In this episode of the Fresh Fit Podcast, we have a special guest in the house, Psych Hacks! We talk about his recent trip to Japan and how it changed his perspective on sex. He also discusses his new book, "Behavioral Economics Through the Lens of Behavioral Economics" which is a book about relationships through the lens of behavioral economics and why people do the things they do with as little ideology as possible. We also talk about the passport movement and why it's important to have a good understanding of what it means to be a "loser" in the modern world. If you don't know who he is, you're not going to want to miss this one. He's one of my favorite people on the planet and I'm so happy to have him on the show! I hope you guys enjoy this episode and don't forget to give him a rating and review on whatever platform you're listening to it! Have a great rest of the week, guys! Peace, Blessings, Cheers, EJ and Cheers! - The Fresh Fit Crew. - EJ & The Fidos Crew. - Fresh Fit Team. Fresh Fit - R.J. & The FreshFit Podcast. Hosted by: Fresh Fit, R.A. ( ) Produced and Edited by: R.I.P. & R.S. ( ). Intro Music by Fresh Fit ( ) Outro Music by: . (feat. ( ) ( ) and Outro by FreshFit ( ) by Freshfit Podcast ( ) outro music by by , ) ( and ) by ( ), & with Music by . ( ) & ( . ) ( ) and , ( ) is produced by Freshcast ( ) . ( ). ( ) , is a production of Fresh Fit podcast ( ) - Produced by FreshCast Podcast ( . . . & Freshcast ) - Our logo and logo by Freshcast Podcast ( , and . . , , & ) is by Freshday Podcast ( ), and our logo & logo by FreshDay ( . ) ( . , and the logo is by ), and , our logo is . ) , and our theme song by Fresh Day Podcast ( , and his music is , is ) .
00:16:34.000So let's go ahead and get that thing to 100K, man, because Twitter definitely, especially now with the election year coming, it's going to be huge.
00:16:40.000And I cover certain topics on there that I might not necessarily cover on YouTube for obvious reasons.
00:18:10.000You made a video talking about the passport movement, and prior to going to Japan, you had said there tends to be this connotation that if you're a passport bro, you're a loser, your sexual market value is low, you can't attract women in your home country, therefore you have to go abroad and leverage your American passport or Western passport.
00:19:29.000And it's interesting because we have a good friend.
00:19:32.000His name is John from Modern Life Dating.
00:19:34.000He's lived in Tokyo for the better part of a decade now at this point.
00:19:37.000And he's always raved about being in Japan.
00:19:39.000He's always talked about how, you know, he comes to the United States every few years, and he's like, what the hell is going on?
00:19:44.000And he can't wait to get back to Japan.
00:19:47.000And you're not the first person that's told us about, like, the enormous difference in culture and how kind of far behind Americans are in the West in general.
00:19:56.000Can you take us through some of the things, I guess, some of the biggest things you noticed and differences between here and there?
00:20:57.000They're elegant, like there's a version of femininity there that is celebrated as one thing that a young woman can aspire to.
00:21:08.000They're very respectful, and there's kind of the opposite of chivalry in Japan.
00:21:14.000Like, just in all the ways that we kind of take for granted that women kind of come first in the West, men come first in that way in Japan.
00:22:11.000And you can break it down in the perceptions of different races as well.
00:22:15.000And across the board, white men tend to fare the best, and across the board for women, Asian women tend to fare the best, like the rated highest by all the different races.
00:22:23.000So I bet I did have a leg up there, but I don't really have a point of comparison.
00:23:56.000I'm not sure that they're really working off to burn the calories.
00:23:59.000I'm sure that's becoming more and more popular these days, but I think it starts with the nutrition, as I'm sure you know.
00:24:04.000Yeah, people just eat less in general in other parts of the world.
00:24:07.000It's like America, yeah, the portions are wild.
00:24:10.000Okay, so what is your thoughts now on the Passport Bro Movement?
00:24:15.000Because we get asked about it all the time, man, and we've been...
00:24:18.000And again, tell us about passport brawls, blah, blah, blah.
00:24:21.000And it's, you know, what I've always said in general is that, well, actually, let me hear your take on it, and then I'll give you my perspective.
00:24:26.000What's your take on it now that you've been over there and you kind of see...
00:24:28.000Well, I do think that there's probably some truth to it.
00:24:30.000Like, if you're having some trouble getting a woman or attracting...
00:25:31.000So it's like, I get that it might be annoying, or maybe there's a pressure to live up to some certain positive expectations, but it's a good problem to have all things being equal.
00:25:39.000Like, is it really that bad that people assume that you're good at math?
00:25:43.000I guess if you're not that great at math, it could cause some difficulties, but, you know, she was telling me how she was given a job, she was offered a job as an accountant, just because she thinks that she was an Asian woman.
00:26:48.000So you guys are going to get a three-peat today, man.
00:26:50.000But the way I see it, to go back to that, which is, I used to think that you would just go to one of these countries like Thailand or Colombia because you couldn't catch fish here in America.
00:27:17.000And I wouldn't even consider Japan as a passport, because normally they give a negative connotation to guys that want to travel to get women.
00:27:27.000But the thing is with Japan, Japan's actually pretty expensive.
00:27:30.000Tokyo's one of the most expensive cities in the world.
00:29:14.000A regular guy can work at a steel mill, make, you know, 20, 30 grand a year, be able to raise a family off that, and be pretty rest assured he could find a woman that would be submissive and dutiful to him.
00:29:24.000One of the great things about my podcast doing well these days is, and I now do consultations with guys from all over the world, Nice.
00:29:30.000And I was doing a consultation with a guy from, let's say, the Middle East, and he told me that American men are the best men in the world, and we get the worst deal out of any men in the world.
00:30:31.000Instagram is great because it allows you to brag with somebody else's mouth.
00:30:34.000It's like in the old days when you're at a social party, you're talking to two people, you walk off, you want the other person to turn to the girl that you're targeting and be like, did you know who that is?
00:31:17.000Just like money coming in without you trying, your Instagram profile will increase your value without you trying.
00:31:23.000Because it's there, girls are able to look at it.
00:31:25.000On their own time, and then boom, your profile demonstrates higher value for you, and then you're able to create social proof.
00:31:30.000And then if she follows you, if she looks at your stories, you're able to consistently show social proof without being try-hard or showing it to her directly.
00:31:36.000And you made a good point, because think about it.
00:31:38.000Back in the day, like you mentioned, you want someone to talk about you to that woman.
00:31:42.000However, nowadays, it's kind of like the actual Instagram itself talks for you, and as well, it buffers you, because once again, if she doesn't like you, she won't respond.
00:31:50.000So you know, if Rip, hey, you're not that guy that she wants to actually take out or be with.
00:32:51.000Every single time, especially with women.
00:32:53.000And yeah, it's a very delicate balance of like, Getting your shit together and being higher value, higher status, but not necessarily bragging about it and having someone else or having something else do it for you so that you can kind of find it on your own.
00:33:06.000I can't tell you how many girls have the issue where a guy would be like, oh my god, you know what I do for a living.
00:33:24.000Because what's more impressive, they have a Porsche or that you're so rich that your Porsche is just your car and it doesn't have to be the focus of the picture?
00:33:33.000Because I guarantee they're going to notice that there's a Porsche in the picture or a Ferrari, whatever you happen to have.
00:33:39.000You can leave little breadcrumbs for women to kind of follow back to the impressive things, but you should always allow them to discover those things.
00:34:53.000Yeah, and I think, because we get asked so many times, like, yo, what are your thoughts on Password Bros, blah, blah, blah, and I've always said, like, dude, if you want to go abroad and find a girl, you can do that, but understand that American women don't give a fuck.
00:35:05.000I don't know why you guys want us to talk so much about Password Bros as if American women care, because, like, The funny part is that, like, I say, oh, I'm going abroad.
00:35:36.000But when they learn about it, they generally are very antagonistic to the idea.
00:35:39.000And if they do find about it, exactly.
00:35:40.000They'll lose even more respect for men that do it.
00:35:43.000They might laugh about it or roast you, but that's about it.
00:35:46.000Because they don't understand that quite literally, yes, there's a cesspool in the dating market for men here in the United States where it's like you've got to work really hard for virtually nothing.
00:35:53.000So it makes sense a lot of times to go abroad.
00:35:55.000But even if you mention that, like in her eyes, in Western women's eyes, they're going to look at it like, oh, well, you have to do that because you're of lower sexual market value.
00:36:02.000I think the only way they'll actually feel the pain is if the guy that they actually want is the one doing it.
00:36:06.000Guys that they don't care about, oh, you can leave.
00:36:45.000And if women can be crazy in the bedroom and they can do things that that man has never done with another woman, didn't even know it was possible to do with that anatomy, it's going to melt his brain.
00:36:57.000He's not going to be able to think straight.
00:36:59.000And if she plays her cards right, she's going to be able to lock him into a commitment before he even knows what's what.
00:37:50.000Yeah, but those young women like dating older men.
00:37:52.000I mean, that's the truth, is that in no culture on the planet today and historically has the average age of a woman been older than the average age of a man at first marriage.
00:38:03.000So it's like men date younger women because, in part, women like older men.
00:38:08.000Because older men are more established, they're more successful, they're emotionally regulated.
00:38:13.000There was that, did we talk about this last time, about that study, I think it was based on Tinder, that based on the actual swiping behavior of women, apparently the most attractive age for a man, they reach their peak sexual marketplace value at 50.
00:38:28.000Yes, yes, I think we had some mention of that, yeah.
00:38:42.000I mean, for men, I mean, if you do the work, you can actually really, you can maintain, if not actually even potentially increase your sexual market value as a man, you know what I mean?
00:39:29.000The second one you mentioned, which is shaming men, and I think that's really important because a lot of guys don't even know that they're being shamed sometimes because it's so inclusive and popular American Western culture to say things to men like, grow up.
00:39:42.000I remember one girl vividly said, oh, men are Peter Pan boys.
00:39:52.000Can you break down this whole concept of midlife crisis that we say about men and why guys need to go in with their eyes wide open when they hear that insult?
00:40:03.000Yeah, it's really interesting because it doesn't seem to affect everyone equally.
00:40:10.000Clearly, not all men have midlife crises, and it seems very clear that more men seem to have midlife crises than women, and that's kind of strange.
00:40:18.000I mean, if midlife crises are just about a growing awareness of our own mortality and how little time we may have left, it seems like that should affect women equally than men.
00:41:24.000Which causes real suffering, by the way.
00:41:28.000So, the reason why I think certain men are subject to the midlife crisis is It tends to afflict guys who are more rule following, who are sacrificial, who have stepped up and done the right thing for most of their lives.
00:41:45.000And I think they get to this point where they realize, oh, how much time do I have left?
00:41:49.000And they think, my whole life I've been doing what other people have told me to do.
00:42:23.000And it looks like a midlife crisis because potentially the last time these guys were allowed to think for themselves, to be selfish, was when they were teenagers, before they were more or less forced to assume responsibility, sometimes very early.
00:42:36.000And so that's why I think a lot of male midlife crises look like teenage fantasies.
00:42:40.000It's because they're kind of out of practice being selfish.
00:43:05.000Like, selfish is baked into the individual organism.
00:43:08.000It's connected to our survival instincts.
00:43:10.000I think trying to override our natural predilection for selfishness is probably going to cause more problems than it's going to solve, actually.
00:43:17.000And I do think that the reason why men tend to have more midlife crises than women do is that women aren't out of practice asking, well, what about me?
00:43:26.000This is something that they ask throughout their lives.
00:44:29.000There's also, we can appreciate that the self, the concept of the self continues to evolve.
00:44:35.000Like Jordan Peterson talks about this, is that on higher and higher levels, you can conceive of the self as encompassing more and more of society.
00:44:45.000Like in the beginning, selfishness is just you.
00:44:48.000But then selfishness might be, like, your family.
00:44:51.000Like, you wouldn't necessarily throw your family on the bus just to save yourself, right?
00:44:55.000And so now there's some folks who might be more important or as important than you.
00:45:29.000We're a long way off, but we all have to get there together.
00:45:31.000Add on to that midlife crisis thing, because I've seen women use this a lot, right?
00:45:35.000And they typically use it for guys that are kind of...
00:45:40.000Having some fun because you mentioned something earlier that a lot of them end up where they're making a lot of sacrifice early on in their life to end up creating a certain platform for themselves to be able to be successful in their 30s or 40s, etc.
00:45:52.000A lot of times they have to give up their 20s.
00:45:53.000And this is what I did, honestly, to be honest.
00:45:56.000Some girls tell me sometimes, oh, you're going through a midlife crisis, blah, blah, blah.
00:46:03.000I look at it like more along the lines of I'm finally realizing my worth and I have the ability to do things that I wanted to do that I wasn't able to do before and it's always interesting because whenever women say oh you're going through a midlife crisis nine out of ten times they're saying that but They were the ones that had fun in their 20s.
00:46:19.000They were able to do certain things They're able to experience certain things in life without necessarily having to sacrifice whereas the man you can't experience these things unless you sacrifice so If you tell an 18-year-old girl, 19-year-old girl, 20-year-old girl, whatever it is, hey, you should settle down and find a guy.
00:46:33.000They'll look at you with three heads like, no, I'm not going to do that.
00:47:33.000Oh, yeah, now you want to go ahead and say that guys have Peter Pan syndrome.
00:47:36.000You weren't calling people Peter Pan syndrome when you were 19 or 20.
00:47:40.000You were having sex with those guys, and you were happy that they were willing to take you in a Ferrari and show you around and everything.
00:47:45.000You loved the Peter Pans when you were at your peak, but now as you're getting older and you're trying to get some stability, now they're Peter Pans.
00:47:55.000But when the women are at their peak, none of this vocabulary is used when they're at their peak.
00:47:59.000And typically, when you hear male crisis, you hear a guy that's around 40 plus at Hooters or Twin Peaks with a Corvette that's just drinking beer, watching sports, hitting on the girls that work there.
00:48:23.000And what's really interesting about the grow-up talk is that you never, in every instance that it is utilized against men, and I think it's actually been used against me more often by other men, to be honest.
00:48:37.000And there's a lot of men out there who are white knights who are looking out for the...
00:48:40.000Yeah, I was going to say, they're typically simps that use that term.
00:53:13.000Yeah, guys, I mean, you know, like I said, I don't have a problem with Jack.
00:53:17.000I don't have a problem with Neon, any of these young guys that are, you know, trying to make it with the streaming and doing the IRL thing.
00:53:21.000Obviously, they have a younger audience that might need some guidance down the road, and, you know, we could collab and...
00:55:00.000I mean, like I said before, because a lot of people are critical of me of, like, when I say, yo, you need to have had sex with 50 women before you actually think about, like, you know, taking marriage seriously, and you go, oh, bro, you're promoting the genesis, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:55:13.000Look, man, I'm telling guys to be able to understand female nature and put yourself in a position where you're sexually experienced where a girl can't manipulate you.
00:55:23.000End-all, be-all number, but it'll put you in a position where you should be able to understand female nature to a degree.
00:55:28.000What are your thoughts on that, brother?
00:55:30.000As far as, like, you know, people don't like that stance that I say, like, hey, you need to be 35, make 100K per year, six months of savings, be in shape, and hooked up with 50 chicks.
00:55:39.000Do you think that's a bad, I guess, strategy to move before getting married?
00:55:45.000I tell guys they shouldn't seriously consider getting into a long-term committed relationship headed towards marriage until at least 35.
00:55:52.000And I think that's for a number of good reasons.
00:55:54.000One of the main reasons is that around 30 is the time when an average man's sexual marketplace value exceeds the average woman's sexual marketplace value for the very first time.
00:56:05.000And until that happens, all through the 20s, a woman is going to be outclassing a guy left and right.
00:56:22.000She's literally getting more attention than celebrities, man.
00:56:24.000Well, being a really hot 23-year-old is basically the equivalent of being a billionaire scion, like an heir to a fortune, like a trust funder.
00:57:12.000And real quick, I got to ask you about this from a psychology perspective.
00:57:19.000In a relationship, who do you think should have the leverage and what are the social ramifications of each if one party holds it?
00:57:29.000Well, I think one of the reasons why we have yet to have a World War III is because of the nuclear bomb and that more than one country has it.
00:57:39.000Like, if only the Americans developed the bomb, we probably would have become even more tyrannical than we have in the last 70 years.
00:57:47.000But the fact that at the beginning just the USSR did, it created some deterrence between those two superpowers.
00:57:53.000And I do think that it's important for men to develop optionality so that they can combat the passive optionality that a woman has just by being a woman.
00:58:03.000And that kind of levels the playing field.
00:58:07.000You don't necessarily have to be spinning plates, though that's one way to do it.
00:58:12.000The best thing for a man to be is visibly competent.
00:58:17.000Women, in order to increase their optionality, they want to be visibly attractive.
00:58:21.000That's why they're on Instagram with the booty pics, right?
00:58:37.000But when you're a guy and you're in really great shape, some girls will admire it, but to be honest with you, and ask any guy that's a fitness influencer, they'll tell you.
00:59:39.000Clearly, there are things about being a high-value man, having high net worth, taking care of your body, but I think more than anything else, the magic sauce with women is fame.
01:00:12.000And if you are a man who can command an audience, whether it's a stage at your local theatrical production or it's on YouTube or on social media or what have you, and there are eyeballs looking at you, and there are men who respect you, and there are other women looking at you in admiration, like,
01:00:28.000women are going to find a way to get around you because then they can vicariously bask in the attention that you are receiving.
01:00:35.000And women know subconsciously that as a man, if you have an audience or you have some level of notoriety or fame, you're doing something right because it's significantly harder for men to build an audience or get into the music industry or become an entertainer than it is for a female.
01:00:50.000So they know deep down, they're like, alright, you're providing some kind of value if you're big.
01:00:54.000I've always said, and I hate to say this, A guy that has like 10k followers on Instagram is like the equivalent to like a girl that has like 250k on Instagram.
01:01:08.000You know, that's like a benchmark where, because let's be honest, a regular bimbo can have 100,000 on Instagram with like no pictures up because men are that thirsty.
01:01:15.000But as a dude, if you're going to have that kind of following, you're doing something right.
01:01:35.000We'll leave aside this recent celebrity that I've established, but it was so much easier for me to attract women when I was a broke actor living in New York City than as a rich doctor in my 30s.
01:01:49.000And I think it's because I had my stage, and the lights were on me, and people were looking up, and there was the reviews.
01:01:55.000You know, you're the contextual alpha.
01:01:56.000Being a leading man on a stage, even if it's not a Broadway show, people are going to be waiting at the stage door.
01:02:02.000You know, you mentioned the contextual alpha.
01:02:05.000That is so goddamn important, because I've told people this before, that if you're at the right place at the right time with this right situation and context...
01:02:15.000You don't have to necessarily be the most attractive guy or the most physically capable guy, whatever, but if you are the top guy in your certain social niche or circle, you'll be fine.
01:02:24.000This is why, like, when I used to work in, you know, regular jobs, right, when I was, you guys know I worked at McDonald's, got fired from that, and then I worked in loss prevention at Macy's, et cetera, the girls were hooking up with, like, the managers or the bosses, et cetera, and these guys were relatively lower value, right?
01:02:39.000I don't know, some fucking, you know, that's a whole other thing.
01:03:46.000Because in that case, in that scenario, he was a contextual alpha, so he was able to hook up with a bunch of girls that worked at Macy's at the time.
01:03:52.000So I think that's also very important, especially since most men meet women through social circle game.
01:03:57.000Most guys aren't out here cold approaching and doing all this other shit to the same degree that we talk about here in RP. Most guys are literally meeting women through social circle, contextual alphas work, etc.
01:04:33.000Nothing works better than marriage, because what it does is it kind of makes you safe.
01:04:40.000Because women actually kind of want to be nicer to guys, but guys, no one's ever nice to them, and so they can't decide whether this woman is just being friendly or she's flirting with him.
01:04:51.000That's why they tend to fall in love with the barista who smiles at them, because he's the only person who fucking smiles at him all day.
01:04:56.000It's the only, like, actual positive...
01:05:02.000But if you're married, it's like, oh, this can't lead to anything, so I'm going to touch you, I'm going to get close to you, I can open up to you.
01:05:15.000And it's actually, I mean, it's just like recruiting.
01:05:17.000It's always easier to steal somebody else's man than to get your own, because it's just 1v1 versus maybe like 1v100, you know what I'm saying?
01:06:19.000And I've always said, if you're gonna look at, the example I give for guys is, if you look at love as like a tree, the seed of the love of tree is literally fear.
01:06:30.000Because fear is a necessary requirement for respect, right?
01:06:35.000So, in order for a woman to respect you, she has to fear you, and the only way she fears you is by fear of loss, of you walking away.
01:06:41.000That's when you're able to get her admiration because, like, okay, I had to work to earn this guy's affection, and I respect him, and I fear losing him.
01:06:50.000But the problem is that a lot of guys, like, have girls that don't give a fuck if they lose them.
01:06:53.000And that's why you get the disrespect, you get the ridiculousness, she calls you out your name.
01:06:57.000And, you know, there's a bunch of y'all probably watch this podcast right now.
01:07:00.000Your girl be nagging you and talking shit to you.
01:07:02.000You know, embarrassing you in public, etc.
01:07:04.000She's just with you because you're a placeholder boyfriend.
01:07:06.000And I don't think enough guys can identify this situation that she's only with me and tolerating me because I'm the best that she could do now.
01:07:13.000But if she finds another guy or maybe she might even be cheating on me or whatever, I'm just some level of comfort.
01:07:17.000Or maybe she's with me out of necessity because I pay bills or whatever.
01:07:20.000But this is why guys need to understand that you need to get respect from your girl first.
01:07:30.00025-year-old electrician, $70,000 a year, saving to FHA Triplex, which go for $150,000, $300,000 in my rural area.
01:07:35.000To maximize my savings, I move back with my family.
01:07:38.000My issue is that, let me get home at this age, demoralize me, and makes me feel like a failure for not having my life together on my own feet, even knowing I'm saving towards something greater, especially when I have to tell women.
01:07:46.000Any advice to keep my head above water during this, and how much do you recommend I save before buying?
01:07:51.000Bro, yo, dude, you're 25 years old, man.
01:08:18.000You just gotta, you know, suck it up and keep going.
01:08:21.000Like, you know, instead of thinking to yourself, like, oh my god, I gotta go back and live with my family, think, oh, I get to go back and live with my family.
01:08:28.000Instead of saying, oh my god, I gotta save this money, say, I get to save this money.
01:08:32.000Instead of saying, oh my god, I gotta buy this house, blah, blah.
01:08:34.000No, say, I get to buy this house, which will eventually create wealth for me and passive income, and then I'll be able to go in and get women.
01:10:44.000I've never had to be in that situation, so I'm not really sure.
01:10:47.000Because there's been cases where guys will have a fight, like an actual legit fight, and they lose, and the girl's like, wow, this guy's not who I thought he was going to be, and then they leave.
01:11:16.000I'll never forget there was this girl, she was dating this MMA guy, and she watched her boyfriend get beat up in the cage.
01:11:22.000You know, obviously it's a fight, but it's a, you know, a sport-sanctioned bout, whatever.
01:11:27.000But I guess, you know, going back to what you were saying, like the mammalian side, right, because we're animals and mammals at the end of the day, she lost attraction from him and she broke up with him after that fight.
01:11:36.000And it's like, I think women watching their guy get beat up by another man does something in their head where they just lose attraction from a primal standpoint because he's effectively displayed...
01:11:51.000So it's like, it's the same reason why I tell guys not to cry in front of girls.
01:11:54.000You don't necessarily want to fight in front of your girl, you know, if you're going to lose.
01:11:58.000Like, these are all things that can, like, set you back big time because the problem with women is that they're emotional and erratic lovers.
01:12:03.000So it's like, they can change like that if they can get turned off so quickly.
01:12:07.000And they tend to get bored with men faster than men get bored with them.
01:12:20.000DripCon, I've heard Psych Hacks on the last show mention that Hollywood version of romance is false, but don't go into much detail.
01:12:24.000Could you explain what he meant by that?
01:12:25.000I don't know if we have time for that.
01:12:28.000Boys, if you haven't already listened to Drake's new song, If The Shoe Fits, it's gotta be a Top 10 Red Pill song because it speaks on girls right now.
01:12:35.000Shit's funny because it's okay if he says it.
01:12:37.000Yeah, he mentioned, basically, he saw a girl's Instagram.
01:15:18.000That's the other reason why I think guys need to get 50 chicks, man.
01:15:21.000Bro, if you've never banged a girl before or you're sexually inexperienced, well, girls will sell you a dream and you'll believe it because you're stupid.
01:17:54.000Anyway, also known by his stage names Pup Daddy P, Diddy, and Diddy, is an American rapper, singer, record producer, record executive, and actor.
01:18:01.000Born in Harlem, Combs worked as a talent director at Uptown Records before founding his own record label, Bad Boy, 1993.
01:18:08.000Combs has produced and cultivated artists such as The Notorious B.I.G., Mary J. Blige, and Usher.
01:19:33.000But, you know, amongst the accolades of Diddy and his well-being and his, you know, current wealthy status, there's a lot of allegations around his, like, sex life, what he does behind the scenes.
01:19:45.000And it's crazy because on some level...
01:19:48.000You haven't really heard a full story on him to give you that, like, okay, this is 100% true.
01:19:54.000We've heard little tidbits here and there of people saying this and that, you know, kind of like hush-hush.
01:19:59.000But recently, we've seen Cassie come out, which is his, like, longtime lover, girlfriend, aka more so than that, saying that he did multiple deplorable acts.
01:20:12.000And it's crazy because this is the first time ever...
01:20:16.000It's been this public to this level where someone that close to him brought it up.
01:20:20.000And I think for most people, they're like, wow, maybe it is true what they heard about Diddy from the past and all the other allegations.
01:20:27.000Because on some level, you would think him at his level, oh, that's not true, you know, he'll never do that.
01:20:33.000But to hear someone this close to him say these things, I mean, dude, is it true?
01:21:48.000And so what a woman can now do is she can leverage her one sexual opportunity, whereas in the past it was tied more or less to one or maybe just a few men.
01:21:56.000Using technology, she can leverage that one opportunity to literally millions of men.
01:22:01.000And it's completely safe to her because she has, you know, a screen between him and her.
01:22:08.000I remember I watched a TikTok just recently where a woman seems to be flying in first class.
01:22:15.000But the caption says, I just realized, how am I going to pay for this flight?
01:22:20.000And it cuts to her in the bathroom and she's kind of like putting her shirt back on.
01:22:23.000So the idea is she did some sort of like quick OnlyFans streams in the bathroom of the airplane to get the kind of money that she needs to just fund the airplane.
01:22:31.000And whereas before, if a woman needed something, she would just go like hit up her husband.
01:23:20.000What we see as a female captain is how can I load as many passengers onto my boat by leveraging my sexual opportunity?
01:23:28.000So these TikTok stars, these OnlyFans stars, they're kind of like female captains.
01:23:33.000They're like, just like a male captain is like, I want to get as many women on my boat as possible.
01:23:38.000Because I'm going to use my status and resources.
01:23:40.000Well, women are selling their sex for money, and they can do so on a grand scale now.
01:23:46.000And I think that's going to lure more and more, especially young women, into that, and it's going to be very hard for them further down the road.
01:24:40.000She's still on there looking for guys to pay her rent, looking for guys to buy her bags, still exploiting, right, her sexuality for some type of benefit.
01:24:50.000And what I've realized is that regardless of a woman's income, status, etc., A lot of them will still find a way or regress back to sexualizing themselves to get something out of men.
01:25:03.000And if they can do it without having to necessarily give up the box, they will do it.
01:25:07.000This girl had a boyfriend the whole time that she was doing it, man.
01:25:10.000And with the internet, women are basically able to scale their sexuality now at an unprecedented level.
01:25:17.000It used to be you had to be at a strip club and deal with weirdos touching you.
01:25:20.000It used to be in the Wild West during the gold rush, you had to be a prostitute and risk chlamydia and syphilis to have sex with, you know, Westerners that were, you know...
01:25:30.000Going to the West during the gold rush and, you know, risk getting killed by Native Americans, Comanches, and all this other bullshit.
01:25:35.000But now, women are able to do it through the safety of the internet and home, and you had a key word there, sexual opportunity.
01:25:42.000AKA, it doesn't actually have to happen.
01:25:44.000Just the guise of potentially happening or the fantasy is enough.
01:25:49.000That's why if you look at OnlyFans creators, half these chicks that make a lot of money, They have a boyfriend or they have a dude that they're with, but they don't show that because it's going to significantly affect their ability to collect revenue.
01:26:01.000I'd also like to add as well that these girls are only fans pretty much.
01:26:07.000Just that on some level, they have attention at their beck and call and it kind of like has a placebo effect because it kind of gives them that like, you know what, I'm getting all this attention, but they're missing the love aspect.
01:26:19.000But the problem is, once you go down this path of only fans, The guys that they actually want, don't want them.
01:26:25.000It's a cycle of meeting guys, getting smashed, getting tossed back to the dating pool.
01:26:30.000And I can only imagine how depressed they're going to be when they get older.
01:26:36.000Yeah, I gave a prediction, and I'd love to get your take on this.
01:26:41.000I have a prediction that we're going to have...
01:26:43.000We already have a multitude of women suffering from mental illnesses of anxiety and, you know, depression and withdrawals, whatever the fuck it is.
01:26:49.000Nearly every woman I personally know is on psychiatric medication.
01:26:57.000And I said this on another episode, but I'm going to say it one more time.
01:27:00.000In the next 20 to 30 years, when these Gen Zers are older and past the wall, because they're really the ones that are on the forefront of this stuff.
01:27:08.000People in our age group in our 30s, we still remember what it was like to not have social media and growing up on iPads.
01:27:13.000But these Gen Zers, born in the late 90s and early 2000s, dude, them especially...
01:27:18.000In the next 30 to 40 years, you're going to see a mass spike in mental medication prescriptions.
01:27:48.000Regular ass girls that have huge audiences, enormous amounts of attention.
01:27:52.000They're cutting, contacting on the internet all the time.
01:27:54.000They're almost like pseudo-celebrities, right?
01:27:56.000Maybe not to the level of Britney Spears, but they're getting damn near the same amount of attention that she got 20 years ago.
01:28:01.000You're telling me that that's not going to affect them mentally?
01:28:03.000They're not going to be dancing around in a fucking thong with knives and shit like that in the next 20-30 years when they hit the wall and they're no longer able to elicit the same attention they did because now the new younger girls on the block are getting all the attention?
01:28:13.000I genuinely think we're going to have a mass increase in...
01:28:18.000Psychiatric medication being prescribed to young women or older women now at that point.
01:28:21.000I agree with everything you guys have just said and I think that we have to be very...
01:28:25.000Let's go talk a little bit more about what attention is.
01:28:30.000Like I remember that from my days as an actor.
01:28:33.000It's like when you walk on stage and the lights are on you and the whole audience, hundreds of people are quiet and they're focused and attentive to whatever you're doing.
01:28:41.000It is an emotional, exhilarating experience.
01:28:44.000And I know women who won't, like they're professionals, they're in relationships, they'll keep stripping.
01:28:52.000They'll keep doing things on OnlyFan because I think they miss that rush.
01:30:33.000And this is a girl that experienced a fraction of the attention of And validation that modern women are experiencing now.
01:30:40.000And here's the other thing too, I don't know if you guys, there was a documentary that came out like a year or two ago on social media and how they purposely make it to make you addicted to the likes.
01:30:49.000Even the way they put the graphics on the app when you get a notification or you get a new message or whatever.
01:30:54.000They design it in a way to keep you coming back.
01:30:57.000This is why, man, I can't tell you how many times we've seen girls lose their Instagrams or whatever it may be.
01:31:05.000But they lose their fucking minds because that addiction, that dopamine hit, when people like your posts or people comment or people send you messages or validate your behavior, it's a real thing.
01:33:12.000She began her musical career after meeting record producer Ryan Leslie in late 2004, who signed her to his record label, Next Election Lifestyle Group.
01:33:20.000Two years later, Ventura released her debut, Me and You.
01:33:53.000Which was discovered by rapper Sean Diddy Combs.
01:33:55.000Leslie agreed to partner with his next selection imprint with Combs' Bad Boy Records for the commercial release of her debut album as the song marked her first entry on the Billboard 100.
01:34:04.000It soon peaked at number three on the chart in July 2006.
01:36:07.000Also tonight, music mogul Sean Diddy Combs accused of sex trafficking and sexual assault in a lawsuit filed in federal court here in New York.
01:36:46.000Now, Combs' lawyer said in a statement in part that his client vehemently denies the allegations, calling them baseless and outrageous, and that Ventura has been demanding $30 million, threatening to write a book about their relationship.
01:37:01.000Stay updated about breaking news and...
01:37:03.000So, and now let's pull up the lawsuit real quick, and I'll read like the first paragraph, and then we'll go ahead into discussion and get everyone's take on it.
01:37:12.000United States District Court, Southern District of New York.
01:37:14.000And just to let you guys know, this is a civil...
01:37:17.000Matter, not a criminal matter, which means they have to find beyond the preponderance of the evidence, which is basically 49% to 51%, and he can be held liable, Sean Combs, and more than likely he'll have to pay some money.
01:37:31.000By the way, I'd like to mention, Cassie has a husband now and two kids, and apparently she was dating her trainer.
01:37:39.000So, I mean, on this level, she's away from Diddy, and she might need some money.
01:37:53.000Ventura, hereby alleges as for and for her complaint against defendant Sean Combs, Mr.
01:37:59.000Combs, Bad Boy Entertainment, Bad Boy Records, Epic Records, Combs, Enterprise, LLC, and Doe Corporations 1 through 10, corporations together with Mr.
01:38:31.000Combs stated, and I quote, I have to give a special shout-out to you, a special shout-out, thank you, love, to the people that was really there for me.
01:38:39.000He named a number of people before adding, And also Cassie for holding me down in the dark times.
01:40:16.000Ventura to a lifestyle of excessive alcohol and substance abuse and required her to procure illicit prescriptions to satisfy his own addictions.
01:40:42.000Physical abuse, having her hook up with other dudes that he watched, ran out of his apartment to chase a rival industry executive with a gun.
01:41:22.000So, and then there was beef because basically, like, Pac thought that Biggie set him up to get shot in New York City back in the early 90s.
01:41:55.000If these things are true, what she's stating here in this lawsuit, obviously speaking, bro, I mean, it's messed up because, dude, that is some heinous shit.
01:42:04.000Now, mind you, they've been together for like 10 years plus.
01:42:56.000You wife up this chick that's been apparently ran through by multiple male prostitutes and degraded in ways I can't see on camera and give her two kids and be like, oh, I love her, man.
01:43:12.000But again, this is crazy because this is being said against Diddy, and Diddy with all his power, success, and I want to say accolades, bro, we've heard rumors before of some things that happened in the past, and it's like, is it true or not?
01:44:03.000There was a girl I used to see in New York, this was years ago, and she had told me that one of her exes, you know, was a model, you know, like some 6'8 Chad guy, whatever the fuck it is, and he had been tasked, he had gotten a job one time, he was like a male, you know, escort, he had been tasked one time to hook up with a female,
01:44:21.000and he didn't know, and there was going to be a guy watching, he didn't know who the fuck it was until he showed up, but he showed up, it was Diddy!
01:45:16.000Her argument is she tried to leave multiple times, but his power and status overrid her leaving because, again, his team, people he knew, would always bring her back.
01:45:25.000Of course she's not saying that, yeah.
01:45:26.000And remember, she's in the music industry.
01:45:27.000So her ties are tied with him because, again, he's like her manager, so to speak, in the industry.
01:45:32.000Not manager, but like, you know, he's on top of her.
01:45:35.000So you can make some phone calls and say, hey, you know what?
01:45:53.000You hear about the police allegations with the rich and successful guys, but I hear about allegations with not rich and not successful guys.
01:46:03.000I just did a consultation with a guy two days ago.
01:46:06.000He was accused of unsavory sexual conduct by a woman in his college, and he was just expelled.
01:46:15.000And every single week, I don't think it's hyperbole to say, I deal with a man who has had some sort of administrative violence or relational aggression where his reputation was ruined.
01:46:25.000Never usually to the point that the police get involved.
01:46:28.000But it's like you have to be rich in order to get to that stage.
01:47:04.000And I know this because I had gotten in trouble in my college one time.
01:47:08.000It was some bullshit, so I ended up getting cleared of it.
01:47:10.000But, like, it's a kangaroo court when it comes to universities, and they're like, a lot of times it's like a discipline conduct board that does it, which is your peers and students, and guess who runs it?
01:48:09.000And if you get accused, even if you're innocent, whatever, they're just gonna go ahead and get rid of you just because it's like they don't want to deal with the bullshit.
01:49:24.000Because, I would say, he's had a pretty fairly positive, you know, I haven't heard anything controversial from him since, like, the 90s when he had the nightclub shooting.
01:51:44.000I mean, they had a long-term relationship.
01:51:45.000It could have been consensual, but she doesn't want to say that because she doesn't want to come off as a whore because she was married and had kids at the time.
01:51:50.000So there's a huge incentive for her to lie here, right?
01:51:52.000So you've got to look at it objectively.
01:52:11.000Yo, dawg, that's an L. Yo, I promise you, bro, if I spent my entire life working on myself, becoming a man, and I married a chick like this, bro...
01:52:28.000Okay, as a man of means, do you think that he's going to be mentally stable after hearing all this stuff with his wife?
01:52:36.000I think it's going to be tough, but I've never met either of these people before.
01:52:40.000I bet he's going to be the supportive partner and say, you know, they're going to have a little powwow, it's going to get really tough, they're going to be prepared for the backlash, and I suppose if he's going to be interviewed, he's going to be the loyal, devoted, and supportive husband.
01:52:54.000Yo, bring up Cassie's Instagram real quick, if you don't mind mowing bills.
01:58:08.000It wasn't for money, apparently, but they did reach some sort of agreement.
01:58:12.000And part of the terms of the agreement was that he was allowed to go public with the evidence to exonerate his name, which, you know, thank God for that.
01:58:20.000Part of that were text messages between the woman in question and some of her friends who were just sort of like treating him as a meal ticket, I think.
01:59:21.000I think in these situations you are definitely guilty until you're proven innocent, and you really only get a chance to tell your side of the story if it goes to trial, which it generally doesn't.
02:00:54.000Just opportunistic women that want to go ahead and leverage the Me Too situation for their own personal gain, make some money, maybe sometimes just absolve themselves of responsibility because they cheat on their guy, the guy found out he's trying to break up with them.
02:03:02.000I think I can finish writing a working draft by the end of January, and it's probably going to take a month or two to get it edited and put it into shape, so I hope to have it by the end of Q1 or beginning of Q2 next year.
02:03:12.000I still don't have a title, but I'm working on it.
02:03:16.000It's a little bit more highbrow than some of the stuff I put out there, so I hope I don't alienate the audience base, but I'm really proud with the way things are done.
02:03:23.000When it comes out, we definitely got to talk about it.
02:04:30.000That's supposed to be like the most profound, beautiful, ecstatic experience that you can have in life is the opportunity to be with the one you love.
02:04:58.000And in general, boredom is going to drive women out of a relationship sooner than men.
02:05:04.000And so it's been said that you can make a woman feel anything except bored, and there's some truth to that.
02:05:10.000And the longer she's in the position of being the adored, she's on that pedestal and you're looking up to her, the less she's having an emotional experience and the more she might be looking for the door.
02:05:20.000Also, if you're looking up at her, she's looking down at you.
02:05:23.000And a woman wants to look up to her man and think, man, I'm lucky to be with this guy.
02:05:28.000He is tall, he is strong, he is rich, he is competent.
02:05:32.000How can she do that to the guy who's staring up at her with puppy dog eyes?
02:05:37.000So what I tell guys, especially guys in their 20s, a lot of nice guys, you know, they're well-meaning men, they're doing what they think they're supposed to do vis-a-vis women, is that they have to make a voluntary sacrifice of being the adorer so that the woman can be in that role for the stability of the relationship.
02:05:57.000Because the longer the woman is up here and she's not having the emotional experience and she's looking down at the man, the days of that relationship are numbered.
02:06:04.000So I understand you like to do nice things for the woman.
02:06:17.000And I wanted you guys to hear that from him because so many men make that mistake where they adore the woman too much and you rob her of the emotional stimuli of being the adorer.
02:06:41.000I mean, Patrice O'Neill talked about that.
02:06:42.000He said the best situation was the woman loved the man and the man liked the woman.
02:06:47.000You know what I realized, too, about this?
02:06:49.000On a deeper level, if she is adoring you, she'll let you have other women.
02:06:55.000So for example, if she's adoring you, she will say, you know what, alright, he's the other woman, I understand because he's that guy.
02:07:02.000Versus the opposite, if you're adoring her, hold on, you're giving me time, attention, and resources, I don't want to share that with other women.
02:07:10.000As a result, I've noticed that men care way more about a woman's sexual fidelity and women care more about a man's, let's say, emotional fidelity.
02:07:19.000A lot of women, they just sort of want to feel...
02:07:21.000They don't love it when a guy maybe steps out of the relationship or sees other women.
02:07:26.000They might roll their eyes, but a lot of them will tolerate it, especially if they feel like there's something special about that relationship.
02:07:34.000That you're doing something with her that you don't do with those other women.
02:07:37.000Yeah, no, I could say that from experience.