On this episode of the Fresh Fit Podcast, we have our first guest on the show, Maria and Kayla. We talk about what it's like to be a Colombian-American living in Miami, Florida. We also talk about our trip to Columbia, Columbia, Colombia, and how we feel about it. We are back on all of the social media platforms, so be sure to check us out on YouTube, Twitch, and other platforms as well! Thanks for listening to the FreshFit Podcast and stay tuned for more episodes coming soon! If you like what you hear, please HIT SUBSCRIBE and leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts, and also hit us up on Insta and tell us what you thought of the episode! Have a great day everyone! Cheers, Cheers! -Jon Sorrentino and Cheers to the FUTURE of the Podcast, FreshFit! Timestamps: 1:00 - What are you waiting for? 2:30 - What do you want to hear from us next? 3:15 - How long have you been in a relationship? 4:00 5:00- What is your relationship status? 6:30- How long has your relationship been with your significant other been with someone else? 7:20 - Who do you have a job? 8:30 9:15- What kind of relationship do you date? 10:00 Is your body count? 11:40 - Do you work for work? 15: What are your weight? 16:20- What's your relationship type? 17: How long are you single? 18:00 + 16:00 What do they work for you? 19:00 Do you like your bodycount? 21:00 How long do you like them? 22:00 Have you ever been dating? 23:00 Are you in a significant other? 25:00 Can you have an ex? 26:00 Should you date someone? 27:00 Does your ex have a boyfriend or fiancee have a crush? 28:30 Is your boyfriend or partner? 29:00 Would you like to have a baby? 30:00 Who would you date your ex be a good friend? 31:00 I m a girl? 32:00 My boyfriend? 35:00 Why Women Deserve Less?
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00:05:31.000So, okay, Kayla 25, Detroit, secretary slash model, writer, high school, highest education level completed, and then you're in a polyamorous relationship.
00:28:38.000You don't ask, you know, but there's so many, like, for me, every guy that I have met is like, we have problems because they think I'm not, I don't know how to respect and I feel like it's ridiculous.
00:29:32.000Unreasonable expectation that you think men have of women?
00:29:35.000That we have to be bubbly all the time.
00:29:38.000If you want me to do all this other stuff, that's your boundary if we're in this relationship and you've set that boundary, cool, because I expect you to follow the boundaries I've set.
00:29:48.000But I'm a real person with real emotions.
00:29:51.000I can't expect you to be happy 100% of the time.
00:29:54.000So don't expect me to be 100% happy all the time.
00:29:57.000I'm not going to be like, oh, well, we're going through this terrible time.
00:30:00.000Let's just pick ourselves off and dust ourselves.
00:31:23.000I would say piggyback off upkeeping appearances because, like, we all have our ups and downs, and I feel like when women go through downs, they really, like, go through that shit, like...
00:31:34.000You know, like they don't want to get out of bed, clean their hair, makeup, all that stuff.
00:31:39.000So I just feel like, you know, a lot of people fall out of love with their partner when they don't see them as how like they were first attracted to them.
00:32:47.000I'm just saying, making a point, like, don't step out on your relationship and expect that person to not do the exact same thing that you just did, and it won't, you know?
00:33:36.000I feel like men tend to dish out what they can't take back.
00:33:41.000And I'm not just saying, like, people were talking about cheating earlier, but I'm not just saying in cheating, just in, like, little stuff in general.
00:34:32.000Do I feel like, here's the thing, right?
00:34:34.000A majority of women respect the majority of men.
00:34:37.000The women that I'm around respect men.
00:34:41.000Okay, women in general, but not just your friends.
00:34:44.000Okay, but what I'm saying is like, here's the thing, right?
00:34:46.000So like based on my experience, like from the people around me, for the most part, they respect men.
00:34:50.000However, the stories I hear from what I see online, from whatever, you know what I'm saying?
00:34:55.000I know that there's some disrespectful ass women, right?
00:34:59.000I was telling my boyfriend today a situation where I felt like I was wronged by some girls or whatever, right?
00:35:10.000And I was like, man, now I kind of understand how guys feel when you do a whole bunch of stuff for a woman and then you don't do one thing right and then they just be like, fuck everything.
00:35:44.000I feel like it depends on the age range.
00:35:47.000Because when you're in college with social media, you're gonna like absorb that like, you know, like, if I name artists, I'll say city girls or like, you know, I'm trying to say, you're listening to me, like this type of music at every party, you're singing it out loud, like words stick in people's heads.
00:36:01.000So it's just like, but once you get out that mindset, you like actually like, experience the real world working a nine to five, like, you know, I'm trying to say, Yeah.
00:36:10.000So who do you think is more unreasonable in standards on opposite gender?
00:36:12.000Men are unreasonable on females or females unreasonable on males?
00:36:30.000And the reason why I say it's equal is because, like, men...
00:36:32.000I feel like men kind of have, like, hard standards and they don't really shift too far from their standards, right?
00:36:39.000But women, like, if we like you enough or you have enough money or, you know what I mean, our standards be going all over the place, you know what I mean?
00:40:28.000Yeah, because if you haven't found that man, or if the man doesn't provide for you, you still got to provide for yourself.
00:40:34.000But whatever happens in life, until you find that man, you have to be your own provider, and you have to deal with your issues, with your changes, with your hormonal things, with having to take care of yourself later on to have a baby and stuff like that.
00:40:49.000We're more delicate, so we have to take care extra.
00:45:54.000So anyway, going back to what I was saying as far as like the women living life easier because you're saying that it's harder to be a woman than a man.
00:48:03.000What I'm trying to say is, if you're 18 years old, right, and I give you a million dollars, and by 30 years old, you're poor, it's your fault.
00:49:10.000Have it a little harder than women because at any point in time my entire life I could get support from somebody like I could call my mom I could call all these women around me to huddle up and like help me like hey I'm going through a mental health crisis right now I need you come right now I could get 15 people to come with me right now to help me but even though like yes I did have my value at 18 It took me until just now to realize,
00:49:44.00018-year-old me, 17-year-old me, 20-year-old me was just like, this is an ugly, stupid woman who is just trying to figure out everything in the world.
00:52:15.000And women are not normally making the first step.
00:52:18.000Like, if she sees an attractive man, she will not make the first step.
00:52:21.000But what I'm trying to say is that men have to do everything from the beginning, and men have to do most of the work when it comes to relationships.
00:53:49.000A lot of guys, you know, a lot of guys watch your podcast, too.
00:53:52.000You think a guy's gonna go on a date with you and be like, oh, you major in, like, a computer, uh, you go to Tulsa and you major in computer information systems, I'm not gonna date you anymore.
00:54:00.000I mean, definitely not, but like, okay, y'all be talking about looks and stuff, but that's for like the first or like the second date.
00:54:07.000After that, it's like, what do you do?
00:55:05.000First interaction with somebody, you're not gonna just pay for them just because.
00:55:08.000And I don't, I don't, and here's the thing, I think that it's, I think it's ridiculous for men, for women to expect men to just be like, you know, basically funding your whole life.
00:56:23.000Y'all be thinking women are so horrible, and some of us actually like the people that we date, and some of us don't just be dating willy-nilly.
00:56:40.000Part of the reason why you love him is because of his ambition, his drive, and his ability to potentially provide security for you long-term, which is why you're with him.
00:56:46.000If you lost his job, you lost his ambition, you wouldn't be with him.
00:56:49.000And there's nothing wrong with admitting that.
00:56:51.000But women need to be able to wake up and smell the coffee and realize, yo, men and women are different.
00:56:57.000They want men that do better than them in every regard because women want to be able to work electively and leave their job if they need be and have a guy that can take care of them.
00:57:06.000But if I lined up 100 girls and asked them, would you prefer for your man to be a provider and then you can stay at home and kind of work when you feel like it?
00:57:25.000In reference to what you just said about, oh, if he had lost all his money or his ability to provide for me, I wouldn't be with him, right?
00:57:33.000So let's say you were the bad bitch, right?
00:59:13.000I just feel like at the end of the day, if you're going to be with someone that only provides for you financially, it's going to be unhealthy for you at the end of the day.
00:59:19.000And you're going to end up getting sick of him.
00:59:21.000We're not saying only, but it's a very important thing that women look at when they date men.
00:59:26.000And it's funny because women will sit there and lie and say, oh, money isn't everything.
00:59:30.000Oh, what was a damn good down payment, though?
00:59:32.000It's very important how much a man earns and his status and his ability to provide security.
00:59:37.000Some girls might not put it as important, but other women do.
00:59:42.000So we tell guys you got to make your money because women aren't going to sit there and provide for you long term.
01:00:48.000I'm saying if the energy with you are, like, compatible, like, you guys can, like, work through things.
01:00:53.000But, like, if you are, like, just with me because you're making a lot of money and then I have to, like, I'm not completely sure about you and then at the end of the day, like, there's going to be problems about it.
01:01:04.000I'm not saying money is everything, but I am saying that it's important.
01:05:02.000Somebody else said that a man's life is easier than a woman's.
01:05:06.000I think a man's life is easier than a woman's, just in terms of free will.
01:05:10.000I feel like when the gender roles and the gender norms, I feel like there's a lot more pressure and standards put on women in terms of women.
01:05:22.000Such as, let's say, how you act, how you dress, how you talk to people, how you're supposed to carry yourself so you won't be perceived as something, you know?
01:07:47.000The reality is, I've always said privilege is invisible to those that have it, and women, you guys might not like me saying this, I think women live life on easy mode, especially in 2023, and the reason why is because women are able to have all the same rights and equal treatment as men while simultaneously still being able to get chivalry,
01:09:11.000A minority of men fall in that category.
01:09:14.000And then on top of that, an average-looking girl has more pull than top-tier guys.
01:09:18.000If you take an average girl's Instagram, she's going to have way more DMs, way more opportunities, way more situations set up for her than even a top-tier guy.
01:09:53.000Like, I'm just saying, like, if y'all literally, literally created everything, because, I mean, I've watched your podcast before, and we talk about, like, y'all created everything, including this privilege that you now get mad at us for.
01:10:04.000I'm not mad about it, I'm just stating it.
01:11:08.000Because if I started yelling in here, you would tell me to get out.
01:11:14.000But I'm saying if I start yelling in here, y'all are going to tell me to get out.
01:11:17.000I'm saying things in a very concise, matter-of-fact manner that you might not like because it's unflattering to female nature and intersexual dynamics, but it does not discount the fact that I'm telling you the truth of how things are.
01:11:30.000You might not like the tone or the way that I'm saying it, but I'm saying it in a very, matter-of-fact, concise, calm manner.
01:11:35.000You just don't like it because I'm just telling you what it is.
01:11:37.000I actually have no problem with what you're saying.
01:11:39.000I'm just trying to understand how you feel about the situation.
01:12:14.000Now you can go ahead and get angry about what I'm about to say right now.
01:12:17.000This is what I mean when I say women lack critical thinking skills.
01:12:19.000If I say something in a matter-of-fact way that pisses them off or makes them feel a certain way, they immediately come in with some type of interpretation that was not said whatsoever.
01:12:27.000We never said any of these things that you're claiming, but it made you feel a certain way, so that's what you had to say.
01:12:32.000But the reality is we never said any of these negative things that we're saying.
01:12:34.000We just said it in a matter-of-fact way that you don't like, and you're more concerned with the tone versus what we said.
01:12:39.000This is what I mean when I say women are more concerned with how things are said versus what is said.
01:13:30.000You've said a bunch of things that had nothing to do with what we spoke about, but it made you feel a certain way, so you had to go ahead and say it.
01:18:59.000I think that sometimes, like, the facts are out of touch with what's actually going on because there's a lot of women who will be stupid, will be retarded behind a man.
01:19:45.000Maybe he gave you some type of feeling.
01:19:47.000Regardless, the guy had to perform something to give the dick in the first place.
01:19:52.000But women tend to forget all these things because you guys live on easy mode and the man is doing all the work.
01:19:56.000So you're sitting there picking and choosing, but you don't understand what it took for that man to be attractive in the first place to just give the dick.
01:20:02.000Is it hard for you to just, like, go to a woman and talk to them?
01:20:19.000Oh, he was called blah, blah, blah, it's a fact!
01:20:20.000You understand that for the man to create the vibe, that's a fucking skill.
01:20:24.000He's got to be able to come in, talk to you in a certain way, speak to a tonality, make you feel comfortable without necessarily being too nice, but at the same time, he's got to have some type of allure to have you where you're interested without getting bored, etc.
01:20:56.000But I have to sit there, spin the dough a certain way, put a certain room temperature, use a certain water.
01:21:00.000I have to do all these different things to make the ingredients taste good.
01:21:03.000You guys just enjoy the end fucking product, but you don't know how the pizza is made.
01:21:06.000Men have to be the pizza makers and put it in a certain way so that you enjoy it.
01:21:22.000If this doesn't prove what I've been saying forever, that women live life on easy mode and live in a privileged position where they're just able to enjoy the pizza without necessarily understanding how the pizza's made, I don't know what else does.
01:21:32.000You guys are over here saying, he just gives good dick as if it's easy for him to just give good dick.
01:21:35.000He's got to do a bunch of certain things.
01:22:09.000Because you don't ask the fish, you ask the fishermen.
01:22:12.000Because a girl is only going to be able to tell you maybe what she's attracted to, but she's not going to be able to tell you what other girls are attracted to.
01:22:18.000If a man is good with women, he's going to tell you, okay, you want to deal with salmon?
01:22:22.000This is the lure that's used for salmon.
01:22:26.000Like, a guy that's good with women can tell you how to deal with different types of women because different types of women have different interests.
01:22:31.000Hobbies, whatever it may be, or different types of men they're looking for.
01:22:33.000But women are very limited in what they're attracted to, and they can only tell you what works for them.
01:22:38.000But they might not be able to tell you other women.
01:22:39.000And then on top of that, y'all don't know what it takes to actually attract and arouse a woman.
01:23:35.000If I go out on a date with a chick and she's bisexual, we split the bill, it's going to be a problem.
01:23:40.000In other words, men have to perform differently and a lot of the times more than a woman does as bisexual.
01:23:45.000Women will tolerate mediocrity from a female, but they will not tolerate mediocrity from a man.
01:23:50.000I don't know who's been raising these women you're talking to, but I've been told that you don't go out anywhere without your full share of the money.
01:23:59.000You don't do these certain things without being able to provide for yourself and protect yourself.
01:24:04.000Yeah, but women still expect you to foot the bill.
01:24:06.000That depends on the woman you're dating.
01:24:08.000A majority of women will have a big issue if you split the bill with them.
01:27:33.000I feel like talking in the messages is different from talking in person.
01:27:37.000But again, with scale, let's say you find a guy in the UK that actually likes you, that's your type.
01:27:43.000You never find them in person here in Miami.
01:27:45.000Randomly, you might, but to be real, you might find them online only.
01:27:48.000So, to be like, I can ask you first, you talk online, leave me a person, then it's real.
01:27:52.000And the avenue you just mentioned was social media.
01:27:54.000Who does social media give the advantage to, males or females?
01:27:58.000Social media caters more than females.
01:28:00.000In the retrospective, if you're getting a lot of DMs as a woman, because you're more exposure on Instagram rather than having a connection in person, I feel like I usually go for people I meet in person rather than on Instagram.
01:28:15.000Because people can look different in person and stuff like that.
01:56:21.000Ladies, a comfortable, high-status profile job where you get to travel all over the world $60,000 a year, or cleaning sewage five days a week, making $250,000 a year,
02:04:47.000But when you need a massage and all that, we'll be doing it.
02:04:53.000Everyone, a deep tissue massage, I prefer a dude, because he's gonna be able to, you know, fucking actually, if you're an athlete, you know what I mean.
02:08:35.000We'll catch you guys on Monday with some lovely ladies and we're gonna have a money Monday for y'all probably travel credit cards yeah so we'll catch you guys 6 p.m.