Fresh & Fit - April 23, 2026


How To Navigate Family Court To Protect Your Money And Freedom With Lawyer Hassan Shibly


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00:03:41.000 We are live.
00:03:42.000 What's up, guys?
00:03:42.000 What's the friendship podcast, man?
00:03:43.000 We are here with Hassan.
00:03:44.000 We're going to talk some legal stuff.
00:03:45.000 It's going to be a great discussion.
00:03:46.000 Let's get into it.
00:03:47.000 Let's go.
00:03:47.000 We are
00:04:29.000 live, guys.
00:04:30.000 What's up?
00:04:30.000 Welcome to the Fresh Hair Podcast, man.
00:04:32.000 We got a special guest in the house.
00:04:33.000 As you guys know, we haven't done a day show in a while.
00:04:36.000 Yeah.
00:04:37.000 I've been focusing more on doing the debrief on Myron Gaines X. Fresh has been blowing up his TikTok.
00:04:44.000 Don't worry, guys.
00:04:45.000 We will bring the day shows back eventually.
00:04:47.000 Obviously, when there's special episodes like this or whatever, I think this one is too important to pass up.
00:04:52.000 Yeah. 0.97
00:04:53.000 Because I was, you know, I'm going to expose you guys to one of my secret weapons, actually, with Hassan.
00:05:00.000 And do we have anything else before we introduce the guests?
00:05:04.000 Big show on Friday with some guests.
00:05:06.000 You want to tell them who?
00:05:08.000 Surprise.
00:05:08.000 Okay.
00:05:09.000 And we got after hours today with some girls as well, guys.
00:05:11.000 But we want to get you guys some sauce tonight.
00:05:13.000 We're live everywhere, live on my channel, Fresh of Fit, Rumble, Kick, all the different platforms, because this episode is obviously going to be very important.
00:05:19.000 You know, episodes like this is what literally you can go back to later on and utilize to kind of keep yourself from being in really bad positions.
00:05:26.000 And I want to introduce you guys to a friend of mine, my lawyer as well, Hassan.
00:05:33.000 Welcome to the show, my friend.
00:05:34.000 Thank you, brother.
00:05:34.000 Blessing to be here.
00:05:35.000 Yes, happy to have you.
00:05:38.000 For the people that might not know who you are and what you do, can you please introduce yourself?
00:05:42.000 Yeah, sure.
00:05:43.000 So I actually immigrated to the U.S. when I was four years old.
00:05:46.000 We were American by choice.
00:05:48.000 A lot of times people are born here and they don't realize what a treasure it is to be an American unless you've had the opportunity to live somewhere else where you don't have the freedom and the liberty in the U.S. Constitution.
00:05:57.000 And that, unfortunately, way too many Americans take for granted.
00:06:00.000 So I think sometimes people, if they hear that you're born overseas, they may see you as less than American.
00:06:05.000 But I actually think that makes me more of an American because my dad's an oral surgeon, my mom's a professor of orthodontics.
00:06:10.000 We could have lived anywhere in the world and we chose to immigrate to the U.S. when I was four years old.
00:06:15.000 I grew up in Buffalo, New York.
00:06:16.000 And, you know, when I was young, I always wanted to be an airline pilot until I had a very interesting incident when I was 17 years old.
00:06:23.000 Actually, I remember I could already see the jokes coming.
00:06:25.000 9 11.
00:06:26.000 You must have wanted to be a pilot.
00:06:28.000 What?
00:06:28.000 Bro, actually, literally on 9 11, that morning, I was writing my flight instructor an email to schedule my next flight lesson.
00:06:36.000 Yeah.
00:06:36.000 When I saw the news that I was like, okay, delete.
00:06:39.000 Yeah.
00:06:39.000 You know, it's not happening.
00:06:41.000 You're a crazy joke. 0.99
00:06:42.000 Yeah. 0.96
00:06:42.000 But what happened is when I was just turned 18. 0.96
00:06:46.000 There you go.
00:06:47.000 Stop for the love.
00:06:48.000 Hot on, bro.
00:06:49.000 Hot on.
00:06:49.000 But when I was 18, I was crossing back the border from Canada.
00:06:53.000 I had attended a conference in Canada, and as I was crossing across the border, they told my mom to go in for a random inspection.
00:07:01.000 So I said, My mom said, What do you mean random?
00:07:03.000 I said, Mom, random means they saw your headscarf.
00:07:05.000 You know, she's a Muslim woman, just like the Virgin Mary. 0.80
00:07:07.000 She covers her hair, it's part of our tradition.
00:07:08.000 And I was joking, I think that would be the case, but I was shocked at what I saw.
00:07:12.000 When I walked in the room, there were 40 members of the American Muslim community, all U.S. citizens who were held for six hours, fingerprinted, first.
00:07:22.000 Interrogated, treated like criminals. 0.97
00:07:24.000 And the only offense that we had committed was attending a faith based conference in Canada.
00:07:29.000 And I told the officer, I said, while you're wasting time with this elderly couple and these young kids, and you're interrogating us about our political beliefs, our religious beliefs, real criminals could be making it across the border. 0.77
00:07:38.000 And that's exactly what happened.
00:07:40.000 A man who killed an entire family in Canada made it across the border with the bloody weapons in his car that same night.
00:07:45.000 Oh, wow.
00:07:46.000 That same night.
00:07:47.000 But they weren't, you know, they weren't targeting him.
00:07:50.000 So it made me realize that that kind of anti Muslim hatred on the part of the government.
00:07:56.000 Wasn't hurting the Muslim community.
00:07:58.000 What was hurting was America as a whole. 0.70
00:08:00.000 It was undermining all of our freedom.
00:08:03.000 It was undermining freedom of speech, freedom of religion, freedom of association.
00:08:07.000 The fundamental principles that make America great, what makes America an incredible nation, is our legal system.
00:08:12.000 And that's why when I saw that happen, I realized man, listen, we immigrated from Syria to come to America.
00:08:19.000 We became American by choice.
00:08:20.000 Why?
00:08:21.000 Because America has one thing that you can't find almost anywhere else, and that's the U.S. Constitution and our legal system.
00:08:26.000 It's one of the best in the world.
00:08:27.000 Now, it's still got its issues.
00:08:29.000 And trust me, we'll talk about that, especially talk about family law and all the other crazy things.
00:08:31.000 We're going to cover all the crazy things.
00:08:32.000 We're going to cover all the crazy things.
00:08:34.000 Family law, criminal, literally everything for you guys.
00:08:35.000 And we're going to open it up also for you guys with a QA.
00:08:37.000 And you guys will be able to ask questions.
00:08:39.000 We'll open up the phone lines as well and give you guys a bunch of value on this episode.
00:08:43.000 So, sorry, go ahead.
00:08:45.000 No, absolutely.
00:08:45.000 So, ultimately, what happened is.
00:08:48.000 When I experienced that, I realized, like, man, we can't take our liberty for granted.
00:08:52.000 And now, what we realize is all this fear and hate that was being promoted against the Muslim community was actually heavily Zionist funded to undermine our liberty so that we can't have the impact by being politically engaged because they're afraid of what would happen if the American Muslim community and others speak out about what Israel is doing and the Zionist control that they have over American influence.
00:09:15.000 So, at that age of 18, I decided I wanted to become a civil rights attorney.
00:09:19.000 You know, I wanted to protect the Constitution.
00:09:20.000 I said, We immigrated to America because of the Constitution, and the Constitution is under attack.
00:09:25.000 Who's attacking it?
00:09:26.000 Zionist anti Muslim haters that are trying to demonize the American Muslim community and use that as an excuse to pass laws like the Patriot Act, FISA, other things that give the government greater overreach, greater control, and less civil rights and less civil liberties for all Americans.
00:09:40.000 So I said, We're here for the liberty.
00:09:42.000 I want to commit my life to protect the Constitution.
00:09:45.000 So I ultimately ended up going to law school after studying political science and then.
00:09:50.000 Came down to Florida, became executive director of the largest American Muslim civil rights organizations.
00:09:54.000 But what I was always proud of listen, if you just protect rights for just one particular group, then you're not doing anyone a favor.
00:10:00.000 You have to protect civil rights and justice in the Constitution for everyone.
00:10:03.000 And that's what I made Care Florida about.
00:10:05.000 I made it about protecting the Constitution for everyone.
00:10:08.000 We had white clients, black clients, everyone.
00:10:11.000 We represented police officers.
00:10:12.000 Anybody whose constitutional rights were protected, we stood up for them.
00:10:16.000 And I'm very proud of that.
00:10:17.000 Did that for 10 years, built it into one of the largest civil rights organizations in the country until I went.
00:10:24.000 Through a very personal difficulty and trial and tribulation, which was a blessing.
00:10:28.000 And that's what I want your viewers to understand.
00:10:30.000 Listen, in life, you may face hardships, trials, calamities, loss, but you just have to have absolute conviction that the source of the universe never takes, it only gives.
00:10:39.000 He only gives.
00:10:40.000 So every loss is an opportunity.
00:10:41.000 When you go through a challenge, when you go through a hardship, when you go through adversity, don't fall into hopelessness.
00:10:46.000 Ask yourself, what is the opportunity hidden for me in this?
00:10:49.000 So I had gone for 10 years focusing on protecting Americans from the government.
00:10:55.000 Protecting against FBI overreach.
00:10:57.000 That's what got me into law for it.
00:10:58.000 Exactly.
00:10:59.000 I started with protecting people at the border.
00:11:03.000 If they face unjust searches and seizures at the border, cell phone search, and we could talk about all this.
00:11:07.000 What do you do if you're stopped at the border, if you're talking at the border?
00:11:09.000 But that's what started me fighting government overreach at the border.
00:11:14.000 And then as I started doing this work, then fighting the FBI overreach domestically.
00:11:19.000 Because the FBI, unfortunately, there's a lot of corrupt people within.
00:11:23.000 And we saw that.
00:11:24.000 We saw that.
00:11:25.000 And we saw some of that with January 6th.
00:11:27.000 And I think the interesting thing is before.
00:11:28.000 Before then, a lot on the right were okay with the government targeting the Muslim community, for example.
00:11:33.000 But then, after January 6th, they realized, well, uh oh, maybe the government is out of control.
00:11:38.000 And that's what people got to understand.
00:11:39.000 It's not about the difference of your religion or your race, it's about those in power and those who don't have power.
00:11:45.000 And unfortunately, those in power often can be very corrupt.
00:11:48.000 And we saw that with Epstein and the pedophiles and all sorts of things.
00:11:52.000 I don't want to derail the conversation, but ultimately, for 10 years, I traveled the country raising awareness about FBI overreach and why you should never speak to the FBI without a lawyer.
00:12:02.000 Should never speak to law enforcement without a lawyer.
00:12:06.000 That is protected by the Fifth Amendment of the U.S. Constitution, the right to remain silent, the Sixth Amendment, the right to an attorney.
00:12:12.000 Those laws were put there not to protect the criminals and the crooked.
00:12:16.000 It was put there to protect the innocent people because when innocent people speak to law enforcement without an attorney, innocent people get in trouble.
00:12:23.000 That's why President Trump himself, when he was facing investigations and the FBI wanted to speak with him, he said, I'm not going to speak to you without an attorney.
00:12:29.000 And I've done that for my clients, man.
00:12:31.000 I get clients, you know, they could be medical students, you know, All sorts of different people, and the FA want to talk to them.
00:12:36.000 I call the agent.
00:12:37.000 I'm like, listen.
00:12:38.000 I take my cues from the president.
00:12:40.000 When you guys want to talk to him, he said, not without my lawyer.
00:12:42.000 Also, I cannot advise my client to speak to you guys without an attorney.
00:12:45.000 And if you're doing your job and you're doing it fairly and honestly, you should have no problem with an attorney being involved.
00:12:51.000 So, the focus of my work for 10 years really was protecting people from the border, at the border, and then protecting people from FBI overreach and harassment and false criminal investigations.
00:13:00.000 Also, there's just so many people.
00:13:02.000 I mean, I have some clients that are world renowned that because they have power, status, position, and they use it nobly.
00:13:09.000 But then you have someone who has a vendetta, maybe a personal interest in them, can't get with them.
00:13:14.000 And so they start making false accusations against them.
00:13:16.000 I mean, I have really high profile clients that have been falsely accused of rape and different things.
00:13:19.000 And thank God we were able to clear their names before charges happen.
00:13:24.000 Because if the charges happen, the damage is already done.
00:13:27.000 And the reason we were able to protect them also is because they didn't do the one fatal mistake that can really screw up an innocent person's life.
00:13:34.000 And that is that they didn't speak to law enforcement without a lawyer.
00:13:37.000 You know, it's one of the most dangerous things that you can do.
00:13:41.000 So raising awareness and then representing people that are targeted.
00:13:44.000 Unjustly by the FBI and by the government or facing false criminal investigations.
00:13:48.000 So that was the bulk of my work.
00:13:49.000 It's like crude false sexual allegations, which is a huge one nowadays that's really gotten, the whole Me Too movement has created a monster where lots of guys get falsely accused of this.
00:13:59.000 Bro, it's a tool.
00:14:00.000 It's like a common tool that is used by those trying to gain advantage in litigation.
00:14:07.000 So you got to understand where do a lot of these false allegations come from?
00:14:10.000 It could be often in family court.
00:14:12.000 We could talk about that in more detail and how I can get that right.
00:14:14.000 I got one of your expertise in family court.
00:14:15.000 So, guys, you guys got to have this.
00:14:17.000 This could be a good one, man.
00:14:18.000 Yes, sir.
00:14:18.000 Sorry.
00:14:19.000 What percentage of, I would say, men are falsely accused nowadays?
00:14:24.000 Bro, I mean, I don't, listen, I'm not a data scientist.
00:14:27.000 I don't have the exact data, but it is an insane amount.
00:14:29.000 I can't tell you how many men, I mean, I have a client who caught his wife cheating on him.
00:14:36.000 Oh, in the kitchen with the handyman.
00:14:38.000 Oh, what?
00:14:40.000 And that broke. 0.81
00:14:41.000 Haram! 0.83
00:14:41.000 Haram, there we go. 0.83
00:14:42.000 But that broke his heart.
00:14:45.000 And so what did she do?
00:14:46.000 Now she knows she's in the wrong.
00:14:48.000 So what did she do?
00:14:50.000 Called the police immediately and said, oh, he is going to kill me.
00:14:55.000 And got him arrested on false allegations, filed a restraining order against him as well.
00:15:01.000 I represented him in the restraining order and destroyed it in court.
00:15:04.000 But it just happens.
00:15:05.000 It's a tool that is often used way too frequently.
00:15:08.000 Brother, I myself faced false accusations.
00:15:11.000 And that was the greatest gift because I know what it's like to be on that side and it allowed me to be the best lawyer.
00:15:16.000 And even though, look, my law firm's called Muslim Legal, I obviously look visibly Muslim, but I have clients of every different culture, race, religion, ethnicity, it doesn't matter because ultimately they saw, man, these are lawyers that know what it's like to be targeted.
00:15:29.000 You want to tell them about that story?
00:15:31.000 Yeah, because, and it's interesting because the legal disciplines that you take over, you've experienced this.
00:15:37.000 So for you, you're able to really put yourself in your client's shoes when they're going through that hardship.
00:15:42.000 Because you've been there where, you know, obviously at the border being detained and then having those issues.
00:15:47.000 And then you could tell them your story.
00:15:49.000 Yeah, no, that's, I mean, that's really what makes the best lawyer is not just studying it in the books and not even just doing the cases for others, but being the client, knowing what it's like to be the client.
00:16:00.000 And that's exactly why I end up doing family law.
00:16:03.000 So, Very simply, what happened is I was running one of the largest civil rights organizations for 10 years.
00:16:07.000 And, you know, my ex wife, she unfortunately caught the feminist bug at the time, you know, and her friends would whisper to her and told her, you know, and she would literally say at the time, oh, you know, we'd be millionaires if your dad did real work instead of this nonprofit charity work.
00:16:23.000 Because all the civil rights work I did was basically for nonprofit civil rights, pro bono, living paycheck to paycheck, man, for 10 years.
00:16:29.000 And it's because I loved it, man.
00:16:30.000 I realized the importance of the U.S. Constitution and I realized my children are growing up here defending people for free and all that stuff.
00:16:35.000 Exactly.
00:16:36.000 And I absolutely loved it.
00:16:36.000 Exactly, exactly.
00:16:37.000 It was never about the money for me.
00:16:38.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:16:39.000 And even within my own law firm, I mean, last year I did about half a million in pro bono work.
00:16:44.000 And now I'm starting to cut it back because I realized, like, to fight the fights that we're fighting, we need resources.
00:16:49.000 So now I'm starting to scale back a little bit on that side.
00:16:52.000 But nonetheless, for 10 years doing pro bono work, living paycheck to paycheck, serving the community, challenging the FBI, the FBI called me a thorn in their side.
00:17:00.000 But the same agents who called me a thorn in their side actually gifted me the challenge coin and I had their respect.
00:17:06.000 You know, I was one of the first leaders of the civil rights organization I was in to be invited to the White House.
00:17:10.000 We humiliated CBP.
00:17:12.000 I mean, I can't tell you how many stores I had with CBP, Customs Board Protection.
00:17:15.000 In fact, they used to target me.
00:17:17.000 I remember coming back from a flight and they pulled me in for a random inspection, secondary inspection.
00:17:21.000 We could talk about your rights at the border when the time is right.
00:17:24.000 But then they took me out right away, like to leave.
00:17:26.000 They rushed me out.
00:17:27.000 I said, Aren't you going to ask me any questions?
00:17:29.000 They said, Our records indicate that you don't answer.
00:17:31.000 So we're not going to waste our time.
00:17:33.000 But people don't know their rights and thus they get given and they become complacent and they get hurt more and more.
00:17:37.000 In another instance, I remember coming back from Turkey and they Again, pulled me in for secondary inspection.
00:17:43.000 I went in the room.
00:17:44.000 I saw the table where they search.
00:17:45.000 I'm a little bit rebellious by nature as an attorney, so I sat on the table.
00:17:49.000 I can't sit there.
00:17:49.000 They're like, Put your table, put your bag on the table.
00:17:51.000 Let us search it.
00:17:52.000 I said, You do that.
00:17:53.000 I'm tired.
00:17:54.000 So they put the bag on the table, and then they're like, What were you doing in Turkey?
00:17:58.000 I looked at him in the face.
00:17:59.000 I said, What was I doing in Turkey? 1.00
00:18:00.000 None of your damn business. 0.99
00:18:01.000 That's what I was doing in Turkey. 0.99
00:18:03.000 And he's like, Oh, oh.
00:18:04.000 And I was like, Listen, with all due respect, you're an African American officer, and we see what it's like. 0.57
00:18:09.000 A lot of African Americans complain about driving while black.
00:18:12.000 Here you are giving us the same treatment, flying while Muslim. 0.98
00:18:15.000 Walk around the room. 1.00
00:18:16.000 80 to 90% of us just happen to share the same faith, and you're targeting us.
00:18:20.000 And now, of course, he was very apologetic.
00:18:20.000 We've done nothing wrong.
00:18:22.000 And I raised hell on that to the point where I would live stream from CBP areas, instructing people on their rights.
00:18:28.000 And then just to be antagonistic, I would actually do the call to prayer, Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, loud, just to show them that I'm not scared because historically the community was so scared.
00:18:36.000 And at that point, man, we actually earned their respect.
00:18:40.000 We connected with the head of CBP and they actually brought us in to start training their officers on how not to harass and target and undermine civil rights of people.
00:18:48.000 So that's the kind of work I was doing for 10 years, fighting the feds, fighting the federal government, fighting government overreach, which I think is something that can unite the right and the left.
00:18:57.000 Historically, it hasn't always, but I think now both sides are waking up and saying, wait a minute.
00:19:02.000 You know, the federal government can be weaponized for political agendas, you know, and it doesn't necessarily benefit the people.
00:19:07.000 And nothing is greater than the Constitution and our freedom and our liberty.
00:19:10.000 And it's our job as Americans.
00:19:12.000 And what makes us Americans is to hold our government accountable and keep them in check.
00:19:16.000 So I was doing that work for 10 years.
00:19:18.000 And then, unfortunately, like I said, my ex wife at the time caught the feminism bug and told the kids, Oh, it would be millionaires if your dad did real work and sent us nonprofit work.
00:19:25.000 And she ultimately ended up me and her getting separated.
00:19:28.000 She moved to Morocco, separated for close to two years, religiously divorced for about six months.
00:19:34.000 Been blessed to move on into a new, healthy, beautiful relationship.
00:19:37.000 And my ex wife hadn't seen the kids in like six months.
00:19:40.000 I had begged her to come back and visit.
00:19:42.000 When I begged her to come back and visit, I said, Listen, we got a beautiful home in Tampa.
00:19:46.000 You can stay there.
00:19:47.000 I got another apartment that me and my partner would stay in.
00:19:50.000 And the kids were with me in Jacksonville, the home's in Tampa.
00:19:53.000 She hasn't seen the kids in six months.
00:19:55.000 When she came to spend time with the kids, she saw that I didn't spend time with her.
00:19:58.000 And she saw how happy I was.
00:19:59.000 Because you were married at this point.
00:20:01.000 I was religiously remarried.
00:20:02.000 Yeah, I was religiously remarried.
00:20:03.000 So she came back to see the kids and you were with the kids?
00:20:05.000 Yeah, I'm respectful.
00:20:06.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:20:07.000 I have my boundaries and my limits. 1.00
00:20:08.000 And she's like, you know, you basically traded me for garbage. 0.96
00:20:12.000 I'm not going to repeat her language. 0.98
00:20:14.000 I'm going to make sure you and her lose everything. 1.00
00:20:15.000 I'm going to make sure you're on the streets. 0.99
00:20:18.000 And, you know, she went after me and blasted me online. 0.69
00:20:22.000 She did a GoFundMe that raised $40,000.
00:20:24.000 Now, mind you, dude, I've done so much free work for actual women victims of domestic violence.
00:20:30.000 One of my clients, one of my first clients that I did about $20,000 worth of free legal work representing her, who's an actual victim of domestic violence, she has 100,000 followers. 0.96
00:20:40.000 When she did her GoFundMe, she couldn't even raise $20,000 to support her legal case.
00:20:46.000 Meanwhile, my ex, who only had a few thousand followers at the time, raised $40,000.
00:20:52.000 Why?
00:20:52.000 Because it wasn't about supporting women, it was about attacking an attorney like myself that runs a prominent civil rights organization that's been challenging the federal government and, frankly, challenging a lot of the liberal agenda and the liberal politics as well.
00:21:06.000 So ultimately, she raised all that money and she filed for a temporary restraining order against me.
00:21:13.000 Wow.
00:21:14.000 And restraining orders are bad guys because you lose your right to carry a gun.
00:21:17.000 Yeah, no, no, they're terrible.
00:21:18.000 They're horrible for you.
00:21:19.000 But here's the beautiful part, and this almost never happens.
00:21:22.000 The judge denied the restraining order ex parte.
00:21:26.000 In other words, when you file for a restraining order, you actually have a shot to make whatever allegations.
00:21:30.000 And if the allegations that are alleged are enough, you know, to make the judge indicate that you may be at risk, then the judge is going to grant it because they don't want to risk it.
00:21:42.000 Yeah.
00:21:42.000 But the judge, when he reviewed her allegations, and only she was there to argue them, I wasn't there to defend myself.
00:21:47.000 But God is most kind.
00:21:48.000 Praise be to Him.
00:21:49.000 She still lost.
00:21:50.000 She lost.
00:21:51.000 God denied ex parte, which almost never happens.
00:21:54.000 And we do a lot of these now because, again, I know what it's like to have gone through them.
00:21:57.000 And then, secondly.
00:21:58.000 And ex parte is one party chat.
00:22:00.000 Yes.
00:22:00.000 That means only one party's there.
00:22:02.000 He's not there to defend himself.
00:22:03.000 Only she's there presenting herself, and that's it.
00:22:05.000 And then ultimately, what happened is she also contacted Child Protective Services again.
00:22:05.000 Right.
00:22:10.000 Wow.
00:22:11.000 And they sat with me for four hours.
00:22:13.000 Wow.
00:22:14.000 And then in the end, bro, I swear to God, it was a Christian man who was questioning me.
00:22:19.000 He said, It's clear she's just jealous and trying to harm you, but you're going to be like Job in the Bible. 0.52
00:22:25.000 You're going to lose everything and you're going to get all back 10x.
00:22:29.000 And that's exactly what happened.
00:22:30.000 When she made those allegations, there was a reporter who was trying to write an anti CARE.
00:22:34.000 CARE was a civil rights organization and ran a hit piece against them for years. 0.89
00:22:38.000 So she published everything, all the allegations, as if it was true.
00:22:41.000 They painted me in the worst of ways.
00:22:42.000 All, everything they alleged was false and they had evidence that it was false, but they didn't care.
00:22:46.000 They published it.
00:22:48.000 And this is going to be horrible for your career because, like, now the bars may be calling you.
00:22:52.000 Bro, it was a nuclear option.
00:22:54.000 I'm telling you, I didn't want to live.
00:22:55.000 You know, when the guys said you're going to lose everything and you're going to get it all tenfold, that's exactly what happened.
00:22:59.000 I remember moving to New York City.
00:23:01.000 I resigned from my job.
00:23:02.000 Now, no one made me resign, but the reason I realized, like, I'm running a civil rights organization fighting the feds.
00:23:07.000 How am I going to do that and do justice to that while also dealing with this fire I have in my home?
00:23:12.000 How old are you at the time?
00:23:13.000 How old are you?
00:23:14.000 How old?
00:23:15.000 I was about 34.
00:23:17.000 You know, I was about 34.
00:23:18.000 Yeah.
00:23:19.000 It was about five years ago.
00:23:20.000 So at that time, I resigned from my job.
00:23:23.000 I had lost my house because she took it over.
00:23:25.000 I lost my kids, hadn't spoken to them for months. 0.92
00:23:27.000 She kept them when she was in the house.
00:23:29.000 She got custody of them immediately.
00:23:31.000 So you bring her over to see the kids.
00:23:32.000 Literally, bring her over.
00:23:33.000 She sees you with a new woman and she just goes crazy. 0.99
00:23:35.000 And she already knew I was there. 0.50
00:23:36.000 And I was giving her an average of $5,000 a month for the three months before she did this.
00:23:41.000 And she claimed, she basically represented that she and the kids were locked up in the house getting beaten, using all the anti Arab stereotypes, needing money to escape for their life.
00:23:51.000 Wow. 0.83
00:23:51.000 That was what they represented. 0.83
00:23:53.000 So you got to imagine, I'm prominent running one of the biggest civil rights offices.
00:23:56.000 I had to resign because I couldn't do it justice.
00:23:59.000 I lost my house, lost my kids.
00:24:01.000 My car was repossessed.
00:24:02.000 I literally had lost everything.
00:24:04.000 I remember moving to New York City and seeing the train, the subway, and just wishing I could fall in front of it.
00:24:09.000 I didn't want to live anymore.
00:24:11.000 What kept me going was trusting God and my charity work.
00:24:15.000 And I just believed that God never takes you, only gives.
00:24:18.000 And there's a blessing in this for me.
00:24:19.000 I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel.
00:24:21.000 The light at the end of the tunnel for me was a train coming to hit me.
00:24:24.000 I literally wanted to jump in front of it.
00:24:25.000 But, you know, we believe that, again, God never takes you, only gives.
00:24:29.000 If you're oppressed, You will get victory as long as you don't give in to defeat in here and in here.
00:24:33.000 No one can defeat you.
00:24:34.000 You can only defeat yourself with your own mentality.
00:24:36.000 And so it was learning these lessons the hard way.
00:24:38.000 But ultimately, just like what the Child Protective Services guy promised happened, bro, I got my house back, got my kids back.
00:24:45.000 My ex issued a public apology.
00:24:47.000 We're on good terms now.
00:24:48.000 In fact, I represent her new husband against his ex wife who stole his kids.
00:24:53.000 What is the irony in that?
00:24:55.000 You know what?
00:24:56.000 Yes, sir.
00:24:57.000 And you know what?
00:24:58.000 And I started making more in a month than I used to in a year.
00:25:01.000 Doing the civil rights work that I used to do.
00:25:03.000 How did you turn it around?
00:25:04.000 Bro, it was literally.
00:25:05.000 How did you go from wanting to end it all and going through this and being broke and she's trying to take you for everything you got?
00:25:10.000 How did you turn that around?
00:25:11.000 You know, there was a couple things.
00:25:13.000 Number one is, again, just having blind faith in God, literally.
00:25:17.000 And I think this applies to everyone.
00:25:18.000 I don't care what your faith is.
00:25:19.000 If you believe in a higher source, the higher source is beautiful.
00:25:22.000 The creator is beautiful.
00:25:23.000 Trust him.
00:25:24.000 He only wants good for you.
00:25:25.000 That's number one.
00:25:26.000 Number two is I actually started volunteering in Africa doing charity work.
00:25:29.000 Not to be cliche, but I literally.
00:25:32.000 Packed a few of my clothes in a backpack and live out of my backpack for a month.
00:25:35.000 And I traveled.
00:25:36.000 We spent time with orphans.
00:25:38.000 We spent time in remote villages.
00:25:39.000 People are literally living in mud huts that are like as big as a stable, brother, you know, like this.
00:25:43.000 And just serving the orphans, serving those in need.
00:25:46.000 And I realized, man, you don't need all this stuff to be happy.
00:25:50.000 Just being out literally in the remote jungle parts of Africa and sometimes in the desert, Turkana, remote areas of Kenya, and just being able to serve those that are less fortunate and seeing how happy they are having nothing.
00:26:01.000 And we have a tradition that God helps the servant so long as the servant helps others.
00:26:04.000 So, through that service, I believe there were indirect blessings to it.
00:26:09.000 When I came back, one of the biggest real estate developers hired me as his right hand.
00:26:16.000 But I had to take permission before I go on my charity trips.
00:26:20.000 And I'm like, I can't freaking take permission.
00:26:22.000 So I said, Brother, I love you.
00:26:23.000 Thank you for this position.
00:26:24.000 It was paying me better than what was in my last job.
00:26:28.000 But I can't ask for permission.
00:26:29.000 So I'm just going to go back to Florida.
00:26:31.000 At that time, I didn't have my kids back.
00:26:32.000 Didn't have a plan.
00:26:33.000 Were you in New York City?
00:26:34.000 Yeah, I was in New York City.
00:26:35.000 When I went through it, I moved to New York because my guy flew me out there, got me an apartment.
00:26:39.000 Gotcha.
00:26:39.000 You know, I started working as his right hand.
00:26:41.000 And then while you're doing that, you also did the charity work.
00:26:43.000 Exactly, the charity work.
00:26:44.000 And then when I got back, I don't have a job, but people started hitting me up saying, Brother, I'm going through something like what you're going through.
00:26:52.000 Could be a lady.
00:26:53.000 Hey, my ex husband made all these accusations against me, just like you went through.
00:26:57.000 Can you help me?
00:26:58.000 And then another gentleman calling me, same story.
00:27:01.000 I'm facing all these false allegations.
00:27:03.000 Can you help me?
00:27:04.000 And I said, you know what?
00:27:05.000 I want to be the kind of lawyer I wish me and my ex had.
00:27:08.000 A lawyer that really cares about the family, about the children.
00:27:11.000 Because in these family law disputes, the only people who win are the lawyers.
00:27:15.000 They're the ones that make all the money off of the parties fighting, you know?
00:27:19.000 So ultimately, it's a big business family court.
00:27:20.000 It's a huge, and honestly, there's a lot of, I think, abuse in the system.
00:27:25.000 Unfortunately, there can be a lot of injustice.
00:27:27.000 And so, man, I just started picking myself back up, taking on cases, one case after the next, and just doing it out of my house without an office, without staff.
00:27:36.000 And we've grown now.
00:27:37.000 We have a team of 12.
00:27:38.000 We have some of the best staff members that work day and night.
00:27:41.000 Literally, I got an army of people that will go to war for me.
00:27:44.000 And we built a powerful firm.
00:27:46.000 We handle still discrimination, government harassment, FBI abuse.
00:27:50.000 We do a lot of family law.
00:27:52.000 We do criminal defense.
00:27:53.000 We're there as a one stop shop to fight for justice as lawyers that were driven for over 10 years by a desire to protect the Constitution in the nonprofit space.
00:28:04.000 And it actually took me a while to shift because one of the big mistakes I used to make is when I have clients that run out of money, I used to not drop them.
00:28:09.000 I just didn't have the heart to, you know.
00:28:11.000 But it continued to grow big and big and big.
00:28:13.000 And it's easy to do that when it's just yourself.
00:28:15.000 But when you have 10 staff, you know, you got to get.
00:28:17.000 You have to take care of them too.
00:28:18.000 You got to take care of them.
00:28:18.000 Exactly.
00:28:19.000 And it's not fair.
00:28:20.000 And then I started to realize every time I said yes to pro bono work, I was saying no to my family, my children, and my staff.
00:28:26.000 So we still do some pro bono work, but it's within the limits.
00:28:29.000 But ultimately, yeah.
00:28:30.000 So that's what got me into family law.
00:28:32.000 And I will tell you very important for those going through divorce, going through hardship, going through a calamity, don't give up hope.
00:28:39.000 Because I was at that point, I literally remember standing in the subway, seeing the train, wishing I could fall in front of it.
00:28:43.000 And I kept my faith, I kept my optimism, and then everything turned around 10x.
00:28:48.000 Literally, what I used to make in a year, I started making in a month.
00:28:51.000 My following on social media went up 10x, my network went up 10x.
00:28:55.000 I've never been more successful than I am today.
00:28:57.000 And I don't believe I would have been here had I not lost everything, accepted it, and then worked hard to help those and help others avoid being in situations like I was.
00:29:07.000 Would it be fair to say that, like, because basically you lose everything, you go to New York, you work with your real estate developer, you go to Africa, you're there doing charity work, you come back.
00:29:18.000 You start taking out clients little by little.
00:29:20.000 Did you going through that and like actually really being in your client's shoes like help you significantly with like fighting their cases on their behalf?
00:29:27.000 100%.
00:29:28.000 100%.
00:29:28.000 And then word of mouth just traveled and it just started getting recommended more and more.
00:29:31.000 People can tell when they have to do it.
00:29:33.000 So, a few lawyers actually have been through it.
00:29:34.000 So, like, you know exactly what it was.
00:29:36.000 Well, for a lot of lawyers, it is ultimately just a business.
00:29:38.000 And I think my struggle has been about actually running it as a business, you know, and making it purely business based and not making those heartstring decisions about, you know, maybe doing more pro bono than we should.
00:29:49.000 Because, like I said, last year we had about half a million in pro bono.
00:29:52.000 However, Ultimately, I think, you know, Stephen Colbert said this, and he said this so beautifully.
00:29:58.000 He said that the blessing of our trials and our calamities is they give us empathy to help others going through similar situations.
00:30:06.000 Because if you've been through it yourself, you can understand at a much deeper level and be there.
00:30:10.000 And that's what makes it worthwhile.
00:30:12.000 And it actually made what I went through worthwhile.
00:30:15.000 The fact that I was able to understand what it's like to go through it and passionately help so many people.
00:30:19.000 I think that's why my business grew again within a few years, went from just working on my house to having a team of 14.
00:30:26.000 Now we're continuing to grow.
00:30:30.000 Because of the authenticity of the experience.
00:30:32.000 That's what drove my law firm, I wanted to be the kind of lawyer that I wish I had when I needed help.
00:30:40.000 Yeah, no.
00:30:42.000 And guys, we're going to open it up for QA here very soon because I'm sure you guys probably have a bunch of questions.
00:30:46.000 And literally, you can see here, Hassan does it all, whether it's criminal defense, family court law, which a lot of you guys probably have questions on that.
00:30:53.000 And then you also do civil rights work as well, obviously.
00:30:55.000 Right.
00:30:56.000 And federal government overreach, FBI investigations, false allegations.
00:31:00.000 False allegations.
00:31:01.000 That's a big one.
00:31:02.000 Right.
00:31:02.000 Because they, the, False allegations is very interesting because it covers multiple areas, right?
00:31:07.000 It covers family law.
00:31:08.000 A lot of times these are in the family law context.
00:31:10.000 Bro, one of my.
00:31:11.000 They use it as justification to go after the man, right?
00:31:14.000 100%.
00:31:14.000 Bro, I have.
00:31:15.000 I mean, there's disgusting. 0.52
00:31:16.000 The mother literally accusing the father of sexually assaulting the children.
00:31:19.000 That was one of my first cases as well, you know?
00:31:21.000 And people, oh, well, you know, represent someone like that.
00:31:23.000 Well, when you look at it, we were able to destroy the case and prove that it was a lie, you know?
00:31:27.000 And again, get these things dismissed.
00:31:29.000 Let's be honest.
00:31:30.000 People can make terribly false accusations because they feel like it will benefit them.
00:31:35.000 In the family court proceeding, so we deal with it in family, we have a lot to gain, exactly financially, having the kids 100%.
00:31:42.000 And remember, it's so easy, I almost don't want to say we got a little uh commotion right now with the guard dogs, mashallah, mashallah, mashallah.
00:31:55.000 Sorry about that.
00:31:55.000 That's dogs.
00:31:57.000 Frank.
00:31:58.000 Sit.
00:31:59.000 Stay.
00:31:59.000 Sorry about that, guys.
00:32:00.000 No worries.
00:32:01.000 I guess him and Hero got in a little scuffle.
00:32:03.000 They got into a scuffle.
00:32:04.000 They got into a little scuffle.
00:32:06.000 Sorry about that.
00:32:06.000 So, where were we?
00:32:07.000 Yeah.
00:32:08.000 And what people don't also realize is, dude, I have both men and women that have been falsely accused.
00:32:13.000 Really?
00:32:13.000 Yeah.
00:32:14.000 What do women get accused of, like, neglect? 1.00
00:32:16.000 No, no. 1.00
00:32:17.000 I mean, I've had women accused of also molesting their kids.
00:32:20.000 I've had, you know, again, all sorts of wild things that, again, in working on these cases and vindicating them, can see that it was just complete fabrication.
00:32:29.000 Um, so ultimately, unfortunately, it tends to be much more the men that are accused, uh, you know, but it can happen to both, you know, it can happen to both.
00:32:37.000 And I think ultimately, the sad thing is the kids pay the price.
00:32:40.000 So, even when I present clients, you know what I tell them?
00:32:42.000 I say, Listen, I don't really care about you or your ex, I care about your kids because they're innocent in all this, you know.
00:32:47.000 And let's be real, my oldest 16, he's now studying to be a pilot, he just got his first class medical, and uh, you know, he's he's a pro man, he loves it.
00:32:55.000 But I'm glad that at least now I'm in a position where I can help him fulfill his dream, even though I couldn't do that when I was his age, but ultimately.
00:33:02.000 You know, they're old enough to see what was said about me.
00:33:04.000 Yeah.
00:33:04.000 And the wild thing is, I remember going back to the media because they, I mean, what really hurt me was the front page stories that they wrote.
00:33:11.000 And it was all NPR, all these guys.
00:33:13.000 Yeah, it was just, it was actually just one.
00:33:14.000 That's the crazy thing.
00:33:15.000 If there was truth to it, you might have had more outlets, but it was just NPR with their agenda.
00:33:20.000 Exactly.
00:33:20.000 And it is the, I was front page, bro.
00:33:22.000 They wrote about me like I was some big celebrity abuser, you know, all sorts of stuff.
00:33:27.000 Bro, when the Child Protective Services cleared my name and they actually issued a paper clearing my name, when the court cleared my name, I showed them and I said, Listen, the legal process cleared my name.
00:33:39.000 Can you update your story?
00:33:40.000 And they have the text messages.
00:33:41.000 No, we're not interested in updating the story to reflect that.
00:33:44.000 They have an agenda, you know.
00:33:46.000 And so, listen, though, whatever I went through, I'm so grateful for it because it's put me in a position to literally help hundreds and hundreds of clients that have gone through similar situations and allow me sort of to be the best kind of attorney that I can.
00:33:57.000 So, I love it, man.
00:33:58.000 I love what we do.
00:33:58.000 I would say it's not a job or a career, it's a passion and a mission.
00:34:02.000 Are you seeing the current Russell Brand case?
00:34:05.000 Oh, yeah.
00:34:08.000 I've heard some things about it.
00:34:09.000 I haven't followed.
00:34:09.000 But I mean, Johnny Depp, I remember the day Johnny Depp was vindicated.
00:34:12.000 And I mean, that was a huge relief for all of us because we know, again, what it's like.
00:34:16.000 Sometimes you're the victim of abuse and then you're accused of being the abuser.
00:34:21.000 But again, this is why it's so important that when people face allegations, whether they're in a criminal context or a family law context, you have to contact the right attorneys immediately because the best time to kill the case is in the earliest time.
00:34:36.000 The problem is sometimes people wait too late.
00:34:38.000 They wait till charges are filed.
00:34:39.000 You have multiple chances to kill a case.
00:34:42.000 And the best time to kill it is before it even gets to the prosecutor's office. 0.87
00:34:46.000 The best time to kill it is when it's early on in the criminal investigation portion of things. 0.98
00:34:50.000 So the sooner you can get the right legal representation, the better it is.
00:34:54.000 Makes sense.
00:34:55.000 And guys, we're going to fire up the phone lines for you guys right now as well.
00:34:57.000 The number to call into the show is 646-4900-394 if you guys got questions for Hassan.
00:35:02.000 Also, super chat in your questions if you guys want.
00:35:04.000 Obviously, you know, I wanted you guys to kind of get familiar with him, his backstory.
00:35:08.000 Obviously, he's been through the fire himself for real.
00:35:11.000 That's why he's able to defend people the way that he does and represent people the way that he does.
00:35:15.000 So, yeah.
00:35:17.000 So, and if you guys call into the show and you super chat, if you want to cut the line, obviously, super chat and that put the last four digits of your phone number so Mo knows to find you in the queue.
00:35:25.000 But FNFsuperchat.com is where it is.
00:35:28.000 Or a rumble rant, you know, whether you're watching on OSS Cows Club, whatever it may be, just put in the last four digits of your number, call into the show, 646490.
00:35:35.000 Or you can just send your chat, your question in with a super chat and we'll answer it.
00:35:39.000 So, you guys got Hassan here.
00:35:41.000 You guys are able to have a high level attorney ask some questions for free.
00:35:44.000 So, you guys all owe me one.
00:35:45.000 But, yeah, this is going to be definitely huge.
00:35:48.000 And, like I said, civil litigation, family court, you got questions on cohabitation.
00:35:55.000 You're obviously defending yourself in a criminal case, whatever it may be, you can ask them.
00:36:00.000 And then I know you're here in Florida.
00:36:03.000 You're born here in Florida, but you obviously do federal cases all the time.
00:36:05.000 Right.
00:36:06.000 So, one is, again, we got a good team and we got a solid network.
00:36:09.000 For most state law things in Florida, we can handle, in terms of federal, we can handle nationwide.
00:36:14.000 So, we've worked on, Criminal investigations nationwide, FBI harassment nationwide, you know, immigration issues nationwide.
00:36:21.000 And you've stopped someone from getting charged in California, too.
00:36:24.000 In California, if you want to tell the next story real quick.
00:36:26.000 Yeah, so there is, I can't say too much other than it was a globally known celebrity.
00:36:33.000 That's what I'll say.
00:36:34.000 It was a name where a significant, I'm talking about hundreds of millions of people know who this individual is.
00:36:41.000 And he unfortunately was falsely accused of rape.
00:36:47.000 Falsely accused of rape.
00:36:48.000 And I think, had he been arrested, it would have been a global catastrophe because he's someone of a lot of honor, a lot of respect, of good reputation.
00:36:57.000 And the scary part is he could be innocent and it doesn't matter.
00:37:01.000 It doesn't matter.
00:37:02.000 Just getting arrested in itself is bad.
00:37:04.000 Because, I mean, remember now, the recent case we got in Florida where this young lady makes some jokes about Netanyahu and school in her WhatsApp group and then she gets arrested.
00:37:14.000 I mean, it was clearly a joke and the judge herself acknowledged.
00:37:17.000 Well, look, this evidence may not be enough to convict you, but it's enough for probable cause.
00:37:22.000 The standard for probable cause is so ridiculously low.
00:37:25.000 You know, in law school, they literally say you could indict a ham sandwich.
00:37:27.000 So ultimately, the bar for arrest is very low.
00:37:30.000 And this is why there is a blessing in having honest and righteous law enforcement officers because some of them get it.
00:37:37.000 Some of them are just trying to get the conviction or get the arrest because they want to get a promotion.
00:37:41.000 But there are people that are actually genuine.
00:37:43.000 And I was very blessed that in that case, we had a very genuine officer.
00:37:46.000 And I explained to him, I got on the phone early on and he wanted to interview my client and said, listen, I can't let you interview him.
00:37:52.000 Right now, that's not going to be how we do this.
00:37:54.000 But you have to understand that with his global reputation, it's going to be a crisis if he's arrested.
00:38:01.000 Now, don't get me wrong.
00:38:02.000 If he's done what he's accused of, arrest him, convict him, lock him up.
00:38:07.000 But don't proceed with the arrest if the evidence is not clear or if it's clear that maybe he's innocent.
00:38:15.000 And I said, just give us an opportunity to work with you, to share some information with you so that we can address these allegations.
00:38:22.000 And I'm confident that you will find that they're fabricated lies completely.
00:38:26.000 And you know, we don't even have to provide exculpatory evidence to show that he was innocent.
00:38:31.000 Exactly.
00:38:32.000 Remember, you're innocent until proven guilty.
00:38:34.000 So we don't even have a burden of proof to prove his innocence.
00:38:36.000 We don't have to.
00:38:37.000 They have to prove his guilt.
00:38:38.000 But again, the bar to arrest someone is so low.
00:38:41.000 We didn't want them to do that.
00:38:42.000 And I said, give us a chance to prove his innocence.
00:38:43.000 So we worked on the case.
00:38:44.000 We investigated it.
00:38:46.000 We got our evidence and, you know, turned it over to law enforcement.
00:38:50.000 And they actually responded to us, thanking us and with a letter acknowledging that they will not be prosecuting him.
00:38:57.000 Because again, he is innocent.
00:38:58.000 So these kinds of things happen, unfortunately, far too frequently.
00:39:01.000 But what makes the difference is hiring the right lawyer very, very early on before the charges are filed, or even getting them to drop the charges if they are filed.
00:39:11.000 I mean, I had another well respected community leader accused of theft from a store because the officers walked in with.
00:39:21.000 With a tripod in a Best Buy.
00:39:22.000 I mean, something as simple as this.
00:39:23.000 Imagine that.
00:39:24.000 Walked in with a tripod.
00:39:26.000 The officers couldn't see clearly the tripod.
00:39:28.000 And then they assumed he left with a tripod, stole it.
00:39:32.000 And it was just as simple as showing them the frame by frame analysis that the guy came in with it.
00:39:36.000 Why are you accusing them of stealing it?
00:39:38.000 They thought he stole a tripod.
00:39:39.000 But they sent the police after him.
00:39:39.000 Literally.
00:39:41.000 They were going to arrest him.
00:39:42.000 It became a whole thing.
00:39:43.000 Wow.
00:39:44.000 Okay, question for you.
00:39:45.000 What race was he?
00:39:47.000 This guy was Arab. 1.00
00:39:48.000 Oh, okay.
00:39:49.000 Yeah, this guy was Arab.
00:39:50.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:39:52.000 No, no, it happens, unfortunately.
00:39:54.000 It happens way too frequently.
00:39:56.000 So, what I'm big on, brother, is preventative care.
00:39:58.000 So, I make my money when people make mistakes, but I'm not in this to make money.
00:40:02.000 I'm in this to help people.
00:40:03.000 So, I just want people to have the knowledge of how to avoid being in these situations.
00:40:07.000 So, perhaps as we'll put up questions, let's share some critical rights that I want people to have.
00:40:11.000 Yeah, so we can go ahead and start answering the questions, guys.
00:40:14.000 Again, 646-4900-394, guys, the number to call into the show.
00:40:18.000 If you want to skip the line, because we already got a bunch of people on the line, Uh, when you super chat in, put the last four digits of your phone number so Mo can quickly find you on the queue, or you could just go on fnfsuperchat.com or rumble rant or whatever it may be.
00:40:29.000 If you're watching on kick, you can send in a kick.
00:40:31.000 Send your question there.
00:40:32.000 We want to knock out as many questions, help as many of you guys as possible, so we'll go right into it.
00:40:35.000 So, uh, can you read the first one fresh?
00:40:37.000 We have a remiss philop.
00:40:39.000 He says, Um, hey, brother, my sister has been going through a divorce for the last four years, her husband has been running away from all payments, child support for five kids, and alimony.
00:40:50.000 The guy is a most millionaire, but she hasn't been able to get this divorce finalized or anything.
00:40:54.000 And they're in Indiana, what can she do?
00:40:57.000 Yeah, I mean, it's tough to talk about very specific circumstances, especially in Indiana, but ultimately, make sure you have the right lawyer.
00:41:05.000 And ultimately, you may have to make a significant investment.
00:41:09.000 And what I recommend to people is don't piecemeal your litigation, hire good attorneys.
00:41:15.000 And if you need to secure funding to enable them to have the resources to fully proceed with the case, and a lot of times, like in things like this, where you say that.
00:41:24.000 He's a multimillionaire, but he's not paying.
00:41:26.000 You may have to hire a forensic accountant.
00:41:30.000 You have to have the right team.
00:41:32.000 Invest in the right team.
00:41:33.000 Don't try to do this piecemeal and don't try to cut corners.
00:41:37.000 It's not always the case that the most expensive lawyer is the best, but certainly be wary of the cheapest ones as well.
00:41:46.000 I mean, you ultimately get what you pay for, and people don't realize.
00:41:49.000 And this is very sad, but it is America can provide the best justice that money can afford, that you can buy.
00:41:54.000 There's truth to that.
00:41:55.000 You need to have good lawyers and you have to give them the good resources to be able to fight strongly.
00:42:00.000 So, look, what I encourage you is make sure that you have a team of lawyers that you trust, you've given them the resources, and that you speak with them about having the right investigators, the right forensic accountant.
00:42:10.000 Now, what I always encourage is solid mediation.
00:42:13.000 Do mediation with the right mediators.
00:42:14.000 Also, in my practice, we do a lot of mediation.
00:42:16.000 I tell people straight up, like, dude, you could spend all this money on lawyers fighting each other, or you could pay it to each other and preserve it within your family and for the sake of your kids.
00:42:25.000 Ultimately, divorce is the single biggest destroyer.
00:42:28.000 Of wealth.
00:42:29.000 And it's a shame.
00:42:29.000 Yeah.
00:42:30.000 Like, with my own clients, sometimes I have a client who's so upset and he's like, Yeah, I'll pay you $20,000 right now just to fight her.
00:42:36.000 I'm like, Bro, she's just asking for $20,000.
00:42:39.000 Give her the $20,000.
00:42:40.000 Give me nothing and just move on, have peace.
00:42:42.000 No, but it's about the principle.
00:42:43.000 I'm like, Bro, no, it's not.
00:42:45.000 Don't let your ego get in the way.
00:42:47.000 It's better to pay the mother or the father of your kids something that is certain than to pay your lawyer something that can be uncertain because it's hourly.
00:42:56.000 You don't know how it's going to go and ultimately may not get you the results that you want.
00:42:59.000 So a lot of times I actually have to talk my clients.
00:43:01.000 Off the ledge, and unfortunately, sometimes as a lawyer, you find yourself being pulled in to be a therapist and a life coach as well.
00:43:07.000 But sometimes the clients need genuine advice.
00:43:10.000 Well, it's a very emotional time, makes sense, but that is scary.
00:43:14.000 Yeah, okay, what's the next one?
00:43:17.000 Withers is cold says, best advice for protecting yourself from false accusations.
00:43:21.000 I've gone to the point where I screenshot all messages and audio record the buildup to show consent, meet, date, my place, and escalate.
00:43:29.000 Oh, very impressive.
00:43:30.000 So he's showing every interaction between him and a woman, just to be careful, and recording it basically as evidence.
00:43:37.000 How would you? 0.84
00:43:38.000 No, I mean, those are very, very good tips, and you got to be careful.
00:43:41.000 I mean, we get these all the time where people have, you know, consensual encounters, and then for some reason or another, Later, someone says, No, it was this part was not consensual and it can potentially open up a criminal case.
00:43:54.000 So, number one is look, I do think people have to be very responsible about who they give their time and energy to, you know, because, you know, if you are too loose in who you allow to have your time and energy and you don't filter out their quality and their character, you're more likely to fall in that kind of situation, you know.
00:44:12.000 So, number one is be careful who you're trusting to begin with.
00:44:15.000 Obviously, having the right documents.
00:44:17.000 So, there's, you know, I have some clients, they actually have consent forms.
00:44:21.000 You know, I have clients that.
00:44:22.000 Forget in the intimacy context, but even whoever enters their house, they have to sign a waiver, a release of liability, et cetera.
00:44:29.000 Having the right documents, also having the right security footage.
00:44:32.000 And you know what I recommend is have security cameras with audio and video.
00:44:36.000 Make sure they're on a local network so you don't have to worry about them getting hacked.
00:44:39.000 And have signs that, listen, there is audio and video recording at this location because you have to disclose that you can't secretly record people.
00:44:46.000 And obviously, you can't and shouldn't have them in certain places that there's a certain level of privacy.
00:44:51.000 But have the right security cameras, especially at the entrance, especially the hallways.
00:44:55.000 Especially the main areas, have the right paperwork if you need it, like waivers, et cetera, consent forms.
00:45:02.000 But ultimately, I think it also goes back to being grounded.
00:45:06.000 We live in a very dangerous time, and especially if you're somebody that's outspoken on issues of politics, if you're someone who challenges the government, you got to be very, very careful.
00:45:14.000 Because look, the honey trap thing is a real thing.
00:45:17.000 There's a book called By Way of Deception.
00:45:19.000 It all speaks about how the Israeli Mossad has used, frankly, prostitutes, right, to go after people of influence.
00:45:26.000 Present themselves as prosecutors, they may present themselves as genuinely interested just to get compromising photos and evidence and then use that to push the people to take positions or disclose information that they otherwise wouldn't.
00:45:39.000 So I think there is a lot to be said about having a level of self respect and dignity and control and being careful because ultimately, even if you have the consent forms, you have the audio and video, but if someone is there with a bad intention, and the more successful you are, the more powerful you are, the more influential you are, the more likely that is the case.
00:45:57.000 This is why it's very important you are protective of who you give your time and your energy to.
00:46:03.000 Very good point.
00:46:04.000 I just wonder though, sometimes when you have a wife, right?
00:46:09.000 Things can change. 0.51
00:46:10.000 Obviously speaking, maybe gut at the beginning, she gets maybe jaded, yada, yada. 0.99
00:46:16.000 She can still become your worst enemy.
00:46:18.000 So I get that part for sure.
00:46:20.000 Well, I think my biggest mistake, honestly, was trying to hold on to the marriage too long.
00:46:20.000 Choose who you are.
00:46:29.000 You know, I desperately, because I had three beautiful kids with her.
00:46:34.000 And I desperately did not want to go through a divorce for their sake.
00:46:38.000 And listen, I don't think that you should stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the kids, but I do think you have the duty to put in the effort to make the marriage happy for the sake of the kids.
00:46:47.000 And I believe happiness is a choice.
00:46:49.000 You know, we live in this instant gratification culture, people swiping right, swiping left, and just used to, you know, the excitement of the chase.
00:46:57.000 And then once they get and moving on and moving on and moving on, but that's not what's going to work long term.
00:47:01.000 Like, I think there's something to be said about, you know, the intention of commitment.
00:47:05.000 The problem is it has to come from both sides.
00:47:07.000 And I think for far too long, I tried to keep it together.
00:47:10.000 And I feel like had I just taken the initiative and filed for divorce earlier on, it would have made it much harder for us to be separated because we were separated for two years, hadn't seen her in six months.
00:47:20.000 And then she came and she filed for the restraining order and made those allegations.
00:47:23.000 But had I filed for divorce years before then, you know, it would have been harder for her to come up and make those cases.
00:47:28.000 So I think that's the key is at what point do you walk away?
00:47:33.000 And I think part of the key is knowing when to walk away.
00:47:37.000 And sometimes, You should file for divorce much sooner.
00:47:40.000 I mean, the problem is, I have too many clients where a wife has called the police on them or wrongfully, or the husband even has called the police on the wife and they still stay together.
00:47:47.000 For me, that's a red line.
00:47:49.000 Like, if law enforcement is ever involved in a relationship, that relationship is dead.
00:47:54.000 The trust is broken forever.
00:47:55.000 If the law enforcement was called rightfully, then you shouldn't be in that situation where your life's at danger.
00:48:01.000 And if law enforcement was called wrongfully, then you shouldn't be in that situation where someone's endangering your life because police could come and someone could leave dead, their reputation could be destroyed.
00:48:10.000 They could spend time in jail.
00:48:11.000 We've seen all of that.
00:48:12.000 So people need to know when to leave.
00:48:14.000 And listen, I'm a big proponent, although we do a lot of family law.
00:48:17.000 I've had a lot of clients come to me and ready for divorce, and they end up doing a contract, cohabitation agreement to stay together, a post snuff agreement.
00:48:26.000 They end up doing things to stay together because they understand.
00:48:29.000 I explain to them and say, look, you can either be with an imperfect human or you can be alone.
00:48:34.000 And sometimes it seems easier to be alone than to be with an imperfect human.
00:48:38.000 But that's not what's going to pay off 10, 20, 30 years from now when if you stick it.
00:48:42.000 Through when you have healthy, beautiful kids and they have grandkids and you have a family and people there for you when they're older.
00:48:47.000 So I think people have to change their priorities.
00:48:48.000 So sometimes it's about knowing when to put in the effort to fix the relationship, but sometimes about knowing when to walk away.
00:48:54.000 And I think a lot of times people make the mistake of not walking away when they should, whether it's walking away from a date, whether it's walking away from a marriage.
00:49:02.000 Sometimes, and I'm not a proponent of ending relationships, but sometimes the safest thing you can do is to walk away and contact an attorney and do it right before it gets a situation where you put yourself in a situation where there's false allegations happening against you.
00:49:15.000 All right, let's knock out some of these questions.
00:49:17.000 So let's see here.
00:49:19.000 What's the next one?
00:49:20.000 Withers is cold says, What's the most optimal way to protect your assets when marrying religiously with kids?
00:49:24.000 Myron Andrew Wilson said that having separate households is no different than divorce.
00:49:28.000 Thoughts on that?
00:49:29.000 That's a great question. 0.98
00:49:30.000 Listen, so first of all, I'm a big proponent of religious marriage without legal marriage.
00:49:36.000 I'm not necessarily a fan of legal marriage because what is legal marriage other than giving, frankly, a secular, popularly elected public official, a judge, control over your household? 0.51
00:49:48.000 Why do you want the state involved in your home and your household?
00:49:51.000 Now, there's some extent.
00:49:52.000 It's unavoidable.
00:49:53.000 Like if you have kids, the state can always be involved in terms of time sharing and child support.
00:49:58.000 But you really don't need to give the state more involvement in your relationship than need be.
00:50:03.000 Now, there are some states, and I don't want to get into state specific advice.
00:50:06.000 In Florida, we don't have that, I can tell you.
00:50:09.000 But there are some states that if people cohabitate and live together long enough, like a married couple, there can be some rights, almost like a common law marriage type situation, though not exactly.
00:50:18.000 It's kind of apply.
00:50:19.000 And there's solutions around that, like a cohabitation agreement.
00:50:19.000 You know, exactly.
00:50:22.000 But I will say, for most people, honestly, it may not make sense to get legally.
00:50:27.000 Married and whatever benefits of legal marriage there are, you can do that through having the right estate plan and the right contracts in place.
00:50:34.000 So, that my first advice is both for men and women. 1.00
00:50:36.000 Dude, I have female clients that are doctors making three, four hundred thousand dollars a year. 1.00
00:50:40.000 Then they fall in love with some guy making eighty thousand dollars a year. 0.97
00:50:43.000 They're like, I love him.
00:50:44.000 I want to religiously marry him.
00:50:46.000 I, yeah, I even want to marry or raise a family with him.
00:50:48.000 But am I going to trust to legally marry him?
00:50:50.000 And then one day he gets pissed and takes away smarter about that.
00:50:53.000 They're smarter.
00:50:54.000 Yeah, protecting their assets.
00:50:55.000 First thing you thought about. 1.00
00:50:56.000 Damn. 1.00
00:50:56.000 And if a woman. 1.00
00:50:57.000 I like him, but, uh, I don't know. 1.00
00:50:59.000 And if a woman does that, it's okay. 0.82
00:51:00.000 But if a guy wants to protect it, it's not. 0.76
00:51:03.000 So the first thing is understanding that maybe you don't get to get legally married.
00:51:08.000 I'm a big proponent of religious marriage.
00:51:10.000 I think people have a fundamental constitutional right to get religiously married without legal marriage.
00:51:14.000 So I encourage that. 1.00
00:51:15.000 In the Muslim tradition, it's simple.
00:51:17.000 I'm sure there's ways to do it in other faith traditions as well. 0.97
00:51:19.000 But just get religiously married without the legal marriage. 0.80
00:51:22.000 That's one of the best ways to protect yourself. 0.55
00:51:24.000 And then you can have other agreements in place.
00:51:26.000 You can have cohabitation agreements.
00:51:27.000 You can have estate plans.
00:51:28.000 You can have powers of attorney.
00:51:30.000 There's a lot of Things that we can show people look into cohabitation agreements in states where common law automatically attaches in states that have any form of common law marriage rights, you have to have a cohabitation agreement because otherwise, does that supersede the already in place common law?
00:51:44.000 If you have a cohabitation agreement and it's properly drafted, don't cheap out on these agreements, these are the most important agreements of your life, and people just be trying to do it through chat GPT and Google.
00:51:44.000 Correct.
00:51:55.000 Look, AI is great in my law firm, we use AI a lot, but sometimes it's that one line that we catch that can make or break the agreement.
00:52:03.000 You know, in terms of states with common law, even if you're just dating or religiously married, get a cohabitation agreement and outline the rights and the responsibilities of the couples and set the expectations.
00:52:13.000 But If you have to get legally married, and again, my advice is get religiously married. 0.67
00:52:17.000 Yes. 0.58
00:52:18.000 Get legally married.
00:52:19.000 No.
00:52:19.000 If you can avoid it, don't do it.
00:52:21.000 But if you have to get legally married, do not get legally married without a prenup. 0.97
00:52:25.000 That's the stupidest thing you can do to get legally married without a prenup. 0.60
00:52:29.000 And the truth of the matter is, a prenup is not about preserving your own wealth. 0.99
00:52:35.000 Yes, it can protect your wealth, but a prenup truly is about protecting the marriage itself.
00:52:41.000 Because what happens is this conflict is unavoidable.
00:52:44.000 Conflict is absolutely unavoidable.
00:52:46.000 Disputes are unavoidable.
00:52:47.000 But what happens is when you don't have a prenup and then you're six, seven, eight years into the relationship, if there's some misunderstanding or conflict that happens, each party then starts thinking about protecting themselves, getting more money or less money.
00:52:58.000 How do I get more?
00:52:59.000 How do I get less? 0.85
00:53:00.000 The lawyers add fuel to the fire. 0.90
00:53:00.000 They each get lawyers. 0.90
00:53:02.000 And next thing you know, they're in years of litigation and divorce court.
00:53:05.000 But if you have a clear and properly done prenup, you already know what's going to happen financially.
00:53:10.000 There's nothing for you to, it's already crystal clear.
00:53:13.000 So you could just focus on the relationship and the relationships and the marriages.
00:53:17.000 Actually, studies show this.
00:53:18.000 That have prenups, they're much more likely to last.
00:53:20.000 And part of that goes to the maturity of the couple, that the couple is able to have a conversation about, okay, how do we resolve conflict?
00:53:27.000 And the other thing is look, I do come from a faith background, but again, at my law firm, we have people of many different faiths and backgrounds, both as clients and as staff. 0.99
00:53:35.000 You know, I do believe legal marriage destroys God given rights. 0.80
00:53:40.000 God given rights is there's a fundamental right to property. 0.84
00:53:43.000 You know, in my tradition, we don't have anything as common property.
00:53:48.000 Everybody is entitled to keep what is theirs.
00:53:50.000 You know, and there's a blessing in that it avoids confusion.
00:53:50.000 Yeah.
00:53:53.000 But when you have entanglement, you have confusion, you have greed.
00:53:57.000 This is why a proper prenuptial agreement can actually really protect the marriage in so many ways.
00:54:04.000 You know, I could do a one hour lecture just on the importance of a prenup, but my advice to everyone if you want your marriage to last and to be protected, do not get legally married without a prenup and don't cheap yourself out.
00:54:18.000 You know, what's a good prenup run somebody?
00:54:20.000 You know, right now, and how often do you have to update it?
00:54:22.000 Sure.
00:54:23.000 So, in my firm right now, we're charging, you know, average cost is around four to five thousand.
00:54:28.000 You know, we've done some for thirty five hundred, we've done some for twenty five hundred, especially students and those that I think are just getting started.
00:54:33.000 But it is, you know, if you think having writing a prenup is expensive, see how expensive it is not to have one.
00:54:39.000 Yeah.
00:54:39.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:54:40.000 See how it's worth its weight in gold.
00:54:43.000 It is one of the greatest things you can do to protect your marriage, you know.
00:54:47.000 And like I said, I mean, I'm not even.
00:54:49.000 With what I've seen in family court, I'm not a believer in Western secular legal marriage.
00:54:55.000 I'm not a believer, and I do believe in traditional religious marriage.
00:54:58.000 But if you have to get legally married for immigration purposes or tax purposes or whatever, then get a prenup.
00:55:03.000 What does a prenup do?
00:55:05.000 It actually just identifies each party's rights and responsibilities.
00:55:09.000 It makes clear whatever's in one person's name is theirs, whatever's in the other person's name is theirs, both assets and debt.
00:55:16.000 If they want to have joint assets, they can just outline it.
00:55:19.000 Let's not let there be confusion.
00:55:21.000 And you could put anything in there you want, right?
00:55:22.000 Like you could put in there all the money I make is mine from this point forward.
00:55:25.000 And you could put, versus like normally it'd be what, 50 50?
00:55:25.000 Right.
00:55:28.000 Exactly, exactly.
00:55:29.000 You know, the problem, and especially with traditional households, I mean, I've seen this happen quite a bit.
00:55:34.000 Someone said 5K for a prenup, even less reason to get married.
00:55:38.000 Again, don't get legally married, get religiously married.
00:55:40.000 But be aware. 0.79
00:55:41.000 But if you're going to do it, have that.
00:55:43.000 You guys are going to spend 50K for the wedding?
00:55:43.000 Because what?
00:55:45.000 You might as well go ahead and have 5K for the prenup.
00:55:47.000 It's the best investment.
00:55:47.000 Look, you may find.
00:55:48.000 Best food.
00:55:48.000 Yeah.
00:55:49.000 Listen, you get what you pay for at the end of the day.
00:55:51.000 But when people are cheap in the short term, they actually end up paying much more in the long term.
00:55:57.000 But invest in a solid prenup.
00:56:00.000 We do this all the time.
00:56:01.000 And we're actually able to update it regularly?
00:56:03.000 Not necessarily, no.
00:56:05.000 Different states have different standards, and because of our firm and our network, we actually do work on prenups in various different states with different attorneys that are licensed in different states, and some are very prenup friendly.
00:56:15.000 I'll say Florida is one of the most prenup friendly places.
00:56:18.000 Is this a common law state, too?
00:56:20.000 No, no, there's no common law marriage here.
00:56:22.000 Massachusetts, we're working with an attorney right now because we have a special expertise in some of the cultural areas that they need on a prenup in Massachusetts, and it's one of the most prenup unfriendly places.
00:56:31.000 So different states have different rules and regulations.
00:56:35.000 If you have any common law principles within your state, then even if you're not legally married, get a cohabitation agreement.
00:56:44.000 Otherwise, you know, I would say it's enough to get religiously married.
00:56:47.000 However, sometimes an agreement may be helpful for various reasons.
00:56:50.000 So it's okay to have agreements.
00:56:52.000 See, the difference is this look, no one buys a car, hopefully, without reading the contract.
00:56:58.000 Some people do and they regret it.
00:56:59.000 Yeah.
00:56:59.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:57:00.000 But I would argue most people do.
00:57:02.000 Yeah, maybe that's true.
00:57:03.000 That's true.
00:57:04.000 And they may end up regretting, especially a used car from a sleazy salesman.
00:57:07.000 But the problem is.
00:57:09.000 You know, people get legally married without reading the marriage contract.
00:57:13.000 What is the marriage contract?
00:57:14.000 It's the Florida, in Florida, it's the Florida statutes on family law.
00:57:18.000 You know, no one reads it.
00:57:20.000 And who wrote these laws?
00:57:21.000 Again, it's frankly some of the same people that are funding genocide, that are protecting pedophiles.
00:57:26.000 It's not the cream of the crop of humanity that wrote these laws.
00:57:29.000 They're not writing it with religion in mind, they're writing it through some social games, secular, exactly.
00:57:34.000 Well, I almost believe that it's satanic and demonic and designed to lead to more divorce, to keep, you know, families broken.
00:57:41.000 And to keep people distracted so that the elites can continue to move on.
00:57:46.000 And we were talking about this.
00:57:48.000 A big part of marriage is you have to have things in place where your partner is desensitized from just leaving you for their own personal gain.
00:57:55.000 Yes.
00:57:55.000 Because a lot of these laws are written in a way where it's actually to her benefit to leave you.
00:58:00.000 It incentivizes divorce.
00:58:01.000 So that's actually, I'm going to jump to that point real quick.
00:58:03.000 I'm glad you mentioned it.
00:58:04.000 Before that, just to emphasize that, listen, when you get legally married, you're basically signing a contract, but you have two options.
00:58:12.000 You can sign a contract written by others that you probably haven't read and that's probably this thick, which is the state statutes, or you could write your own contract and you could define marriage your way.
00:58:21.000 Why wouldn't you choose that?
00:58:23.000 It's much better.
00:58:23.000 And you and her can put whatever you guys agree to within reason.
00:58:26.000 Again, hire a lawyer, there's certain restrictions, but it's much better to have your own contract that you and your partner have come up with than to have the state default.
00:58:34.000 That's number one.
00:58:34.000 Number two is, especially in traditional households, I do believe the modern state law encourages divorce.
00:58:40.000 In a traditional household, the man should be providing everything. 0.84
00:58:40.000 Why? 0.84
00:58:44.000 And he's working day and night, maybe sometimes, especially in this economy, 12, 14 hours a day.
00:58:48.000 Even the wealthy, successful ones are working crazy hours.
00:58:51.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:58:52.000 And so they're working very hard.
00:58:54.000 They're providing for the family, they're putting their family first.
00:58:56.000 Meanwhile, the wife is also working hard at home, raising the kids, taking care of them.
00:59:01.000 And what happens after 10 years, she realizes, man, I didn't get to live my life.
00:59:05.000 I spent the last 10 years just raising kids.
00:59:09.000 She doesn't think, well, my husband also spent the last 10 years putting 14 hour workdays to provide for us.
00:59:15.000 She thinks, and her friends tell her, and the committee tells her, Well, listen, you know, why don't you just file for divorce?
00:59:20.000 You can get a third of his income as alimony plus child support.
00:59:23.000 And if you've been for 10 years, some states, I mean, Florida for a very long time was lifetime alimony for 10 years.
00:59:28.000 Yes, yes, they had lifetime alimony.
00:59:30.000 Thank God they amended it.
00:59:31.000 And what you can also do is take half of the assets.
00:59:34.000 So for her, it's a windfall.
00:59:35.000 You know what I'm saying? 1.00
00:59:36.000 It's a lot of money and she's incentivized to marriage. 0.91
00:59:39.000 So in the prenups that we write, I believe, and the way we design these prenups is there should not be a financial incentive to divorce.
00:59:48.000 At the same time, if there's a legitimate reason for divorce, there shouldn't be absolutely nothing.
00:59:53.000 So we work the parties to identify what's a reasonable amount that's not so much that's going to tempt someone to divorce for financial reasons.
01:00:00.000 And that's not so little that somebody will remain in an unhealthy situation because they have no other choice.
01:00:04.000 You find that sweet spot that is the healthiest.
01:00:07.000 And the clients that do that end up having the best marriages and the best relationships.
01:00:12.000 Okay, let's go back to the questions.
01:00:14.000 Anyone on the phone lines or are we still doing super chats?
01:00:18.000 Whichever one, yeah, whichever one.
01:00:19.000 If you guys want to get someone on the line or that, we'll let you guys pick.
01:00:22.000 All right. 0.98
01:00:22.000 Russell says, Shah Afnath, for the opportunity, we owe you, Myron. 0.98
01:00:25.000 It's been a month since I went to court over a restraining order.
01:00:29.000 Should I pursue going for full custody or continue pickup and drop off at local police stations to prevent any further allegations?
01:00:35.000 Ooh, okay.
01:00:36.000 And again, I'm hesitant to give very specific advice, but I want to give generic advice around the situation.
01:00:42.000 Yeah.
01:00:43.000 Restraining orders, we deal with them a lot.
01:00:46.000 Again, we explain how easy it is to get them on a temporary basis.
01:00:50.000 Number one is in terms of the restraining order, you know, I don't know where this individual is in the legal process.
01:00:58.000 I do think it can protect both parties doing the exchanges at a police station, even if you've been falsely accused, you know, because it's going to be difficult for her to make allegations.
01:01:07.000 And I've seen innocent people get thrown under the bus and be alleged, have allegations thrown against them.
01:01:13.000 So I don't think it's necessarily a bad idea to do the exchanges in a public place or in a police station.
01:01:19.000 Now, in terms of going for full custody, It really depends on the factors.
01:01:23.000 So, in Florida, for example, the law changed.
01:01:26.000 And this is a good thing, in my opinion, because a lot of times, especially certain mothers were trying to keep the kids away from the dads. 0.55
01:01:32.000 Now, the default is it is presumed that 50 50 is in the best interest of the children.
01:01:37.000 And I'm a big proponent of 50 50, you know, because, and I really don't like people that fight against 50 50 because I think they're very small minded and selfish.
01:01:45.000 The truth of the matter is, dude, the week you have the kids, enjoy them, spoil them, you know, enjoy their company.
01:01:51.000 And the week you don't, Grind, make money, read a book, study, grow, build your new family perhaps.
01:01:58.000 But you make the most of each circumstance.
01:02:00.000 Don't be so greedy, understand?
01:02:01.000 And I've seen so many situations where mothers in particular may fight for sole custody in a year or two, regret it, and even abandon the kids altogether because it was too much for them to handle.
01:02:11.000 Now, I will say in Florida, to get quote unquote sole custody, and in Florida, we have parental responsibility who's in charge of the kids in terms of making their decisions, and we have what is called time sharing what is the schedule of the kids? 0.59
01:02:24.000 Nowadays, there's a presumption that 50 50 is in the best interest of the kids, but it's possible to overcome that.
01:02:29.000 What I would ask the question is is it really worth it?
01:02:33.000 What is very important, though, is if you're facing a domestic violence injunction and a restraining order, contact an attorney right away to see how to properly fight against it.
01:02:43.000 We've successfully fought against these many times.
01:02:46.000 It can be done.
01:02:48.000 We've won fighting against them, but you really need to have a lawyer that cares and is willing to understand the facts of your case.
01:02:54.000 Sometimes we hire investigators, you know, and you have to be willing to stand up because if you agree to a restraining order, Sometimes there's no going back.
01:03:06.000 You know, I have a client who got bad legal advice and he's facing a 10 year restraining order from seeing his kids.
01:03:11.000 10 years is crazy.
01:03:12.000 And I even told them, this was before I came involved in the case, but I said, what incentive does this guy have to work?
01:03:17.000 So basically, you're taking half of his stuff, plus you're taking alimony, plus you're taking child support.
01:03:22.000 You're basically taking the majority of his wealth, but he can't even see his kids.
01:03:27.000 You know, what's stopping this man from just moving somewhere else at that point?
01:03:27.000 Yeah.
01:03:31.000 You know, the only incentive that you have to work and to pay is at least you could see the smile on the face of your kids.
01:03:36.000 You know, but if you take that away from him, then what incentive are you giving?
01:03:36.000 Yeah.
01:03:39.000 You're destroying the kids that way.
01:03:41.000 You're destroying the family that way.
01:03:42.000 And this is why, unfortunately, you have a lot of degeneracy in society.
01:03:45.000 You have a society where children are not raised.
01:03:48.000 And the fact of the matter is, children that do not grow up with both a mother and a father are much more likely to have substance abuse issues, degeneracy issues, indecency issues.
01:03:58.000 They're much more likely to have financial problems.
01:04:01.000 You know, I think we forget, we all talk about my rights, my rights, my rights.
01:04:05.000 What about the rights of children to grow up with a Father and mother that are there for them to provide for them to care for them to protect them.
01:04:12.000 We forget about that, you know, and ultimately our society just becomes a reflection of that.
01:04:18.000 Yeah, okay.
01:04:19.000 Next question here What do we got?
01:04:20.000 Sir Rock No Diddy, what up, fellas?
01:04:23.000 Salute to everything you guys are doing.
01:04:25.000 Hassan question In today's culture, what are some tips men apply pre marriage and post marriage that can possibly help them create their cases in divorce?
01:04:34.000 Interesting.
01:04:35.000 Okay, okay, so tips apply pre marriage and post marriage and help their case in divorce.
01:04:41.000 You know, again, I think the best advice is don't get legally married without a prenup.
01:04:46.000 I think the best advice I can also give as a man is just never, ever, ever react.
01:04:52.000 Do not argue.
01:04:54.000 Do not react.
01:04:55.000 I've seen this happen too much where certain individuals really try to instigate the other person so that they lose their cool and then they're able to say, oh, that person's an abuser.
01:05:06.000 Oh, that person is dangerous or call the police or set them up.
01:05:09.000 I mean, I've seen this happen.
01:05:10.000 But look, I got to be real with you.
01:05:12.000 I think the responsibility is on men.
01:05:14.000 To really be men.
01:05:16.000 And a man needs to learn never to react.
01:05:18.000 You just don't argue.
01:05:19.000 You don't argue.
01:05:20.000 If someone works for you, you don't argue with them.
01:05:22.000 You're their boss.
01:05:23.000 This is what I say.
01:05:25.000 This is the rule I've set.
01:05:26.000 If you like it, thank God.
01:05:27.000 If you don't, that's fine.
01:05:29.000 I'm not going to go back and forth with you.
01:05:31.000 The problem is when a lot of these very bad divorce cases that I've seen that have ended up with domestic violence injunctions, law enforcement, it's because there's a back and forth.
01:05:42.000 Doesn't mean the guy actually did anything wrong.
01:05:43.000 Doesn't mean he hit her, but there was a back and forth.
01:05:46.000 Learn as a man not to have a back and forth.
01:05:48.000 Say your peace.
01:05:49.000 If your word isn't being respected, walk away.
01:05:51.000 That's it.
01:05:52.000 Say your peace.
01:05:53.000 If your word isn't respected, walk away.
01:05:55.000 It's very hard to get a man who does that in trouble.
01:05:57.000 It's very hard to set yourself up for failure.
01:06:00.000 And actually, this is how you have her respect.
01:06:02.000 The reason a lot of men lose respect is they become too feminine, too reactionary.
01:06:06.000 The women get used to getting attention through that provocation. 0.98
01:06:10.000 But if you learn to be a man and say your peace, and if you're not being respected, walk away, they will be chasing you and they will be humble in how they approach you. 0.62
01:06:17.000 You know, but that's the best protection.
01:06:19.000 Don't react.
01:06:21.000 Okay.
01:06:22.000 Who's up next here?
01:06:27.000 What's the main reason prenups get thrown out?
01:06:29.000 Also, and this comes from Al Boyce.
01:06:31.000 Also, what are your thoughts on the soccer player Hakimi putting everything in his mom's name so his ex wife couldn't take anything?
01:06:35.000 Would you recommend most guys do the same?
01:06:37.000 So, main reason prenups get thrown out, and then thoughts on Hakimi putting everything in his mom's name?
01:06:42.000 Great question.
01:06:43.000 So, in terms of prenups being thrown out, one reason can be that there wasn't fair and full financial disclosure.
01:06:49.000 So, in different states, they have different requirements for a valid prenup.
01:06:54.000 Like some states, like California, especially if you're giving up alimony and spousal support, can require Two attorneys, you know, one attorney representing each spouse.
01:07:02.000 Not all states require attorneys to sign on to the agreement.
01:07:05.000 With that being said, you have to have, and people forget this number one is you have to have full and fair financial disclosure.
01:07:12.000 So you have to literally disclose all of your assets, all of your debt, all of your income, do it in writing and exchange the documents.
01:07:17.000 If you don't do that, prenup can be thrown out.
01:07:20.000 Number two, can't be a shotgun prenup.
01:07:22.000 It cannot be just provided the day before the wedding.
01:07:26.000 I always recommend having.
01:07:27.000 It's like duress, right?
01:07:28.000 Considered duress.
01:07:29.000 Exactly.
01:07:30.000 They could say it was duress, coercion.
01:07:31.000 So you always like to show that there's time.
01:07:34.000 Time between when you present the prenup to your potential spouse or your partner, and time between when they sign it, and time between when you get married.
01:07:45.000 So, in an ideal world, again, if you can have a month between the time they get it and the time they sign it, and between the time they sign it and the time they get legally married, that'd be the best.
01:07:54.000 But even having 30 days at least, if you can, that would be great.
01:07:57.000 But even in some states, actually have a requirement, like a requirement according to statute, that it must be this many days.
01:08:04.000 But I would say, at the very, very least, at the very least, have a week between the time.
01:08:08.000 That they receive it to the time they sign it, and between the time they sign it and the time that they get married, keep a week buffer on each side.
01:08:15.000 If you do a month buffer on each side, the longer the time, the harder it is to argue.
01:08:20.000 So, you know, it's not full disclosure.
01:08:23.000 It could also be having, you know, wrong terms in there.
01:08:25.000 Like in the prenup, you cannot get into time sharing, child support, child custody.
01:08:30.000 Those are reserved for the court.
01:08:31.000 So, you want to avoid issues that are reserved for the jurisdiction of the court.
01:08:35.000 Sometimes you have issues like unconscionability.
01:08:37.000 Now, Florida is great because the way they do the prenups is they basically say, That as long as the agreement wasn't unconscionable at the time that it was put together, you know, we will most likely hold it together.
01:08:49.000 Some states say no, the agreement has to also be great and fair and reasonable at the time of the divorce, even though the circumstances of the parties have changed.
01:08:58.000 So you need to account for that.
01:09:00.000 Sometimes you have to ensure that within the prenup, you account for change in circumstance because what you don't want in the prenup also is to have a situation where either party is going to be forced to go on welfare or something like that.
01:09:10.000 If it's something like that, then those provisions can be challenged.
01:09:13.000 So we actually have very creative language.
01:09:15.000 You can't leave her destitute, obviously.
01:09:16.000 Exactly, you can't.
01:09:17.000 And what we do, and this is part of the tradition, but we have something where Doesn't matter who's wealthier and who's poorer, but the wife will get a certain amount of money in the event of a divorce.
01:09:26.000 And this amount of money is dependent on the length of the marriage.
01:09:29.000 I don't like it to be a flat amount.
01:09:31.000 I don't like it to be a percentage because then people can litigate what is the income, et cetera.
01:09:35.000 But we actually put a certain amount of money that they're entitled to.
01:09:38.000 And then we have provision that this is not spousal support because if it is, it can be modified potentially.
01:09:43.000 However, it is meant to ensure that they don't remain in desperate need or destitute.
01:09:49.000 And therefore, there should be no spousal support and they've opted.
01:09:52.000 Output transcript Out of spousal support.
01:09:53.000 However, if for any reason that, you know, some court overturns that and applies spousal support, then the person will be credited for those payments that they've made that are not spousal support.
01:10:03.000 Again, there's creative language we can put in there that can leave the situation much more amicable and just for all parties involved.
01:10:10.000 And this is why it's so important to get one because everyone is different.
01:10:12.000 Like it could be where you and her come in with a lot of money and she might agree.
01:10:16.000 No, if we break off, everyone takes their own stuff, whatever.
01:10:19.000 Because at that point, you can make the. 0.91
01:10:21.000 She wouldn't be destitute because she has her own money.
01:10:23.000 Exactly.
01:10:24.000 So they're very fact specific.
01:10:25.000 And this is why when we do our prenups, we have our client fill out a financial affidavit.
01:10:31.000 We ask that their partner does it as well.
01:10:33.000 We review it.
01:10:34.000 And then we come up with creative solutions based on that.
01:10:37.000 If there's like a huge income disparity, so the guy doesn't get destroyed on the way out.
01:10:40.000 But at the same time, she's not left destitute because if she's left destitute, then the prenup can get thrown out.
01:10:45.000 And what we apply, by the way, real quick, is sometimes we say, listen, if the wife leaves work to raise kids, maybe she gets an extra stipend.
01:10:52.000 You know, we can do certain things that are. 0.67
01:10:55.000 There's different tools we got.
01:10:57.000 What if I had crypto in a wallet, no one knows about it, and I just said, hey, listen, this is my bank account.
01:11:04.000 There you go.
01:11:05.000 So, listen, in terms of. 0.99
01:11:08.000 That'll get you fucked up, what? 0.99
01:11:09.000 No, yeah, yeah. 0.99
01:11:10.000 So, listen.
01:11:11.000 How would they know, Myron?
01:11:12.000 Well, I mean, that's a great question.
01:11:13.000 How would they know?
01:11:14.000 So, as a lawyer, I have to say.
01:11:15.000 It's in Tanzania.
01:11:18.000 As a lawyer, I have to say that you have to, when you're doing a prenup, financially disclose everything that you have.
01:11:23.000 If they catch you hiding anything, then they could throw the whole thing away.
01:11:29.000 That's the legal advice that I would have to say.
01:11:29.000 You know?
01:11:33.000 Now, if somebody, say I'm representing, I got to be careful how I frame this, but say I'm framing a wife and the husband happened to have a crypto wallet and it was so old that, because you could go back several years when you filed for divorce, you can go back in discovery, et cetera, but it was so old and disconnected and we never found out about it.
01:11:49.000 So, how are we going to enforce it?
01:11:51.000 I'll be honest, dude, it happens a lot where people cheat and lie about their income.
01:11:54.000 Sometimes, I'll be honest with you, I think ethically, I'm not speaking as a lawyer right now, just as a human, I think sometimes it's ethical.
01:12:00.000 Allowed to in certain circumstances.
01:12:02.000 I would never encourage lying.
01:12:03.000 You should never lie to court.
01:12:04.000 You should never lie in legal proceedings.
01:12:06.000 But I can understand why some people justify that.
01:12:09.000 Hide their stuff because they work so hard and now, you know, they caught their wife cheating on them and now their wife is taken.
01:12:09.000 Hide their stuff.
01:12:14.000 Like it's wild that in America, your wife or husband can cheat on you and then they could still make you pay to live with the person they cheated on you with.
01:12:24.000 You know what I'm saying?
01:12:24.000 It's insane.
01:12:25.000 Can I add to your story real quick?
01:12:26.000 Yeah.
01:12:27.000 I know a guy in Miami, very successful guy, prominent as well.
01:12:32.000 He met his girlfriend about a year ago.
01:12:35.000 His girlfriend, beautiful girl, makes good money. 0.70
01:12:39.000 She told him she worked as a VIP host.
01:12:45.000 Hurrah.
01:12:46.000 Right?
01:12:47.000 Hurrah!
01:12:48.000 Hello, my God!
01:12:48.000 Hurrah!
01:12:50.000 Six months into the relationship, he finds out that she's a stripper.
01:12:53.000 So she lied and he married her.
01:12:55.000 Oh, my God. 0.77
01:12:56.000 So she was cheating the whole time. 1.00
01:12:58.000 A stripper, low key. 1.00
01:13:00.000 I don't know how you didn't notice. 1.00
01:13:03.000 She wants to divorce him now.
01:13:05.000 And in that case, like, what does he do?
01:13:07.000 Because he has money stacked away, but like, she doesn't know about it.
01:13:11.000 He needs to talk to me.
01:13:12.000 How long were they together?
01:13:13.000 One year.
01:13:14.000 So, one year, the good news is this.
01:13:16.000 Listen, here's the good news.
01:13:17.000 In a one year marriage, it's not that all everything you have is split 50 50.
01:13:21.000 It's only what was accumulated during the marriage.
01:13:24.000 So, in one year, the most she could go for, I don't think she's really going to have a case for alimony in a one year marriage.
01:13:30.000 And if, even if then, what, six months worth?
01:13:32.000 And then there isn't.
01:13:33.000 They're officially married for a year?
01:13:35.000 One year, bro.
01:13:35.000 Yeah.
01:13:36.000 Wow, yeah.
01:13:37.000 But isn't that considered like an annulment too?
01:13:39.000 There is.
01:13:39.000 I just won an annulment actually for my client.
01:13:42.000 And the judge literally, I was actually very proud, I'm not going to lie, but the judge literally said, You know what?
01:13:46.000 They asked my client, Is everything in Mr. Shibley's petition correct?
01:13:50.000 He's like, Yes.
01:13:51.000 She's like, Well, because I know Mr. Shibley and I trust his work, I'm going to grant it.
01:13:55.000 These aren't usually very easy to get.
01:13:57.000 And that's why it's so important because one of the things I value as a lawyer is sometimes my clients want me to say certain things in front of the judge and BS.
01:14:04.000 I don't do it.
01:14:06.000 You can't pay me any amount of money to BS.
01:14:08.000 In legal proceedings, or to be dishonest or to misrepresent.
01:14:12.000 And the judges can tell when you're honest, when you're fair.
01:14:16.000 And that actually helps your reputation with all of your other clients as well.
01:14:19.000 So, like, the greatest thing you have is your reputation.
01:14:22.000 It makes a difference.
01:14:24.000 But any.
01:14:24.000 You got it annulled.
01:14:25.000 How long were they married that you got it annulled?
01:14:27.000 Oh, no, it was very short term.
01:14:28.000 Yeah, it was very, very short.
01:14:29.000 How short does it got to be for you to be a.
01:14:31.000 It's not just about the length, it can come down to things like consummation, whether the parties lived together, whether they consummated, those go a long way.
01:14:40.000 So, but if you've lived together, if you've consummated, it's really hard to get things annulled.
01:14:46.000 So, that's what it is.
01:14:46.000 You know what I'm saying?
01:14:48.000 But, you know, the shorter the length and the fact that there's no consummation, no cohabitation, that would be the best situation for that.
01:14:55.000 Yeah, exactly.
01:14:56.000 So, sorry, with your guy, so he.
01:14:58.000 So, long story short, he had crypto in a wallet hidden.
01:15:01.000 He didn't disclose it.
01:15:04.000 And they finished the case and he's good.
01:15:07.000 Okay.
01:15:07.000 He's good now?
01:15:08.000 Anyway, as a lawyer, I can't advise that, but.
01:15:12.000 But she lied. 1.00
01:15:13.000 She was a stripper. 1.00
01:15:14.000 I mean, that's fucked up, man. 1.00
01:15:15.000 Well, that's what I'm saying. 0.99
01:15:16.000 I think there are times, look, legally, again, if I was his lawyer, you know, I would not have wanted to know about that because it would put the lawyer in a very difficult situation because you have a duty of candor.
01:15:27.000 And I'm not going to risk my license for anyone.
01:15:29.000 But I can say as a human, I can understand why someone in that situation would not disclose.
01:15:29.000 100%.
01:15:34.000 You know what I'm saying? 0.99
01:15:35.000 Especially if she cheated on him and she likes half of it. 1.00
01:15:37.000 No.
01:15:38.000 It was funny. 1.00
01:15:38.000 What a dumbass. 1.00
01:15:40.000 Hold on. 1.00
01:15:41.000 Why is he so retarded? 1.00
01:15:42.000 Bro, the guys in Miami with money. 1.00
01:15:44.000 She told him, if you get prenup, I don't want to marry you.
01:15:48.000 And she kept that going for like a month.
01:15:49.000 He's like, Why is he so attached, though?
01:15:51.000 That's the thing.
01:15:51.000 You got to have independence.
01:15:53.000 She's good looking. 1.00
01:15:54.000 Bro, but there's a dime a dozen in Miami good looking. 0.99
01:15:57.000 Listen, what's a dime a dozen?
01:15:58.000 They're worthless.
01:15:59.000 There's no value to beauty in Miami.
01:16:02.000 We know.
01:16:02.000 We know.
01:16:03.000 Some guys are like, Come to my money.
01:16:05.000 I'm rich.
01:16:06.000 And that's what they want to use their money for.
01:16:08.000 And I think that's the problem.
01:16:10.000 Men forgot to be men, bro.
01:16:12.000 And they've lost their dignity and their self respect. 1.00
01:16:14.000 And a lot of these problems, honestly, again, I have a huge problem with feminism. 1.00
01:16:17.000 I think it's destroying families and households. 0.87
01:16:19.000 But men have to know how to be men, how to value themselves, how to draw lines, how to draw boundaries, how to never chase, and how to actually be content just trying to be the best version of themselves and everything else will work its way.
01:16:30.000 Yeah.
01:16:31.000 Good point.
01:16:31.000 Yeah.
01:16:31.000 No, I guess you just got lucky in that situation.
01:16:33.000 But yeah, dude, I mean, I would argue, I think the best thing to do is disclose everything and make sure your prenup is ironclad.
01:16:39.000 Yeah.
01:16:40.000 That would be great.
01:16:40.000 That, I think, is the best way to go.
01:16:41.000 Because, like, if it's ironclad, Then you could fully disclose everything.
01:16:44.000 And then, because my thing, I'm looking at it like, what if she challenged the prenup later?
01:16:48.000 You didn't disclose all your financial stuff, and Ironcloud was good.
01:16:51.000 The prenup was fantastic outside of that.
01:16:53.000 Now it's thrown out.
01:16:54.000 Now you're cooked.
01:16:55.000 Right, right, right.
01:16:56.000 So is it worth, like, is it where, oh, I don't want to disclose my crypto wallet?
01:16:59.000 Well, if you had a good prenuptial agreement, you don't got to worry about anything.
01:17:01.000 Exactly.
01:17:02.000 And the truth of the matter is, again, remember, you don't split all the assets.
01:17:06.000 You just split the assets that were accumulated during the marriage if you don't have a prenup. 0.74
01:17:10.000 I think the best, first of all, I just don't think people should get legally married.
01:17:13.000 But if they need to get legally married, get a prenup.
01:17:15.000 And if you don't get legally married, still get the contracts in place to protect everyone's rights.
01:17:20.000 You know, there are.
01:17:21.000 You need some type of agreement regardless of what you do.
01:17:23.000 Whether it's a regular relationship and you guys live together, cohabitation.
01:17:27.000 If you're getting married legally with the government involved, well, get a prenuptial agreement that's ironclad.
01:17:32.000 Because Murphy's Law, something's going to go wrong.
01:17:34.000 Yeah.
01:17:35.000 Even with business contracts, man, you know, we do business, partnerships, friends.
01:17:39.000 Bro, you cannot go wrong investing in having the right agreement because the right agreement makes a meeting of the minds.
01:17:44.000 You know, it makes sure that there's a meeting of the minds with the parties.
01:17:47.000 So.
01:17:47.000 That's really, I think, my best relationship marriage saving advice.
01:17:52.000 If I had to pick two, it is do not get legally married without a prenup and never react.
01:17:58.000 Good points.
01:18:00.000 We got the callers or no?
01:18:02.000 Yes.
01:18:04.000 Okay.
01:18:05.000 All right.
01:18:05.000 We can hit the phone.
01:18:06.000 You want to hit the phone line now, then?
01:18:07.000 Yeah.
01:18:08.000 We'll hit the phone guy then.
01:18:09.000 7534.
01:18:10.000 You're up.
01:18:11.000 7534.
01:18:12.000 7534.
01:18:13.000 Go ahead.
01:18:14.000 All right.
01:18:15.000 Can you hear me?
01:18:15.000 We got you.
01:18:16.000 We got you.
01:18:17.000 What's your question?
01:18:17.000 All right.
01:18:19.000 I'm a single dad of four kids.
01:18:22.000 And I am trying to figure out from a judge's perspective.
01:18:29.000 I've been doing it for about four years now.
01:18:32.000 Mom's coming back into the kids' lives.
01:18:34.000 She has like every other weekend.
01:18:37.000 She's behind $15,000 in child support.
01:18:42.000 I feel like it's better that I keep the kids and not do like a 50 50 because I've established a routine and structure and everything like that.
01:18:51.000 What do you think a judge would do?
01:18:53.000 Which state are you in?
01:18:55.000 I'm in Indiana.
01:18:57.000 Indiana.
01:18:57.000 All right.
01:18:57.000 So I'm not going to give you state specific or even personal advice to you, again, legally, because it comes with the responsibility.
01:19:03.000 But just generally speaking, from my experience, again, this is not personal legal advice.
01:19:08.000 Um, but generally speaking, a judge sees through that.
01:19:11.000 You know, if a judge sees that a mother abandoned the kids for four or five years, a dad's been raising them, has built a routine, has built a life around that.
01:19:20.000 The mom is majorly in, in, in, you know, owing retroactive child support.
01:19:25.000 You know, I don't necessarily believe, you know, see that a judge would, would jump to 50 50 at that point.
01:19:31.000 The 50 50 in Florida is a default presumption, but that presumption can be overcome.
01:19:36.000 And if, if I were to go before a judge in your honor, This mother hasn't been involved at all, you know, and now it's just coming back.
01:19:43.000 And for these reasons, it doesn't make sense to go for 50 50.
01:19:47.000 I think there's an argument to be made.
01:19:49.000 So, look, judges are human, and you could have, you know, two different judges will make two different decisions.
01:19:53.000 You know, it's also about whether they like you, it's about how you interact.
01:19:57.000 I think family court can often be a circus, but you want to be likable to the judge.
01:20:02.000 It does make a difference, and you want a lawyer that knows how to interact with the judge.
01:20:06.000 But I think ultimately, if a judge sees that you've been raising the kids yourself for so long, And you can show them how it really would, the mother now just coming in would disrupt their life. 0.68
01:20:17.000 You know, I think there's a strong argument against 50 50 in that. 0.85
01:20:20.000 Again, not legal advice, just practical experience. 1.00
01:20:23.000 But I'll say 15K in four years is.
01:20:26.000 Sorry, go ahead.
01:20:28.000 When it comes to the whole child support thing, here in Indiana, the person that makes more money has to pay child support, even when it's 50.
01:20:39.000 So, would it be smart just to let it keep on racking up just in case it does go 50 50 at some point?
01:20:45.000 Oh, so just to be, you know, in every state, just about, even if it's 50 50, the parent that makes more money will have to pay the other child support.
01:20:54.000 So, look, you can continue to allow the child support to rack up, even as it is.
01:20:59.000 Um, you know, and then it's really up to you whether you enforce that or not.
01:21:03.000 Look in Florida, you can get arrested if you don't pay child support, you can lose your driver's license if you don't pay child support.
01:21:10.000 I personally, you know, again, not legal advice, just practically speaking.
01:21:13.000 For me, I don't, if you know, I'm not really big on pushing for a mother to pay child support to a father unless there's a legitimate need.
01:21:25.000 Um, I'm totally cool with a guy who just says, you know what, they're my kids, I want to step up to the plate, but it, you know, I do find it to be helpful to use that.
01:21:33.000 Child support that's owed as leverage in case the mother is causing disruptions, is causing problems, then you could always choose to go ahead and enforce that.
01:21:42.000 But a lot of times I tell fathers, like, listen, I can get you the kids, and I've done this.
01:21:46.000 I've gotten some fathers 100% custody, and I can say, I'll get you the 100% custody, but I'm not going to go after her for child support.
01:21:53.000 But if the situation gets too shaky, you can always pursue child support.
01:21:56.000 You can even go for retroactive child support later down the road.
01:21:59.000 So that's just a personal decision to make in terms of whether you pursue it or not.
01:22:03.000 And you may have legitimate reason to pursue it, especially if she's abandoned the kids for years.
01:22:06.000 And you have a financial need for it, then there's no harm in doing that.
01:22:09.000 But I think that's a personal choice.
01:22:12.000 Right, yeah, it was mainly used for leverage, right?
01:22:15.000 I respect that.
01:22:16.000 Hey, but uh, thanks for calling in, man.
01:22:18.000 We'll uh, thanks.
01:22:19.000 On to the next person, no worries.
01:22:20.000 Good question.
01:22:21.000 Um, let's see.
01:22:23.000 We um, we'll answer, I think we got a couple more chats, and then we'll do one free on the phone, and then we do have to do uh, after hours after this, guys.
01:22:30.000 So the time flew, bro.
01:22:32.000 Yeah, yeah, I do need to give a few also before we wrap up some key legal advice to everyone that I'm right before we close so they can you know make sure they have it.
01:22:41.000 And guys, like episodes like this are very important, man.
01:22:44.000 Like I said, this isn't really about going viral.
01:22:45.000 I know some of you guys probably, you know, can really use some of this advice right now.
01:22:49.000 Maybe you guys are in a tough spot or you know someone that you love that's going through this.
01:22:52.000 So, what else do we got here?
01:22:54.000 Yeah, this can save you a lot of time and headache.
01:22:56.000 Yes.
01:22:56.000 Is there a way to avoid having to pay alimony even if you are legally married or are you cooked?
01:23:00.000 Yeah.
01:23:01.000 So, okay.
01:23:03.000 Number one is if you have a prenup, that would be the best way.
01:23:06.000 The number two, I mean, I got out of my 12 year marriage without paying alimony.
01:23:10.000 Why?
01:23:10.000 Because my ex made false allegations that led me to resign my job, that led me to be unemployed.
01:23:16.000 You know what I'm saying?
01:23:17.000 So, there are ways to get out of alimony.
01:23:20.000 We fought against alimony for many of our clients.
01:23:23.000 We've done so successfully, many of our clients.
01:23:25.000 I'm not necessarily, and everything we do is legal and ethical.
01:23:28.000 Maybe a little bit difficult to get into all the details of it, but generally, if you're unemployed and it's beyond your control, that's a way to get out of alimony.
01:23:36.000 The expenses you have could be a way to get out of alimony.
01:23:38.000 There's a lot of different options, and just hit us up and, you know, for a direct consultation, we could talk about advice that can benefit your situation.
01:23:44.000 Good stuff.
01:23:45.000 Yeah, because it seems like it's very, like it depends on a multitude of different factors that are personal.
01:23:49.000 Right.
01:23:50.000 Okay.
01:23:52.000 Rudy says, excellent show, guys.
01:23:54.000 Got you, bro.
01:23:54.000 Like I said, every now and then, dude, we got to do a show like this for you guys.
01:23:59.000 Hey, it's not going to go as viral.
01:24:00.000 Oh, it's not going to be, oh, is this going to be all over the place viral on Twitter?
01:24:03.000 No, but this might save your life.
01:24:06.000 Let's see here.
01:24:07.000 K. Kruger says, or C. K. C. Kruger says, as a regular dude, can I and should I do an NDA with my girl to discourage online lies or even truths since I'm in public service?
01:24:16.000 What is the process for that?
01:24:17.000 So, yeah, I mean, there's absolutely room for non disclosure agreements, confidentiality agreements, non disclosure.
01:24:22.000 Non disparagement agreements.
01:24:24.000 And look, those are not going to protect someone if they engage in actual abuse and criminal activity.
01:24:29.000 But for a lot of times, I encourage people that are in the limelight in public service contact us or lawyers you trust on how to protect your reputation.
01:24:39.000 I think 50% of it is about who you allow into your life, but the other 50% is still knowing what legal mechanisms to have in place.
01:24:48.000 And yeah, we live in a world right now where anyone can pick up their phone and write something and destroy someone's life.
01:24:53.000 Yeah.
01:24:53.000 It's that you make a tweet or whatever, and then boom, you know, you got a government clearance or you're doing some type of stuff.
01:24:58.000 Like, yeah, they can destroy your life.
01:24:59.000 Yeah, so there are ways to protect yourself, and I think it's a worthwhile investment to speak with intern about what sort of templates, legal docs you should have in place to protect yourself.
01:25:07.000 That makes sense, especially for someone like you got a government job, you got a clearance, you're a lawyer, you're a doctor, you got like a precious license you're trying to protect.
01:25:14.000 100%.
01:25:14.000 That might be a good idea.
01:25:15.000 Wow, I didn't think about that.
01:25:16.000 A lot of business guys have NDAs on their like parties and yachts just because it's just safer.
01:25:22.000 Man, a lot of my friends and clients, some of them, even when visiting their homes, just to enter their premise, you have.
01:25:27.000 To sign multiple waivers and NDAs.
01:25:29.000 Now, again, the level of enforceability and applicability is different, but it can make a big difference.
01:25:33.000 You know what I'm saying?
01:25:34.000 It can make a big, big difference.
01:25:36.000 Yeah, good point.
01:25:38.000 Who's up next?
01:25:39.000 All right, we could do one more phone call and then Hassan will give some parting advice on the way out.
01:25:46.000 You got a real lawyer here, man.
01:25:47.000 Yeah, I mean, look, I want to make sure that we get this information out for you guys.
01:25:52.000 Like I said, I said, you know, I'm not going to do a debrief today because this is that important for you guys.
01:25:57.000 5895, you're up.
01:25:59.000 5895, you're up.
01:26:01.000 What's up, man?
01:26:01.000 What's your question?
01:26:02.000 Hello?
01:26:03.000 Yeah.
01:26:03.000 Hello.
01:26:05.000 Hello, how are you doing?
01:26:06.000 It's an honor to be in the show, Myron.
01:26:08.000 What's up, brother?
01:26:09.000 How are you?
01:26:10.000 Ask your question.
01:26:10.000 What's your question?
01:26:11.000 Okay, so I got a question.
01:26:14.000 Like, what is your advice for the younger generation to succeed in life?
01:26:22.000 That's actually a great question.
01:26:23.000 What is your advice for the younger generation to succeed in life?
01:26:26.000 Just keep the gratitude attitude.
01:26:27.000 Yeah.
01:26:28.000 Literally, keep the gratitude attitude and understand that our elevation is through our tribulation.
01:26:32.000 It's your outlook, it's not what happens to you that defines you, but how you react to it.
01:26:36.000 I went through a situation where I literally lost everything.
01:26:39.000 And when I lost everything, I remained grateful.
01:26:41.000 I remained patient.
01:26:43.000 I remained steadfast.
01:26:45.000 And I just pulled myself back together with the help of God.
01:26:47.000 I became more successful, more well known, more wealthier than I was before.
01:26:54.000 It's always about how you react.
01:26:56.000 And if you can always have a grateful attitude and just appreciate the gift of life and make the most of what you've been given and understand that tribulation only serves to elevate you.
01:27:07.000 If you react appropriately, you will rise high.
01:27:09.000 So most people are defeated by their own mindset.
01:27:11.000 But if you keep an optimistic mindset, you keep your trust in God and you work hard, no matter what happens to you, you will come out of everything a winner.
01:27:18.000 And I believe I'm a testament to that.
01:27:19.000 I mean, they literally told me, we're going to destroy your ability to do public service, civil rights, public speaking, we're going to bury you.
01:27:25.000 And thank God, through their attempts to bury me, it freed me.
01:27:28.000 I stopped caring what anyone thinks.
01:27:30.000 I stopped caring what the liberal media thinks.
01:27:32.000 I wasn't afraid to speak truth to power.
01:27:34.000 And again, my wealth went up 10x.
01:27:36.000 My following went up 10x.
01:27:37.000 It's because I stopped fearing people.
01:27:39.000 I stopped living a life of trying to impress people.
01:27:42.000 I stopped living a life trying to care what people think of me.
01:27:45.000 I just did the right thing at the right time, each and every time.
01:27:48.000 And I was able to grow stronger than that.
01:27:49.000 So that's people get held back because they give too much of a damn about what other people think.
01:27:54.000 Stop giving a damn what people think. 0.58
01:27:56.000 Live your life.
01:27:57.000 Do what's best for you.
01:27:58.000 At each and every time, and what's best for your loved ones without caring what people think, liberate yourself from the opinion of others, do what's right, and you will grow no matter what happens to you.
01:28:08.000 All right.
01:28:09.000 Good stuff.
01:28:09.000 There you go.
01:28:10.000 Cool.
01:28:11.000 So thanks, man, for calling in.
01:28:14.000 All right.
01:28:14.000 So, Hassan, I know you said you wanted to.
01:28:16.000 Yeah.
01:28:16.000 Parting words.
01:28:16.000 Parting words for the people.
01:28:17.000 Yes.
01:28:17.000 Some tips that you want to give.
01:28:18.000 Absolutely.
01:28:19.000 So, I'm just going to share some of the most important legal advice that I've come across throughout my life.
01:28:24.000 Number one, when it comes to traveling across the border as an American citizen, they have to let you in the country.
01:28:30.000 Yeah.
01:28:31.000 So, if you ever get picked for random inspection at the border and you're a citizen, don't answer any of their questions.
01:28:37.000 You have no obligation to answer any of their questions and don't be scared.
01:28:40.000 Keep your mouth shut. 0.65
01:28:41.000 Say, I'm an American citizen. 0.96
01:28:42.000 This is my ID.
01:28:43.000 Let me know, I can go in.
01:28:44.000 If they ask to unlock your cell phone at the border or for your password, you have no legal obligation to unlock it or give them the password.
01:28:53.000 They may threaten to take the phone away, but I've seen them take the phone away more often when you unlock it and when you give the password.
01:28:59.000 So do not unlock the phone. 0.87
01:29:01.000 Do not answer questions at the border if you're an American citizen.
01:29:04.000 That's number one.
01:29:05.000 Number two is if you're ever approached by the FBI for questioning, never, ever speak to the FBI without a lawyer.
01:29:12.000 You cannot talk yourself out of trouble.
01:29:14.000 You can only talk yourself into trouble.
01:29:15.000 You're going to say it until proven guilty.
01:29:17.000 You know, so do not talk to the FBI without a lawyer.
01:29:17.000 Yeah.
01:29:21.000 And the same can apply for local police as well.
01:29:24.000 The same can apply for local police.
01:29:25.000 Number three, if you feel like you may be targeted by false accusations by the government, by someone that worked for you, by the opposite gender, whatever it is, contact a lawyer right away to kill it before it becomes a problem.
01:29:38.000 Okay.
01:29:38.000 And especially big for, like you were saying before, false allegations.
01:29:42.000 Exactly.
01:29:43.000 Huge, huge.
01:29:44.000 Number four. 1.00
01:29:45.000 Is never get legally married without a prenup.
01:29:48.000 I mean, these are sort of some of the like literally this advice, all of it would save lives.
01:29:52.000 And I give you stories about how it saved lives, but this advice, knowing your rights with law enforcement, knowing your rights as it comes to your marriage and your relationship, you know, can literally save your life. 0.79
01:30:01.000 So just don't get legally married without a prenup.
01:30:03.000 Don't talk to law enforcement without a lawyer.
01:30:06.000 Ever, ever, ever, ever.
01:30:08.000 Contact the lawyer.
01:30:08.000 And I, again, I do a just one hour segment, one hour lecture on that.
01:30:12.000 And that was, I got stories for days on that, but just take my word for it.
01:30:16.000 People think that, oh, I got nothing to hide.
01:30:18.000 So, there's no reason that I shouldn't speak to them.
01:30:20.000 But trust me, many innocent people with nothing to hide have destroyed their lives when they spoke without a lawyer.
01:30:25.000 So, just don't talk to the FBI or law enforcement without a lawyer.
01:30:28.000 At the border, if you're an American citizen, don't answer extra questions and do not unlock your phone.
01:30:34.000 And thirdly, just don't get legally married without a prenup. 0.79
01:30:36.000 That's my advice.
01:30:37.000 And keep a lawyer you trust.
01:30:38.000 You know, if you need help, feel free to reach out to me and my team.
01:30:41.000 We're always here, you know, happy to help Muslimlegal.com or you can hit us up, Hassan Shibley ESQ on Instagram.
01:30:47.000 Oh, it's all your socials below.
01:30:49.000 Appreciate it, guys.
01:30:49.000 Go check them out.
01:30:50.000 Thank you so much.
01:30:50.000 So make sure you definitely, and he practices here in Florida, but he also does federal.
01:30:54.000 And, you know, as you guys can see, very diversified in a multitude of different things.
01:30:58.000 Also, very base.
01:30:58.000 Yeah.
01:30:59.000 Yeah.
01:30:59.000 So you have so many good clients.
01:31:00.000 Yeah.
01:31:01.000 Yes, sir.
01:31:01.000 So, real quick before we go, you want to say anything?
01:31:04.000 Because I know you work with Dan.
01:31:07.000 You want to talk about the political stuff real quick?
01:31:08.000 Yeah.
01:31:08.000 So we're, I mean, listen, Florida has a national and international embarrassment that is named Randy Fine.
01:31:15.000 This is someone who's just, I mean, really as uncivilized as they get.
01:31:20.000 Yeah.
01:31:20.000 You know, uncivilized as they get.
01:31:21.000 Yeah.
01:31:22.000 I mean, he's literally post.
01:31:23.000 Pictures of babies.
01:31:24.000 Now, I don't care if those babies are Muslim, Jewish, Palestinian, Arab, Christian, white, black. 0.99
01:31:31.000 Anybody who posts pictures of dead babies and celebrates it is an abomination. 1.00
01:31:37.000 Is just disgusting, is uncivilized, is demonic, is satanic. 1.00
01:31:43.000 Only Satan celebrates dead babies. 1.00
01:31:46.000 This person posts pictures of dead Palestinian babies and celebrates them. 0.88
01:31:51.000 I would be equally outraged if he did that with Jewish babies. 0.99
01:31:54.000 I'm sorry, you gotta be sicker than sick to celebrate the killing of innocent children. 0.99
01:31:59.000 He said the bloods of Gaza should flow with blood. 1.00
01:32:02.000 I mean, demonic, satanic. 0.99
01:32:05.000 So he's the worst of the worst. 0.85
01:32:06.000 Daniel Zieran is running against him for Congress.
01:32:10.000 To unseat him, I encourage everyone.
01:32:12.000 Listen, I've known Dan.
01:32:13.000 I mean, from the first night I met Dan, when he texted me, his first words to me were literally, My hedonistic days are over.
01:32:21.000 I just want to be a force for good in the world.
01:32:23.000 You know, I've done everything that people dream of in life and didn't bring me happiness.
01:32:28.000 But I want to speak out against this evil that I see.
01:32:30.000 I want to speak out against injustice.
01:32:32.000 I want to be truly America first.
01:32:34.000 I want to keep American tax dollars at home.
01:32:36.000 So he's running for Congress.
01:32:37.000 I'm happy to support his campaign.
01:32:39.000 I got some interesting things that are coming up that I think you'll hear about soon.
01:32:42.000 But I encourage everyone, you know, Follow him on X. You'll see the link, donate to support his campaign, and get all of your friends in the district where Randy Fine is that can vote to vote this Randy out.
01:32:56.000 Yeah, he's got to get out.
01:32:57.000 He's an embarrassment to all of us. 0.83
01:32:58.000 Yeah, 100%. 0.94
01:33:00.000 Cool.
01:33:00.000 And where's the best place people could find you?
01:33:02.000 Oh, just on X.
01:33:03.000 It's my name, Hassan Shibley, on Instagram, Hassan Shibley ESQ.
01:33:07.000 And then if you need legal help, a lot of times people try to just get into my DMs, and I do try to respond, but realistically, it's impossible.
01:33:13.000 That's why I've reinvested my profits to grow a team right now, have a solid team that works literally day and night.
01:33:19.000 To give people the best possible legal representation that we can.
01:33:21.000 So, if you do need legal help, especially in areas of discrimination, government harassment, false allegations, immigration, again, criminal investigations, FBI abuse, or family law, hit us up at Muslimlegal.com.
01:33:34.000 We're proud to represent anyone regardless of their race.
01:33:37.000 We're not the ones that would be represented against us.
01:33:39.000 Actually, you picked up a Catholic partner.
01:33:42.000 So, we got this amazing Catholic Italian American attorney who's been actually doing family law for over 20 years and does appellate work.
01:33:50.000 So, she's some of the best of the best.
01:33:52.000 From South Florida, actually.
01:33:54.000 So she's joining my firm, and we're going to keep her firm open as well.
01:33:57.000 We're joining forces.
01:33:58.000 So we have the Muslim legal name on one end.
01:34:00.000 We're going to have another name for that firm.
01:34:01.000 We didn't announce it yet, so I'm not going to say it yet, but we'll have a name that I think can resonate with a lot of people.
01:34:08.000 We're here to protect the Constitution for everyone.
01:34:10.000 That's what this is about.
01:34:11.000 That's what makes America great.
01:34:12.000 And we can keep America great by protecting the Constitution and justice for everyone.
01:34:16.000 Yeah.
01:34:16.000 And Hassan has helped me out quite a bit, guys.
01:34:18.000 Like I call him at random hours and stuff, and he helps me out.
01:34:20.000 So, you know, there's a reason why I brought him on.
01:34:21.000 And, you know, obviously, you know, when you've been through it, Like they're able to, you know, help you to another level.
01:34:26.000 But yeah, go check them out, guys.
01:34:27.000 I'll put all those links below. 1.00
01:34:28.000 We're going to be back with some lovely ladies.
01:34:30.000 Hassan, thank you so much for coming on the show, bro.
01:34:32.000 It was great.
01:34:32.000 My pleasure, brother.
01:34:33.000 Thanks for having me.
01:34:33.000 Thank you.
01:34:34.000 God bless, man.
01:34:34.000 All right.
01:34:35.000 Later, guys. 1.00
01:34:35.000 We'll see you guys back here in about 10, 15 minutes with probably 20 minutes with some girls. 1.00
01:34:40.000 Peace.
01:34:42.000 Peace.