00:20:15.000So, ladies, if you don't mind, give us your name, your age, what you do for a living, dating status, and if you want to, of course, your body count.
00:21:17.000Uh, parents together, yes, they've been together since they were 16.
00:21:20.000Birth control, me, no, and uh, Chris, wait, so your um, your mom is uh, black, yes, I figured that Mexican because if it's the other way around, he would have been single, yeah, they would have been you know, separated, no, no, yeah, well, I don't know, you know, you know, black, you know.
00:21:39.000Well, those, but he's saying the stats are in my favor.
00:21:42.000The stats are in my favor, but for the most part, yes, yes.
00:28:25.000I mean, I really did try to understand, but when it becomes more like now you're trying to push it in my face, like, Yeah, I got her pregnant, and there's really nothing I can do about it.
00:28:35.000I'm gonna show you I can do something about it.
00:28:37.000And I'm gonna get up out of here before, you know.
00:33:31.000I've seen, yo, I'm not gonna lie, New York, like moving out here, I'm not gonna lie, the Miami man is worse out here than like back in New York, but like, I don't know, I tried a little bit out here, this and that, and I'm not gonna lie, it's worse out here than it is back over there, so I don't know.
00:39:59.000Actually, like Tyla recently did an interview where she identifies a woman of color, and I would say that is a more fitting term analogy than black.
00:49:52.000Yeah, I just, I honestly, the thing is, is that it's more of the fact that you have to read people and know how to talk to people because there's a lot of people that'll be like, you don't see that fucking sign?
00:50:01.000Matter of fact, I can't even read the sign.
00:50:15.000So it's really just more about like, The family sometimes I'll have wives come to the door and be like, I'm not my husband deals with it, my husband deals with it, whatever.
00:50:23.000And then, yeah, I have to have them basically.
00:50:26.000I quit because the business itself started going down in Fort Myers, they do a lot of scamming, so it's like a lot of people were coming into the business and the face of the business and doing scamming like that phone that people be doing.
00:50:38.000That's what they were doing, and they were it up.
00:50:40.000So, and the proration, I know, not yeah, uh, no, the trend percentage, trend percentage it went up.
00:50:46.000So, the amount that we get per line is.
00:53:11.000You said single, I'm single currently.
00:53:14.000Um, I had broke up with my ex that we were together for about a year, but I also knew him since elementary, so we're a long like friends way before that.
00:53:24.000It was some cheating, not on my end, um, cheating, but also a lot of like manipulation.
00:53:32.000Um, basically, I had smoked behind his back, he didn't like me smoking, and from there, he did a lot of trying to get a get back, but it was 10 times worse than what I was doing when I never genuinely did anything.
00:58:26.000Like, I should have been completely honest.
00:58:29.000Like, whatever the fuck I did, even if I did smoke behind his back, I should have been like, hey, I smoke behind your back.
00:58:34.000I should have been straight up, but then again, it already played itself out.
00:58:39.000We already spoke about everything, should already happen.
00:58:41.000But moving forward, for sure, like, for me, it's loyalty.
00:58:44.000Accountability and just being like very authentic and just truthful and telling the saying whatever the fuck you do, whether you whatever the fuck you do, if it's wrong or right.
01:04:01.000So, in terms of being a relation to a man as a woman, I agree with her genuinely saying that we're taking account of what hurts our relationship, behaviors that are hurting our relationship.
01:04:12.000So, you need to be accountable towards what's hurting your relationship or what's bettering your relationship.
01:04:16.000And you're supposed to be able to discuss that as partners.
01:10:15.000Well, it wasn't my turn to talk, but I just wanted to ask that question, so I'm not going to, like, go into it.
01:10:21.000She asked about the power dynamic, meaning that when she was dating a man, a man was telling her what to do.
01:10:28.000No, I asked why, like, because it seems like you guys are posing the question as if, like, that we need to be looking for a man, but I said, why can't we just want a man for the sake of, Wanting a man to be ready for the man when he shows up because the problem with ladies is that they just come up themselves that I'm just me.
01:11:29.000Yeah, in my past relationships, I feel like what we went through was not only just me, but we both just couldn't admit the things that were going on or how we felt about certain situations.
01:11:42.000And it just caused problems because, like, you're acting like something's not bothering you, but it's bothering you.
01:14:34.000I feel like being truthful, honest, straight in the beginning is more easier than lying and then having to hold on to a lie and then having to drag on and then I don't know.
01:14:44.000I have bad nerves and then I get nervous when I'm lying too.
01:16:29.000Five years straight, I never even thought of another man.
01:16:32.000Yeah, well, I mean, once again, that's your job.
01:16:34.000His job is to procreate, you know, whatever.
01:16:35.000You know, he's a man, you know, Muslim, I think.
01:16:38.000So, your job is to stay loyal and, you know.
01:16:40.000Yeah, it was, but I'm not going to keep being loyal to someone, you know, who obviously ain't using me for the resources of having another kid.
01:18:15.000I mean, he didn't beat me, that was like the first time I killed Talon.
01:18:17.000I mean, technically speaking, no, I know, but I'm just saying, like, it wasn't like an always happening thing, so it's like I just chose to take that, and it always starts like that.
01:19:55.000No, word, like, I mean, shit, I still have, like, some accomplishments I want to get done, and, like, being accountable to myself, if I'm, like, being negligent towards myself versus, like, Doing good for myself, like, yeah.
01:20:06.000Question If you met a man that was successful, maybe taller than you, like you like, yeah, you know, took care of you, he said to you, You know what?
01:20:15.000I have these requirements, yeah, maybe listen to what I say, you can't do what you want to do all the time, yeah, would you change for that person?
01:23:28.000Okay, how did I take accountability in my last relationship?
01:23:31.000Okay, accountability, the ability to take account.
01:23:34.000I felt like before, during, and after the relationship, I was taking a good account of what I was lacking coming into the relationship, how I wanted to work on it after reflecting what we could have done better.
01:30:58.000So, why do I need to listen to what you're telling me?
01:31:00.000If we agree and you say, Oh, hey, babe, this is bothering me, and I say, Yeah, baby, you're right.
01:31:05.000I don't want to bother you, I don't want to upset you, I value our relationship.
01:31:09.000But sometimes if it's petty shit, and I'm like, No, nigga, like you call him, nigga, yeah, the fuck, but you're not black, yeah, you're not black.
01:32:12.000I feel like, okay, if I was in a position where, like, a man is, like, supporting my lifestyle, obviously, yeah, because, like, you know what I mean?
01:32:21.000You're kind of paying for my life, you know what I mean?
01:36:52.000So, maybe it makes sense, you know, but if no, if he's paying all of it, I don't care, like, okay, so I'm in your mind, I gotta bite her different.
01:44:08.000I don't know if it's just because I have a dad or what, but like, that shouldn't be the only person in your life that's holding you accountable.
01:45:35.000Like, if you can't take accountability for something, then you just obviously, maybe you don't agree with it, but at the same time, it gets to a point where if you're there saying it over and over again, and maybe if you've heard it from someone else, maybe they have a point.
01:46:44.000Nowadays, they want to do what they want to do, they don't care about what a man wants, and it said them was like, Okay, you're not paying my bills, off.
01:46:51.000Yeah, and I think that as I won't keep mentioning the chat, but as people tend to say, it's an American problem, and I think that our state of our economy has pushed women to this point.
01:47:23.000I feel like if you have a problem taking accountability with your person, that's not your person because if it was, you would want to change, you want to adapt to what they need, and you want them to do the same for you.
01:47:33.000So if you just can't take accountability, then that's not you don't like him.
01:49:53.000Well, me personally, I don't know their situation, but I feel like a lot of things too.
01:49:56.000When you have a baby, I feel like as a woman, For one, I feel like maybe she could have been playing it like, you know, when you act like you give a fuck about a man less, they kind of want you more sometimes.
01:50:06.000Depending on the man, sometimes people don't be going for that shit, like, bitch, come here or go, go, go somewhere else.
01:50:11.000But I feel like she was playing it like that.
01:50:14.000And then having the baby, lifestyles change.
01:50:17.000So it's like, honestly, a lot of people like that saying, like, when you have a baby, shit changes and people change.
01:50:22.000And you start to realize your person more because now you're completely with them.
01:50:27.000You're stuck with an 18 year sentence, either financially or physically.
01:50:31.000And it's like, A lot of just changes, like who knows?
01:50:34.000Maybe their day to day cycle just wasn't it for them no more, and they just couldn't do it together.
01:50:42.000I don't know because I don't know these people and I'm not parasocial, but if I had to take a guess, I would probably say it does give like the dynamic of he liked her more than she liked him.
01:50:53.000Pretty obvious, but I also think that maybe they could have just both got what they wanted out of it.
01:50:56.000Like we dated, we got engaged, we had a baby, and then maybe we just decided like that spent mad right on the wedding, though.
01:51:02.000Wait, but and the ring, though, she didn't spend a lot of money.
01:55:48.000If, if, if, what, what, what, what, you actually, I think I am his type, but he actually just has like really like um, he has great options.
01:55:56.000Like, I'm not because those girls are die hard, but if you could, he seems like a like a fun time.
02:02:54.000Honestly, it's kind of like having women come on, you know, speak their mind, and men can see if it's worth dating or not, for the most part.
02:03:06.000Obviously, most men want to be with somebody, have a family as well, but dating nowadays is so fucked up.
02:03:13.000And to be honest, most women are not worth their weight in gold, so.
02:03:18.000Yeah, I mean, and we tell men to get in, you know, to make money up, you know, get in shape, make sure you're, you know, you're.
02:03:25.000Your finesse is good because once again, like Jay single, like I'm sorry to say, like he shouldn't be doing a lot to you know his girl or pick a girl who's not on the spotlight, like pick an average girl because she, I won't lie to you, she's a Miami six at best, you know what I'm saying?
02:03:40.000So, there's many girls working at McDonald's that's prettier, younger, and not ran through that he could easily get, but yeah, to be fair, um, she has a really crazy pass, um, so it's kind of like, bro, you know what you're getting, bro, yeah, she was with G uh, DDG, right, and they were friends.
02:07:08.000And this is going to be really, I want to say, really good because you can see in real time what the chat says about you as a woman for dating.
02:07:17.000Because I think most people that have an Instagram page or a social media page don't get kind of a perspective on how they are from outside looking in.
02:23:49.000Uh, is it fair to give a partner an ultimatum to give up a lifestyle habit, partying, smoking, playing the game, or should you just find someone who already matches your lifestyle?
02:24:14.000The same thing, like in my situation, like smoking or partying or like gambling, you have a, oh, sorry, a porn addiction, like stuff like that, like shit like that.
02:24:22.000So if I want to marry you or get on one knee, I have to know that you're the one for me.
02:24:27.000So, like, I'm not going to marry someone that doesn't align with my, you know, what I want in my family.
02:24:31.000But you, on the other hand, it's like if I'm doing something, like I'm gambling or drinking or whatever, and he's like, yo, I want to be with you, I think the guy has more leverage to do what he wants.
02:28:00.000So, the biggest turn off is women that are not accountable, pretty much.
02:28:09.000What if the person you're praying for.
02:28:11.000Isn't supposed to come into your life yet because you're still becoming the version of yourself who can actually receive the love you want.
02:28:18.000But the person you're preparing for isn't a person.
02:29:29.000If, let's see, basically, if shit, it's a lot of red flags.
02:29:35.000I see, but a green flag is if she can be with me without saying she's bored, I guess, when she has her own personality, which is like chilling in the house and she doesn't have to do anything.
02:29:45.000Like, you could just do your own thing, hop on hobbies.
02:30:44.000No, me personally, I've always tried to keep that boundary of listen, I'm trying to bring you girls.
02:30:48.000To the club, and I'm gonna bring you bitches, and I'm gonna go out with you, but I'm not gonna be over here for you because business and yeah, business and personal is weird.
02:30:54.000So, a green flag will be having a one on one with your dad that you're close to, like you're close to your dad that's a green flag, and not being a hoe.
02:31:02.000What's your favorite thing about a girl body part?
02:31:59.000But most people also aren't locking in regardless.
02:32:01.000Like, they're going to make it seem like you guys, like, yes, we're locked in, cool, but you're always going to have an option on the side, realistically.
02:32:52.000You said it turned into a real committed relationship, so it's like no, no, no, but yeah, money.
02:32:56.000It was COVID, though, but to be honest, it is good for the person that has um status and higher percentage of men.
02:33:04.000For most men, it's not because if you think about it, most women are going to want the top percent of men, so if they have dating apps, they have like social media, they get all the play versus men are at the bottom.
02:47:15.000So, do you want a man to make more money than you?
02:47:17.000It doesn't matter, yes or no, yes, but it doesn't matter if I made more money.
02:47:22.000You want a man to protect and provide for you, yes, okay.
02:47:26.000So that way, if that's the case, then of course, he's we're gonna lean towards that because we want to make men better on this podcast, right?
02:47:33.000Because you girls don't know what the fuck you want, so we big advice more towards men, so and your girls will fall into place.
02:47:39.000So we don't hate you girls, but we just want to be better for the women that we're surrounded by.
02:47:42.000I don't think she meant that y'all hate us, you know what?
02:47:47.000But why the definition itself says hatred.