On this episode of the Fresh Out Of It Podcast, we have our first guest on the show, Fiji! She is a Dominican Republic native living in Miami, Florida. We talk about her life and how she got her start in the music industry.
00:08:57.000you don't got to put them on in here all right and we are back what's up guys welcome to the fresh air podcast man after hours edition we're joining some lovely ladies rumble only we're We're not on uh YouTube or kick.
00:11:24.000Um but yeah, uh shirts in stores right now and hoodies, uh, Myron Gaines X dots uh store and also the whole fax uh one is out there as well.
00:15:48.000So you don't work for like an airline, but like if someone wanted to hire you to be a stewardess like on a private jet, you need training for that.
00:15:54.000Yeah, like wheels up, net jet, like there's all types of things.
00:21:35.000Yeah, because I uh it's like what I say to other girls, like none of them have an idea of it's like a where a very obscure term that unless you're on the internet, you don't know what the fuck that shit means.
00:29:18.000Um, what I do for work is I'm a licensed esthetician, and I also brands will reach out to me and send me products to make videos on like TikTok and Instagram for them.
00:29:28.000Are you uh you said you're do you live in Boston or are you just visiting Um I live in Boston, but I come here frequently for like work opportunities and things among the swords.
00:40:17.000Um, so this is a lady experiencing her well, telling her experience with actually going uh life with her music and not getting what she wanted as a result.
00:42:45.000Um, since you come from that industry and that world, like uh I guess is that one of the big obstacles for women uh with being in the music industry is like just people don't really care about their music, they care more about just trying to smash and you know.
00:42:57.000I'm gonna be honest, most female rappers charge trash.
00:43:00.000A lot of them talk about sucking dictionating money.
00:44:12.000Like I mean, I just started thinking about ideas to post on OnlyFans, like instead of just getting butt ass naked, they're like, I don't know.
00:45:05.000I I'm running I'm trying to run this female like uh Wu Tang clan right now, and it's a girl in that group that definitely signed to a penis.
00:47:38.000I think she should reach out to PR companies and just try to maximize her following, you know, to work with different companies, do affiliate links and stuff like that.
00:47:50.000Um, I think she should utilize the amount of followers that she does have, do some like brand deals and stuff, and also get a job.
00:47:59.000I agree with everything everyone else said as well.
00:48:02.000Um, there's so many ways you can promote yourself on social media, even just like posting pretty places on Instagram reels, like there's literally endless opportunities online.
00:48:12.000She just really has to put that work in instead of you know giving up.
00:48:24.000But at the same time, it's like in this case with her situation, if it's 100% true, she's cut because now with this type of video out there, who wants to work with her?
00:49:02.000Like, uh, they want to be independent, be a boss spit, be by themselves.
00:49:05.000And I get it, but like, bro, this at this point is kind of like if she works modest, a little bit more modest and stuff like that, and like you know, show more personality, I think she get more.
00:55:43.000So a lot of the times, like two weeks will go by and then I'll go back onto the app and I'll respond to them and then like I'll have a conversation with them, and then again the same thing will happen because I get really busy.
00:57:59.000Just because like we started dating at a very young age, you know, and we were different people then, and we drifted apart, but you know, we've tried, you know.
00:58:12.000Anytime I see a girl say like we drifted apart or whatever, it means like either like they kind of got lazy or they stopped working or they got you know, something happened where they slacked off.
01:00:24.000Yeah, I mean, we were young, you know, so we weren't perfect, but we stick through the uh roughs, and you know, he was with me opening my business, so it was never easy, but we were never like on faithful, I was never like that.
01:00:36.000Yeah, but like one thing you did wrong in the relationship, and then we know what he did.
01:01:18.000No, this is look, listen, this is this is what I'm we're because this is what we tell dudes in the thing, because like a lot of guys think like they're gonna be able to build up with a woman and go 50-50.
01:03:09.000Because you mentioned before you've been making moves yourself, but in this case, do you make most of the moves or guys hit you up on Instagram more?
01:05:53.000I was in like three long-term relationships my whole life.
01:05:56.000And in between I went on there to like keep me um busy from like instead of like going back to my ex like I used to do, so I started like going on the app just to like keep me busy and not like layer board.
01:10:29.000I just talked to Alexander, and he basically wants me to be a man and to go on Tinder and to get some girls to go on a dick with me, but with his pictures.
01:10:40.000Now I'm just thinking about the story I need to invent.
01:10:42.000I want to prepare a few points just for the conversation to be more natural.
01:10:46.000I want to like be very direct, but also smooth in the approach.
01:10:59.000I live and work in Liesman as a psychologist, looking for a nice lady to develop a meaningful relationship with and enjoy the pleasures of life.
01:11:07.000It's simple, it's good, and yeah, there we go.
01:11:12.000Alright, and that's the profile picture that she used.
01:12:36.000On the first day, we only got five matches, and I was like, I was stressing out.
01:12:42.000I was just like, this is going to be much harder than what I was thinking.
01:12:46.000I mean, I thought this was going to be like easy peasy, okay.
01:12:49.000I'm going to text these women, and these women are going to want to go on a date with me, and I'm going to match a lot, and that didn't happen.
01:12:55.000On the group of five, there was one there was that was like really gorgeous.
01:13:00.000Another one that I don't know why the hell did she match with me?
01:13:05.000I mean, the whole conversation was just pure pain, pure agony.
01:13:09.000She was like answering with two or three words in each message, and I was like, why?
01:15:22.000I I'm sorry, I I think she'll definitely get somebody, but like the goal and like the numbers that they were trying to reach, that's what I meant by epic fail.
01:19:51.000I don't think women use dating apps like with any type of real seriousness.
01:19:54.000I've noticed that like most girls use it to get their OnlyFans up or get their Instagram followers up, or maybe just to get some attention.
01:20:01.000But like girls never that's why I asked of all the times you've been on dating apps or whatever, how many times you guys met up and you've only met up with less than 10 guys, all of you.
01:20:08.000Or they try and then leave right away.
01:20:35.000Like I was I would use it just to pass time, like just when I'm bored at night time, and see just get like a little like interaction, little boost.
01:20:44.000Yeah, just like just because I was bored.
01:21:03.000On dating apps, like uh girls saying, like, oh, if you're handsome, like you should have no problem, even if you're the most handsome guy, you're still gonna struggle.
01:21:25.000Well, what I've realized they did an experiment on this too.
01:21:28.000They took a uh a guy that had a very attractive photo and they compared him to like a girl that's really fat, and the girl that was really fat and ugly still got way more matches and attention than the guy did.
01:21:37.000Higher response rate, more messages, more uh more messages.
01:21:40.000But imagine you're a good looking guy, pause, and you do well on the app.
01:21:47.000Yeah, if if that yeah, even if you were making that far.
01:21:49.000Most guys can't even get that many matches, but yeah, like yeah, top tier dude, they did this experiment.
01:21:54.000Like they took a guy who literally is a model, very attractive, used his profile, and then they put a fat girl like morbidly obese too, like a fucking whale.
01:22:00.000She still got more matches and responses than the most attractive guy.
01:22:04.000You're better off using Instagram, building your own profile up, yeah, creating your own avatar, and then using that too.
01:22:09.000Also, something like 80% of online dating app users are men.
01:22:22.000And I'm convinced that even girls that are on it, like use it like he she kind of did admitting like, yeah, I'd use it for attention or whatever.
01:22:27.000But you know what's that she better if he's a sugar site.
01:23:51.000It's so funny because literally on our way here, I was telling my girl, I'm like, um, I was just at a club, and I'm like, I was sitting at the club and I'm chilling.
01:24:02.000I don't really go that much, but I'm telling her, I'm like, I was thinking in my head, I can't believe I'm almost 40 and I'm still sitting in sessions with rappers, fucking at the club, like for 20 years now.
01:30:50.000I mean, your kids are older, so it's kinda different, but like I enjoyed spending time with my son with him growing up, so I preferred to be at home with him than going out.
01:30:58.000So I I think it makes you a shitty mom because your kids are only young one time and it's one dad with both the your kids, right?
01:31:06.000I only have one kid and and oh one kid, oh yeah.
01:31:10.000But it I I think I think once in a while, like is he in school or like is he in college or does he he does like uh crypto and like stocks and sports betting and like he's Oh, he's an adult.
01:31:46.000Wait, and then we're gonna take my son when he when I so like when you when you got together with your guy, your son was already an adult then.
01:33:47.000Like, I'll never like set it back or push it back.
01:33:49.000Not everybody, just like I told my son that everybody's capable of being a good parent.
01:33:53.000Not everybody has that like paternal or maternal instinct, and some people never grow up, and yeah, it's just it's definitely was hard to do.
01:35:14.000If you got kids or if the kid's an adult, I that's the only way I can see you getting in there.
01:35:19.000It's also hard to be a step parent because like it's all good, like it's all cool to like be there until like you should be, like, like all of a sudden it's like don't don't tell him what to do.
01:37:13.000I think for a woman, being like coming in and being a um dealing with like a dad who has or a guy that has kids, I think is a way better trade off than a dude coming in and dealing with a woman that has kids.
01:37:23.000Cause like the man's job is to be the disciplinarian, right?
01:37:26.000You're effectively neutered when you come into a relationship with a single mom because you can't even do what you're supposed to do because it's not your kid.
01:39:36.000And then if you date a guy that has children, like, he's gotta be a good dad.
01:39:41.000And a good dad, it requires time and like like how do they really truly have time to date for you?
01:39:49.000For a good a real dad is gonna be there on the phone with their kid every day, like at practices.
01:39:55.000Yeah, so it's like that shit is gonna get old if you're dating him and he's always like, Oh, I got my son's game.
01:40:00.000Oh, like I gotta take this call to my son.
01:40:01.000Oh, I gotta drive over there and bring his iPad.
01:40:04.000And but if you're dating a man that doesn't do that, that's a father, then he's kind of a pe like uh to me his character is not something for me.
01:40:12.000I won't say he's a piece of shit, but it's just not a quality I would look for in a man, somebody who's not a good parent.
01:40:18.000Damn, so he's damned if he does damned if he does it then.
01:40:31.000Damn, the my the mom must have been crazy then.
01:40:33.000The mom was they lived like right down the street and she had the third child.
01:40:37.000And um, but his kids wanted to live with him and like I said, we moved in together and we Oh so there was no legal proceeding to get for him to get to custody.
01:40:56.000She didn't have any financial like he's like when I got with him and he was like, once he like bought her new tires for her car and like did some other stuff, and I'm like, no, this is gonna stop with me because like you're not taking care of her, like anymore.
01:41:18.000He was doing all the stuff and still helping her out.
01:41:21.000And she was just like sitting back with her feet up, like it was all good.
01:41:24.000Like, no ma'am, like no, no, not anymore.
01:41:27.000Yeah, because it's not common that um the man gets custody of the kids.
01:41:30.000Like if the dude gets custody of the kids, the mom is like a rug addict or some shit, like she wasn't on drugs, she was just lazy and enabled, I think, by him.
01:41:37.000Well, you said they didn't go to court, so they didn't go to court then.
01:41:47.000The mom's gotta be like a drug addict to lose the kids.
01:41:49.000She wasn't, I just think that it's she was lazy and like I said, not everybody has that maternal or paternal instinct in them, and it was easier, I guess, if somebody could me.
01:41:59.000I can't go like I go like one or two days without my son, especially when he's little and oh he lives at home still?
01:45:53.000Myron, I'm a Belgian accountant accountant working freelance.
01:45:56.000My previous employer is my only client, an accounting firm that has been taken over by one of the top three in Belgium and my mentor because I'm working on my license.
01:46:02.000I have no problem spending the 90 in a month.
01:46:04.000Wanna help however I can let me know if I'm eligible.
01:52:31.000That's crazy how feminism is polluted women's minds to go chase the bag instead of being a dumb 304 on Instagram and change her ways and find a decent man to care for her and raise children and get off the internet.
01:57:39.000Yeah, like uh she didn't have redeeming qualities for a long-term girlfriend, so he just puts her in the sex-only category and hits her up from there.
01:58:08.000So, like, women are making their own money and have their own status, and then they're on Instagram as well, right?
01:58:13.000Where they have a lot of offers from higher status guys, so they think, okay, these are the guys that I qualify for, while simultaneously the men aren't aspiring to make more money being successful.
01:58:21.000Uh they're you know, more doped up on fucking drugs and booze and pornography, and you know, they look at it like why do I need to make as much money when you know I can go 50-50 with a girl?
01:58:32.000It basically burning the candle at two different ends.
01:58:34.000Because on one end, the women are becoming more successful, which means their standards go up, and at the same time, guys are not rising up to the same level because they're like, why?
01:58:40.000Why do I need to basically both parties don't concede to make things work?
01:58:44.000Yeah, men are getting lazier, women are making more money and being more ambitious, so it's like it's a L because women can't date guys that they have to provide for.
01:58:51.000Like, I mean, you were able to do it for eight years, which is surprising.
01:58:53.000But you know, there's gonna be consequences.
01:58:55.000Like the last two years, they weren't bad.
01:59:04.000Sorry, all many with like uh um anyway, yeah.
01:59:08.000So um so yeah, like the guys were slacking off and then the women are becoming uh better.
01:59:12.000And then if not, then like you know, the last like in your case, you know, the last two years or whatever, which is insufferable, right?
01:59:17.000I'm sure both of you guys, you were probably pissed off at him and frustrated for not doing his job, and then he was probably frustrated and annoyed that you'd be nagging him all the time.
01:59:24.000So I'd say that's why the dating is so bad is that women's um standards are too high, but at the same time, men aren't rising up to the same level too.
01:59:33.000So as a guy, if you do the work, bro, it's never been easier to get into the top 20% in my opinion.
01:59:37.000If you work even just 10% more than most people, yeah, you'll be way better off.
01:59:40.000If you become a provider as a guy, like if if if you're one to provide and you're you know, taking care of yourself financially, you beat out a lot of guys.
02:01:17.000I don't think women really build with men anymore.
02:01:20.000Maybe before, but I think like just in today's society, what the way men and women are and the way like we live in what I call like a fast food society.
02:01:26.000Women aren't really interested in like, you know, um building with a guy.
02:01:30.000What the fuck, you're These guys are chasing each other.
02:03:23.000I mean, yeah, you can listen, but I mean women are always gonna complain and cry about their problems, but if we're not helping in nothing, then what's the Oh there you go.
02:04:27.000Um some guys might take you up maybe once every couple of times, and then some guys might take it all the time, which if he does that, then you might want to look somewhere else.
02:04:35.000But I mean, if a girl, I I would say just if you're one of these girls that like you like to reciprocate and offer and uh pay, just offer.
02:18:20.000Remember, remember, ladies, like we've spoken to you, we're sitting here on a panel with you guys, so like we know the background, but I'm talking you as like a guy that's like just looking at your profile, he has no clue.
02:18:27.000He's looking at it, they're gonna assume all right.
02:18:29.000Well, we know on a balance of probabilities, women don't pay for their own shit.
02:25:34.000So if something inside of you is making you embarrassed, you have discernment, and that's a good thing, and maybe you should stop now before I get too far.
02:26:05.000She's either A, look, see, and this is what I'll be honest with you.
02:26:07.000Like, this is where this is the type of Instagram that's like very dangerous because like um, see, she put out a good girl front, and then you look at the IG and everything is there, OF, traveling to different places.
02:26:16.000This is exactly what we tell guys to watch out for.
02:26:41.000So look, let me give you guys an analysis of like if I'm a dude and I see this, I'm like, all right.
02:26:46.000Like, I'm looking at this profile, I'm like, alright, this chick is definitely either A has a sugar daddy or has some rich nigga that's like uh uh paying for her to come down and visit, and uh she's like seeing multiple dudes again flown out.
02:26:58.000That's what most guys would see this and be like, yeah, she's definitely on some type of uh some type of time of where niggas are flying her out and shit like that.
02:28:11.000But like, you know, just understand like a lot of guys are gonna look at that and be like turned off like oh, this chick has sugar daddies or some shit.
02:30:05.000Um, but there is a few managers who do text me on the regular, but they just they want me to do the extreme, like full nudity and stuff I'm just not comfortable doing.
02:30:14.000And I'm I'm really firm with only bathing suits and like lingerie.
02:31:09.000So wait, wait, wait, so how's she smart though?
02:31:12.000Because she she made it through um high school.
02:31:14.000She made it through uh esthetician school to get her license.
02:31:17.000So that means that she has a capability, her brain can like memorize things, she can go through tests, like she could do something, then do that.
02:33:10.000I like to make other women feel different.
02:33:12.000Yeah, but but yeah, I I get that, but like it is kind of, you know, you purport yourself in one way, and then you look at your profile, you're completely different.
02:33:20.000Do you have your institution stuff online?
02:43:37.000So um remember, this is all men in America.
02:43:40.000This is this comes from the National Health Survey, the US Census Bureau, the CDC, uh multiple multiple basically areas that they pull data from.
02:43:48.000So it's the most accurate assessment of men in the United States.
02:43:50.000Remember, only about what, 10 or 15% of all Americans make 100,000 per year?
02:43:54.000So then you take that 15%, cut out the men.
02:44:21.00015% of men are six foot, and then uh over six two, three percent.
02:44:24.000So the biggest filter on this is the actual wage, not really the height is one thing, but weight.
02:44:29.000But like, yeah, so a hundred thousand, that's five a hundred thousand already is gonna be ten percent ten to fifteen percent of the population.
02:45:45.000Yeah, but why would he why why would he spend the time to get to know you and all this other stuff when you know there's other women out there that are younger that might not, you know, come with as much baggage or whatever.
02:45:54.000I'm just I'm just asking the questions here.
02:45:56.000Of course, but I don't I don't believe I come with too much baggage.
02:47:32.000You want like one of the classic ones or what?
02:47:34.000Yeah, like older versions, like the nineties or those are cute.
02:47:39.000Um what if uh what if you had the ability to go get your nineties Mustang and you're paying, you know, full price for it, but it had 200,000 miles on it.
02:48:34.000Just like you guys don't want to pay full price for a used vehicle, we don't want to pay full price because marriage is a full is is the full paying full price.
02:48:41.000How come you're not acknowledging like I don't know, statistics and stuff, but the younger men that like older women because I since I've gotten into the age I'm at, I'm fucking blown away a lot with how many young boy like nine.
02:49:33.000Like guys that are younger than you hitting on you, like they just want to be able to tell a story about how they had sex with a cougar or a MILF.
02:49:40.000They're not actually genuinely interested in you.
02:49:42.000That's they're interested in the story that comes from you.
02:49:44.000That's what I think my in my head, but when you see like relationships, like I know a few people that have like younger, and then like like let's just say like Laura Pippen, like a lot of people.
02:50:07.000So no one's really gonna take her seriously, so she has to go ahead and get with men that are younger and not as like Drea, what's her name?
02:50:38.000They have to make up for it with getting with a younger guy that is not maybe their first choice, maybe their seventh choice, and they're not fulfilled from that.
02:50:46.000And that guy's in the game because like, for example, the Madonna dude, he's a bum.
02:51:04.000So I watched like housewives and her dude was on whatever the Bravo uh Andy Cohen, like after show, and he they're talking about looking at rings, and I don't know how long they've been dating.
02:51:13.000I don't know them personally, but it couldn't be that long.
02:51:19.000I mean, there's that And this is actually why I I think like TV is so pernicious to women because like you guys get like a false concept of like well, like you'll see Kim Kardashian doing this dumb shit, you'll see Larissa Pippen and you think, Oh, I could do that too.
02:51:30.000Look, she's older and she's with a a guy.
02:51:33.000Bro, that's less than one percent, and even if they do pull it off, a lot of times it never lasts.
02:51:56.000The thing with us with men is like we want a girl that nobody knows about, that doesn't have experience, that's not a 304, and that's not gonna embarrass us.
02:52:03.000Like, you know, a guy will easily hook up with a girl that's older or has experience, but like will they wife her?
02:52:24.000You know, she might do things that you just don't like.
02:52:25.000Maybe she's combative, maybe she's uh very assertive, maybe she's very dominant, maybe she's a go-getter.
02:52:30.000Sometimes you had to do that in your time of maybe being with a guy that wasn't a provider.
02:52:34.000You had to be be the more dominant one, you had to be more assertive.
02:52:36.000But the problem is that now that you're with a guy that does have these qualities, he doesn't want that in his partner.
02:52:41.000Like we don't want to date ourselves, right?
02:52:44.000And it sucks because you're with a more I guess feminine guy that couldn't take care of you, so you had to be the masculine.
02:52:50.000What went up happening is that hurts you in the long run when you actually do run into one of these guys because we don't want to date those types of women.
02:52:56.000So like experience for us isn't important.
02:53:00.000I'd rather take a 21 year old that doesn't know shit and I program her the way that I want over a girl that's 31 that is successful, makes six figures a year and has a college degree.
02:53:10.000The woman that makes money and has her own you know, habits or whatever, it's gonna be harder to get her on my program.
02:54:45.000So um you know, the last thing you want is uh as a guy is to like have to deal with bullshit at home with your girl when the world already gives you a bunch of bullshit.
02:54:55.000Especially for a black man, it's like double that too.
02:54:58.000But don't if you have like an understanding of like if your girl doesn't know that, like how doesn't know what like she doesn't comprehend like what you got going on outside in the world and all the stress you have and all that shit that have seen and really like is she even there as as a woman.
02:55:16.000How could she really understand you to like cater to your needs?
02:55:20.000Like well, that's why you tell her what she needs to do.
02:55:23.000Because unfortunately a lot of men don't know how to do that.
02:55:29.000Like that's What I always say, like just give me instructions and yeah, I think that's that's that's their job.
02:55:34.000But I I think also um you know you need to be able to give those instructions to someone that's like willing to learn.
02:55:39.000Like the the thing I've realized is like with older women is like they just are more stuck in their ways and they're less likely to um conform.
02:55:48.000There's women out there, you know, maybe maybe you might conform to a guy if you really like him or whatever.
02:55:51.000I'm not saying you can't conform, but I just know that the likelihood of a girl conforming that's 21 versus a girl that's 31, the girl that's 21 has a way higher likelihood of conforming to what you want.
02:56:00.000And I think as a guy, um, it's your job to program your girl the way that you want.
02:56:04.000Because and and this might sound fucked up, but the reason why I say that is because I think the way society programs women is destructive.
02:56:11.000I think the way we tell women to behave, the way we tell women to do things, um, it's inherently destructive.
02:56:16.000We tell women that their opinion matters, feminism is great, get a bag, independent, fuck men, you're independent, do what you want, go party, live your life.
02:56:24.000I think all of these things that we tell women to do are actually very counterproductive to their long-term girl, which should be getting a family and having children.
02:56:37.000So, like, you know, a girl be 18, 19 years old, we'll tell her, Oh, yeah, travel, have your fun, like sow your oats, right?
02:56:43.000Go out and meet your the guys that you like, like live life.
02:56:46.000But by the time she's done with that, she's 26 years old, you know, she's I I mean, I don't want to say she's been ran through, but she's had certain experiences that might disqualify her from being a good girlfriend in the future.
02:57:37.000Um, because the reason why is because unfortunately, right?
02:57:40.000The higher a woman's body count, the more negative experience she's had with men, and then like what ends up happening is um she starts to build a resentment and a dislike and a disdain towards men, which is fair because you see a lot of perverts and shit.
02:57:59.000There's something about like a girl like seeing the perverse side of men that makes them like start to really dislike or have contempt towards men.
02:58:13.000And every girl I deal with always uses me for money.
02:58:16.000They all they do is use take my money out of my wallet.
02:58:19.000I find I always have to trick on them to get girls, whatever.
02:58:21.000I'm gonna have a dislike and a contempt for women because they always use me financially.
02:58:25.000That's precisely how women feel when guys only use them for sex or look at them as a sexual object.
02:58:30.000They start to have like this resentment towards men, and rightfully so.
02:58:32.000Like guys are just using you for sex, they're perverted, they're weirdos.
02:58:35.000You're seeing the dark side of males, right?
02:58:37.000So I think from a female perspective, if you're involved in sex work, whether it's only fan pornography, escorting, whatever, you're seeing the deep, dark, perverted side of men, you're not seeing the good side.
02:58:46.000And uh, you know, a lot of them rightfully so have resentment towards men, but that's fucked up because then you carry that into your relationship with other men.
02:58:53.000You have a disdain and you can't really trust them.
02:58:55.000Even if you even if you meet a nice guy, you'd be like, you won't try you're like, what the fuck?
03:00:03.000But there's no way you're gonna get this guy and he's not and he's gonna be faithful to just you.
03:00:08.000Because you do understand that like once you get with a guy that's attractive like that, he has more options realistically speaking than you do.
03:00:15.000Like, sure, you got dudes in your DMs and shit, but like how many of them are really viable candidates?
03:00:56.00018-year-old woman, 18-year-old guy, 18-year-old woman has way more value.
03:01:00.000I would say 30-year-old man, 30-year-old woman, now they have equal value.
03:01:03.000As a woman goes past 30, her value decreases as demands increases.
03:01:07.000So if you find a guy your age or 40 years old, he's gonna have more sexual market value than you, unfortunately, because a woman's sexual market value is perishable because as you guys age, you lose value.
03:01:17.000Like, and you can make more money and become successful, that's great.
03:04:19.000Yeah, like very, you know, but the thing is is that girls always complicate it, and like they think like we care about careers and all this other stuff, and it's like you know, I and I I always find because like you guys think we want what you guys want.
03:06:15.000I mean, it's not so you personally, you wouldn't like to have your girl like where y'all just because you do like when you are married, you go to trips, you spend time together, you spend holidays together, all that shit.
03:06:29.000So you you wouldn't get like you wouldn't like to have like conversations, like deep conversations with your significant other, like reach different levels of life on lock new shit.
03:06:59.000So when you go on trips with your girl, like you're spending all this time, you're not gonna get bored with just like basic ass life, day-to-day conversations.
03:07:07.000Well, I mean you can talk with her and shit like that, but like what what I'm saying is that like we don't okay, you guys look to us for competence and leadership.
03:07:14.000We don't look to you guys for competence leadership.
03:07:16.000Like, I'm not talking to you hoping that you're gonna be able to solve world's problem the world's problems, right?
03:07:21.000But you're talking to me a lot of the times to learn from me and solve problems.
03:07:25.000So when we engage with each other, we have different um expectations.
03:07:30.000When I talk to girls, I treat you guys like children.
03:07:32.000I don't expect anything intelligent to be said, I don't expect anything profound to be said, and I'm okay with that because I don't hold women to the same burden as men.
03:07:39.000But you guys hold us a certain burden where you guys want a deep conversation, you guys want to feel like you're with a guy who understands stuff, but for us it doesn't really matter.
03:07:46.000And I would argue if you're you know, looking at your girl for wisdom, like you fucked up, man.
03:07:52.000So if you have a like a hobby, like chess, like anything.
03:07:55.000If you have hobbies and if you have like hobbies or interests or likes or whatever, and you your girl, like the girl you choose isn't like can't grasp it and like learn whatever you're trying to teach because it's like beyond her whatever capacity.
03:08:14.000You're not gonna be like annoyed and be like, damn, I wish I had a bitch I could play chess with or watch like whatever.
03:08:44.000Now I get it, you guys probably entrepreneurs maybe made your own money, etc.
03:08:47.000But there's certain opportunities and things that were allowed for you guys as women that you guys don't even know that I will never get to experience and or get the benefit from.
03:08:56.000Like, I'm not taking away from what you guys have done.
03:08:58.000But what I'm saying is that as a man, living life is significantly harder than living as a woman.
03:09:03.000Now, since a man's life is way harder than a woman's life, we don't look to you guys for that we don't like look to you guys for the same um we don't defer to your guys' authority because and I'm just being honest, this is how most men think, by the way.
03:09:35.000There's a phrase where the less you talk the more attractive you are.
03:09:37.000And and and this is you know, whether it's Arab culture, Hispanic culture, like all these different cultures all prefer women to be quiet and submissive.
03:10:12.000Yeah, but your guy friends, they they die off as time goes by, they they move, like people betray you, business, all this shit gets in the way.
03:10:19.000And of course you always have guy friends, but successful guys typically have a good network.
03:10:23.000Of course, you golf with them, trust me.
03:10:41.000And I'm not saying you guys are stupid just because you're women, but it's just that you guys just don't understand uh life from male experience.
03:10:48.000But we cause some of us some girls don't give a fuck, which is true.
03:10:50.000But some of us are here to actually nurture the man.
03:10:52.000It's just about yeah, but you can nurture, but that doesn't mean you'll have empathy.
03:11:49.000You don't have to understand us, like we just come to you and be like, oh yeah, we want to date, and then you guys think, oh, okay, I'm good enough.
03:11:55.000So there isn't this burden of performance on women to actually like understand and get better with men.
03:12:01.000Because it's like men come to y'all, so why would you bother with learning men and trying to be a better, you know, catch for them a lot of times, unless you get like a good boyfriend that like coached you.
03:12:10.000But I women don't have empathy because they don't have to.
03:12:14.000Well, I think to each their own and everything.
03:12:16.000I think they should have life, whatever.
03:12:27.000I mean, it's your first uh she's good.
03:12:29.000I'm just I know that not every girl's nice, but you can't just talk about it.
03:12:33.000I don't think I don't think like when he was saying like, oh, women shouldn't talk as much.
03:12:38.000I don't know if he was thinking it like I'm a man and a woman shouldn't talk.
03:12:42.000Because I do feel like I do feel like most people in general should I think freedom of speech don't need to go to everybody.
03:12:48.000And I also think like when women speak, it's not it's not because you're a woman you shouldn't speak.
03:12:54.000Sometimes women do say stuff that are either unnecessary or they fuck around and keep talking and then you find out dirty facts really fast.
03:13:03.000Like it's just for your own safety, shut the hell up.
03:13:07.000don't self-snitch on yourself just be quiet 90% of the time shut up alright we're good Uh oh yeah, Boston, you haven't don't have anything else to say?