On today's episode of the Fresh Fit Podcast, we have our first guest on the show, Tiffany! We talk about what it's like to work at Salt and Straw, how she makes a living as an ice cream shop, and what she does to support her family. We also talk about how she got her start in the fitness industry, and how she ended up working at Salt & Straw. This episode is brought to you by Fresh Fit Clips. Fresh Fit is a non-profit organization that provides health and wellness resources to underserved areas of the community. If you or someone you know is in need of a safe, healthy, and fun place to spend time and money, please visit FreshFit.locals and join in on the fun and support the cause. It's $20 to join and you'll be supporting the cause, supporting the fight, and supporting the people you care most about. Thank you so much for all the support and stay tuned for more episodes in the future. Stay tuned to the end of the episode for a new episode where we have a live interview with Tiffany and I! We'll be back next week with a new guest, so don't miss it! Cheers, Cheers! -Tiffany & Chris - Cheers. -Jonah & Chris. Timestamps: 0:00 - What's up! 1:00:00- What do you do for a living? 2:30: What are you working for? 3: What's your day job? 4:30 - Where do you like to date? 5:00 6:00 After Hours? 7: Who do you want to date someone? 8:15 - How do you work for a night out? 9:20 - What is your favorite ice cream? 11:00 | What s your date night? 12:30 | What's a day? 13:30 14:15 15:00 Is your favorite cup? 16: What is a date night?! 17:00 Do you have a date with someone you're dating? 18:00 What sipping? 19:00 Can you date someone else? 22:00 Are you a nerd? 21:00 / 16:00/16:30 / 17:20 | What do they do for me? 26:00 + 27:00 & 27:20
00:13:51.000Yeah, but I mean the easiest way is through marriage, of course.
00:13:54.000But the reason why I say that is because, from what I used to do back in the day, French people are some of the most common people to come to Miami and overstay their visa.
00:21:13.000So, when people know you're 40, they're apprehensive, they're stepping on eggshells.
00:21:19.000But when they think you're 24, 27 years old, you have a more authentic conversation.
00:21:24.000Wouldn't it be fair to say, though, that if they think that you're older, because you said auntie and you gave these terms, but wouldn't that imply more respect, though, when they're older?
00:21:33.000Men might approach you a little bit differently and not necessarily try to infantilize you when you're older?
00:21:44.000It depends on what kind of conversations you're engaging in, right?
00:21:46.000Like, if I'm in a corporate America doing tech, and I don't want to have the perspective of someone saying, oh, she's old, we gotta, like, take some time and teach her.
00:21:58.000But when you're looking for a relationship, then you definitely want to be transparent with the age.
00:25:45.000I felt like I'd gone through this whole process of, like, becoming one with myself, loving myself.
00:25:52.000And then I looked at my life and examined it and saw that, you know, when you're healed and you're actually happy, there's an aspect of, if you're living in fear, then are you really happy?
00:29:24.000So ladies, think of a question that you guys might have for us or a topic that you want to discuss.
00:29:29.000If not, then we'll move on to a topic.
00:29:31.000We want to give the ladies the first right of refusal to have a topic or address something that you might disagree with that we've said on our podcast or anything like that.
00:29:38.000So please prove us wrong because most girls don't have anything to say.
00:29:42.000Ladies, you've been married to your husband for 10 years.
00:29:45.000However, you find out that he cheated on you 11 years ago.
00:32:11.000Maybe I wasn't doing something right, vice versa.
00:32:14.000I know that there's I know that it's not right to cheat, and I know that that shouldn't be what it should be, but at the end of the day, I feel like it'll happen.
00:33:01.000So I will stay if his mind is right, continuing to be committed and promising not to let that happen again.
00:33:10.000If it was just a one-time thing or even if it was something that was going on for a little bit, finding out 11 years later is a long time to...
00:33:20.000Find out about something bad that happened.
00:33:23.000Something that a woman would feel some type of way.
00:33:26.000Any woman would probably want to be out of the relationship.
00:34:57.000Going back to your question, so you said you would start fresh at 31 and you'd be okay with it and then you're saying, you're questioning Chris asking, well why would you want to get back at 31 and you're thinking that 31 is still young.
00:35:12.000Yeah, because, you know, most guys prefer young girls who are 20, you know, fertile girls, 31, the older you get, your eggs, you know, more or less dry out.
00:35:23.000And most guys won't lie to you when they see older girls.
00:36:50.000I'm saying if a guy, right, is successful or on the way up, right, and you have to choose between a younger girl or older girl, who would you choose, logically speaking?
00:37:51.000It's also around that age, like 30, 31, your biological clock.
00:37:54.000It's not necessarily running up, but that's when it starts to get to that age.
00:37:57.000And for a guy, especially a high-value man, if he's wanting to start a family, he's definitely going to take a younger girl seriously for that reason.
00:38:03.000I don't think they take younger girls seriously, honey.
00:43:58.000Yeah, men and women just look for different things.
00:44:00.000Men between 18 and 60 years old when polled, preferred women between 18 and 24.
00:44:04.000It's been that way since the beginning of time.
00:44:06.000There's a bunch of reasons for it from a biological standpoint, but younger women, you know, are more likely to bring a child to fruition, right?
00:44:12.000Be able to have that baby and have the baby be healthy.
00:44:15.000Like, men look for replication value versus women look for survival value.
00:44:19.000This is why women want a guy that's older.
00:44:20.000Like, you even said to yourself, I don't want a guy that's 35.
00:44:22.000I want a guy at least my age, if not older.
00:44:24.000Well, a part of that is because you want a guy that's competent, has more resources than yourself, stronger than yourself, more confidence, more ambition.
00:44:30.000So men and women look for different things.
00:44:31.000Men don't care about a woman's experience because men don't look at women for survival value.
00:44:39.000Women look for men for survival value.
00:44:40.000So that's why we're okay with getting a younger, tighter, hotter girl that is more malleable, as she said, because when a woman is more malleable, your life is going to be easier as a man.
00:44:48.000You want someone that's going to follow you.
00:44:50.000I mean, but the only thing is sometimes those younger women, when they get into a serious relationship, they don't really know how to run a household.
00:45:15.000When I was at the academy, I used to be an agent with Homeland, and when they teach you how to shoot, they prefer you've never shot before because they can teach you how to properly fire a firearm without anticipating and doing a bunch of stupid shit.
00:45:29.000The guys that would always bomb at the shooting range a lot of times came from other agencies that taught them bad habits.
00:45:35.000So every shooting instructor preferred to teach someone that didn't know anything versus someone that was experienced.
00:45:41.000Same situation applies with dealing with women.
00:45:43.000You want a girl a lot of times that has a blank slate so that you can teach her how you want her to be and how to be a good girlfriend and wife to you.
00:45:50.000Because every guy has different standards.
00:45:51.000But when a woman kind of comes in with her own agenda, her own experiences, etc., a lot of times she's stuck in her own ways.
00:45:56.000Maybe I'm not listening to you, nigga, blah, blah, blah.
00:45:58.000So this is something that a lot of guys don't want.
00:46:00.000It's better to work with a clean slate and have her malleable and put her...
00:46:04.000Kind of create your girlfriend, your wife that you want versus dealing with someone that has preconceived experiences with a man that you necessarily might not align with.
00:46:11.000So you want a woman who doesn't really know herself yet?
00:46:14.000You're telling me a younger girl is better so you can mold her into what she wants.
00:46:37.000And so what I'm saying is, generally speaking, if you don't have somebody, like some type of leader, mentor, or any other person in your life to help you, then naturally you can fall into these worse habits.
00:46:47.000Just men that do that are very far and few in between.
00:46:51.000There's men who actually want to lead and who actually know how to lead are very rare these days.
00:46:57.000But that's worse because the man that was not leading her was molding her to be independent.
00:48:05.000Yeah, he used to spy on me when I was working.
00:48:07.000And then also, at the same time, I also worked, went to school, had a little side business doing jewelry, and for almost the whole relationship, we split everything 50-50.
00:48:20.000I guess guys just didn't want to lose females like us, huh?
00:48:23.000Yeah, it's like, how am I doing all this?
00:48:47.000I think, okay, maybe I can try to explain it a little bit better for the girls, but me, young as a 20-year-old versus, you know, a 30-year-old, and I'm not bashing your age or nothing.
00:48:59.000You can't control your age, you know what I mean?
00:49:04.000For a high-value man, whatever, a guy that has money, whatever, I feel like he would prefer to be with a younger girl because, like, I would be more open to being coached rather than a 30-year-old.
00:49:19.000You know, she has that experience, so she doesn't really want to be told, you know, this is what you have to do and all that.
00:49:27.000Me being 20, I would love a guy to tell me what to do.
00:50:43.000So, they're not getting the women that they want if they want these younger women.
00:50:48.000I think there's guys out there that want to lead and be dominant, but they just don't pick certain women.
00:50:54.000And I think that's a hard pill for a lot of women to swallow because they think, oh, there's no guys out here that want to lead or be dominant or whatever.
00:51:00.000It's just that, no, those guys just don't want you a lot of the times, unfortunately.
00:52:02.000So if you want equality, you have to deal with what comes with equality, and that means equal responsibility, which means you want to go ahead into the workforce, you want to be independent, you want to be strong?
00:52:10.000You have to forfeit some level of chivalry, because what you're talking about, traditionalism, chivalry, etc., That assumes that women and men are not equal, but since men and women are equal now, and that's what women wanted, you'll have to deal with the consequences, which is what?
00:52:24.000Guys are not going to adhere to their masculine burden of performance anymore because women want to be independent and strong.
00:53:05.000Because women don't like being told the reality that, hey...
00:53:09.000You might have invested in the wrong thing, spending all that money going to college, when in reality you should have taken those prime years and probably found a guy.
00:55:55.000I think one of the things, the biggest lies we tell women is that their sexual market value or their value in the dating world is non-perishable.
00:57:48.000Like, you have to make yourself more attractive to the gender that you're trying to attract, but women think, I've done a lot of self-development, blah, blah, blah, I'm a match now, etc.
00:57:57.000Men don't care about none of that shit, because if you aren't attractive enough to get his attention, you don't give a fuck about your self-help and all this other stuff.
01:05:12.000Yeah, and guys, we got almost 20,000 of y'all watching right now between YouTube and Rumble, so real quick, I'm gonna, from this point forward, Chris?
01:07:39.000Do you think women actually pursue college and higher education to get educated and get a career or to find a better male candidate for a relationship?
01:09:45.000I think most women actually go to school ultimately to find a guy.
01:09:50.000Because what I've realized is that women will put their career on hold and or their education on hold if they meet the right guy.
01:09:55.000So I think meeting the right guy overrides an education and a career.
01:09:59.000I think women kind of go to school and it's like, okay, I want the career, but if the right guy comes along, they're going to drop all that for that guy.
01:10:05.000I think that's how it should be, but do you really think that's how it is like today in 2023?
01:10:11.000Do you really think most girls have that mindset?
01:12:19.000If I didn't have to, I would find a way to do hair, nails, something.
01:12:24.000Because in my mind, that's still working.
01:12:27.000If you had a guy that could take care of all the bills and you didn't have to work and you can be at home with the children, would you prefer to do that?
01:13:13.000I think given the circumstance that most of you agree that most women would prefer to be at home if given the option, I think again, that's why I said before, women go to school.
01:13:24.000Women go to school and get educated, but if the right guy comes along, I think they would throw that by the wayside and go ahead and build a family if the guy was right and he could take care of the bills.
01:13:33.000I think when most women work, what I realize is they'll work, but they'll want to do something working from home, something kind of easy, something that's part-time.
01:13:40.000You know, women in general don't have the same...
01:13:44.000Saw in vigor to go ahead and be in the workforce because, let's be honest here, no one cares how much money y'all make.
01:13:49.000If men cared about how much money a woman earned, y'all would not be so happy to be at home if given the opportunity.
01:13:57.000But men work because we know that our value is based on what we create.
01:14:00.000And I feel like just being at home in general, that's work itself.
01:23:53.000I mean, you even said it yourself, you have subscribers that are attractive men, but they're still looking at OnlyFans.
01:23:58.000I mean, that should tell you that it's really tough, even for good-looking guys.
01:24:02.000You know, and there's a bunch of reasons for it.
01:24:03.000I'm not here to sit here and cry like, oh my god, it's so tough.
01:24:06.000But there's a reason why men that can have sex with a lot of women are respected and women that have sex with a lot of dudes are not.
01:24:10.000So I get what you're saying, like, oh, if I met a guy and he had 300 body counts, blah, blah, blah.
01:24:14.000Yeah, but more than likely that guy is probably doing something very well if he's had sex with 300 women.
01:24:19.000He's either very successful, very good looking, very charming, very charismatic, maybe in great shape, or a combination of all of them because it is very difficult for men to have sex with a lot of women.
01:24:29.000I would argue that when a man has sex with a lot of women, he's actually more attractive to women because he has a bunch of traits that other women find attractive.
01:24:37.000Contrary to popular belief, women really aren't that special.
01:24:39.000You guys generally look for the same things in men.
01:24:53.000Yes, because human beings are way more similar to each other than we like to admit.
01:24:57.000Like, women will sit there and say, I'm special, I'm different, but the reality is you're like the next female.
01:25:01.000You're looking for the same exact traits in your man.
01:25:03.000It just comes down to how much are you willing to compromise on those traits, being there and not being there.
01:25:08.000But in general, women are looking for the same traits in men.
01:25:11.000This is why men that have sex with a lot of women can do so because he has a multiple of these traits or a couple of these traits at a really high level.
01:25:26.000So you're saying that men don't really have a lot of sex with a lot of different women, and I've heard it that a lot of guys are asking things like they want to know, they want to verify a woman's body count.
01:25:40.000And so is that why, in your opinion, that you think that men get really emotional when they hear the actual body count of a woman?
01:25:48.000Well, that's a new age practice because I want to say this just outright.
01:25:52.000A guy with a game doesn't ask for a body count.
01:26:10.000Before the advent of modern technology, to put it simply, if I had sex with a girl, right, and I couldn't, and we didn't have birth control, excuse me, we didn't have paternity tests, I wouldn't know if the kid was mine.
01:26:21.000So, the biggest fear for a man is raising a child that he thought was his and he finds out later on isn't his.
01:26:41.000So that's why guys have an issue with a girl that has a high body count, because the higher woman's body count, the less likely that the child is yours.
01:26:48.000I mean, I know we have paternity tests now, but you gotta remember that in our animal brain, we didn't have all these modern conventions that we have now.
01:28:43.000Um, you know, like the black players, they're dating white, tall, blonde women that look like, I don't know, they could be on OnlyFans or something like that, but I think it, why do they date these women?
01:29:00.000Youth and beauty are the most important things to men, and age a lot of the times ties into that.
01:29:05.000But you don't think they're breeding to make other more basketball players?
01:29:56.000Once you're, if you're an NBA player, right, and you're really attractive and you got a bunch of girls coming after you, then you can afford to be a bit more selective and go into the weeds and say, I want a girl that's, I'm 6'10", I want a girl that's six foot.
01:30:07.000But most guys don't have that same level of ability to be that selective.
01:30:11.000So most guys will just take what they can get.
01:30:13.000So how many, so you're saying that they're taking what they could get?
01:30:16.000Most guys will take what they can get.
01:30:19.000So, when you're an NBA player, top 1.001%, yeah, you can afford to say, I only want to date a Swedish model that's 6 foot tall, that's super attractive.
01:30:28.000But what you don't see is that he's also going to go ahead and bang a girl that's 5 foot 2.
01:30:32.000He's also going to have a mistress that's 5 foot 5.
01:30:34.000He's going to have another girl that's 5'7".
01:31:35.000I mean, there's always exceptions to the rule, but in general, most guys would prefer to not wife up a promiscuous woman because it comes with issues.
01:31:57.000I mean, people are not going to remember him.
01:31:59.000Basically, what she did was she had sex with August, who was like a teenager, a kid that they, I think, adopted.
01:32:05.000She had an affair with him, and then she went on the red table and said, oh, we got an entanglement, didn't take accountability or whatever.
01:32:10.000And this is what I tell guys, I mean, controversial takes or whatever, but I tell men in general, you should never commit to a woman that has a promiscuous past.
01:32:17.000And the reason why is because it will rear its ugly head and absolutely destroy your reputation and tarnish your legacy.
01:32:23.000People aren't going to remember Fresh Prince of Bel-Air anymore.
01:32:25.000They're not going to remember Independence Day, I Am Legend, Ali.
01:32:29.000They're not going to remember Seven Pounds.
01:32:30.000They're not going to remember any of these movies.
01:32:32.000They're going to remember him sitting at the edge of a red table crying because his wife decided to bang a 20-year-old, which is ridiculous.
01:32:40.000So the tables were turned in their situation.
01:32:42.000Usually the man wants a younger woman after his woman gets older and he's the one that cheats.
01:35:38.000Alright, just how we letting everybody know you fake pussy hole, because I couldn't watch you right outside, but you want to say nothing, because you pussy hole, you pussy hole.
01:37:28.000Well, it's a natural selection, right?
01:37:30.000If a woman sees that her man is attracted to by lots of other women, it makes her more attractive.
01:37:35.000But that being said, psychologically, and so far as the relationship, unless I had pre-established with my man that our relationship was going to be like that, I would feel hurt and betrayed, and that would affect our relationship.
01:38:13.000So basically, it's not necessarily that we like men who cheat on us, but when it comes to natural selection, women naturally like a man who has other women who are attracted to him.
01:38:23.000That is a signifier, like a very strong indication that this is a good man.
01:38:31.000When he was talking about like back in the day, you know, and that stuff still affects our brain structure the way that we think.
01:38:38.000Now, would we say that, would it hurt us?
01:38:41.000If it's not pre-established in the relationship that it's open or he can, you know, see other people on the side and it comes as a surprise, it's going to hurt.
01:38:49.000It's going to impact the relationship.
01:38:51.000But would it make you less attracted to him?
01:38:53.000No, it's probably actually going to do the opposite from a psychological perspective.
01:39:48.000But it's not how you liked him, other women do.
01:39:52.000And if he worked that hard to get to that point, just saying, he might want to indulge in that because, once again, it took so long to get to that point.
01:39:59.000So we're just saying, is it smarter or dumber to leave?
01:40:02.000I mean, you wouldn't know the goals of the woman, right?
01:40:07.000If she wants a man, then you need to understand what that looks like for you.
01:40:12.000Is he a good man outside of the cheating?
01:40:36.000I'm just saying if the man's taking care of you, he's actually there for you, and he's going to be your ideal man, why leave to find somebody that's going to do the same thing to you, which is going to cheat?
01:42:11.000So if a man actually checks all these boxes and he requests very little of you and you fuck up and one of the few things he requests, that's a big treacherous.
01:43:08.000I guess it's more tolerable, but what I'm trying to say is that if men are predisposed to look at other women and they want quantity and they have an insatiable sexual thirst, the only thing really holding them back is their capability of actually enacting on it.
01:43:20.000So what I'm telling you is the higher value of the man, the easier it is for him to enact on it.
01:43:24.000Or he has such high value that he's actually loyal.
01:43:28.000Are we going to live in reality here or are we going to live in a dream world?
01:43:42.000I mean, moralistically, I find it really difficult to believe that without a true religious influence that you can have very, very extremely strong moral implications in those types of situations.
01:43:54.000Actually, some of the most moral people I know are not religious, and some of them are atheists.
01:44:26.000And this is what I mean when I say women truly don't...
01:44:29.000This is what I mean when I say that women in general really don't understand men.
01:44:32.000Like, if you really understood men, you would know when a man really busts his ass and creates a legacy, a name, etc., he's going to want to enjoy the fruits of his labor.
01:44:40.000And unfortunately, a lot of times for you guys, that's other women.
01:47:20.000So, as a man, you gotta know what women want and what they respond to.
01:47:24.000What they say that they want and what they respond to favorably are two different things.
01:47:27.000Women say they want nice guys, but when they meet a nice guy, they tell them, oh, sorry, I didn't feel a spark.
01:47:31.000So, with all due respect, I don't listen to what women say they want because I don't know what the fuck you guys want.
01:47:36.000You don't even know what you want to eat.
01:47:38.000So, when you say you want a loyal man, what you're really saying is, you want a guy that has the capability to have sex with a bunch of women but still chooses you.
01:47:47.000And I'm telling you that that's not realistic.
01:47:50.000Because if a man has the capability of having sex with a bunch of women, he's not going to just have sex with you.
01:47:54.000He's going to enact on the ability to have sex with those other women because men are predisposed genetically to have sex with as many women as they can.
01:48:02.000And that's why your industry of pornography exists in the first place.
01:48:06.000It literally monetizes on men's insatiable thirst for variety in women.
01:48:11.000There's a reason why pornography is a billion dollar industry and men are the predominant consumers of it and not women.
01:48:16.000Okay, but maybe that's majority of men, but it's not every man.
01:48:20.000It's a staggering majority of men, and if you go ahead and you go into the men that you actually find attractive that are tall, money, status, etc.
01:48:27.000But what if you don't care about that status so much?
01:50:27.000If there's a chemistry and attraction, just go with it.
01:50:31.000That's not good because women's feelings change every single day based on their period, based on external situations, how their friends are talking to them.
01:50:41.000That's why I don't think women should be in leadership roles at all.
01:50:43.000And I don't think women should ever be in positions of power because women are dictated by their emotions and emotions change and fluctuate all the time.
01:50:51.000But not once you're really into somebody.
01:50:54.000They don't just change and you're like, I don't like them anymore.
01:51:08.000And that's why women need older men so that they don't have to do that much thinking.
01:51:14.000I mean, you're still going to be moody.
01:51:17.000Even with your older man, you're going to be moody with.
01:51:20.000Okay, so when you're moody and your guy lets you do that and you walk all over him with that mood, like, ultimately, how do you feel about him and what's your respect level for him after that at the end of the day?
01:52:15.000Just like they want to come home and their bills are paid and taken care of and the kids are well taken care of and they want their wife to be nice to them.
01:52:23.000And they might also want some strange on the side.
01:52:54.000I find it incredible that you're in the porn industry and you don't understand that men literally want quantity and different women all the time.
01:53:05.000I'm saying that a lot of them will just go online and watch stuff online.
01:53:09.000They won't go out and try to have an affair.
01:53:11.000But that does not negate the fact that they still want to have other women.
01:53:14.000It's just that their capability of doing so might be hindered because they might not be attractive enough to do it, but they still want to do it.
01:53:20.000Or they just don't want to fuck with their relationship like that.
01:53:23.000If they could pay you for sex, they would do it.
01:54:18.000I mean, it's, like, ideologically going to have, like, rice and beans every day for 30 years, every day of your life for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
01:54:32.000Do you want to eat the same meal every day?
01:54:47.000So now that you're going out with your guy and he knows what you're doing, are you telling the truth or are you guys telling the lie though?
01:54:58.000Since your guy or person or woman knows what you're doing, and since what you're doing out at the moment or whatever, does your person or woman know what you're doing out or not?
01:56:25.000I think a big reason why a lot of you guys don't want to accept this cold hard reality is because women, since the time you're a little girl, you're told you're special, you deserve the world, you're a princess, you can do no wrong, etc.
01:56:39.000We never tell women the truth about the world a lot of the times.
01:56:41.000We coddle them from the truth of the world because we don't want to tarnish their innocence or their image.
01:56:46.000But the reality is, a lot of you guys offer the same thing that the girl next to you offers.
01:56:55.000But the point is that many women offer this.
01:56:59.000So since many women offer it, you're not as special as you think you are.
01:57:02.000There's always a younger, hotter girl right there.
01:57:05.000And if the man has the capability to attract that girl and have sex with her, better yet, without getting caught, he's going to do it most of the time.
01:57:11.000So if I'm telling you the sky is blue, Right?
01:57:15.000And it's gonna rain in an hour, and I give you a fucking umbrella, and that's how you take the umbrella and go outside and use it.
01:57:21.000You, women, like, you guys are basically telling me, oh, well, you know, I might not get hit by the rain, so I don't need the umbrella.
01:57:32.000Accept that most men are going to cheat, find the guy that you're willing to accept the cheating from, and just adhere to reality.
01:57:38.000Your entire industry is propped up on horny men that want quantity, yet you want to sit here and argue with me and say that men aren't cheating when they're whacking off to you knowing that they got fucking wives at home.
01:58:12.000I deserve a guy that makes a million dollars a year, that's 6'3", that has a huge dick, abs ripped, other women want him, and I expect them to be monogamous to me.
01:59:10.000But the thing is, is that women have, I think that's what you're saying, is women have an unrealistic expectation of what a relation, the dynamics of a relationship is.
01:59:20.000Which is why they want to get divorces.
01:59:33.000So, what he's saying is that, just like you're sitting here, you're saying that you're on OnlyFans every day, and you have how many people watching you every day?
01:59:51.000They probably have families, but they're watching youth, and then they probably have other people that they're watching as well.
01:59:57.000And so the fact that you're sitting here arguing that, oh no, there's these monogamous people in relationships, and they should be, and they could be, and then, by the way, there's high value...
02:00:08.000Men that would dedicate themselves to me, it's just not realistic.
02:00:13.000And the dynamic of a relationship is to procreate and be there for the man.
02:00:20.000And then what the man wants is to go out there and live his best life and have a decent, you know, not depends on what type of man you're dating.
02:01:01.000I hate to bring this back to what I said before, but this is why men in general prefer younger women.
02:01:08.000Like, older women tend to be stuck in their ways.
02:01:12.000I'm right, you're wrong, even in the face of fact, etc.
02:01:15.000And not to pick on you or anything, but...
02:01:17.000A lot of older women will sit there and argue with you about things and, well, my worldview is this because I forged it through my 30, 40 years of my experiences, but what women don't understand is that your experience is limited to your experience, and I'll be honest...
02:01:30.000Women live life on easy mode a lot of the times.
02:01:33.000So you don't necessarily see the world for how it really is.
02:01:35.000Men have to see the world for what it really is because men live a much more difficult life than women do.
02:01:39.000We don't have the same privileges and opportunities and situations given to us by our gender.
02:01:44.000Men have to go out there and get out the mud for real.
02:01:46.000I'm not saying that you didn't work hard in your life, but you would not have had the same opportunities and certain things presented to you if you were a male.
02:01:53.000But in the workforce, it's harder for a woman to prove herself.
02:03:00.000But I mean, yeah, for the girls who are idealistic and they want to believe that they're going to be in a monogamous relationship one day, yeah, there are some guys out there.
02:03:09.000Do you want to operate in the ideals or do you want to operate in the reals?
02:05:36.000So when you marry somebody, even if they cheated, it was for the kids.
02:05:39.000So even my personal family, I've seen stories where the guy cheated, but once again, for the family, they stayed together, and it worked out.
02:06:46.000Things is that women get married for happiness, which is why if they don't feel happy, they end the relationship and they're more likely to end the divorce.
02:07:23.000And the men, if anything, the men might have changed a bit, but they've changed to attract the women, but their hard wiring is still the same.
02:07:30.000We don't go fuck about you being independent.
02:08:33.000Can you please, like, stop interrupting?
02:08:37.000What I'm saying is that a bunch of different cultures from all across the world all universally talk about women being quiet as being more attractive.
02:08:51.000Because, unfortunately, women live a certain type of life where their worldview is skewed, where their perspective doesn't benefit men, unfortunately.
02:09:01.000Because it comes back to what I said before, women live a privileged life in general, so therefore your opinion isn't really relevant to us because we live a much harder life than you.
02:09:12.000Do you give a fuck about your paralegals' advice in general, being honest here, when you went to law school and you know what the fuck you're doing?
02:18:10.000That the modern day woman, go back to that, expects her wants, feelings, and desires to be satisfied without feeling the need to reciprocate.
02:18:21.000Yeah, by that definition, it means it's coming from a very emotional standpoint, right?
02:18:26.000So she's not really going to be logical and figure out, how can I reciprocate this?
02:18:30.000Like a woman who believes in those modern, not just, we're all modern women because we live now, but a woman who believes in basically like a feminist.
02:18:40.000Essentially, she prioritizes her wants and needs in the man without necessarily being willing to reciprocate those things back.
02:19:52.000The man's investing in the first place to get you to like him where you even get in the relationship.
02:19:57.000So this is what I mean when I say women are very short-sighted when it comes to relationships because you guys kind of see it only from your perspective.
02:20:05.000Women sit at the finish line and fuck the winners, right?
02:20:07.000Y'all don't see the man how he had to prep for the race, get ready for the race, put on the right shoes for the race, running the race, all the men he beat to get to that finish line during the race.
02:20:17.000And then you say, okay, I'm in a relationship with this guy now, but you don't see all the hard work it took for him to be attractive enough for you in the first place to get in the relationship.
02:20:32.000You did not show him that you are worthy of keeping around.
02:20:35.000Once a guy has sex with you, it's your job to keep him.
02:20:38.000And I would argue most girls can't keep a guy because they think I'm special, my needs come first, my requirements come first, and that's cool.
02:20:44.000You'll be able to get a guy, you'll be able to get on dates, you'll be able to get certain situations set up for you.
02:20:48.000But you're not going to be able to keep a guy long term doing that.
02:20:51.000You need to go off of, okay, how do I keep this guy?
02:21:21.000But most women don't want to do that because they look at it like, I'm not going to over-invest, I'm not going to show too much interest, etc., etc., and I'm just going to kind of play hard to get, which is cool.
02:21:36.000But if you don't add enough value, right, if you don't add more value than the other girls he's dealing with, which if he's attracted, by the way, he's gonna have other girls, you need to beat out those other women.
02:21:46.000But most women don't want to compete because they say stupid shit like, I'm special, I don't compete with no bitch, blah, blah, blah, all this retarded shit.
02:21:52.000It comes back to that entitled mindset of, I'm special, blah, blah, blah.
02:21:54.000Like, I can't tell you how many times I tell girls, you want this guy, you do realize you gotta compete for him.
02:24:08.000Or have you ever been in a relationship with a partner where, like, you see each other all the time and then he goes away on a big trip or something, and then when he comes back, like, you realize, like, oh my god, I missed you so fucking much right now?
02:24:25.000You look at a lot of men, successful men throughout history, they did have wives, they did live with their wives, but from a psychological level, what he's saying does kind of make sense.
02:24:33.000When you're gamifying somebody's dopamine system, they're going to miss the fuck out of you when you're gone.
02:24:38.000It's always going to keep that edge as a male.
02:24:40.000Is that necessarily the best thing for a committed, loving relationship long-term?
02:24:58.000So for men to keep the edge, right, the girl kind of has to, I hate to say it like this, but women want a guy that they're not necessarily certain with.
02:25:04.000And for you to maintain that attraction, you can't give her everything that she wants.
02:25:08.000Because we know what happens when you give women everything that they want.
02:25:12.000So you gotta have some air of mystery, and you gotta be out there, you know, hanging out with your buddies, going to the gym, staying active, staying sharp, because girls fag you up, man.
02:25:33.000Maybe we can grow as a person, though.
02:25:34.000I'm going to be better off hanging out with other men that are successful, that have a similar mindset, than hanging out with my girl, who a lot of the times our worldviews and the way that we look at things and our experiences aren't necessarily the same.
02:25:48.000Because men and women are very different.
02:25:49.000We have different hobbies, different interests.
02:25:51.000And if I'm a hyper-masculine guy and I'm with a hyper-feminine woman, which is actually the best combination, we are going to be very different.
02:25:58.000So then if you're that different and you're in the same household and she gives you your space, like you come home, she just gives you a kiss on the cheek or whatever.
02:26:07.000Yeah, but it's difficult for women to do that because if they're really attracted to you, they're going to want to be around you all the time.
02:26:10.000And unfortunately, women are kind of annoying.
02:26:38.000How do you guys feel when us women do try to give you that space of the man cave and all of that?
02:26:45.000But of the verses, when we don't give y'all that space, when we want to be around y'all, when, hey babe, I want to be around you, I want to gnat with you, I'm sorry, I just got out of work, I'm sorry babe, but I want to gnat with you so bad because I just miss you, you know?
02:27:52.000Yeah, so all I'm saying is that just how to stay attractive with your girl and maintain a long term is by, like, not seeing her all the time.
02:33:07.000Skanka is a Spanglish slang for a scandalous bitch female that sleeps around a lot and sees nothing wrong with it or just another word for a girl.
02:33:14.000How are women always saying that they're the prize when in reality is that usually they tend to date up and want a guy that's better than them?
02:35:39.000I'm grateful I got a chance to be on this podcast and I did listen to a lot of the insights and agree with a lot of things that you guys said on a male perspective, which is very true.