Coach Reg Adams is back in Vegas! He was in Las Vegas for the Bitcoin Conference. Coach and Fresh talk about money, dating, and what it takes to be a good boss in the dating game.
00:01:40.000That's why you have a lot of frustrated men and women out here trying to figure out what dating is and how to make it work for them, but they're missing key pieces.
00:01:48.000The pieces that I try to give them, sometimes I've got to put behind a paywall because it's rough.
00:01:54.000Because if I told you on the regular show and showed you, dudes will melt down.
00:02:56.000And so women will go to various phases of their lives piecing guys together and then eventually they might settle on one guy that gives them a majority of what they want from this.
00:06:03.000And I said, man, you're going to look up and you're going to be 23. And then you're going to then look up and say 30 is right around the corner.
00:06:08.000So that little space and time where young men think they have an advantage, they got stamina, they're young, they got great bodies without doing much, they can eat Doritos and Takis all day and keep a great body.
00:06:22.000They're around young women all the time.
00:06:24.000They only see a portion of that and they think that time is going to be long, but it's going to be short.
00:06:30.000So, you might get disqualified out if you put all your eggs in that basket of, I'm going to be young and attractive and be around attractive young women.
00:08:02.000So there's different lanes for different guys.
00:08:05.000But what I think guys are doing, the young guys are quitting because they're like, I'm already out and I can't win.
00:08:11.000I'm like, bro, look, you can win in one part of this.
00:08:14.000You just got to decide what part you want to win.
00:08:16.000Do you want to give up your 20s and lose long?
00:08:20.000Or do you want to build yourself up to a point where you boss up and then for the next 30 years, you were women that you've always desired.
00:10:16.000The problem with what you're having is, and I'm having this problem too with some of my audience, some of my audience get it and some don't, is people hate change.
00:10:24.000But unfortunately, I'm almost to the point where I'm 50, so I know change is inevitable.
00:10:31.000I've seen change already, but you have a lot of people that want to keep status quo.
00:10:35.000So they think that things are going to remain the same.
00:10:38.000All they have to do is to better themselves in a In an old school way.
00:10:42.000I'll just get a degree and I'm going to let that degree ride.
00:10:44.000Well, man, dude, you know, people that are winning out here, they necessarily don't have degrees.
00:10:48.000They're finding a way to be innovative and they're using change in the tools, AI, crypto, technology, internet, YouTube.
00:12:38.000So when I'm saying with AI and all these things that men need to boss up on, and they're saying that they don't need to do it, when I'm saying, hey, obviously, if you use these tools, you'll be in better position, but you got to put in the work now or else you're going to be scrambling and scraping for shit.
00:12:53.000I think a lot of people too don't see what's coming and they're kind of like, all right, well, you guys are talking, but I don't see anything happening.
00:12:59.000But when it's too late, it's too late.
00:13:02.000And I remember this happened a couple weeks ago.
00:13:06.000I met a guy actually, 21 years old, young kid, right?
00:13:11.000He created a business from AI, from the store to the content.
00:13:16.000Guys, by the way, guys watching, man, I know this sounds crazy, but it's happening in front of your eyes.
00:18:10.000But I said in 2022, when there was kind of the hype of the Passport Bros, I said, they're going to adjust on you too.
00:18:17.000They're going to make it difficult for you, too, because especially if you're putting cameras out there and say these women are easy, well, they got internet, too.
00:24:23.000Think about the implications of this long term.
00:24:25.000Where women have to go, okay, if I want to learn how to invest, if I want to learn how to, you know, this, and they don't need men for that now.
00:25:10.000how slow things are moving for guys because this there's some guys right now telling me right now they're listening to this dream man y'all got it wrong yeah right because what their plan is and and i've been trying to get this and trying to expose the manosphere and the red pill for for this particular mistake that i've seen us make for 10 years the mistake is these guys are going to wait till they hit the wall and that's what they're doing That's a strategy.
00:25:35.000Well, it ain't going to work out for an end and they're going to be broke at 40 and they're going to be a single mama and they're going to hit the wall.
00:27:06.000So the women that they hear complaining on the internet are women that are looking for goofballs, right?
00:27:12.000They're out of shape, single mom, and this and that.
00:27:14.000But if you go to the higher end, you go to a suburban neighborhood, you go to Equinox, you go to these high-end gyms, bro, these women, they chopped, right?
00:27:25.000They steal 40 and they kill in the game and they got...
00:28:04.000But I think over the last 10 years, they found a way to insulate themselves against that and push that number to 42. And now they're having babies at 42. They'll find the SIM.
00:28:17.000Technology, new medicine, other means.
00:30:01.000See, there was a time, I always tell these stories, there was a time where, and you might have remembered it, where a woman was happy to get into, oh my boyfriend has a truck.
00:32:08.000Yeah, and I think that that's a tough thing for men to deal with because we're giving them exposure and People are watching us, but they're going to go to where the woman is.
00:32:20.000So they're going to find out everything about them.
00:32:21.000They're going to know them and their names, subscribe to them, follow them, and possibly send them money.
00:32:27.000I just don't see where men are going to win long-term by waiting for this to fall apart.
00:33:32.000And now you're a slave to it and a slave to your lust.
00:33:34.000and we do have a lot of men trying to figure this out.
00:33:37.000It's just that And I saw that a lot of guys were stagnant.
00:33:46.000I was just going to wait until they hit the wall.
00:33:48.000But I think what they don't realize is that the average everyday woman, whether she reaches to monetize herself via social media or monetize herself in employment, whatever it is, the modern-day woman doesn't look at men.
00:34:10.000The only way you can do that, and I'm going to give a guy's right here, the only way you can depend on that is if you see a woman grow up with her from junior high school through high school, and you see her through college, and y'all love mates, which is the rare thing.
00:37:14.000And now I can't scroll through Instagram without seeing So when the talking points have ended, now all of those talking points are common conversation amongst the people.
00:37:30.000What are you going to bring new to this conversation?
00:38:59.000So the conversation is going to be muted a little bit and it's going to be hard to pull more guys in by giving them hardcore truth because then you're going to get a counter argument that's going to be reprogrammed.
00:39:11.000You're going to get a reprogrammed burden of it.
00:39:14.000So let me ask you this question, Coach.
00:39:27.000The marriage is new, so it's not the old marriage.
00:39:30.000Okay, so that's what guys have to understand.
00:39:32.000That old marriage where the woman's going to be dedicated to you and grow underneath you, even if she's a stay-at-home wife or a mom, she might have come from a monetized profession, bartending, waitress, or something like that.
00:41:14.000But they've already been used and abused.
00:41:16.000So you're getting used up, unless you followed them through junior high school to high school, You're getting a reclamation project, which is fine.
00:42:04.000That is a low probability of you finding that, especially in a younger woman, that where your inability to financially provide for her She ain't gonna be submissive to not much.
00:42:20.000Maybe in the bedroom, she might be into some submissive stuff, stuff like that.
00:42:23.000But in terms of her being submissive, but you require her to pay into it, impossible.
00:45:37.000Attractive women go to where money is.
00:45:39.000If you look at the cities that have the most attractive women, the men have access to those things.
00:45:45.000If you're going to be in Little Rock, Arkansas and tell me, oh, I'm going to just get me a girl from Little Rock, okay, you're going to deal with a Busted Pills biscuit can or some sloppy yogurt or a regular average Becky.
00:45:55.000You know, that's what you're dealing with.
00:47:46.000But the important point you're saying is that, and you said this about the money, the people who have access, they don't care that you don't get access.
00:50:52.000You're going to get an advantage by waiting out, or they'll say things like, we need to bring back Sharia law, or we need to bring back, we need to change the Islam.
00:51:00.000That's a pipe dream, and you're just raging at this point.
00:51:04.000What I want you to understand is, as a person that has been put in a position to have an audience of men, I'm trying to tell you what it is, and like you said, it ain't changing.
00:57:05.000Now, I think the age for this, for the women to start considering this, is above 21. But some women, depending on where you are, they'll do it at 18, 19. Shannon Sharpe's girl, right?
01:11:50.000It was pay-per-view, and he invited us over, and I saw him interacting with his daughter.
01:11:54.000I was like, this dude's cooked because it was a divorced parent, but he was having time with his daughter, and the daughter was with a little female friend, and I was like, they up to no good.
01:12:54.000All right, so they always thought and plot to the point where even if she has a dad, a father figure, if you're American and you're not Nigerian or, you know, one of these fathers that have control over your kids and you can discipline them, yeah, the American dad is not the dad that is going to be the strong dad.
01:13:27.000I hope your wife supports you doing that.
01:13:30.000I hope your wife tells you that you can discipline your daughter.
01:13:38.000I hope you don't get divorced, because if you get divorced, that's going to take away your input to dictate what you can do with your daughter in today's world.
01:13:46.000I mean, I've experienced that as well.
01:13:50.000Because you want to be there to discipline properly and be a provider, but if you've got to split time, she may be like, he's a bad person, girl.
01:15:27.000Well, people have to pay the price when they get to it, but they think they're going to have time to be able to repent and wash their sins away and repackage themselves and fall back into the hands of the Lord after they get ran through.
01:15:36.000So, they look at their ability to do that so that doesn't scare them anymore.
01:15:59.000Okay, so now there's women in between that.
01:16:02.000Okay, I'm gonna want a woman that is willing to go 50-50 You can find it, but you know that when women pay into it, they're paying to preserve their own rights.
01:16:16.000So if a woman says, like you say, I want a woman that pays in or pays for the first date.
01:16:21.000If she pays for the first date, she's a real one.
01:16:23.000That's problematic for you because what you just don't understand, because guys will do that.
01:16:29.000If she pays on the first date or pays half or Pays for the entire date.
01:17:00.000She paid up front, so you're going to pay later.
01:17:02.000So now, once the relationship happens, because you chose the real one, and in six dates, you're like, hey, she paid, or she took the cheap date, or she took cheap tacos, or she took coffee.
01:17:18.000Now you're going to find out how much a relationship costs.
01:17:22.000You didn't have to pay an expensive date up front.
01:17:24.000You didn't have to pay for the draws up front.
01:17:26.000But when that relationship goes over six months, a year, two years, quantify what you contributed to that relationship or what you put up with.
01:23:49.000So men are trying to find this as a solution, and only a small percentage of men will be able to execute that successfully where they don't have to invest and put skin in the game.
01:23:58.000But I would say, what's the quality of a woman?
01:24:00.000Show me a picture of the woman that you're doing that with, and I guarantee you.
01:24:04.000She ain't half of what I can get for pennies on the dollar here in America and overseas.
01:24:10.000You're messing with a slump buster, a booger wolf, a cockeyed, knock-knee, broken-down woman who look like a busted Pillsbury biscuit can when she gets naked, and she gonna blow up like the Goodyear blimp in a matter of time.
01:25:20.000A lot of times I'm starting to almost lean a little bit more into, like, the black pill kind of mentality where it's like, you see a lot of guys going MGTOW, they're opting out, they're saying the juice ain't worth the squeeze.
01:25:31.000So, I'm asking, Why today should men be expected to bring more to the table than they ever have for women who bring less to the table than they ever have?
01:25:43.000Do you think that traveling overseas is an option?
01:25:47.000But going to Brazil, Colombia, do you think it's an option?
01:25:50.000I think it's definitely a viable option.
01:25:51.000I would almost consider the Passport Bros to almost be like a shortcut to becoming high value because the fact that Passport Bros even exists...
01:26:06.000Now, obviously, I've heard stories about guys who go there, they don't have any game.
01:26:11.000There's still some skill level that you have to have in order to get the women over there.
01:26:16.000And I think I overheard you guys talking earlier about how a lot of men are going there and they're kind of just getting priced out.
01:26:24.000So, I mean, I guess we're just going to have to keep looking for more and more remote villages.
01:26:28.000find these women who are just off the grid.
01:26:30.000You got to find where nobody touches them with a son.
01:26:37.000Yeah, which the Philippines is full of islands, so you're going to hit a whole bunch of islands out there.
01:28:15.000She's like, yeah, so she has a guy that's paying for her school and she got a visa, a student visa.
01:28:24.000And I'm like, "Yeah, I gotta go to my show, so you gotta bounce." Because she's trying to find a way to get here, and her friend put her on game.
01:30:19.000So now the narrative would be, hey, I was taken advantage of, I was manipulated, but he gave her a life that only five people in the world can give her.
01:30:28.000And he still came out the controlling abuser for better or for worse.
01:31:02.000This is why men have to become partners.
01:31:04.000What percentage of the women would you say that men are seeking when they travel overseas are looking for citizenship versus actually… Well, that's a funny question because it's hard to say because let's say, for example, they know that you want to bring them back, then it's an option for them.
01:31:24.000Let's say there's no chance that you bring them back, then you're good of use while you're there.
01:31:29.000It depends on, I guess, that scenario and that setup.
01:31:31.000But what I will say is that if the opportunity comes up, they want it.
01:34:20.000But it's only 37. Multiply by 3. It was only 37. It wasn't that bad.
01:34:27.000But in terms of saying women are single by choice, I think it is true that they can be single and survive more than they could have before.
01:34:38.000The average age of marriage 40, 50 years ago.
01:34:43.000Today it's 29, 30, 31. What are they doing in between those years?
01:37:12.000I'm just saying that, you know, if you look at, like, you know, post-World War II, you know, the conditions were more viable for your average man to be able to find a wife, find a woman.
01:37:23.000So what created those conditions, and is there some kind of, you know, modern-day equivalent or something like that that we can look into?
01:37:30.000Well, the things that created that conditions were women didn't have enough, they didn't have the rights they had today.
01:37:36.000They didn't have access to be able to support themselves.
01:37:38.000They didn't have the ability to earn incomes.
01:37:41.000They were seen as if they did earn income, that income was considered supplementary to their husband's income.
01:37:47.000Well, today, we don't have that scenario.
01:37:50.000We have women that can make 80 grand in a variety of ways, monetized dating-wise and or careers.
01:38:48.000But at what point does masculinity become a utility?
01:38:52.000Because women often will not deal with a man unless he provides some type of utility value.
01:38:57.000A wallet, a bodyguard, protector, provider, whatever it is.
01:39:00.000So at some point, are we almost like feeding the problem by expecting men to, you know, provide more than they ever have for women who are bringing less than they ever have?
01:39:11.000Well, currently, the scenario that we're in right now is what it is.
01:40:09.000She'll kind of say, okay, I'll make something out of this one guy.
01:40:12.000But at some point in their early dating exploration, they'll talk to a guy who was a provider, talk to a guy who provides security, masculinity, protection.
01:47:02.000That 80 years, the 60s, the 70s, the 80s, that was a time where it was somewhat easier, perceived to be easier to get a wife and a girlfriend and there was a committed relationship.
01:47:12.000But 80 years before that, there was slavery.
01:47:15.000Cowboys and Indians, ninjas, you couldn't live past the age of five.
01:47:19.000There was a 50% chance you didn't live past the age of five.
01:47:39.000Bringing up the dowry, that's something I'm not sure how familiar you are with that concept.
01:47:44.000But basically, a dowry refers to money or property brought by a bride to her husband on their own.
01:47:49.000So basically, what I was asking is why is it – And also if women have always been considered the prize, why was a dowry even a thing to begin with?
01:48:03.000So it's like the whole concept of how we approach relationships has just flipped and done a whole 180.
01:48:10.000And I think that when we try to go back to this concept of traditional marriage, which tradition are we talking about?
01:48:16.000Because this has been the tradition for a thousand years.
01:48:21.000If you had the perfect solution to this issue, what would you do?
01:48:25.000Well, I'm not a coach, so I don't know if I can comment on that.
01:48:30.000I would just say I think that men have to kind of collectively come together and maybe form some type of lobby group and force some type of political change because I don't think we're going to negotiate our way out of this.
01:48:42.000I think that it just comes down to who has the leverage.
01:48:47.000Basically, what I like to talk about is Women have these three superpowers.
01:49:19.000So women kind of have these three superpowers, and I think that if women all came together and lobbied and got laws changed, I don't understand why men wouldn't be able to do that as well.
01:49:29.000Because whenever women complain, reforms are made, and whenever men complain, we're just told to improve.
01:52:39.000You got to be proactive about this life.
01:52:41.000And also, Everything men do is they live their lives through women.
01:52:47.000They don't go to good restaurants unless there's a woman involved.
01:52:49.000They don't sit in the 100 section of an NBA game unless you bring a woman.
01:52:53.000They don't travel on vacation unless there's a woman involved.
01:52:56.000Why don't you do that for yourself first to understand how to do that instead of waiting for a woman to come into your life to live your life through that woman?