On this episode of the Fresh Shift Podcast, we discuss 9/11, the Deep state, and the deep state. After our session, we are joined by a bunch of lovely ladies to talk about it all. We also discuss why women deserve less than men and why they deserve a better life than they have now. I also talk about my new book, Why Women Deserve Less, and why I think women deserve to be treated better than they are now. I hope you enjoy this episode and stay tuned for Part 2 of this series soon! Thank you so much for being a part of this community and supporting this podcast. We can't wait to do more like this and keep you guys coming back for more episodes! If you like what you hear here, please HIT SUBSCRIBE and become a supporter of the podcast and/or leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and other Podcasting Platforms. We are always looking for new guests to come on the show and give us their opinions and thoughts on what you think of the content we are putting out. Thank you for listening and supporting the podcast! . - Aaron C. Parkson I appreciate you guys. -Aaron C. P.S. I'm not a Christian. I don't drink alcohol, I don t drink alcohol. I just don't need to drink alcohol to be able to be a good friend of the show! - I'm sorry if you don't have a good time, but it's just not enough to enjoy the show, but I'm going to listen to the music you're not good enough to drink enough of it's good enough, but that's not enough? - Thank you to you can listen to it? Aaron Cinco -Cinco, I'll be back next week! I'll see you next week... - Mario, Mario, Thank you, Mario and I'll get back to you soon... Thanks for listening to the podcast, -Kris :D - -Josie -YEAH! -JOSIE - JOSIE CINCOYNNE -JOSH -JORDY -JACOB -JODY - JODY JORDY CHEESE - JOSH - JACO - JUICY - DEREK - JAMES CIN COYNN
00:13:47.000So guys, just so you guys know, it's Friday, which means we are going to go ahead and field the questions that you guys have for the podcast.
00:17:07.000Why the hell have you been listening to them?
00:17:09.000How is that going to help us to get better?
00:17:12.000And then, you know, through more conversations trying to, you know, work through our relationship, we decided to make those those shifts in dynamic.
00:17:20.000And then I started listening to the podcast and it's actually been helpful to me, too.
00:17:23.000So I'm kind of here because it's been a huge help for conversation for us.
00:17:28.000So, you know, that's a it's a huge win.
00:21:14.000And guys, y'all could be as negative as you want.
00:21:15.000I'm not going to attack you like, oh, fuck you!
00:21:17.000Like, it's just very interesting to me to kind of get girls' perspectives before the show.
00:21:22.000And then what I'm going to do, actually, after this is if you guys had a question off of any of the clips you might have seen or what you've been told, we'll go with that first.
00:21:29.000And then we'll go ahead and hit the supporter questions.
00:22:21.000Um, yeah, I had seen definitely some of like the whole academics thing whenever it was going on and all of that, you know, the shade or not just the whole ordeal.
00:22:29.000But aside from that, um, or your thoughts when you saw those clips, you know what?
00:22:35.000I never really can, like, make my own opinion on something that I didn't watch the full, like, podcast of, you know what I mean?
00:22:41.000So I couldn't really judge anybody based on anything.
00:22:44.000It just felt like some of the women really just get too emotional sometimes with some things that, you know, you've got men have to say and, like, we just don't know how to communicate properly sometimes or something.
00:22:56.000But aside from that, no, I mean, I haven't really heard anything negative, just the whole controversial stuff, which, you know, good and bad.
00:23:06.000If you guys had any questions or disagreements or anything you might have heard or seen or any topic of discussion that you guys want before I turn it over to the chat.
00:23:52.000So what ends up happening and I've noticed this with men.
00:23:56.000With men, you have to be painfully blunt and honest about where they stand in life, and you have to kind of give them a stark reminder as to where they stand in life for them to actually pay attention.
00:24:05.000So, for example, I've noticed when I communicate with men to get them to self-improve and actually take action, you got to tell them, you're a fat piece of shit, you're a loser, no girl wants to fuck with you, etc.
00:24:13.000And you have to hit that pain point really hard because men are extremely stubborn.
00:24:17.000I'm sure all of you ladies have probably dealt with that at some point with a male counterpart.
00:25:28.000We could start right here with Miss Singer.
00:25:31.000What advice would you give to a girl who just got fresh into the dating scene?
00:25:36.000You know, I don't think I would be the best one to give somebody advice that's fresh into the dating scene.
00:25:42.000So I honestly, I don't think I could conjure up anything that would just like, I think I could say something like, you know, as long as you know what you want, you know, and like you and another person can be on the same page and be, you know, mutual or whatever the case may be, then do your thing as long as it feels good.
00:26:57.000Honestly, I feel like in order to find someone or your dream guy, you have to go through those experiences with other men to know what you like and what you dislike about the guy, if that makes sense.
00:27:13.000Do you think a woman hurts her chances of finding a guy once she gets more experience?
00:28:15.000I mean, to summarize it, basically you're saying experience as much as you can, have options, so you have, I guess, a foundation to base opinions off of on men.
00:28:41.000I think that you definitely need to love yourself and you need to see the value in yourself and the right guy will be attracted to you for that.
00:28:54.000So love yourself and see value, and then a guy is going to come along and be like, damn, you really love yourself!
00:28:59.000No, it's just like guys aren't going to value you or respect you or think that you bring things to the table unless you believe that too.
00:29:08.000And whoever's not meant for you isn't going to interrupt your own process.
00:29:12.000It'll just work out better if you're not looking, to be honest.
00:29:42.000A lot of options doesn't necessarily mean a good thing.
00:29:47.000Question for you, you said mirror what you want.
00:29:50.000So should a girl, let's say she wants a guy that has his shit together and wears a suit to work every day, should she wear a suit to work every day too?
00:29:57.000No, but I mean, if she doesn't want a guy that's, you know, getting sloppy drunk every day or on the weekend, you know what I mean?
00:30:05.000Like, you can't be doing those things.
00:30:06.000Okay, so mirror certain behaviors, I guess.
00:30:14.000I mean, not to every single extent, but I mean, if you want a certain quality in somebody, but you don't necessarily have that quality, you can't really expect them to want to be with you either.
00:30:26.000Well, how about if she's like a really feminine girl and she just wants a guy that's very masculine and dominant?
00:30:30.000Wouldn't it be fair to say that that's the opposite, though?
00:30:46.000We're gonna bring different things into the relationship, but you should have an idea of what you're looking for in contrast of what you bring into the relationship, whether it's material or as a value of who you are as a person.
00:31:00.000So it would be the way that you would find your dream person is by also working on yourself and being a contrast to that person.
00:31:06.000Would you say that your current man is your dream guy?
00:37:27.000Jared Choi goes, would you date a 9-6 conservative man who loves guns and gym culture or a liberal man who marches with you about deleting Fetty on a Tuesday afternoon that hates guns but loves body positivity?
00:41:21.000Well, I'm not necessarily religious, but I think it's important to have faith in something, so I would say God, work, career, and then husband and kids.
00:41:36.000I think next would definitely be husband and kids.
00:41:39.000And I'd put my career last because I've realized, you know, if you don't have the love from your family and you're not good for your family and stuff, the work and everything else, it really just doesn't even matter.
00:44:02.000I ate like a bunch of shrooms and I didn't believe in anything and then I had so many shrooms and then I found God and I changed my whole life.
00:44:10.000I just find it funny that like girls will put in their bio like a bible verse Ephesians blah blah blah whatever whatever and then kind of find out they're at the club twerking and going crazy and I just wonder like how many of them actually follow the tenements of that religion and it's funny because none of you probably do.
00:44:27.000But it's fine because, I mean, it's like a buzzword.
00:51:24.000Ultimately, at that point, if he hasn't committed to you in terms of, for example, putting a ring on it, it's probably because he's seen things where he's like, you know what?
00:54:20.000Like I said, I never thought about getting married, so I wasn't really thinking that deep.
00:54:25.000I don't really care for the whole huge wedding, like...
00:54:29.000Even if we just got married in the courthouse, even if it was a small proposal, it's not going to be something where I feel like, even if it was a small ring, I'm not going to feel like any kind of way about it.
00:54:39.000Yeah, it's easy for you guys to feel comfortable about it because women don't take risk when they get married.
00:54:49.000Because 80% of divorces are initiated by women and 90% of alimony is paid from men to women and child custody always goes to women 90% plus of the time.
00:54:58.000So men typically a lot of times end up getting destroyed by a divorce.
00:55:01.000Very rarely do women feel the wrath of divorce.
00:55:03.000I mean, I feel like we still have a lot to lose.
00:55:27.000And, you know, I feel like if a guy is for you, every day, every time he's giving you the time and everything, you guys don't need to get married.
00:55:37.000Because a guy, if he wants to be with you, he will be with you.
00:56:22.000So, that's how I expected it to be meeting him because, like I said, I never thought about getting married originally until I was with him.
00:56:32.000So I felt like, okay, this has to be the person I want to be with if that's how I'm feeling.
00:57:00.000Well, just so you know, getting married won't make things any more exciting because, once again, if you are not satisfied just being with him right now, a paper you signing with him is not going to change anything at all.
00:57:11.000So I would just say, most women want to get married.
00:58:22.000Yeah, so I could have been in love with the person at the moment, but if that person is no longer treating me well just because we're married, I have to say, no.
00:59:07.000I can go up and leave at any time, which is true, which is why it's not smart for guys to get married in the West, because you're incentivized to leave because you get money and resources by leaving.
00:59:17.000But a man can leave me too in a marriage.
00:59:41.000But the way child support is calculated is based off of income.
00:59:44.000And a lot of times, if the guy makes a lot of money, the girl's going to get, let's be honest here, an undue amount of money for that child.
00:59:51.000And she's also going to get alimony, which, let's be honest here, a lot of women don't use that money all for the kids.
00:59:55.000They use it for their own personal choices.
01:00:06.000Matter of fact, I have my own money to where I don't know if I would want to get married because quite frankly, I don't want to split money.
01:00:13.000So now what are you arguing at this point for?
01:00:15.000I'm just saying like, I feel like you're saying that it's so risky for men.
01:00:18.000But see, in my case, if I got married, I would say it's risky for me though.
01:00:23.000But that doesn't mean that my case doesn't exist.
01:00:26.000But it's an exception to the rule, and quite frankly, statistically insignificant.
01:00:29.000The majority of men that get married to women are the breadwinners, okay?
01:00:33.000And since they're the breadwinners, they're the ones that get penalized for being in a divorce, and then they're the ones that have to pay the money.
01:00:39.000Just because, here's the thing, you say, I have my own money.
01:01:00.000I think at the end of the day, all girls, yeah, they ideally want to be taken care of, but I don't think that you should say it's riskier to marry if you're a man.
01:01:09.000I feel like it's so risky when you're a woman.
01:02:26.000So if she makes 100 grand per year, but she marries a guy that makes 200 grand per year, that guy is so responsible for paying her some level of money to make her lifestyle to where it was before, where they were making 300k combined.
01:03:37.000If women had the same risks in marriage that men did, y'all would not be fantasizing about walking down an aisle in a white dress.
01:03:43.000But the reason why women love marriage so much is, number one, it provides security, and then number two, it's the unspoken thing that even if it doesn't work out, you can go ahead and still get benefits from that marriage after the fact.
01:03:53.000And there's minimal consequences in a lot of cases.
01:04:25.000Yo, first and foremost, man, I need y'all to like the video, subscribe to the channel if you haven't already because I'm already losing hair.
01:05:29.000Um, man, I feel like it could definitely go both ways.
01:05:33.000But I feel like if you don't feel like good about yourself and take care of yourself, then you're not going to be able to be what other people need you to be or, you know, how they need you to be or whatever as far as that.
01:05:44.000But also at the same time, I could say like...
01:05:48.000It matters how they feel about you more because they're the ones bringing you...
01:07:33.000I'd say like obviously both but when you're thinking from the perspective of self like you're kind of it's just gonna be selfish and if it was like about your husband and kids how they feel about you right yeah like your husbands and kids should be able to like how they feel about you should be like an accurate reflection of who you are so I would almost say them Let me ask you a question real quick.
01:07:58.000Who do you think is more selfish in a relationship, men or women?
01:09:58.000I mean, it's kind of built into your guys' biology that you always want the best and brightest, and you want the best man that you can get.
01:10:03.000If the guy is constantly supplicating to you and constantly, you know, walking on eggshells to make you happy all the time, well, by his actions alone, that demonstrates that he's a lower-value male than yourself.
01:10:12.000And women need to be with a man who's superior to them.
01:10:14.000So in other words, women are only satisfied when they're chasing the man, not the other way around.
01:10:18.000Because when a woman is chasing the man, that tells her in her hindbrain, this guy's better than me.
01:11:41.000So, this is a learning curve from my experience.
01:11:44.000Yeah, I mean, that's why I talk about in the book, why women deserve less, is that if you pedestalize a woman, she has no choice but to look down on you because you're pedestalizing her.
01:12:02.000Yeah, he was saying that you were making the argument.
01:12:04.000He's saying that you were making the argument for happy wife and happy life.
01:12:06.000Initially, I was making the argument against it, but then I'm correcting myself as we're having the conversation due to my experience with...
01:12:14.000Because I'm talking from both experience.
01:12:16.000My previous experience when my relationship felt from that mindset...
01:12:19.000And then adjusting to this mindset where, you know, I do have to be the one that follows and he leads.
01:12:26.000And that's been a complete dynamics shift for me.
01:12:30.000I don't want to sound like an asshole, but the reality is that when you pedestalize women, they treat you poorly.
01:12:35.000We can't have leverage in a relationship because if they have leverage like you had before, what do you do?
01:12:40.000You break up with him because you're like, this guy's a pussy.
01:12:45.000So what I tell guys is you need to be the leader in the relationship and she needs to like you more than you like her.
01:12:50.000And I would argue more than likely a relationship was rekindled because he started to have a more...
01:12:55.000I come first before you and take it or leave it attitude.
01:12:58.000Women only respect men that can replace them.
01:13:00.000So that's why the whole happy wife, happy life mantra is bullshit and doesn't work because I don't want to sound like an asshole, but women don't know how to behave when they're in a leadership role.
01:13:08.000They become terrible people when they have leverage in relationships.
01:13:11.000Yeah, and I would even agree that some of our friends said that too.
01:13:14.000They see the behavior in myself or in him and they say that it's like a completely different relationship.
01:13:19.000But those were the beliefs that I had before.
01:15:50.000But most of the time, because we can't understand men's feelings, and at least that's for me.
01:15:55.000You know, like she was saying, like, oh, like I'm only talking about my feelings, but whenever you come up to me and you talk about your feelings, I can't really understand it.
01:16:09.000Men repress their feelings so much sometimes and they're like, they don't really talk about it sometimes that when they do, we just call it kind of bullshit, I guess.
01:16:21.000Wouldn't it be fair to say that if I wanted to have sex with girls, I kind of have to figure out what turns girls on because girls are never going to admit to me, like pull my hair and tell me I'm a slut.
01:16:29.000So I had to go ahead and take the active step to figure it out, right?
01:16:32.000Why can't women take the active step and figure it out on the male side?
01:16:35.000I mean, I guess it's just really different point of views.
01:16:37.000I think that men and women are like really different.
01:16:40.000I mean, we didn't answer the question.
01:16:43.000Why is it that men should go ahead and figure out what women want and just get it versus women have the ability to not have to get it and just say kind of what you said, like, oh, yeah, they don't open up on their feelings.
01:17:48.000That's even harder to understand and be able to connect with you on an emotional level and women change their emotions every two minutes.
01:17:56.000So that doesn't help that makes it harder for men to understand.
01:17:59.000A woman can understand more than a man because don't you remember when a woman or a girlfriend told you like, oh, I saw you in my dream with a girl, you know, things like that.
01:18:36.000We expect men to read our minds, but then, like, we never step back and think, like, dang, like, We're not giving them any leverage or any type of hints to allow them to know what we want.
01:19:09.000I just think that when you're in a relationship, at least this happened to me, you know, because I will talk about my feelings and I'll be like, listen, like, this bothers me and that bothers me, you know?
01:19:18.000But when he would tell me, I wouldn't see, like, a big deal.
01:19:20.000I wouldn't understand why that upset him so much.
01:20:59.000Nigga, I don't know what you're talking about.
01:21:00.000No, she's saying what if she was sleeping and all of a sudden she had a dream and she's like, oh shit, I saw you had a dream about me, about her man cheating on her.
01:23:14.000Seymour Butts goes, ladies, if I provide the house, car, money, kids, safety, and good family values as a man, why can't you provide monogamy, subservience, and submissiveness?
01:23:31.000Let me go ahead and go through that real quick.
01:23:33.000And I'll do this with a raise of hands to keep it simple.
01:23:35.000So ladies, if a man provided a house, car, money, kids, and safety, good family values, etc., would you guys be okay with being monogamous to him and he be able to get some strange on the side?
01:23:47.000Raise your hands if you guys would allow that.
01:23:49.000He's taking care of you, but he fucks a bitch from time to time.
01:26:00.000Alright, Marvello Mable goes, let's play a game, the country game, but have the ladies name one country from the four big continents, America, Asia, Africa, and Europe, bro.
01:32:06.000And I think it's the same thing, too, that what we were talking about earlier, almost about, like, when men even, they're not really allowed to talk about their feelings.
01:34:18.000It's definitely not pushed mainstream.
01:34:23.000If it's brought up, it's brought up in a negative light versus if Cardi B says, my pussy wet as fuck, blah, blah, blah, it gets on the playboard.
01:34:51.000Cardi B made that one song and everyone was talking about it and everyone was either judging her or, you know, like, But you're missing the point.
01:34:58.000The argument is that women can get away with being masculine versus men can't necessarily get away with being feminine.
01:37:01.000And just, I guess, so we can qualify what it is.
01:37:03.000A high-value guy is a guy that, you know, has the money on point, has social status, has respect from his peers, has a network of individuals, in shape to a degree, competent, has a lot of life accomplishments.
01:37:15.000Obviously, this is like the top 1% of man.
01:37:27.000I feel like I deserve one because I... Well, I definitely try to practice high-value woman qualities, I guess.
01:37:35.000What about high-value female qualities?
01:37:36.000Maybe possibly being able to communicate, maybe to differentiate between something being personal and something just being something in general, in a general sense.
01:38:07.000What qualifies you for a high-value man?
01:38:09.000Well, I think you are definitely, you are who you're surrounding yourself with, you know?
01:38:16.000And so, I think that, like, when you respect yourself and, like, when you have goals for yourself and, like, you know what you want to do, I think, I don't know.
01:40:32.000I would say that someone that is going to be with a high-value man needs to also make that man's life easier, in a sense, and be of value to that man.
01:40:48.000I don't know, in a sense of also being a submissive woman, but also playing the gender roles and just holding to the standard of whatever it is that he cannot do and add.
01:42:10.000Yeah, obviously, how do you think the baby got there?
01:42:13.000I'm like hearing everybody, I should have kept my hand down.
01:42:15.000So just so I get this straight, the man that we're talking about is in the top 1%, makes six figures, respected by people, has competence, fit to a degree, confidence, etc.
01:43:25.000What women do that doesn't make things work.
01:43:29.000They don't try to figure out what that guy actually wants.
01:43:34.000That's the biggest thing because, once again, if you personalize your care and consideration towards that man, then you're going to automatically do what he wants in his life, which makes you what?
01:43:49.000These are good traits, but if you want to get a guy in the top 1%, Y'all are literally providing the same exact thing to the girl next to you.
01:43:55.000That should probably be what should already be provided.
01:43:57.000Which is why I ask, what would be, not necessarily the correct answer, but what would be what the man is looking for that would differentiate the woman?
01:44:05.000The fact that you have to ask shows that you don't deserve a 1% guy.
01:44:07.000Well, I'm asking because I'm talking to two men that are asking us this question.
01:44:12.000So as a woman, I'm asking you for your perspective, not because I don't know.
01:44:16.000I'll answer it, but I'm saying the point is that women don't know which is the problem.
01:44:21.000See, men have to understand women to get women, but women don't have to understand men to get men.
01:45:26.000That they deserve an above average man.
01:45:28.000And the reality is a lot of y'all don't.
01:45:30.000Like, you know, a guy that's 5'7 making 37, 40k per year, he's probably going to be a fantastic and good husband, but a lot of women would never give him a chance.
01:45:40.000Like, average women no longer think, yeah, white women deserve less, haha.
01:45:43.000I think more girls need to get their dating standards on par with where they actually stand.
01:45:49.000You know, only in 2023 in the United States do we have women that are very average saying, I deserve a top tier guy in the top 1%.
01:45:56.000Well, are you prepared to deal with the problems that come with that?
01:45:58.000Are you prepared to have him fuck other girls?
01:46:00.000Are you prepared to only see him once a week?
01:46:02.000If that, if you're lucky, are you prepared for him to not be around and give you as much attention as you want?
01:46:07.000Girls want high value guys, but they don't want to deal with high value problems.
01:46:10.000Because the problem is that a lot of y'all think that you're special and you deserve this guy, but you're not willing to deal with the consequences of being with that guy.
01:46:16.000You have to bust his ass to get to that point.
01:47:05.000I think if she's asking questions or trying to figure out what I need as a man and she's actually putting effort behind that, that goes a long way.
01:47:12.000Versus like, oh, well, this is how I do things from my prior relationships.
01:48:06.000Talks with the women's abilities to see things in an objective manner.
01:48:11.000Women tend to look at things extremely subjectively, which is going to limit your ability to understand things properly from an objective standpoint.
01:48:17.000This is how I feel about the topic versus this is what it is.
01:48:23.000For example, if you look at voting, what do women tend to vote more?
01:56:21.000If you tell a girl, hey, you're fat, you need to lose weight, she's going to be more concerned with how she felt from you saying that versus actually making a change so that she could feel better.
01:56:29.000That's why we tell women bullshit like love your curves.
01:56:33.000It's very interesting because sometimes like now that I think about it, it's like people like I have even used in my conversations with my partner, like it's not what you say, it's how you say it.
02:06:37.000But he's cute, so, you know, it was a surprise.
02:06:41.000But the question is, when you didn't like the guy, when you went on a date, have you ever been on a date with a guy you had zero intention of hooking up with?
02:08:22.000Let's say you're in a relationship with a guy and you find out in one scenario he fucked another chick and then in another scenario he bought her a $300 purse.
02:14:47.000If most women can't handle the truth and you're saying he loves you more if he lies to you, then why do women initiate breakups with men for lying?
02:16:18.000I think that, I mean, if they're trying to set boundaries and you should be on the same page with them, if you don't agree with that, then that's not, you know, your thing.
02:16:24.000I don't think that a man is trying to be controlling in that.
02:16:26.000I just feel like the things that he's asking you not to do is just what doesn't work for him specifically.
02:16:31.000What are your thoughts on that if a guy tries to pull boundaries on you in a relationship?
02:16:34.000For me, it's a no, because I think if you can't trust me enough for me to go out or just have friends in general or anything like that, then it won't work out.
02:17:40.000So, wouldn't it be fair to say that you could just trust a woman to be a woman, which is emotionally erratic, follow their friends, and their friends, if they're hoes, can lead them to bad situations.
02:17:49.000Then if you add alcohol to that, it'll make it even worse.
02:17:52.000No, because I think if you actually want to be with someone and actually love someone, no matter how much alcohol, no matter how much someone is pressing you or telling you to do something, you're not going to do it.
02:18:02.000Okay, how would you feel if your boyfriend, right, was invited to go to a club where hundreds of women are going to approach him, offer him free alcohol, offer him trips, offer him money, offer him the opportunity to have sex without any type of consequences,
02:19:11.000So would you let your boyfriend go to the club knowing that there's going to be girls that are hotter than you, that want to fuck him, going to give him alcohol, show him a good time, and they're just better mates than you in general?
02:19:20.000And there's hundreds of them talking to him.
02:19:22.000If we're seriously committed and, like, I trust that person, I honestly wouldn't mind that much.
02:19:27.000Because I know that maybe they're hotter, maybe this and that, but I don't know.
02:19:32.000I mean, maybe I'm saying this right now, but if I was in a situation, it would be different.
02:19:38.000Women don't invest as much in relationships as men do.
02:19:41.000That's easy for you to say now, but men are typically the ones that are paying for the relationship, they're protecting, they're providing for you, etc.
02:19:46.000So it's easy for you to say that from a female perspective, but I would say women need boundaries, 100%.
02:19:51.000Because since women have more opportunities, you need to control those opportunities to a degree.
02:21:11.000If somebody doesn't give me boundaries and doesn't lay down ground rules or doesn't care about certain things, that bothers me more than not having it.
02:21:22.000I actually have those boundaries in my relationship and I respect him more for it.
02:22:22.000I've always said that I think men need to protect women from themselves because if you let a girl just do what she wants, she's going to do dumb ho shit and fuck the relationship up.
02:22:29.000And the reason for that, before everyone calls me a misogynist or a sexist, the reason I say that is because we live in a society nowadays that encourages women to be hoes and get out there and experience guys.
02:22:39.000And like she was saying earlier, no offense to your thing before.
02:22:42.000We encourage women to go out there, date a bunch of guys, be promiscuous, live their life and all this other shit.
02:22:46.000But what we don't tell them is that there's consequences to living your life.
02:22:51.000Yeah, I just think because if your man has standards or boundaries for himself and you respect him, you're going to want to follow him because you care about that man.
02:23:00.000But if you don't care about that man, you can do whatever you want.
02:23:02.000Because he's firm and he gives you the security to lead.
02:23:13.000And then we got here, Austin Michael goes, ladies, if you were with a man for three years and had a child with him, would you be offended if he asked for a DNA test to ensure the child is his?
02:23:21.000Or should he address this concern from the beginning of the relationship?
02:23:23.000All right, let's say you had a kid with a guy.
02:23:25.000Would you guys be offended if he asked for a DNA test?
02:23:26.000Raise your hands if it would be yes, you'd be offended.
02:25:02.000What he's basically saying is that if you stay single for long, you're going to have to probably get female roommates because the price of living is going up.
02:25:13.000Ladies, if a man could have any superhero, do you think he'd choose invisibility, super strength, or the ability to read minds?
02:27:52.000I don't want to be an asshole, but this is why you can't really listen to women on what they say they're attracted to, because what they say they're attracted to versus what they're actually aroused by, two different things.
02:28:00.000The thing is, when it's actually him being super controlling in a toxic way, that's kind of different.
02:31:22.000Like, for example, if he tells me, hey, stay home because, you know, you should not be going out to this party because something's gonna happen.
02:44:52.000I would say that it just opens the conversation.
02:44:56.000I feel like a lot of people are starting to hear men's side now, which is good.
02:45:04.000And it's actually, you know, I actually applaud you guys for what you guys are doing because it has helped my relationship.
02:45:10.000And I know it's helped a lot of men and women.
02:45:14.000You know, clearly there was some issues with, you know, at least for me and my perspective, in the way that I was thinking and the way that I thought was right and was empowering.
02:46:03.000You said that you kind of had an idea.
02:46:06.000You had your relationship, and then it kind of went sour.
02:46:10.000Then he watched the podcast, kind of changed course, ended up working.
02:46:13.000Would it be fair to say that before watching this podcast, there wasn't information out there like that as far as women being ladies and men being men?
02:46:22.000I mean, I had a lot of podcasts that I could listen to that would empower me to be the boss, to be the leader.
02:46:31.000And I was listening to those podcasts.
02:46:34.000And so we even had conversations where he's telling me, hey, this is the podcast that I'm listening to.
02:46:38.000And I'm like, the podcast that I'm listening to tells me that I need to do what I want to make my money.
02:46:44.000And that started sparking conversations.
02:46:47.000Men don't have a lot of those conversations.
02:46:48.000Do you think listening to those, I'm assuming they're probably like feminist-type podcasts that are telling you to empower yourself, make money, become successful, become the man that you basically want.
02:50:43.000I came on, like, literally, like, a year ago, and my mindset was a lot different then, so now I'll be, like, watching you guys, and I'll be, like, telling my brother, like, oh, yeah, I'm on...
02:51:03.000Point is, my mindset changed a lot, so I really agree, and I'll be telling people, like, oh, you know, like, I agree with this and this, and they're very, like, they just see everything as bad with this show, but there really is some truth.
02:51:15.000It's just the hard truth, and people don't really like the truth, especially women.
02:51:18.000What was the thing you took away the most from the show before, or now, I guess?
02:51:22.000I mean, I'm not going to say that the show is why my mindset changed.
02:52:59.000But no, I was really saying, for real, anybody that was a girl starting to date or anything, or even my daughters, it's like, no, no, no, whatever people are telling you around you, save that shit.
02:53:25.000It's interesting because when I started doing all this, I had told my dad before I even started because he was going to find out the way my family works and everything.
02:53:35.000And he was like, probably, I mean, he never cried in front of me, but the poor guy, like, I know he was crying about this for, like, a year, and our relationship was really bad, but that didn't stop me.
02:53:44.000Like, even then, I was like, I don't see it's a big deal!
02:53:50.000Because now I feel like, even why I wouldn't, like, have as much casual sex as before, because I just feel like there's nothing liberating about sharing, like, the most vulnerable parts about myself with someone, like...
02:54:45.000I mean, money, like, I think it's just like selling your soul because you're just doing anything for money and, like, I had to reflect and think what I was doing and be like, okay, like, no.
02:54:53.000That doesn't align with the person that I am.
02:56:12.000Why do you objectify themselves and their bodies for attention yet get mad when people actually objectify you and see that you have nothing else to offer than when that's all you promote?
02:56:25.000I don't think the girls here on this panel objectify themselves like that.