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00:02:12.000So yeah, guys, we're going to do the intro here, but once again, this is going to be the first ever couples intervention show on the podcast.
00:02:19.000So what I've heard of you, if you guys don't mind, give us your name, age, we do for a living, and then currently, I want to say your, I want to say, goals for this intervention.
00:02:38.000And what are your goals for this intervention, you'd say?
00:02:41.000Well, she knows I'm very familiar with this podcast, and I wanted to bring her here so she could see that you guys aren't as bad as the media says, you know?
00:04:16.000I grew up in Chicago, but I've been living in Connecticut for like the last 10 years.
00:04:22.000And I am an unemployment advocate for the Connecticut Department of Labor, and I'm also a Human Resources Sergeant with the U.S. Army Reserve.
00:04:41.000Yeah, I would say my goal is honestly just to be open-minded and to listen to what you guys have to offer as far as your male perspective, the male perspective in relationships.
00:04:58.000As we've been in our relationship, there has been a lot of growth.
00:05:02.000There's been a lot of disagreements as well, trying to You know, have two people with two different backgrounds, two different upbringings coming together.
00:05:40.000And honestly, like I was telling you guys before we started, excuse me, I don't like flying.
00:05:45.000So I'm not too familiar with how things go.
00:05:48.000And so we were literally like, the gate is right there.
00:05:51.000We see it and we're sitting at a bar and I'd said, I came up with a bright idea to have a glass of wine because I get a bit anxious, you know, when the plane first takes off.
00:06:01.000So I have my glass of wine, and it is now 9.24, and I tell her, hey, let's go board the plane.
00:06:07.000To my understanding, the time that the boarding pass set for the plane, which was 9.30, was, um, right, the boarding time, but that's the time that the plane takes off.
00:07:26.000The idea came up, the opportunity I would say came up to be in the podcast.
00:07:30.000We had a long conversation about this and a big back and forth with my sister-in-law and brother-in-law who I think they're even watching right now.
00:08:13.000But yeah, man, that's been the main, main issue.
00:08:18.000So she's the breadwinner in this situation.
00:08:21.000You guys don't have to say exactly how much you earn, but roughly, if you can give us an approximate 10 to 20k off, roughly, what would you say annual for you and then for her?
00:09:01.000Yeah, I would say like an extra like three, four hundred dollars a month because I'm paying the car notes with it and then there's like some profit that I make after the fact.
00:09:12.000So we could round up to, let's just say 60 for you then.
00:09:50.000Yeah, and I want to preface this by saying this is not an easy decision.
00:09:57.000I think anyone that has kids knows when you have to make sacrifices or make tough decisions, where you have to take time away to do something, especially when it's financial, it's tough.
00:10:09.000But yeah, the reason why I'm doing it is to be able to reclass, which basically means to change jobs.
00:10:54.000So, and correct me if I'm wrong here, because I'm trying to make sure I summarize this correctly.
00:10:57.000So, you're taking this and volunteering, so it puts you in a position where you can ask for an MOS that's better, so that you can ride it out the last 10 years doing that MOS. Yes.
00:11:07.000Because if you want to go ahead and ask for a better MOS, you need to volunteer for stuff.
00:11:13.000We all know how the government works, right?
00:12:32.000It'll be in Maryland because that's where the school base is.
00:12:38.000It's called the Defense Information School.
00:12:41.000So pretty much all branches that have their public affairs attachments goes through that base to complete whatever course they have.
00:12:49.000They're going to teach you about classifications, what to put out, what can't be put out, that type of thing, what's good for media, what's not, how to...
00:12:56.000And the reason why this is important to me and why I'm switching to this MOS is because my educational, my civilian education is in that background.
00:13:05.000So I have my bachelor's in media studies.
00:13:16.000You know, be active in some capacity, you know, doing what I went to school for, what I'm most passionate about.
00:13:23.000And I wasn't able to do that MOS when I first got into the Army because of my test scores, so I had to, like, retake my test, retake the ASVAB, and I got a higher score.
00:13:32.000Did you get your degree while you were in the military, use your GI Bill?
00:13:35.000No, actually, I joined the Army after I finished my Master's.
00:13:40.000You didn't try to go in as an officer?
00:14:05.000There's a certain test score that you need in order to qualify for officer school, which I didn't have when I took the test the first time.
00:14:12.000So it was kind of like you either can retake the test.
00:15:27.000So now after four or five years, now I realize and I'm like, yo, but, you know, it's listening to people like you and listening to people like Andrew Tate that, you know, it's opened my eyes.
00:17:49.000I told you, if you are willing to leave your job, I am willing to work two to three jobs so you can be at home with the baby.
00:17:55.000You told me, unless you are making $80,000 a year, Yeah.
00:18:00.000And I did say that because I kind of did the math and like in order to successfully thrive in a two-parent household, 80,000 a year is sustainable.
00:20:57.000So that's probably eating a decent amount of money too then.
00:21:00.000So even though you're at home, oh, because you can't be away from your laptop really, so you can't take care of the child the way you want.
00:24:09.000It has a lucrative revenue model that rewards content creators, streamers, celebrities for playing online video games with their fans and followers.
00:25:16.000And then what are your goals for family currently?
00:25:18.000My goals for family is for us to continue to grow as a family, you know, to, you know, get married and to have another child in the near future.
00:28:12.000If we're talking about something, if I'm asking him a question, he can get very irritated very quickly instead of us being able to work through the conversation.
00:28:21.000But is it something that he's spoken to you about before, though?
00:28:25.000Yeah, it may have been a topic that we've talked about before.
00:28:29.000Okay, so it's him repeating something that he's already told you before.
00:28:32.000Yeah, sometimes it could be that, which he's talked about, that, oh, I told you this already.
00:33:50.000I'm just being realistic about our life schedule, right, with the baby.
00:33:56.000But no, like I told you in the beginning, the example I told you, like, I'm willing to, if I have to work two to three jobs to get where I need to get, just so you can stay home and, you know, I gave her the option.
00:34:07.000So in order for her, in order for our way of life to keep going the way it is right now with the baby and all that, she needs to keep working the job.
00:35:46.000More feminine, more submissive, more, I don't know, pretty.
00:35:52.000If I can be a better version of myself better than her, if I'm understanding your question correctly.
00:35:57.000No, the question is, currently right now, your current status, your current, I guess, income, current, like, looks, so to speak, can you do better, for example, with a different woman, you think?
00:36:30.000If I was ever to talk, if I wasn't with her and I wasn't living the way I am right now and I was to go meet any other random chick, knowing what I know now, I know I'm not fit to even, you know, be in that position.
00:36:42.000And if I ever did speak to any girl, right, in the position I am now in life, I wouldn't feel proud of myself, you know, to just go out and then say, yo, bro, I got this baddie one or not, you know, and then just slap the word.
00:38:11.000Because the unit I'm at now doesn't have a slot for public affairs, so I have to go to a different unit that can support me and send me to school.
00:38:29.000And you're going to be there, you said, on weekends or off.
00:38:31.000So are you going to go back to Connecticut or how did you guys arrange that?
00:38:34.000So that's something that we're still going to be discussing, having ongoing discussions.
00:38:40.000So the positive in this, and I'm always like a glass half full type of person.
00:38:44.000So the positive in this is that if I go during this timeframe, November to April, I will get Thanksgiving break, weekend, and also like a two week Christmas break where I'll be able to come home.
00:39:24.000And would you be able to stop it if you wanted to at this point?
00:39:30.000Well, see, I mean, I could always choose to not go to school and embark in that, but then have to look at the ramifications of what that actually means.
00:39:44.000That means that I will be staying in the MOS that I'm at now, and I can't see myself doing that for another 11 years.
00:39:54.000You would miss this opportunity, basically, and you would probably be stuck in HR for the next 10 years.
00:40:00.000Yeah, time is of the essence in order to do certain things, like with reclassing, there's age limits, but of course you can get waivers, but still there's, you know, there's the age thing, there's, you know, being able to still have time left on my contract.
00:40:18.000There's a lot of variables that come into play that are going to drastically affect, okay, I see what you mean here.
00:40:24.000So this is really the only window of opportunity where you're in a good position.
00:40:28.000You're able to go ahead and get this training.
00:40:29.000This training will set you up where the last 10 years, if you're going to do something that you actually want to do, that you'll enjoy, then you can kind of ride into the sunset for your retirement.
00:40:38.000And the retirement is something that benefits the family as a whole, not just me, but him and our daughter and if we have another kid in the future.
00:40:46.000I want to hear your take on this, if you can ever compromise from what you're seeing.
00:40:51.000But let's do some chats real quick and then come back to you.
00:40:53.000Yeah, yeah, we can hit the chats real fast.
00:40:54.000And just so you guys know, I'll read the ones that came in, but obviously, Bill, do you know which ones came in way before the show started?
00:41:00.000Okay, and then we're only going to read 20 and up, just because we got to make sure that this thing is nice and smooth.
00:41:46.000Jay Morrow goes, both answer hypothetically, if you were to break up tomorrow, what would be the reason this should be telling us what you're ignoring?
00:41:52.000We've already kind of went over some of the things.
00:41:55.000Big Bossing CEO Network, various layers.
00:44:29.000You know, sometimes I feel that she isn't too attentive to the baby as more, you know, as I would like her to be.
00:44:41.000She's sometimes way too distracted with work.
00:44:43.000And she's done work and eight-hour shift.
00:44:45.000And, oh, I got this thing I need to do for the military, this post of social media thing.
00:44:50.000Or, hey, I got to go wash my car as a tour or this now.
00:44:53.000Oh, I got to help my mom and my dad with this.
00:44:56.000But then you're over here for hours on the phone and stuff.
00:45:01.000So, you know, it's things like that that are really aggravating, you know, because the baby then is just running around in the room.
00:45:07.000She's very independent, you know, playing by herself and this and that, and I try to be there with her.
00:45:12.000I try to read some books, and she does too at times, you know, don't get me wrong, and it's not like she doesn't want to do it, but the reason that she doesn't do it is because she's so busy.
00:45:49.000So that would be why you would leave him if he didn't commit and get married to you?
00:45:54.000I mean, I feel like we should be progressing towards marriage.
00:46:01.000You know, we've been together for five years, and this is discussions we've had multiple times where, you know, I believe we're on the same page about it.
00:46:10.000So I think that that will help to solidify, you know, our relationship Family unit and be able, you know, because that is something that I think is spiritually...
00:46:22.000But if you're not willing to follow his lead now, right, and put your career on hold, in this situation, would you be able to do it within the confinements of marriage?
00:46:35.000Yeah, so putting my career on hold, it would have to be worth it.
00:46:42.000But how would marriage change that is my question.
00:46:45.000If you guys got married hypothetically tomorrow, would you actually put a stop to what you got going on as far as going to Maryland and pursuing your dream?
00:49:39.000But a lot of the things that she's doing, chasing her career, trying to move over to the military, thinking long-term with her pension and her retirement, etc., these are all masculine traits that she's had to take on because you're not adequate right now.
00:50:07.000She has some things that she could work on, but the foundation is that you're not strong.
00:50:15.000So since you're not strong, she has to carry some of that weight, and since she has to carry some of that weight, that puts her in a situation where she can't even focus on the child, she can't be attentive.
00:50:23.000Because I know your biggest gripe, but she's not attentive to the child, which is completely, I see that's a very valid gripe, because she's not adhering to her motherly duties, but she can't do it because, if you notice, it's to make more money, it's to earn on Turo.
00:50:37.000It's typically for betterment of the family, which that should be your job.
00:50:41.000You should be the one saying, hey, I got shit to do, etc.
00:50:44.000She should be complaining about you not being attentive to the child, not the other way around, if anything.
00:50:48.000So she's basically been put in a masculine position.
00:51:26.000You know, that's really what it comes down to.
00:51:28.000And I mean, this is actually, this is really interesting because a lot of you guys that watch the podcast right now, y'all might be laughing, talking shit.
00:51:33.000Ha ha ha, this guy's a loser, blah blah blah.
00:51:34.000A lot of you guys are in the same situation where you're trying to sit there and get women to be submissive to you or she should follow your leader quickly for you, but you don't have your shit together.
00:51:43.000You cannot demand submissiveness and femininity from a woman when you don't have all the masculine traits to demand that femininity.
00:51:52.000It's, you know, we always say, you know, you need authority and you need responsibility.
00:51:57.000A lot of guys think about the authority, but they don't think about the responsibility.
00:52:00.000You want to be able to tell a girl what to do?
00:52:02.000You want to be able to tell her, hey, I need this, I need that, blah, blah, blah, etc.
00:52:05.000That comes with the responsibility of, I got everything handled.
00:52:10.000To be honest, you know what's happening here?
00:52:12.000You're catching a check in Myron's name, not your name.
00:52:21.000And that's one thing, too, about watching this kind of content, is that that's why we're so big on the self-improvement.
00:52:26.000And a lot of you guys get mad at me, Myron, you don't collab with these other creators, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:52:30.000The reason why is because they don't solve the other problem.
00:52:32.000It's good, one thing, to have girls on the panel and talk about fucking intersexual dynamics and you should be submissive and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:52:39.000If we didn't teach you guys how to make money, how to become more successful, how to have the right mindset, it doesn't fucking matter because you can't command submissiveness from women if you don't got your shit together.
00:52:48.000And a lot of you guys that are watching this shit right now, you guys might be laughing, but a lot of you guys are in the same fucking boat where you're with a woman and you got her by the skin of your teeth and she's doing most of the work and you guys kind of cohabitated.
00:52:56.000She makes most of the money, but you wanted to still make you a sandwich and suck your dick and shit like that.
00:52:59.000No, she's not gonna because she's fucking tired from doing your goddamn job.
00:55:14.000Yeah, so it's like ADTS active duty training for school.
00:55:19.000I want you to respond to what me and Myron said, and then how are you going to improve as the man to lead her and your daughter in the right way?
00:55:44.000This is what I call red pill masturbation, where you're watching red pill content and you're like, alright, I'm going to be assertive and dominant on my girl, but I don't have the fucking funds and or background to be able to back up what I'm going to say.
00:55:54.000I'm going to tell her to do this, or I need you to do this, I'm going to behave a certain way, but unfortunately you don't have the backing to be able to do so.
00:56:00.000It's like going to a bank and saying, hey, I need a loan to buy a house, but your credit score is 420.
00:56:04.000They're not going to give you a loan for the house.
00:56:06.000They're going to laugh at you and they're going to tell you, get out the bank.
00:56:32.000So I was expecting to get fried, cooked from you, man, you know, and I came here with that mindset to learn something, you know, for both of us.
00:56:41.000But I definitely also want to hear what she has to say about you, about what you just said about me, you know.
00:56:50.000Yeah, the funny thing is I thought I was going to get fried or cooked, to be honest with you, because I see a lot of glimpses of when you have the, you know, all-women panels and when the conversations go awry, you know, and they're going back and forth with you.
00:58:21.000I want it where he puts you in a position where you're working a cush gig, you're in the military, you've done your tenure, it's cool, but you're doing an easy OMS, you're chilling, you're doing the bare minimum, and you're just getting paid whatever you need to do, and he handles the majority of everything, and you work from a position of when I feel like it.
00:59:10.000And you understand his issues, and you love him.
00:59:12.000Are you willing to take that role where, hey, you know what?
00:59:15.000If man's up, I'll be submissive and follow him.
00:59:17.000You guys are in a better position than 99% of people, though.
00:59:20.000The fact that you guys are willing to talk it out, you guys are able to come here and hear another perspective, you guys are better off than most people just off of that alone.
01:00:08.000I knew this was going to be tough, man.
01:00:10.000And I guarantee there's probably a couple right now that's going through something similar or people that are going through something similar and they can learn from it as well.
01:00:17.000What you guys are experiencing isn't uncommon.
01:00:40.000Yeah, no, just to add on to what you were saying, you know, that's something that little by little I've been recognizing, you know what I'm saying?
01:00:48.000And I feel like this was the moment where God laid down the sledgehammer, you know what I'm saying?
01:01:53.000I come from a very strict church background.
01:01:56.000I would say it's called the Sound Doctrine and Pentecostal Church.
01:02:00.000So, you know, we were taught that when God speaks to you, you know, in a tough way, you know, it's because He loves you and stuff like that.
01:02:08.000So, you know, this is a big moment for us, and it's awesome.
01:02:12.000But yeah, people can find me on social media, OfficialMasterQ on Instagram and Twitter.
01:02:20.000And yeah, I'm going to be releasing a YouTube channel later.
01:02:25.000I'm probably going to be doing a vlog with this whole experiment as well.