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00:04:08.000Ladies on the panel, if you don't mind, give us your name, your age, what we do for a living, dating status, and if you want to, of course, and we'll start right here.
00:06:27.000So anytime an inspection needs to be done, you're going in there, you're doing the inspection, whether it's for an appraisal, purchasing property.
00:06:33.000MSP valuation for the insurance coverage.
00:06:36.000If it's just for the insurance, just needing to know if you continue to have coverage with them.
00:07:24.000I've actually been committed to him for six months, but we just don't want to move forward and do anything or move on to anything that won't become serious.
00:07:33.000So you're playing the part, but you're not actually calling it the part.
00:10:05.000Does that take up most of your time, I would assume?
00:10:08.000Not necessarily, no, because usually those gigs are like last minute and they're like by a call basis, you know, so it's like, hey, are you available?
00:10:17.000And it's just like, yes or no, you know, for a tour or not.
00:10:20.000Yeah, I was going to say, so you pretty much got to throw everything on the back burner if you get called, right?
00:10:24.000Because then you got to go tour for months at a time.
00:10:32.000I try to keep it the same because, you know, that's how you get those crisp performances, you know, and that's how you know that everybody knows what they're doing.
00:10:40.000You know, if you kind of play it by ear, which we have played it by ear, and we've had to learn a routine in an hour, you know, and you have to do it or don't.
00:10:51.000And if you messed up, it is what it is.
00:12:08.000I've noticed, and this is very interesting, I guess I could turn it to the panel here in a second.
00:12:12.000What I've noticed is, you know, from being, I'm 33, I'm old, right?
00:12:15.000So I've noticed music videos back like 10, 15 years ago, the whole performance situation, artists put a lot more care and money behind their craft.
00:12:24.00010 to 15 years ago, you look at old music videos, I hate to use Missy Elliott as an example, but she would spend regularly a million dollars on music videos.
00:12:32.000But if you look at music videos nowadays, they don't have the same creativity, the same effort, and the same directing prowess as they did back then.
00:12:39.000And I think that's also translated over to touring as well, where since more artists are independent, they're not major, they don't have the money to put into their situation like they used to 10-15 years ago.
00:12:50.000And they're not necessarily getting dancers or whatever.
00:12:52.000I remember I used to watch MTV back in the day, and they would have the dancers in-house on the tour bus with them, and they'd be traveling, right?
00:13:27.000You know, so I'm used to seeing that and growing up watching that.
00:13:31.000So when I am looking for those dancers or when I am preparing them for these shows, that's how I'm kind of approaching it because like it's serious.
00:14:05.000They don't see some of them, not all of them, but...
00:14:09.000I've just, in general, over the past 10 or 15 years, I've just seen an overall lack of genuine investment from artists into their craft versus before.
00:14:18.000I think a big part of it is more artists are independent now, so they don't have the money and the power to be able to push into all the other stuff in the background.
00:14:26.000So it is what it is, but I've just noticed that.
00:14:28.000Now at AI, tell AI, yo, I need a whole script.
00:16:05.000I've always had these speculations about the music industry, and you pretty much confirmed what I've always thought, that the rise of independent artists has pretty much contributed to, like, kind of like a, I guess, lack of investment in music videos, choreography, performances, et cetera, versus before.
00:16:21.000I mean, you guys ever seen, like, a Michael Jackson show back in the 90s?
00:16:29.000That's when it hit me, like, yo, A lot of these artists, unless it's a top-tier act, like a Lady Gaga or some shit like that, you're not catching that stuff from even A-list celebrity rappers.
00:18:32.000I've had like a number of neurosurgeries, so I had to have another one and then I left to recover and then I met my now.
00:18:53.000Okay, so high school slash three years of nursing school and then what's your relationship status?
00:19:02.000I am single, but I also have, this has nothing to do with my relationship status, but before I forget, I have something for you guys, and I'm really, like, shy about it, but I guess I made it.
00:21:33.000Alright, we're going to read 20 and up, but if you can't, you early birds already know what time it is, so I'll read some of these crazy spring break confessions you've heard from another girl.
00:22:23.000I went to Orlando for spring break, came back down, spent like two, three days in Miami for the rest of spring break, you know, to get the hectic.
00:38:31.000And it's just like, you know, don't tell me when to take it out, you know?
00:38:35.000So then the day goes, the day goes, and then now just something so small has kind of like messed up the atmosphere and messed up the vibe of the home.
00:38:52.000Would it be fair to say that you nagged him about things that were fairly insignificant and he got annoyed by that, which is why there was issues?
00:38:58.000No, I feel like if you're a man, do those manly things.
00:41:26.000And I have to, like, let me at least just give myself a little bit of credit and just say I have something I've really worked on and I continue to work on.
00:43:34.000But working on our truths and fixing it, I used to just feel like saying the lie was better than the truth because you wouldn't believe it anyway.
00:43:42.000What would you lie about specifically?
00:44:16.000Like to give the story a more interesting thing to like, give it a center.
00:44:21.000Okay, so would it be, so you would lie for one of two reasons.
00:44:24.000It would be either to prop yourself up to be, I guess, higher value than you really are, you're doing something more productive than you really were, or to conceal some level of potentially what could be looked at as infidelity, because you mentioned you would lie about where you were going to your boyfriend.
00:44:39.000Which can be misconstrued as you cheating.
00:44:43.000Like, I would just lie about, like, simple locations.
00:44:45.000So, like, to clarify that, I would lie about, like, if he's asking me if I go into the gym, I'd be like, yeah, but then I would probably go to the mall, like, type shit.
00:44:52.000So, I guess that's a two-pronged situation where you're, like, lying also to make yourself look good and at the same time about where you're going to be.
00:51:44.000I feel like that would solve a lot of your problems.
00:51:46.000He has my location, but I don't have his.
00:51:49.000Okay, this isn't making sense because you're saying your issue, which you were critiqued for, is that you would want to know where he was and ask you too many questions.
00:52:22.000How did he specifically confront you on it?
00:52:24.000No, he just, like, brought it up and he was like, I'm not, like, doing anything, so I don't know why you're, like, basically, like, telling me, like, I should trust him and all this, you know, whatever guys he's saying.
00:52:36.000Like, if you trusted me, you wouldn't be, like, all of mine.
00:52:39.000Okay, so he didn't give you, like, an ultimatum?
00:53:15.000This hasn't been something that a partner has told me in a relationship, but this is something I've realized about myself that I later on fixed, because I think it pertains to this question.
00:53:24.000I've realized that to be backfiring to not be someone nagging in a relationship, I don't communicate my feelings, which ends up backfiring because instead of speaking about how I feel or being like, what you did bothered me, I'd rather just shut down and not communicate and be angry,
00:54:18.000The thing about human beings is they'll tell a story, but they will have things in their head that they're not telling other people so they can understand.
00:54:23.000So you would be in a relationship with him.
00:55:00.000I think I did, but technically he initiated the breakup, but I just blocked them afterwards to not get, like, I'm not one of those, like, if we break up, we're not getting back together, so, like...
00:55:11.000Okay, so you would say that it was you not communicating, and then what was the second party, the second one you were going to say that why ended?
00:55:18.000No, that was a mutual situation that ended on the good terms, but that's what I was saying, that was, there's only been two serious relationships.
00:55:24.000The first relationship was where that That situation occurred, which is why from there I learned that I needed to communicate.
00:55:31.000Not nag, but communicate to be able to tell like, hey, I am upset about this.
00:55:36.000My future for relationships, of course, yeah.
00:55:38.000No, but I mean the second relationship.
00:56:06.000I get that, but you initiated it is what I'm trying to say.
00:56:10.000Yeah, I know, but, like, I get if I was maybe, like, 27 or 25 and, like, in the age to be, like, settled down fully and, like, in my career, but I wasn't in a settled career.
00:56:19.000So, like, there was no, like, sit here and do nothing.
00:56:22.000Like, I haven't finished my schooling.
00:57:03.000So I feel like if I didn't have anything to my name and I was just a young girl in his presence, it's kind of like, you're basically my sugar daddy.
00:57:21.000That's how marriages work historically.
00:57:24.000You can date someone and not want to marry them.
00:57:28.000I would argue that he was with you in the first place, which proves right then and there that your career really didn't matter because he took you as you were.
00:57:35.000Of course, in the dating sense, but would he have taken me as a wife and a provider, like a second form of provider for his home?
00:58:10.000He probably would have provisioned and taken care of you anyway because men in general, especially men that have money, don't care about a woman's money.
00:58:16.000It's just that you kind of wanted to prioritize your career and earning your own money.
00:58:20.000Over the relationship, which is why it ended.
00:58:21.000But I guarantee had you stayed, more than likely probably would have provided for you because he was in a relationship with you in the first place.
00:58:29.000Let's say he gets tired of me or whatever the situation is.
00:58:32.000Before you even get into that, that's a typical self-manufactured problem that women put in their head that I don't have anything to my name.
00:58:41.000Well, the reality is that men rarely, if ever, initiate breakups.
00:59:11.000You know, you're in it right then and there.
00:59:13.000And so that's how people don't understand that.
00:59:17.000And I do see some of the comments saying about marriage and divorce and stuff like that.
00:59:22.000We're in a generation right now where they kind of don't even believe in that.
00:59:25.000People don't even believe that marriage exists no more, you know, but love does exist, you know, and we have, yeah, right.
00:59:34.000You got, you have people right now who are Fantasizing that independence is a thing and, you know, you have people who are listening to the music and who are...
00:59:48.000My only thing was, just so I can make my last point, my only thing was, yeah, we can say things are based on faith, but the reality is if, let's say, that relationship did end up, let's say we did go far enough to marriage and it ended up not working out, I would not have been left with anything.
01:00:39.000I'm afraid to say that you kind of already made your mind up that the relationship wouldn't last, which is why you even had the idea that if I got to sign a prenup, the shit ain't going to last.
01:00:45.000No, I know I was going to sign a prenup.
01:00:48.000If I do sign that prenup, let's say that relationship, whatever the outcome is, whatever it is that make, because let's say, let's be real.
01:00:55.00050% of marriages end up in divorce, whatever the reason being.
01:00:58.000If I would have ended that marriage, I would have been 20-whatever with no degree, no career, no anything, living in a place where I don't even own the house that I'm living in and I don't even own the bathroom that I'm wiping my ass.
01:01:26.000Okay, but let's say that was a respecting and a boundary we set at the beginning of the relationship and then at that end you ended that boundary.
01:01:32.000You crossed that boundary and I let you know.
01:01:35.000That's still a personal decision I can make whether I sign a prenup or not to be in...
01:01:39.000Continuously be in a relationship with someone.
01:01:41.000Yeah, but that's an unrealistic boundary that women don't understand and don't necessarily...
01:01:45.000Quite frankly, they're not qualified to enforce.
01:01:49.000Men that have status of money worked really hard to earn that status of money.
01:01:52.000And you can't tell a guy how he wants to enjoy his success.
01:01:55.000And a lot of times that means other women.
01:01:57.000The only reason I say that is because the reason he initiated his first divorce, which he initiated his first divorce, is because his ex-wife cheated on him.
01:02:19.000I'm saying in my personal, but here's what I said in the beginning.
01:02:22.000What I said is if I set a boundary and we agree to a boundary, regardless of whatever statistics are, regardless of what men's dynamics are and women's dynamics are, we have that boundary set.
01:02:31.000And that's an agreement between A and B. So when you disrespect that boundary, I have that decision whether women initiate divorce, whatever the statistics are, to continue to stay in a relationship with someone that's going to continue to disagree with that boundary and cross that boundary or move on with my life and do whatever I want.
01:05:06.000If a man is ugly, but he has money and status, et cetera, some girls look the other way and still get with them because he accomplishes something that's more important.
01:05:13.000But with women, it's not the same way.
01:05:14.000So what I'm saying is that you try to conflate his infidelity with a female's infidelity, and I'm saying it's not the same.
01:05:19.000And that's why I said I would not be and marry into a relationship where a man is bringing so much in and I'm not contributing.
01:05:53.000Yeah, realistically it won't be equal, but dynamic wide leverage, someone won't have, the leverage dynamic is not as large as a gap as someone, like for example, if you're dating someone in the 0.0%, you're not, you know, like you can't really tell a man like that what to do with his life, finances, money, anything.
01:06:52.000Like, enough, you know, for just, you know, don't take offense, but that it wasn't enough for you because, you know, you have people out here who, for example, do love somebody and it doesn't work out because, you know, that man is financially struggling and he can't provide for her.
01:07:09.000And so it's just causing turmoil in his mind because now he's giving her that backlash.
01:07:16.000So then you have a man who can provide, and then it sucks because you have women who can't even appreciate that.
01:07:22.000Because, you know, I'm just looking at it from a point where, for example, my marriage ended because he could not financially eat.
01:07:36.000You're confusing the audience, but I'll summarize what you've been saying.
01:07:38.000Basically, you had a golden nugget, and I don't know why you left it when a majority of men can't financially provide for you the same way that this guy did, and you had the elective ability to work, so why did you go ahead and chase a career in another state when you could have stayed with this man and worked another job?
01:07:52.000That's what you were trying to say in a kind of disjointed way, but like you had an opportunity of a lifetime with a guy that was higher earning, you know, literally getting every girl's name up, you don't have to work, and you walked away from a guy that could have provided for you.
01:08:44.000I mean, you preferred your independence over being dependent on a man that was higher status, which is cool.
01:08:50.000I would argue that that's not a smart decision given the current dating marketplace and how hard it is to find these guys to want to commit to you.
01:08:56.000But, you know, maybe you'll get lucky and strike gold twice.
01:10:48.000Like, you didn't want to go to bed, like, mad at him.
01:10:50.000Yeah, I wanted to go to bed mad at him.
01:10:52.000She wanted to hash it out, and he just wanted to not talk about it.
01:10:54.000Life's too short for all that, you know, but to each his own.
01:10:59.000But wouldn't it be fair to say that he never actually held a grudge?
01:11:02.000That's why it was insignificant to him, but yet you held the grudge, which is why you had to talk it out and get verbal clarity, affirmation, or clarity, as you would say?
01:12:38.000You're answering the question, you give me an answer, and then I go based off what you answer, and then you're like, wait, wait, hold on, no, no, no.
01:12:43.000Wait, but I'm asking you to ask me the question because you asked me something and I was trying to elaborate.
01:14:12.000So, for you, you were already annoyed because he didn't want to talk to you, and then he cheated on you, which I guess that's the straw that broke the camel's back?
01:14:44.000I mean, if someone tells you that they dislike something and you continue to do it, I would say by you continuing to do that action, clearly there's no fear of consequence.
01:15:08.000Because typically, if someone doesn't change their action after they're told, hey, I don't like this behavior, and the person continues that behavior, it clearly means they're not concerned with the consequences of continuing said behavior.
01:17:16.000When he voices concerned, did you actually, yeah, it's a very simple yes or no.
01:17:22.000When he actually voices concerned that you are speaking to me in a rude way, you're yelling or whatever, you have a temper issue in general.
01:17:30.000Did you change right then and there, yes or no?
01:17:33.000It was something that I really tried to work on.
01:18:07.000Have you ever had a dream that you had...
01:18:19.000Yeah, I think this exercise, this question really demonstrates how difficult it is for women to take some, you know, retrospect and, like, be able to, okay, this is why I fucked up.
01:20:39.000So going back, the criticism that your ex-husband gave you was that you have a temper issue with maybe where you speak to him as disrespectful, loud, whatever it may be.
01:20:48.000You took it in, you improved on it, but you did not eliminate it.
01:23:24.000No, I'm legitimately listening very deeply so I can understand here.
01:23:28.000When there's a dynamic that is harmful and You're not in a good situation, and you're trying to be heard, and someone's not hearing you, and the behavior continues, you escalate.
01:24:38.000Like, because I never really came from, like...
01:24:41.000Or I've never really seen, I would say, proper examples of like not to be very masculine, and especially growing up in Miami, it's like very slim.
01:24:48.000So I would just use YouTube on like how to...
01:28:32.000So a lot of Americanized things I learned as I was growing up, there were not things that were naturally...
01:28:38.000Common in my culture with my cousins, with people that I was kind of looking up to.
01:28:42.000So the way that Americanized cultures work and the way that foreign cultures work are not the same, especially in the way that household dynamics are, the roles that women and men have.
01:28:53.000So that's why I'm saying in this era, I believe, yes, because we're looking at the modern women era, as we like to call it, this modern women era.
01:29:00.000Yes, and they're not criticized enough in the modern era as No, yes, that they are becoming criticized in the common era.
01:29:05.000This is the era where they are starting to become criticized, not only because social media gives us a platform to criticize people, but also a lot of the stuff that we talk about, whether it be economics, whether it be finance, whether it be anything, it's on social media, it's on the internet.
01:29:19.000So this is where we're having conversations.
01:29:22.000Conversations like Black Lives Matter, conversations like political things, they're all happening on the internet.
01:29:26.000So we're starting to have these conversations.
01:29:28.000I understand that, but do you think women are criticized?
01:30:20.000You mentioned how other countries are doing evil things.
01:30:22.000No, but I'm saying you said in the meaning of dynamics.
01:30:27.000So, like, if we continue to criticize these things, then they should have attention drawn to them, which means change should come.
01:30:32.000There are a lot of things that we draw attention to, which is why I use that.
01:30:35.000I'm not trying to say that those two things are one and one.
01:30:37.000What I'm saying is there are a lot of things that we Globally, hundreds of thousands of millions of people bring attention to, but nothing is done to them.
01:30:43.000So does that mean that we're not criticizing that thing enough?
01:30:46.000What I'm saying is, I think we are starting to criticize women in this era.
01:30:50.000And though we are not at the point where change has started, they are starting to listen and conversations are being had about femininity, about roles of women in the modern era, about roles of men in the modern era.
01:31:37.000I'm not cocky and hubris to the point thinking that this podcast is going to revolutionize the world.
01:31:41.000It's making little strides here and there, but not enough people are having these conversations, hence my criticisms of females in general, is that most women aren't criticized about their deficiencies, which is why so many women behave the way that they do.
01:31:53.000I think in general, women aren't criticized enough and told what their deficiencies are.
01:32:21.000And that's why I brought up the cultural thing where I said in other cultures, it's not the same as it is, which is why I said the modern woman thing.
01:32:27.000I would argue other cultures actually criticize women far more than the rest of us.
01:32:38.000The culture of women is they have specific roles in the household.
01:32:43.000In certain cultures, if you do not cook, if you do not clean, if you do not provide certain household roles and do them correctly, you are criticized.
01:32:50.000You will be chastised by your family, not just your husband, your husband's family and your family.
01:33:27.000I physically grew up in a different culture, so I saw something else going on.
01:33:31.000I understand that, but, you know, I grew up in a different culture, too, but, you know, I come from, you know, a traditional household, two parents, etc., but I would be fairly delusional to think that everyone else operates that way, and I wouldn't use my personal background to substantiate an argument for people being criticized when in reality they're not.
01:33:49.000I would argue they're not criticized at all in the West in general to the point where they're to stimulate change.
01:33:54.000But we don't want to get off topic here.
01:38:30.000Like, when you say, I don't need, you're literally speaking what you don't need.
01:38:35.000And it's like, instead of saying, I don't need, and just saying, well, right now, I wouldn't like that, but if it comes around, that I'll be okay with that.
01:38:43.000Because if you literally say, I don't need it, you're never going to get it.
01:39:32.000I think that women have become incredibly narcissistic, and I think our Western culture has become incredibly narcissistic as a whole, but particularly women, because there's zero accountability,
01:39:47.000and they're being propped up, and everything...
01:42:34.000When you're going on your period and you're going crazy as fuck and your boyfriend is there, he's looking at you crazy, you need to calm it down and chill out.
01:43:31.000The only reason I disagree with that, if you said just in general, control emotions, I think a lot of people just do not have their emotions in general.
01:43:38.000We're talking about women, so I could specifically say a lot of women don't have their emotions in general.
01:43:43.000Their form of communication is either crying, yelling, getting mad, throwing a tantrum.
01:43:46.000That happens a lot, but I think specifically during a moment of menstruation where there's a hormone imbalance, I'm not saying that gives you a right to just scream out, latch out, do whatever, but there literally is chemical changes in your body.
01:45:36.000I have a period every month for 12 months.
01:45:39.000The only reason I'm disagreeing with what she's saying is because there's a lot of women that genuinely have really bad medical conditions involving their periods.
01:45:52.000So to say that, I feel like it's a very...
01:45:57.000Let me ask this question because this is actually a very interesting exchange right now.
01:46:03.000Would it be fair to say that these women that have this debilitating periods that you guys are talking about are minority of women compared to all women that experience periods?
01:46:21.000So like a lot of women nowadays, and especially because a lot of women are taking birth control, a lot of people are Okay, you can say that.
01:46:27.000But we're being, like, a lot of women are taking hormonal birth control to either regulate their periods or they're starting to be able to unregulate their periods because they're causing hormonal imbalance in their body.
01:46:34.000How many of you ladies here at the table have terrible periods where you can't control your emotions and you pretty much need to be by yourself to avoid lashing out at people?
01:47:28.000Once again, my experience is different and my household and what I've experienced, it's been that way.
01:47:33.000But I'm asking you to step outside of your own shoes and I'm asking you, do you think a majority of women experience that level of period where it quite literally debilitates them from interacting with other people?
01:48:00.000We've been around multiple, like pretty much 1,000 women, 1,000 males, high school.
01:48:05.000I've been around multiple women, or I can say at least at the same time, we've all been experiencing a point of cramp or hormonal changes where it's like, we're going to take a step back and say, I can't do this today.
01:48:17.000I'm going to have to respectfully push back on you guys a bit because, I mean, if that were the case, that would pretty much be the argument that 50% of women can't operate at all for a couple days of the month because their period is that bad.
01:48:28.000They can't go to work, can't be around people, etc.
01:48:30.000I don't think that it's as bad as you guys are saying it is.
01:48:48.000But how you react to pain is another thing.
01:48:50.000I mean, you can make the argument when you go to the gym, you're exercising some level of pain tolerance because you're continuing to exercise.
01:49:20.000This month I can be dying and next month I can have a perfect period that I don't even feel.
01:49:24.000Okay, so that in itself proves that it's not as consistently as debilitating as you're arguing.
01:49:29.000For me, I know women that every single month from the time they were 16 to 30 have had terrible...
01:49:35.000So it wouldn't be fair to say that if it's a terrible period that they're experiencing all their life, that they should be able to exercise some level of control.
01:49:43.000If it's happening every month, they're being able to train themselves to react correctly.
01:49:47.000Just to me, it sounds very ludicrous to say...
01:49:49.00050% of women have cramps and pain in their periods to the point where they can't operate.
01:49:54.000And then I'm like, well, that can't be true because women are in the workforce, women are in positions of power, women are attending college.
01:50:00.000Women, a lot of the times, are in positions where they're competing with men.
01:50:03.000So I would argue that there's no way it could be 50% because then that would effectively mean half of women are useless when they're in their period.
01:50:32.000However, I think this also speaks to a larger and more important issue of Women not controlling their emotions and not expecting any consequences of their actions.
01:50:45.000And for so long we've enjoyed the privilege.
01:50:48.000And I believe women are the gentler sex and they should be more...
01:51:07.000And women are so used to having that privilege that they just feel like they can do anything and they can go and run their mouth or something.
01:51:17.000And they don't have to worry about the same thing that a man would worry about if he was running his mouth.
01:52:16.000I mean, I think she came up with a very valid critique that modern-day women need to do, which is controlling their emotions even in the face of being, you know, in a period that might be painful.
01:52:27.000In typical female fashion, a bunch of you guys went ahead and laughed at her and said, why should women have to control their emotions more when they're on their PMS? It's painful.
01:52:36.000But the reality is that half of women have cramps to the point that they can't operate properly.
01:52:42.000I think that's a little high because if that were the truth, then that'd be like an epidemic of women not being able to control themselves and they wouldn't be in a position of power.
01:52:50.000They wouldn't have all the same equal rights.
01:52:51.000And I think women are capable of men, capable of Just as men are.
01:52:58.000Women are optimal in a lot of same positions that men are.
01:53:00.000But to say that 50% of women experience crimes to the point where they can't control themselves It's kind of crazy.
01:53:06.000I don't think we'd be a functioning society the way we were if women were raging lunatics when they had periods and they weren't able to control it.
01:54:13.000Generally, most women, if they can't control it, it would be better.
01:54:16.000Yeah, they can control during their PMS, but to say that they can't have any emotional outbursts when you're littered, that's just weird to me.
01:54:23.000Anyone can have an emotional outburst.
01:54:25.000If you're upset, if you're in pain, ask doctors and nurses.
01:54:29.000A lot of the people that they deal with in hospitals are yelling and screaming at them 24-7.
01:54:33.000Not because they're mean people, not because they're assholes, because they're in pain.
01:54:39.000I don't know if you guys caught it, but this exchange right here proves my point why so many women do not choose to self-improve and or can't take criticisms.
01:54:46.000If you guys see, she came with a criticism and a bunch of girls came to the women's defense of what she's criticizing saying, well, that's not true.
01:54:53.000There's a minority that experiences blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
01:54:55.000And I would argue this is why women perpetually don't self-improve because for every criticism that is said, there's someone to come in to substantiate poor behavior.
01:55:03.000For example, a woman's fat, someone's going to come to her side and say, love your curves, girl.
01:55:09.000We're quite literally experiencing that right here, right now.
01:55:11.000A couple women on the panel came to the defense of a minority of females that can't control their emotions and make an argument for a minority when the majority clearly can't control their emotions.
01:55:19.000That's my point, and that was just proven literally right here in 4K. Perfect!
01:58:02.000That can't be true because if that was the case, you're basically arguing that 50% of women can't control themselves for almost a week during the month, which I think is disingenuous and kind of insults the intellect and ability and capability of women.
01:58:15.000Now, with that said, I still think that women are capable just like men are, it's just that men are more optimal in certain things that tend to deal with infrastructure.
01:58:22.000I'm not saying that men are better than women, it's just that we're better at certain things.
01:58:24.000But to say that women can't control their emotions when they're on their period And a majority of them can't, or half of them can't.
01:58:30.000I think that's kind of crazy and ludicrous because society wouldn't be where we are now if half the humanity couldn't control themselves for a week out of a month.
02:00:33.000The point is that women don't have an incentive to take criticism and improve because you're going to continue to get what you're getting regardless of how you behave is my point, is my argument.
02:00:42.000And then she kind of proved that just now because a lot of y'all jumped on her neck when she said women need to self-improve on that.
02:00:48.000Man, this show just proves itself even more.
02:00:51.000I think women give each other terrible advice in general.
02:00:53.000I think women self-perpetuate each other.
02:00:55.000They perpetuate each other staying single because you guys tell each other things like, there's another guy out there.
02:02:04.000I disagree with the part how you say women, encourage women and tell them how there's another man out there, you got this, whatever, all that.
02:02:13.000I feel as though guys do the same thing when it comes to females because y'all say, oh, fuck that bitch, there's another bitch out there.
02:05:57.000For you to be able to articulate an argument with someone, you must be able to not just hear what they're saying, you must understand what they're saying and be able to find weak points and go ahead and refute what they're saying.
02:06:07.000That means you have to have a deep level.
02:06:09.000You're asking me to state what I just stated again, which you said you disagree with.
02:06:12.000That proves my point, that women don't disagree with ideas.
02:06:15.000They disagree with how they feel once you state an idea.
02:06:18.000We're seeing a quintessential example of that right now.
02:06:21.000This podcast, this episode has been a masterclass on female nature.
02:06:25.000Your first statement, the first part of your statement is the part that I didn't agree with.
02:08:44.000I would say it could be you have some women who, yes, who do that.
02:08:49.000And then you have another half who, let's say, I mean, if we talk about, for example, a married woman to another married woman, we know how if we're traditionally speaking, we're going to say, hey, work it out.
02:09:02.000Our advice to her is going to be work it out.
02:09:54.000I feel like, so once again, yeah, merch.
02:09:59.000And what I'm about to say goes with your merch, so have fun.
02:10:03.000Basically, how Myron said how women follow other women's advice, that's all based off of a feeling within the moment.
02:10:11.000And I'm not saying know it, but I can say that I understand it now, considering that I just heard someone tell me today that, okay, because of how you felt within that moment, determine what your actions were going to be, and that's how it made it be in the long run.
02:10:33.000When women talk to each other, what's happening is something happened prior that day or maybe a week before and they had that emotion in them.
02:10:41.000So, you were like, oh, girl, I feel like this and that because my man's doing this.
02:11:47.000You have those good emotions and you have those bad emotions.
02:11:49.000And also, at the end of the day, it's the choice of the person receiving what you do with that advice.
02:11:56.000So, like, are you going to use that advice to sabotage what you have?
02:12:00.000Or are you going to use it to ponder on it and be like, no, like, you know, you have to also look at the person's situation who's giving you the advice.
02:12:07.000Like, what is their current situation before you just take a consideration and apply it to your situation?
02:12:37.000Off of my friend's instinct, because I'm venting to my girlfriend, my girlfriend's going to tell me instantly either something that can be good for myself emotionally or bad for myself emotionally.
02:12:48.000But off of her instinct and emotion herself, that's what she chose to tell me.
02:12:52.000Now, once again, off of my instinct and emotion, once again, that is what I choose to do.
02:13:31.000Going back to the topic at hand from before, the question was, what are the top criticisms that you would give modern-day women in today's society?
02:13:40.000She said controlling PMS before we rent down that rabbit hole.
02:13:51.000Answering relationships for financial reasons, but not actually being the person you want anything to do with, I think is a big one.
02:13:57.000Yeah, we want people to be able to take care of us.
02:13:59.000Let's say you do want that traditional dynamic, but at the same time, do you just want a man who has money or do you want a man who has money and also like...
02:14:07.000Not only that, but let's say you have faith.
02:14:10.000If you're a Christian person, why are you going after non-Christian people and then expecting them to follow into your beliefs?
02:14:15.000If you're a Christian woman and you know I want to become a housewife and I want to have three kids with my husband and be part of a church and be part of a clergy and do all these things, don't do that.
02:14:43.000And I think people, especially women nowadays, because we are looking for these key things that we're supposed to find, we kind of skip all the other things that we're You know, in the beginning.
02:14:53.000So, like, not only is he able to provide for you, but what type of person is he?
02:14:56.000Like, is he slapping you around while giving you a $20 check?
02:14:59.000Is he slapping you around with the bill money?
02:15:41.000Only because, yeah, they provide for you, but where does that animosity start to build up when that person's providing, but you guys don't have the same moral compass.
02:15:48.000Okay, so that's your critique of modern-day women.
02:15:57.000If you could give one critique or maybe two critiques for modern-day women, what would it be?
02:16:03.000I would say wanting a traditional man, but not being the traditional woman yourself.
02:16:10.000You want a man that provides, but you're not taking care of the home and doing your duties.
02:16:20.000I feel like a lot of women want a man that's chivalrous and provides and all of this stuff, but they're not doing what they need to do on their end to get that man.
02:16:31.000Now, you know, because we don't want to just sit here and shit on women all day, what are criticisms that you give modern men today that they need to fix?
02:17:14.000Like, yeah, that's the situation that happens a lot of the times.
02:17:16.000Like, they have a good woman and then they lose them because they're just...
02:17:20.000Like, cheating is one thing, but them being sloppy about it and, like, letting her find out in some way or whatever, like, that's just, like, disrespectful.
02:18:01.000There's a lot of women who, and I'm not saying every woman you walk up to is just going to fuck you to fuck you, but there are women who will have sex with you if you tell them, I'm not pursuing a relationship with you.
02:19:33.000I have proof that women can handle the truth.
02:19:35.000I didn't say women can, I said humans can.
02:19:37.000Yeah, but I would argue that women have a lesser propensity to accept the truth than men do.
02:19:43.000And the reason for that, my argument is that if you look at advertising, right?
02:19:47.000If you look at the way that we market to women, we market lies to women, but we market the truth to men.
02:19:53.000And the reason for that is because women, when you lie, they buy.
02:19:57.000There's a reason why they say, love your curves, you're special, you're a princess.
02:20:01.000We give self-propping information to women to endorse them to buy a product.
02:20:06.000With men, you have to be fairly honest and brutal with them to get them to buy because men understand that if I'm deficient or if I don't perform, Reality is going to smack me in the face.
02:21:11.000If a guy walked up to a girl and said, I want you to have sex with me and then I'm going to reserve the right to commit to you later on and I may or may not like you and I need you to be loyal to me while simultaneously having sex with other men or talking to other men.
02:21:23.000I also want you to take your Instagram down and not be a hoe.
02:21:24.000Be loyal to me and I'm going to have sex with you and then figure it out later.
02:21:27.000Do you think most men can actually do that with women?
02:24:25.000But if you're lying to women about the sexual experience and going, I want a relationship with you, and she's thinking, I'm not just going to fuck him, I'm going to have a relationship with him, and then you go and you do whatever the hell, then you just lie to her.
02:24:37.000So you did not give her the choice of deciding to stick around and being like, well, this man just wants to have sex with me.
02:29:34.000Just that I think that's a valid point.
02:29:38.000However, I think it's also worth mentioning that It seems like a trend when men do open up, they're often mocked like, oh, come on, just man up, you know?
02:29:53.000And that's why men usually express their emotions, at least from my understanding, you can correct me, between other men.
02:30:02.000Like, that's more so where they can...
02:30:10.000I feel like when it comes to men expressing their emotions, whatever, there just has to be the right woman that understands him because I'm not going to, if any male, brother, cousin,
02:30:26.000uncle, anybody, a male off the street says, hey, I need a moment to vent.
02:30:37.000But what we're saying is that you would hear him out and then your views or your respect for him might go down depending on what he opens up about and the vulnerabilities that he exposes.
02:31:41.000Since the woman's in a subordinate position, she's not in a situation and or in an authority capacity to listen to that man's problems.
02:31:50.000And on top of that, she doesn't really have solutions for a lot of times because the problems that men experience are uniquely masculine in essence, and women typically don't understand the masculine experience.
02:32:01.000So I don't think women are equipped for and or can handle masculine problems, especially when it's coming from someone that they're supposed to be a subordinate to.
02:32:10.000So if someone, right, and I use the example of, like, let's say we're in a battlefield, right, and your commanding officer comes in and starts crying, like, I don't know what to do.
02:32:20.000You would lose respect for that commanding officer, and you would go ahead and start to do things differently, and you would approach warfare from a different perspective.
02:32:29.000You would go ahead and just do it on your own.
02:32:30.000That's how I think women perceive men a lot of the times.
02:32:33.000If I can't lead you through the battlefield of life, right, because life has a lot of difficult things, you're not going to respect me as a commanding officer, and therefore you will either A, go AWOL, right, absent without leave, and go find another commanding officer that's better, or you just won't respect me in general and you'll stay with me and fight,
02:32:50.000but you'll pick and choose when you want to listen to me, which is both equally terrible.
02:32:53.000I have a question based on the point that you just said.
02:32:56.000Do you believe there's any form of vulnerability that will actually make you more respected that a man can have in a relationship with his wife, woman, girlfriend, whatever?
02:33:06.000Women only respect vulnerability when it's been overcome.
02:33:31.000It's only sexy when I overcame it and now you enjoy the fruits of me overcoming it.
02:33:35.000But when I'm going through it, exactly.
02:33:37.000But when I'm going through it, It would not be in my best interest to tell you about it, or even worse, have you experienced that dark time with me.
02:33:45.000That's why I always famously say, and a lot of people have said this, but I say it all the time on this podcast, women don't build, they move in.
02:33:51.000And women would prefer to be with a man that is established, that has everything created, and they kind of come in and accentuate that.
02:34:09.000I feel like the world is about balance.
02:34:15.000First of all, if you're with the right person, what I'm about to say is not even just for any relationship.
02:34:24.000If you are with the right person, they should be able to balance you out to the point where if something is going wrong, It's not that she can help you with that masculine thing physically.
02:34:35.000It's not that she can go into the battlefield and do these things, but she can have that reassurance that you probably have been looking for or that voice in your head that you've been battling.
02:34:46.000She could probably ease that or you don't have to battle against yourself anymore because she's that balance for you.
02:34:54.000If only you just talk to her and say...
02:34:59.000Let's say you're the commanding officer in that situation in your wartime, right?
02:35:02.000And you're fighting off the invaders or whatever.
02:35:05.000Who would be a better person to speak to?
02:35:08.000Your subordinates who are directly looking to you for leadership or talking to another commanding officer who also has a platoon of people underneath him?
02:35:16.000Who would be able to better understand your circumstances?
02:35:22.000If you're in a situation where you are the commanding officer over a hundred soldiers, right, and you're in wartime and you're battling, who is going to give you better advice based on your situation?
02:35:33.000The subordinates that are looking to you for leadership?
02:35:36.000Or, and you risk them not losing respect for you?
02:35:39.000Or another commanding officer who also has a platoon of a hundred soldiers underneath him?
02:37:07.000And I guess I'm saying it from this point because I've actually been in a situation where, you know, the man is carrying so much and he wants to do it on his own because he feels like he has to.
02:38:28.000I don't think that they're necessarily wrong for that.
02:38:29.000It's just that men and women are different and women aren't necessarily built and or capable of solving masculine problems a lot of the time.
02:38:35.000But that's what I was saying about the balance.
02:43:07.000And I guess I'm coming from a place, too, where, like, I've had just a man tell me, like, hey, like, you've helped me tap into that side of me that...
02:44:32.000The space to feel comfortable, that giving him that peace and that sense of mind, that whatever goes on, he can, you know, he can tell me because what tends to happen is when they bottle those things up and they're too masculine and it can't Just sit it down for a second to know how they feel or know why they're mad.
02:44:58.000I'm strictly just talking about when they are behind closed doors and they have come away from the world, they should have that freedom to be vulnerable.
02:48:08.000If Fresh's page doesn't bring me any attraction or anything that I feel like would make me want to be around Fresh, I'm just going to keep scrolling and keep going about my game.
02:48:16.000Are you saying that as you as a woman looking at Fresh's page as a man, or are you saying if Fresh was a female and you were the man, what are you trying to say here?
02:48:25.000I'm saying for basically both, but you're asking me who has the most problems within social media, the man or the woman, and I'm saying men.
02:48:33.000Yeah, and then you said, because you gave an example, but I wasn't sure if you were referring to Fresh from a female perspective or a male.
02:48:41.000I think as a man, and she's a woman, right?
02:49:09.000Basically, to paraphrase it, you're saying for a guy, if I'm a girl looking at his page, I gloss over it, I'll see what I want, on to the next.
02:49:18.000So if a guy is harder because options are pretty much like screwed because the girl has multiple options and she can just turn you over like this because as many guys are better pages than you.
02:49:28.000And most guys won't have the option because their page sucks on Instagram.
02:49:31.000Because she's saying men think social media is real, but it's really the girls that are ones that are negatively impacted by the social media because they have more choice or they have a higher illusion of choice.
02:49:43.000She's saying men are the ones that are losing because they don't get options on social media and it's not reality.
02:49:49.000They should go outside and find men, sorry, find girls there because that's more of a reality to them because social media is kind of like a perception-based world.
02:56:45.000Okay, IRS. Ladies, for the love of God, don't operate any heavy machinery that carries passengers or toxic waves or any sort of your decision-making skills and ability to think on your feet is on the level of Bobby Boucher?
03:01:08.000Okay, if I'm providing examples, just anger could play a factor.
03:01:17.000People not, how I was saying earlier about not being vulnerable with one another, that causes turmoil.
03:01:25.000One, being standoffish when it's supposed to be You and the other person and you're kind of just wanting to be all to yourself, but it's like, okay, certain people just shouldn't be married in the first place.
03:01:57.000Now, okay, let me talk about my current situation.
03:02:00.000Remember how I'm not speaking about you specifically.
03:02:06.000Maybe you might be an exception to the rule where you'll love a man idealistically, but what I'm saying in general, if I line up 100 women, most women are going to love a man based on the premise that they provide value first.
03:02:17.000A woman cannot love a man until he provides value first, then she'll fall in love with him.
03:02:21.000But with men, we don't have the same, I guess, rigors that women have to adhere to for us to love them.
03:02:53.000I understand that, but speaking from experience significantly, it limits your ability to be objective because you're going off your own personal experience and your personal experience might not necessarily be reflective of the world.
03:03:48.000If you said I love harder, then there might be an argument to be made, but I say in general, women only love men under the premise that they provide value.
03:04:07.000The lion comes in and beats up the male lion of the pride.
03:04:11.000She goes into heat and fucks that other lion and lets that other lion come in and kill all the other ones.
03:04:16.000Hell, you go into smaller animals, you look at hyenas, the female runs everything, and they pretty much use the guy as an expendable commodity.
03:05:02.000I mean, I know you made, um, you had us, you asked us a question as far as has anyone, raise your hand if anyone has been through, um, someone who's broken up with them or whatever they are, you know what I'm saying?
03:05:15.000And I was just kind of saying, it was like a, a, a, a equal thing on my plan.
03:05:18.000And she was saying, yeah, she's an exception to the rule.
03:07:07.000It's the woman that sabotages it because she finds out about the cheating and breaks it up.
03:07:11.000I mean, hell, you even did that in your situation.
03:07:13.000I guarantee you, the man that you divorced, though, still loved you and didn't really care about that other butch to the same level you cared about you.
03:07:19.000But women have an issue with accepting the fact that men can compartmentalize sex and make it physical only.
03:07:24.000You can't do that, which goes to my argument I always make that women lack empathy skills.
03:07:29.000Y'all have sympathy, but you guys severely lack empathy.
03:07:32.000I feel like no one on both ends, you know, like, if you both say you love someone, neither one of y'all should be indulging in somebody else.
03:07:42.000Because at the end of the day, that means y'all just aren't...
03:07:45.000No, you shouldn't be indulging in anyone else because you're a woman.
03:07:48.000The man shouldn't be indulging in nobody else either.
03:07:51.000Well, that does not change the fact that he can still love you while indulging into someone else, but you cannot love him while indulging with someone else.
03:08:00.000Women typically tie sex to emotion significantly.
03:08:04.000So since sex is tied to emotion, it's very difficult for a woman to have sex with another man or even look at another man, to be honest with you, when she's with a man that she truly admires and respects.
03:08:12.000But it is not difficult for a man to look at another woman or even have sex with a woman when he's with a woman that he loves and admires and respects.
03:08:22.000My loyalty to you when it comes to sex is fairly elective because I can pick and choose the girls I want to have sex with and the girls that I love.
03:09:31.000Men literally do not think with their emotions, they think with their penis.
03:09:34.000Us women, we think with our emotions and our nice little area.
03:09:38.000So that's why we get attached to the sex.
03:09:40.000Have you ever gotten, literally, have you ever cheated on someone, gone home and started acting different towards him because you just came back from having sex with him?
03:09:48.000Versus a man can literally go out, cheat with you, and probably do three females in a day, come back home, and like, nothing happened, get in the bed with you and cuddle up and go to sleep.
03:10:05.000I think it's to what you were saying, emotional cheating and sexual cheating, where women don't just cheat sexually.
03:10:12.000Usually there's an emotional component to it.
03:10:15.000So when they are cheating emotionally, it's not just sex because they usually form a bond in some way, whether it be like, I don't tell my husband this thing so I can tell it to you.
03:10:25.000I think for a lot of women, that's where that comes from, where men aren't going to these women that they're fucking 90% of the time and telling them, like, oh, you know, like, I feel this way at home if they're not doing it at home.
03:11:32.000Now you want to add somebody in because it's not because you can, now you as that woman, you can take it as, oh, I wasn't doing enough or you can take it as whatever.
03:11:40.000But at the end of the day, he's still a man.
03:12:30.000Most religions restrict female sexuality and sexual promiscuity with females because they know that it negatively impacts their mindset, etc.
03:12:36.000And promiscuity on men is more accepted.
03:12:39.000So I think societal norms and standards have come from biological differences in men to protect the genders from their inherent dangers that sex presents to the genders.
03:12:50.000So The thing is that you're kind of operating on, I wish it was like this way, but it's not that way.
03:12:57.000Men and women don't look at sex the same.
03:12:58.000And I think, you know, this comes back to what I said before.
03:13:00.000Most women have an over-inflated sense of self-worth, and most women think that they're special.
03:13:04.000But the reality is, y'all are not as special as you guys think you are, especially when it comes to sex.
03:13:15.000It's just that most guys don't have the value to dictate variety because they know, just like your situation, they don't have the value to dictate that.
03:13:23.000Quite frankly, I'll be honest with you.
03:13:24.000Your guy that's in the military, he doesn't have the value built up yet to be able to tell you, I'm going to have sex with other women and you're going to accept it.
03:13:30.000Because you know that you can go ahead and get another guy that you think will be monogamous to you, even though he probably won't be.
03:13:35.000But that's typically how women behave.
03:13:37.000Women will accept infidelity from the guy that has the high value or high status.
03:13:43.000But the problem is that most guys don't have the status to demand the ability to be polygamous.
03:13:47.000I got one question for you because you said he was in the military.
03:14:38.000Matter of fact, I can go back to this.
03:14:40.000My point was, if one day he picks up and goes off to Japan for a whole entire year, you can't go, what do you think is going to happen over there?
03:14:48.000Do you know if he's not going to cheat?
03:15:38.000Bringing into the thing that you were saying about...
03:15:41.000Sorry, and to the thing you were saying about how the reason that women are upset with the whole infidelity thing is because men don't have that standard of providing the needs that they do.
03:15:52.000Do you think that's why there's so much divide now compared to before when men were the main...
03:15:56.000Wait, can you ask the question one more time?
03:15:58.000You confused me right there with women providing.
03:16:00.000When you were saying that the reason that women...
03:16:06.000Don't accept infidelity in relationships mainly is because if you're a providing man, then I will be more willing to accept infidelity.
03:16:15.000Do you believe that because nowadays it requires more of a two-parent household and two dual-income household and more work from other people that that's why that divide is happening in between relationships?
03:16:29.000I'm not saying that that's the only But do you think that's a large factor?
03:16:34.000Because there is a second need for a second provider in homes nowadays.
03:16:38.000For the modern, like not modern, I would say for the average person, do you believe that that plays in such a large factor?
03:16:43.000Because if I'm also providing to the household and providing the needs that, let's say, as a traditional man you should be doing, then do I have more of a reason or right to be upset at your infidelity if I'm also bringing in the money and paying the bills?
03:16:55.000Your question is very disconjoined, but I'm going to answer it.
03:16:59.000I understand what you're asking, basically.
03:17:02.000Instead of me answering it directly, what I'll do is I'll give you an example so you understand what I'm trying to say even better.
03:17:08.000Typically what I found is, the more the woman provides when it comes to provisioning, paying bills, and having a financial contribution, the less likely she is to accept any form of infidelity from that man.
03:17:21.000The less she contributes to the situation, Or, more importantly, the more money her man makes and the higher social status the man has acquired, the more likely she is to accept him being polygamous.
03:17:32.000Because I think deep down in the back of her mind, women are naturally designed to share a man if he's high value and high status enough.
03:17:42.000And they found that like in 80 plus percent of societies, men that were at the top of the totem pole were polygamous and women were okay with it.
03:17:54.000The more the man provides and the more status the man has acquired, the more attractive he is to a multitude of women and the more likely women will accept it.
03:18:04.000But on the other hand, the more she contributes to the relationship, especially from a financial provisioning situation, the less likely she is to tolerate that man having other women.
03:18:11.000So do you think that plays a large effect in the conversations and things that we're having today about modern male and female roles?
03:18:20.000And like how you were saying infidelity, that's the biggest thing a lot of...
03:18:23.000Reasons why women divorce is infidelity.
03:18:25.000Do you believe if a lot of women are also bringing in that household that they not have more of a right, but you can kind of see why it's kind of like, if my man is paying all my bills like they were in the 80s, then if he has a second family on the side, excuse me, I'm so sorry, he has a secret family on the side, I don't care because guess what?
03:18:40.000Me and my kids are being fed if that man dies, my name is still on all the paperwork.
03:18:57.000This is a very multi-pronged answer, but what I'm saying in general is that the less the man provides, the less likely she is to accept certain things from that man, which they include infidelity.
03:19:08.000This is why guys that, like, are bums, right?
03:19:10.000If they cheat on their girl, a lot of times a girl's stepping out.
03:20:16.000And actually, they did a study on this and they found that one of the leading contributors to a man being promiscuous and having sex with a lot of different women is money.
03:21:00.000A lot of wealthy guys, which makes sense with the real data that the biggest contributor to men being promiscuous and having a lot of partners is money.
03:21:07.000So what I'm saying is that women are less likely to tolerate a broke guy cheating versus a guy that has money.
03:21:14.000But what I tell women is, just accept that most men are going to cheat on you, so just get the best guy that you're willing to tolerate it from.
03:21:25.000But I say it's ingrained in men to exercise options.
03:21:28.000So find a guy that you're willing to tolerate it from.
03:21:30.000I think the way you explained it here made like a lot of sense, but I think sometimes in the explanation, it gets kind of lost in translation.
03:21:36.000Yeah, because women are listening to me through their emotions and not through practicality.
03:21:39.000I'm telling you from a practical sense, if you know 95% of men are going to cheat on you, you might as well go ahead and find a guy that you're willing to accept it from.
03:22:42.000They can't obviously vocalize it, but the only difference is that guys that have higher status and more money have the ability to vocalize it and say, fuck off what you think, lady.
03:24:24.000He's saying, so just to make it clear, he's saying, why are men taught how to be gentlemen, but women aren't necessarily taught how to be ladies?
03:24:30.000Who wants to go first and tackle that?
03:24:33.000I would say I kind of point at social media and reality TV shows and you have women throwing drinks at restaurants and cussing out loud and just acting crazy and then they turn around and get paid for this stuff and they get famous from these things and then people glorify it.
03:24:56.000I think that is why you know It's okay, people think, but it's not.
03:25:04.000And people should say, listen, being a lady is very essential because the real man that wants you or that we're talking about that wants you at home and raising your children is not that one who's throwing drinks and acting crazy and stuff like that.
03:25:17.000So to summarize what you said, it's positive reinforcement to very bad behavior that isn't unladylike.
03:25:28.000She said social media, but I just want to say it's a product of your environment because if your mother was not raised to learn how to properly be a lady, how is that going to look down the generational pool?
03:25:45.000No one in that family is going to know how to be a proper lady if that's the case.
03:25:54.000So you're adding to her point, saying that it also has to do not just with social media, but a product of your environment, maybe bad motherhood.
03:26:12.000Learning to be a lady is not just and I think this is the thing that we believe like you don't just learn to be a lady from just a woman you learn to be a lady from a woman and a man you learn to be a lady from a man because of the way you allow him to treat your father the way that your father when you like for example if you're a girl there are certain relationships your father should have with you not because he's a man but because this he's giving an example of what men should be treating you when you're and same thing with a mom like as a mom your son should be you should be a direct reflection of how women should treat you A son,
03:26:40.000your mom should be a direct reflection of how a woman should be treating you in a relationship.
03:26:44.000I think that these parental units, not just one-parent homes, but in general, parents don't have time to parent anymore.
03:27:10.000She made a valid point about how you're raised and how you're raised, but then we talk about the women who are adults already acting out, you know, and who did, who were raised properly, who don't simply apply it.
03:29:02.000I feel like the women aren't being feminine.
03:29:06.000What tends to happen, I feel, where women have that masculine sense is because it's like a...
03:29:14.000A wall that comes up when we feel disrespected.
03:29:17.000It's like, wait, you know, and it's a protective mechanism, not saying it's right, not saying it's justified.
03:29:24.000But when we are disrespected or disregarded, you know, we are then trying to protect self all because that guy isn't being a gentleman or hasn't been taught to be a gentleman or isn't practicing those things.
03:29:41.000So do you mean like in situations where a woman is kind of forced to fulfill a more masculine role?
03:30:07.000I would also say it has to deal with a lack of father figures in the homes because how she said you also have to learn how to be a woman from a man and a female.
03:30:18.000I feel like that's the same thing for a young man as well.
03:30:22.000If there's no father figure to even develop the relationship with his little girl to properly show her Hey, this is how you need to act around a man, and this is how a man needs to treat you.
03:30:32.000And there's also not a father figure in the home to tell his son, hey, this is how I treat your mother, and this is how your mother would like to be.
03:30:38.000Yeah, this is how you would like to act.
03:31:51.000I mean, not just the black community, but fatherless households in general are all fucked up, but it just seems to be that that's where it's the most prevalent.
03:32:00.000No, I was just going to say, if I could comment on the fatherlessness, I think we're also forgetting that there's Behavior on the part of women that have discouraged father involvement within two-parent homes as well.
03:32:59.000I was just going to say, when you were talking about, you know, just the dad's not being in the home, it also kind of the mom then has to be both.
03:33:10.000That's what I meant by being forced in a masculine role.
03:33:12.000And so then as the child you're watching...
03:33:16.000You know, mom having to protect and provide and nurture.
03:33:21.000And then the mom forgets, if we're talking about from the woman's side, the mom isn't able to teach those womanly things to her daughter necessarily because she's focused on making sure the house is afloat,
03:33:40.000And that's another issue aside from the dad not being present, being able to teach.
03:33:46.000But the mom also has to teach as well.
03:33:48.000But if she's having to maintain the house...
03:33:51.000We're missing those key conversations.
03:33:53.000I think the important thing is the mother is supposed to teach the daughter how to be a lady and the father is supposed to reinforce what happens if she doesn't behave like a lady.
03:34:00.000For example, like typically fathers are disciplinarians and I'll let you know, like, hey, if you don't behave or you don't adhere to certain societal norms, you're going to deal with consequences.
03:34:08.000For example, you know, he catches his son with weed.
03:34:36.000And not just family, but while speaking about community, I think that we also forget that a lot of us did not just grow up with our parents.
03:35:17.000Like an elder in other countries is allowed to discipline you when your parents aren't home.
03:35:21.000And that lack of village is largely contributing to what we have because there are single parent households.
03:35:28.000So not only are we losing the male parental figure, but we're losing all of the additional help that we have, like as a unit, as a village that we, the elder cultures still kind of carry.
03:35:39.000And even those cultures are losing that.
03:35:40.000No, I used to get disciplined in school.
03:36:08.000And more than that, though, like, I don't know how it was when you were a kid, but when I was a kid, when you, when your teacher was, like, let's say your teacher told your parent, you know, you go to your mom,
03:36:53.000They fucking, a couple of times, hit their heads on the fucking, you know, seat in front of them, which I thought was hilarious because our bus driver used to do that shit too.
03:37:30.000Like, because even then I can say, and when I was in middle school, and that's 10 years ago, I was in middle school, my teacher and my mom were actively parenting.
03:37:39.000I got put, like, my bus driver was actively being a bus driver.
03:39:04.000When I'm hearing stories about people knocking on the wrong neighbor's door and getting shot, it's like, that could have been your neighbor asking for help and you didn't know who it was.
03:39:11.000Like most people don't even know who lives in the communities around them.
03:39:13.000Doesn't that speak though to a, like, How fearful.
03:39:20.000With community and village, when you're losing that connection with other people, you lose that sense of comfortability and that safety that you have with community.
03:39:36.000Mentors, it's losing all of these things, and we're having all these small little forms of...
03:39:40.000Yeah, that we're contributing, calling it gentle parenting, calling it all these small things, but in reality, we're actually negatively impacting the next wave of adults.
03:40:19.000Well, that means you have to concede to a degree.
03:40:21.000So when you have to concede and you have to be all-inclusive, that means that everyone's mindset and everyone's thoughts on things are correct, right?
03:40:27.000I mean, we're running around here saying there's a million genders when in reality, let's be honest here, we all know there's two.
03:40:32.000But since we have to be all-inclusive and make everyone feel good and a part of it, right?
03:40:38.000What ends up happening is we end up in this fucking clown world where there is no right or wrong.
03:40:42.000Everyone is right in their belief system.
03:41:04.000And you can't critique, you can't discipline, etc.
03:41:07.000Because it's considered fucked up and messed up and we're giving people participation trophies.
03:41:11.000In general, what's happened is society's just getting softer and softer and softer as we continue to progress as a humanity with the advent of modern technology, conveniences, etc.
03:41:20.000People get lazier, people get more accepting, people don't understand how we got To this point in reality where humanity is the number one species is because we were intolerant of fuckery in the past because it did not allow us to continue to prosper as human beings.
03:41:35.000If you were stupid in the past, they told you that you were stupid.
03:41:39.000What the fuck is going on or be left behind.
03:41:42.000But nowadays, we accept everyone regardless of how they behave versus before.
03:41:46.000If we accepted everyone, we wouldn't progress.
03:41:47.000But now that we're where we are now, we're at the top of the food chain and we've been here, we're getting comfortable and we're allowing fuckery in.
03:41:53.000People forgot About God, which is why we're in the current state.
03:41:59.000In the Bible it says men will become women and women will become men.
03:42:45.000And that's why those types of shows, like you were saying, women throwing drinks in people's faces are popular because Because that's the type of drama.
03:43:43.000I think like that last topic we talked about on the last topic was very like I guess it was different from like what you guys typically talk in the show.
03:43:52.000It was very enlightening and like I learned a lot from that.
03:44:30.000Because if you look at it, right, how many nice guys are out there, right, that are in the friend zone because they're a nice guy and a gentleman?