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00:08:37.000As you guys know, that is our home base.
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00:25:02.000And then I put a pole up in my room and I got really good at it and I opened up a pole studio and I became a badass person that travels all over the world and teaches girls pole.
00:25:44.000I mean, that was like a long time ago, so I don't know, you know.
00:25:48.000So you did maybe around 30, 36 hours, and then your family found out, they shamed you, and you said, all right, I'm done, and then you decided to teach them.
00:27:06.000I call her after my breakup and I was like, I've been wanting to come to Florida where I've been seeing, you know, before I even saw her, this has been on my bucket list for like five years, I wanted to bring my company here.
00:27:17.000But I saw my sister take the leave and leave everybody behind and just come.
00:27:21.000My boyfriend broke my heart and I packed up a suitcase and I moved here.
00:27:25.000Okay, what is one thing he did wrong and then one thing you did wrong in the relationship in your opinion?
00:28:32.000He actually has an interview where he speaks about that.
00:28:35.000And he says how Ike came into Tina's life and she was singing in a church and he elevated her and gave her a name so much that when they went to have a divorce, at the end of it, all she wanted was that name that he gave her.
00:28:48.000And he felt like he wanted to do that with a woman.
00:33:17.000So you have your highest education, obviously you went to law school, and yeah, so you're a JD. What kind of law do you practice specifically?
00:33:28.000So currently I do business immigration.
00:34:13.000Okay, so you basically do a combination where you're helping people get work visas to come here and also foreign entrepreneurs to start businesses here.
00:41:50.000What do they think about your tarot reading?
00:41:53.000Well, honestly, I feel that there's a stereotype surrounding Asian parents, and you know how they're strict, or they want you to be a doctor or lawyer.
00:42:02.000But my parents are actually very open-minded, in my opinion, and honestly they do support whatever creative ideas or projects.
00:43:27.000Are your parents Christian, Catholic, Buddhist?
00:43:29.000My parents are actually not religious at all.
00:43:35.000You didn't go to church or anything growing up?
00:43:37.000I was kind of sent to church because they had to work and people who babysat us were religious, so we would follow them to church, Christianity.
00:46:33.000I don't like people like that who are generally inconsistent.
00:46:36.000What I mean by that is, let's say people are like, oh yeah, let's do it, that's the plan, we're doing it for sure.
00:46:42.000I take it really seriously, and then once it's time to go, then they're like, oh, I'm not actually doing it, or I can't, or let's reschedule.
00:46:49.000I'm really punctual, so it's important for me that plans are consistent.
00:47:44.000Well, if they cut you off, if they're just so self-centered into their own thing, like, just not present in the moment and just, you know, I don't know if it makes sense.
00:48:07.000Well, yeah, like being disrespectful, being rude, or just not present in the conversation.
00:48:12.000Because if you're saying how you can meet someone toxic immediately, it's because it's like the first impression of them and it's the first moment.
00:48:31.000Yeah, because I would argue if they're interjecting in what you're saying, they're very present because they know what you're about to say or they're, like, not interested.
00:48:37.000So they're, like, moving it to something else.
00:48:39.000And just, like, their body language, like, you can tell when someone's, like, more toxic.
00:49:10.000Yeah, like, I went into the, I don't drink, and I got out the car to go into the store, and I left my phone to play music, and he went through it.
00:49:19.000And when I got out, he told me, when I came back in the car, he told me that he went through it.
00:49:23.000And to me, that was a red flag because that was like our entire relationship.
00:49:26.000Like, there were multiple times that that happened.
00:49:30.000You said this was the first date this happened?
00:51:41.000I felt like he had a reason because of who he was and maybe he thought like, let me make sure she's not trying to do a drop before I take her to my house.
00:51:49.000So I'm thinking maybe he's looking at my phone to make sure I'm not staring at a location or doing some weird stuff with my homegirls because of who he was.
00:52:08.000So I kind of just gave it to him like, okay, maybe he's like that weird kind of guy who, like we were just talking about, like who thinks they're somebody and, and you know, so I'm, I gave, maybe it was that, but to me that's insecure.
00:52:18.000If he was an average guy without the fame, would you let that slide?
00:52:50.000We know how it feels to have a jealous guy.
00:52:52.000And you see that in the beginning, and it just progressively gets worse.
00:52:55.000Just out of curiosity, who agrees with her that insecurity is a toxic trait and them pulling you out of clubs and stuff like that is a problem?
00:53:30.000Definitely inconsistency is the biggest thing that popped out for me like ghosting or just definitely inconsistency just it doesn't make sense.
00:53:42.000Could you define what ghosting is and an example of it?
00:53:47.000Someone who's there one day and then not there the next day, you know?
00:54:06.000I pay attention to how fast somebody, not necessarily does something for me, but if I ask you for something small, I want to see a sense of urgency, if that makes sense.
00:54:18.000So if they don't move with a sense of urgency for this thing, it's a red flag for you?
00:54:22.000Not even for a specific thing, but it could be something like, oh, can you go grab this?
00:54:30.000But it's like, sense of urgency is like big to me.
00:54:33.000Like, if you don't have a sense of urgency about what I'm asking you for, if it's a thing or like something that I need done, I don't like that.
00:55:07.000Basically, every female that deals with somebody wants to be a priority.
00:55:10.000Who do you think, okay, and I guess that's, I guess my next question is, like, from male and female dynamic, who do you think needs to be the one that's, like, more in charge?
00:55:59.000If they're supposed to lead, then can you really dictate the urgency at which a request is made if they're the ones that are leading?
00:56:06.000Oh, that's a good question, but you still can.
00:56:09.000Because if they value you to a certain amount, or a certain state, not a mouse, excuse me, but they value you to a certain extent, right, they would have a sense of urgency when you ask them for something.
00:56:20.000So that puts you in the authority chair then?
00:56:20.000Still put you on priority, still have you on that pedestal.
00:56:22.000So that means that you're put in the authority position then?
00:57:17.000What I was going to say was, as a woman, our priority is to also pay the bills and also cook and also raise the children and also we can take out the trash and we can change a diaper.
00:59:18.000You quite literally said, move with a sense of urgency when I request something, which does translate to do this, nigga, now, do this, nigga.
00:59:27.000If I'm somewhere and I tell you, okay, come pick me up or something and my car is not around, I expect you to get there as fast as you can.
00:59:34.000I don't expect you to prioritize and do other things before coming to get there.
01:00:33.000So when would I know I need to stop to please you?
01:00:35.000When it's getting to the point where it's overwhelming or something like that.
01:00:39.000But if I'm not overwhelming you, if I'm bringing you peace, and I'm asking you for small things out of whatever your daily tasks are or whatever, it doesn't matter.
01:01:30.000Yeah, I wanted to address how you view that and saying that I demand or she demands or a woman demands you to stop everything.
01:01:39.000If my man calls me right now, if I was in a relationship, if I'm dating him or you, and I'm having lunch with my homegirls, this is how inconvenienced you guys can be sometimes.
01:04:56.000Sometimes some females are, like, you know, I'm not saying they necessarily are the only breadwinners or something like that, but sometimes Ben do deal with breadwinners.
01:07:43.000I've interviewed almost 4,000 girls on this show now, and it's incredible to me, whether where they're from, education level, background, status, it doesn't matter.
01:07:51.000Women have a very difficult time making concrete answers and standing on something, and they're not sure.
01:07:57.000And I've noticed, as you guys are trying to make an answer, you guys are looking around at each other.
01:08:15.000In general, the theme is typically women have an issue with standing on a certain viewpoint and there's a bunch of biological reasons for that.
01:08:24.000But this literally proves right now, hey, do you think authorities are reciprocal between the two?
01:09:11.000It's not what you But piggybacking on what he's talking about, this young man here saying that proves his point of how women are followers.
01:09:20.000You gotta choose your words wisely because that's a broad statement.
01:10:25.000Let's talk about Michelle Obama who helped President Obama become president.
01:10:29.000I don't know if y'all read her book but she talks about how Obama was in a restaurant that her ex-boyfriend owned and he looked at her and said, if you didn't marry me, you would have been the owner's wife.
01:10:39.000She said, if I didn't marry you, you wouldn't have been a president of the United States.
01:10:42.000You gotta know the type of woman you're dealing with.
01:15:50.000Now, I want you to tell me, societally, why do you not want to answer that question?
01:15:54.000Not you personally, but like, why do women have an issue answering that question?
01:15:57.000Because that's not like a question that, like, it's not no shame in what I have going on, but it's like, that's not a question I would ask.
01:16:05.000Would it be fair to say that people would judge you and that's fucked up and it's a fucked up reality?
01:16:08.000No, I don't think y'all would judge me for what I would tell y'all.
01:16:10.000I mean, in general, people would judge.
01:17:57.000But the point I'm trying to make is that men lead revolutions and men don't need the same societal protection that women do.
01:18:04.000Women must acquiesce to social norms and social standards because they understand Holy shit!
01:18:10.000Me, being a whore, will hurt my ability to find a man and get taken seriously and get resources from said man.
01:18:16.000You gotta remember that feminism, this whole thing about being a boss and making your own money, it's a relatively new thing in the past eight years.
01:19:13.000The point I'm trying to make is that they were able to use that tool of shame, and in your case, financial restriction, to get you in line.
01:19:38.000How did this get into us being wanted to be accepted by society if we were asking relationship questions?
01:19:42.000Because when I asked you guys to give your opinion on this topic, a lot of you were reluctant to raise your hands and actually stand on an opinion because it comes back to what I've said.
01:19:53.000Women in general are high-minded and they want to be accepted by society and they're less likely to voice out their views or stand on something.
01:20:14.000Is authority reciprocal between the two parties?
01:20:17.000And does the man have the same amount of authority to tell the man to do what he's got to do and the woman to tell the guy what he's got to do?
01:20:23.000And I don't think there's a yes or no answer to that.
01:20:37.000And a matter of fact, hold on, hold on, because you were arguing on their behalf, trying to clarify, and then I asked a question, and you couldn't even raise your hand fully up.
01:20:43.000Because I also see the other side of it.
01:24:25.000How about if I told you the only reason you accepted that from him is because he had social proof, he was a rapper, he had some people behind him, he had some money, he had some status, so therefore, he was able to do certain things that other men can't do.
01:24:33.000He didn't have money, he didn't have status, he didn't have people behind him.
01:33:54.000Like for example, let's say they're going to, I don't know, a game, and he just says, we're going, I don't care what you're doing, just come.
01:36:07.000You know, it's interesting because everything you guys, and I'm going to reveal this later, but everything you guys have said that you want is actually counterproductive to being attractive.
01:36:17.000Everything that you guys say that you want during the course of this podcast, you know, egalitarianism, equal rights between the two, authority both sides, a man being insecure, being bad, all of these things that you guys are saying, it's actually like counterproductive for a man to be attractive.
01:36:42.000I did some research on social psychology in my class.
01:36:45.000The majority of FBA or ghetto black girls have the lowest acceptance rate, nothing new, in the dating market due to their masculine personality.
01:36:52.000That girl in the middle is a perfect example, and her level of narcissism is palpable.
01:36:55.000It is understandable that most black athletes prefer a feminist submissive woman, not black.
01:36:59.000I see why I only date Asian and Latin women who are none.
01:37:26.000Because every single woman in her 20s has a little bit of door to explore because they love going out and charming a new and better Cobras.
01:40:00.000Ladies do realize that these musicians say things because they know that women are going to buy it hook, line, and sinker even though they don't agree with it or believe in it.
01:40:12.000She literally admitted that marketers market to women more because women are consumers and women are more likely to buy.
01:40:18.000So if I know that my target demographic is easier to sell to if I say certain things, wouldn't it make sense to behoove me to say those things to make sales?
01:40:27.000That's why Meg went on with the Kamala.
01:40:50.000Would it be fair to say that during this same time we've pushed out music that is extremely feminine and emotional and one of the leaders of this was someone like Drake.
01:41:02.000I'm in my feelings and all this other shit.
01:43:16.000If you met a man who had his life more together than anyone you've ever known, someone you didn't teach a thing to, but could make you better in every way, your health, your money, your thinking, would you submit and follow his lead, or would you still try to lead him?
01:48:51.000A woman's looks does get them some sort of access to certain things and I'm not gonna lie and say men don't have their own privileges, but in that way...
01:50:28.000Why do you think women have more privilege?
01:50:30.000I just feel like sometimes it's easier for us to get stuff like naturally without really trying just kind of like piggybacking on like what she was saying like as a female like sometimes it's just easier all right you know why do you think it's women have more privilege Me?
01:51:36.000But I feel like, honestly, women, they have it easier because we can, there's other ways that we can get, like, what we need as far as, like, we can just be nice to somebody and we can get something.
01:51:47.000Guys, you guys have to get a career, get a job, like, Have nice shoes.
01:51:50.000Yes, you have to have nice shoes for somebody to want to deal with you, you know, like stuff like that as far as like image and stuff like that.
01:52:24.000She has a different outlook because she comes from an Eastern European world where they don't, like, you know, they kind of acknowledge gender differences there more realistically.
01:52:33.000So I can see why she came up with that answer.
01:52:35.000But we're talking about the United States.
01:53:14.000So, for the second one, I do believe that, especially like you mentioned, in a more male-dominated field or where these, I guess, traditional views of men and women do exist...
01:53:28.000Women are not taken seriously than men are, and I feel that that is a privilege that men do have.
01:53:35.000Okay, so your two things that you think men have experienced privileges, one, feeling safer, and then two, being taken seriously in the workforce.
01:53:45.000Okay, the first one is wrong because men are overwhelmingly the victims of violent crime, not women, it's men.
01:53:50.000Like where you're like 10 times more likely as a man to be the victim of violent crime versus a woman.
01:53:55.000And then the second thing you mentioned about being taken seriously.
01:53:59.000All right, you can make that argument, but I would argue that women get more opportunities at least so they can at least be taken seriously.
01:54:06.000So you can go ahead and get into certain rooms that I can't because you're a woman, and then you at least get the opportunity to prove yourself that you're not a bimbo.
01:54:14.000But whereas the man doesn't even get the opportunity.
01:54:15.000So yes, you might not be taken seriously in the beginning.
01:54:18.000They're like, oh yeah, she's probably just a hot piece of ass.
01:55:24.000But a lot of the times women tend to think that their feelings do represent reality.
01:55:29.000So just because you feel, I feel unsafe, statistically speaking, you're far less likely to be assaulted than I would be walking down the same dark street that you're worried about, statistically speaking.
01:55:49.000I feel that also with femininity or like masculine feminine energy, feminine represents emotions, intuition, feeling.
01:55:58.000So I feel that intuition is associated with feeling and that in a lot of situations can keep you safe.
01:56:06.000I mean that's cool but like what does that have to do with like I would say that that you just made my argument stronger by saying that women have more privileges.
01:56:17.000The goal here is you're supposed to show how men have more privilege.
01:56:20.000There are two things that men have a privilege that women don't.
01:56:22.000I'm saying those two things you mentioned aren't true.
01:56:28.000Because the two arguments you gave was women aren't as safe, because you don't feel that safe, but I'm saying that it's not true, because men are more likely to be assaulted physically, victims of violence.
01:56:38.000The second one is being taken seriously, but I'm making an argument that you at least get the opportunity to be taken seriously.
01:56:46.000I just feel that the only reason that a man would feel unsafe is against another man.
01:56:52.000So I do feel that it's more privilege for a man to feel safe because it's only against their own gender, whereas a woman does have to worry about a man because of the physical,
01:58:05.000Emotional intelligence is when you're able to utilize your self-regulation as skills by understanding your emotions and allowing that to help you understand the world around you and people around you.
01:58:19.000Would it be fair to say that that boils down to interpreting the world through your feelings?
01:59:02.000She does like fried chicken, so you'd be feeling right.
01:59:04.000But the reality is that your feelings are not, like, how you feel versus what's real are two different things is what I'm trying to explain.
02:00:38.000Anyway, so with the whole thing about a woman being behind a man, look, I understand that a woman can come in and accentuate a man's success, but I'm under the firm belief, and I think we have evidence to kind of show this nowadays especially,
02:00:55.000women don't really build, they move in.
02:00:58.000And what I mean by that is, the man has to be in his position where he's established, where the girl is even going to give him a chance.
02:01:03.000Or, at least beyond the trajectory, to be established.
02:02:39.000Because had the man not been in a certain position or have a certain level of ambition or not have a certain stature, he would have never gotten the woman in the first place.
02:02:47.000The woman was just intelligent enough to understand that he was on the path to success and she's like, I'm going to jump on this because I can help accentuate this.
02:04:10.000So you're trying to tell me right now, and if I dated you and you came into the store, this is outside of the podcast, I just saw you coming to Publix.
02:05:14.000Like, I would date a poor, I would date a regular working guy who worked in fucking Target that was nice to me, who came home every night, who respected my family.
02:05:58.000And most girls will learn that the hard way.
02:06:01.000I learned the hard way, but I'm only pointing that out to say I dated someone when I was making six figures and they were making $35,000 a year.
02:06:23.000You gotta understand that when we speak in generalities, it might or might not reflect what's going on with you, but it does not refute the fact that it's still true.
02:06:33.000So when I made the comment that women don't build, they move in, what I mean by that is a majority of women would prefer to not build a man up.
02:06:41.000They'd rather kind of either get on a guy that's on his way up or already is up and then accentuate that.
02:07:39.000Now, going back to the whole thing because you asked me about my money or whatever, I think it's important to note that With men, we have many metrics of what we can be attractive by.
02:10:30.000And the whole privilege thing, does anyone else have anything that where a man, I guess, has more privilege than a woman, or you guys think he does?
02:12:36.000And you guys admitted that it's harder for men, and it's easier for women.
02:12:39.000So, if it's easier for you guys, why should a man listen to you?
02:12:45.000I feel that masculine energy and feminine energy differs because you lead with your heart or you lead with your head.
02:12:53.000And both parties have to be able to rely to take the lead and be able to make that decision on following someone.
02:13:04.000What's more important, making a decision by the heart or the head?
02:13:09.000Who makes a more rationally and logically sound decision?
02:13:11.000Someone that makes a decision with their heart or someone that makes a decision with their head?
02:13:15.000I'm not gonna say one is better than the other and the reason for that is if you live life only leading with your head you will never truly be able to see what you truly enjoy in life and whenever you lead with your head it's more Yes,
02:13:35.000Masculine energy is decisiveness, being sure and secure, providing, whereas feminine is more receptive and nurturing, compassionate, intuitive.
02:13:45.000So I do feel that those are both equally important in my opinion.
02:13:48.000Yeah, but who needs to be the leader knowing that the stark difference is between the two?
02:15:39.000I'm going to go ahead and predict what's going to happen.
02:15:42.000You guys are going to get out of college and you guys are probably going to move in together or you guys are going to live separately.
02:15:46.000If he doesn't assert masculine dominance over you to some degree where he becomes a leader and a provider and a protector, you're going to look otherwise for another man.
02:15:54.000Because this only works when you're in college and you have the social confinement of protection, living in your dorm, having a job where it doesn't really matter how much money you make and you have the security of that.
02:16:02.000But once you get out into the real world and you're no longer in college and that there's real consequence of not being financially adept, You're gonna go ahead and either, A, raise your masculinity and be unbearable to him, or B, he's gonna have to step up and become the leader.
02:16:17.000It works when in college, like, you can both be broke and be like, yeah, we're so happy together.
02:16:20.000But once you get out into the world, I promise you, if he does not step up and actually become a man and tell you what the fuck is going on, you're gonna leave him.
02:16:27.000But I can provide for myself as well, and I can provide for him.
02:20:10.000In order for you to get married, which is what I think most women typically want, is to be in a secure, long-term relationship, which, you know, pretty much ends up in marriage.
02:20:19.000A man has to get down on one knee and give you the relationship.
02:22:04.000Because you can go get sex anytime you want.
02:22:06.000So you think when a relationship ends in a marriage, you think that was his wife's fault he chose to leave because he chose the relationship so he also was able to choose to leave?
02:22:14.000She failed, yeah, because a woman that isn't married is like the same as a guy that's like a virgin.
02:25:33.000I mean, I guess I don't know, you know, how guys, I don't know what turns you, you know, as far as porn, I don't know what you get from me.
02:25:38.000The reason why you don't like it and you don't respect is because the man doesn't take any skill or work to whack off the porn, right?
02:26:58.000You missed the entire point of what I was trying to illustrate is that you cannot brag about men wanting to propose to you or be with you if they're not the men that you actually want.
02:27:06.000Just like I can't brag about saying I get bitches when I'm whacking off to new girls every day on porn.
02:27:38.000I know you understand logic because you have to do it on the bar.
02:27:40.000I'm giving a functional equivalent to show that your argument makes zero sense because you try to sit there and say, well, you're not married.
02:29:34.000As intelligent as some of these girls believe they are, somehow they still can't connect the dots as to why they get put in the sex-only category.
02:29:40.000I've never been in the sex-only category.
02:31:34.000I think I can't vote, but if I could, I would probably also vote for Trump because he's being upfront on what he's gonna do and also- A leader.
02:31:41.000I believe he's gonna bring- You see what happened?
02:31:43.000I don't know if you noticed that it's able.
02:33:26.000I made the argument earlier saying that women are communitarian and they're far more likely to go with what other people say and they don't lead revolutions for a reason.
02:36:25.000Like, are there some women that are exceptional?
02:36:27.000Why don't y'all just have an all-man podcast where y'all just sit and talk about women instead of having us on here and to tell us to our face that men are better than everything?
02:40:25.000When a man says he wants to get you pregnant and he doesn't respect you, you guys aren't happily married, you should view that as a threat.
02:40:35.000Toxic men love, love, love, love, love to get you pregnant.
02:40:42.000And they love to make you have multiple babies.
02:40:47.000You gotta understand, a baby for a toxic man is a form of control.
02:40:54.000A baby is an indication to him that he has you on lock for life, at least for the next 18 years.
02:41:05.000They think they can come back whenever they want.
02:41:08.000They think that they're going to delay you and ruin your life with the baby.
02:41:15.000If the man is toxic, I'm telling you that's how he thinks.
02:41:19.000You really have to protect your womb out here if you are dealing with somebody who is toxic and always asking, when you gonna have my baby?