Safari is a rapper, entrepreneur, and reality TV star. He is also known for his role on the hit show 'The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills' as well as other shows like 'Keeping Up With The Kardashians' and 'Orange Is the New Black'. He also has a daughter and a son with his ex-wife. We talk about how he got his start in the entertainment industry and how he ended up on reality TV. We also talk about his relationship with Nicki Minaj and what it was like growing up in the same neighborhood as one of the biggest pop stars in the world. He talks about being on a reality TV show and how it has changed his life and how much he loves being on the show. And how he deals with the criticism that comes with being in the public eye. Thank you for listening to this episode of Fresh and Fit! I hope you guys enjoy it and stay tuned for a Zoom Call next week for a FREE call next week. Stay tuned for the next episode of the Fresh & Fit Podcast! XOXO, P.S. We will be doing a FREE Zoom Call for you guys next week, so don t miss it! xoxo, Puff & Steph Puff and Steph XO and Puff xOXO . & Puff, PSA: I am not here to make you feel good. I am here to help you feel better. P.E. I will be back next week with a new episode next week and I will give you guys a chance to listen to the latest episode of The Real House of Fresh n Fit. - P.O.D. XoxO, XO. xo Xo, SZA , P.B. & P.A. , XO, R.J. and A.J., P.C. & A.M. (P.M., ( ) PSA: P.I. ( ) . (HAPPYYYY!!) -P. (SWAKE UP! ) -A. Thank you, POOO (PODCASTING, PODCAST AND P. (AYO) - AYO (A. BOOYO ) P. M. (MRS. )
00:10:21.000You know, like me being on TV and doing what I do on there.
00:10:26.000I'm playing a character that people have really bought into.
00:10:32.000It's a little bit of me really in there, mixed with, okay, there's cameras on me, so I'm going to really overdo and over-exaggerate everything that I do because...
00:10:50.000I just want to know that all my bills is taken care of.
00:10:53.000I want to know that my kids are straight, my family, my mother, my sister, and I really don't give a fuck about what people think or say about me.
00:15:42.000And then I ended up, I was cool with Mona Scott.
00:15:45.000And then, I ain't gonna lie, I went broke.
00:15:49.000And Mona was like, hey, Love& Hip Hop is here if you want it.
00:15:54.000And she's been telling me, but I was like, nah, nah.
00:15:57.000I didn't want to make it look like, alright, cool.
00:15:59.000I was with Nicki, now I'm ready to go and be on TV. So I was like, nah, for two years by myself, I'm struggling, trying to figure out how I was living in Cali.
00:16:21.000Just having it, losing it, and then when you have it to that type of level, and then lose it, and then you gotta work, and you know what I'm saying, and get it on your own, it's a complete different setup.
00:16:32.000Would you recommend someone to actually do reality TV themselves?
00:16:35.000Like, let's say someone's watching now, and they had a chance to do reality TV, maybe like a game show, love show.
00:16:39.000Would you recommend them to do it, the regular person?
00:16:41.000Of course, because reality, that platform, I ain't gonna lie, like, I was doing really bad, but when I got on the show, that shit helped a lot.
00:16:50.000Because at the end of the day, people could be like, yeah, it's Ratchet TV and all this other shit.
00:16:57.000And when you're able to say, hey, this is my business card.
00:17:00.000I'm on national TV in front of a couple million people every week.
00:17:04.000People are going to want to endorse you, pay you, give you things just to say, hey, yo, just to wear my shirt and all of that kind of shit.
00:17:36.000It's a lot where you outside and people thinking that they really know you based off of what they saw last week on Monday, but then it's really not like that.
00:19:39.000When people come up to me and say, hey, yo, listen to my music, or yo, I want to send you some beats, I'd be like, bro, this is not that day and age anymore, you know what I'm saying?
00:19:54.000A lot of people who are getting lit is just getting lit off of social media.
00:24:41.000So, how's dating for you been since Nicki?
00:24:49.000I feel like I had to go through my levels of learning...
00:24:58.000Me being in the public eye, because think about it, right?
00:25:00.000Imagine you with somebody, but you used to just being low-key and playing in the background.
00:25:05.000Then, all of a sudden, you kind of switch positions, and then you kind of forget, okay, now when you go out, people taking pictures of you and a girl, and the thing is with me in real life, bro, I do not like being...
00:25:20.000Like, associated with people publicly.
00:26:25.000Outside of me, look, I just want to say this, because before I met you, and today's my first time seeing you in person in real life, because I've always been seeing you, and I'm always asking him why you're never around, because before I met him, before I met him, I thought y'all two are like...
00:26:56.000I'm not even talking about y'all personality.
00:26:58.000I'm just talking about what you are as far as the media world.
00:27:01.000I feel like y'all two are a staple in this space.
00:27:07.000Because even when I first walk in, like, I know these people are watching this and they probably see lights in a curtain, but I don't know if they see this setup.
00:27:47.000That one took, like, I would say probably two years to really have everything honed in because you get, like, one piece of equipment and you try it out.
00:28:10.000Not to cut you off, too, because as you're talking to...
00:28:15.000Because I used to watch, I don't even used to, I watch y'all shit on YouTube, and damn, I'm trying to remember.
00:28:22.000It was something with this girl, she was talking, and it's like the way you responded to her, because I know some girls, they act like they hate and they despise, but it's like some people don't want to hear the truth.
00:28:41.000Yeah, I mean, one thing I've noticed, I mean, hell, even yesterday I noticed this when I was on the other pod, is that, you know, men and women receive information a lot differently.
00:28:52.000Like, men are more concerned with the content of the information, women are more concerned with, like, the context and how the message is delivered.
00:28:58.000Like, if you say something that's true, but they don't like the way it's said...
00:29:02.000They won't listen to anything you gotta say.
00:29:14.000Like, we're more concerned with the information.
00:29:15.000So that's, like, one of the biggest things I've learned from, like, doing this show.
00:29:18.000Because, like, Psychologists talk about it and stuff, but it's one thing to talk about it, but another thing to experience it night after night talking to different women regardless of where they're from, education level, background, relationship status, etc.
00:29:28.000They all still respond to information fairly the same, which is how is it being conveyed to me versus what is being conveyed.
00:29:35.000That's one of the biggest things I've noticed.
00:29:37.000Yeah, I mean, hey man, we got a lot of haters, you know, I mean, we're going trending right now on some other shit too, so.
00:29:42.000Safari, real quick, for us, tell us the perception of us in your world.
00:30:25.000Because you could really say the wrong thing sometimes, and it will really affect your financial earning capacity, you know what I'm saying?
00:31:03.000Democrats and leftists in general are very anti-free speech.
00:31:06.000Let me tell you my whole thing about this, because everyone is like...
00:31:09.000I'm hearing and I'm seeing people saying that they're getting cancelled from bookings and shows and meet and greets because they were pro-Trump and shit.
00:31:20.000And I was watching Joe Budden the other day and he said something and I was like, what he said, it's like he put in the words what I was thinking because it's like, Kamala, okay...
00:31:32.000We hear you, but what are you doing or saying that has anything to do with or directed towards men?
00:31:54.000Men in general, like the black man, like I haven't heard nothing, you know what I'm saying?
00:31:58.000So that's why I just was always like, look, I don't love one more than the other, but it's just like, okay, if you trying to win, what are you trying to win with?
00:34:40.000Yeah, she relied a lot on celebrity endorsements.
00:34:43.000And then, if you look at the two campaigns, they took two different strategies.
00:34:46.000So, like, on her side, she brought in, like, A-list celebrities from different eras, right?
00:34:49.000Whether it was Bon Jovi or Bruce Springsteen or, you know, Taylor Swift or Eminem.
00:34:53.000She brought in all these different celebs, J-Lo, A-list celebs from different decades to, like, bring in all types of people that might be interested.
00:35:00.000He went on, like, regular podcasts, right?
00:35:02.000And he was able to have, like, long-form conversations with the people.
00:35:05.000So the people were able to kind of listen to his perspective on things more and almost like humanize them versus Kamala's bringing in these celebrities and like just having them perform or whatever.
00:35:13.000So I think having long-form conversations with people and open dialogue helped a lot with Trump, especially like the Joe Rogan interview.
00:35:19.000He answered a lot of questions that people had.
00:36:23.000I feel like people are just trying to make celebrities just seem like they're just the biggest thing, and what they say, their word is bond, and I don't like that.
00:38:56.000Insane to me how people just, oh yeah, you're a deadbeat.
00:39:00.000Yo, I know about real deadbeats, and this situation is all about control.
00:39:06.000This woman text a naked picture of me to my mother and my sister because she wanted to let them know that, oh, you and your son, I'm pretty sure your son's not telling you what's really going on between us and all of this other nonsense.
00:39:28.000Like, you know, I prayed about that and there's absolutely nothing physical going on anymore.
00:39:34.000And you taking naked pictures and sending it to my mother and my sister to do what and prove what?
00:39:45.000My mother and my sister are the most least problematic people on earth.
00:39:50.000I have to put myself first because I'm either going to end up in jail or worse because I'm dealing with someone whose anger management is just non-existent.
00:40:08.000I refuse to go to her house To pick up the kids.
00:40:19.000It's just too unstable, too unpredictable, and the only way I would do it is either a police precinct or if the kids are somewhere else and I'm picking them up from there.
00:40:31.000But everything is just done off of spite and being malicious intent on the other end.
00:41:23.000Well, people who know me, especially my security team, we don't ever talk about nothing personal, but they said they just were like, yo, I just got to commend you on your level of self-control.
00:42:15.000I feel like being in the public eye, honestly, I feel like that shit made my skin so thick that just when it comes to certain shit, I'm just like, alright, you're a woman.
00:42:45.000This could be a learning moment for some of the people watching because a lot of guys are in abusive relationships like this with women and they never talk about it.
00:42:53.000Actually, there was a study done not too long ago.
00:42:55.000They took a meta-analysis of a bunch of domestic violence data and what they found was When violence is perpetrated only one way, most of the time it's actually perpetrated by the female to the man.
00:43:24.000If someone's in a relationship right now where they're dealing with a girl that might be a little bit crazy or using kids as leverage to instigate violence or abuse or whatever, what are some tips you would give guys that are in relationships like this where they have children, they love their kids, they want to be with their kids, but the mother is a bit volatile?
00:44:35.000Honestly, I don't really like to live my life...
00:44:40.000I'm stressing and worrying about a lot of shit, but this shit, it sucks.
00:44:44.000And I'm not even going to lie to you, I went to the dentist the other day, and this dude was driving a UPS truck, and he saw me, he ran out, and he just was like, you know, I'm a little powerful, but I'm seeing him in a UPS shit, so I'm like, alright, he must be coming to just say what's up.
00:44:58.000And he was Jamaican, and he just was like, yo, I just want to say, I give you enough respect for, you know, speaking up because he said, bro, I'm going through the same exact thing.
00:45:15.000And it's like, but if you react on your own on some just macho man, tough guy shit and do something that you're going to end up regretting, then it's like, oh, wow, I can't believe he did that.
00:45:54.000And I just need to know that I'm protected in every single way and I just gotta, you know, protect myself.
00:46:01.000And whether you're famous or not, there's a lot of people who, men who go through things and Just because we're men and we don't cry and act as emotional as women is like...
00:46:12.000They use that to their advantage because they know that you're probably not going to report it or talk about it publicly for a bunch of different reasons.
00:46:18.000Yeah, but me, let me tell you something.
00:46:59.000And Mayu, crash out queen, that's her to the T. She crashes out every single day.
00:47:03.000But, to your credit, bro, you kept it cool, didn't fight back, posted the video, totally good action, so...
00:47:10.000I noticed that you mentioned in there, you made a note that you're not going to, if you want to go get your kids, you're not going to go to her house to get them.
00:47:20.000You're going to pick them up in like a public area.
00:47:22.000And I think that's kind of an important tip for guys to realize is, because that's where things can be volatile, is like the exchange of the children.
00:47:28.000Because then like, obviously, she's giving you the kids, that's where an argument can happen, you didn't do this, you didn't do that.
00:47:33.000So is that why, the main reason I'm assuming why you try to avoid that, or at least bring a witness with you every single time, you go get them?
00:47:45.000I'm saying because someone here could learn.
00:47:47.000I'm just saying, like, there's either a mutual drop-off point that people are like, okay, cool, hey, there's a family member or this person, we're cool with this.
00:47:59.000Or, you know, it sucks for it to be this deep, but sometimes...
00:48:03.000People say, okay, let it be a local police precinct.
00:48:22.000It's a smart move, though, like, for the guys, because a lot of guys are in this situation.
00:48:25.000That's why I wanted to bring attention to it, because they might have a crazy baby mom or whatever, and they want to see their kids, but they'll avoid seeing their kids because they don't want to deal with the interaction of the children exchange.
00:48:34.000And then, hold on, you know what they do?
00:49:33.000So I kind of wanted to get your insight on how you deal with it.
00:49:37.000So many guys have a baby mom that they can't get access to their kids because of What you're talking about.
00:49:43.000It's just, man, I pray and I just can't wait for the day where it's just smooth and seamless and it don't gotta be just all of this unnecessary, like, you know what I'm saying?
00:49:56.000Like, bro, what I do, this ain't no love and hip hop shit.
00:49:59.000I'm not on the show, like, you know what I'm saying?
00:50:00.000So it's like, I don't want to put it out there.
00:50:02.000That's why people were calling me a deadbeat for so long because they never heard me clear nothing up.
00:56:56.000I think not drinking alcohol and not smoking are some of the biggest glitches to preserving your youthful appearance and also just feeling better from a vitality standpoint.
00:57:19.000But, like, the hard liquor, bro, I forgot...
00:57:22.000When I did a, um, we had a premiere for House of Villains, and like, this network, the execs, they're freaking bigwigs, and they come through these shots, and I'm like, Tequila, I'm like, oh my, and I haven't had Tequila in so long.
01:00:08.000Y'all shit is so interesting because it's the people we don't get to hear from.
01:00:12.000It's the random person that we don't know that sits here and says, A man needs to pay my bills and this is what he needs to do as soon as we meet and blah, blah.
01:04:01.000It's like the Explorer page, the same girls end up on the same people's Explorer pages.
01:04:07.000So it's like you'll see a girl who look good as hell and she won't even have a lot of followers, but them top blue checks who are the biggest people in the game will be DMing them.
01:07:41.000Okay, you must play football or something.
01:07:44.000Like, that shit was just so cool and so fly, you know what I'm saying?
01:07:47.000Because we all say on the show, dating a girl in the industry, or a streamer, a rapper, a celebrity, is a recipe for disaster, bro.
01:07:55.000Because not only you, but other people want her, and that alone, except her head, with the power that she has for her content, it's like, she feels like she's on top of the world.
01:09:31.000Yeah, they've been talking about going to electric forever and becoming less oil dependent, but I don't think that's going to happen anytime soon.
01:09:39.000Within the next coming year, it's not our generation, the next one, for efficiency and natural, I want to say, disaster avoidance, they want to create a world where it's cleaner, safer, and void of global warming.
01:18:25.000He might watch a little bit and see, okay, I see how he's moving, but if Mike gets, like, one good hit, there's no, oh, Mike hit me and I'm bouncing right back.
01:23:15.000Like, when I was living in that super industry life, and you're just in them bubbles, and you're thinking that's what it is, and it's like, alright, cool, this is what you're used to, so you're just thinking that's it.
01:23:25.000And when you step out, bro, these regular girls out here, bad.
01:23:42.000That you would say from your experience.
01:23:44.000Don't do anything promoting money or that you would easily be...
01:23:52.000Doing shit outside of y'all going out for dinner and shit like that.
01:23:57.000Like, I would never, ever, I don't care what you see on me, I don't care what you want to tally up when you look at me, don't think for one second that anything here is for you.
01:25:26.000You want a million, 150 million pictures in the same pose, then it's like, damn, like, you're insecure.
01:25:35.000I've seen this thing say, um, that guy, I forgot his name, but he was talking about people, like, girls who get the BBLs and stuff like that.
01:25:42.000Like, if you're really into that and you're chasing that, like, you're chasing someone who has a sickness.
01:25:47.000And I'm saying, like, that's his opinion, but it's crazy now.
01:25:52.000I feel like now everybody's kind of gearing back towards, like, the natural...
01:25:56.000Like the natural vibes and it's like the BBL thing.
01:28:35.000If you are watching this, no matter how old you are right now, if you're 20, if you're 25, that means you've probably lived a good 30 to 40 percent of your life.
01:28:46.000If you're in your 40s, you lived half of your life.