00:03:36.000So uh two options for you niggas, alright.
00:03:39.000Either a cancel show and all the ladies are gone and you guys got no show, or you can have uh tequila or vodka Chris, I don't know what the fuck I'm drinking right now.
00:10:19.000If they spend a certain amount of money, then a trigger pops up and I would check their their account, their financial situation, and just make sure they're not spending above their means.
00:10:28.000Yeah, but do they go to you first for help, or do you just like see what's going on with the bank?
00:10:48.000So if they've spent over 600 pounds, 600, um, their account will flag, so I'll look through their account and just make sure that their activity is you know.
00:10:56.000Oh, so you're the one that calls my phone every every fucking uh spending too much money.
00:14:51.000You know, I don't go pre, you know, 18, but um, because like once again in Miami my personal experience, many girls are, you know, they be fucking and sucking.
00:15:00.000Um, and all of a sudden they got a ring.
00:15:05.000So because you got a man doesn't mean you're you like you're loyal, but we're on a podcast, so I understand that, you know, trying to you know put airs, but um how many dicks you sucked in?
00:20:41.000It's like like the way she was talking, I'm like, that's supposed to be in therapy right now because she sound like she's like, it's counting the days.
00:20:47.000The days like she's like, hey, my name is Jasmine, wherever I'm like, I'm trying to get it out.
00:24:40.000I literally am like, I've had like these weird messages come in saying that people wanted to buy like my youth socks, and I just think that's so weird.
00:28:55.000What I'm learning and realizing is that um, you know, I think there's a lane for all of us to get better, and my goal is to play my small part to play and try to help us get there.
00:29:04.000All right, and guys, once again, if you're tuning in uh on tonight's show, uh once again, Myron is jacking off and he's you know, guess he broke his dick.
00:29:12.000And uh fresh is uh he had some bad food and taking a shit.
00:29:16.000So uh he's what yeah, yeah, I don't know, but the first time in Fresh First History that I'm hosting solo on after hours.
00:29:24.000So and then the Jeffrey and Henny show.
00:33:07.000Alright, so real quick before I know I'm sure that you ladies may have a couple questions in mind, but I did have a particular question.
00:33:13.000Um obviously my lane being a therapist, been working in the field for over a decade.
00:33:18.000I don't know how many men, women, and couples I've dealt with over the course of this time.
00:33:23.000Uh, but I've noticed some interesting themes, especially in light of like social media and a lot of the complaints on social media about different sexes.
00:33:31.000So for all you ladies, I want to know the simple question with the state of the current dating market here and in the UK, or just in Western countries in general, with how bad things are and how much everybody's complaining.
00:33:44.000I want you all to tell me who you think is ultimately at fault and why.
00:33:50.000If it's men, you say I believe it's men, and this is my reason why.
00:33:54.000If you think it's women, this is your reason why.
00:34:50.000I feel like now gals, we like will come together and say if I stop talking to a guy, I'll show my I'll show him to my friends, and they're like, like, no, you could do way better, you know, girls we just think that.
00:34:59.000And and the same as guys, they always think they can get but uh girls think we can get about a so I would say I would say both.
00:35:27.000So my thoughts if you had to choose, who would you say you would lean a little bit more towards is probably contributing to the things being such an issue?
00:35:36.000I would lean towards the men, for sure.
00:35:40.000They're like the alpha, they're supposed to be the alpha, you know.
00:35:43.000I mean, at the end of the day, like they're supposed to be that alpha male, they're supposed to be the one like guiding you, doing all these things for the woman at the end of the day.
00:35:51.000You know, if you want a traditional man, it just depends on what you're looking for, honestly.
00:35:55.000But I feel like based on like how today is, it's just like not You're not gonna look for that traditional man because there's hardly any out there.
00:36:16.000I feel bad saying mine, because okay, I feel like I have a I'm around a lot of single women.
00:36:21.000So I feel like the women are single-minded women because of the lack of the more income a woman makes the less she feels like she needs to compromise to be with a man.
00:36:32.000So it's like if you're not able to compromise, you can't have a relationship.
00:36:36.000It's more like a s most women have a single mindset instead of having a relationship based mindset.
00:36:41.000So I mean, uh like for instance, my aunt and uncle, they're both married.
00:36:45.000She makes a good income, but she has a relationship minded mindset.
00:36:48.000She still comes home and cooks like two times out of the week.
00:37:18.000I feel like it starts from when you're little.
00:37:22.000So a lot of women, they kind of treat their kids like a mama's boy or something, like they favor I don't know.
00:37:31.000They it's the teaching that women give their children.
00:37:35.000And then also um if a woman wants an alpha male, she has to figure out how to get that.
00:37:46.000You know, you can you don't need to say yes to everyone that comes around.
00:37:52.000You can say yes to the one that's actually showing their alpha status, and everybody else can just you know, hit whatever, kick the the curb or whatever.
00:38:06.000Um, so actually the man didn't come from the woman, the man created the woman, uh God, the our savior, you know, at the end of the day, like he's the one who made this world at the end of the day.
00:38:44.000So I blame okay, I'm not gonna get deep then.
00:38:46.000I I don't blame anybody at the end of the day.
00:38:48.000I feel like just the generation in society is just messed up all kinds of values and who we used to be, what woman was, what man was, and now it's all a combustion.
00:38:59.000I feel like um, so for me i it could possibly be a solid like 60 40, 60% on the woman, you know, and then 40% on the men.
00:39:10.000Why do you give the 60 a little bit more on the women's side?
00:39:13.000Because I feel like women are trying to play catch up.
00:42:01.000Like you are you were invested in a nigga who was six foot three, who who hit yeah, baby girl, I'll I'll give you the world, and all of a sudden he did you're wrong, and now you're trying to call him shit.
00:42:10.000Yeah, and uh now you're talking shit about him.
00:42:42.000All right, so just to clarify, the reason why I asked that question is because it always sets the tone for the foundation of where it is I think everybody is in terms of how they're seeing the date market.
00:42:53.000Some people got away with the whole both.
00:42:55.000Um some of you put it on a little bit on the men, and some of the other ladies put it on the women.
00:43:00.000If I had to give my humble opinion, now mind you I'm a guy.
00:43:03.000Obviously, I get the fact that you know I'm gonna be biased to a degree, but when I look at what's happened, at least in the States specifically, I can't really speak to the other countries.
00:47:03.000Um so my my issue, or my contention, is I think that feminism in the quest of giving you all and pushing for you all to have certain rights and certain really positive things, they told you all the things that you can get, but I don't think that they told you all the consequences that comes with it.
00:51:42.000And number two, if she hasn't had kids yet or they want kids, my one of my beliefs, it's not for all women, but I believe it's a lot of women.
00:51:52.000Most of y'all ain't built to th to work 30, 40 years.
00:51:56.000You may like your career, you may like your degree.
00:51:59.000The truth is, most of y'all want to be work optional.
00:52:04.000You want to work when you want to work.
00:52:06.000You want to be in a relationship where you can take off when you need to.
00:52:30.000A lot of ladies would prefer they want to be able to work when they want to, but they want to be work optional.
00:52:36.000But if you keep pushing the needle further and further financially bracket for yourself, and then you keep raising your standards as well, the pool of men that you like that you think will qualify for you is they get bigger or smaller.
00:55:32.000So my question is if other people outside of yourself and outside of your feelings and outside of your emotions was able to not have feelings attached to it and look to see if this is a good fit, if they come from a good household, if they're gonna be able to handle certain things, if they have certain traditions, and you're deciding I don't need anybody to make this decision for me.
00:55:59.000If you're 22 or 23 right now, and you started at 414, 15, 16 having sex with different guys, and we went from then till 22, you already have six years of evidence that you don't know what the hell you're doing.
00:56:16.000If you're not in a relationship and you're not married, and you've been having sex, you don't know what the fuck you're doing.
00:56:41.000If you go from let's say 15 to 30, that's a 15-year track record if you do not end up married by that point of taking the same test and failing.
00:56:58.000Now, this is the issue with the ladies.
00:57:00.000If you hang around the wrong uh uh single women who keep telling you all the issues are just the men, everything that's wrong in life is just the men, and you've gone 15 years of failing the test, you don't get to keep failing the tests and then tell everybody you a star athlete.
00:58:57.000Uh that it's just both of them take a role into the effect of the females being potentially the bigger percentage of the issue in this world compared to the men.
01:00:22.000Does anybody does anyone thinking of what of those two things that I kind of put out there?
01:00:28.000Is it is it something that you never really thought about how important it was that could be can contribute to maybe why things are so bad or even maybe personally when you look back and reevaluate.
01:00:56.000Well, like I said, he proposed to me more so um because I guess my brother also was proposing to his fiancee at the time too.
01:01:05.000So he probably felt like, okay, I need to do something right.
01:01:08.000But within himself, he was battling a lot of things eternally.
01:01:12.000Um also, like I said, when I was 15, my standards or my things of what I wanted in a relationship was not what I wanted now as a grown woman.
01:01:21.000So those are things that at the end of the day, me making him feel like he needs to grow up faster was also make making him feel demasculated.
01:01:53.000Yeah, you didn't because by six years, we by the fifth year of the relationship, I had already came to senses that maybe this is not something that I see in my future.
01:02:02.000But it was hard for me to leave because I was trauma bonded to him after being together for so many years.
01:04:29.000Ten years to realize this wasn't the guy.
01:04:32.000So my question is is like, yeah, I kind of have to start doing the the the wheels in your head now.
01:04:38.000Is that if you've been practicing trying to figure it out on your own the last two, three, four, five, eight years, and it's not and it hasn't led to the outcome you're wanting today.
01:04:48.000Perhaps just your thoughts, your thinking, and your feelings is not sufficient in order to screen the guy.
01:05:23.000Let alone the ones that you did the situationships with, or the one nice stands with, or the guys who you're entertaining, realize that the longer this goes, the more difficult it's gonna become.
01:05:36.000So, although that may be a little a little rough to hear, it's actually because I'm we're actually coming from a place of genuine care.
01:05:43.000We don't want y'all to be the 42-year-old talking about, well, I deserve you, don't deserve shit.
01:08:16.000The tattoo by J. Cole, love yours, because I really think about the song like loving your life and putting your life first and just valuing yourself.
01:09:24.000A guy don't want his girl being awkward about other guys.
01:09:27.000Like, yo, yeah, she has a big titties.
01:09:29.000She's she's like per and the thing is like a girl only gets uh a tit job like the majority of the time is because she wants attention from other guys.
01:10:26.000Would do you think do you think that a guy do you think that you would feel differently about a man that was satisfied and want you for who you are today?
01:10:38.000Versus versus a man that would prefer you to after the procedure.
01:10:42.000A hundred percent, natural, but I feel like this is a self-thing.
01:10:45.000It's for myself at the end of the day, and I'm very open and transparent about my life and cosmetic changes.
01:12:49.000She did not mention that ship like that.
01:12:50.000I need to say that because people are sending videos of me on the poll in there from the pregame and they think I'm a stripper or something, but I'm not.
01:15:20.000Because girls love to the thing I've noticed with women is if they're in a relationship and they're super happy about it, they want to make sure everybody fucking knows.
01:15:26.000Um when girls don't want to disclose the length of their relationship, something's off typically.
01:20:43.000Fitness girls don't date guys that don't go to the gym.
01:20:46.000So in order for you to go to the gym and have physique and keep her in check, a lot of these guys, you know, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
01:20:58.000Bro, you totally just divert me for no reason.
01:21:00.000So the point I'm trying to make is is that um what I've seen normally with girls that are fit that go to the gym, they get out with guys that are hyper high testosterone that are on drugs or on gear, these guys tend to have less emotional control, tend to be violent, but at the same time, you probably antagonize too.
01:21:16.000Because a lot of times when I see girls get hit, they antagonize a good portion of the time.
01:21:20.000Not every time, but they do antagonize a good part.
01:21:21.000And no one talks about this because you know women are above reproach, we can't criticize your bad behavior.
01:21:25.000But women absolutely antagonize bad uh violence for men a lot.
01:21:29.000And I'm saying that's you every time, but I see you nodding along.
01:21:32.000So and in terms of like domestic violence, the rates are actually pretty comparable between men and women.
01:21:37.000Um and because men are usually the ones that go on unreporting it or underreporting it, I wouldn't be shocked that ladies are usually doing far more than it than actually meets the eye.
01:21:46.000Um I don't know if you've seen this study, but like when it's one when it's uh one direction, it's typically woman to man.
01:21:52.000Um almost always when one party's beating on the other, it's or never just the guy beating on the chick.
01:22:07.000Not saying I'm not condoning it, but I am saying that I think it's important that we analyze domestic violence is never one way, and if it is, it's typically female to male, because the guys are gonna report it.
01:23:25.000Um, well, for one, my hope, and even when our discussion that we had earlier um during this podcast, my hope is A, that women don't believe that they have to go through a million experiments to find the guy that they want.
01:23:36.000That they could be open to not assuming and trusting just their own emotions and feelings is gonna get them there.
01:23:41.000That maybe the leadership of actually your male cousins, brothers, uncles, fathers, grandfathers, or even older male mentors, they may be able to see things that you don't because they don't have your feelings when analyzing the guy.
01:23:56.000Uh for men, my hope is actually that they don't all have to go through divorces to realize and be able to judge women better.
01:24:03.000A lot of times men typically get really, really good at screening out women after they go through really bad heartbreaks.
01:24:09.000Um the problem is not all men make it out on the other side of that.
01:24:12.000Many of them end up getting depressed, they end up deleting themselves, they end up losing so much, and many of them aren't able to recover.
01:24:20.000So my hope is that a lot of guys don't get to that point, and that a lot of y'all don't have to sleep with too many guys that get too traumatized to get to the end goal of actually being able to get into a successful relationship.
01:24:31.000Because I just feel like it's uh it's a cycle that that can and does happen where men like you said, they go for younger women.
01:24:46.000Um they'll get hurt at a young age, and then they be they delete themselves, they become someone completely different because they got hurt and now whenever they go towards younger women, sometimes they don't realize that they have learned behaviors from being hurt, and then they attack it on to the woman.
01:25:11.000So it's just like Yeah, we become savages.
01:25:31.000And unfortunately, I'm realizing um both as a clinician and just watching the stuff on social media, that like um if you don't kind of slow down and really realize and get help, and be self aware.
01:25:41.000You're gonna end up being a part of the cycle where you're gonna be jaded and hating men, or you're gonna be saying, uh all men ain't this, all men is shit.
01:25:49.000When in reality is you're not single by choice.
01:25:52.000You're single because of your choices.
01:25:57.000So my hope in terms of the future generation is that we kind of learn a lot sooner from other people's mistakes than having to feel like we gotta keep doing it on our own.
01:26:05.000You know, um I think that's some pretty wishful thing.
01:26:21.000I think we're gonna see more single people.
01:26:24.000It's already going up now, but I think we're gonna see more single people than ever before.
01:26:28.000And the problem is that the women don't have a problem with finding a guy.
01:26:32.000It's that their standards are too damn high, right?
01:26:34.000Um you were talking about this earlier with income, and you're explaining to them how you know the higher your standards go on the more money you make, and the more money you want your partner to make, the less men qualify.
01:26:44.000But the problem with that is, you know, as you get into this up echelon of men, like you're asking him before, what does that guy want back in return?
01:29:06.000Yo, yo, uh W. Let me ask you guys let me we'll kinda go through this.
01:29:11.000Are you willing to give up your girlfriends, not go out?
01:29:13.000No more girl strips, no more entertaining or talking to men, deactivating your Instagram, not dressing provocatively unless you're around him.
01:29:19.000Would you be willing to give up these things?
01:30:05.000Well, well, you got you said I was gonna say that there's always something that you can do better.
01:30:10.000As in bettering yourself to build with someone.
01:30:16.000So as long as it's not something that's demoralizing, tearing me down, tearing the other person down.
01:30:26.000So you know what's interesting, right?
01:30:27.000From the time we're little boys, we're taught go to school, make money, be a provider, because at some point you're gonna want to have a family, you're gonna want to have a woman rely on you, right?
01:30:36.000We kind of kinda are conditioned from this.
01:30:58.000Oh, yeah, but yeah, but then but then they also that comes with that that but that also comes with the caveat of like you can be a raging bitch too, an attitude, and that's unacceptable.
01:31:10.000So yeah, it's it's more about like being able to do it, but like you notice how like with young young boys, little boys, like we're taught to behave a certain way towards women pretty much all the time.
01:31:19.000But with women, you guys are not taught how to treat men at all.
01:31:22.000Some men are taught just like some women are taught.
01:31:26.000Some boys, little boys are taught the right way.
01:31:32.000And then she thinks for the other thing.
01:31:33.000What I'm trying to explain is that a majority of boys are taught how to treat women, but a majority of women are definitely not taught how to treat boys.
01:31:43.000Well, unfortunately, we can't we can't go ahead and make that into statistic, but what we can say is we can look at the you know, destruction of the family unit and the destruction of relationships, and we can pretty much figure out that feminism has created this air where a majority of women simply don't respect the majority of men.
01:31:57.000And this is shown in relationships, high divorce rates, women's dissatisfaction with males in general.
01:32:01.000Like, I mean, we have a plethora of other data to show that women in general s in the West, where feminism is strong, simply don't respect male authority.
01:32:26.000In fact, I would even add to that they wouldn't have had to change.
01:32:30.000They would have already been trained and taught and shown how to move in that direction, often by their like you said, their their mothers or some matriarch in the family.
01:32:40.000They there's not this changing that they would have had to do.
01:32:43.000All these behaviors that they gotta get rid of.
01:32:45.000They would have already been kind of walking as a future wife.
01:33:37.000I'm expected to be polite and be nice at all times.
01:33:40.000Ladies first, right, pay the bill, etc.
01:33:42.000These norms are still very strong on the male side, but you're not necessarily expected to respect me or my authority or what I think or you know, defer to my uh to my authority or my leadership.
01:33:52.000Women are not taught that if anything, I would argue it's the other way around.
01:33:55.000Women are taught you're independent, be strong, don't listen to a man and you don't need a man.
01:34:09.000Because I look at it like why the fuck am I gonna sit here, make money, acquire status, acquire resources, and then deal with a chick that doesn't want to do her job when I have to do my job all the fucking time.
01:34:43.000She's basically saying like you you know, if you're If you got your shit together, it should be easy to find this woman, which I see her perspective.
01:35:01.000I just I just feel like as long as you show consistency in what you want to be, so what you say is what you do, regardless of if you're starting here or you're in the middle or you're already up here.
01:35:16.000Like as long as you're consistent and what you say is what you do, then you should be able to So be a man of my word.
01:35:30.000Okay, well, how's that fair when women are taught do what's right for you?
01:35:33.000If I'm supposed to do what's right, but you do what's right for you, who's gonna take an L every single time?
01:35:39.000I mean, he said that that women should Okay, let me answer it for you.
01:35:44.000I'm gonna take the L every single time.
01:35:46.000Because I'm doing what's right because I'm held to this high standard, you're doing what's right for you because society tells you you should always be happy.
01:35:51.000This is why the marriage rates are plummeted.
01:36:03.000Well, from a free that women are perpetually unhappy.
01:36:06.000Well, I was gonna say, add adding to this from the mental health perspective, one of the biggest challenges that I'm realizing in therapy sessions is ladies are going to therapy, talking to therapists, counselors, about their issues and ills of the relationship that they're in, and they're walking out being told the most important thing is your happiness.
01:36:25.000So when you have people who are giving oaths, who are making promises on their wedding day, and then you know, life happens, things change, feelings change, he's still thinking through the lens of I'm not going anywhere.
01:36:42.000Things are hard, things suck, I'm not getting sex as much as we used to get.
01:37:18.000Um, uh chronic cheating, where there wasn't an agreement at some point in time between both parties, because you gotta remember at even as guys, they're like, Oh, you just letting guys get away with it.
01:37:28.000You gotta realize you're putting her at risk.
01:37:55.000We don't tell again, we don't tell women do the right thing, we tell them do what's right for you, which a lot of times is to leave, because it's like, oh, I can find something better.
01:38:46.000Y'all are waiting until after two kids.
01:38:49.000After five, eight, ten years, and being like, all right, now I'm unhappy, now it's time for me to leave.
01:38:55.000And when you're coming back out there at 35, 38, 44, what do you think is out there waiting for you?
01:39:01.000If if everybody's in their twenties complaining about the dating market now, what you think the dating market is gonna be for you twenty years from now?
01:39:10.000So the reality is is everything he's saying is like I'm actually seeing it.
01:39:14.000And it's the field is dominated by seventy five percent women, and a whole bunch of the feminine uh men who's also using the same talking points, and the field has kind of moved into a place where they're trying to validate everything.
01:39:28.000The more therapy sessions you get, the better.
01:39:30.000There's divorce attorneys, there's divorce courts, there's an entire family court system that's designed to take resources from the man and give them to the woman.
01:39:38.000So there's an entire infrastructure to keep men and women apart from a financial perspective.
01:39:45.000Men, right, will sacrifice their happiness for their family.
01:39:47.000Women will sacrifice their family for their happiness.
01:39:50.000Women initiate 80% of the divorces, they take the majority of the alimony, they're incentivized to break up relationships because there's a financial backing to do it, and you can kind of do it with you know, uh fault uh fall-free divorce.
01:40:02.000Wait, so um so the reality is like when I say all these things, I'm not saying this to say, oh my god, relationships are in the shitter, but let me ask you a question, because you've been the one that questioned me the most, which is fine.
01:40:14.000If I gave you a million dollars, right?
01:40:16.000I give you one million dollars, and you go ahead and you buy a real estate property, right?
01:40:21.000And they tell you this property is gonna be prosperous, it's gonna make you a bunch of money, you're gonna be able to get double your money in ten years, right?
01:40:29.000Five years passes, and it's lost 50% of value.
01:40:39.000You thought that the neighborhood is gonna grow, you thought, you know, Jews were gonna move in, ended up blacks coming in, properties, real estate went down, etc.
01:40:46.000Shit you couldn't foresee in other words.
01:41:23.000I just feel like you can I don't know.
01:41:25.000I I don't want to say what I think actually.
01:41:28.000Okay, you're you're taking the analogy way too literally.
01:41:30.000The point I'm trying to make is is that why are men gonna bust their asses to become super successful, make this money, right, and invest in two properties that they know are gonna depreciate and create headaches for them later, which is modern women.
01:41:41.000They don't want to obey them, they don't want to serve them, they don't want to be good wives, they want to go to the club and party, they still want to act like they're single, but they have a man.
01:41:48.000That's where we are as men nowadays in 2025, unfortunately.
01:41:52.000Girls are more interested in having a lit Instagram than having a lit relationship.
01:41:57.000Even down to late in in in if you want to know how close you are to what he's describing, think about when it is you want to have kids and when you want to get married.
01:42:08.00020, 30, 50 years ago, you would have probably been saying 20, 18.
01:42:14.000Now a lot of you are thinking 28, 30, so you've already kind of got those seeds planted in you to delay family, delay being a wife, all the things that would make you attractive to men, you're pushing those things off because you want to have your fun and kind of get that run in.
01:42:32.000So this is this is the stuff of like the indoctrination is not just like there was a class of feminism, it's just all around you.
01:42:40.000You you're you when you when you look at social media and you see all your girlfriends, the homegirls traveling, purchasing stuff, going on all these trips, that requires time and resources.
01:42:50.000You most people aren't doing that at 16, 17, 18.
01:42:53.000They're going to college, they're coming out, and then they're seeing social media, and it's like I want to experience that.
01:43:00.000You're now trying to experience those things as well, and all the while, the time that you were supposed to be focused on the things we're talking about, time's passing you by.
01:43:24.000Um, about pushing back kids, because I feel like with inflation and everything that's going on, like even child care costs, and I feel like when you're in a relationship with your man, like my man, my husband is before my kids.
01:43:36.000It's like me and my husband against these kids.
01:43:38.000So it's like if he's if he's being overworked and feels like he needs to make more money, because I think the average, every time you give birth to a baby, it's like the average cost to raise a child is like more than a hundred thousand dollars.
01:43:49.000I think it's like three hundred thousand dollars.
01:43:51.000I think that was maybe on an earlier conversation.
01:43:57.000Number one, the reason why the cost went so crazy is because who doubled the workforce and increased and stagnated the wages in the first place.
01:44:08.000Number two, women that talk about the cost of kids, don't talk about the ability to adjust their life to the what a man's life can afford in terms of a lifestyle.
01:44:20.000Well, I'm saying as a couple, like, okay, like a partnership, because that would be like a conversation that you would have with your man, like, hey, hey, baby, when do you think is a good time for us to have children?
01:44:28.000Because if we do have kids right now, you're probably gonna have to pick up more hours at work.
01:44:32.000And then so it's just like a conversation.
01:44:33.000Most households, the man is not just working, now the woman has to work too to be able to afford a comfortable life.
01:44:39.000And what I'm suggesting is because you were born in this era, you're you presuppose that your income means something to a fancy way of saying it is reimagine you couldn't get a job.
01:44:52.000Okay, but you do you know you both want kids at some point.
01:44:56.000Is that how what would type what would your life how would your lifestyle shift and change so that you could have kids?
01:45:03.000What ends up happening is because you don't want to change the lifestyle.
01:45:06.000Now you feel like, well, now we gotta send the kids to daycare.
01:45:09.000Now we gotta send now we gotta pay for a nanny.
01:45:11.000Now we gotta do this, now we gotta do that.
01:45:13.000Well, that's what I was talking about.
01:45:14.000Like now, I'm just saying the reflection of now because honestly, the best situation would be for the mom to stay at home and the dad to go to work, but that's just not the reality with a lot of American families right now.
01:45:22.000And what I'm suggesting again is if you maybe I'm saying it different, saying I'm not sorry, maybe I'm not saying it correctly.
01:45:31.000Rather than adjust your lifestyle to what he can afford so that he can afford being able to do that and provide for the kids, you would rather continue to work at just to maintain So you're saying downsize.
01:46:17.000So the point I'm making is if we really, really had to adjust and was like, yo, we want a second kid, but I feel like Jeff, you're gonna have to pick up more hours, or my wife's gonna have to pick up more hours.
01:46:30.000I'd be like, or we could just adjust our lifestyle and live better within our means so that we can afford a second kid even if it's just on my income.
01:48:45.000But that's what I mean when I say like we have a problem with consumerism in America where women would refuse would rather work a job they hate to buy things they don't need.
01:48:53.000To impress people that don't give a fuck about them.
01:49:04.000We have really low birth rates, and we gotta import more immigrants to replace that birth rate.
01:49:08.000I mean, I don't know about you guys, but I don't want more fucking Mexicans and Indians and uh people from you know third world countries coming in here and fucking shit up that don't want to acclimate and you know, learn uh the English language.
01:49:19.000You know, immigration, I think we need to be at a point now where we need to cut that shit back.
01:49:22.000Now obviously this isn't a political podcast if you guys don't have to go into that.
01:49:36.000And the only way we're gonna be able to replace uh to fight that is by having families and getting the uh birth rates up, but we can't do it.
01:50:07.000So the only way we're gonna fight that is we need to have nuclear families here of Americans.
01:50:11.000So you're saying that the more nuclear families that we have, the less problems it affects immigration.
01:50:16.000Or the less or the more economically So you're saying that the more children that we have in households, that's going to make people make so the replacement rate we're not replacing.
01:58:30.000I don't know if it's a law or I don't know what it was, but there's a country that don't allow women, women to show any parts of their body but their eyes.
01:58:39.000Well, there's no country that has that as a woman.
02:02:10.000She is going to be more sexualized regardless, is what I'm trying to what we're trying to say compared to what she has now if she increases her boob size no matter what.
02:02:17.000Anytime a woman accentuates like sexual features, she is gonna be sexualized more.
02:04:13.000But, you know, it's a weapon that you guys could use to your advantage, which many of you do.
02:04:17.000Um, but I don't think you guys use it the right way.
02:04:20.000I think most girls use it to party, meet attractive men, get flown out, whatever, and then don't use it to find a husband and lock him down long term.
02:04:28.000So it's like, hey, look, if you want marriage.
02:04:58.000Yeah, well, and we'll have all the Instagrams too.
02:05:00.000Um, okay, let's pull up the calculator real quick.
02:05:02.000This is the um dating calculator, ladies.
02:05:04.000And this calculator is the most accurate assessment of men in the United States accounts uh for the U.S. Census Bureau, the um CDC, National Health and Uh Nutrition Examination Survey.
02:05:14.000So, uh, what is the minimum age that you want your guy to be in maximum?
02:07:01.000So this is this is this is the um this is uh this is actually really good to see because this is perfectly encapsulates what I said about women.
02:07:08.000Women have a gross overestimization of attractive men that are available to them.
02:09:01.000So that's the thing is like you kind of have to realize like you want water too?
02:09:05.000I'm not saying make really drastic decisions tomorrow.
02:09:08.000But what I am saying is it's like you kind of have to take this seriously.
02:09:11.000Of like, yeah, the guy that you say you want, when you've come across him or find him, uh outside of him like telling you something crazy, you better get on his timetable and program.
02:13:59.000There's a lot of bitches that look like her that aren't whores that didn't have sex on camera that he could go and get a younger version that isn't a whore and be fine.
02:19:22.000Like, you know what I'm saying at the end of the day.
02:19:23.000Like, I'm not out here searching for a man or being like, I need to be married by this age.
02:19:27.000I understand actually put it in better perspective when he kind of explained it.
02:19:30.000You're wasting those 15 years on this.
02:19:32.000And I'm like, okay, well, maybe like I do if I'm not married by 25, this plan B is like, you know, I'd be open to fostering kids at the end of the day.
02:20:33.000Because my sexual market value is too low.
02:20:35.000That is the equivalent to a woman like her, no offense, that might be physically attractive, however, has very bad characteristics that are not conducive to a good long-term relationship.
02:22:00.000The most selective men don't even come close to women that aren't as selective.
02:22:04.000The pickiest guys don't even come close to girls that aren't that picky.
02:22:08.000That just goes to show the big difference between a man's selection and a woman's selection.
02:22:12.000Men fuck what they can, women fuck what they want.
02:22:14.000God fuck you, you, you, you, you, you, and you.
02:22:18.000So th this whole situ like you don't uh believe it or not, another way to look at another way that I think can be really effective to look at it, and I've actually used this in in different discussions with folks, is is is it's kind of how it relates to like when you when you go for a job.
02:23:09.000I got distracted when you slide your resume over for a job position that you say claim to want.
02:23:15.000Okay, and then the person looks at the job desc not job description, your resume.
02:23:19.000Okay, and they look at it, and they're like, Well, this is a pretty interesting resume, but this has nothing to do with the position that I'm trying to hire you for.
02:23:26.000And you're going off about wait, uh I I I worked three years at Chuck E. Cheese and I worked at Chick-fil-A and I've done this and done that, and they say, ma'am, this is a job for accounting.
02:23:36.000You would be like, Okay, but I want the job.
02:23:40.000And they were like, Yeah, but you don't you're not qualified for this position.
02:23:44.000None of the prerequisite things that we're looking for in terms of experience in terms of what you bring to the table, in terms of your credentials, warrants me picking you over the other candidate whose job to whose resume does show those things.
02:23:56.000So if you want a now, you claim as of right now, and in your early twenties, I don't care about this.
02:24:04.000Unless you can project this out for the next 60 years, at some point in time, you may actually feel differently.
02:24:10.000So if you do want the position of being a wife, it would behoove you to actually get out of your head and thinking, I don't need to care about this, I don't need to change anything, I don't need to adjust anything.
02:24:21.000Because when people get on the other side, it's insane.
02:25:10.000You need to listen because you have a very hard head, and it's very obvious that you've dealt with retards, and and uh no one told you that you're not as smart as you think that you are.
02:26:11.000And I learned with time that when I started to respect myself more and prioritize the women that just get it, it's way better than trying to mold a woman into being the one that I'm looking for.
02:26:23.000Why would I Well I had the time for that?
02:26:25.000Why don't I just deal with somebody who just gets it, likes me, treats me well, respects me, changes and adjusts the things that she was doing on her own without me when she's realizing the scene why I want to do life with him, it makes sense for me to adjust these things.
02:26:37.000One of the things that should be on your resume is the ability for you to be teachable.
02:26:42.000Here's the other thing too, I will say, ladies.
02:26:44.000Yes, all men feel this way, whether they make $50,000, $100,000, $200,000, it doesn't matter.
02:26:50.000Their ability to be honest about it is contingent about how much money they make.
02:26:53.000So once he makes $50K, he can't really tell you to shut the hell up.
02:26:56.000Because he needs you to make money and work with him.
02:27:00.000Cut the hours back, you know, chill out.
02:27:02.000200k, 300k, that's when he starts telling you shut the fuck up.
02:27:05.000Over that, he's not even gonna tell you to shut up no more.
02:27:07.000He's gonna go get another girl and divorce you or leave you or whatever it may be.
02:27:10.000So I think women need to understand that a man's honesty, a lot of times with what he wants is contingent upon his income and his status, right?
02:27:18.000And the more status income he has, the less he's gonna talk to you.
02:27:21.000So I'm telling you guys now, I'm warning you.
02:27:23.000You want a guy that makes a certain amount of money, he's gonna expect something in return.
02:27:26.000You're gonna want 80k per year, that's gonna be a guy that's higher earner, that's probably gonna make more than that in the future.
02:27:31.000He'll listen to your back talk for a year, two years, three years.
02:27:34.000At some point, he's like, Man, fuck this shit, bro.
02:27:59.000We we didn't think a lot of the industries and things that's going on 10, 20 years ago that we have now, we didn't even know that men and women not being able to get along and have conversations without disrespecting each other was what it turned into right now.
02:28:11.000In the future, unless you're planning on being single in perpetuity or dating women, if you don't get this lesson now while you still had the youth on your side, you're going to the option is gonna be you reaching out, hey, hey, sis, how you feel about a sister wife?
02:28:28.000How do you feel about can I be number two, Number three, because that's what's next.
02:28:32.000Because a lot of women would rather stay alone than end up with a guy that they really didn't want.
02:28:37.000She's laughing, but I'm being she he's dead ass.
02:28:39.000I'll tell you guys, I'm never gonna be monogamous again.
02:28:41.000Every single girl I do it, I tell her I'm I'm having multiple women.
02:30:18.000I I I think you can never call yourself that.
02:30:21.000That's what other people might attribute to you.
02:30:22.000But what I am saying is that men that are conceited, men that are uh that people say are cocky, whatever, nine out of ten times, they've done something to create that cockiness or cassittiness because we must become.
02:33:45.000So real quick, ladies, because I I between what Myron's saying, what I'm trying to communicate saying with Chris, I have a very, very short story, and I hope it could be helpful.
02:35:14.000So if all almost eighty women are matching with me, choosing to initiate contact with me just by me getting on a plane and landing and then getting on another plane and landing with having no married.
02:35:28.000But the point that I'm trying to make is I don't think that y'all understand what this young lady, um uh Sunshine was struggling with this is why it's so important to not kind of go off of just that initial feeling of I'm gonna do what I want, I don't have to need a man, I don't need to change anything.
02:35:45.000Because when we say your leverage is effectively gone at 24.
02:35:49.000That's what I was trying to explain to her.
02:36:51.000I mean an ugly man, right, can make up for his ugliness in other ways.
02:36:55.000He can make money, he can be charming, he can be charismatic, he could be funny, he can be famous, he can be a good person, he could be polite, he can be charitable.
02:37:03.000There's many ways that a man can make up for being ugly.
02:40:22.000That's actually respecting them even more so because I understand their limitations.
02:40:25.000If me and you were dating and someone broke into the house, I would be disrespecting you by saying, hey, I need you to go fight them with me.
02:40:31.000I wouldn't be with you because you got ten bitches, which means you're not a good man.
02:48:12.000Number one, he's absolutely right that it's important for a man not to continually try to change and adjust for a woman because she a lot of times they actually end up losing respect for that man.
02:48:50.000And it was created like that because as women started to continue to work, there's their their their uh their uh desires and expectations for men went up.
02:48:59.000Now you have ladies like Sunshine over here saying they want a 1% man.
02:49:04.000And a lot of you are talking and behaving as if you want a top one five, 10% man.
02:49:55.000So the reality is when you keep trying to have these, well, well, what about men and equal this and equal that?
02:50:01.000Nothing, nothing that we're looking at, nothing that we're before you respond, because you're as you're listening, instead of trying to engage to get ready to say the next part, realize what's what's being said.
02:50:16.000Every point that's being made from here, here, and here, is often about how things aren't equal and how things aren't fair.
02:50:24.000The entire time, no matter how Myron is trying to explain it, even if I've said it in my professional way, there's a reason why it's not equal, and it feels that way.
02:50:33.000It wasn't equal five, eight years ago when you were getting more attention than you ever could, and I could barely get any.
02:52:10.000If you have great observation skills, you should start screening out and looking at the women in your life, the women you follow on social media, and seeing are they having the outcomes I want versus the women who are wives or like many of you have said, This is what I want.
02:52:27.000I would suggest you surround yourself with those types of women and start being influenced with them.
02:52:32.000Because rather than go are if you're arguing with men on a platform about what men want, that lets you know how far off you are.
02:52:43.000And I'm saying that I'm not saying that as a direct shot to any of you.
02:52:46.000I'm saying if you're going back and forth with men about what men want, and if a millionaire is telling you, and a non-millionaire is telling you.
02:55:04.000He's simply saying, because you're being delusional about this, most women want what she wants.
02:55:08.000If her but then you have to, as a woman, you have to tell look at yourself in the mirror and say, is what I'm wanting or asking for even what I want.
02:55:15.000Oh, because if you're that's using your brain, and most women don't do that.
02:55:18.000Okay, but if you're then you're wasting your time in your life, and it's I wish more of them thought the same thing.
02:55:22.000Honestly, I but as you can see from during the course of this conversation, but if some women are trying to put the mirror up right now in this conversation, no, but as a high earning woman, more Most men want a high earning like most men who are married, if you look at the medium income in the household, they're married to wives who make almost the same amount of people.
02:55:37.000We don't give a fuck about your income, man.
02:55:47.000But what I'm saying is a guy who makes 80k, who's an engineer and has a wife who's a nurse who's also making close to the same amount of income.
02:55:53.000He never made the decision to date her, deal with her, everyone's not.
02:56:27.000Just by default of the fact that typically what what you're actually speaking to is couples where both parties tend to make more money, especially the higher up they go in income, the less likely they are to divorce.
02:56:38.000That that doesn't have any bearing on why it is he chose to stay with her.
02:56:42.000It just so happens that people who tend to make really great decisions economically, financially, and if they get together and make it past, I think it's five or seven year period, they're statistically much better at staying long term than people where one person's making a certain amount and the other person's making nothing, or both people are broke.
02:57:20.000So when you're putting things out on the internet over a microphone in front of other women who aren't even having what you have right now.
02:57:30.000When I'm saying, No, no, no, I'm not speaking out of privilege.
02:57:32.000I'm speaking out of the origin the origin of the conversation got diverted.
02:57:36.000So we were talking about basically you women being delusional and wanting a high percent earner and not being able to get that because their standards are all fucked up, and then they're not they're like, oh, I want a high percent earner, but I don't want to deal with what comes with that.
02:57:48.000That was like the or that was the basis of the conversation.
02:57:55.000And but back to your second piece, ladies, you can work if you want to work.
02:57:59.000You can get whatever job you want to make, make as much money as you want.
02:58:02.000But when you saw the calculator that shows you very clearly how hard it is to find that man, I'm just basically suggesting if you find him.
02:58:12.000I want to know what the one percent woman is.
02:58:13.000If it doesn't exist, it doesn't exist.
02:58:17.000It doesn't exist because you're not a one percent woman unless you're with a one percent man.
02:58:20.000Do you do you ladies understand that a woman is trying to take a man's last name?
02:59:24.000You guys want to take our last name on, which means you need to go ahead and find a guy that's better than you to take on that last name so you can be proud.
03:00:43.000I enjoy doing that way more than doing this and talking to women, because women are very hard headed and don't understand certain dynamics and they're not logically sound, no offense.
03:00:50.000But what I've noticed is the prettier that you guys tend to be, the less logically sound you guys are.
03:00:54.000Like these two, you guys are good looking.
03:00:55.000Uh, but you guys are not that smart, no offense.
03:03:26.000The way in which you're judged, it remember we're judged by two totally different screening systems.
03:03:32.000So from a female perspective, if the goal is to get married and get his last name, and you don't get that, you've effectively failed.
03:03:41.000But for us, you judge us totally differently.
03:03:44.000As an example, when it comes to sex, if I find out you've only been with one man or no man, I'm running to try to lock you down immediately.
03:04:43.000No, but I'm s yeah, I'm I guess it's not a normal today.
03:04:47.000But in the sense of like a lot of the things that guys are fighting women to try to get them to do, it was very natural and normal for her.
03:05:02.000Because one of the things I think a lot of guys don't think about is they're so interested in how she looks, they don't think about the fact that this is the woman that's going to be raising your child.
03:05:12.000So again, just to clear no, just to clarify, when Myron, uh Chris, myself, and other people are trying to explain, the beauty is just the piece that gets you in the door.
03:05:23.000We obviously care about more than she's like.
03:05:25.000She has the same intellect, but she wasn't attractive.
03:05:47.000You have a flawed logic of equality between men and women.
03:05:51.000And this stems from your relationship, which is why you're not actually pleased with your relationship with what's going on.
03:05:56.000Because you hold your man to the same standard that he holds you to.
03:05:59.000You guys have some type of weird partnership where you guys are equal.
03:06:02.000You maybe you brought into the whole partnership bullshit of we're 50-50 partners, whatever, which is a flawed relationship dynamic in the first place.
03:06:08.000But I'm starting to see here that this sounds like fucking Chinese to you because it's like your guy treats you like an equal.
03:06:14.000And that is why you don't want to claim that you're in a long-term relationship with that guy.
03:06:42.000And it's and it's the and it's the thing that feminism taught the population, which is every that work that all said anything about equality.
03:07:59.000Men would love much of our arguments, much of us clashing, much of us going back and forth, is because of the blank swing theory that convinces you that all things are equal and fair and should be exact.
03:08:11.000Like that's what most of the competition and arguments in the house, outside the house, on podcasts, is because of this back and forth of you don't understand my role and you don't understand your role.
03:08:53.000We want to get with the woman who trusts us, who believes in us, who wants to be led by us.
03:08:59.000We don't want to get With the woman who acts like that at the beginning, and then once she gets in the relationship or gets the ring or gets the kids, then she wants to do this power dynamic of fighting back and forth of who gets to dictate where we live.
03:10:03.000And if me and her was to do a therapy session, I would start to learn even more information about the type of guy he was, uh, different things he was doing, and we'll start realizing, oh, there was even signs even earlier than the five-year mark.
03:10:18.000Yes, because his household, his mom is the earner, and his dad is not the earner.
03:10:25.000So he grew up in an environment where he wasn't used to even seeing a man have to provide.
03:10:29.000What type of dynamics could that play into his view of leadership, initiative, being proactive, being wanting to be the like that thing that's supposed to be born inside of each man?
03:11:12.000But when it comes to like, oh, this is my girlfriend, this is who I'm gonna introduce people to, who's this who I'm gonna introduce is my girlfriend, etc.
03:11:40.000I'll have you answer that because you could probably give a good more because I can think of what I would, but I think you give a better answer in general.
03:11:46.000Uh a few, because I I mean there's a million things that I think guys can really appreciate.
03:11:51.000But number one is the value of his voice.
03:11:53.000Whose voice matters the most in your relationship?
03:12:58.000What I will say is what I will say is she clearly isn't aware of where she is in the pecking order of you're an average-looking woman with a mega superstar, one of the most famous people in the planet.
03:13:12.000So he's out of the way, and the way in which you conduct yourself and talk about this man and throw him under the bus repeatedly to try to make him look bad.
03:13:46.000Vanessa Bryant to this day is still revered as like she stuck by him when he had that whole scandal and he had sex with that girl, like what, 20 years ago now at this point.
03:14:51.000And even what you do when you were single could come back and hurt him if it was fucking crazy.
03:14:56.000So yeah, I think um, you know, a man's reputation could be destroyed by a woman, but a woman's reputation is never really gonna be destroyed by a man.
03:15:34.000Most people are not gonna be influencers from you know, become millionaire influencers and trade crypto or make all this money.
03:15:41.000Like, you're gonna need to get a skill set, get a job, yeah, be happy making six figures a year, maybe you know, may maybe you can you know invest in real estate, whatever, and become rich that way.
03:15:50.000But this whole fast path of wealth, it's it's a fucking lie.
03:15:54.000And this whole like, I'm gonna be free, it's very difficult to attain nowadays unless you have like some sensational skill set.
03:16:00.000But there's nothing wrong with working a regular job, and you can become financially free from working a regular job.
03:16:04.000It might take longer, but this whole lie of a laptop lifestyle or becoming a millionaire through a guru's course, it's not true.
03:16:41.000Because women will look at you differently after that.
03:16:43.000They'll always look at you differently.
03:16:44.000Now, with that said, right, having a little bit of compassion, being sad or whatever, family member dying, whatever, there's you know, obviously exceptions to that.
03:16:53.000But what I've noticed is like if you like are crying from a position of weakness where it's like, fuck man, I don't got a job, I can't make this all my god, I can't take it anymore.
03:17:00.000A lot of girls are gonna look at that like, yo, this guy's a fucking bitch.
03:18:17.000Like almost sit there, no, I'd accept if he cried, blah blah.
03:18:20.000You don't know what when your life's in that guy's hands and he's your man and you see a future with him, and then he cries, it's gonna hit you different.
03:18:26.000You might respond favorably and you might be like, you know what?
03:19:21.000What I'm saying is in terms of the breakdowns, in terms of the a lot of the extra weaknesses, it's actually better to go to other men, therapists, life coaches, mentors, uh, uh, uh, um, gym gym uh trainers and whatnot.
03:19:35.000There's a whole host of even just older male mentors, there's a whole host of men that can they know what you're going through.
03:19:41.000They may have gone through it themselves and they can help you through that, versus sharing so much of that with a woman who doesn't have your biology or physiology and won't be able to truly conceptually understand it.
03:21:32.000I mean, but you can have that moment and say, okay, I don't know what you're gonna what many moments are.
03:21:40.000The more important question to answer the more important question when you're posing and saying that should happen, is how many times is it allowed to happen?
03:21:48.000And men's perspectives are the reason why they stop doing it is because they've done it in the past.
03:22:05.000I mean, tell them in your in your sessions.
03:22:07.000How many times have women admitted, like, yeah, like he cried and it changed my perception on him?
03:22:11.000They one of the major things when they're talking about either while they're going through the divorce or after they've divorced, is how their perspective of him changed after he failed at something, after he missed the mark at something.
03:22:26.000After the thing that he that they just assumed he would always be able to do, he wasn't able to do.
03:22:31.000And they sh they they just lost attraction for him.
03:22:34.000It's a very guttural biological hardwiring thing that's built within them.
03:22:39.000Your biological hardwiring is trying to find a man that can keep you safe and can take care of you.
03:22:45.000The very things he's talking about triggers and damages that potential thing that you tried to have rooted in him.
03:22:53.000That's the thing that we're talking about.
03:22:54.000If you're looking for a man to protect and provide for you, I'm not looking for you to protect and provide for me.
03:22:59.000That's why I'm okay with you breaking down and having moments.
03:24:33.000What this is this is the pre supposed This is the presupposition that you're operating from.
03:24:39.000Whenever you raise a point about this thing between men and women, there's a benefit of the doubt on the female side with a burden of proof of what the man has to do on his side.
03:24:51.000What I'm suggesting is that if you're listening to two men, one of which is in his role and one of which is a clinician, and I am trying to explain to you as a man, you don't date women.
03:25:20.000If y'all was a if y'all had a brother, y'all wouldn't want your brother to date some of y'all homegirls.
03:25:26.000Yeah, because y'all know how y'all get in these relationships when your emotions is not the best.
03:25:32.000So, what I'm saying is is there's a level of emotional vulnerability that men are more designed to be able to deal with, address, challenge, and help get him back on his right foot.
03:25:44.000You are great for a whole bunch of supplemental support roles.
03:25:48.000Him crying all the time, him being depressed all the time.
03:25:51.000She even said it herself about his depression, right?
03:27:35.000But the point is is that women get rid of men for fucking nothing.
03:27:38.000So for you to sit here and be like 2020 hindsight, like well, how are we gonna work on it together?
03:27:42.000That is foolish and that is not real about how women move.
03:27:45.000So we are saying, because we're men and we know how you guys are, because we have to actually attract you guys, don't even give her the chance.
03:27:50.000Don't ever cry, don't even fail, don't even let her know about it.
03:27:53.000You lose your job, don't fucking even let her know.
03:28:54.000If you're leaving 70 to 80% of the time, and we're telling you how y'all change even before we get to marriage when we show certain emotional vulnerabilities.
03:29:03.000I'm not saying as a man, don't deal with the emotions.
03:29:06.000I'm saying you have to find the right people to go to for to it for.
03:29:27.000And I know you've probably noticed from being a therapist, but what I've realized is since women uh have an inability to empathize with the male experience.
03:30:25.000If I if I wanted to be with him and he wanted to be with me, like I want to be with the person that can accept me for everything that I am.
03:31:03.000Now only one of you would risk it, right?
03:31:06.000But the majority of you are saying no because you guys are smart enough to know that would completely change the perspective and fuck up what you got, right?
03:32:20.000I remember there was a situation, I'm just getting flashbacks right now.
03:32:22.000If me and my ex-boyfriend, we were together for about a year or so.
03:32:26.000At the beginning of a relationship, I got a phone call while I was working saying that he needed to have a conversation with me, and when I got home, pretty much ended in with I don't want to lose you, like started crying to me.
03:33:05.000Believe it or not, what tends to happen is even if even if you listen, even if consciously you think nothing changed.
03:33:13.000Three months, six months, a year later, when things finally ended, there that started the clock of now factoring and counting things as strikes against him.
03:33:51.000But aren't you counting mentally checked out months before we were living together, so it was like a very quick, you know, codependency like we talked about.
03:34:03.000I didn't I don't really like to talk about my past life because I don't need judgment, but that's just a little bit of sharing from my past experience.
03:34:08.000That's why I tell guys not to live with girls either.
03:34:12.000Um never never I don't advise living with a partner.
03:34:50.000Like if you're checked out or whatever, like there could be things that bring it back.
03:34:54.000And for m for me, or I feel like for women in general, if you have somebody that's ambitious that wants to do better, yes, they might fall, but how are you gonna get back up?
03:39:10.000By the way, why are you clapping though?
03:39:13.000Because I feel like I don't I don't support the whole selling nudes, but if your man supports you at the end of the day, that's a good thing.
03:41:04.000The cheat code is not waiting for the guy to constantly correct your behavior, which you know is going to be best aligned and makes him look the best.
03:41:10.000But in our relationship, that's not a good idea.
03:42:40.000Normally, because I I see that you're on the same wavelength as me.
03:42:43.000When women understand what what the hell we're talking about, most of the time they have a strong dad, a brother, someone's put them all in game.
03:42:50.000Because this is a radical way of thinking to a degree.
03:43:51.000You know, we live in different countries, but we've been friends since FaceTime though, but I'm just trying to figure out how you because again, when women understand this stuff, okay.
03:44:00.000So you have a strong you said dad or brother?
03:46:41.000Jeff if your wife will like, yeah, Jeff, nah, he's cool, whatever.
03:46:45.000Like, he's alright, you know, like all I know is I've never met a woman who's happy about the relationship she's in that won't tell you far more information that you need to know.
03:48:58.000Okay, DBG, uh, learn the ways of your great grandma, ladies and generations cook, get a man, keep a man, start a family, and stop trying to tell him how to lead it maybe over for you, but you have a chance.