On this episode of Freshly Pregnant, we have special guest Acklin. Acklin is a 26-year-old entrepreneur who has been in the dating game for a long time but has never been in a relationship. In this episode, Acklin shares his story of how he went from being a college dropout to being a successful entrepreneur. He talks about how he got his start in the business and how he was able to get his first job as a financial analyst at the CDC. He also talks about why he decided to go back to school and why he doesn t want to have kids. We also talk about his relationship with his ex-fiancee and what he's been up to since the break-up. We finish up the show with a Q&A session with some lovely ladies. Thank you so much for listening to this episode! FreshlyPregnant is a podcast where we are here to help you become a better version of yourself and give you the tools and tips you need to be a little bit more confident in your self-esteem and confidence so you can have a little more fun in your relationships and in your dating life. If you like what you hear, please HIT SUBSCRIBE on Apple Podcasts and leave us a rating and review! We re listening to you guys on iTunes and sharing it with your friends and family! XOXO, Chris, Kristian, Eric C. Parkson, and Acklin! Thank you for listening and supporting this podcast! xoxo, Chris & Acklin - Love ya! - Chris, Chris and Ackling, Thanks for listening! - Cheers! -Kris, AJ & Ackling - Kristian & Acklynn <3 - -Josie . - AJ and Ackled & Ackled, -Kristian, Acklin, . . , Ackled & Ackles, AJ, , and Ackley, ? + Ackling & Ackley and Ackly ( ) ~ Ackley & Ackly, ...and Ackley , AND Ackley ( ) - , Ackley! - Ackly & Ackleigh, + | with Ackley and Ackleigh , , & Acklyn, & & Ackley.
00:06:34.000And then you said, I want more money, and you did no F. No, honestly, I just thought to myself, I'm making so many of these stakeholders so much money.
00:06:41.000Like, I'm literally hired to analyze where you can do better.
00:06:44.000And it forced me to look at myself and say, where can I do better?
00:06:47.000And sure, it wasn't the right asset to use, but I have a very large asset, so I'm going to use it.
00:06:56.000I have one in public health and another in international administration and I'm hoping to apply to UCLA for a JV PhD program just because I thought to myself I could be a lawyer, I could be a judge, only God could judge me so I'm gonna be a judge.
00:07:08.000Where did you get your two masters from?
00:08:13.000Because it's very difficult for people to find employees.
00:08:16.000So in Jersey, because we're right there by New York, CT, Philly, so my staffing agency, we offer like bottle girls, bartenders, video vixens and stuff from, yes, so from like the entire tri-state.
00:08:30.000So we're either in Jersey or, you know, because we're by New York, so we have access to all those other states that drive, like you could drive there.
00:14:20.000The whole time you were the breadwinner.
00:14:21.000Yeah, well, so I didn't really blow up on OF until, like, mid-relationship, and I think maybe he got insecure over that, and then he started, like, kind of, he didn't want to go to work.
00:26:47.000In an ideal world, yes, but to be honest, men with money are, so to speak, men of different status, don't care if their girl has money or not.
00:26:55.000So I would just say, technically speaking, I agree with you, but is it always happening that way?
00:27:03.000Okay, so whenever I get advice to either gender, you know, people get mad at me for this, because I always give advice to women to give them the advantage, and I always give men advice to give them the advantage, because dating is adversarial, right?
00:27:13.000It's always one person has to have the leverage.
00:27:42.000Well, he just kind of started disrespecting me because he had to work and go like do manual labor, which is really not my problem, but I supported it.
00:27:53.000If you're gonna come at me for no reason when I'm supporting you and like emotionally, you know, I'm like cleaning the house, I'm like making the house like ready for you every time you come home from work, while I'm still making more bread than you, I'm gonna get disrespectful with you.
00:28:07.000Be honest though, that D-game was fire.
00:29:02.000Controversial take, I've always said it.
00:29:03.000I don't think women build, I think they move in.
00:29:05.000And I know people might say that's misogynistic or that's fuck it up or whatever, but the reason why I say that is because as a man, when you make more money and become successful, your girl benefits.
00:29:18.000As a woman, when you make more money and become successful, you start to look like I can do better.
00:29:22.000Men and women aren't really the same when they get leverage in their relationship from a financial standpoint.
00:29:27.000For women, I tell them, get a man that you can look up to and admire that makes significantly more money than you and has more status than you and is better than you.
00:29:34.000Like her, for her example, I'm not going to knock you for being with a guy when you were supporting him and leaving him.
00:31:35.000And I'm so proud of him because although when I met him two and a half years ago, he didn't see it possible, he leaves to be a CBP officer next month.
00:34:22.000So I'm like, alright, well if we break up because of this amicable difference, at least let us be a part of one another's lives at the end.
00:41:18.000Look, here's the other thing too, what I've noticed.
00:41:21.000Controversial take, because you mentioned the whole thing, what about she nuts or whatever.
00:41:25.000What I've noticed is the only girls that take a lot to nut are sluts.
00:41:30.000I'm just going to be all the way honest.
00:41:32.000Girls that don't get fucked a lot or aren't whores typically get off with just some penetration and some foreplay because you're so attracted to them and they like you so much in the first place.
00:41:41.000You ain't got to do too much to make them nut.
00:41:42.000It's the hoes that need all this extra shit.
00:41:46.000But what I'm saying is that, that's what I've come to realize from my experience, is that if you're doing what you're supposed to do, you're the provider, you're the protector, you're attractive, you go to the gym, you take care of yourself, you put the mission first, you got your masculinity on point, she's gonna nudge us from you putting your dick inside her because you've already turned her on Mentally.
00:43:08.000I feel like it should be, where the finance is concerned, I get it.
00:43:12.000If you're going to, and it just, based on your situation, Because a lot of females that, okay, they don't believe in the whole financial thing.
00:43:19.000It's like, okay, whoever making what, whatever, we come together as a team, correct?
00:43:23.000And then it's another situation where we're sticking to the traditional way.
00:44:56.000At least, I don't know about you guys, but, like, as a girl, the first time you have sex, I didn't lose my virginity until well into college, right?
00:45:03.000I didn't know what a blowjob entailed.
00:45:14.000You know, when it comes down to making a man ejaculate, although there is that attractive layer, if you don't know what you're doing and you're a novice, how do you interpret that?
00:45:24.000And also, to go back to your preliminary point about your girlfriend in the bedroom, do you believe in toys in the bedroom?
00:48:29.000I need to make sure I'm in the gym and taking care of myself and making sure my teeth are white and clean and straight and, you know, staying on point.
00:48:36.000I think men genuinely, half the battle is doing the work outside of the bedroom and then meeting the girl and then she either likes you or she doesn't.
00:48:44.000Yeah, I think if it's your girl, you should eat her box, though.
00:50:39.000All I can say is it's a time and a place because of the fact that, one, I might have liked you, but given these conversations, we might not make it there yet.
00:51:29.000Women are not aroused by men that care that much because it's a demonstration of lower value.
00:51:34.000If you're an attractive guy and you're on your purpose and you're good looking and other women want you, Why the fuck would you care what one has to say?
00:52:55.000When men go out on dates, because we know that we gotta foot the bill and everything else like that, we only go out with chicks if we're attracted to them.
00:53:01.000Women, on the other hand, will go out with men that they're not attracted to.
00:53:08.000Just because you won't do it doesn't mean a staggering majority of women still won't do it.
00:53:16.000I would argue that 80 to 90% of women have probably been on a date with a man that they don't like that much for some type of purpose that could come.
00:53:24.000Because like I said before, men have to provide value.
00:53:26.000So I think as a man, you shouldn't even entertain a chick unless she's actually interested in you because a lot of girls will just use you for free attention or dinners or whatever else you provide.
00:53:35.000I understand where you're coming from.
00:53:36.000You're now challenging the idea of men and women having platonic relationships.
00:54:29.000No, because y'all chill with a female before that y'all wasn't really attracted to, but y'all wanted to sleep with her, so y'all was like, alright, I'm going to just take her to the movie so I can smash her at the end of the night.
00:55:27.000Maybe the only reason why men and women can be friends is if there's not that layer of men liking women, like gay men and women being sisters.
00:56:39.000Reverend 971 ranted from rumble and says attractive women are most of the time useless because they never had to be useful.
00:56:48.000My people was telling me I don't got homeboys because I feel like some dudes is really my homeboys, but they're like, that's not your homeboy.
00:57:48.000I mean, to finish my point, I think the reason why women are okay with keeping male friends, even with them trying to sleep with them, is because men have to provide, men understand that they have to provide value to be in any type of relationship, right?
00:58:03.000From the time you're a little boy, your dad tells you, don't be a broke, your mom tells you, go to school, etc.
00:58:08.000There's pressure on you from the time you're young, whether it's playing sports, whatever, that you need to provide value to society.
00:58:13.000So when a man's friends with a woman, he's like, okay, I can provide this masculine energy.
00:58:41.000That's the benefit of having a male friend.
00:58:42.000Although there may be some type of sexual relationship from his end, as she said, she thought that was her friend.
00:58:47.000So in this instance, I know for a fact you're not as attracted to East African girls, right?
00:58:51.000But I'm an East African girl who knows that the words that you're spitting are knowledgeable because that's how I'm going to understand men.
00:58:57.000And although we may not be close friends, it is friend advice that you're giving to understand men.
00:59:01.000That's why men tell women, be careful with the men you're around because they know how those men act.
00:59:11.000I think the thing is that because girls are able to kind of stiff arm the guy from putting his dick inside her and she's able to extract the value and still get what she needs out of him while keeping him at arms, which I've noticed every single one of y'all probably have a guy friend that is in a friend zone that you've put there that would gladly hook up with you if you gave him the opportunity, but you're like, no, and you're able to get benefits from him.
00:59:30.000Maybe it's getting into clubs, maybe it's...
00:59:33.000Tables, maybe it's dinners, maybe it's just a guy you can call.
00:59:36.000The biggest thing is they ignore it because it's still there.
00:59:39.000But that's why I personally don't have female friends because I genuinely look at it like this is not a benefit to me.
01:00:15.000And I've noticed when I was in college or whatever, when girls are friends with girls in college, they're friends with them because she can get me to this party, she can hook me up with this, blah, blah, blah.
01:00:22.000As soon as that value stops, they're done with her.
01:00:24.000With men, they're friends from elementary school and they keep fucking watching the same cartoons they watched when they were in elementary school together as adults in their 30s.
01:00:31.000But women don't hold those same relationships.
01:00:33.000And I've realized that girls are just very good at extracting value, whether it's from other females or from friends.
01:00:38.000And I kind of learned this from seeing a stripper for a while.
01:00:43.000And I was seeing her, and then I was talking with her friends.
01:05:12.000If a woman was to be like, yo, Myron, I'm not disputing the fact that you might try to initiate sexual activity I'm disputing the fact that you're going to overtly initiate the sexual activity and say, let's fuck or I'm going to suck your dick.
01:07:17.000Oh, I mean, if you were, let's say a petite, blonde, double-titied-up woman approached you and said, yo, Myra, and yo, that dick looking fire in the pants.
01:07:26.000Like, randomly, like, I didn't know her.
01:07:29.000Like, at the party, you three heady shots deep, and she was like, damn, nigga.
01:07:32.000Well, she doesn't say the N-word, but like, you know, she was like, damn, that's a nice call.
01:08:20.000Like, just because you have sex with a girl quickly doesn't necessarily mean she's a whore.
01:08:24.000And just because a girl makes you wait doesn't mean that she's necessarily a good girl either.
01:08:28.000So, I think that's where it comes in where you have to, as a man, you have to employ certain tactics and strategies to be able to decipher if the girl is wife immaterial or not.
01:08:38.000And there's a bunch of behaviors that women, I guess, exhibit that can qualify or disqualify them, and it's on you as the guy to kind of identify that.
01:08:48.000I think being finessed is a two-person job, and if you're getting finessed, she's the finesser and you're the finesse.
01:08:54.000It's on you as the man to make sure bad women don't come into your life from a relationship.
01:08:58.000If you want to sleep with them, that's one thing, but you don't want to elevate these girls to anything serious where they can fuck your life up.
01:11:05.000When I'm at the club, I gotta be able to figure out...
01:11:09.000I'm doing something in my head where I'm screening out girls that are there to use me.
01:11:15.000Because you gotta understand, the nightclub is filled with a bunch of women that are looking for a good time and they don't give a fuck who provides it to them.
01:12:33.000Outside of the sex, would you agree, or you could disagree, would you agree that men just honestly provide more value in the confinements of a relationship than a woman does?
01:12:44.000Of course, I'm never taking no females serious.
01:12:47.000I'm here for a good time, not a long time.
01:16:13.000They wear 42, but if they're a little guy...
01:16:16.000If they can't afford it, they'll get 36.
01:16:19.000The only watch that's acceptable as a 36 is the original presidential, but other than that, as a man, but other than that, if you're wearing a 36, you're a fag.
01:23:15.000WFNF, three days into being on CC, best choice I made, I am allowed to make locals community called Castle Club California or should I just make a Reddit?
01:23:20.000Was on the Zoom, also WMO. Yes, we want y'all to make fucking chapters, bro.
01:23:24.000I'm telling you, we need a Castle Club LA, we need a Castle Club Miami, well, we're going to be the heads of the Castle Club Miami, but we want, we already got a Castle Club Dallas already.
01:28:16.000- If you got an AP, he gonna want some new P, man. - That's dope. - Oh! - That's so much P, man. - Don't do my phone. - Hey, Mark, did you freestyle?
01:28:47.000I feel like a man that knows that I own one too knows my value too.
01:28:51.000So if you want to commit to me, dating is one thing, but if you want to commit to me, you have to understand that me and you are kind of the same.
01:29:41.000So, you do understand that the man that qualifies for you, because you're successful, you're an entrepreneur, you make money, you understand the man that qualifies for you is like the top 1% only, right?
01:29:52.000Yeah, but not just in the U.S. I'm talking about worldwide.
01:29:56.000I'm not just in the U.S. We're talking about worldwide.
01:30:14.000You don't know what a woman- You just said earlier, 60K is average.
01:30:19.000I understand that, but a woman that has a lot of power, you don't know what she'll do in private.
01:30:25.000Like, if she wants to date somebody and doesn't want nobody to know and wants somebody that's just going to, you know, fulfill her needs and do what she got to do, you don't know what she'll do.
01:30:34.000That's why there are women that empower that will get probably a younger man or a man that's less empowered.
01:30:39.000I'm not saying that's my option, but I still have that option.
01:31:11.000You just said you have a bunch of options to secondhand.
01:31:13.000I understand that, but I'm just saying, like, maybe I don't want to just date a regular person, but I still have the option to date a regular man.
01:31:55.000His deficiency as a man reared its ugly head in other ways and made you lose attraction for him, but it all stems from his socioeconomic status.
01:32:02.000All the problems that you dealt with stemmed from that.
01:32:57.000You either succumb to the 1% and the fact that that man has no option to be loyal to you and do whatever you want to do in the dark and be okay with it...
01:33:05.000Or you date below your means and be okay with him not being able to provide for you the things you can provide for yourself.
01:33:12.000I think that, ultimately, if you're a woman who makes a lot of money, like, I know the average black man does not cross over $35k annually.
01:33:34.000So, Yeah, super successful women become victims of their success.
01:33:39.000I talked about this in my book, Why Women Deserve Less, Amazon bestseller, by the way.
01:33:43.000And I talked about this, I said Beyonce is one of the smartest women, and the reason why is because she tells you the guy's the dream, all the single ladies, you know, I could have another you in a minute, whatever.
01:33:51.000But when Jay-Z cheated on her, what'd she do?
01:34:18.000When women become successful, it puts the shackles on them and doors close.
01:34:22.000So, what I've come to realize is when women make more money than their man, or they have nice watches, or they have a certain lifestyle, they can't go fucking backwards.
01:34:29.000They gotta be with a man that's better than them.
01:34:31.000So you're saying, I can get with a younger guy or whatever, but are you gonna respect him?
01:34:34.000Are you gonna be in a relationship where you actually wanna be with him?
01:34:37.000Are you gonna wanna be with him long term?
01:34:38.000Can you actually defer to his authority?
01:35:01.000I just feel like a lot of the times, millionaires, it's a respect thing.
01:35:05.000Some of them, if they find somebody like, okay, this is my lady, I'm in love with her, and she's willing to sit there and watch me have sex with another girl.
01:38:26.000But I feel like, okay, if you go in a relationship and both of y'all have respect for each other, you guys could come to an agreement where it's not cheating.
01:38:34.000If you guys come to an agreement where you'd be like, okay, you know what?
01:39:39.000So you understand that since only a minority of men qualify for you, you will not be able to replace the man that cheated on you faster than he will be able to replace you.
01:44:46.000The point of the exercise, ladies, was to prove that despite the fact that you think you're special, there's other women that have the same traits you have.
01:44:53.000But don't you think as a man, same thing with you?
01:45:46.000Name one thing that's special about you.
01:45:48.000A bunch of you named a bunch of traits, and guess what?
01:45:50.000Fingers were going down, which means not only just the ladies here at the table, but I guarantee you if I took 100% of the women in the United States, they have the same fucking traits.
01:45:59.000Now, I know you're saying, well, aren't men coming too?
01:46:01.000Actually, no, because the things that make men attractive are very hard to achieve.
01:46:06.000Tall, money, status, charming, charismatic, all these fucking things that women look for, but the things men look for, what do we want?
01:48:02.000Ladies need to understand that the things that make you attractive are common to find.
01:48:07.000So since the things that make you attractive are common to find, you need to stand out in other ways.
01:48:11.000I personally think, if you're a chick, not even I personally think, I fucking know this.
01:48:15.000If you're a girl, and you're with a guy that's exceptional, and he fucks another bitch, but he comes home to you, and you're like, you know what?
01:48:21.000I know you fucked that other girl, but I fucking love you, you're my man, etc.
01:48:24.000I have the ring I have the last name etc he's gonna have a lot more respect for you he's gonna be like you know what this is my fucking girl she stayed with me even when I cheated on her fuck I ain't let this one go god damn she ain't giving me no headaches she still have food ready for the next day etc cause what would a regular bitch do nigga no oh you cheated on me I'm special I could have another you in a minute they listen to that Beyonce bullshit not knowing that Beyonce stayed her ass at fucking home when Jay Z cheated on her yup I don't know That's not necessarily true.
01:48:50.000I just feel like as a person, you need to be content with yourself before you get into a relationship.
01:48:55.000When you're content with yourself, you're going to be content in a relationship.
01:48:57.000If you're not content with yourself, if you're insecure as a person, you're still going to be content.
01:49:01.000You've got to be content with reality too.
01:50:34.000As feminism has gotten stronger and women earn careers and they don't have children and don't have a family, they end up being sad and depressed.
01:55:54.000Okay, and just so you know, this is from the 2023 Population Survey, U.S. Census Bureau, and the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey.
01:56:02.000So this is the most accurate assessment of men in the United States.
01:58:12.000NBJ says, Aaron and Detox, we need to talk on y'all industry connections.
01:58:16.000How do y'all manage to get Lizzo, whole family on FNF? It's looking like a dark night from Iron, W Fresh, W Byron, W Big Mo, W Bills, L Chris.
01:59:05.000You're just fucking talking about You're lame You're talking about Wait what?
01:59:09.000Somebody who likes Right They have nothing else to say for You can't afford Clean her teeth Men fight Girls fight it good See they make fun of me too guys They make fun of us girls Yeah Hey y'all are giving some Rose beef energy And you're giving small dick energy No wonder Ninja Watcher And I'm in Castle Club Let's fucking go WRW first Shut up Black Zero Alright Black Zero You can't handle what I got You hate it though.
02:06:27.000Okay, this is the facts, and it's not.
02:06:31.000It is the facts, though, because criminals make up a small minority of the population.
02:06:36.000Okay, but there are a lot of people who, like, they just don't, somebody come from the census and talk to them, they just don't want to participate.
02:08:55.000I feel like it was a really dope experience.
02:08:58.000And I think you guys get painted like, you know, you guys have like a bad picture online, but in person you guys are like super dope and super informative.
02:09:06.000Like you guys aren't just You know, some people just...
02:09:56.000Yes, because I said a man's job is to protect and provide, and that's his mandatory duties, and a woman's mandatory duty is to provide sexual access for his hermit.
02:11:05.000And females, older women like stuff like that.
02:11:09.000They're never going to make A male porn star or male sex worker is never going to earn as much as a female sex worker ever because women's agency is their sexuality.
02:11:23.000That's the argument I made and your own profession proves my point.
02:11:26.000You're able to make the money that you make.
02:11:27.000Have you never seen beautiful, pretty men?
02:18:19.000This is why I think women shouldn't be in leadership roles and they shouldn't vote, because right now you're taking what I'm telling you and interpreting it through your emotions versus using critical thinking skills.
02:18:29.000So the base, I said, A woman's primary agency is her sexuality.
02:18:39.000That's what men look for, because her sexuality has to do with her looks.
02:18:43.000Then on top of that, I said, most of the women here are involved in either A, the sex industry, or B, the beautification industry, which props up the sex industry.
02:18:52.000You're not getting on camera without makeup?
02:18:54.000You're not getting on camera without extensions?
02:19:12.000And the fact that most of the women on the panel are either involved in the beautification industry or the sex industry proves my point that a woman's primary agency is her looks.
02:19:25.000I'm saying it has to do with a woman's primary agency, which is her looks.
02:19:28.000You're able to monetize and make the money that you do with your fucking Rolex because you sell your sex to men or the image of it to men, which is fine.
02:19:36.000But you cannot sit there and tell me that a woman's primary agency isn't her looks when you use it to make the money that you make.
02:19:41.000We're talking about the beauty industry having nothing to do with the sex industry.
02:20:25.000But you fucking bimbos will never admit that you put on makeup and do surgeries and do the dumb shit that you do and hair extensions and do all this shit, BBLs, put your life on the fucking line for fucking men.
02:20:35.000I will admit that men do the shit that they do to get sexual access, but women will not admit that they do the stupid shit that they do to get sexual access to the top.
02:23:23.000There's a lot of women, including Pamela Anderson, who got on TV and said, the only reason to even do my body and get my looks done is because I felt ugly my whole life.
02:23:30.000And personally, for me, I did feel ugly my whole life.