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00:03:19.000Ladies on the panel, if you don't mind, give us your name, your age, what we do for a living, dating status, and if you want to, of course.
00:14:37.000Okay, so what is something that a guy does or something about a guy that would make you submit to him and follow his lead in a relationship versus maybe the standard path these days of kind of like fighting him for the lead?
00:15:02.000I don't know about immediately, but in general, if you were to start dating him more than just hooking up with him, what's something about him or something he does?
00:15:16.000I guess if he's just headstrong and he makes his decisions and I don't have to really do that because I feel like In a lot of relationships, women have to kind of take lead and be like, I want to do this and I want this and that.
00:15:29.000And if they do that first and you don't have to ask for it, then I'm kind of like, okay.
00:16:14.000Just stay with your opinion and I like you better like that.
00:16:18.000Was your ex more like changing his opinion on things and taking his mom's side more than your side?
00:16:25.000Yeah, it was kind of like taking his mom's side on things and, like, I was trying to make him view, like, hey, like, I kind of have, um, I kind of, I felt like I was, like, mostly right in, like, most of the arguments that we would have, but he wouldn't see it that way, so.
00:16:39.000Like, they should tell you to come home earlier, or?
00:16:42.000Um, I guess it's just, like, just being in the house sometimes and then, uh, my things were also there and I just felt that she would kind of, like, move things around and I just wouldn't like that and I, Like, hey, I have my space and she has her space.
00:20:02.000So, would you want your guy to admit his shortcomings to you or just deal with them by himself and then come back better?
00:20:11.000I think it depends on the nature of the shortcoming.
00:20:14.000Obviously, if we're getting into a heated debate or a discussion, I would like for him to be able to admit that he was wrong about something or that he misunderstood something.
00:20:24.000So you're just saying taking responsibility if a decision he makes goes wrong?
00:20:27.000If a decision that he makes, a perspective he had, like, whatever it is, just taking responsibility and being like, oh, I misunderstood that.
00:20:35.000Or, oh, I wish you had communicated this to me.
00:20:37.000But just admitting that, like, not just sticking to one point for the sake of sticking to it, you know?
00:20:44.000I just feel like maybe that's not conducive to a healthy relationship.
00:20:48.000Okay, so you're saying admitting if they're wrong.
00:21:15.000I like for my man to, like, have, like, maybe a certain image that he portrays to, like, the people around him.
00:21:23.000But then, like, with me, he's, like, you know, a little bit softer, you know, just, like, certain things that, of course, I would never make public or, you know, kind of, like, express to people that are close to him, people that are close to me, or really to anybody, because those are private things, like, between us.
00:21:38.000So that's what I mean by vulnerability, is, like, certain private, intimate moments in whatever capacity that we can...
00:22:18.000Because it means that he's not always focused on everybody else's problem.
00:22:23.000He recognizes that he's a human being and that he also has shortcomings or, you know, that he's just a person.
00:22:29.000Um, so if you can admit to me, you know, like you're beloved, that you have, you know, things that you're unsure about or whatever it is, then that makes me want to submit to you because you are self-aware and you're emotionally mature.
00:24:37.000You contradicted yourself in a bunch of the things you just said, but it's fine.
00:24:40.000We'll move on because I don't want to I want you to continue on with your question and then I'll because I'm sure you probably have a follow-up, right?
00:26:56.000I want to see that they have like husband and fatherly like qualities that they're gonna be a good person to start a family with that I can raise my children with.
00:27:12.000That they are caring and loving when I see how he interacts with groups, even just like his friends, you know, when he has guests over at the house, like how does he treat people?
00:27:50.000Because I know that's something a lot of guys, they don't know if they should overreact to situations or not do anything.
00:27:55.000So what's an example of something that would happen when you're out and about?
00:27:59.000Um, so if I went out with my man, I guess whether we were in like a normal casual situation or if we went to like a restaurant or we went to a club or something together.
00:28:08.000If, you know, men were trying to approach me and talk to me, him to kind of step in and be like, hey, she's okay.
00:28:41.000For me to not be the one that has to speak up in that situation, for him to automatically set that boundary and be like, no, this is my woman.
00:28:49.000So I guess those things, just knowing that it's someone, also making me feel like, you know, like, say, someone that I can go to with, you know, my problems, if I'm sad, if I'm scared, if I'm stressed, like, I want to be able to go to him with my problems and him help me find an answer and solve it or just,
00:29:06.000like, give me a hug or a shoulder to cry on, like, being there for me.
00:29:10.000Yeah, she wants to look like a leader, I guess.
00:29:33.000What would it take for you to submit to a man?
00:29:35.000So the type of woman that I am, I love to spoil my men and I love to show them like, you know, like acts of service, physical touch and stuff like that.
00:29:43.000So I would love that energy reciprocated.
00:29:46.000Like I need somebody that's willing to go on my little crazy adventures yet still give me my freedom.
00:29:51.000So somebody that's willing, you know, that's down, that's, you know, my partner in crime slash, you know, I'm curious.
00:30:42.000You know, personal space to still do me and still, like, be myself.
00:30:47.000You know, I don't want to sacrifice my freedom 100%.
00:30:50.000I still want time for me, you know, self-care, self-love, like, things that I do before my relationship, I still want to be able to have that, yet still get that respect.
00:31:00.000So you want to still be able to behave like you're single even though you're not?
00:31:04.000Not exactly, because I know the boundaries and I respect, you know, the relationship that we have.
00:31:09.000Would you say that traveling alone is single girl behavior?
00:31:32.000But can you admit, when you travel alone, things do happen either, for example, you meet people that may take you around or like, you know, you get drunk one night and then you fall into some dick.
00:31:47.000I don't think, I think you think a lot more, okay, I can't speak for anyone.
00:31:50.000A lot of girls do, but I've never, ever, ever, ever, ever went on a trip anywhere, even before I moved to Miami, all the times I came to Miami and hooked up with a random person, ever.
00:39:54.000Y'all said a lot of stupid shit earlier.
00:39:56.000Like, for example, you said being vulnerable and, you know, being emotionally available and showing his issues, his shortcomings.
00:40:04.000Bro, if a guy's supposed to be the one that's the leader in the relationship, he's supposed to be the one leading you, you're depending on this guy for security.
00:40:10.000Him showing you his shortcomings and being vulnerable is the worst thing they can do.
00:40:13.000That's 100% counterproductive to gaining your respect.
00:40:16.000You said you can't submit to a man because of your baby daddy, which is crazy.
00:40:19.000You, I want to be able to take trips and be free even though I'm in a relationship.
00:44:46.000When like you can't be yourself like you have to I don't know I would like to be in a relationship that I could be myself.
00:44:54.000You know, like a guy that tries to control you, your every move, every second, doesn't trust you, that's a huge red flag to me.
00:45:01.000I would argue he cares about you a lot because he wants to make sure that you're good.
00:45:04.000And for the most part, if he's going to want, for example, let's say you were something crazy, like more sexy, more like, I guess, like more sexual, you go outside, what's going to happen?
00:45:14.000First of all, if I'm with a man, I'm not going to do that because I have to respect you.
00:45:17.000All right, so define controlling that.
00:47:09.000Okay, so disrespecting his mom, any man who is disrespectful to his mom, I cut to 25 years later, that's going to be me, so I'm good.
00:47:18.000The way that he treats people in general, you know, like...
00:47:22.000Janitorial staff, wait staff, anybody that he doesn't really need, the way that he addresses those people.
00:47:28.000And then if he treats them poorly, that's a red flag.
00:47:31.000If he leads a dishonest lifestyle, if he's a scammer and he's scamming people out of their money, getting money from them, and then turning around and he's fine.
00:47:42.000And then if something happens to that person, he doesn't care about it, also cuts into the way that he treats people.
00:51:23.000I want you to come home and crawl in bed with me and I want to be there and I want to cook for you.
00:51:28.000If you're asking me where I'm going because I'm leaving and what I'm doing and you don't want me to leave and you want me there with you, I want to stay inside.
00:51:56.000But I disagree with you on like, you know, dressing a certain way.
00:52:00.000I think if a woman is with a man, she shouldn't be dressing provocatively unless that man is there.
00:52:05.000And she shouldn't be going to nightclubs or going to Places where alcohol is served and there's a bunch of men trying to talk to her without him there.
00:53:00.000I think one the man Cheating usually is stay with a woman.
00:53:08.000He's like just for have fun when the woman cheating is more dangerous because much of the time he decide he leave the man and go with the Cheating so cheating for women is worse, right?
00:55:52.000Yeah, where like your husbands all go to, like, I don't know.
00:55:54.000I don't want to be in a club without my...
00:55:56.000If I'm in a relationship, I don't want to be in a club without them.
00:55:59.000Also because, like I said, when people are coming up to you, you can say I have a boyfriend or I'm married or whatever all you want, but people are, as women, going to repetitively come and hit on us and try to take us home and bother us and saying no all night.
00:56:12.000Then it just becomes annoying and then my night is ruined and bothered because I'm not having a good time.
00:56:17.000I'm telling people to get away from me.
00:58:49.000Um, I guess, like, a guy that just follows, like, a lot of women on, like, social media, and he's just, like, always liking their pictures and stuff.
01:00:04.000One thing about your guys' answers that I've noticed is like...
01:00:08.000Toxic, controlling, calling me, or whatever there may be.
01:00:11.000Like, women gotta understand that if you're gonna be in a relationship with a man, and that man has any set of balls or backbone, he's gonna have standards and regulations and boundaries.
01:00:21.000So, if you wanna behave like you're single, then be single.
01:00:25.000But it's very disrespectful to the man that you behave like you're single when you have a man.
01:00:30.000Going to the club, dressing provocatively on the internet, dressing provocatively when he's not there, wanting to go out in social situations, drinking with other people that isn't him.
01:00:39.000I find it crazy how girls want to be able to have a man at home but be able to reserve the right to still do all the things that make them look like they're single.
01:00:48.000But what if I'm not doing that and he's doing that then?
01:00:51.000Men and women aren't the same, too bad.
01:01:48.000So since life is much harder for us to be attracted to the opposite gender, we get to enjoy the fruits of our labor differently than you guys do.
01:02:06.000So it's like, yo, as a man, we get certain privileges that y'all don't because you don't earn your value.
01:02:12.000So I don't know why women don't get this.
01:02:14.000I was saying in a relationship, though, because what if I'm at home and I'm not doing any of those things and then you're out in the club and you're doing that?
01:02:29.000Okay, but then we're in a relationship.
01:02:31.000Yeah, I think the big caveat here is that these are boundaries that are, like, set, right?
01:02:35.000Like, obviously, if you're a dude and you're like, I'm going to be monogamous with you, I'm never going to cheat on you, and you do that, I don't think that's good, but I think it's okay.
01:02:42.000It's going to be more accepted for a guy who's in this position to be able to set these boundaries and still There's not going to be any dudes that are going to be like, okay, you can fuck as many girls as you want.
01:03:29.000Let's say I go to the club and I got a bunch of bad bitches that are going to come up to me that are hotter than you, younger than you, thinner than you, better body than you, more money than you, and they're offering to fly me out, they're offering to give me a bottle, they're offering me a job, they're offering me certain opportunities that you'll never fucking be able to do,
01:03:59.000Y'all would never allow that shit, but for some odd reason, you guys want us to accept you going to a nightclub where there's going to be a bunch of thirsty dudes giving you a bunch of things, offering you a bunch of shit, guys that might have more money than me, more status than me, etc.
01:04:10.000Why the fuck am I going to go ahead and put my Rolex in the hood?
01:04:14.000That's essentially what it comes down to.
01:04:15.000You're letting your girl, right, which is a prized possession, it should be, if you worked hard to get her, letting her go to a bunch of criminals or hoodlums, leaving it out there.
01:04:24.000But if we flipped it around, right, I find it crazy to me how if I was gonna go to the club and have the same opportunities y'all had with all the hot girls coming up to me, giving me all these opportunities, y'all would never let that shit fly.
01:04:35.000Y'all be like, fuck no, stay your ass at home.
01:04:43.000Like, are we talking about somebody being uncomfortable with something?
01:04:45.000Or are we talking about her literally standing in front of the door, blocking the door with her body, and hiding your keys and not letting you go anywhere?
01:04:52.000No, I'm just giving you an analogy where if the roles were flipped...
01:04:57.000And I had all the opportunities in the nightclub that a woman enjoys.
01:05:01.000As a man, y'all would have a serious issue with me going.
01:05:04.000But women know subconsciously, when men go to the club, they have to pay their way in.
01:05:09.000It's annoying to deal with girls there.
01:05:12.000I gotta pay to get a section versus girls get in there for free.
01:05:15.000If I had the same opportunities as a man in the nightclub that a woman did, you guys would be a lot more cautious about me going to the club.
01:05:21.000If I roll up to the club, I'm not gonna accidentally...
01:05:27.000There's like a series of actions that have to take place.
01:05:29.000As a woman, you have guys approaching you all night.
01:05:32.000If you just are a little bit friendly, all of a sudden now maybe you're sitting next to him in a more exclusive venue and then he's asking you to go back to his place.
01:05:39.000For a guy, that all has to be like calculated maneuvers that happen.
01:05:42.000But if it's easier for women to cheat, can't that happen anywhere?
01:05:46.000Yeah, but at a nightclub, it's a lot more likely to happen than the grocery store.
01:05:50.000It's a lot easier if you're at a club when people are very close together, you're drinking when you're drinking, you're not thinking, you're doing drugs.
01:06:28.000Now, is the rate of crime and the school, you know, shitty teachers, etc., is it still possible that you're going to get a shitty teacher where you teach?
01:06:35.000But the likelihood goes down because you're paying more tax dollars, you're getting better teachers, so the probability goes up that your kid's going to get a higher quality education.
01:07:21.000Okay, so, I mean, first of all, if you have a girl and she's going to a club but you're dating and you guys are together, there's no reason why that girl needs to go to the club without you.
01:08:00.000I wouldn't want to go to the strip club with my man, though.
01:08:02.000I'm telling you right now, you're in a strip club with a guy that you're dating, and you see him get a lap dance, or you're throwing money at a girl, you are going to be pissed the fuck off.
01:08:09.000My man gives me the money, and I throw the money on the hoes.
01:08:12.000Yeah, I'm not going to the store club.
01:09:07.000And I think if more guys put their foot down and let girls know, this is not acceptable behavior of a girl that I'm going to take seriously, more girls that acclimate.
01:09:15.000The problem is that guys don't have the balls to put their foot down and say, no, this isn't acceptable behavior.
01:09:30.000But for example, he's saying you can get a man by your looks, by how you walk, how you dress.
01:09:35.000But can you really retain that man after a while?
01:09:37.000Probably not because you're doing these things like traveling alone, wink, wink.
01:09:43.000Well, guys who have options are going to choose their best options the same way that women with options will choose their best option.
01:09:50.000But the way a man ranks his options is going to be different than how a woman ranks their options, right?
01:09:55.000And a guy who's going to be prioritizing women who he thinks are actually going to be loyal and more feminine and fall into that feminine role if all other things being equal.
01:10:05.000I think the hardest thing that for women, most women to accept in these scenarios is like, you might be able to get this like really great guy that's really hot and has a lot of money and is very successful and whatever for like a night you can hook up with them or whatever and maybe hook up with them a couple times more.
01:10:19.000But if you want to keep behaving the way that you're behaving and you don't want to listen, you don't want to follow his lead, you don't want to do these things and kind of stay at home or only go out with him, things like that.
01:10:26.000He's going to realize you're not going to be an option for him.
01:10:29.000So you just kind of have to realize if you want a man at that status and that energy to give you those things and provide for you and have this nice life that you want to build with him, then you have to make a sacrifice to keep that.
01:10:41.000And if you don't want to make that sacrifice, then that's okay.
01:10:43.000But you have to accept that, you know, You're losing what you want.
01:10:52.000Well, I think now you have to, you have to like kind of remind that because if I'm dating a higher status man, okay, and he has a lot of money and I know that I'm taken care of, okay?
01:11:42.000You're more accepting if he's taking care of you.
01:11:44.000But you know that he's cheating on you.
01:11:46.000So how does that make you feel knowing that another woman is always going to be around and always, like, she can't take your place because she's going to be a sly bitch, obviously, but...
01:12:12.000I just saw a video of Justin Waller the other day.
01:12:14.000And what he said perfectly, I feel like, explains this.
01:12:18.000He was like, if I could look at the woman that I love and be truthful when I say I only want to be with you and sleep with you for the rest of my life, I wish it were true, but it's not.
01:12:59.000If we're struggling financially and you're out spending your money on other bitches, now I'll be fucking damned.
01:13:07.000It's still emotionally damaging to go through that.
01:13:10.000If there's a guy who's a loser and he's not setting these boundaries and he's cheating on you, that's just a weak dude.
01:13:16.000But if it's a guy who's built up his life to a certain extent and he lets you know up front, hey, from time to time this may happen, That's a completely different story.
01:16:40.000How little respect do you have to have for yourself to consent to that and allow something like that to happen to you?
01:16:46.000Allow somebody to tell you to your face that you are literally not worth me sacrificing my own selfish desires?
01:16:52.000But can you admit though, ultimately speaking, the guy that's going to say to you, oh yeah, I know what you know, I'm only going to be with you.
01:17:02.000But not everybody who looks at other women who even loves after other women or finds other women desirable, right?
01:17:10.000Because it's a fallacy to believe that if you're going to be with somebody for three months, three years, 30 years, it's a fallacy to believe that they're not going to be attracted to other people.
01:17:20.000So I can accept that, you know, especially when I'm like in my 40s and my man is in his 50s, that he's going to look at other women and be like, damn, that's a fine piece of ass.
01:18:19.000You need to put your selfish desires aside and go ahead and date a guy that makes the same amount of money as you, as tall as you, so y'all can share clothes and get along, and go ahead and get a guy that's at your level of competence.
01:18:50.000Hold on, I was in the middle of what I was saying.
01:18:51.000No, because you're a bunch of bullshit.
01:18:53.000You're not gonna love the man and actually give a fuck about him unless he meets certain prerequisites.
01:18:58.000He's got to be at a point where maybe he's got to be tall enough for you, make enough money for you, have enough confidence for you, have enough ambition for you.
01:19:14.000But look, the point I'm trying to make is this.
01:19:18.000You said that it's selfish for men to want to have sex with other women, right?
01:19:22.000But what if I told you that's hardwired- I'm not saying that it's selfish for men to want to have sex with other women.
01:19:27.000Wait, let's really say that a second ago.
01:19:28.000No, I'm saying that it's selfish for them to actually go and do it.
01:19:31.000If you want to have sex with other women, I can understand that.
01:19:33.000Okay, by that logic, then it's selfish for you to want a man that's taller than you, makes more money than you, more confident, more ambitious than you.
01:20:43.000Why the fuck am I going to bust my ass, go through life as a man, which is way harder than a woman, by the way, make this money, get this status, become the man that I become to fuck one bitch.
01:23:12.000No, the difference is, like, what we're looking for, like, what's attractive to men and what's attractive to women is two totally different things.
01:23:19.000Because what's attractive to women are things that tend to be given, right?
01:23:22.000Your looks, your youthfulness, your feminine energy.
01:23:25.000The things that women find attractive to men, they're not given to us.
01:23:28.000That shit is years of hard work and experience.
01:23:34.000You want a man that's tall and strong and handsome and smells good and provides for you and takes care of you, but is going to stand up for you.
01:23:43.000Men don't need a woman that's a loud mouth that's going to fight and protect someone.
01:26:17.000I think you're categorizing women into, like, just one thing because there's some women that, like, actually, like, go by their feelings and they, like, fall in love with people and they don't have, like, any status or, you know, any money or anything.
01:26:39.000No, this is facts because that was my old relationship.
01:26:42.000Like, yeah, girls can fall in love with a bum, but then they become a raging, nagging, annoying bitch.
01:26:47.000Like, it's a terrible existence for the man.
01:26:49.000Because the more inadequate the man is, the more the woman has to compensate because he's inadequate, and then she's got to get in her masculine.
01:29:39.000That's not my argument, though, is that women are special.
01:29:41.000I mean, even though the odds of any of us even being born at this time to the parents that we're born to, looking the way that we look is like one in like 400 billion or whatever.
01:29:50.000You're arguing like, oh, a girl doesn't know her self-worth, blah, blah, blah.
01:29:53.000What I'm saying is that your self-worth isn't as high as you think it is because what you want in a man is much rarer than what women provide.
01:30:00.000The things that men look for are common, so therefore you can be replaced easier.
01:30:05.000But wouldn't that mean that your standards are lower?
01:30:07.000If all you're looking for are those good things?
01:30:39.000So therefore, women need to understand this and know that you guys are not as special as you think you are.
01:30:44.000Get on the man's program and if you're with a guy that's a winner, you need to understand that there's way less of him than there is of you.
01:30:51.000But isn't, but so there's no, so it's either bum or loser.
01:31:47.000So, like, Well, to be fair, I think that a lot of relationships with weaker dudes create a lot of the problems because if a girl is in a relationship with a weaker dude where she has to grind, she has to provide the money.
01:31:59.000And now I have to guide you and I have to say like...
01:32:02.000Now when she leaves that, even if she meets a high-value guy at first, she has some of these bad habits kind of ingrained because she had to, in the previous relationship, have some of that masculine energy.
01:32:55.000So I lost the high-value guy because I had all this masculine energy in my head that that's how I thought relationships were supposed to be because that was like my first serious relationship is the one with a weaker guy, right?
01:33:13.000I was nagging him all the time, complaining about everything, making his life more difficult.
01:33:18.000Men want a woman to be their piece, not to give them more stress, especially an entrepreneur, CEO, people that are very high value and deal with a lot of stress in their work environment, in their day-to-day life with other men and money situations.
01:33:31.000When they come home to you and they're dealing with their woman, they don't want more stress.
01:33:35.000So if you're adding stress to their life, like, sayonara.
01:33:41.000The only thing I'll add is advice for guys out there is you still need to try it.
01:33:45.000Because a lot of times girls will come bring this energy up front.
01:33:48.000From my experience, if you set strong boundaries, put a girl in their place up front, a lot of girls will do a 180 and then relax more into your masculine energy.
01:33:55.000So just because a girl has this energy, like the first or second date, it's not necessarily, if other things seem promising, it's not a reason just to write her off.
01:34:02.000At least try and set a few boundaries, see how that goes.
01:34:04.000To your point, you can't turn it around.
01:34:48.000If you're going ahead and making a lot of decisions, you're paying bills, or you're taking care of him, you really need to rethink what the hell you're doing.
01:35:00.000Alright, so from this point forward, guys, we're going to read 100 and up, but I'll read all these that came through, so thank you so much.
01:35:05.000Wyatt goes, ladies, what's the most crazy thing you've been offered or got away with just for being a woman?
01:35:09.000Bro, you already know this is going to be a bunch of shit.
01:35:12.000Blackish Panther, let's start the show with a classy reality check.
01:35:15.000Ladies, name a celeb you consider a 10 and looks only.
01:35:16.000Now rate yourself from a scale of 1 to 10.
01:35:41.000When girls, a lot of times when they say I'm going to go on a healing journey or whatever, that typically means fucking a bunch of dudes.
01:35:46.000Saying that a man is insecure for not wanting a woman with a high body count is like a man saying that a woman is insecure for not wanting an abusive man.
01:35:52.000If she was secure, an abusive man wouldn't intimidate her.
01:36:25.000If you had a dollar for every time Chris is late, I'll be on Money Mondays by now.
01:36:32.000Poopy Puppy goes, Myron, I know content is nice, but to progress the final goal, you got to shut down the idiotic thoughts before a total manifestation that leads you to argument semantics versus the root cause.
01:36:42.000Myron, women have an issue, bimbo, but men, be the better debater.
01:38:31.000I know some of you ladies might not like me saying that, but women are opportunistic lovers.
01:38:35.000The guy has to provide value for you to even give him a chance, right?
01:38:38.000I know you over here saying like, oh, but I like my guy, but you wouldn't like them if he wasn't in finance, making money taller than you, more competent.
01:40:34.000And my thing is, I'm just saying, if I'm a man and I'm superior to you in every way, and I'm the leader in the relationship, I get certain perks and privileges that you don't because you're just subordinate.
01:41:19.000I can't speak for every man, but I don't know that's how most men think.
01:41:25.000I think a healthy way that at least happened in my relationship was just slowly investing more and more as things seem more and more promising across multiple fronts.
01:43:04.000But, if she's in a relationship where she's kind of just settling, right, Then other guys are still visible and she is looking to upgrade to a degree.
01:43:13.000She might not enact on it, but the eye is going to be going around.
01:43:16.000So for a woman to be the most loyal, she has to feel like she has the best option that she can get.
01:43:22.000And the only way for that to happen is she has to like him more.
01:43:24.000In other words, the man's got to be pedestalized, not the girl.
01:43:27.000When a girl is pedestalized, she thinks that she's better than the man.
01:43:30.000And when a woman feels that she's better than her man, that's when the terrible things happen.
01:46:25.000Rams goes, I do this and I believe if it does, ask the ladies if when a man is honest and straightforward from the very start, is it respectful or disrespectful?
01:46:59.000No, but let's say you want that guy and you don't want a serious relationship right now at the moment and you only want to have sex with that person and that person wants to only have sex with you and you don't want to be boyfriend and girlfriend.
01:48:03.000Question slash statement for the ladies.
01:48:05.000Most women say they'll be submissive for the right guy, but what if the right guy is waiting to be the right guy for the woman that's submissive?
01:48:12.000So he's saying in a nutshell, most women are masculine on certain points, and then they say, oh, I want a man that's going to be a leader.
01:48:18.000But that man as leader is like, yo, if you're masculine, I don't want you.
01:48:21.000So why not just be submissive all the time?
01:49:25.000Y'all don't want to share your resources anyway.
01:49:27.000So if I'm going to deal with a girl, right, that doesn't want to share her money anyway, I might as well go ahead and get a bad trick that's not going to give me a headache.
01:49:35.000Because y'all don't want to share money anyway.
01:49:57.000But if you gave every guy a chance, hey, bro, if you made enough money and your girl didn't have to work, would you take it and she could just stay at home?
01:56:35.000It's kind of funny because it's like, If I decided to be a bum and not work on myself, y'all would never accept me.
01:56:41.000But y'all think being a hoe and living your life and doing all this extra shit, living your life, right, as they say, like, I'm going to be there waiting for you.
02:04:07.000Yeah, but I for sure because I'm I know for sure some because not Right now, a lot of boys come to me because I'm in the fashion industry and I always go with Evans, Runways,
02:04:23.000and I have to say, no, I'm married, so I know for sure if I get separated, somebody can come with me.
02:04:29.000Yeah, but would those romantic men want you for you or would they just want to have sex?
02:04:38.000No, for sure it's about not just for sex.
02:10:57.000Any ladies have any questions or last thoughts on the show or anything that they wanted to bring up or disagreements on what we talked about today?