally deep, you know, and I need I've had difficulty some sometimes with communication.
00:41:17.000It's not like you're a good communicator or bad.
00:41:21.000There's I for my job I help people to communicate, and I'm happy to do that in my relationship to a degree, but like it has to uh there has to be equal effort put in, or not you know, there has to be somebody who wants to be my teammate, my partner.
00:41:38.000I I feel like honestly, I just think that men and women are just at war right now, especially Miami.
00:41:43.000Because if you really if you really think about it, honestly, it's true.
00:41:46.000I I genuinely feel even the hoes in Miami, I genuinely feel they all want that.
00:41:50.000They all want a kind guy, a sweet guy, someone that's gonna give them security.
00:41:53.000The problem is this is what what happens.
00:41:55.000Good guy comes to Miami, he meets this girl, he's doing everything for her, paying her rent, doing this, that and a third, finds out that she's got six other niggas.
00:42:02.000Now that good guy turns into a dickhead.
00:42:04.000Dickhead comes across a good girl who really wants to be the one for him, care for him, do this and the third.
00:42:09.000She finds out he's got six other girls that he's doing this for now.
00:42:11.000She turns into that cold bitch, and it's just a perpetuating cycle.
00:42:14.000And it's just like who's gonna I don't know who started it.
00:42:16.000I I say it was women because it's Eve, you know what I'm saying?
00:42:22.000Like, even me, I'm not the same person that I was when I when I first, but when I first came like to Edgewater to South Beach, da da da da, I was the sweetest, kindest, nicest guy ever.
00:42:31.000Oh, I'm still kinda nice, I'm still kind of sweet, but I definitely have an asshole in me.
00:42:34.000I can definitely be a dick kid, I can be abrasive, and it's just it's just because of the things, the the drama, this Miami trauma, it's a perpetuating cycle of fuck shit that people.
00:46:10.000He wants to have somebody who he's gonna enjoy the rest of his life with that's gonna lift him up every day, and um that he can rely that he can rely on to be there and be the mother of his children.
00:46:22.000Um, and that he knows is gonna take care of him, make him feel safe, and um we're just um Okay, real quick, dumb.
00:46:34.000Dance and dance together and do fight like just love.
00:46:37.000Does that sound like somebody you want to wipe up right now?
00:46:51.000Well, so he didn't have good communication, so I'm I'm uh looking for communication.
00:46:55.000So long-term relationship, did he not want any of those?
00:46:57.000Well, did not want the things that you want that you're saying that the guy will want.
00:47:01.000No, he he wanted that I didn't end up wanting him because well, this one particular guy like made me think he was somebody different than he was.
00:47:09.000And I broke up with him at the end, he said, uh if you want someone to take you on dates the rest of your life, that's not gonna be me.
00:47:26.000He was putting in more effort in the beginning than Yeah, he always had the chocolate I liked and the wine that I liked, and did he ever have any complaints before he stopped doing those things?
00:47:58.000No, I don't even want to talk about it too much.
00:48:00.000I'm just it's like I don't need to focus on one person.
00:48:03.000Like I'm just saying in general, like I've learned from my relationships.
00:48:06.000I've learned a lot of things that I do want because especially like the first the guy I was in a five-year relationship with, there were a lot of things about him that made him like a wonderful person that I will look for in a man in the future.
00:48:16.000So, what do you think that you provide that no other female does that would make a man want to be with you forever?
00:48:24.000I said what do you provide that no other female can provide that like because there's a lot of intelligent women, you're not the only person with a masters, you know.
00:48:31.000No, no, no, no, I know, but like I'm not you're asking.
00:48:34.000I'm imaginative, I'm interested in a lot of things.
00:48:40.000I was like, I I'm always gonna be interested in trying new things and doing doing fun things throughout life.
00:48:48.000And I I lift, I'm I'm an optimistic person, and I'm gonna lift you up whenever you're feeling feeling low.
00:48:56.000Like my that my exes, their moms always said to me that I was had a calming effect on them.
00:49:00.000And I don't think of myself as a very calm person.
00:49:03.000So you're just a niche woman, you gotta find a niche man.
00:49:06.000I mean you have a certain kind of niche.
00:49:09.000Yeah, I need someone to have like this really deep special connection.
00:49:12.000That's not hard, that's not easy to find.
00:49:13.000I don't expect that to be easy to find.
00:49:15.000So we can all agree here that like when you come to like pushing women, giving them what they want up front, it doesn't serve you pretty much as a man.
00:49:21.000So let's play a video real quick to kind of illustrate this in detail because I think answers today are hilarious, but some of them are actually good.
00:49:27.000So we'll respond to this with a video here.
00:55:50.000Uh that's why I like to be the friend first.
00:55:53.000We actually get to know which one you fuck with me genuinely.
00:55:55.000So you just you won't try certain shit.
00:55:56.000So if we go to dinner, you're gonna appreciate that dinner because you genuinely enjoy spending time with me and hanging out with me wherever it's the situation may be.
00:56:02.000You know, I that whole, like, hey, I think you're so beautiful.
00:56:08.000Not that the woman doesn't deserve to be taken to dinner.
00:56:10.000I just believe they get to know each other first, and and you know, you know what I got going on, and I know what you got going on, because you know, there there is a lot of shit going on.
00:56:17.000And again, with my promoter background, I just know certain things.
00:56:21.000So I just move a little bit more cautiously.
00:57:35.000I don't really like doing the friend zone because a lot of women there, you can even see on this podcast, women, they're very influential creatures.
00:57:50.000You can set the standards on the first date, and you say, well, she won't do certain things to you because you're a friend.
00:57:56.000You can make, well, not, I don't want to say the word make, but a woman can sense your energy for what you gonna fuck with and what you won't.
00:58:02.000And on that first day, that standard is set, and she'll do shit for you that she won't do for other niggas, and she won't do shit to you that she'll do to other niggas just from the respect that you got from her on that first day.
00:58:12.000So, I mean, having it through weeks, I think it can help.
00:58:15.000But you can get that in the first day, just depending on how you lead with that woman, setting the standards.
00:58:20.000I mean, and women like to be corrected.
00:58:22.000You know, a lot of women, men are so afraid to correct women on the first day.
00:58:26.000I take them out to the date, expensive restaurant, and they do shit I don't like.
00:59:46.000The thing is the the the climate that we're in, sometimes it's you you gotta really be careful what you do, what you say and how you say it, like even with just being dominant, because that shit can be misconstrued for you being aggressive or the narcissist, or it's it's the just the climate everything, even with like movies, how you can't make certain jokes.
01:00:06.000It's just that's why I play the friends so like so much, because I just like the world that I'm in, the life that I'm in, man.
01:00:13.000I am not trying to get caught up in my show.
01:00:16.000I don't want a guy that that if I feel controlled by them, it is a red flag and I run.
01:00:21.000Like I do not I like when a man is like I want to take what is your ideal first date, and I made the reservation, and that's how they're taking the lead in that way, right?
01:00:31.000They're making the what do you call controlling though?
01:00:33.000If they're telling me what shoes to wear, then that would feel I would I feel like I feel a balance between the two of these guys here.
01:00:41.000We're like, we're not gonna go on a date.
01:00:43.000More leaning on to this side, that's why uh uh um you want a guy in the middle of these two.
01:00:52.000I I mean yeah, I want someone to be real and be like really who they are, and if that's realness is not for me, that's okay.
01:00:58.000We go different ways, you know what I mean?
01:00:59.000Like, but I want I want someone who respects my and also and also like thinks it's sexy, my independence and like my own ability.
01:01:10.000Like I have I'm I'm confident in the way that I dress myself and like my fashion my sense of style.
01:01:15.000I would love it if a man wants to take me shopping or something.
01:02:24.000But gentle masculinity is a blend of uh emotional availability and intelligence, and it you know, it's a play where you're you have an ability to be able to discern and read a room and know how to manage women essentially correctly.
01:02:38.000Um, that's someone who's also per se uh understands the power of consent.
01:02:46.000I just I'm just missing emotional maturity because I snap.
01:02:49.000So emotional you can show emotions, but you don't you don't know how to sometimes like with men, they do not, and this is something that women complain all the time is that he doesn't know, he doesn't tell me what he feels, and and at the end of the day, that's you know, very important to be able to, and it all comes down to mental health.
01:03:06.000That's a that's a rabbit hole in itself, you know.
01:03:08.000So is that considered emotional intelligence?
01:04:13.000Whoever I like more when I get there, uh, that I feel like I can build a comfy, happy life with, but I also am very into polyamory and potentially potentially being in more of like a I I believe that my I'm gonna love my partner.
01:04:29.000Nigga, we been up that I want them to have all of the experiences that they possibly can.
01:04:34.000Yeah, and I think that my partner at the end of the day should be my home-based partner.
01:04:38.000Like, if you want to go sleep with somebody else, I think we should be able to have that conversation.
01:04:43.000And if we're both comfortable with it, am I comfortable with you doing that without me?
01:05:11.000It's about it's about knowing what you're what you're telling somebody else is what that you know that they can rely on you, that your word, you're gonna like hold yourself to your word, they're going to be able to trust you.
01:05:26.000And so if they if that's not for them, they can leave, right?
01:05:30.000It's like cheating is doing that with and like pretending that you're and I think nowadays everyone cheats.
01:05:39.000So how about we have this open dialogue and communication and trust to where like if you're gonna go do that, at least I want to know about it.
01:05:46.000So I'm I'm off honesty, I'm all for letting people know what the honest truth up front.
01:05:52.000The problem is I think you want to control a little bit what happens behind the scenes, which granted, you should know what's happening, but to say, if I allow, if I want you to do this, it's kind of like if I don't think if I allow, I think that's if both parties are comfortable.
01:06:24.000So I think we have a dilemma here because if you notice Prince and Dom and ladies, we all have different things that we want, and most of them don't align.
01:06:32.000And the funny part is most men don't know what women want.
01:07:56.000And I've I've dealt with women who who have not had so many bodies, and maybe there's a scent or the shit don't grip like how it no when I say set, like it doesn't stink, but you know, vagina vagina, you know what I'm saying?
01:08:07.000Like, or maybe it doesn't grip as much, or you know, maybe she can't suck that good or something like that.
01:08:11.000So that shit don't necessarily bother me.
01:10:10.000Dom, how would you look what you look for in the girl?
01:10:13.000I guess I could say, I mean, you know, peace is a good answer, but I would say I'll to look for a woman when I'm looking for a woman, it's to be like clay, more so because women, it doesn't matter how they start off, they're never really perfect for you.
01:10:25.000And I noticed the older they get, the less they're willing to listen.
01:10:28.000So I would say submission, but I'm not asking for a girl to be completely like dumb, submissive, and waiting on my answer on everything.
01:10:34.000I want her to want ambition, have ambitions, but at the same time allow me to play my role to help evolve and elevate them to be like clay.
01:10:41.000Because none of us are perfect, but the man, my job is to make you better.
01:11:09.000And I am always evolving, like I said before.
01:11:11.000And I evolve from the people I surround myself with and the people I choose to surround myself with.
01:11:16.000Um, like I I think that we can lift each other up and we should grow together.
01:11:21.000Um in a relationship, you can grow together, you can grow apart, and you can build each other up, you can tear each other down.
01:11:27.000And like I think that I like even though I have an evolved sense of self at this point in my life compared to who I was before, like I never want to stop growing and changing.
01:11:38.000Like, even my grandmother is currently growing and changing in ways that you'd never expect a grandmother.
01:11:44.000You don't, if you say if I told you to put the shoes on or what shoes to wear, that was that would we'll be the wrong way.
01:11:49.000If we went, if we went out on a date, not necessarily and we sat down to eat, where would you sit?
01:11:55.000Do you put any thought in where you sit?
01:11:57.000I appreciate when the man is gonna see is gonna you know pull out the chair for me and want me to sit in uh the better seat where I have a better uh view of the restaurant or something.
01:12:09.000How damn you see like I appreciate those things.
01:12:12.000I do appreciate those chivalrous and like family gestures and stuff.
01:12:16.000See, that answer is why you should listen to me when I tell you what shoes to wear.
01:12:19.000Because when we go to a restaurant and sit down, I'm looking at the door, so if there's an active shooter coming in, I can tell you to get down.
01:12:25.000That's my job as a man to protect you.
01:12:27.000We take it on a whole different level.
01:12:44.000Uh but in the beginning, that's not where this this is not how this came across when we first when you missed that opportunity with that man because he told you to put shoes on.
01:12:54.000Men like that tell you what shoes to wear.
01:12:56.000The men that's going to protect you, the men that's looking out for you.
01:12:59.000But communication, and that communication was lacking.
01:14:04.000But what I'm saying is is the based on the context that I had and what we were talking about and dominance and all these other pieces to the puzzle of what we were talking about.
01:14:12.000It sounded like your perspective on that was like I'm gonna be controlling, I'm gonna tell my woman what to wear, I'm gonna tell my women, and I want to elevate her, and that's gonna be that's my job as a man.
01:14:23.000And I I think that it's a it's uh we elevate each other, and I I think I love to be with somebody who also wants to learn and grow, and I can be a source of that too, and I want them to respect me in that way.
01:14:34.000But without the context, I didn't belittle the woman in no way.
01:14:36.000I just told her set the standards what she was where.
01:14:39.000It shouldn't have really gave off any red flags from you unless you had some type of experiences to make you feel like a man that talked that way.
01:21:20.000I'm not super religious, it's a cultural thing, and especially with like everything going on in the world, like is it pressure from your parents too as well?
01:22:03.000It's um but yeah, it's it's important to me.
01:22:06.000I did date uh like one of my first boyfriends, he wasn't Jewish, and I realized that I want to I don't want to have a Christmas tree in my home.
01:25:19.000But I do think that that yeah, see, thank you.
01:25:21.000I do think that uh kind of like what you said, that it's just the perpetual battle, and that a lot of girls at that age that's kind of how they are now.
01:25:32.000I do think that the hookup culture is kind of a problem, and I do think that dating apps are a contributor to that.
01:25:41.000It's so easy to access, you know, if you are someone who's always looking for the greener grass, then you can do that in the way that the world works.
01:25:51.000Um so I can understand it being hard and even harder than when I was her age, um, to be in a relationship with someone.
01:26:01.000But at the same time, uh I I mean I do think that both people need to add to the to the relationship.
01:26:08.000I don't think that I'm not like I'm princess over here and I'm waiting for you to make to make my life better.
01:26:14.000But I do think that when it's right, we're elevating each other.
01:26:18.000So uh this video just shows a lot of stuff where most women nowadays may be single forever.
01:26:23.000And it's because standards are way too high.
01:27:58.000I will say she's also right about everyone wants to fuck.
01:28:01.000We all do want to fuck, but some people you'll fuck and you'll end up in a relationship with.
01:28:05.000There's a girl that I I fucked with the first time we were together for five years, you know.
01:28:09.000Um, but to to bring it all back together, she she is uh I do believe she's doing a lot, but there's someone that's gonna love her for who she is, that personality that she has.
01:28:16.000Again, this is just what she's showing for for this camera in front of her homegirl.
01:28:20.000But when she's with someone that makes her feel soft or makes her feel some, she might that might tone down a little bit, you know what I'm saying?
01:28:25.000I think she's just being extra for the camera, but I don't think her being me at mid doesn't mean that she doesn't deserve to get what it is she wants.
01:28:34.000I think she's just being extra for the camera.
01:28:36.000I personally think she's being extra for the camera.
01:28:38.000So I have I have cousins, you know, they're a little bit like that, and they're they're big, but they're funny, you know, they're not saying they don't think they know they know themselves, they know they're big, they know they're not fucking Tyra Banks and this, that and the third, and they accept it, but they're who they are.
01:29:33.000And it's crazy that if it would take the right man to tone her down, it's completely unfair to men because we're being told here that men supposed to heal first.
01:29:43.000She has to do that, she has to do that shadow work herself.
01:29:45.000She has to be able to heal before she is even approachable.
01:29:48.000For me, uh, I'm just a little bit more empathetic when it comes to women because I I come from a single mother household where it was just her, you know what I'm saying, and having to raise me and then raise my little sister.
01:29:58.000So I just have a little bit more grace for women like this.
01:30:01.000I feel like she's just young, you know what I'm saying?
01:30:02.000She's gonna grow and I I do I I I hear you, but I do feel like there's someone that's gonna soften her up.
01:30:07.000Someone that's gonna make her that's gonna love her for her, make her feel like she's the only girl in the world, you know what I'm saying?
01:31:28.000I mean, again, she's she's kind of like OD, but some of the things where she was like, you know, I can do certain things for myself, right?
01:31:35.000I don't want none of my sisters fuck with no bum nigga.
01:31:37.000I want them to fuck with someone who's gonna love them for them and treat them, give them that little fairy tale fan fantasy that they want.
01:31:43.000But that that's because I have five sisters.
01:31:45.000You know, so I I don't think it's wrong for women to be like, hey, if I can go to Saks and buy myself some heels, you know what I'm saying?
01:31:52.000My nigga, you should be able to do that too.
01:31:53.000You know, that's just because I'm biased.
01:32:20.000But wait, there's niggas at the top that aren't six four, great looking.
01:32:23.000There's some nerdy looking niggas that got bred and they know that they're they're nerds and they gotta pay for pussy, or they don't they don't not everyone that's successful ha is a is a Caesar or a Cedric or you or me, you know what I'm saying?
01:32:34.000There's there's there's there's niggas that aren't and they just leave normal lives.
01:32:37.000I agree, but what what often she's gonna find out guy he's anywhere that now that's very slim is very slim, yeah.
01:32:44.000So you know I I have uh three sisters, I don't have five, but at the same time, I have my little sister, and I never prepare her for failure.
01:32:51.000I'll tell her what a man like me is looking for.
01:33:41.000You don't feel special when you're talking to someone that's desperate.
01:33:45.000I think that there's there isn't just I think that it's hard to find the right person for you if you're looking for the if you're looking for the best person for you.
01:33:54.000I think it shouldn't be easy to find datings about finding all the wrong people until you find the right one.
01:33:59.000Like, it's I I just don't think that I think that there is gonna be someone out there for her.
01:34:46.000So um, yeah, I I just think, man, like if you want to have a man a certain caliber, you gotta be on uh realize what it really takes to have that man and know what he wants as well, but she's kinda like in her overall, so it's fine.
01:35:15.000And I like to hear everybody's different thoughts and uh I don't know, I really I really enjoyed it the dog here that love getting a little bit tired, but having a good yeah, sorry, uh quick slap just made this uh meme says this that ain't Prince, this is Prince.
01:36:32.000I I think it's really interesting to hear all of the different opinions, and especially I'm not from Miami, I'm from a little bit more North Florida.
01:36:39.000And I know that the culture down here is so different.