On this episode of Couples intervention, we have a special guest, Bianca. She is a college student from Ecuador and is an influencer and influencer. We talk about how she got into influencer culture and how she started her career. We also talk about Ben Shapiro and Candace Owens and how they have been doing their best to get their message out there and how to deal with it. Lastly, we talk about the Top 10 Red Pill Songs of all time and the Top 20 Red Pill songs of all-time. We have a 3 part series coming on Friday where we have Psych Hacks, After Hours, and After Hours. Stay tuned for that! Cheers, Cheers. Cheers Cheers! Cheers from The Couples Intervene Podcast. Hosted by: , , and . This episode was recorded on Wednesday, February 1st, 2020, at the FreshFit HQ in Atlanta, Georgia. We are working on transcribing the entire episode and putting it on a website. We will be uploading it on Friday, February 8th, 2020. We will upload it on the Fresh Fit Podcast. We apologize for the audio issues, we re still working on fixing them. Thank you so much for all the love and support, we appreciate all the support. , Cheers <3 - Cheers - The Fresh Fit Team. - Jon & Bianca Jon & Bianca -Jon & Biscuits - The FreshFit Podcast - Jon and Bianna Ben & Bijay - Biancoffeex - Ben Shapiro - Candace - . . . - - Ben Shapiro & Candace Ochs - & Candance Occhia - :D - The Besties - Mikey - and & Mikey - and , & The Top Ten Red Pill Song of All-Time - ( ) (featuring: , , B. (and ) - Red Pills - , Red Pill SONG: The Best of the Week, and Red Pill - etc. - Red Pill, - And Red Peeves & ) - Red Pill s, , The Top 10 of the Day, and the Best Song of The Week, and (
00:03:33.000So if you guys like Twitter, you guys want to see another side that you might not necessarily see on YouTube, Go and check me out over there on Unplugged Fidex.
00:03:39.000Let's get to 100k before the end of the year.
00:03:41.000I've only made it less than a week ago, I think, and we're already at almost 30k.
00:03:46.000W. And then, yeah, for the people that are saying audio, whatever, tell us what the issue is then, because I want to see what the trolls got to say.
00:05:55.000Okay, so you are a student and you have a social media management thing, which I'm assuming you take on accounts and you help them with posting and stuff like that, whether it's a small business that wants to get more reach on Instagram or something like that?
00:06:08.000Yeah, I feel like we're really good at that.
00:06:11.000He taught me a lot that I know about social media, and then it's kind of when I hopped on and started my own ventures on it.
00:09:22.000So, and then I guess through you guys helping this girl out, you guys became friends first, and then, okay, when did you guys go like on your first date or whatever?
00:09:31.000So like it was kind of just like I invited him to the club because I had my birthday party at the club and then we've I mean we were just friends like we didn't really like think of anything plus and then I don't know we just got each other alone and then just clicked immediately we talked for like four hours we talked for like eight hours like just talking How did you know that she was the one you wanted to go out with?
00:11:10.000I feel like even at the age that we're at, it's even harder just to be married so young.
00:11:15.000But, I mean, originally from him, he was like, off the bat, like one of my really good friends, and I think Any relationship that starts off as friends is something that you treasure and you should hold because then you really get to know the person without any ulterior motives and I never had any ulterior motives with him.
00:11:36.000I mean it's just like we automatically clicked and everything was completely like so magical like it was like super romantic and everything and I just I fell in love with that and um Did you friendzone him first?
00:11:49.000No, I mean, we never really friendzoned each other.
00:11:52.000It just never got past a certain point, you know?
00:11:59.000You never, like, talked to him before?
00:12:01.000No, I just, I literally, like, was walking over to the sushi place and I saw him in a Camaro with, like, three other friends who looked like they did TikTok and I was like, they look like an interesting crowd.
00:14:40.000Something that was present in the beginning but isn't present anymore.
00:14:44.000Just a lot of respect is the biggest issue, I feel like.
00:14:48.000I mean, I feel like both ways we don't respect each other as much as we should.
00:14:54.000And I mean, I really would like to get to the bottom of that because I feel like what drives me insane or what drives me crazy and turns me into this crazy girl is just disrespect I don't like.
00:15:28.000Yeah, I mean, I just started speaking in Spanish.
00:15:33.000And when she gets mad, I mean, she talks with me in Spanish, but when she gets mad, she starts talking in English and insulting me in English.
00:15:42.000Real quick, so you gave your issues, right?
00:15:44.000That you want a traditional relationship, you want to be a leader, be more intuitive, understand things about you that doesn't have to necessarily be said, and you don't like the 50-50 split.
00:15:55.000Yeah, because I want to be fair if we just asked her what her problems are and what are yours.
00:15:58.000Well, I think my problems with her are like, I think she lacks a lot of maturity when it comes to, you know, a lot of situations.
00:16:10.000Okay, can you give us like kind of an example so we're able to contextualize it?
00:16:14.000Yeah, I mean, she seems like a kid in a lot of situations, like just regular situations, like getting up, I don't know, coming home, going out, I don't know, like behave.
00:16:48.000I think the biggest thing also, I should probably mention this, and I guess you can turn this into a mental illness episode if you would like.
00:19:00.000The only thing I would like her to change is her opening her mind or her possibilities to do new things.
00:19:07.000She's very close-minded in terms of, I don't know, she likes to work on a nine-to-five, I don't know, and not being an entrepreneur or not working on that or being super negative about a lot of things.
00:19:21.000And I'm super positive about everything in life in general.
00:22:00.000I feel like I do everything around the house like cleaning and cooking and stuff like that and I kind of just expect I feel like I feel like fifth in my foundational basis I feel like 50 50 isn't a hundred percent fair because I have to do like the housework you know like I feel like I'm basically paying to do the housework at this point and Like,
00:22:19.000I have to pay for my cleaning supplies and just, like, pay to get the housework while he kind of sits on his PlayStation and I have to cook and clean and do stuff, you know?
00:22:29.000So you do all the homemaking duties while also paying half the bills?
00:22:42.000Let's say, no, sometimes I'm, like, emotional about certain things, let's say, but nothing is a big deal for me, and I don't really care about, like...
00:22:52.000When you argue with her, what is it mostly about?
00:22:54.000So she has her issue with going 50-50 and doing housework.
00:22:57.000What's your problem with her if there's an argument?
00:23:43.000Okay, but your light hasn't cut off, but in general, if a problem comes, she responds emotionally to it and becomes very difficult to deal with.
00:25:16.000My mom, my dad is, like, he always has, like, he's always instilled in me, like, this provider mentality of, like, you know, men need to be protectors and providers, and I feel like my definition of a man, or, like...
00:25:31.000Yeah, just based off of my father is someone who is a protector and a provider.
00:25:35.000I don't know if you guys agree with that, but at least what other women are teaching me as well is that, you know, men need to be protectors and providers.
00:25:44.000That's what you should search in a man.
00:25:46.000So, with your dad, your mom worked, but she worked a side job, nothing serious.
00:26:37.000In Argentina, where I come from, if a guy meets a girl and they're boyfriend and girlfriend, they can split 50-50 everything and there's no issue about it.
00:26:48.000I respect the hustle of a girl, and I respect the hustle of a guy.
00:26:51.000I mean, I don't care if, for example, she always criticizes OnlyFans, like, oh, OnlyFans is this, like, bad thing.
00:26:58.000And, you know, my ex-girlfriend was, like, a huge OnlyFans girl.
00:27:06.000I'm not going to lie, and I'm saying this publicly, I feel like I have to not compete with her, but I'm always like, what does he see in me if his last girl...
00:27:22.000But his ex, and I don't want to seem insecure about it at all, but his ex is this girl with huge tits and a big ass and does OnlyFans, and I just feel like that is so...
00:31:25.000I'm all for not changing people's mentality, but I have tried to tell him this.
00:31:30.000Can you agree that doing pornography with your couple is fine, but I mean, the difference for me is you're not doing anything in person with another guy.
00:31:56.000So, she could be sending other stuff that you don't know about.
00:31:59.000Yeah, I mean, she was, I mean, the thing is, her OnlyFans was so big that she had people working on, their OnlyFans, like, she wasn't, like, in charge of selling.
00:36:40.000They did mention they want to do couples therapy before they came to the show, which means they actually want to actively work on this themselves.
00:37:29.000I am Davey, 50 bucks goes, WFNF, 24 years old, going to hit 50K in the bank by January.
00:37:33.000How can I grow up more, keep up the work, boys?
00:37:35.000Keep that money on the side, bro, and then go ahead and start saving more money to invest into.
00:37:40.000That's your emergency fund, my friend.
00:37:43.000Taj goes, Myron, I have my oral board interview for the police department tomorrow morning.
00:37:47.000Are there any last minute tips, advice you can give me, excluding suit slash tie and doing research on a department I feel very confident right now, but I would love your expertise.
00:37:56.000Bro, just be calm, go in there, get a good night's sleep, and then they're going to ask you questions about your moral character and everything else like that.
00:38:04.000Be okay with telling the truth, like, hey, there was this one time where I was conflicted, etc., but I wanted to do X, but I ended up doing Y. That's very important, because they are probably going to ask you a question that is integrity-based like that.
00:38:15.000So just have a story ready to go in your head, where you were tempted to do something and you didn't.
00:39:22.000I'm an average Asian male and making 55k a year, 55 foot 8, 35 years old, 180 pounds, body count of 3, happily married with our 4 biological kids.
00:42:14.000We wanted to move to more close to Miami, like Sunny Isles, and pay like $2.5, like $300 more, and we're living in Sunny Isles, much better, I think.
00:44:26.000I love, you know, to go out every nightclub, you know, flirt with every girl.
00:44:32.000That's a really good lifestyle for me.
00:44:34.000It was for years, but, like, I was looking for a girl to, you know, to get married and just to have, like, a quiet life, not to get out, you know, to party every day.
00:44:45.000Do you think you're happy right now with Bianca?
00:45:49.000I mean, and yeah, pretty much I have to work on my phone, so literally, if she wants me to, you know, be more kind, buy her little flowers or whatever, I can do that.
00:46:00.000I mean, I know she loves me and I love her, but like, it's hard when you like live together for months, you know?
00:46:09.000Also, I'd like to mention, and you guys are, everyone in the chat's gonna, like, the chat's gonna blow up.
00:47:43.000He came and he left a good impression and then in New York we had an Airbnb together for like a week and we were just like I wanted to get out of my parents house I was just eager to get out of my parents house and he was like I need a place to live and I was like It's convenient.
00:50:30.000I would say the biggest thing that I need to work on, and I express this to him all the time, I don't think the problems in our relationship are one-sided.
00:50:41.000I'm not that type of girl to be like, it's your fault, you're a piece of shit.
00:50:49.000You say that when you're arguing, right?
00:50:50.000No, like, I guess like being disrespected a little bit kind of just like pushes you to say that because I feel like a lot of the reason why girls act, why they act or why women act very emotional is just I feel like they're being pushed to that point.
00:52:40.000So, yeah, I think that after the time, it fades a little bit, but you can get to a mutual agreement of, you know, the respect and, you know, the interest about the other person.
00:52:53.000So, basically, you love-bombed her for like a week or two and said, okay, I got her now.
00:53:02.000So, again, I bring this to you because, honestly speaking, bro, it happens to most guys.
00:53:07.000You put in the work at the beginning, you get her, you relax, it gets complacent, and then she's like, damn, nagging you a little bit, nudging you, like, hey, could you do this, could you do that?
00:53:16.000Do you agree with that, what he just said?
00:53:18.000Yeah, I feel like naggy wife is kind of the role that I've taken up and I don't like it.
00:54:35.000As a leader, as a man, being someone that's married to a woman, you have to understand that you have to be that guy who's going to take care of the family, be there for her.
00:54:46.000You're in the U.S. You've got to conform to something.
00:54:48.000Now, as a man, if you don't want to do that, then she's not for you.
00:54:52.000And as a woman, if you want your man to be along those lines of a leader and be an actual high-value man, then you chose the wrong person because if he doesn't want to change, then what'd you do?
00:55:02.000So I think on some level, You guys have a love there, but the understanding and the foundation is rocky.
00:55:08.000And if you don't change now, it won't get any better for the future.
00:55:12.000And to be honest with you, I think he's comfortable where he's at.
00:55:15.000You want him to do better, but is he going to change?
00:55:18.000Yeah, I want her to step on, you know, and be on my level.
00:55:21.000And, you know, if I make, let's say, I make a thousand dollars a day, she needs to, you know, be motivated by that and say, okay, I can do like 200, 500, let's say.
00:55:36.000So you want her to do better, but she wants you to do better by two different things.
00:55:40.000So, I'm saying in a nutshell, that right now, you both want different things that you can't give each other.
00:55:46.000And as a result, what's gonna happen is, more arguments, more toxic environments, and if you don't fix it now, I wanna say the foundation, it's never gonna work out.
00:55:55.000Question, you said you bought that BMW, right, cash?
00:58:15.000Whenever you look at a woman and she's frustrated or she's in a situation and she's nagging or whatever, a lot of the time it's because the man isn't doing his job.
00:58:23.000Now, does that mean that she's off the hook?
00:58:24.000No, she has some things that she has to work on as well with the BPD and everything, but your inadequacies are bringing you out even more so because you're not doing your job, so it's heightening her instability.
00:58:36.000I feel like I can't be a completely feminine woman and just be in my feminine energy of just mothering something or being...
00:58:44.000Because how am I going to mother something if I have to constantly worry about, oh, how am I going to pay this bill?
00:59:31.000And the other telling thing, too, is that you want to be able to save money, and you don't really want to be a breadwinner yourself.
00:59:37.000You want to be able to kind of make money, save as much of it, and then have her chip in with the bills, which I understand, but that's not what she wants.
00:59:44.000So you guys are looking for two different things.
00:59:46.000She's looking for a traditional masculine figure, and you're more of like a more modern man, which, unfortunately, I'm going to give you some advice here.
00:59:55.000Most women, even the most liberal women, believe what she believes.
00:59:58.000Even a girl that has a career that makes a bunch of money, she's still going to want you to make more money, bro.
01:02:32.000She's helping you stay in the country.
01:02:33.000She is petitioning for your green card.
01:02:36.000She's taking an enormous amount of risk on you, and what she wants in return is a leader, a guy that's gonna take care of her, a guy that's gonna be dominant, a guy that's gonna be assertive.
01:02:43.000Looking at your girl and saying, hey, keep up with me, make money with me, Do you want another dude?
01:03:10.000I feel like girls have this thing where they like to turn their brain off when they're with their man because they know their man has got it.
01:05:40.000He's like, oh, you want a man that, like, being a man that pays everything for his girl, that's prostitution because you're exchanging sex for money, which is, it's not that.
01:05:50.000It's not, I don't feel like it's that.
01:07:29.000You need to literally take your 20s and grind.
01:07:32.000Like, fuck having a car, fuck partying, fuck drugs, fuck all this other dumb shit.
01:07:36.000You should literally be at home, working with your wife, building a legacy, right?
01:07:40.000Because you decided to get married, and she took an enormous amount of risk on you, getting you a green card, letting you stay here, right?
01:07:46.000Where there's more opportunity than in Argentina.
01:09:33.000I mean, it's not like, hey, I'm a scammer.
01:09:34.000I'm like, hey, I want you for your green card, so I'm not going to behave that way for a certain amount of time until I get my green card and then I'm gone.
01:09:42.000No, I'm transparent and I'm always going to be honest with her.
01:10:07.000If you want her to do what she's supposed to do, you want her to be your wife, you want her to stay, like, you know, cook and clean for you, et cetera, while you play PlayStation, it costs to be the boss, man.
01:10:16.000You can't sit there and play PlayStation and then go 50-50 with her and then expect her to do what she's supposed to do.
01:10:22.000You need to do your job and then that allows her to do her job.
01:10:48.000Like, she's going to be in her feminine state, and she's going to be less likely to nag you or whatever when you're doing what you're supposed to do.
01:10:53.000If you're paying all the bills, you take care of her.
01:12:56.000So, like, whether it's with her or with another woman, regardless, every girl, regardless how much money they make, always wants a breadwinner, wants a leader.
01:13:02.000I'm just realizing this, and yeah, thank you.
01:13:05.000The thing is, when I was in Argentina, let's say, living a single life, when I paid everything for a girl, I was like, in my mindset, it was like, okay, I'm impressing this girl, I'm paying for the apartment, I have...
01:13:17.000I used to rent like the luxurious apartment in Argentina and I had a really nice car in Argentina and I was like if I pay everything for a girl it's for me to impress that girl for like temporary time and then I kick her out and I keep going with my work and that's how life is and that's that's here's the thing bro I'm not telling you to pay for every girl like don't do that shit I'm saying this is your wife Yeah.
01:16:36.000He gets mad at me about me not going to the gym, but he doesn't go to the gym either.
01:16:41.000So I feel like for me to actually take initiative and stuff like that, I feel like I need a leader and a partner to do those kinds of things.
01:16:48.000There's little things like walking the dog out.
01:17:37.000Let's say I present myself as this man who comes from Argentina who had a different mindset and now I realize in this country everything works differently.
01:17:48.000It's a process for me to change and I'm willing to do the change.
01:17:53.000I know in a lot of countries, you guys are from here, right?
01:23:27.000But being disrespected and my opinions not being held accountable when I'm cooking and cleaning and still paying my half of the bills, I don't like it.
01:24:54.000I'm always like, we should work on our issues.
01:24:57.000The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
01:24:59.000And starting afresh with someone new, you're just going to have the same issues.
01:25:04.000Yeah, I mean, the other girl, whatever other girl you get is gonna probably want the same shit, bro.
01:25:09.000Yeah, like, love-bombing someone for, like, a month.
01:25:14.000I mean, love-bombing someone for, like, a month is, like, I feel like any man that is, like, is a man, like, he provides for his dream girl, you know?
01:25:22.000Like, I feel like his wife is a trophy, you know?
01:25:26.000Like, not trophy wife stuff, but, like, I mean, his wife is something that he looks up to, that he respects, and I just...
01:25:32.000And I also wouldn't be able to make it without her.
01:25:34.000I mean, she also does a lot of things that are good for me, and I really appreciate her.
01:25:40.000And also, I don't know how to cook or clean or do anything.
01:25:57.000And maybe even the chat, you know, just leave your opinions on there.
01:26:01.000What do you guys think about men and just boys in general who act like...
01:26:07.000A flirtatious on Instagram, you know, like liking girls bikini pictures, DMing them and telling that they're pretty, calling them gorgeous, calling them all that stuff.
01:26:34.000Look, bro, I mean, if we're going to even get into this part, look, if you want to flirt with other girls and you want to have other women, again, it's going to cost to be the boss, man.
01:28:32.000I don't want anybody in here talking shit because realistically, some of y'all are with a girl right now and you go on 50-50 and she doesn't respect you either.
01:28:48.000He's still building up something for himself.
01:28:50.000I don't want to be that woman who builds up a man and has him built up just for another girl to take him or just for him to be with another girl.
01:28:59.000I don't like being Bob the fucking builder.
01:29:03.000For a man, I'm not gonna, like, you know, like, release hammers on all this shit.
01:29:08.000Like, I want him to step up and I want him to realize that what this is is, like, he's, like, trying to adapt to this modern mentality that's not working and that's why men are, like, dying off.
01:29:35.000You can't have your cake and eat it too.
01:29:37.000If he ends up making the amount of money that you want where he's supporting you, taking care of you, etc., more than likely other women are going to like that.
01:29:44.000But usually the case is the woman builds the man up and he gets to this luxurious lifestyle where she ends up being super loyal to the man and then she gets cheated on by him by these other girls that are younger.
01:29:59.000If you are the one building your man up, that's a problem.
01:30:09.000No, I think the thing is you have the fear of me leaving and I think if you make it work with me, I won't leave and you're not going to leave also.