In this episode of the Fresh Fit Podcast, we have our first guest on the show, Ray J! We talk about his life growing up, how he got into the fitness industry, and what it's like being a stripper. We also talk about birth control and how it messed with his life. Lastly, we talk about Ray J's lucky number and how he met his significant other. This episode is sponsored by Yacht Party, a party that's going to be going on August 10th and 11th. Don't miss out! Tickets are on sale now! Fresh Fit is a production of Fresh Fit Media. FreshFit Media is a digital media company that provides high quality, high quality content to the general public. The content they create is based on best practices and practices from the best minds in their field. Produced in Los Angeles, California and New York, New York and Boston, MA. Don t miss out on all things Fresh Fit! Subscribe, Like, Share, and Subscribe to Fresh Fit on all social media platforms so you can stay up to date with the latest Fresh Fit updates! Cheers, Jonny and Ray J -Jonny and Myron, The Fresh Fit Crew Don't Tell a Friend About This Podcast: Insta: Subscribe to the Podcast: . Subscribe on iTunes Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Subscribe on PodCast Subscribe on SoundCloud Subscribe on Podcasts! Leave Us a Review on iTunes Learn more about Jonny & Ray J on Social Media If you like the Podcast, Rate and Review on Insta Podcast, Subscribe on PODCAST, Subscribe to our Podcasts and Podcasts, Like Us on Vayner Media Podcasts & Podcasts - Subscribe to Our Podcast, We'll Be Reviewed On Social Media - Subscribe On PodCast, Subscribe On Itunes, We're Insta and We'll See You On The Podcast, Become a Friend on Itunes & We'll Have A Podcast On Podcasts On The Same Podcast - Subscribe To Our Insta - And We'll Also Be Sending You'll Be Receipts On Podcast On The Podcast, Also Be Heard On The Pitch, On The Internet? Join Us On Social Podcasts And Other Places On Podcast, Also On The Social Media And Other Things On The Vine, We'll Find Out How To Hear About It On The Crew?
00:11:31.000You know where my lucky number is 17 so why she said a million and seven meaning 17 I don't know but once seven was in there but that's a lot of that's a lot of people I had one more in there.
00:19:22.000I'm not on birth control, and I actually don't believe women should be on birth control because there's a lot of chemicals and things involved, but that's a different scenario.
00:25:11.000So, Kiev is the capital and this is a pretty small country and because we speak Russian as well, people assume that it's Russia, but it's not.
00:31:05.000Okay, so we spoke about something before the show for Love of Ray J, and I just want to know from the ladies here, what is love to you and do you think love is possible to find nowadays in the current dating market?
00:31:55.000So in the comments I'm seeing like I don't know like clown pictures a little bit so I'm thinking like what if somebody put the red thing on it just was fucking I don't know what it means here.
00:32:11.000You see the clown thing, you see the happy faces, but that's all I can see.
00:32:46.000Is anybody here, and I'm not saying for me, because I'm totally going to go to sleep tonight watching a movie, but who here is having that one night stand at night?
00:32:59.000I mean, do you plan a one-night stand or does it just happen?
00:33:38.000Love to me would be trust, communication, and comprehension for sure.
00:33:44.000I mean, if you guys don't understand each other's point of view or whatever aspect that you guys are going at, then it's never going to work.
00:43:02.000Other than that just like I feel like it's also really like it's a huge energy feeling so like if you pay attention If you pay attention to the people W comments if you pay attention to like who you're committing to you can feel like if they're being shady or not like there's always that feeling and then when you finally find someone like you won't get
00:43:32.000that feeling and i think a lot of people don't realize that and that's why they're constantly like looking and yeah that made a lot of sense to listen to your intuition that was great I don't know what you said though.
00:43:54.000It's probably more rare with the media and everything infiltrating things now.
00:44:00.000I'm single because I don't feel comfortable getting in a relationship and asking someone certain things if I don't have that for myself yet.
00:44:08.000And like, I want to meet somebody somewhere rather than have them like pull me across the finish line or like vice versa.
00:45:38.000It's not fair to young girls who should experience younger guys who are shy and naive and living life as well and they're all learning together.
00:45:46.000So you prefer an older girl who's slow or a younger girl with commitment and a life going on?
00:45:51.000I don't give a fuck because it's really just a one-night thing to me.
00:45:55.000I'm only going to fall in love with one woman.
00:48:50.000If you're really messing with you, then tell him.
00:48:51.000I mean, I'm in school, so it's like, I'm just busy trying to, like, do all of that.
00:48:55.000So I'm not really, like, I don't want to get distracted by a boy right now, because nine times out of ten, like, they're not really trying to, like, marry you right now.
00:49:02.000What if he paid for your lifestyle, like, took care of you while you were at school?
00:49:05.000Like, what if the guy did that for you?
00:49:06.000Um, if he did, I mean, that's one thing, like...
00:49:10.000But I don't want to go, like, I don't go around, like, asking for that, because it's like...
00:49:14.000But if it happened naturally, would you stop stripping?
00:49:16.000If I was in a serious relationship with someone who was financially stable for themselves, and like...
00:49:21.000Hey, fuck y'all niggas that said I had a high-pitched voice.
00:51:19.000Y'all look good though, but you guys are too young.
00:51:24.000You're in the industry I'm starting to get into.
00:51:27.000What made you get into the music career?
00:51:30.000I didn't get into the music career, I got out of the music career.
00:51:33.000I'm blackballed in every industry except technology and except Ratchet TV. So these niggas blackballed me in every industry, but I made my own way, so that's it.
01:02:02.000I'm split because I'm like a Republican at heart, but being a black woman and living the life I've lived, I understand, you know, a lot of the foundation of the Democrats platform.
01:02:17.000I lean more towards Kamala because I do believe, even though I know people think that welfare is pointless and it's a crutch and da-da-da-da-da.
01:02:24.000I moved to New York last year and it's crazy out there.
01:02:31.000So I would vote Trump and I would vote Republican if they would be more sensitive to the needs of the typical person dealing with poverty, mental illness, that type of stuff.
01:03:01.000Respectfully, I feel like we need better in our political running.
01:03:07.000I don't really know too much, but I would say Camilla because all the things that I've been hearing that Trump is trying to do, I really don't agree to it.
01:03:18.000If y'all want me to vote to be the president, y'all hit Ray J24 right now in the comments, nigga.
01:04:31.000I don't really know if we have as much of an influence as we think we do but I would probably say Trump because I mean Kamala's history of her past leadership positions I mean she was wrongfully locking people up for things they didn't do and I mean that's really wrong obviously and people look past that and I obviously think that It'd be cool to have a woman and,
01:04:56.000you know, a black woman at that, but I would rather...
01:05:54.000Okay, we done that one already, basically.
01:05:56.000But I appreciate your kindness and your generosity, and thank you for looking out for me, and I try to do my best not to fuck up today, okay?
01:10:34.000And I love women that have continued to build themselves up and be great, right?
01:10:39.000Those are the girls that I just want to hang out with and talk to and learn from.
01:10:43.000They're not the girls I want to get it popping with.
01:10:49.000I'm not going to get it popping with the girls that's going to change the world for us.
01:10:52.000I don't want to fuck with you like that and curve your enthusiasm.
01:10:58.000Now your friend down the block that you know run me her and then let's continue to build you up and be great and you can be our spokesperson for greatness.
01:12:57.000So, Ray, I get what you're saying, Ray.
01:12:59.000I just think for a guy that's been successful, that worked on himself, that's been that pinnacle of, like, what you would consider high value, if he wants a young girl, I mean, by all means, why not?
01:13:08.000No, I think that the young girls are our future, and they're here to make sure we're all good in the future.
01:13:13.000And we gotta keep them safe, and we gotta make sure they're treated with respect.
01:21:09.000We had 12 years of difference, but because he had, let's say, young soul and he was into all the stuff I'm into, We had a lot of mutual things, but I do agree that guys often use younger girls to get what they want, and my perspective absolutely has changed in the span of three years.
01:21:29.000So I respect that side, but I don't mind having someone who's older than me.
01:21:35.000So what's the max you would go age-wise now?
01:22:26.000I wouldn't push it to ten, but definitely in that range.
01:22:45.000I could say it could be up to 10, but I really think it's more about their life force energy.
01:22:48.000Like when a man really takes care of himself, drinks his water, fitness, health, like he has that vibrant energy, then I don't really think the age number-wise matters as much.
01:22:56.000Because I've met younger guys who have like drained.
01:23:14.000See, because I think for most girls, they have an idea of what they want, but they don't really know what they want until they see it for themselves.
01:23:21.000And like, a guy that's successful, that worked on himself, I think he wants to find a girl that's going to be young, fertile, and ready to go and follow his lead.
01:26:32.000If I was a hot, hot bitch, I put some money, I'm getting free up parties, I'm getting free drinks, free dinner, I'm getting rich niggas taking me out, and you know what?
01:26:59.000I believe that the benefits that we get are superficial.
01:27:03.000The benefits that men get, like for example, if we're both going for a job, the fact that I'm a woman, sometimes the man just automatically gets it.
01:30:19.000Just for all the ladies here that think there's a double standard, can you name one double standard that benefits men that women also don't enjoy besides the ability to have sex without consequence?
01:30:29.000Since you were talking about it the most, actually?
01:30:31.000Yeah, like for example, I was saying the job.
01:30:33.000I believe that there is this idea in society, even though they say if you want it done, get a woman to do it, no.
01:30:39.000I believe that this whole idea of women are emotional, women work off hormones automatically Most people don't even give you the opportunity to try to do the job.
01:30:50.000They're just going to say, man, woman, man, woman.
01:31:27.000I believe that most women are going to get turned away because they're women.
01:31:31.000And I feel like the mediocre, the little superficial things that are considered benefits, like, oh, you're a woman, you don't have to pay for your lunch...
01:31:39.000It's nothing compared to the benefits that the men get that lead, like behind the scenes it leads to power, it leads to wealth building, it leads to all these other things that I believe women don't even realize we don't have access to.
01:31:51.000No, the reality is you do have access to them, it's just that a lot of women choose to not have access to them because a lot of the time women are lazy.
01:31:57.000They want to go ahead and get free handouts and be treated like a lady and get all these benefits of chivalry, which inevitably puts you in a position where men give you things for free.
01:32:04.000Now if a woman wants to work and get into law enforcement and get into these professions you're talking about that they would not get, They actually would.
01:32:09.000Because if you want to go ahead and be an FBI agent right now, there's a female-only announcement for you.
01:32:13.000There's a DEI hire announcement for Secret Service agents for women.
01:32:16.000So in law enforcement, women actually have a higher likelihood of getting these jobs.
01:32:19.000And any type of law, any type of career field that favors men, they favor the women to come in to make it more diverse.
01:32:25.000So, I don't think, this whole double standard thing that women always cry about, double standards inherently benefit women.
01:32:31.000That's why we have to create another standard for you guys, because you guys suck at most things.
01:33:37.000She made a choice to be there and be a part of that team.
01:33:40.000The fact is, yes, you're saying, yes, things can happen in that way, but it's just a choice.
01:33:44.000The only thing about the career thing, that women's career mattered that much, it's like, look, Ronaldo, he used to take Irina Sheik, right?
01:34:01.000If you really meet the right man, you can actually build up your whole future, like your whole life off him.
01:34:07.000So it's like, in that way, it's like, what is women like gonna run for the career, run for the career?
01:34:11.000One of the things I get attacked for a lot of the times is I acknowledge the fact that women live life on easy mode and people get angry at me for saying that.
01:34:17.000But the reality is that women do live life on easy mode.
01:34:52.000I was a girl that started off doing the hard worker thing.
01:34:54.000I went to college, got my master's, I'm applying for jobs, I'm getting hired.
01:35:00.000And in every field that I work, And I hate to sound stereotypical, but I always felt like I would get into a position and I want to work my way up.
01:35:09.000What fields were you working in specifically?
01:35:10.000I've done trucking, like trucking for example.
01:35:22.000Because, first of all, the guys who own the company, they're never even going to allow someone that is not in their bloodline or a friend or a relative to even apply for certain jobs.
01:35:32.000Me being an executive assistant was the highest position I could ever get to in that company, and I knew that.
01:35:38.000And no matter how hard I worked, no matter how much money I saved them, I'm never, I'm never going to break that mold.
01:35:46.000I know because I tried and I know the politics.
01:36:04.000I quit a lot of jobs because you realize that you're just not going to get where you want to go.
01:36:09.000What if I told you that's a privilege as a woman that you can quit a bunch of jobs?
01:36:11.000You know how many guys work jobs that they absolutely hate because they must work it because men understand that the amount of money that they make in their title defines them?
01:36:17.000This is one of the benefits of being a woman.
01:36:48.000I don't want to do this trucking anymore.
01:36:49.000Men are more willing to sacrifice to do jobs that they hate to earn money because we understand that our value is derived by how much money we earn.
01:36:57.000Women, you guys can go ahead and pursue what you guys want.
01:36:58.000Why do you think women work stupid jobs?
01:37:44.000All I'm trying to establish to you is that women have the privilege of not necessarily having to work as hard or working a job that they don't like for a career because money doesn't define you.
01:37:57.000So since men have a higher burden of performance to earn money, we're more willing to sacrifice our wants and needs for the betterment to make money because we are looked at as the providers and protectors.
01:38:08.000You know how many guys out there work jobs that they fucking hate, but they do it anyway?
01:38:12.000Because they know that their choice is okay.
01:38:14.000But women are not willing to do these jobs.
01:38:16.000Women aren't willing to be sanitation workers.
01:38:18.000They're not willing to be truck drivers, as you just proved.
01:38:19.000They're not willing to be forklift operators and be plumbers.
01:38:27.000They're not willing to do construction workers.
01:38:28.000They're not willing to do these very difficult jobs.
01:38:30.000You guys want to sit in an office with air conditioning and look pretty with your makeup on.
01:38:34.000You guys don't want to do the hard jobs that pay a lot, by the way, because women just don't have the same proclivity to go out there and earn money.
01:39:55.000Myrie wasn't here, but y'all on this panel, and I've been listening for a minute, as a person who been here a lot and actually learned how to do it on different sides, all y'all said, y'all need a man with money, and you did too.
01:42:42.000In the world that I've seen and the world that I've come from, Women, it doesn't matter how pretty you are, you don't necessarily get the luxury of sitting there saying, oh, I want a man with this much money, so I'm gonna chill.
01:42:53.000Saying I want a man like that doesn't necessarily mean I get a man like that.
01:43:07.000Okay, but she's saying that women, there's these double standards that don't benefit women.
01:43:10.000That's one right there that proves my point.
01:43:12.000You would tolerate certain things in a relationship with a woman that you would never tolerate from a man.
01:43:16.000And that proves my point that most women, by the way, would agree with you that if I'm with a man, he needs to be at least providing something versus if you're with a woman, you would not expect her to have the same level.
01:43:26.000Now with you saying the black community, blah, blah, blah.
01:43:28.000The reality is that the lower end in terms of income.
01:43:32.000Let's not just say the black community.
01:43:35.000I'm not referring to upper and middle class.
01:43:38.000You can say whatever you want to say, but the reality is if I take 100 women, whether they're rich or not, and I ask them, would you prefer a man that's a breadwinner over a man that's going to go 50-50, would you know what they're all going to say?
01:43:49.000Okay, that's what we're trying to illustrate here.
01:43:51.000So just because women don't have a man that's a breadwinner doesn't mean that they still don't want it and wouldn't prefer it.
01:43:57.000It's just that she doesn't have the ability to attract that.
01:44:00.000No, she just doesn't have the ability to attract it.
01:44:17.000You say, yeah, when I say, listen to the question.
01:44:20.000When you benefit a man, you benefit a man, and then he's gonna go cheat on you because every man, and then he's gonna fucking embarrass you in front of everyone.
01:44:26.000I'm never staying down with that man, no.
01:44:28.000He can struggle himself, and then when he gets up...
01:44:31.000You're actually explaining exactly what I mean.
01:46:04.000Okay, so since you think all or a majority of men are going to cheat, would it be fair to say that a man that's actually monogamous is rare?
01:47:36.000A man that's actually attractive, let's say over six feet tall, has a bunch of money, maybe somewhat successful, has respect to his peers, do you think he's going to be...
01:47:43.000Do you think their likelihood of being monogamous is high or low?
01:49:24.000So for you, because you think most men are going to cheat, or you said all men are going to cheat, but you don't want a guy that's going to cheat on you.
01:51:48.000We want to go, that's beautiful, not annoying, not combative, not argumentative, etc.
01:51:52.000Men want different things in women and women want different things in men.
01:51:56.000So my ability to have sneakers and Jordans and look a certain way doesn't matter because it doesn't benefit you.
01:52:00.000What benefits you is me being able to protect you, provide for you, etc.
01:52:04.000So you saying that I got accepted to Harvard, that doesn't benefit me as a man.
01:52:07.000Okay, look, what benefits you as a man and a woman?
01:52:10.000Her being attractive, her being able to be a mother to your kids, her being able to build an empire with individuals, like, you're mostly building, she's just there for you, you know?
01:52:18.000Yeah, but I find it interesting how I asked you, because you're basically admitting that this guy doesn't exist, going back to the monogamy thing, you're admitting, and then when I asked you, okay, well, what does he get in return for being with you, and you listed off a bunch of accolades that don't really benefit him.
01:52:32.000But you understand my point, though, like...
01:52:34.000No, I do, and that's why I'm refuting it.
01:55:50.000I think the bottom line here I'm trying to illustrate is men don't really care about women's education and accolades.
01:55:56.000I think that's the important thing, which goes back to the whole double standard thing that you were mentioning before, because you said that there's double standards, and I would argue double standards only benefit women.
01:56:09.000Because I believe that the benefits that we're giving as women in terms of double standards are peanuts compared to the benefits that men get.
01:56:18.000Because we get the little things like, okay, perfect example.
01:56:48.000What I was going to say is the reason why the woman's resume is not scrutinized as hard as the man's resume is because it's already been built that this woman, it doesn't matter what her resume says because she's not going to get past this position anyway.
01:57:01.000Whereas a man, once we have hired him, there's always the possibility that he could move up and potentially be a leader in the company.
01:57:08.000And that's why a woman's resume is not as scrutinized as much as a guy is.
01:57:12.000And I have been a recruiter before, so I know that this is in the back of certain people's minds.
01:58:38.000I want to play the game from beginning to the end.
01:58:41.000That woman, I'm not going to say she's lost before she's already started, but the chances of that woman even making it to the halftime point, it's very, very small.
01:58:52.000It's like, me, women almost get forced into this hole.
02:00:08.000Let me just be very honest about this.
02:00:11.000Let's say I'm this guy that you're talking about that's like, I can go ahead and get girls.
02:00:16.000I'll be honest with you, most women are not going to support me financially, though, to the point where I don't have to work.
02:00:21.000Like, I might be able to get a girl to go on a date with me or whatever, but I'd be hard-pressed to find a girl that's actually going to be a sugar mama for me, okay?
02:02:14.000Okay, listen, I came from a poor background too, but I would be an absolute idiot to go ahead and use my personal experience and where I came from and my background and try to extrapolate that into the general population.
02:02:26.000The general population is much different.
02:02:47.000Because I'm asking you, name one privilege or benefit that men get, right, from this double standard that you're claiming that women also die in joy.
02:03:50.000They're the janitors that tend to be male.
02:03:52.000You're going to have the staff in the office, the administration.
02:03:55.000But when you get high up, when you're talking about who owns the office, when you're talking about who owns the practice, when you're talking about board of directors, when you're talking about upper-level management, when you're talking about doctors, those roles are usually held by men.
02:04:41.000So why is it that women are graduating college at a higher rate, three quarters of college attendees nowadays are women, women are dominating education in general, right?
02:04:49.000They're just more educated, and they're starting to make more money than men in a lot of major cities.
02:07:36.000They get it, and then it's up to them whether they're going to prove the stereotype right and be a bimbo, or they're going to prove it wrong and show a lot of work.
02:07:43.000But they get the opportunity is the point I'm trying to make.
02:07:46.000You know how many women get into law enforcement positions, become FBI agents, Secret Service, Homeland Security?
02:07:51.000They don't deserve to have that job, but they get it because they're female and they meet the requirements.
02:11:02.000Well, we gotta look at the real things.
02:11:03.000When you look at the wage gap, right, what you're really doing is you're taking all working men and all working women, right?
02:11:09.000Well, they're not accounting for hours work.
02:11:12.000They're not accounting for degrees held.
02:11:13.000They're not accounting for experience.
02:11:14.000They're not accounting for meritocracy, education, none of that stuff.
02:11:17.000They're just taking all full-time working men and all full-time working women.
02:11:21.000Which, if you do that, then yes, women earn less.
02:11:23.000But then if you actually account for experience, education, all the things that actually matter that are heavily influenced with how much money you earn, the wage gap evaporates.
02:11:32.000Matter of fact, women actually earn more than men when you actually account for apples versus apples and not apples versus oranges.
02:11:37.000The problem is that a lot of people will sit there and say, oh, well, women earn 80 cents on every dollar that a man makes.
02:11:42.000Yeah, that's because men take less vacation time, they work more hours, etc.
02:11:48.000And man doctor is going to be the head doctor because he will devote more hours to his job instead of going and having babies and like raising cheese.
02:12:09.000Y'all don't, now y'all hearing what y'all saying right now, that's going back on him saying that females have more of a choice than a man do.
02:12:21.000Right now, if a female lose a job right now and don't have shit, you can go right on the back page and do what you gotta do and make some money.
02:13:21.000What I'm saying is because it's Google, that's a company that's already built their foundation on things like sustainability and people rights.
02:13:34.000You missed the whole concept here that the reason why men earn more than women in a lot of the scenarios is because of the factors I just mentioned.
02:13:53.000Did you literally miss the part where I said hours work, types of jobs work, men work more dangerous jobs, men work more hours, men take less vacation time, men are more likely to do overtime.
02:14:03.000But I'm saying if you go position for position, if you go in a company and you go...
02:14:43.000So what I'm trying to say is that if you're going to go ahead and make this argument that women earn less, then we need to go ahead and compare apples to apples.
02:14:50.000The reality is women don't work infrastructure jobs that pay a lot.
02:15:47.000If you couldn't get to that executive position, it doesn't mean that if any woman went to your position, wouldn't get to that position either.
02:16:51.000This literally was just what I said a second ago.
02:16:54.000You went into a long-winded explanation as to men being on the board of directors and how women can't move up because men are on the board of directors, correct?
02:17:44.000Guys, we're going to cut the Cals Club.
02:17:45.000Come on over to Cals Club so we can talk about this.
02:17:48.000Okay, you just made the argument just a second ago that there's a male board of directors, you'd use the typical talking points that feminists do, glass ceiling, I can't move up, etc.