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00:02:35.000So all the stuff behind the scenes, guys, because Fresh No Longer is going to be really doing vlogs, we're going to be putting it on castleclub.tv.
00:02:41.000Damn, that is one sexy logo right there.
00:03:21.000Without further ado, ladies, if you don't mind, give us your name, your age, what we do for a living, dating status, and if you want to, of course...
00:03:30.000And before we do that, I just want to say real fast, guys, if you want to super chat to the show, because this is a Friday supporter show, we got a super chat button.
00:05:34.000And then, I mean, you're only 18, so I'm assuming highest education level completed is high school, or you're in your senior year or something like that?
00:05:40.000No, high school, and I'll be attending Houston Baptist next year.
00:13:08.000I have a co-host and it's basically just like we hit record and we talk about modern day struggles for women who feel more resonated with the traditional way of life and just validating the fact that they shouldn't feel guilty for wanting to be a stay-at-home mom and wanting a man to provide and using the scripture to basically guide them.
00:13:45.000I'm majoring in finance, but I'm trying to switch it.
00:13:49.000Mostly because I don't really see myself in the corporate world in the future anymore.
00:13:54.000I just think I'm switching to something to work with kids, an education type of degree, just because I want to homeschool my kids in the future.
00:18:57.000Would you rather be a stay-at-home mom or a breadwinner?
00:19:00.000I definitely want to be a stay-at-home mom because when I have my kids, I want to be the one that raises them and be able to teach them the values.
00:19:11.000Because right now, society is pretty crazy, so I want to raise my kids.
00:19:16.000And if you found that man today, would you stop your career to stay home?
00:19:31.000And back on my relationship topic, I guess, that's the main reason why I'm trying to switch my major from finance and don't really want to be in the corporate world anymore.
00:19:42.000Because even though he doesn't make more money than me, like we make the same amount of money right now, I did end up leaving my corporate job at a law firm to work with children as of right now.
00:19:54.000I'm about to transfer again into another major that would help me be a better mother just because, you know, a degree is kind of a necessity in this day and age.
00:21:37.000I would say stay-at-home mom, but I would never just rely solely on my husband.
00:21:42.000I would always have a backup, but I would find probably a husband who could invest in me or take my own money that I've been making over the years to invest in the business, but I would never just trust a man.
00:21:52.000Exactly, because we always need something to fall back on.
00:26:15.000My friends would probably say that I'm funny and that I keep it real with them because if they're doing something I don't like, I'll tell them straight up.
00:33:36.000For me, I don't know, if you're secure and you have trust in your relationship, it's not that I'm going to be clubbing every single day, but if I have a friend's birthday or in a special occasion, I'm not into clubbing every weekend or all the time right now, but if I have a birthday or a girl's night or something like that,
00:35:30.000So I will go, I'll have a dance with my friends, and then I'll be home by like 12-1 sometimes.
00:35:35.000Do you think, because you said you're marriage-minded and you're looking for someone to take you seriously, do you think a guy that's marriage-minded himself would want his bride to be at the club?
00:35:44.000I've probably been about four times this year.
00:36:45.000If I want to go out with my girls and have a dance, have a few drinks, and I'm coming home to him, there's no issues.
00:36:52.000It's the same thing like if he wants to go out with his boys or go on like a lad's holiday, they want to go to Vegas, I'm not going to be texting him, kicking off, like go have your fun because I know that you're loyal to me.
00:37:02.000Even if your guys want to go speak to girls, that's fine, but I've got trust in you and you should have that trust in a relationship.
00:39:09.000Because you said the reason why you think it's appropriate is because you would also be okay with your guy going to the club.
00:39:15.000So what I'm asking is that do you think he's going to have the same amount of sexual opportunity with the opposite gender that you would have when you go to the club?
00:40:04.000Do you also agree with your friend's train of thought that a man is going to have the same amount of sexual opportunity with the opposite gender at a nightclub?
00:41:30.000And also I think that for your man to go to the club, I've seen plenty of men in sections, like just from afar, I've seen plenty of men that go out to the club and they don't talk to anybody.
00:41:40.000Like they'll be standing there or they'll be with their friends.
00:41:44.000So if you trust your man and he's not insecure, you're not insecure, I don't see a point why y'all both can't go to the club as long as you're not out there doing anything.
00:43:21.000Someone who tells you the truth, regardless of the outcome, or someone who's scared to tell you the truth because they're scared of the outcome.
00:43:28.000Someone who tells you the truth no matter the outcome.
00:44:03.000And they're actually the ones that are really insecure because they don't want to tell you the truth because they're scared of how you're going to respond because you guys are going to say the things you guys just said.
00:44:10.000Oh, you're insecure if you don't trust me to go to the club.
00:44:13.000But if a man tells you, I don't want you to go to the club because X, Y, Z, or...
00:44:17.000I would never call him insecure if he explains himself.
00:44:20.000You literally decided that as an example.
00:44:21.000No, if you talk to me and you explain to me why, we can talk about it and we can have a conversation and we can see both sides of it and that's fine and we can come to middle ground.
00:44:30.000But at the end of the day, you're not going to stop me from living a separate life sometimes.
00:44:35.000I'm not saying that separate life means that I cheat on you, but it means that I have my friends, you have your friends, and we have our own boundaries in our relationship.
00:44:54.000What if you were out with your guy, right, and you were going, you know, going for a walk, and you're walking with your purse, you know, everything's all good, and then some fucking guy just comes up behind you, grabs your ass, steals your purse, and runs away.
00:45:56.000Either A, you tell him, go chase him down and get my purse back, and you have to tell him that, by the way, because he's just standing like, oh my god, what do I do?
00:46:02.000Or B, he chases after the guy, gets your purse back, and whoops his ass.
00:46:22.000Obviously, you want your man to be a man, have initiative, but that doesn't mean that he has to be silent and not have to talk to you to have initiative.
00:47:14.000So, in one end, you want the man to be traditional and chase down the fucking guy and put his life on the line to get your purse back and exercise chivalry, but you don't want to go ahead and reciprocate and stay your ass at home for him?
00:47:52.000Do you guys see the ridiculousness of what you guys are saying?
00:47:56.000On one end, you want your man to be a gentleman and adhere to traditional values, but you're not willing to give back traditional values to him.
00:48:57.000Finish your point and then I'll say what I got to say.
00:48:59.000I feel like as a woman, if I'm cooking and I'm cleaning and he has a home and he has everything he needs, if I want to go and have a dance with my friends, I'm going to go and have a dance with my friends.
00:49:09.000If he has everything he needs and I have everything I need, I'm allowed to spend time with my friends.
00:49:13.000And if that evening means going to a club, I'm going to go shite my ass for 10 minutes and be home by 11.
00:49:19.000You're missing a key component of what men need.
00:49:34.000So if a guy tells you, hey, go clean and stay at home so I know that there aren't weirdos trying to grab at you at the club or whatever it may be, is that really that much to ask when you ask for way more from the man?
00:49:54.000Because you said I'm giving him everything that he needs, and I'm arguing that you're not giving him everything he needs, because a big thing that a man needs is to know that his girl isn't involved in activity that can compromise the relationship.
00:50:26.000I just find it very interesting how the girls that want to go to the club still expect their man to chase down an attacker and be a man, but when we ask you to be a lady at staying home, you guys are not willing to do that.
00:50:41.000And that's fine, but this is what I'm going to say.
00:50:43.000If you want to go to the club and be able to shake your ass and do what you want to do, cool.
00:50:47.000You don't deserve a man that's traditional.
00:50:48.000That's all I'm saying, because you're not a traditional woman.
00:52:01.000You said, like, if you had a traditional man, then I would agree, I would stay home.
00:52:06.000If my man didn't want me to go to the club, and he paid all the bills, and if he paid all the bills, and he didn't want me to go to the club, and that was like, we were married, and he's a provider, then I wouldn't go to the club.
00:52:16.000He has to do so much just to get that one.
00:53:59.000Be an asshole, but this is what I mean when I say women are delusional.
00:54:02.000Like, you guys are actually talking about you would physically try to fight a man.
00:54:06.000Obviously, I'm kidding, but as soon as I open the mouth and start yelling, he gets scared.
00:54:10.000I'm not saying I want to fight a man, but if a man's on the street trying to attack me, you better believe I'm going to make a fight for his life.
00:54:52.000Why would men feel like we had to pay bills with them?
00:54:55.000If we're inferior, I can't believe that I even have to have this conversation about human physiology between men and women where you guys...
00:55:01.000No, I'm not gonna try, but I know I'm gonna lose.
01:00:06.000How many of you actually think that, agree with them three, that guys are out here getting girls and killing it and they have as many options as women?
01:03:00.000Yeah, no, I mean, I just find it very interesting that you guys were trying to argue that, you know, a guy can go to the nightclub.
01:03:06.000Because the whole reason why you guys made the argument that it's okay for me to go to the nightclub is because my guy can go to the nightclub and I wouldn't mind.
01:03:12.000But you make the cardal mistake in not understanding that for a guy to go to a nightclub and get sexual access is way harder than it is for you.
01:03:20.000Yeah, but then you've also got the thing of that guys, when they go out, they're the ones paying and getting girls to be on their table.
01:03:26.000But are the women going to sleep with them or hook up with them for being at the table?
01:03:48.000It's absolutely not the same way around at all.
01:03:51.000The men had to spend thousands of dollars to have women come into the section where there's a high likelihood that they might not even get sexual access.
01:03:59.000You're gonna go to the club tonight, correct?
01:04:55.000What about the other 50% where the promoter might be attractive or the other percentage where the guy that's running the table is attractive?
01:08:41.000I mean, this is amazing that I even have to explain to you guys this, that sex for men and getting relationships and dealing with women is not the same as a woman dealing with a man.
01:08:51.000Then why do you guys live somewhere for less than a month and already start fucking girls?
01:10:26.000Your guy can go to the club and fuck another chick and come back to you and still love you, but if you go and fuck another dude in the bathroom, it's over.
01:11:01.000No, but I'm just saying that as a point.
01:11:04.000You fucking a bitch in the club, from the club.
01:11:06.000I was making an extreme example, but what I'm saying is that, because you guys are trying to say, my man can go to the, why should he be able to go to the club and I can't, blah, blah, blah.
01:11:13.000What I'm saying is that the man is capable of going to the club, having sex with a random girl, and coming home, and still loving you and supporting you.
01:11:21.000But the other way around, can you please stop interrupting for two seconds and actually listen before you respond, because you've been talking without necessarily understanding, and you just respond.
01:11:28.000Anyway, the guy can go to the club, fuck another girl, come back to you, still love you, still support you, you're still the main girl.
01:11:35.000But if you went to a club and fucked another guy, me and you both know it's over.
01:11:55.000I'm just confused because you say men can go to the club, but even if you take one and they fuck somebody, y'all think that's okay as men, but that's not okay to women.
01:12:05.000And it's the same way y'all don't think it's okay for us to go to the club, but y'all think it's okay for y'all to go to the club, but why would you think it's okay for you to fuck somebody else and I just go to the club and throw some ass and it's okay?
01:12:16.000We mentioned earlier, right, that you have way more requirements for men.
01:12:21.000So the man is paying the bills, taking care of you, I want to say, at the same time, being your security as well.
01:12:27.000So, if he goes out to have some fun every now and then, is that that bad?
01:12:31.000Well, they want you to cook, they want you to look good, they want you to have your nails done, they want you to attend him and serve him as he's a king.
01:12:38.000The guys require a lot of things too, no?
01:13:02.000Don't be a whore and go to the club and embarrass me.
01:13:05.000I think like maybe I just think differently and it might not be everyone else's opinion but like I just hope like the next relationship I'm gonna be in like I have that trust and that we can both be free and be loyal and that might not be everybody's view what everybody wants but that's what I want and I'd like an independent relationship where we both support each other financially and emotionally and be loyal.
01:13:41.000Like, you ever thought, like, instead of what you want, have you ever thought, hmm, I want this caliber of man, but what does that guy want in return?
01:13:47.000I think that I'd like the fact if we could have an open and honest conversation to find out what we both want and then be able to agree on together.
01:13:54.000Why should we have to tell you to be a lady?
01:13:56.000I'm not asking to tell me to be a lady.
01:14:01.000Yeah, I just feel like if I'm having a conversation with that guy and he tells me his boundaries, I tell him mine and we come to an agreement together, then we're happy.
01:14:09.000It's more of a, I'm not cool with this.
01:14:26.000Because then at least also, if they go to the club and you've agreed and they're not going to the club, you can sit there and say, actually, we agreed.
01:19:24.000Before I say that, I just wanted to tell you that I don't think that what you're looking for out of a relationship is completely unreasonable with men putting forth their boundaries.
01:19:32.000However, I do think that it's safe to say...
01:19:38.000However, I do just think that it's safe to say that it's a lot harder for men to bring forth their boundaries than it is for women just because of the way we react.
01:19:46.000For example, a man could say, oh, don't wear that, and that's him placing a boundary, but we're automatically going to call him misogynistic or controlling, rather than us placing a boundary.
01:19:57.000I'd like to think if I built that level with my partner, he'd feel comfortable enough to be able to speak to me, because I'm going to be his best friend, his rock.
01:21:16.000I wanted her to finish her point and then you guys can respond to it if you want.
01:21:20.000I just had to give my point there that I don't think friendship works, but continue.
01:21:24.000No, I just think for their relationships where they want it to be more egalitarian or where they want to be the provider, I think that's fine because not every woman is the same and not every man is the same.
01:21:35.000Sure, there's biology and psychology, but I think that, you know, ever since the pill was released, it was revolutionary.
01:21:41.000And that alleviated some of the pressure of being the provider on men.
01:21:44.000And if that's what she wants, then that's what she wants.
01:21:47.000Don't think the pill has anything to do with it.
01:21:51.000Okay, maybe I'm choosing my words wrong when I'm saying my best friend because I just want to feel like I can come to them and talk to them about anything.
01:21:57.000So I want to make sure that they feel that they can talk to me about anything.
01:22:00.000Maybe not be my best friend, but I want to make sure that I'm giving them that safe space.
01:23:20.000Can I just say, and this is such a point, is the fact that male suicide is so high, and they're always like, oh, males should speak about their emotions more, instead of just bottling up and then going and trying to kill themselves.
01:23:30.000Yet when we're trying to give them a space where they can talk to their partner, they should be able to do it because they're a man.
01:23:35.000They shouldn't talk to women about it, and I'll tell you why.
01:23:38.000They're not going to speak to other men, because men are also...
01:24:20.000But if I have a conversation because we're having trouble in our relationship and we want to fix it, then let's have a fucking conversation and fix our relationship.
01:24:27.000Do you understand that emotional people, you want an emotional guy, you can't pick and choose when he's emotional.
01:24:32.000He's gonna be emotional all the time because he's an emotional individual.
01:24:34.000No, a non-emotional guy can talk about his feelings.
01:24:36.000No, but if a man is emotional, he's an emotional man.
01:24:39.000It will show a lot of times in a lot of situations.
01:24:42.000Those men actually do hit you, by the way.
01:26:34.000I'm just saying, like, you keep saying women, this, women, that, and what men can do, what men can do, but if y'all were being men correctly, do you think y'all have a girlfriend?
01:31:10.000Why am I going to be with a girl that wants to shake her ass in the club?
01:31:14.000And she's like, no, I ain't trying to fuck.
01:31:16.000I already explained to you why a guy can go to the club and have sex with a girl and it's not that big of a deal versus if a woman does it, it's a big problem.
01:31:23.000I would never understand how I make you up for somebody to say he loves you.
01:31:26.000Nobody's gonna wife a bitch that's in the club.
01:31:29.000Fuckin' all his friends and then he find out...
01:31:32.000No one's also gonna marry a guy that's just fuckin' girls in the club.
01:31:36.000I would argue a man that has sex with a bunch of girls at the club is very attractive to a lot of women.
01:32:34.000I don't think experience actually means the amount of people you had sex with, because I feel like the more you have sex with monogamously, then it just gets better and better for both people, because you get to know each other's bodies more.
01:36:06.000But I said no, because I think he's ugly.
01:36:12.000Okay, so, I don't want to sound like an asshole, but with all due respect, you're a fairly average looking woman, but you rejected an A-list celebrity.
01:36:18.000I'm just not attracted to him, and I don't care about the money, so that's why.
01:39:14.000And then he'd been on this show, a big cooking show in the UK. So we went for dinner and he's getting the waitress and being like, can you cook it this way?
01:42:01.000I know how you're responding to the questions that we've given you throughout the course of the podcast and you've embarrassed yourself quite a few times while contradicting yourself.
01:42:08.000Okay, thank you for telling me that I embarrassed myself because I personally did not think I did.
01:45:46.000He can barely have a job, maybe he's on welfare, he's struggling, etc.
01:45:50.000But his wife is still at home, cooking and cleaning, taking care of the kids.
01:45:53.000And he can barely provide, but he's trying his hardest, right?
01:45:56.000But he doesn't have to pay all the bills and do all this extra shit and have a big dick and have status and all that to get his girl to stay at home.
01:46:03.000The wife stays at home because in her culture, it's shameful to be at a nightclub shaking your ass with a bunch of other men.
01:46:36.000Even though he don't have a lot of money, he's still providing for her.
01:46:38.000But my point is that guys of lower socioeconomic status, right?
01:46:45.000They can still be rest assured that their girl is not going to do stupid shit regardless of their status because the women just come that way.
01:48:58.000Don't you have to go to law school, work, understand, apply for the law firm, beat out all the applicants, get the job, and then work your way up?
01:49:39.000If you're not willing to need a man, you're not going to do what's required to keep the man and he's not going to take you seriously and wife you up.
01:49:46.000I've been engaged twice and left them.
01:49:49.000Those weren't the men that you wanted?
01:49:53.000Yeah, because I had everything and I left them because they didn't make me happy and my happiness comes more than any other thing.
01:50:01.000Like money, financial things like that.
01:50:31.000100% you're not going to have an easy relationship.
01:50:34.000I'm just saying like I would choose feeling happy with someone that has no money and has nothing rather than being unhappy with a guy that just has everything.
01:51:00.000That's why so many relationships are failing.
01:51:02.000That's why so many children are children of divorced families.
01:51:05.000It's because we always think that there's something better out there rather than being content and realizing, looking at it from a perspective, oh, I have a good guy.
01:51:13.000Yeah, but if you're not in a content relationship, would you?
01:51:17.000Because everyone in the world is telling you not to settle for anything but the best.
01:51:22.000Do you want your child to grow up seeing an unhappy relationship and think that that's normal for them to grow up in or to see two co-parents that are really happy and friendly together and seeing a healthy, happy co-parent relationship rather than seeing an unhappy relationship and then when they grow up thinking that's what they're going to have a want for their life.
01:51:40.000But I think she means that right now, in times where right now, it's very easy to just...
01:51:50.000I'm just saying that going into a relationship for the sole purpose and goal is I need to be happy, then that relationship is destined to fail.
01:55:04.000But it doesn't mean I'm going to devalue it myself and what I want just because I might not have the same opportunities as someone who's younger, pretty, and doesn't have a kid.
01:55:14.000But what if what you want doesn't want you back?
01:55:39.000Why is it that women are not going to lower their standards and understand like, yo, you can no longer negotiate for the man that you had that you could have negotiated for 10 years ago.
01:55:48.000So, what's the age that you've got to negotiate?
01:56:07.000It's either I'm going to lower my standards and live in reality of what I can actually attract, I can write a check that I can actually cash, or you're going to stay single.
02:00:25.000Women who maintain friendships with overweight women tend to exhibit dishonest behavior, often using their comparisons as a means to enhance their own image.
02:02:49.000I'm 6'4", earned over six figures, built and from the UK. On both of my trips to Miami, I smashed two married women and I picked up in the club.
02:02:55.000That's why ladies shouldn't be in the club unless single.
02:02:58.000Yeah, there's only time y'all doing a club.
02:14:25.000I just wanted to say that most of you are really cool and I enjoyed talking to you, but just to finish my thought, I don't think that I'm necessarily looking at it from a gold digger perspective.
02:14:44.000Because when I say that, there's more that a man can provide for you that is not tangible.
02:14:48.000I mean, like, he can provide safety, stability, protection, and even solutions.
02:14:52.000Because if I have something going on in my life, I expect him to come up with a solution.
02:17:37.000You said happiness was your main point of contention, right?
02:17:40.000So once again, you're happy in the moment of seeing the guy, he's making you feel good.
02:17:45.000What can happen is, eventually, when things get kind of rough, or you get kind of like out of hand, where you're paying all the bills, You won't be happy anymore because you're like, damn, now I feel like I'm being used and he's abusing me.
02:17:55.000So your happiness is going to fade away eventually, no matter what you do.
02:17:57.000Yeah, but if that guy has got drive and that he wants to do better with his life, why can't I support him and help him?