Should men and women live together in the same house? Is it a good idea or not? We discuss this and more in this episode of the Show with Myron and Chris. We also have a new guest on the show!
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00:32:18.000I'm currently in school, so the highest degree right now is an associates in arts for journalism, and I'm studying public relations and doing law.
00:48:17.000Now, mind you, with AI coming, how it is right now, it might even be less.
00:48:22.000And I argue, and I wager because of AI coming, we're gonna have four people living together that they want to be together more so than ever before.
00:50:47.000I would say that it is very important for a man and a woman to live together, to get to know each other, get to know what they like or don't like about each other.
00:50:57.000It is a more traditional perspective, but I think it is a very important perspective, especially before you choose to marry.
00:51:06.000And it is a way to bond more, even though it's important for men and women to have their own space as well.
00:51:14.000Question: Before marriage or after marriage?
00:51:40.000Men and women should live together, especially when they're dating.
00:51:43.000I think it's a very important part of the relationship.
00:51:45.000You can't get married if you know if you can't live with somebody 24-7 because marriage, you're going to sleep next to the same person every day.
00:51:51.000So I feel like it's something that you need to test run, and that's a really important part of a relationship, obviously, when you get to that aspect of your relationship.
00:51:57.000So you're saying you need to test your car first before you buy the car?
00:53:28.000Honestly, it depends on the type of person that you are.
00:53:30.000If you feel like you genuinely can spend time with this person and their mannerisms and actions aren't proving to you something that would be bothersome in your own life or wouldn't take away from your life, honestly, go ahead and live with them.
00:53:44.000Go ahead and get the help that you need from somebody else living with you in your life.
00:53:49.000But I have never personally been in any experience where I have lived with somebody and I have felt that they are, you know, adding anything into my life or even I feel like they take you live with your parents or you live on campus.
00:54:03.000No, I live right off campus on my own apartment.
00:54:59.000And it's like, okay, if they're paying for you, that's cool.
00:55:01.000But personally, it's like, and then they get more and more bitchy the more you live with them because they just find things to bitch about.
01:00:19.000But because I came to Miami to chase my dream and I found someone who a part of my, who sounds like my dream is part of his dream, I'm thinking, hell yeah, I could do this secretary shit I love unconditionally.
01:00:57.000If someone invites you to their house to live with them, what do they expect?
01:01:00.000Type shit, but like, I understand that.
01:01:02.000And that's why I say I dated him because like I wouldn't have minded giving him the coochie when he wanted to because he provided for me as a man and he helped me get into my feminine era.
01:02:44.000I promise you, when you get older, that's going to be a thing of the past.
01:02:47.000So you're telling me you beat a Columbian guy, six foot, in shape, makes good money, you pay half the bills?
01:02:53.000Because I want to have my own things and I want the lease to be on both of our names and I want to pay half of it because I don't want to be left in the dust just in case he decides to dip on me.
01:03:12.000I'm just stating that I would pay half of the rent because I feel like as I'm also like part of the relationship when we're both living together, I feel like it's necessary.
01:03:19.000I'm going to comment on that after, but I'm going to let her hair go.
01:03:21.000Wait, wait, so if he's paying half the rent, will you make all the food or most of the majority of the food?
01:03:38.000So if he wants to cook with me, if he doesn't feel like cooking one day because he got off work and he's having a bad day, then like, yeah, for sure.
01:03:43.000Because the majority of the women, right?
01:04:25.000If he wants me to be a stay-at-home wife and he's able to support me financially, I'm 100% down to a stay-at-home wife.
01:04:30.000If not, then in this economy, unfortunately, that's really unlikely unless I date a billionaire and I'm not looking for someone with money.
01:07:38.000yes see because usually i'm i'm uh pardon me fresh um I'm quite a submissive woman when it comes to the roles that we play.
01:07:49.000Now, I believe that the man is the head, the woman is the neck.
01:07:54.000Depending on the type of household that you're trying to build.
01:07:57.000But the man is the head, the woman is the neck.
01:07:59.000I'm there to support and to encourage, and then he's there to lead.
01:08:04.000So, like, if there is a moment where I feel like he needs some guidance, that's where the neck comes into support, and I guide, you know, and then we speak about it back and forth, kind of thing.
01:08:39.000Well, unfortunately, as I said previously, the father is not involved at all, so I am the sole parent and I'm able to raise my son as I choose with now his father figure being in his life as well.
01:08:55.000I'll say this: uh, for a single mom, not with somebody, that that is some good terms.
01:09:00.000I would say it's pretty favorable for the guy, um, but still, I still argue that like being by yourself is better just because, yes, you do have less responsibility, but as a man at least, survive and thrive, being alone is better.
01:09:16.000But in your case, I see why it works because at least you make kiddos his free man.
01:12:54.000Guys like us, guys like you, for now, we'll lie to you.
01:12:57.000We'll say, you know what, girl, yeah, yeah, we want you, we want you until we fuck you a couple times, and then we'll just leave you hanging by the road.
01:13:04.000But that's with a rich nigga or a bum.
01:13:07.000No, but would you rather recover a rich nigga or a bum?
01:14:16.000When somebody proposes to you, it's because they feel like that you bring out the best in them and that you are able to encourage them to do what is better in terms of like actions and whatnot.
01:15:11.000I'm not trying to get with you, but I would only know what you're saying.
01:15:13.000Well, when you said peace, because if me and you were getting married, you know, and then I bring you to my household, yeah, peace is a major factor.
01:15:19.000Like, don't argue with me if I go home on late, don't, don't question me.
01:15:22.000I'm going to tell you where I'm going now.
01:15:23.000I'm going to tell you what time I come home.
01:16:08.000So if you don't take care of yourself, you know, for example, if you're just, you know, because once again, women's major components be, you know, woman in the household, husband, wife, whatever, a mother.
01:17:53.000You mean like to help you become better?
01:17:54.000Yeah, but becoming a better person and uplifting you as a man the same way he would uplift me as a woman, just uplifting each other and making ourselves the better, the best version of the world.
01:21:25.000What if every man's going to do that to you?
01:21:28.000You know, it's funny that you say that because I had the closest man in my life pretty much tell me that all men cheat, which is my father.
01:29:06.000Maybe, like, like, once again, no, no, no, this is him, but it's your body.
01:29:10.000You should know what you're doing in terms of giving birth to a baby.
01:29:13.000You shouldn't, you shouldn't be fucking broke niggas and raw, and then all of a sudden you're out here talking about, oh, yeah, well, SCD says all kinds of stuff.
01:33:10.000Tell me what you need from me, even if it's not from me.
01:33:13.000Yeah, but the thing is, because he knows if he tells you the truth, right, you'll leave probably the majority of the time.
01:33:18.000Well, if he, again, if he does it behind my back without having the conversation, if we have a conversation, he wants to have a past, like an experience on his own, that could be a possibility.
01:33:29.000If he wants to have an experience together, can I do it?
01:34:40.000And guys don't want to tell your girls the truth because they're bitches because they're afraid to lose you.
01:34:44.000And a guy who isn't afraid to lose you, looks then, I'm going to be with you for a while, but I do want to introduce a girl here and there.
01:35:17.000No, of course, I think any person you don't.
01:35:21.000I wouldn't want him to, but if he does talk to me about it before he acts on anything, I would be open to him doing something because he was honest with me.
01:35:54.000I would say, all right, so what I'm very doing to to lower the chances of him asking that, though, because once again, many women are very complacent, okay, and they don't want to work on their parts.
01:39:01.000Like, you know, like, it's like me telling women, oh, stop relying on us.
01:39:05.000You know, you have to learn how to be independent.
01:39:07.000No, I mean, no, I feel like, okay, so what I truly feel when it comes to men and women is like men and women shouldn't compete because we are very, we have similarities as human beings, but we're very different.
01:40:29.000Not only can she call the cops on you falsely, not only can she obviously trash your spot, but she can destroy your apartment totally because she's upset.
01:40:38.000And now, you gotta rebuild by yourself because, hey, she's a champion of Bills, bro.
01:40:44.000He say that I'm good enough But think about shit that I should've known So I tell him it's one of me He make me Like that boy is a cat Yeah, he hope that he will be at Think about me because you know that it's fat.
01:44:38.000Not to spare her, but like, bro, in essence, what I'm saying is for a guy, for you to thrive and do better in life, you got to have your clear mind and clear, like, living space.
01:44:48.000Then after that fact, maybe if you want to the future, but like at the beginning, bro, you can't be doing that shit.
01:44:53.000Mind you, though, if I got a girlfriend, though, she's her own apartment.
01:44:57.000Because living with a girl, bro, it's a lot.
01:45:00.000I mean, do you think it's like more girls in the West?
01:45:03.000Or, you know, the Eastern girls are like people like girls from the West.
01:46:13.000Woman says she's exposing her boyfriend for being heartless and sensitive because he wants her to give a homeless stray cat a place to live at his house.
01:46:22.000I made their uncle talks a relationship.
01:55:32.000You see, like, what, like, you know, like, most guys don't know how to get out of that lifestyle because like all they know is like poverty, you know, like the lower cap, the lower class.
01:55:45.000So, but once I went out of that lifestyle, then I started to pay around myself while people actually make money successful and stuff like that.
01:55:52.000I've gotten better in my lifestyle too.
01:55:54.000So, you know, sometimes guys like him see things as average.
01:55:57.000It's cool, but before you know it, you end up in Brickle, social media.
01:56:02.000It's one of those things where it's like, damn, that's crazy.
01:59:04.000Like, as long as it's real, as long as y'all not fake kicking it, as long as y'all rage baiting us, y'all just being who y'all is, we as women supposed to adapt to the situation regardless.