00:14:05.000Um, we did a podcast a couple weeks ago as well, uh, Jeff, and you broke down beautifully uh dating nowadays, how it's could be hope, how it could be cooked, and what you think is best.
00:14:16.000But today we're gonna do it on Fresh and Fit.
00:14:18.000Uh you guys know, uh one-on-one, but I know you are, they may not.
00:15:09.000Um in terms of podcasts, I've been wanting to do podcasts for a minute, actually.
00:15:12.000Uh and I've been watching you know, different podcasts and the manosphere stuff.
00:15:19.000I've been watching this stuff for probably about eight years now.
00:15:22.000So I've been kind of feeling like I've been a student of the game for quite a minute.
00:15:25.000And um I was kinda taking what I was seeing on social media and in these podcast space and also comparing it to what I was analyzing in the therapy sessions in the mental health field.
00:15:36.000And I was seeing that there was actually a lot of overlap.
00:15:39.000I was noticing that many of the issues in terms of couples, relationships, men's issues, challenges, everything was like happening in the field.
00:15:46.000Um but I was realizing very, very few therapists was actually bringing up and talking about many of these things.
00:15:52.000So, you know, man, uh I just finally decided at the end of 2024, I was like, yeah, I'm gonna do it.
00:15:57.000Um, and of course, I'm not just gonna speak through the lens as a therapist.
00:16:01.000I'm also gonna give my opinions as a regular person.
00:16:03.000Um, and I'm realizing now after about two months of doing this, people are basically staying your lane, shut up and dribble, like focus on this or that.
00:16:12.000I'm like, I'm I'm like everybody else, I got opinions on different things, but as far as the therapy lens, um I I really really felt and realized the same way in the manosphere, the same way with the red pill content.
00:16:25.000Um a lot of men felt like men's views and perspectives weren't being heard, weren't being valued.
00:16:33.000It was the barbershop and spots like this where men were allowed to actually articulate what they were experiencing, what they were going through, many of the pros and cons of doing life with women in the US.
00:16:43.000And I was realizing in the mental health field, it was kind of the same thing where um everything was maybe female-centered, fem-centric, and anytime you try to kind of bring up issues, uh, even just the field itself is very feminized with 75% of the uh therapists being women.
00:17:01.000Um so you could imagine it makes sense why so few men actually think therapy is helpful.
00:17:09.000And it and I was like, I realized there's there's a space of men's needs, issues that need to be brought back into that space.
00:17:16.000So it just kind of pushed me to kind of say, I think it's time for another voice to be be in this be in this spot.
00:17:22.000So the main customer base for therapy is women, you would say.
00:17:25.000Oh, overwhelmingly, it's not even close.
00:17:27.000Men hardly go to therapy because they're usually going if they're being dragged by the girlfriend, the wife, the fiance, uh disgruntled, something, you know, whatever she is for that guy.
00:17:40.000Um very, very few men initiate therapy, but if they do go and it's actually helpful, it's actually good, like then they'll continue kind of going.
00:17:49.000Um, but it's usually one, it's usually hit or miss once you go in and it's not the therapist that really connects with you.
00:17:55.000Uh, one of the biggest things that I kind of noted was I think that for a lot of clinicians, they're male and female therapists, their condition that kind of side with the woman with the woman.
00:18:05.000Um, so as a result, and it kind of makes sense.
00:18:08.000You could imagine if if you had to go on for couples therapy, you don't want to go, she she thinks it's super important, and the therapist has to make a decision when y'all both come in.
00:18:16.000Do I side with the person who wants to do this and wants to pay?
00:18:20.000Or the person who wants to leave and doesn't want to continue this.
00:18:23.000So unfortunately, a lot of therapists end up not being as um unbiased and objective and before you and it's even worse when she's coming by herself because n the their field is kind of moved too far to the in the space of kind of val always validating feelings, always validating.
00:18:40.000I can imagine if a woman goes by herself, yeah.
00:18:42.000Your husband should do X, Y, Z. You know what?
00:18:51.000Um I've been of the opinion and of the, I guess, ideal that as a man, I don't need therapy.
00:18:56.000Because I can go to the gym, I can work with my brotherhood, talk to them about what's happening, and get a solution.
00:19:03.000But in your experience, do you think men need therapy all in all?
00:19:07.000Not all men need therapy at all times.
00:19:09.000Uh, I do think that it can be helpful, but I'm as a mental health clinician, I'm the first to acknowledge a lot of the therapists are actually not good to actually work with men.
00:19:20.000They may be great to work with women, they may be great to work with children, but the same way men and children, I mean women and children have unique needs and challenges and experiences, the same is true for men.
00:19:30.000Um, so I'm the first one to acknowledge that yeah, uh it would be nice if every single uh guy that wanted therapy can get matched with peep men or women that were really aware of like men's unique needs and challenges, um, the man the the hero's journey, uh, men's struggles, uh rejection, depression, you name it, um, and even just the societal expectations on men.
00:19:53.000This is just something that a lot of clinicians uh and therapists and psychologists don't focus on.
00:19:59.000Um, he he's uh one of the big reasons for why I wanted to do this um as a millennial, a especially as a black guy, is to kind of come out and kind of normalize more, not just having a a license, uh a psychologist on his level, but also a clinician on my level be able to say, like, there is a space and and and area for where men can get help and support.
00:20:20.000But I'm the first to say, even if they're coming into me, if you're only coming into therapy, you're doing something wrong.
00:20:36.000And and that's because I realize men respond better to that.
00:20:40.000Um men, the the difference between men and women, generally speaking, when they kind of approach therapy is women tend and from a conversational perspective, they tend to feel better just by the nature of talking about stuff.
00:20:53.000Just being heard, just being heard, validated.
00:20:58.000And you and all every single guy on the chat, they're gonna say the same thing when their girlfriend or the girl that they're dealing with or their wife uh is telling them about work and she's going off about something or some problem with some girlfriend, and he tries to solve the problem, what she say, I don't need you to solve the problem.
00:21:17.000That's like they lane with a lot of guys, they actually get extremely frustrated with that.
00:21:22.000And the reason is because their lens is that men tend to feel better when the issues that are um are happening in their life are starting to get better.
00:21:33.000Like a guy who can get to a functional place where he feels like I'm getting steps, I'm getting strategies, I'm following through on them, and my life is getting better.
00:22:23.000In dating itself, I think it's kind of cooked because obviously, you know, I'm on side, I'm in a dating space, and I've just seen Things go so far left is like what's happening here.
00:22:34.000But ultimately there's a little bit of hope because not everyone's gonna be bad or has that bad intent.
00:22:40.000However, from your experience of being a therapist and dating yourself, what do you think is the biggest reason women have issues with dating?
00:22:52.000They got the perks of being able to get sexual liberation and freedom, the ability to be able to do what they want, wear what they want, sleep with who they want, and have kids when they want to.
00:23:03.000Uh the main thing is that feminism pushed all of that, encouraged them for all of that, but it never warned them about the consequences of doing that.
00:23:10.000Um, so that's actually the biggest issue is that men really didn't deviate too much.
00:23:14.000They actually didn't change that much.
00:23:16.000What really shifted and changed was was women's behavior, um, especially in relation to their sexuality.
00:23:23.000Um, and that's one of those weird things where it's like even from a clinician perspective or a therapist perspective, a lot of therapists won't say that out loud.
00:23:32.000It's like if you have a woman in your therapy session and she's crying, she's depressed, she she's taking these antipsychotic meds, or uh, she's high on the issues with anxiety, all this stuff going on.
00:23:44.000And then when you talk about her track record relationally, the only person she could blame is herself.
00:24:12.000When guys tell them what they want to hear.
00:24:17.000Like before you know it, they gave them kids, they gave them sex.
00:24:21.000And you gotta think about from older previous generations, it used to be like if we if we find out we're pregnant, now we gotta get a shotgun wedding.
00:24:54.000And yeah, the freedom, the autonomy, the ability to be able to um leave when they wanted to.
00:25:00.000But if men are watching and seeing body counts are going up, the attitude is crazy, um, the superficial standards that they're they're creating, especially based on their own money that men don't even care about.
00:25:11.000If all of this is changing with women, and then they're seeing how often women in general are leaving marriages, um, putting men on child support, uh, breaking up families and households, a lot of men, especially in the black community, are now slowing down with having children.
00:25:25.000So now you're getting a greater pool of women who's having kids with a small pool of men, and then there's a whole bunch of black men who haven't had any kids at all.
00:25:34.000So that's that's so basically what's happening is the ladies are being frustrated with the fact that men are adapting.
00:25:40.000And one of the big things that they don't like is that when men adapt in their strategy is you know what?
00:25:47.000I'm just gonna go abroad or I'm gonna go out of the race.
00:25:50.000And that's that's for for a lot of them that's actually the biggest issue is the ladies never thought about the idea of a market where their men would go out of their race or out of their culture, out of their country to find other women.
00:26:04.000Now I'm saying to the same ladies when I'm doing my podcast and stuff, ladies, y'all gotta really, really think for a second.
00:26:11.000What quality of women did you turn into?
00:27:01.000Now let me ask you this question though.
00:27:03.000What have men what what is men's-based issue in dating would say nowadays?
00:27:07.000So women, of course, they chose uh feminism, of course, they chose the independent lifestyle.
00:27:13.000But for men, what's their issue would say?
00:27:15.000There's several different things that I'm realizing that men are struggling with, both on a macro level and a micro level.
00:27:21.000So on the macro level, I think men are really, really struggling with the reality that the environment became anti-male.
00:27:30.000The environment itself, meaning the education field, the mental health field, the political space, a lot of these space, even the family court system, it heavily skewed for women on the behalf of women.
00:27:43.000So men are having to deal with the reality that it that things have been functionally very adversarial towards masculinity.
00:27:50.000So as an example, this is how that is the propaganda and indoctrination so bad.
00:27:55.000This is why you have grown adult women with functioning brains saying out loud they would choose a bear over a man.
00:28:04.000Like it's that's that's how powerful the indoctrination has gotten.
00:28:08.000So when you get to like the most recent election, and when the election didn't go the way that a lot of liberal women wanted it to go, you're hearing women say out loud, we're gonna swear off men for the next four years.
00:28:22.000Like just insane, insane thought process, bears and and and stay away from men for the next four years, and and even concepts about like uh believe all women, me too.
00:28:34.000There's there's so many different industries.
00:28:36.000If you go to the educational field, right, uh one of the biggest issues in Dr. Umar who has his challenges, you know, he he got a lot going on, right?
00:28:45.000Um the thing with him is he highlighted something that was a significant issue when you're trying to emasculate and feminize boys in the educational system is elementary and middle school and high school students.
00:28:59.000What you're doing effectively is you're looking at the communication and expression style of girls and saying boys need to behave just like the girls.
00:29:08.000So as a result, when you're trying to force boys, the same way in in therapy sessions, they're trying to force men to communicate and to think and to respond and behave like women, on the at on the educational front, they're trying to do this with boys.
00:29:22.000So when boys are too rambunctious, they have too much energy, they're too physical, they get disciplined, they get kicked out of school, they get kicked out of class, they get put on ADHD medication.
00:29:35.000So basically so many different spheres have kind of uh weaponized and now attacked masculinity.
00:29:44.000That's probably the biggest overarching macro issue that most men in the country are effectively dealing with.
00:29:50.000Now, on the micro level, I would argue that because of a variety of different things, the overall general attitude, how women have generally speaking kind of raise the bar of their expectations of what they want from a man.
00:30:03.000If you take the same guy that's making 45,000 today and plopped him 60, 80, 100 years ago, he'd have a wife and three or four kids.
00:30:11.000Now today, average women, Kevin Samuels will say it, a lot of other people would say it, these women are are assuming their value in men's eyes is based off of their credentials.
00:30:25.000Like who told like like and I told you that.
00:30:27.000Yeah, and then my wife would ask me that, and I and I've talked to other people about uh other women about it, and I and I even like make jokes about like do you you know what?
00:30:35.000I was going to date you, but you only if you you only making 60K?
00:30:41.000Now if you was making 90K, I would definitely date you now.
00:30:44.000Like, you only got a bachelor's degree?
00:30:47.000A master's now I'm turned on like sounds insane.
00:30:49.000Like no man talks like that, and that's how they view us, and they've projected it onto our our lens onto them.
00:30:57.000And so as a result, a huge swath of men are getting very little access and very little interest from women unless it's transactional.
00:31:06.000So on the micro level for uh individual men, the guys who don't realize what those standards are and are not adjusting to the market, either here or abroad, they're effectively stuck.
00:32:12.000Yeah, because uh the reality is they've seen countless podcasts, they've heard everybody say the different things, everybody's warned them about the fertility window, everybody's warned them about the wall coming.
00:32:21.000Everybody's warned them about making sure their standards are realistic.
00:32:26.000So the women have all the information they need.
00:32:29.000If if you're in 2025 as a woman and you're over the age of 32, 35, um, they've already made a volitional decision that the lifestyle they want, where they're at, it is what it is, until further notice.
00:32:43.000So I'm not gonna say women are cooked.
00:32:45.000I'm just gonna say what I am gonna what I am gonna say is is that I think this is actually, and your audience may get pissed off with me when I say this, yeah.
00:32:54.000So so much of this actually rides on men, despite popular belief.
00:33:00.000However, we are the ones that they expect resources from.
00:33:05.000So all those OnlyFans subscriptions, all that money that we're giving to women that doesn't give us what we're looking for, all those think of it this way the very things we're complaining about, we're paying for.
00:33:17.000Yo, okay, so I've been getting into economics way more.
00:34:02.000Um, A, it's a need, uh, even if it's once a month.
00:34:06.000Um but um I don't think that that's sustainable in this sense for the women who are engaged in it right now.
00:34:15.000AI is looking better and better, it's looking more and more realistic, and when it ends up being cheaper for the company, if he has to choose between this this thing that just makes me money and I don't gotta do much of anything with it, uh, versus the these women, it it's is it's gonna capitalism should have taught us that whenever there's the whenever you have to choose between profit and anything else, profit is always gonna be chosen first.
00:35:18.000Yeah, so AI is coming, and a lot of the industries that I think women feel like they can fall back on as it relates to the sexuality is gonna be a thing of the past.
00:35:34.000And then on the on the flip side, with when I'm saying this kind of hinges on men, we're propping up entire industries that leads to women not respecting or valuing men.
00:35:45.000We're literally propping them up, we're paying for them.
00:35:49.000We we we we we had those late night situations.
00:35:52.000We we we you know, we we uh sent the deposits, we did that, we all did it, right?
00:35:56.000But now in hindsight, when you're getting older, you're starting to realize the very market That we're complaining about, we contributed to.
00:36:02.000So my lens with men is starting with that part.
00:36:06.000We have to re-evaluate like you said earlier, not all women are like that.
00:36:12.000And what I think is happening is what we're taking the women in urban cities.
00:36:18.000Which is all the poppin' cities, all the all the cities where it's a lot of ratchet stuff going on, all the cra craziness and chaos and all the debauchery, right?
00:36:25.000And we're bringing that onto social media and making that a representation of America.
00:36:33.000It's the equivalent of taking such a small percentage of the population of black males that commit violence and saying that's the black community.
00:36:41.000But that's how it's being shown and projected.
00:36:44.000So, you know, my lens with this is I I think that guys have to re-evaluate if they're gonna keep I think if you have money and you're gonna spend it, you get to decide if you're gonna spend it on a one-night stand with a woman who may not respect you, may not like you, and will not ever care about you, or investing it in a woman who does do those things.
00:37:05.000Now, if you're saying, well, Jeff, the US is cooked, the family court, this, the that society, you listen, stack your money and go abroad and have fun.
00:38:16.000So I think there's a way you can kind of get around this, but at the same time, ultimately, the actual this the solution would be to find somebody that's gonna be um all that and live in America.
00:38:26.000Who's the what's his name that's runs the uh UFC?
00:38:30.000Dana White had a quote years ago where he said there was never a time in the history of men where it was ever easier to stand out as a man with so many men quitting, with so many men going their own way, give up, they gave up.
00:38:47.000The mark so many women women walking around and screaming and saying, Where's all the good men and where's all the men that's got something to bring to the table?
00:38:54.000You can spend six months to a year and clear 80% of men.
00:39:03.000Yeah, like pause for six months to the next year, lock in on you, work out, get a trade, get a certification, go back to school, do overtime or get a second job, and and because you're not distracted with the women, you're you're gonna become a beast.
00:39:21.000And and the thing is when you're taking the guy who becomes a beast, the guy like you said, that's a hard worker, locked in, focused, not getting distracted, not going all the time blowing his money on BS, yeah.
00:39:32.000That guy very quickly is gonna look very different than the average guy.
00:39:37.000And the issue, I'm my my lens with all of these guys who are kind of struggling is overwhelmingly.
00:39:43.000I'm not saying that they need to do this for women.
00:39:52.000And and the guys that's the loudest in the chats, the guys that's loudest in the comments, the guys are saying, we don't need to do this or need to do that.
00:39:59.000They're also the guys who get those outcomes and results.
00:40:02.000Whereas with me, you know, uh ain't nobody know me two months ago, but I tried to apply it to my life.
00:40:09.000And from 2930 to 35, I, you know, made substantial increases to my income to my image, to different things.
00:40:31.000Um don't go, let me look, don't pull up my Instagram now.
00:40:36.000Like, you know, so I'm just saying all that to say, like I had even as a guy who back then was doing okay, it's night and day difference between today and five, eight, ten years ago.
00:41:22.000Is that they don't have enough guys that has the time or willingness to be able to mentor them, and they have the willingness to actually seek those guys out and be like, I'm doing it now.
00:41:33.000I'm in a social club, I'm working out, uh, I'm doing this, I'm doing that, I'm I'm starting different businesses, I got all this stuff popping.
00:41:39.000And then I have these guys who's like, yo, man, that's so cool.
00:41:42.000You gotta teach me, you gotta tell me, da-da-da-da-da.
00:41:44.000I give No, I give them time, I give them an hour.
00:41:47.000Oh, I I talk to them, text them, remind them different things.
00:41:51.000A week go by, two weeks go by, three weeks go by, what you think happened?
00:43:31.000They would rat a lot of the guys that are stuck in the manosphere space, like the social media world, yeah, they they would rather look into rebooks on and watch podcasts about this stuff than actually just start to apply it.
00:43:45.000And I view this through the lens of the guy who like wants to transform his body, he either wants to lose weight, he wants to gain muscle, and he's watching all these inspirational documentaries on Arnold Schwarzenegger and all these different pro professional uh bodybuilders and like looking at all doing all this research about the diet, but he doesn't actually do any of the work.
00:44:07.000So at some level, it's like you're not gonna see the results if you don't actually start.
00:44:14.000You know what's scary though, or what's coming next is like people don't realize the next phase of society won't be welcoming, it's gonna be destroying.
00:44:24.000And for example, the how's the have nots, the what the the gap is widening into a level that's gonna be unrecognizable.
00:44:31.000Yeah, middle class is over with, no middle class, no in between, it's rich and poor.
00:45:14.000So I just wonder if people realize where they're at because this is a really bad time to be sitting there chilling, uh eating Cheetos and just saying, oh, this is funny, bro.
00:45:21.000I'm gonna go watch these videos with no action, you're you're gonna just die off, bro.
00:45:25.000Believe it or not, I actually think a lot of men specifically, maybe not as many women, but a lot of men actually do are aware of where they're at.
00:45:34.000And that's why their actions and depression and uh uh deletion rates are what they are, is because they actually are very aware of where they are in the pecking order of society.
00:45:48.000Um my lens is I think I'm entering in this space as both to give a voice to men's issues and perspectives, but also to give a step-by-step guide of how guys can kind of snap out of this and realize that life is still a choice.
00:46:03.000Life is life is a reflection of multiple choices and decisions that you're making on a daily basis.
00:46:09.000And my lens is I don't think guys are useless, I don't think it's hopeless.
00:46:15.000I think that because of the like you said, the lack of focus, discipline, and motivation, and somebody kind of making sure they're moving in the right space in the right way.
00:46:26.000Um too many guys are getting lost and squeezed up into this.
00:46:30.000And and I've listened, what you said is legit.
00:46:32.000Housing costs are crazy, the cost of everything is going up.
00:46:35.000Women are their standards are what they are, so it it does kind of come off real dystopian in nature, especially specifically for men.
00:46:44.000My lens is men who do the work can end up like fresh, where they can go abroad or the or the ones abroad can come to them.
00:46:53.000Like I want men to learn how to adapt.
00:46:57.000You if you if if you are a guy that's listening to this right now in 2025, you have to realize you are the product of men that didn't give up.
00:47:06.000Whether it was uh uh hard labor in fields, whether it was slavery, whether it was war, you name it, somehow, some way every single man that led to this point ended up getting you here.
00:47:20.000And this idea that, like, yeah, I know I got I can go back 20 generations, I know that we've made it through so many things, but you know what, God, it it the buck ends with me.
00:47:30.000Like, don't don't be the don't be the the final name in your family line when somebody's looking at the tree.
00:47:37.000And and you know, I I really really want guys to start to see that there is more to life in our future, and the more that you pour into investing in yourself in the next couple seasons, the more like you said, the more options that you and it's not it's way beyond women, like where you live, where you retire, uh, what type of work you can do, when you can stop working.
00:48:00.000This is what the goal is of working this heart is for.
00:48:02.000It like the women will just happen to be there as as as a as an after-effect.
00:48:07.000This is about uh adding meaning to your life, value, and people seeing value in you.
00:48:13.000So that's I I know a lot of people wanna they come down hard on women, they come down hard on men, but for me, uh no diddy, um for me, I'm in the lane of I want to come and it's more of an encouragement space of like if somebody came to me individually, would I be shitting on them the entire time and being like, you ain't nothing, you you worthless, you ain't you a piece of shit.
00:50:45.000So I think if you guys watching, even if like a small inspiration you could see either in Jeff, myself or someone that you see online, it's possible.
00:52:05.000So what I do, I spent months on YouTube, studying real estate, grim staffing, bigger pockets, and then fast forward three years later, my first property.
00:52:26.000So there's two things that and in what you what you're talking about, kind of reminded me of that I try to tell all of my male clients, especially.
00:52:35.000If they want to see significant change in their life, these are my two core rules.
00:52:40.000And and you cannot deviate from these in order to get the out the outcomes that you that you claim to want.
00:52:46.000The first is you have to blame yourself for everything.
00:52:51.000And number two, number two, you have to see life as a competition.
00:52:57.000Because the guys who are winning already see it as that.
00:53:00.000When we were at uh when we were at your well doing your doing your podcast, your studio, right?
00:53:06.000Um last month, I distinctly remember a moment where uh like uh a person in the chat, at the name was AJ Rantz, he said and asked the ladies, the black women, if they saw themselves in competition with the other women in the country.
00:53:37.000My argument is all the men that's not where they all the men that's not where they want to be in life, it's because they haven't approached life as a competition and they haven't put the blame squarely on themselves.
00:53:52.000They've put it on society, things being unfair, they're putting it on women, they're putting it on culture, they're putting it on you name it, when then you're seeing other men who's also born in America, who's also living at the same time as you and going from rags to riches, going from sleeping in the car to having, you know, I don't know what y'all have nowadays, but like in Miami, but you get my gist.
00:54:17.000Like the guys who put all the onus on me eat so, but again, this goes way beyond finances.
00:54:24.000When you start to have the mindset of it's all on me, this pertains to when things don't work out with the woman you with.
00:54:32.000When there's issues with your work, when there's issues with your income, the quickest way for you to come up with another solution is to assume it's on you and your responsibility to fix it.
00:55:11.000So to your point, bro, you gotta put yourself in the box and say, listen, it could be them people, it could be them boys, it could be the government.
00:55:37.000Nobody's doing this or that for you outside of maybe your mama and your dad, if he's still like you, that's about it.
00:55:44.000Like, there's not gonna be everybody got their own bills, their own issues, their own life circumstances and stuff, and very, very, very, very few people are gonna.
00:55:52.000And if you ever want to know how for real this is, if men haven't experienced it themselves, look at all the celebrity men that go through major situations, coming out of prison, going through some major scandal or something, and then all the celebrity friends and guys that they was in the music videos with and at all the boat parties and everything with radio silence.
00:56:28.000When you remember when you when I think you guys have had different conversations about uh the pay gap between men and women, and women are like, oh, you're just paying me less because I'm a woman.
00:56:38.000No, if the guy that's that's your counterpart in the same place is doing overtime, he's working extra days, he's working longer hours, he's he's asking of of different incentives for how he can earn more, what he can do so he can move up in the company, and you're taking your days off, and you're you're using all your sick time, and and you're taking all this maternity leave, and he's not.
00:57:01.000He's seeing the people around him as com as fellow competitors, and you don't even know you're in a race.
00:57:11.000The guy that's better than almost everybody else in the league, yeah, the guy that's the best on the team, is is at a level of competition that everybody else is just cool with just coasting.
00:57:21.000If you're it I'm this my I'm telling you, if I was single, if my wife leaves me, y'all ain't gonna see me for a long time.
00:57:34.000There's no if I don't have a kid, if I didn't have a girlfriend, I didn't have a relationship.
00:57:39.000The best time for you to do this, then this is what I mean when guys that are single and not where they want to be in life, this is the opportunity of a lifetime.
00:57:48.000No, you have no distractions, you got no bills.
00:58:11.000Um they what I learned and realized by observing it is the guy if you are single, if you have no significant other, you have the most time ever to literally put yourself in a whole new position one and two years from now.
00:58:27.000And I'm talking way past where you are right now.
00:58:30.000You have the time, you got the energy, you may even still have the youth.
00:58:35.000Like, if you're just doing a dead end nine to five, get a second one.
00:58:39.000Like, why do do all do uh do pet time and a half?
00:58:43.000Uh like that you have so many other like Kevin Samuels would say this all the time.
00:58:49.000Don't focus you shouldn't be focused on a woman right now.
00:58:53.000And and I'm like, if if you start to look at life as a competition and blame yourself for everything, you'll get so much further.
00:59:00.000So when you when you start to meet these ultra successful people, especially the ultra successful men, they don't take no for an answer, and they don't want to hear no or it's too hard, but how?
01:00:50.000Uh progressives are putting DAs in place who are free who free mentally ill offenders leading to repeat crimes.
01:00:55.000All right, so um, how this kind of in a way kind of connects to the mental health field is when you have a large demographic of women who have been convinced both socially, politically, and in the mental health space that they are the ones that's right,
01:01:12.000and all that's wrong in life is men, you're effectively kind of rewarding a narcissistic uh self-absorbed um mindset where the many of the women that are going to therapy saying they're healed and they're and they're they're getting better are actually getting worse.
01:01:31.000So the reality is that they're getting they're they're being incentivized to feed into their own narcissism, and and the end result is they're convinced if things don't work, all my exes are the are the narcissists.
01:01:46.000So the mental health space, the this the uh Jacob is kind of right, where it's like it's it's effectively turned into an environment where there's almost like this religious space going on.
01:02:00.000Yeah, and it has its own language, it has its own code, you're not even hearing so when a cult, a cult would function where people would say things like, Oh, or I can only deal with people that's in my group, right?
01:02:13.000So now you're having you're hearing women in 2025 say, Oh, I can't date a man that hasn't gone to therapy.
01:02:35.000Does he does he come from a good family background?
01:02:38.000Like, you could be open to therapy, but therapy's not the end all be all.
01:02:41.000We're treating this like it's almost a religious right.
01:02:44.000And then it's also what the therapist says is now being treated almost like a prophet, or like the priest, where it's like these people are instead of going into confessionals and sharing with the priest and saying all the things they did wrong, and then the the priest makes them feel better and say all's forgiven, And now you're going in the right path.
01:03:03.000They're telling them all the stuff that's wrong in life.
01:03:05.000The therapist is validating their feelings and emotions.
01:03:08.000And then before you know it, they walk out feeling better and they recharged again.
01:03:12.000And now for a lot of these ladies, especially, they're coming back out perceiving that, well, I'm fixed.
01:03:18.000So if I feel anything, that's a conflict, it's the men.
01:03:23.000So I'm like, again, it's this is a it's it's it's it's it's effectively it basically I feel like the mental health space is actually started to kind of get almost poisoned in a way.
01:03:32.000Who poison and it's poison and this is my argument.
01:03:36.000If we as a culture and society are doing more mental health services and therapy intervention than ever before in the history of America, and the marital rates are horrible, broken families and households, divorce rates are high, more people are unhappy, single, and women's uh stats as far as divorce and anxiety are through the roof.
01:04:04.000Because if we're using it more than ever before, and more things are wrong in our communities than ever before, maybe therapy isn't doing what we think it's doing.
01:05:10.000Because for a lot of guys, they're so sedentary, they're so stuck in their houses, they're stuck on the games, they're stuck on the porn, they're stuck in the house, they're just and they're kind of and life just kind of passed them by.
01:05:39.000But the reason why I listed those three specifically a therapist, a life coach, or a gym trainer, it doesn't have to be all three, it could be any of those, is because those are the three that specifically going to challenge you from where you are now to where you want to be or need to be.
01:06:17.000Yeah, like I'm aware and know, and I went through that.
01:06:22.000I went through a season of my life of of severe depression, wanting to take my own life.
01:06:26.000Like, I really, really went through the lows of of life.
01:06:30.000And it wasn't until I had a couple people that kind of stuck with me, sat me in there, and I'm depressed, I'm struggling with wanting to live.
01:06:39.000I'm not thinking that my future outcomes were with women or life is gonna get any better.
01:07:04.000Where it was like, it's not just take these pills, and it's not just keep coming into therapy, it's like you have to be active.
01:07:10.000You have to start to rewire what's going on in your internal system as it relates to your dopamine receptors aren't working, your your your energy is off, your mood is down, you're sleeping all the time.
01:07:21.000You gotta eat, you gotta force yourself up out of bed.
01:07:54.000Where I I genuinely believe, like, nah, I think guys can if they just start with one of those three things, they're already moving in a direction that a lot of other men are not.
01:09:05.000Um from like 17, 18 on, I could figure out how to tell I couldn't get every woman, but you know, I would shoot my shot enough times where one of them shots were hit, right?
01:09:15.000Um but as I got into college in my first few years, I started to realize and learn what worked.
01:09:22.000I started to learn about the jokes, the charisma, uh being more direct, uh how to dress, at least at that time how I thought I needed to dress, right?
01:09:30.000And I was kind of figuring and picking up a lot of these things, but I didn't know a lot of the red pill stuff until heartbreaks, until breakups.
01:09:39.000And then I was starting to realize, like, oh.
01:09:42.000And then I was starting to learn different things of like if things didn't work out with this woman, or I shot my shot with her and she didn't want me, and then I was observing and seeing, like, well, when I show attention to another woman, now she wants me.
01:09:53.000I was starting to learn that right around like 23, 24-ish.
01:09:58.000Um, it was right around 24-ish that I ended up uh getting with my ex, uh my ex at the time, who was Bellarussian, white for the for those of you that don't know what Bellarussian looks like or is Let's go.
01:10:10.000And that was my first and only time in an interracial relationship.
01:10:14.000Now, out of all my different experiences with different women in the past, that unique that experience was so unique because as a black man in America, surrounded in growing up with a lot of black people, when I decided to date and pursue and be in a relationship with her, I saw the shift.
01:10:36.000I saw the shift in family, I saw the shift in friends.
01:10:40.000I saw the shift with people when we walking on the street, of people I don't know that are black, that's looking at me crazy and that's white that's looking at her crazy, right?
01:11:32.000And the reason why I brought it up to them was when I ended up dating the woman who I who is now my wife, when I started bringing her around, and I'm seeing everybody happy all of a sudden.
01:11:52.000That y'all really didn't have my like y'all, y'all were so focused on what y'all wanted that y'all weren't focused on what I thought I wanted and needed at that time.
01:12:01.000But the thing is I had that type of relationship with friends and family where I can call people out and they can call me out with stuff like that.
01:12:07.000But I coming out of that relationship, I actually made a volitional decision.
01:12:12.000I told people I knew I will no longer be dating white women.
01:12:22.000And that's the other thing I noticed is that once you date one, they've effectively decided you've always hated all-they call you a snowbone lover.
01:12:33.000They call you everything in the book because you get one.
01:12:36.000Yeah, and it's it's the weird like my it's like, how does it invalidate my whole teenage and adulthood years where I only was with black women?
01:12:54.000So I went and saw all of that, and I realized the hindsight for me personally, relationships are hard enough.
01:13:01.000Just just trying to keep a woman happy.
01:13:04.000It's just relationships are difficult as is.
01:13:06.000I'm not going to add an additional layer of difficulty of this other piece of out all this extra stuff with family, friends, and dirty looks and people calling you a sellout.
01:13:18.000I was like, I just don't want to deal with that no more.
01:13:20.000But you know what's the best part about this?
01:13:24.000So I think as men, you can choose what you want to do once you're at that level.
01:13:28.000Cause if you're beholden to family standards and you're not doing successful for yourself, you kinda gotta follow two in line for the most part what they want.
01:14:04.000What and honestly, that was what that was what led to my depression in the end.
01:14:08.000Where me and other guys and a lot of guys will say the loneliest they've ever been was when they were in a relationship or marriage with a woman.
01:15:12.000So to your point, you're you're right.
01:15:13.000Facts, and and and when it's in the interracial component, you have to compound that with the fact that most people aren't supportive of the relationship to begin with.
01:16:43.000So yeah, it it's is and it's definitely definitely heavy in a lot of different communities beyond like the black community for sure, right?
01:17:52.000Yeah, so it just got to a point, man, where I realized in hindsight, I wanted to be a little bit more my my choices of options was she was gonna be black here or black from somewhere else.
01:18:01.000That was that was what she could be black from England.
01:18:40.000If you're successful in your own right, doesn't mean you have to have a Lambo or have a Ferrari or have a pen house, but you have money, you could make moves, you can have options, you can have your own opinion, you can have your own choice.
01:18:53.000If you don't have that, you're beholden to whoever is your uh lender, whoever's your family, and you gotta kinda cow tell because that's what your reality is.
01:19:02.000But if you become successful to your own rights, you can make a choice.
01:19:05.000Yeah, so me going in the exact opposite direction.
01:19:08.000She went to a HBCU, she she she's in a sorority, like she check off all the blocks.
01:19:14.000She went to black, she grew up in the black church, like so.
01:19:16.000Once my mom met her and everybody met her, they was like, yeah.
01:19:20.000So I think they view it now with like uh the Cosby's where it's like Cliff uh uh uh Bill Cosby with uh Claire Huxtable.
01:19:28.000Yeah, I think they kind of view us like that now in a way.
01:19:31.000Um, which is so weird to me, because I'm like, damn, like eight, ten years ago, it was like the total they was not seeing us as the Cosby's, I tell you that with me and um my Bellar Russian uh my Bellarussian partner.
01:19:42.000So, you know, it is what it is, like it it it's life.
01:19:48.000Um so my lane now in at coming out into this space as a therapist is not being like a lot of the red pill or or not with the red pill uh uh conservative guys that's all about like traditional marriage and this and that.
01:20:08.000I'm not naive to the reality of culture and society.
01:20:12.000So you're not you're not opposed to uh mixed race or like at all.
01:20:16.000No, what I'm actually more interested in is now figuring out how men need to navigate uh marriage in modern America and deciding how they should approach relationships with women in the adversarial environment that includes divorce and alimony and child support that can be weaponized against them.
01:20:34.000So instead, um, men who have that as an issue and they do want to date or pursue women.
01:20:40.000I'm saying to men, I'm seriously considering like I'm I might even start writing about it, is like putting it down on paper of guys actually coming up with lifestyle contracts.
01:21:06.000So the first, second or third time you giving this to her, she may be on one year deals, and we gonna see if she earns the right for a multi-year deal.
01:21:14.000And the goal is is functionally everything, like think of it.
01:21:43.000So you gotta, you know, that kind of goes without saying, but a lot of the things that men are kind of stressing about in terms of from the marriage aspect, these are things you can actually incorporate in a contract working with a lawyer.
01:21:57.000Uh to your point, fellas, this might sound crazy to you, but I know a couple guys here in Miami with a lot of money, and they have that in place right now.
01:22:24.000You on Tuesday and Thursday, you know.
01:22:26.000And and if she knows that her she got she gotta make meals for me two days a week, yeah, and she she decides for a month she ain't gonna do it no more.
01:22:40.000Like, I'm just suggesting, fellas, that this if you it if if marriage is too scary for you, there is another way in which you can approach and this is the crazy part.
01:22:49.000If y'all think what I'm saying is so bizarre, approach women with it and see.
01:22:53.000And in a market where women, hold on, in a market where women are screaming and hollering, ain't no good men and men don't want to pay for nothing.
01:22:59.000And then there's a random dude that's like, hey, uh, I'm not rich or anything, but um, this is a lifestyle contract.
01:23:06.000These are the things I'm looking for in a woman.
01:23:07.000This is what I'm looking to offer for.
01:23:09.000Wanna do this test trial run for a year, and to start off for this year, how would you feel about me giving you 1500 a month?
01:23:15.000You could do whatever you want with it.
01:23:17.000Today, a whole lot of women gonna sign up for, believe it or not.
01:23:33.000So for me, I think that that's gonna be, believe it or not, the next wave.
01:23:36.000Um, is men are like again, men have already been adapting to the market in many of their own ways, but some of the ways they've been adapting have been also harming them.
01:23:45.000This is a way of adapting that actually is mutually beneficial to you and the one, two or three women that you want to do this with.
01:24:01.000Um, you know, I think a lot of guys have their own ways of doing things, but uh to secure yourself, marriage is definitely uh hard to do nowadays, for sure.
01:24:16.000So this is my this is my second marriage, and obviously it was with the Bellar Russian the last time, and that went to hell in the handbasket.
01:24:22.000So with with this go-round with my wife, um, I honestly feel like I got lucky in terms of how we met.
01:24:28.000We actually met on a dating app when everybody say dating apps is trash.
01:24:34.000So for me, you know, to each his own for everybody, but she did what she did want me to cut the dress at one point, but then she saw who I was after, then she was like, I can accept this.
01:24:45.000So you know, um so real quick, uh, there's a lot of people in the space that give dating advice and talk about dating.
01:24:53.000Uh recently there was one that was exposed, Sadia Khan.
01:25:20.000Well, I'll I'll start with the basics in terms of professionally speaking.
01:25:25.000Because the personal stuff is it's a thing of like it's a lot of he said she said, you know, people don't really know for sure what did or didn't happen with her personally.
01:25:32.000Because she says she was certified psychologists, which She's not she's not a psychologist.
01:25:39.000And even over there, meaning uh in uh the uh what is she in the UAE or wherever I think I think I think Dubai or Dubai or wherever she is, no, she no, no, she's not, she's not just flat out, she is not, all right.
01:25:52.000So there obviously different countries do have different standards, as is the case for different states, but certain things are are non-negotiables.
01:26:00.000You not having a master's, you not having a doctorate, you obviously not having a license to be able to like I believe in certain states, even here in the States, you can effectively call yourself a psychologist, but we all know what we mean when we say somebody's a psychiatrist or a psychologist.
01:26:16.000We really mean somebody who has their doctorate in said field and has been practicing.
01:26:21.000So unfortunately, she has had a pattern of marketing herself as that, and then when you're also doing exorbitant high fees, six thousand dollars is crazy.
01:26:31.000It's debatable because she's arguing one thing and and social media people are saying something different.
01:26:37.000What I know is this one of the ways in which you can kind of screen out a grifter, is you have to compare people who are experts at the field and who have been experts in being at what they do for lengthy periods of time, typically a decade or more, what do they charge?
01:26:53.000And then you gotta compare a social media influencer who doesn't have the credentials and are marketing himself as that, and what do they charge?
01:27:01.000If they're charging anywhere close to or way more than that, start assuming it's a scam.
01:27:08.000Number two, one of the ways in which you can always tell whether or not somebody is genuinely coming from a place of objectivity and actually trying to actually help people, is their target when they talk to their target audience, do they ever tell their target audience things that they don't want to hear?
01:27:27.000So if you ever want to know about the male or female panders, let's say if they're talking to women, if they never tell women harsh or things, bad things or things that they know women need to improve on or change about themselves, Derek Jackson, then you know right?
01:27:44.000Then you know this person isn't coming from any legitimate background to actually help these people.
01:27:50.000Because just because it's a woman sitting in front of me in a therapy session or a man sitting in front of me in a therapy session, doesn't mean I'm just going to tell him everything he wants to hear.
01:28:01.000When I'm looking at her and saying, so you keep saying he's this horrible guy, and you did, but you gave him three kids and and he never married you.
01:28:09.000And after the first kid, when he wasn't helping you, you decided you was gonna give him two more because you thought it was gonna change.
01:28:14.000Like that ability to be able to tell any population that you're working with or engaging with the truth of what it is, you'll always know the panders because they'll typically pick a side.
01:28:28.000They'll either pick a stand, they'll either side with men all the time, side with women all the time, or they will cater it to the person or audience that's in front of them and never tell them what they need to hear.
01:28:39.000So effectively they're so I won't mention some of the other people, but a lot of these other I'll take female, single female influencers.
01:28:49.000They they really get off on trying to humble men on their platforms, especially rich and famous men.
01:28:55.000Yeah, but the reality is is like they don't do that with women.
01:28:59.000So now when you get the gist of like, well, wait a minute, what type of therapist, psychologist or or or or doctor or whatever, would never ever hold women accountable and always take very successful men and try to make them look horrible while the lifestyle they have, if everybody else adopted it, society would actually be worse.
01:29:16.000So those are some of the key things that I would say from an objective standpoint, we can kind of step back from.
01:29:22.000And then number three, a lot of these influencers, especially the ladies, the reason why they're so successful is because they're marketing their sexuality.
01:29:35.000When you're including mental health, psychology, life coaching, and your boobs is out.
01:29:42.000Oh tell them when you're when you're marketing your sexuality in such a way where I don't care how attractive a person is, if they're a true professional, they're actually going to tamp that down.
01:29:58.000Because they want you to focus on the message.
01:30:01.000Yeah, like I ain't never seen her titties, bro.
01:30:04.000Well, I don't think any of us have, right?
01:30:22.000If you're supposed to be the person who's supposed to be pointing me in the direction of truth, objectivity, challenging me on things I need to learn and grow in.
01:30:30.000And you're dressed in such a way to where that's so extremely distracting.
01:30:38.000I know who you're actually trying to get.
01:30:40.000So now when you have hundreds or thousands of men lining up to pay this woman for life advice, first of all, I don't know if there's meetups involved with this life advice, but I will say this nothing that's being said with many of these ladies is deep, is not profound.
01:30:58.000It's not and and it in fact it's it's something that most people who do enough looking at social media and looking up great inspirational quotes can basically say the same thing.
01:31:20.000They'll never be around, and they'll never be on platforms with people who actually do the work.
01:31:26.000Who'll always be and put themselves in positions with people who don't know their BS, who don't know they don't know what they're talking about.
01:31:38.000You take Saadia Khan and you put her on stage with uh Dr. Jordan Peterson, you're gonna learn very quickly.
01:31:46.000Oh, one of these people is an actual psychologist.
01:31:49.000So all these people uh not all, but a lot of these people is marketing themselves, put them in the room, put them on stage with, put them in a debate, and you're gonna see very clearly that there's levels to this.
01:32:46.000Doesn't mean that it's not effective life coaches.
01:32:48.000Doesn't mean that there's some good, l really good or even great ones.
01:32:51.000What I am saying is if that's it, if it it if that's their distinguishing factor between them and the public, you should already kind of start to be kind of slowing down on your reliance on being super focused on all their advice and how much you're gonna allow them to influence you.
01:33:06.000Because the barrier to entry is very low.
01:33:19.000Her face and her other stuff features.
01:33:22.000So, you know, it like I said, she she obviously is a beautiful woman and she knew what she was selling.
01:33:28.000Um, and when you s when you charge such exorbitant rates while not talking about anything in depth, you're not talking about almost anything on a diagnostic, the DSN, the diagnostic statistical manual.
01:33:39.000You're not talking about the nuances of male and female populations as it relates to anxiety and and depression and how it manifested differently in different populations.
01:33:47.000You she she would I would acknowledge this that she did see some distinctions between the sexes.
01:33:52.000Um, but then they'll always expose themselves when it comes to what it is as their personal standards of what they want and expect in the man, it'll always be different than what they're saying everybody else has to settle for.
01:34:06.000You'll start i it starts to stick out clear as day.
01:34:09.000Like, why would I tell y'all something that's not good enough for me?
01:34:13.000Like, like if I wasn't married, I'd be doing the very thing that I'm suggesting.
01:34:18.000And in the last case piece, now this is my personal stance.
01:34:23.000People who are in actual influencers who are trying to help people in terms of life advice, um, Um marriage advice, relationship advice.
01:34:34.000The person or people who are honest and objective about their own flaw faults, flaws, vulnerabilities, and past mistakes, are have a level of humility and authenticity that I think you can trust in versus someone who tries to hide all of that and tries to market themselves like they've always been this thing.
01:35:07.000But no, you made some very good points about uh kind of depreciating between real and fake, and I think uh she was exposed in real time.
01:35:13.000So uh but again, you know what's crazy?
01:35:15.000Even with the exposing, she's off clients.
01:35:18.000Because people are not abreast to everything that's happening, and of course most of them are simp, so yeah, man.
01:35:23.000So so funny enough, tomorrow, one of the key um uh I think she used to be a psychologist, uh uh doctors that really exposed her year a couple years ago.
01:35:33.000I'm actually gonna be interviewing her tomorrow.
01:35:37.000So um she's very intimately acquainted with and have had several conversations with Sadia and even challenged her and tried to make her send her her credentials to try to never did.
01:36:19.000It it you'll have the number, people can type it in, and it'll pop up clear as day.
01:36:23.000So when this when there's issues with the school, there's issues with the degree, there's issues with the license, this is all the effects of and and you gotta realize the m the the podcasting social media influencing space, just like politicians and just like any area where there's an important position in society where you can get clout, fame, no notoriety and money, it attracts the worst narcissistic, greedy types of people.
01:38:21.000And just trying to be a different form of representation for the black community.
01:38:24.000I actually don't think that there's a lot of a lot of the people who have the most to say about the black community just also happen to not be in it or part of it, or are poor reflections of it.
01:38:34.000So I've decided to be one of those people that's trying to kind of change that a little bit and then bring that into the red pill space more.
01:38:42.000Uh, there are people that are doing it, that's killing it for sure.
01:38:44.000Um, but my lens is having watched everything and kind of seen like men and women and everybody's frustrations.
01:38:50.000A lot of women still are not engaging with this stuff.
01:38:53.000A lot of women are still viewing it through the lenses.
01:38:57.000For many women in the last two months, this was their introduction back into the red pill space since Kevin Samuels.
01:39:04.000So the differences is they're saying, like, oh, we couldn't listen to him because of tone.
01:39:09.000And this channel, they do they attack women and this channel, they hate women.
01:39:13.000So for me, I'm realizing now if I spread the accountability across the board, myself included, men, women, etc., I'm realizing now some people are a little bit more open to listening.
01:39:25.000Um, so I decided like maybe there's a lane for me in this space.
01:39:30.000Obviously, some are still here, and uh to your point, how you say your tone, how you say things, people do perceive it and they put in a certain box.
01:39:38.000So for example, if you're too loud too aggressive, certain platforms won't have you on.
01:39:43.000If you're polite and you're cool about how you say things, they'll have you on.
01:39:47.000So you would hit a different level than most people will because you're more polite how you say things.
01:39:53.000Which I think it how it's said doesn't really matter, but to people outside of our space, how you say it matters.
01:39:58.000So if you believe it or not, that we can't go.
01:40:00.000Crazy enough, and I've been saying this to guys as I'm doing each episode.
01:40:04.000I'm often targeting talking to men, talking to women.
01:40:08.000I'm basically telling men, hey y'all, we've been doing this red pill thing for about eight to ten years for those of us more new to it, and then you got guys like Rahlo and others who's been doing it for a minute.
01:40:18.000Roll up Roller, and you realize that 95% of the women are all saying the same thing.
01:40:25.000It's the tone, it's how you're saying it.
01:40:29.000Maybe I'm wrong, but isn't red pill about acknowledging the nuanced differences of men and women, and that the same way if I'm talking to women, they need to start to think and learn about what men's interests are, men's style of communication, what men want, and what men best respond to.
01:40:45.000If men want to be really effective with women, maybe we gotta really reevaluate instead of trying to talk to them as men, maybe we gotta reevaluate how we gotta shift how we kind of hit hit home with trying to communicate to them.
01:41:05.000You the same way a woman can't share and give and do all these great things for just any guy, she has to reserve that for the guy that deserves it.
01:41:15.000Men have to do a much better job of screening out the women that deserves that patience.
01:41:20.000That that that that that communication, that actual ability of wanting to slow down and actually work her through a problem, versus being like, they all ignorant, they all loud, they all this.
01:41:30.000The reality is is we get frustrated as men of always being put in the bucket of whatever women say is the worst things about men and saying this is all men are dogs, all men are trash, all men are this, all men are that.
01:41:45.000So we just gotta do a better job with deciding and when I realize if I'm gonna be patient, if I'm gonna try these skills, if I'm gonna try these techniques, I'm not doing it on Sharkuisha who I'm not doing it on Sharquisha who yelling and screaming and throwing throwing plates at me when I'm walking in the house.
01:42:05.000I'm going to do it with the woman who's earned the right for me to pour more into.
01:42:10.000And vice versa, all these ladies that's wasting time giving sex and giving children to men that don't deserve it.
01:42:16.000How about reserving that for the men that do?
01:42:18.000So for me, it's just about teaching us of what it is that we should be pouring and into who for both sexes.
01:42:56.000Ask a brother podcast on Instagram, Facebook, not sorry, Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, we'll soon be having an X page as well as Spotify and Apple podcast very soon.
01:43:08.000Um my store is gonna be coming out pretty soon with merchandise.
01:43:11.000Um because this fall's about to hit, we're gonna be having some dope sweatshirts and hoodies coming pretty soon.
01:43:17.000Uh possibly maybe announcing it as soon as the next week or two before the end of this month.
01:43:59.000But with that said, the difference is that I'm going to try to approach it through a lens where I'm trying to be more analytical and methodical about how I go through my pro my my ideas, my my subjects and things that I'm thinking I'll be targeting men, women, relationships, society, Republicans, Democrats, you name it.
01:44:19.000My goal is just to bring truth to where I think it needs to be and then take it with me when I leave.
01:44:25.000So that's my goal and I hope that uh you guys can join the journey with me.
01:44:29.000Uh well I see you as a rising star in this space for sure.
01:44:37.000And of course uh that is a heavy title to hold but you know I wish you the best man and I see where you're going I I appreciate you coming on as well.