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00:05:26.000Ladies, if you don't mind, give us your name, your age, what we do for a living, dating status, and if you want to, of course, your body count.
00:08:49.000So in America, we have like, you know, you go for four years, you get a bachelor's degree, then you could pursue a master's, that's another one to two years, then you go to med school, then you can go to med school or pre-law.
00:16:44.000from north carolina bull city shout out to y'all okay period bull city it's called yeah because we run over new okay what's your profession so um right now i'm studying to go to law school but So you're a full-time student?
00:23:43.000Like, pushing him to be better within himself as opposed to just focusing on just you.
00:23:49.000So you gotta push your man to become better?
00:23:51.000Yeah, and we should grow together instead of growing apart.
00:23:55.000But, I mean, wouldn't you want him to be already motivated by himself?
00:23:59.000I would hope so, but some people just don't come built like that.
00:24:04.000So if you gotta push your man to be better and become successful, is that gonna be hard on you?
00:24:10.000No, because we're supposed to grow together.
00:24:13.000Even if he's not successful when I found him, as long as he's trying to get himself to that place in life, you don't got to be put together when you first come up.
00:24:22.000But if you're still pushing yourself and trying to grow as you go, as opposed to sitting down and being a bum and not doing nothing for yourself, that's a whole different story.
00:24:54.000Okay, you can communicate, but guess what?
00:24:56.000They probably don't understand where you're coming from or don't understand you.
00:25:01.000Yeah, I don't understand her at all, but...
00:25:04.000But if you have both communication, when you tell them what you want and what you need, and vice versa, and you guys understand each other, then you guys can come to a mutual ground.
00:25:16.000Yeah, because sometimes communicating doesn't mean you're listening.
00:25:19.000Yeah, it doesn't mean you're listening or it doesn't mean that you're willing to compromise for me.
00:27:29.000Realistically speaking, who do you think needs to have more respect for the relationship to work?
00:27:33.000We'll start hearing that work our way.
00:27:34.000I just want to get you guys taken care of.
00:27:36.000I mean, like in a relationship, you should be just as respectful with your partner as they are with you.
00:27:42.000Yeah, but there has to be a higher level of respect for one party because one party typically has, you know, needs to Every relationship, there's one person that cares more than the other about the relationship.
00:32:42.000For you, would you say that one of the things that led to you getting married and being in a marriage was understanding that the man requires more respect?
00:32:51.000i would say that's one of the things yeah and um do you think if you had stuck to that with the female needs more respect you would still be married to this day or would have been able to get the ring No.
00:33:37.000We're much more emotional, vulnerable.
00:33:40.000We're supposed to be nurturers, so it's natural for us to be more emotional, more vulnerable.
00:33:47.000For you, would you say what flipped the script and helped you get in a more healthy relationship was understanding that your man requires more respect than you?
00:34:15.000And I wanted the girls on the panel that were married in a long-term relationship to kind of let the other girls know that might be single, etc., that think that women require more respect.
00:34:23.000The reality is that a man requires more respect, and I'll tell you why.
00:34:27.000As a female, right, if you feel disrespected or you feel a certain way, it's okay for you to be emotional about it and, like, talk to your guy to a degree.
00:34:34.000He's not going to lose attraction for you for being emotional.
00:34:37.000However, if you disrespect a man, right, A guy that you actually like, that's attractive, that's fairly stoic, etc.
00:34:43.000He's probably just going to be like, man, fuck this bitch.
00:34:46.000And he's just going to end up giving you less attention and not even vocalize how he feels about it.
00:34:50.000Because men typically, especially the guys that you like that are traditionally masculine, they typically keep their emotions held.
00:34:54.000And they're just going to say something, they're just going to see you less, give you less attention, and not take you seriously.
00:35:00.000They're going to put you in what I call the invisible sex-only category.
00:35:03.000So at least with men, we have the benefit of being rejected overtly.
00:35:11.000With girls, though, y'all might not know because you're still seeing a guy, you're still fucking a guy, but you don't know in the back of his mind he's already bringing you off as recreational use only.
00:35:20.000So I think with women, that respect needs to be to a higher degree because that's what men respond to the most favorably.
00:35:26.000If a man feels disrespected by a woman, he's going to be like, fuck this chick.
00:35:30.000If she doesn't respect me, she doesn't want to follow my lead.
00:35:33.000If she can't follow my lead, we can't build anything.
00:35:35.000If she thinks she's equal to me, it's not going to work.
00:35:37.000And if I can add, because that's the way that I used to think before, I understand what perhaps most of us are coming from.
00:35:44.000Like, absolutely, I want respect in the sense of like, you know, no, I think we know like the premises that we're all discussing as far as respect goes.
00:35:53.000But I think when you want like a successful dynamic in the relationship, if your man is always trying to chase you and respect you and basically bow down to you, you're going to get bored.
00:36:03.000I don't know how I feel about my man always trying to cater to me all the time.
00:36:45.000And that's kind of why I was, like, pushing back when you guys were trying to say it's 50-50, because realistically speaking, relationships are never 50-50.
00:36:52.000I'll give you an example of what I mean by this.
00:36:54.000If you're dressed provocatively, etc., and you want to go outside, your man has the authority, right, to tell you, hey, I don't like that outfit, go change.
00:37:02.000But if you wore something and you don't like it, and you tell him to go change, it'd be more attractive for him to say, no, I'm not listening to you.
00:37:10.000Because women don't like men that they can control.
00:38:03.000Religion typically adheres to biological realities, right?
00:38:07.000The reason why every, you know, major religion puts men in leadership roles is because since the beginning of time, women aren't really capable leaders over men.
00:38:15.000And attraction isn't built when a woman is leading a man.
00:38:17.000It's the other way around from a biological sense.
00:38:19.000Religions realize this, and they say, okay, for society to thrive and be optimal, We need to put men in leadership roles and women follow them because the women are going to respect the men.
00:38:28.000They're going to have sex with the men.
00:38:29.000We're going to go ahead and be able to spread our offspring.
00:38:32.000But if it's the other way around, it doesn't work.
00:38:34.000So religion, a lot of times, adheres to biological realities.
00:38:38.000No woman really wants to be with a guy she could push over and lead.
00:38:41.000Women typically want to be able to just be pretty and sit back.
00:38:43.000So the reason why I come to the conclusion I come to a lot of time is because it's rooted in biological reality between the two genders, that men and women inherently are not equal.
00:38:52.000Physically, we're not equal, but we all have the same mental capacity.
00:38:57.000The way women perceive certain things versus how men perceive things are completely different.
00:39:02.000Well, I mean, if that's the case, why can a female be a doctor?
00:39:07.000It's just because we're emotionally different that doesn't completely differentiate how we are as people, what we can understand mathematically, with science, with everything in general.
00:39:37.000What I'm trying to say is that just because someone is capable of doing something doesn't mean they're optimal at doing something.
00:39:42.000So just because women can become doctors and can get into science, technology, engineering, and math doesn't mean that they're optimal for it.
00:39:49.000And the majority of women prefer not to go into these job fields.
00:39:52.000Most women want to work, you know, comfortable office jobs, you know, air conditioning, etc.
00:39:56.000Women typically don't want to work laborious jobs with their hands.
00:39:59.000There's some women that want to do it, right?
00:41:54.000I mean, having a whole face doesn't mean you're a bad person.
00:41:56.000I don't think that was the point of the question.
00:41:59.000No, she just used an example, but do you think that's a good way to perceive the world, like kind of comparing yourself to others when human beings typically tend to be vastly different?
00:46:49.000But I feel like now that she, you know, has attention and everything, now that she's dragging it in, you know, to the certain extent that it got.
00:46:59.000And I don't think that he deserved 10 years for that.
00:47:37.000There must have been some evidence linked to it.
00:47:38.000Maybe the same gun, maybe some DNA, or maybe, like...
00:47:42.000You know, fingerprints, the situation, cameras.
00:47:45.000It was a lot of circumstantial evidence.
00:47:46.000And also on top of that, you had witness testimony that kind of changed.
00:47:51.000So, and I mean, I would say that the defense did a pretty good job of creating reasonable doubt, which is all they have to create to be able to get someone off.
00:48:40.000Just know that I know people and I'm not saying that it is Kelsey, but I'm just saying she trying to play her hand, you know, trying to be all innocent, but it really could have been her because she don't want to get sentenced.
00:48:52.000So that's why she trying to really be on some hiding type shit.
00:48:56.000I'm confused because you said a second ago that you think Tori shot her.
00:48:59.000No, I'm saying, I do think it could have been either one.
00:49:35.000But I will say you did have a good take on it, and you too as well, because it's more like, you know what, critical thinking versus like, oh, I feel like I'm team Meg, whatever, so.
00:52:54.000I mean, if you're going to make a statement like, I disagree with this because you're degrading women.
00:52:58.000No, because it was something you were saying, like, you know, men spend the most money and, like, if a man takes a woman out at the end of the night, you know, she should...
00:56:57.000So what I'm saying is that she's going into a field where you need to be able to debate your points, be logically sound and rational, and she would even revert it back to female nature.
00:57:05.000I'm not knocking her for it, but this is just how women in general tend to interpret information.
00:57:08.000If they don't like how it makes them feel, they kind of run with that feeling and they might misinterpret the information that was said because it made them feel an incorrect way.
00:57:16.000I mean, like I was trying to say, what her behavior is, it doesn't speak for all of us.
00:57:21.000Like, there's some women that can keep their composure that are good at analytical thinking.
00:57:52.000I think you're missing the point here.
00:57:55.000What I'm saying is that women tend to interpret information based on how it's said versus what it's said.
00:58:01.000And they'll have an emotional response to it.
00:58:04.000That's why when I asked her to please articulate what offended you or what was incorrect, she said something that wasn't even said because it made her feel a certain way.
00:58:11.000That's what I'm trying to establish here.
00:58:12.000Basically, he's saying that she interpreted with her feelings instead of with her brain.
00:58:31.000He said in a nutshell, make on dates to fuck.
00:58:37.000Now, ultimately, hold on, when the connection is there, things happen, it's natural.
00:58:43.000But from the standpoint of men, we go into it, you know what, I like the girl, I want to see what happens.
00:58:48.000Girls go on dates and they say, oh, you know what, free dinner, I'm going to see what this guy's about, maybe I might like him, maybe I might not.
00:58:54.000We're just saying, in that setup right there, men go into it looking for more.
00:58:57.000Girls are like, you know what, I'll see what happens on a date.
01:00:09.000Ladies, if you met a man that's making a little above average salary, he says he could provide for you and children, but we have to move to a smaller city.
01:00:56.000Yeah, if you're in love and being provided for.
01:01:00.000Well, I mean, there can be a difference between just like you just want to be with somebody that provides for you versus just being with somebody you love.
01:01:07.000I want to be with somebody I love, not just because they're going to provide for me.
01:01:54.000You just, you know, you keep to yourself and to this person and even though you're not fully committed, you just show them you're about it and you'll be faithful.
01:02:08.000I'd say children, because that's a whole other responsibility.
01:02:13.000You're bringing a new life into the world that's basically saying, like, I'm willing to communicate with you for the next 18 years, honestly, for the rest of the life of this child.
01:02:20.000Do you want to have kids without marriage?
01:03:51.000I'll have to disagree with those two, but not to, you know, give me a light over here or anything, but just because you give a child to a guy doesn't mean that he's going to stay or think that that's a blessing to him,
01:04:18.000I would think it's basically loyalty, honestly, because it's hard to come by that these days, especially living in these times with females being city girls and yeah, so I'll say loyalty.
01:06:40.000But wouldn't it be fair to say that once the man does all that and accomplishes himself and gets in the gym and acquires the status, the money, the fitness, etc., that he actually inadvertently turns himself into the prize?
01:06:54.000He becomes high value, but a woman still is the prize.
01:08:15.000So I just find it interesting because you want the guy to be disciplined with his desires, but you're not necessarily disciplined with your desires.
01:08:23.000Why not just go with a nice guy that's homeless?
01:08:45.000So I just kind of find it interesting that women expect men to be disciplined after a man has to work to gain his value, but women are never disciplined and lower their standards with the type of man that they want.
01:08:57.000Why is that women can ask the world of a man But a man can't ask a girl, hey, I want to have multiple partners.
01:09:03.000I've worked myself to have a certain point.
01:09:05.000Like, why does he have to exercise discipline?
01:10:31.000When you put the shoe on the other foot, women aren't going to go ahead and settle.
01:10:34.000Why would I waste my time and energy on someone I don't think that's valuable?
01:10:37.000Okay, so why should a man waste his time and energy on a girl that expects monogamy from him when he's busted his ass to get to a certain point and he wants to have multiple women?
01:10:43.000Okay, so if he got to his point, he's now eligible to be able to cheat because he has money now and he's able to cheat?
01:10:54.000I think once a man reaches a certain status and makes a certain amount of money, and if he wants to have multiple women, I think he should be able to do so without any type of shaming or anything.
01:11:06.000Because the problem is this, men are apologetic for being men.
01:11:09.000And with all due respect, the way I view women is women are trustful babies.
01:11:13.000Men are self-made millionaires from a sexuality standpoint.
01:11:16.000When you turn 18, you basically get a big endowment of a million dollars.
01:11:22.000Men that are millionaires and successful will go ahead and want to date you even though you really don't bring that much value to the world.
01:11:39.000Men have to work way harder to attract the opposite gender.
01:11:41.000So, it doesn't make sense to me that women will sit there and try to police your dick When they never worked hard enough with having a dick.
01:12:53.000Are most men going to be honest and tell women, oh, I want to have multiple chicks?
01:12:56.000No, because, I mean, look at your response.
01:12:58.000You have an issue with a man being polygamous, which is cool.
01:13:01.000A lot of women do, but The reality is once men reach a certain stature, they're going to do it whether you like it or not.
01:13:06.000So if I'm telling you it's raining outside and I give you an umbrella and you walk outside and you get wet and you didn't open up the umbrella, whose fault is that?
01:16:28.000Alright, so you even know subconsciously that going out and dealing with other men to try to maybe get a get back is a bad move for you as a female.
01:17:21.000Going back to the question again, I asked you, if you're with a man you love, admire, and respect, would you want to have sex with other men?
01:17:45.000Because I think it's messed up to just be disloyal.
01:17:50.000Yeah, because, I mean, that's my opinion.
01:17:51.000I mean, why be in a relationship if you're not going to be loyal to that person, be that person's other half?
01:17:56.000I mean, unless it's for religious reasons, I understand it more, but you're trying to influence, like, or just trying to tell us, like, oh, we worked for it.
01:18:06.000The majority of guys are cashiers at CVS. How are you working?
01:18:11.000Just because you were born with different genitalia than I? Here's the thing.
01:18:16.000Men have to work harder in general than women in almost every endeavor in life.
01:18:21.000I find it very interesting and funny that women that are given their value try to tell a man who has to earn their value how to spend their value.
01:22:21.000High quality men that are attractive are very rare, but beautiful women are everywhere.
01:22:25.000Exactly, but it's more common for a man to put up with females that have less than them than a female that has more than a man to put up with a man that has less than them.
01:23:36.000Okay, so I'll explain why and I'll explain why I have this belief and then you guys can agree or disagree.
01:23:44.000I don't think there's such thing as a high value woman on her own and the reason why is that typically women are evaluated on the strength of their relationships.
01:23:52.000Men are evaluated on the strength of their success, which then builds relationships, right?
01:23:56.000So when two men meet, they shake hands.
01:24:12.000A girl that makes $100,000 a year, or let's say a million dollars a year, doesn't have the same equivalent power as a guy that makes a million dollars a year.
01:24:19.000That man is going to command more attention in the dating marketplace because women are more interested in income and status.
01:24:24.000Men, on the other hand, are not interested in that, right?
01:24:26.000So a millionaire man is not the same as a millionaire woman.
01:24:28.000Now, with that said, since women's value comes typically from their relationships, if a woman doesn't have the last name of a high-value man, she's not high-value.
01:24:36.000Because then any girl can run around and call themselves high-value.
01:24:39.000A woman's value typically is determined by the caliber of man that she can attract and, most importantly, retain, not just fuck.
01:24:46.000It's why women aspire to get married and walk down the aisle in a white dress and they dream about that.
01:24:50.000Women typically want a relationship with a higher status guy.
01:24:52.000So I would argue a woman is in high value unless she has a high-bodied man last name to co-sign her.
01:24:57.000Because women acquire status through men, not the other way around.
01:25:05.000Because I think women's value first starts with her...
01:25:11.000Age, then her beauty, and then her brains, and then her beliefs, and then her respect to herself, and then her hobbies, and then her time investing into what she does, into hobbies.
01:26:39.000You can't sit there and tell me, oh, I'm just having my fun, etc.
01:26:41.000You're keenly aware of the fact that you have a limited amount of time to find the best guy.
01:26:44.000So if you really were with the best guy, or you've been dating him, or you can get him, as you say, you'd be in a relationship with him right now.
01:31:27.000I would have to say, the first thing that comes to my mind, you know, I grew up with my brother, so my perspective is going to be a little different.
01:34:12.000Remember, we're talking about, see, here's the thing, like, if I was a loser, right, and I was ugly or whatever, you wouldn't care about how much, you wouldn't give me the opportunity, right?
01:34:20.000Like, I wouldn't have to talk to you and introduce myself.
01:37:49.000So, I mean, you can say that, but at the end of the day, right, when a man looks at a girl's Instagram, they're going to assume certain things.
01:39:26.000Females, we do, so we should understand that we go by looks.
01:39:29.000Yeah, women judge a book by its cover more than men do, but when men go ahead and repeat it, but when men reciprocate and judge a woman by looks, it's an issue.
01:39:38.000Women could reject you all day judging a book by its cover, but if a man tells you the same thing, you're picking on me.
01:39:44.000No, I'm just telling you optically how it looks and how men think when they look at pictures like this.
01:39:48.000No, I truly understand what he's saying because people didn't know, like, I mean, I was truly in law until I posted me with my graduate, you know, me graduating.
01:40:00.000And then just like a few weeks ago, I posted me at the law office and they like, oh, damn, like, she's really working at the state attorney's office.
01:40:09.000Like, you know, because people only judge you by what they already see on your page.
01:40:50.000You're contradicting yourself because if you don't, it's like, what's the difference between you being on Instagram and a man being on Instagram?
01:41:12.000If anything, the girl's got to taper down her profile, not the guy.
01:41:15.000That's true, because I had to dot out a lot of things being married due to my relationship, and it's kind of disrespectful to my husband, so I had to realize that, comprehend, and understand that.
01:41:29.000It's all about, like I said, communication and understanding.
01:42:03.000I think Instagram is somewhat handedly one of the biggest contributing factors to the degradation of relationships between men and women in the modern day age.
01:42:17.000And the reason why I say that is because what Instagram allows women to believe and think is that the grass is always greener on the other side.
01:42:26.000And what I've realized is that when women have an abundance of options, they tend to behave in a manner that isn't conducive to a good long-term relationship, unfortunately.
01:42:39.000When women think that the grass is green on the other side, they always think that they can do better.
01:42:43.000They think that there's another guy out there.
01:42:49.000And I think that's very damaging for females because since women aren't the ones that actually go out and pursue men, men pursue them, just by a woman putting herself out there on the internet, it allows a flurry of options and situations to come in that can absolutely fuck up the relationship she has.
01:43:20.000If that doesn't show to scale the immense disparity between males and females when it comes to options, especially on an app like Instagram...
01:49:56.000If you go to my highlights right there, if you go on there, you're not even on the picture I told them to click on, they're not even clicking on.
01:50:03.000Chris, click the one that she asked us.
01:57:22.000Regardless, you got to work for the court system, gain the clients from them, take their clients, and then you can become a private attorney.
01:57:34.000But you want to do whether it's prosecuting or defense.
01:57:37.000You want to do something with criminal justice.
01:57:40.000That's the first option, but I honestly really want to do entertainment law because I've been talking with a lot of people that work in my office and they said that shit is stressful.
01:59:12.000Baby, in my corner, but you, like, y'all don't know that they say girls with a big forehead have the best pussies, so that's what it is, you know?
02:10:33.000It was from Nick Cannon's song, Gigolo.
02:10:37.000Sam Combo says, Myron, the Scandinavian statistic you state also regarding women staying in medical and social career fields despite being in an egalitarian society is absolutely true.
02:10:48.000I witnessed this in Norway when I visited Salute.
02:11:08.000This is, like, the only time if I'm out and about doing something, like, unexpected, then I'll throw on my makeup or if I'm gonna be on camera or whatever, but...
02:17:10.000As far as how can I trust again, you kind of have to have a clean slate with each partner, but you obviously learn from experience, so don't do the things that...
02:17:23.000You know, perhaps as a man that, you know, or allow certain things that could have put you in that position.
02:17:28.000Also, I think that the fact that she's a lot younger does help the dynamic because, you know, there seems to be like a pretty good age gap there.
02:17:38.000And that may be a different situation overall.
02:20:13.000Do you think it would make the man less attractive or more attractive if he communicated to her that he's hurt and he's been hurt before by a woman and cheating, etc.?
02:20:22.000It's hard for me to answer this question.
02:20:23.000I think it depends on the woman, as I said.
02:22:08.000You know, now, when we talk about it, which we don't, but when it does come up, the topic of cheating, I just know it's a boundary and that's it.
02:22:16.000There doesn't need to be all the extra.
02:22:18.000And I don't want him to tell me, oh, I was so hurt.
02:22:21.000And, you know, and it sounds fucked up.
02:22:24.000You know, it sounds fucked up for me to say that because it's not that I don't care about his feelings, but I just I don't want my man crying to me.
02:22:46.000Again, it sounds bad, but at the end of the day, the dynamic, let me finish, the dynamic is that Whether you realize it or not, that's kind of what it ends up being.
02:22:57.000It's not necessarily a conscious thing.
02:22:59.000Like I said, it's kind of different for me and everybody else's opinions.
02:23:37.000And my brother was one of my best friends growing up.
02:23:41.000So that's why I empathize with both sides.
02:23:43.000I understand my side as a female and I understand his side because he dealt with different things growing up with different females so I understand.
02:24:07.000He's 31, she's 21 and he's been hurt in the past.
02:24:12.000I would say I'd agree with her with the communication, but you did make a good point how people do tend to, like, learn from, I guess, other people's mistakes, like, you know, like, they'll keep in the back of their mind.
02:24:23.000But I'd say, like, a relationship is all about risk, you know, so if you're willing to really just, like, you're just gonna have to honestly just take that step.
02:24:32.000I mean, I understand where you're coming from, too, where you say you don't want your man to cry to you.
02:24:36.000Like, you know, like, you can communicate about it, talk to you, you know, but not all the time wanting to, and I get that.
02:24:56.000If you believe your judgment is correct and adequate, then you should give her the benefit of the doubt and have faith in her.
02:25:03.000Because, I mean, naturally, if you like her, there's a reason why you like her.
02:25:06.000However, if you're not confident enough in becoming serious with her, then I would recommend going with a woman that's a bit older because there's definitely a mental differentiation between you two, being 31, 21.
02:25:19.000The girl, she's, you know, just, you know...
02:25:23.000Barely legal to drink and the guy, you know, he more than likely you have yourself set up.
02:25:29.000So, I mean, that's everything you have to take into consideration.
02:25:31.000But if you really believe she's the type of individual you want to have around, then you know what?
02:25:39.000I just had a few questions based on because she said that you should communicate that you don't trust women and, you know, kind of go from there.
02:29:08.000So, yeah, because on one end you're saying that it's bigger treachery if a man cheats on a woman, but then some of you guys are saying that on the flip side, the man loses more respect if he's cheated on.
02:30:46.000Wouldn't it be fair to say that as a man, being a leader and having some level of authority is the utmost respect for a woman because you're putting her in a protected provision under your leadership?
02:30:55.000Yes, but the way that you're controlling and saying things are not nice.
02:31:00.000We're on a podcast where there's got to be an open discussion that's mediated to a degree where people are able to speak in open form and articulate their points without necessarily being interrupted.
02:31:43.000I don't have to be a retard to say someone's a retard.
02:31:46.000So that's not calling you a retard, but I'm giving you an example.
02:31:49.000Like, that's a trait of a narcissist, is that you've had a very difficult time Being able to answer things outside of your own purview and your own perception.
02:33:55.000My thing is, like, if you're going to make an accusation, like, oh, you're being disrespectful, you're putting women down, blah, blah, blah.
02:34:00.000I don't think I've really said anything that's been putting women down or being disrespectful, whatever.
02:34:03.000I've been fairly objective and factual in my assessment on saying things.
02:34:08.000I mean, just because it's direct and concise doesn't necessarily mean that it's rude.
02:34:12.000It's just a very matter-of-fact way of speaking.
02:34:15.000Facts don't necessarily care about your feelings.
02:34:17.000I can't control how you respond to me giving you an objective fact.
02:34:34.000I've asked you several questions throughout the course.
02:34:36.000Just because I don't talk about what society thinks?
02:34:38.000Throughout the course of this discussion, I've asked you several questions, and I've prefaced it with, in general, and you were unable to answer it, And you continuously went back, I can only answer for myself.
02:36:32.000But guys, we've literally been sitting here for two hours and 40 minutes giving our opinions, some of them speaking down on men and we're just listening to each other.
02:36:40.000I don't think one of the things that we prefaced the podcast with was let's not take anything personal.
02:39:29.000So, I mean, obviously you didn't like that same idea with females, so naturally if she cheats, she's seen way more negative than the man would because it's more applauded for the man to have multiple partners.
02:39:41.000So who would lose status more by being cheated on, the man or the woman?
02:39:46.000I thought the question was, like, who...
02:39:49.000The first question was, what's a bigger form of treachery?
02:39:51.000And then the second one is, who loses more respect for being cheated on?
02:39:54.000I mean, but society loses respect for the female.
02:40:51.000If the girl cheated on him, more than likely he wasn't adequate in some kind of field and she went looking for another male to fulfill that.
02:40:58.000So the man loses more status, which going back to the original question, Which I disagree with you on.
02:41:03.000You said a man should communicate that he doesn't trust women.
02:44:28.000Because we've had a pretty factual, truth-based conversation.
02:44:31.000And the reason why it's uncomfortable is because we've talked about some unflattering truths about female nature, how men perceive things, what men really think, and some of you are uncomfortable from it.
02:44:41.000And I think the reason why is because women rarely get told the truth in general.
02:45:03.000It's just like having the conversation if you haven't like been through it it's difficult to hear but these are things that happen subconsciously in relationships that you want this like Power, dynamic, exchange.
02:45:18.000You don't need to talk about it with your man.
02:45:20.000Your man doesn't need to tell you, I'm bigger than you.
02:45:24.000But if it's really something healthy that's going to work and it's something traditional that you're looking for, that dynamic is going to happen naturally.
02:45:32.000And if that is the man for you, you're going to follow it naturally.
02:45:37.000You're not going to have to have all these additional conversations that don't feel good to have because they're We don't feel good.
02:45:44.000It's going to happen naturally if it's really the right person and he really does bring those things to the table and like you do as well.
02:45:54.000One thing about it, a female is not going to have a problem compliant or listening to a male that's doing everything that he's supposed to do.
02:46:07.000Depending on the female, you know, if they're just hard-headed or just want to do what the heck they want to do, then they're just going to do what they want to do.
02:46:15.000But if they're ready to be in a relationship and commit and listen and take, you know, heed to authority and let their man lead, then that's just what's going to happen.
02:46:51.000If a man were to ask to marry the girl and ask for a prenup and she says no, is it fair for the man to still sleep with other women without any type of drama after?
02:47:48.000Ladies, would you rather make 500k a year, be 45, single, no kids, or be in your late 20s with two kids under five with your ideal husband taking care of all the bills?
02:52:32.000Referencing your interview with Leia and retaining a man, and what if you had less money?
02:52:37.000Well, unfortunately, I just got to be painfully blunt about this.
02:52:40.000If you're a guy and you don't have your shit together financially, it's going to be very, very difficult for you to maintain multiple girlfriends.
02:56:23.000Well, I guess you could say it did because he was just like, yeah, like, I didn't like how you reacted, da-da-da, but we both communicated how we felt about the situation and made our comments and whatever, how he felt and how I felt, as opposed to just keeping it to ourselves.
02:57:00.000It was really me going off my emotions, honestly, and I had to realize and do some thinking, you know, as to how I would feel if I said the same thing.
02:57:13.000Well, if he said the same thing to me, you know, and yeah, I had to apologize.
03:01:05.000It was yesterday, and I went on a date, and me just graduating high school, I'm used to guys, like, you know, not having too much money, and on the date, he offered to pay, and it was a bit expensive.
03:01:18.000I was like, I'll go 50-50, and he was like, no worries, and I'm like, are you sure?
03:04:31.000Honestly, I thought you were just gonna be an asshole, you know?
03:04:36.000But, like, actually listening and hearing that you were able to defend your side, like, speak, coming from, like, you know, logic and intelligence.
03:04:44.000Like, it was, I was able to see your perspective, you know?
03:04:47.000And, like, I was able to understand and, like, see where you're coming from.
03:04:49.000And, like, it opened, expanded my mind just listening to everyone and also seeing, like, different perspective and what people say and what people think.
03:04:56.000It allowed me to learn more, too, like, being here, so.
03:05:48.000So anyone who's listening to me and is in Lithuania, I hope you got my point and understand that Who you may think I am, I had a chance to prove that I'm not.
03:07:39.000Here's what you guys don't understand.
03:07:40.000It's women out here that's so freaking conniving and wants, like, it's women out here ready to ruin a relationship and don't even want the men.
03:10:02.000If you're sitting here doing shit to me publicly and people know that you have followers, if you're messing with your followers or people that have you on Instagram and they follow me, what you guys don't realize is when you do dirt and people know on social media that you guys are together, unless you have a private relationship.
03:10:18.000Okay, so he's doing it out in public then?
03:10:21.000If it's done in public, you're going to be publicly embarrassed.
03:10:26.000Yeah, but you still got the ring in the title.
03:10:44.000He loves you, but this is typical female thought process.
03:10:51.000I'm going to put myself in the same line as random bitches that hit him up on Instagram when I'm the one that has the title, the relationship, the marriage.
03:10:58.000I was the one that walked down the aisle.
03:11:18.000I'm saying it's not the same because you're trying to equate it as if I'm not doing this.
03:11:22.000No, all I'm saying is just how you guys try to make it seem like you guys don't have feelings or more like We're more triggered by our feelings.
03:12:06.000So, overall, I really appreciate, like I've said before, the work that you guys are doing, empowering men and really giving them the tools to be men and, you know, show up as men.
03:12:38.000I learned from the ladies as far as seeing my past self or my younger self in a mirror.
03:12:46.000What's the biggest piece of advice you'd give the girls on the panel that you might see in them and yourself in the past that fucked you up?
03:13:17.000I really think that as women, we need to when we are be realistic about really what we're bringing to the table because I think that you Don't make it harder than it already is to make this statement.
03:13:33.000We all think that, you know, we're high value women.
03:13:38.000This is not, you know, told towards anybody in the table, but we all think that, you know, we're the queens, the prize, the high value and the this, the that.
03:13:49.000But the reality is that, and I probably realized this the last time I was here, A lot of us just say this because it's what we know.
03:13:57.000It's what's been put into us to know for our self-worth and our confidence.
03:14:02.000But sometimes we really need to look into ourselves introspectively, into really who we are, what we're bringing, and what we're really representing or bringing to our relationship as women.
03:14:12.000Because sometimes we think it's better than what we're actually bringing, if that makes sense.
03:15:02.000Honestly, I'm more of a listening person, but I enjoy listening to everybody's insight and opinion as opposed to just keeping it within my friend group and my friend's opinion.
03:15:14.000Because, you know, your friend's always going to tell you what you want to hear.
03:15:36.000I'm just saying like, when it comes to a relationship, nine times out of ten, even if you're dead wrong in the situation, your friend's gonna be like, you know, F that nigga.
03:16:39.000I can tell you that Blonde is never challenged on her point of views for men, and I can also tell she rarely hears the words, no, definitely walks over a lot of guys that be simping.
03:16:47.000Is he correct in his assessment that guys don't really challenge you?