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00:02:57.000I got a new mic here, so Mo's going to be calibrating it live, real time.
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00:13:53.000I tested out of high school and then started college.
00:13:56.000Okay, I was literally going to say, did you take AP class in high school or what?
00:13:59.000So what they did, the criteria was you take a test, it's all the high school curriculum, you test out of it, and then I just started college.
00:14:07.000Okay, so you were going to school, like physically high school, and then simultaneously going to college.
00:26:12.000So the question is, when was the last time a man went above and beyond for you, meaning he did the world for you, but you dumped him anyway?
00:27:43.000I feel like that's a very ambiguous question because if he went up and above for me and I still dumped him, I feel like it wouldn't be fair if he went up and above for me and I would have just dumped him.
00:27:54.000What happened to me last time is that I thought he did, but then, you know, essentially I found out that he just didn't...
00:28:21.000I don't know if he laughed on me because at the end of the day, I felt like it was very, you know, what's the word, reasonable what he did for me.
00:28:31.000We both did nice things for each other.
00:28:33.000But at the end of the day, I caught him talking to other girls.
00:28:36.000And I mean, it's fine if we weren't serious, but I told him, like, this is not cool to me.
00:28:41.000So I was like, I don't want to do this anymore.
00:28:44.000We still don't know what he did above and beyond, though.
00:28:46.000Oh, uh, he, uh, well, he would buy me really nice gifts, but also do really nice favors for me, and I know the gifts are not everything, but it just, it's nice, it's a nice gesture, and I find that to be a nice, you know, go above and beyond for me.
00:29:00.000So he bought you really expensive gifts?
00:29:02.000No, that's not, that's not just it, because I, my love language is to, uh, give things and be nice.
00:31:09.000Well, I mean, if you're interested in other women, why wouldn't you use a condom if you're gonna be interested in other women and me at the same time?
00:31:37.000I told him the boundaries, and then he didn't say anything, and I was just like, well, I'm not going to keep begging you for my attention, so wouldn't that be something, me dropping him as well?
00:31:47.000I'm not going to be like, hey, but it's okay.
00:32:33.000Well, I've only been in, like, one really serious, like, relationship, and I actually broke up with him because he failed to meet my standards.
00:32:57.000What did he not accomplish as far as your standard goes?
00:33:00.000It's not even about the different gestures he would do, but he was 25 and still living off of his parents' money and refused to do things for himself.
00:33:10.000I want to be with a man that my kids can look up to and respect, somebody who can hold his own.
00:33:15.000I gave him so many chances, but he just kept failing to achieve anything.
00:34:41.000Also, I was young, and I didn't know a lot of things, so I feel like I kind of just rushed into it, and I was like, it was my first time ever being in love.
00:34:50.000Does he know now that you were underage?
00:40:54.000If he's honest, if you come up to me and you say, hey, you're the main, but I'm going to have a chicken wing on the side, that's different.
00:46:20.000But when there's like nothing else going on, like it's just like you have nothing else to say but oh you're so pretty or I miss you or I love hanging out with you.
00:46:28.000There's no conversation, nothing real, no actual connection to like...
00:49:37.000Like, I don't know, because, honestly, it's kind of sad, but, like, I get everything that I need from, like...
00:49:43.000Me, myself, personally, financially, and like my parents.
00:49:48.000So, for a man to go out of his way to compliment me and like give me the affirmation and the support that I needed in a relationship when you're not blood, like I ate that up.
00:49:58.000And he gave me that, but he only spent four dollars on me.
00:50:28.000What he did is like he went above and beyond in his words of affirmation and I ate it up because I didn't hear like things like oh you're pretty you're beautiful like I didn't hear things like that.
01:03:56.000Maestro man, if you modern women are so proud of being 304s with the whole do you girl and no regrets mindset, why are y'all always so ashamed to say your body counts?
01:15:48.000Yeah, well, number one, the average, yeah, that's the average weight, right?
01:15:51.000But what I'm saying is that, like you're saying, there is no competition.
01:15:53.000I think that's kind of a crazy way to live life because if you're going to sit there and say, oh, there's no competition, well, by that default, then I can just be homeless and say, there's no competition, bro.
01:18:03.000But it's just that one gender tries to sit there and say that I don't compete with anyone or that I'm my own competition, which is a ludicrous way to look at the world.
01:18:09.000Because you compete with everybody no matter what, whether you go to school, sports, competing for a job, competing for a man.
01:18:55.000I mean, everybody has a different standard, but I would say there are some women that you could make the argument are pretty much objectively beautiful by most standards.
01:19:52.000I wanted to say, I wanted to add to what you guys were talking about.
01:19:55.000I think it's all about subjectivity, because at the end of the day, like you said, beauty is in the outer beholder, and sure, there's objective...
01:20:16.000Do you think men care about confidence from women?
01:20:35.000Do you think men care about female confidence?
01:20:38.000Yeah, I think so too because I've heard many...
01:20:40.000The answer is a profound no, we don't care about your confidence.
01:20:42.000Okay, but let me ask you a question because I've heard before that like, oh, men may think because you've seen a pretty insecure girl and you're like, oh, she's not that pretty because she's insecure.
01:20:50.000Or she's secure so she has more to add on.
01:21:09.000There are things that men universally find attractive and it tends to be that women don't really care and or know what the things that men find attractive.
01:21:17.000We don't care about your confidence or your ambition or any of that shit.
01:22:03.000You're fighting to talk to men, well, you're saying this in real time, that you don't even want.
01:22:09.000But it's funny because the men that you actually do want are taller than you, successful, On somewhat good looking, as well, they'll tell you what it is for the most part, but sometimes because they want to smash you, they'll tell you what you want to hear.
01:22:21.000So in retrospect speaking here, your idea of what looks might be is good for yourself, but in reality speaking, they're going to tell you what it is, just who they choose.
01:22:30.000Sometimes you can decipher when a man is telling you what you want to hear just so he can hate it.
01:22:54.000I just want to say one last thing, which is the dichotomy between women being nurturers and men being more into the nature part.
01:23:08.000Nurturers have this appease where they're more caring and have a little bit more emotional I want to say intelligence towards, you know, others.
01:23:16.000And with nature, well, of course, if we're talking about animalistic senses, well, men only care about certain characteristics to procreate and things like these.
01:23:24.000However, then how do you differentiate?
01:23:27.000Again, this is just me because I believe in a bit of a soul and a bit more deeper.
01:23:31.000How do you differentiate between animals that just have this sense of animalistic sense and then, like, humans?
01:23:35.000Like, why can't we progress towards caring about each other's, like, ambitions and things like these?
01:23:47.000Well, I'm saying that's your fault right now, is you're looking at things from a female lens, like, why don't you care about ambition, blah, blah, blah.
01:24:24.000The real reason why you're looking for ambition is because a man's ambition is directly tied to his ability to create resources in the future, which is what you're interested in.
01:24:30.000So that's a very selfish and self-interested way to look at things, which is fine.
01:24:34.000Because when we're mating, we're trying to be in our best interest.
01:24:37.000So what I'm saying is that men don't look for that because we know that we have to come into the relationship as a provider.
01:24:42.000So why do I give a shit about you being a provider?
01:24:44.000Well, they're not all providers because then there's the argument of the 50th.
01:24:48.000You're missing the whole point of the argument.
01:24:54.000I'm supposed to be the one that comes in to provide, so why would I care about your ability to provide when that's my job?
01:25:00.000If you got in a relationship with a guy and he spent more time to get ready than you and he was a super pretty boy, but he didn't provide any money, would you want to be with him?
01:25:08.000No, but would you care about the opposite?
01:25:09.000Would you want me to get ready and look pretty for you to provide for me?
01:26:49.000For us, we have to exist and know what women like, what they're attracted to, what they're not attracted to, dance around things, lie to y'all, sell your dreams, give you affirmations or whatever your love language is.
01:26:57.000You said your love language is getting gifts or whatever.
01:26:59.000Like, guys gotta understand all this shit to be able to get women, but women don't have to understand men to get men.
01:27:03.000Now, obviously, if you're the girl's top pick, you're going to care about him.
01:27:07.000You're going to want to be there for him and support him.
01:27:09.000But he has to be your top pick because he's doing what's providing for you.
01:27:12.000Angie's empathetic to me now, but she wouldn't have been empathetic had I not been the individual that I am.
01:28:22.000But I could easily come in, because I'm the leader, I'm supposed to be the man anyway, and tell her, I need you to do this, I need you to do that.
01:29:11.000No, I have a serious question because men say this all the time.
01:29:14.000No, because what I did was I put some investments on the side where I'm always going to be able to have a certain amount of money coming in regardless of what happens.
01:29:34.000But I will say that you guys always talk about, like, the Ferraris and the Porsches, which is understandable because there's a lot of women like that.
01:29:41.000But what's the difference between, like, being rich and, like, wealth, which is building education and building something with your man, and then, you know, being rich.
01:29:49.000I've met tacky people that have, like, all these Porsches and all these things, but it Have you ever been in Bugatti?
01:29:53.000They can just lose it, and that's not wealth.
01:29:55.000Well, he just said he's not going to lose it because he's smart with his money.
01:30:13.000It just comes down to being intelligent and obviously investing your money into certain assets that pay you back so if things were to go down you'd still be fine and you'd get passive income.
01:30:22.000If you figure out a way to make money while you sleep, you'll be alright.
01:30:24.000But yes, I mean, I'm not delusional to sit here and be like, it's only me!
01:31:07.000So some girls will sit there and say words like ambition.
01:31:10.000Some girls will sit there and say, oh, I want a guy that's a provider.
01:31:13.000Another girl will say, oh, I want a man that's a leader.
01:31:16.000Like, all of these things are nuanced ways of saying I want a man that has money to some degree because you can't be a brokie and expect compliance from your woman.
01:31:24.000Like, she'll support you for a little bit like she did, right, for three months.
01:31:27.000But women long-term don't provide security for men.
01:31:29.000So all girls are gold diggers to some degree.
01:32:47.000And just to answer your question as well, so I think for a guy, obviously speaking, he wants to hurt a lot for him, but I look at that as who I became from experiences of what I've been through, just dating experience, the man I am today, that's what I want.
01:33:00.000So after all that hard work, okay, now I have to show myself as a man, I hope you can like me for who I am now.
01:33:06.000Versus back in the day, I wasn't up to par, I wasn't where I needed to be, so as a result, I think you didn't like me for who I was back then, but now I've become the man of today.
01:33:25.000So, I have a little test where, like, I'll actually, like, pull up in, like, a Jew wagon, but I'll be like, yeah, I'm downstairs in a Toyota Corolla.
01:33:48.000Well, I mean, that's another way you can test a girl, too.
01:33:50.000But I feel like if you're doing things correctly, like, I won't see it on camera, but if you're doing things correctly, she's going to want to invest into you as well.
01:34:11.000Obviously speaking, if she wants to show love on Valentine's Day, or for example, your birthday, she might buy you a gift too.
01:34:16.000But just speaking in general, if we go spend the money on you, she actually likes you.
01:34:21.000I agree, because when I like a guy, I will always offer to buy a drink or to buy a dinner if I genuinely like them, just as a gesture of, like, me giving, like, oh, I like you.
01:34:40.000Yeah, because I've heard tests where it's like, oh, I've heard tests where it's like, ask her for $700 and see if she sends you the money, like, That's kind of, like, weird to me.
01:34:48.000Well, that's kind of, like, cliche because, I mean, obviously speaking, like, that's a random number.
01:34:54.000I would just say, like, test of her, like, actual desire and her actual, like, I want to say, the small things matter, you know?
01:35:00.000Because if you ask too much big things up front, obviously, she may not be that invested.
01:35:05.000But if time has, on some level, gone by and you ask for little things over a period of time, you can see the character versus the one-time money or one-time events, you don't really see the person's character over a period of time.
01:35:17.000Well I've heard like a lot of success stories from like my parents friends where you know it might have started off like they didn't have the money or they just wanted to like foreign parents that went to another country and started a new business and I think it's all about like the actual value of how you see a man for example where like you may not see he's not rich at the beginning but you're like oh we can build something together and I've seen so many success stories of parents that are foreigners and they started their own business And they're still together 30 and 40 years later.
01:36:07.000They see guys making money and success and everything else like that.
01:36:11.000I don't think a lot of women are willing to build up with guys in today's day and age, especially in the United States.
01:36:16.000Not all men are worth building with, though.
01:36:17.000Because I feel like the man that's sleeping in until like 1pm, you're saying, oh, I'm going to build with this guy.
01:36:23.000The guy that's not working hard at his current job.
01:36:26.000You can't say, I'm going to build with him.
01:36:27.000The guy that's never read a book in his life or is not meeting with entrepreneurs and spending time To meet with them, how are you going to say you're going to build with him?
01:36:38.000And if you're coming as a couple, they're coming here to actually make wealth and build together.
01:36:43.000Versus if you live in America already, and you've already built your wealth, she's coming into it after the fact.
01:36:48.000So you have to test her to see if she's going to be on par.
01:36:50.000Sorry, I just want to say, I'm an immigrant, and I've just been hearing a lot of people saying, like, oh, like, now American people don't have the values that they did before because they're more comfortable, so they don't need to build that success with their partner, and I just personally think that's,
01:37:06.000like, a lost value, but that's just what I think.
01:39:01.000Now we're trying to do modeling here in Miami.
01:39:09.000Do people in foreign countries not care about income like Americans do with the men and women?
01:39:14.000Obviously, it's a factor, but not like how, I want to say, the entitled women of the West are.
01:39:18.000It's kind of like they come to it with, okay, all right, nigga, do this for me, do that for me, versus, all right, I'm with my man, I'm going to build it up and see where it goes because I believe in my man.
01:50:16.000And I just find it funny because this video, if it's, well, again, I don't know if it's real or not, but for context here, the guy literally wants to go back and is willing to do whatever it takes.
01:53:24.000So, I mean, normally you build up to something like that.
01:53:27.000So you're telling me he invested and put $20K into a Range Rover for you, but then he went ahead and just brought a girl over and didn't say anything about it beforehand?
01:53:35.000The girl was outside, and I took his phone, and I looked, and he was talking to a whole bunch of other girls.
01:53:42.000So this was like an ex-girlfriend of his that he was saying was just a friend.
01:55:41.000I mean, I think men should be honest with girls, but I'm telling the ladies here, I'm letting you guys know, reality is that most men aren't going to be honest because most girls can't handle it.
01:57:47.000She kind of says the same shit in a different way.
01:57:49.000The reason why I say it is because a lot of girls leave good dudes because they found out that he had sex with some other girl or whatever.
01:57:55.000And I'm like, well, the guy that cared about you, he loved you, you're dumb for leaving him because the next guy you get is probably going to cheat on you and maybe won't treat you as well.
01:58:02.000But if your girl is providing everything for you, why cheat?
01:58:49.000Because, again, this comes back, remember that whole thing about, I'll say that you guys are kind of delusional about your sense of self-worth?
01:58:56.000Women will sit there and say, I'm a 10, I'm an 11.
01:58:58.000But why is it that girls that are 10s and 11s still get cheated on?
02:00:08.000Because you think women cheat emotionally, you're saying.
02:00:11.000Well, no, because for, well, that's a part of it, but for a woman to give herself sexually, it takes a lot more mental and cognitive, how do I say this, investment than a man.
02:00:21.000So, like, a girl has to connect with that man to some degree to have sex with him.
02:00:25.000We don't have to connect with a girl to have sex with her.
02:00:27.000Don't you always say women are the easiest ones to have sex with?
02:01:58.000We can have sex with a girl and not give a shit about her.
02:02:02.000But for women, it's like if you're having sex with another dude, when you have a man at home, I know you have to get to a certain mental space to be able to do it.
02:02:08.000But do you think women, do they have to have feelings for that dude that they're cheating with?
02:05:52.000To me, it's just at the beginning, it's really important.
02:05:55.000A man is not going to come to me and say 50-50.
02:05:58.000That just gives the rest of the relationship Not only is it a standard, but I think women provide a different type, not necessarily money, but we provide an emotional care, a nurturing aspect.
02:06:08.000We're not a provider to go out in the world and fend for ourselves and a family.
02:07:59.000Nine months pregnant, you're going to be serving.
02:08:01.000Nine months pregnant, you're going to be at the CVS. I don't want to be disrespectful, but honestly, you have to set a standard for yourself.
02:08:08.000Okay, but the thing is, I was a jit when I dated that kid, so I don't have the same mentality.
02:14:12.000It's interesting because, like, you said you want 50-50, but when they gave you a very real-life scenario of you having a kid and being out the workforce for a period of time, then you were like, oh, you know what?
02:14:26.000Because feminism tells women to chase a career and make money, etc.
02:14:29.000But when real life hits and you have a kid or whatever it may be, you're not going to want to enter the workforce when you have a fucking baby in the crib.
02:14:36.000Do you want to leave it in a daycare or whatever?
02:14:38.000Most women, typically, what I've realized is most girls go into the workforce because they have to.
02:14:42.000But if they have the luxury where their guy is able to make enough for both of them, they'll stay at home for sure with the kid.
02:14:47.000And I've seen even career women, lawyers, doctors, whatever it may be.
02:15:04.000And there's a bunch of reasons for that.
02:15:06.000I don't think women are as ambitious as men when it comes to wealth creation because you guys just don't have the natural proclivity to create excess resources like men do.
02:15:14.000You know, women typically make money and say, dumb shit, like I'm independent.
02:15:17.000Men make money and say, oh, I can take care of a family now.
02:15:45.000I'm glad you guys admitted it, but most girls don't.
02:15:47.000And I would argue, even with you, when you get a guy and you have a kid or anything else like that, you're not going to want a 50-50 relationship.
02:15:52.000I mean, I was like a 100-0 relationship.
02:23:41.000My last thoughts for you is just make sure you really know what you want, because if you're saying you want 50-50, then you're going to find a guy who's actually standing on business and is like, you're nine months pregnant, I still need half of the rent.
02:23:54.000Honestly, I'm not going to find anyone like that unless it's Moe, so, you know.
02:24:40.000So I just want to just make sure, you know, don't say you want 50-50 because a guy is going to stand on that and he's going to say, well, you want it 50-50.
02:24:48.000I don't care if you're sick in the hospital.
02:27:14.000Because doing business with women fucks you up, and women just don't have the same financial incentives to be successful because a woman's value is not tied to her socioeconomic status.
02:27:28.000Can you go in a business if you're married?
02:27:29.000She can help me, but I mean, at the end of the day, she's not going to have, like, no real authority in the business.
02:27:34.000You know, I think she should help, like, make things a little bit easier, but...
02:27:36.000Honestly, that kind of reminds me of my parents, because my dad literally went to the school because some man told my mom, oh, you're a female?
02:27:42.000Like, they're not going to take you seriously.
02:27:55.000The thing is, man, is that most entrepreneurs, most wealthy people, they're men for a reason.
02:27:58.000And the reason why is because men have an incentive to go out there and produce because we know there are sexual market values based on what we provide.
02:28:05.000Women, on the other hand, your sexual market value is not based on that.
02:28:07.000So that's why girls can be broke and still find a guy.
02:28:10.000I mean, let me ask you all a question.
02:28:11.000Would you rather be rich and ugly or pretty and poor?
02:43:29.000Why that Oreo-ass Q-tip head so confident, ugly as fuck, and most black men don't even want black women because they act like they're like her and worse?