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00:02:50.000The case I did yesterday was the Travis Rudolph case.
00:02:52.000You guys know he, well, you may or may not know, here in Florida, he ended up shooting at some guys that came to his house at midnight after he got in an argument with his girlfriend, killed one of them, he went on trial.
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00:14:06.000But every single chat that came through, I will go ahead and read it.
00:16:09.000I mean, that would be a little bit more interesting, but unfortunately not, no.
00:16:14.000But yeah, when you get a little bit older, you realize that there's things that just need to be between you and your partner in your own private time versus stuff you bring other people.
00:16:22.000So, it was your first relationship, public fights.
00:16:24.000Can you remember at least, like, maybe one or two?
00:23:52.000Like, should have ended a long time ago.
00:23:54.000Um, she would get mad at him for, like, not responding late at night, saying he was gonna pick her up, and then, like, being nowhere to be found, like, phone died type of stuff.
00:24:04.000Like, was gonna pick her up, and he was passed out.
00:24:07.000So, okay, so she got mad at, so she would disrespect him because he wouldn't stick to his word?
00:24:14.000Was there any other reasons why you could think of?
00:24:18.000No, I think she got frustrated because, like, I think he, like, wasn't taking her out on dates and stuff, and she kind of felt like he was just taking an easy road in a relationship, so I think they thought about that, too.
00:29:53.000And just being 100% real here, when he would try to be, when he'd go the more sensitive route, did you lose respect for him when he did that?
00:30:02.000No, it just like, it made him chase me more.
00:30:57.000Besides him just cheating on you, what made you lecture him in public in front of everybody when you could have done it behind closed doors?
00:31:37.000Yeah, no PDA. He did that to you and other girls at the party.
00:31:40.000Yeah, not, like, anything physical or touchy or anything like that, but, like, just something that, like, I didn't like because he had cheated on me, which I didn't stay with him.
00:32:32.000You said that you've never seen it and you can't recall.
00:32:35.000So I guess we skip you on this question.
00:32:36.000I said in general I've probably seen, but yeah, just skip.
00:32:39.000Nothing specific that you can remember.
00:32:42.000Okay, well, I'll ask you this general question.
00:32:43.000Why do you think women, if you had to speculate, or you could speak from maybe being a woman, why do you think women disrespect their men in public?
00:32:54.000I think just out of frustration reacting too quickly not thinking like oh this is going to embarrass the both of us and not just he's not going to think about what he's doing he's probably thinking why are you doing this in public then later you're going to think the same thing like why did I act that way all these people are seeing me do you think it's out of frustration For sure.
00:33:13.000Do you think that frustration comes from maybe them having to do this?
00:33:19.000Because frustration typically comes from like repetitiveness not working.
00:33:22.000Yeah, I'm guessing it's like repeated behavior that it takes it to that point probably.
00:34:08.000Oftentimes, if women are with a guy and they don't respect them, maybe it's because of the guy, but oftentimes it's because they got into the relationship for the wrong reasons.
00:35:23.000You said women are there for the wrong reasons.
00:35:25.000Would you say their fear of being alone is the reason why they might get into a relationship that's less than optimal?
00:35:32.000Maybe, I would say that, and then also hypergamy, which maybe doesn't occur necessarily everywhere, but then probably in cities more like Miami, where that lifestyle is very much so advocated.
00:35:41.000But wouldn't the practice of hypergamy be dating up?
00:35:46.000Sorry, but they could still disrespect a guy if he is just...
00:35:49.000Sorry, hypergamy in the sense of if he's, like, paying for her shit, paying for her bills or whatever, but maybe not in the sense of, like, status, hypergamy-wise, but from a monetary standpoint.
00:35:58.000Okay, so she's getting with him to fulfill a need.
00:39:56.000I honestly want to know what good bullshit she fucking spun because it would have been impossible from my perspective and any man who would have respected himself would never have taken her back.
00:41:22.000You would have still done it or whatever, but it's more about if you knew he would...
00:41:26.000Let me ask you this, going a little bit deeper.
00:41:29.000In the back of your mind, when you were lashing out at him at this party or whatever the fuck it was, and you're being emotionally erratic or whatever, did a part of you know he ain't going nowhere?
00:43:41.000So, you know, you punched your boyfriend when you thought that he accidentally pushed you down the stairs and slapped him a few times when he made jokes about you, right, that you didn't like.
00:43:53.000Maybe you still would have hit him, but would have you at least thought twice had your boyfriend been maybe older than you, more experienced than you, and he probably wouldn't accept that behavior and break up with you if you did it?
00:44:11.000Older, more, having more money, more status, being a bit more, not as sensitive.
00:44:17.000Pretty much, he would essentially be like, we're done.
00:44:22.000I mean, I feel like the money and the status doesn't really matter.
00:44:26.000I feel like it's about the maturity of the guy and how he treats me.
00:44:30.000And like, as I said, the reason that caused the fight before is because there was a bunch of little things that he did that led up to that.
00:44:38.000But if a guy is mature and he knows how to treat you, then that wouldn't happen.
00:46:43.000I didn't even think about it like that.
00:46:47.000And the toxic relationship that you described that your friend had, you said that it was toxic and I guess an ingredient for that was that he didn't stick to his word.
00:46:59.000Do you think if he had his shit together, maybe some status, some money, that him not sticking to his word would have been tolerated more?
00:47:09.000I think, honestly, if he had status and money, he would have been able to stick to his word a lot more because I think some of what she wanted was things that cost something like food and dates.
00:47:22.000So I think he would have done a better job maybe even calling her Ubers.
00:47:27.000If he had less of a care about finances, I think he would have been able to be a better man for So the lack of adherence to his word was stemmed in financial difficulty.
00:48:23.000Because then he could always say, I was busy.
00:48:25.000But if you don't have the money, and she knows you don't got it, and you spend it with a bunch of other dudes, then that's where the anger can come in.
00:51:37.000If it were a house party and I were close with his friends also, if they were someone famous, if that was me with the guy being famous or whatever, it would depend how close I was with them.
00:53:04.000I know my people, you know what I'm saying?
00:53:08.000For you, I mean, you said already that your friend might have tolerated a little bit more if he wasn't a bum, but if he was famous, do you think pretty much it would have been a no?
00:53:43.000But I think at the end of the day, having the frame is the most important thing.
00:53:46.000Because even if you have all these things, like in her example, which was great, The girl can still disrespect you, even in public, even if you got your shit together, if you're a pussy.
00:53:54.000But if you notice, when the girl felt he was going to walk away, it kind of had like a...
00:55:57.000The point is, this is one of the biggest hip-hop R&B places you could get nominated for, and known throughout the world as one of the best places.
00:56:06.000So notice, this is happening in real time in this environment.
00:56:09.000One of the biggest stages for this genre of music.
01:01:20.000And I don't know if there's a beef or whatever between JT or the City Girls and Ice Spice, but whatever it is, there's something going on there.
01:01:25.000And because he said her name, that triggered her for some reason.
01:02:17.000I would definitely not act like that at a big like a word like that with a bunch of people but yeah we also like my sister said we don't know actually everything because if she's gonna act like that in front of so many people it's probably more than him just saying the name.
01:04:48.000So if somebody does something you don't want and you positively reinforce that, you can probably expect that to happen again in the future.
01:04:56.000Yeah, I mean, I just think, personally speaking, Lil Uzi versus a legend.
01:05:01.000But, of course, him being a legend doesn't mean that his girl won't, you know, take advantage.
01:05:04.000Because, once again, if he loved it to happen, it's because, you know, it happened either before or, for example, it happened in multiple instances before.
01:05:12.000And I think, personally speaking, Uzi knows his girl.
01:05:15.000So, for him to say that, I'll put it in a song.
01:05:27.000Because you mentioned that like, could she respect him for taking him back after?
01:05:31.000I would guess that he probably loses respect for himself every time something like that happens and he takes her back and that therefore lessens his ability to be able to put a god up and really set some solid boundaries when that happens again.
01:05:43.000So every time he does that, he loses respect for himself.
01:05:45.000It's making it more likely for it to repeat in the future.
01:06:48.000I was taking some notes as you guys were speaking.
01:06:55.000So, objectively looking at this, more than likely for her to lash out the way that she did at him, there's some aggravating circumstances behind the scenes that we're probably not aware of.
01:07:06.000He's probably having sex with a bunch of groupies, cheating on her, lying, whatever it may be, right?
01:07:12.000We can just speculate because we know what comes with guys like him typically, right?
01:07:17.000Now, with that said, right, him doing all that stuff, it still doesn't give her an excuse to behave the way that she did.
01:07:23.000But what I think guys need to take away from this and learn from this is that, thanks to feminism being here, a lot of women don't respect most men, if I'm going to be all the way a thousand with y'all, because most women out-earn men, a lot of women are more career-oriented, more women are more ambitious than a lot of guys nowadays, a lot of guys are sitting there whacking off to porn and playing video games and not getting their shit together,
01:07:42.000So a lot of women, by default, don't respect most men.
01:07:45.000Now, what I would argue, right, and I talked about this briefly a second ago, but this is even more pronounced in the black community, where there's the absence of the father, there's the absence of a male authority, there's the absence of men in the community to look up to.
01:07:58.000So a lot of the time, when black women grow up, they don't have a father there.
01:08:02.000Every male they do have in their life or know is maybe involved in drug trafficking, involved in criminal activity, isn't necessarily a role model, right?
01:08:10.000And the guys that they did deal with, they were doing some bullshit.
01:08:12.000So there's just a negative taste in their mouth when it comes to men in general.
01:08:15.000And I would say it's even more pronounced in the Black Mini.
01:08:42.000Which, as much as women sit there and say they want to be strong and powerful and independent, blah, blah, blah, no girl wants to lead their man.
01:08:48.000That's the biggest lie I think we tell modern-day women is that you can be a leader of your man.
01:10:00.000Will Smith, that's an example of, yeah, your girl cheating on you and losing status.
01:10:04.000Dude, the guy's a fucking legend and his name has been tarnished because his wife is a whore and did some stupid shit Took no accountability for it, put it out in front of everybody, and now he's lost status because of that.
01:10:17.000But I guarantee you, if it was the other way around, and you smash a chick and she stood by his side, she would regain respect.
01:10:23.000And I think Kobe Bryant's wife is a good example of that.
01:11:12.000That's the importance of image as well.
01:11:13.000Like, when you're in shape, guys, and you're a physically imposing person, I'm not saying your girl's gonna, oh my god, he's gonna beat me up.
01:11:19.000But there's something in the back, in the hindbrain that lets people, when they look at you, they're like, oh, there might be a physical consequence for this.
01:11:26.000Let me not disrespect this individual.
01:11:29.000You know, I think this is very apparent in men, because when men meet each other, there's an unspoken respect, because they know that it can get physical.
01:12:43.000When it comes to Uzi, I think, for example, his work ethic is crazy because the music he puts out and the work in the studio he does is crazy.
01:12:51.000But his image itself is definitely not masculine.
01:12:57.000And the thing is, too, you gotta remember, his girl is extremely masculine.
01:13:00.000So it's like, you know, when you deal with girls that are hyper-masculine like that, you have to elevate your level to your masculinity to a level that you might not be comfortable being in.
01:13:08.000You gotta be damn near ready to slap a bitch to get her in line.
01:13:16.000I tell y'all, don't deal with masculine women because you're gonna have to be at a level of masculinity where you're damn near almost on violent mode all the time to get her in line.
01:13:23.000Some girls like that shit, but is it worth...
01:13:25.000You gotta really have your communication skills.
01:13:32.000This is the importance of a girl having a strong masculine figure in her life, whether it was her father, her brother, maybe an uncle that was involved, a strong stepfather if he stepped in when she was still young or whatever.
01:13:42.000It will allow her to have a general respect for male authority in general, and that will make your job a lot easier.
01:13:48.000You can tell a lot of times when a woman grew up with a father in her life, it's night and day difference a lot of times the way they behave.
01:13:54.000Okay, so fellas on the panel, How would you handle this situation here if that was you?
01:13:59.000Because it was so much like I get a phone thrown at me?
01:15:16.000Even in those SIP shit, it's like you're gonna catch a case and your reputation's gonna be fucked up and you're gonna be forever known as like a woman beater, even if she hit you first.
01:15:24.000They won't even want to hear your side.
01:16:06.000So, number one, they have higher levels of infidelity and cheating and divorce in general.
01:16:11.000That's statistically proven from a divorce attorney.
01:16:14.000And then the other thing people really need to remember when you're dealing with a woman that's an entertainer or whatever, it's going to sound dark, but a big part of the reason why she openly was okay with disrespecting him like that in public, what's it going to do?
01:16:36.000In the court, you know, in this feminized, crazy clown world that we live in, right?
01:16:39.000If she did this shit in, like, a Middle Eastern country, a country where the gender roles are very clear and concise, like, this bitch is out of order.
01:16:52.000So, when you're dealing with a woman, right, that makes her money off of garnering attention to Don't be scared when she garners that attention at your expense.
01:17:25.000I asked you guys, right, about men that you may have disrespected or men you witnessed get disrespected by their woman, right?
01:17:33.000I don't want to tell you all this because I don't want to give it away.
01:17:35.000But what I always say is that a woman's behavior typically is a mirror reflection of her man's inadequacies.
01:17:40.000If she's beating his ass, whatever it may be in public, especially if they're in a long-term relationship, more than likely that guy doesn't have his shit together to some degree.
01:17:48.000Whether he's just a rich cent that pays her bills and she don't respect him, or he's a guy that's attractive but a bum and doesn't take care of business behind the scenes and have his shit together financially.
01:17:57.000Regardless, when a woman is attacking you or disrespecting you blatantly in public, etc., it says a lot about the man.
01:18:02.000And it's the man's fault for allowing it to even get to that point.
01:18:04.000Because a girl never shows up on a first day and sucker punches you.
01:18:49.000That you were with and she wasn't like that in the beginning but then she ends up becoming more aggressive or angry or even assaulting you because you're such a fucking loser that that's the only way.
01:20:38.000I was just gonna say to the point that you said like nobody's safe.
01:20:41.000I think like status-wise you're right and then I also think there's another side to it where there's these soft qualities that can make you safe if you're in a relationship where that stuff is happening.
01:20:52.000I think you should exit and get in another relationship.
01:20:55.000And I think you're right, Myron, about finding a girl who's feminine and soft in the beginning because if you get with someone who you constantly have to put in place, obviously that stuff's going to happen.
01:21:05.000So if you get someone who's, you know, like gentle or more feminine in the beginning, If that stuff starts to happen, you're absolutely right.
01:21:14.000It's a sign that the guy is not being masculine.
01:21:17.000In her homeostasis level, she's always feminine.
01:21:20.000That's why I don't like these conditionally feminine women that are masculine all the time.
01:21:26.000Oh, I just need to be around the right man to submit.
01:21:43.000So, what do you think, like, what does, like, say a first date look like with a girl that is, like, those traits that you want versus, like, a first date?
01:21:52.000Because I think that would, like, help to clarify.
01:21:54.000Like, what does it look like in the beginning?
01:21:59.000A nice first date goes a certain way with the right person and then it goes another way with the girl that's rough and rigid.
01:22:07.000It's happened before where girls will try to switch the venue up or, oh, I want to do this or let's do this or whatever and then you just got to politely correct her and let her know that this is not how this is going to go.
01:22:17.000And typically, and you know, I think that's a byproduct a lot of times of like going out on dates with guys that like don't have plans or don't necessarily are indecisive.
01:22:27.000So they kind of just like, it's in their instinct to like, okay, let me step up because this guy's not going to do it.
01:22:31.000So you got to kind of remind her like, oh, I'm not that guy.
01:22:34.000Because it's so common where guys are pussies and deferred to what women think is the right that women are used to like giving their opinion or whatever.
01:22:41.000But, you know, you have to kind of almost bring them back and be like, no, we're not listening to it.
01:22:51.000Yeah, that's how important it is to let women know that you set the precedent, not her.
01:22:56.000And it's very important, from a cognitive standpoint, it's very important to set that up early and let her know that she really doesn't have any control of the situation or frame.
01:23:26.000Yeah, or like share some things, like what would you like to try things?
01:23:30.000Yeah, I've seen, because I've seen the opposite of that, which is a red flag when girls just like run up tabs or like you said, like choose really expensive places, kind of like make it their day and not like a date.
01:23:41.000Yeah, you have to, as the guy, you have to like, but that comes with everything.
01:23:44.000You have to pay for the date, you got to plan it, you got to have everything set up, etc.
01:24:44.000And if you fall for that and say, yeah, let's go.
01:24:47.000She already knows, okay, even if you're a guy that has money and you have the means to do so, if you accept that, what you're inadvertently telling her is, I am willing to sit here and spend money on you, even though you don't necessarily deserve it and have not earned it.
01:27:13.000Why it goes, uh, ladies, when was the last time a man complimented you on your looks and when was the last time you think the average guy received any physical compliment from a woman?
01:27:21.000Okay, so, um, when's the last time a guy complimented you on your looks?
01:27:24.000We can start, I think we started here last time?
01:29:41.000Because they know that when they get physical confidence on them, it immediately puts them in a power position and they have less respect for the guy that gave it to them to a degree.
01:29:49.000That's why girls don't want to concede leverage.
01:30:08.000You have to put your nuts on the table a little bit to give a physical compliment like that, which I'm not telling you not to compliment women, but it's got to come from a certain place.
01:34:13.000But he lived in Queens and I was in Manhattan so I bought an electric scooter and I was scooting all the way to Queens and I had the fucking map shit on here.
01:35:15.000They are better phones from a hardware standpoint.
01:35:17.000However, when it comes to women, that's why I love to ask them these questions before I bring this down for y'all.
01:35:22.000They're always going to question or have issues with you having an Android, regardless of how superior it is, because women are group thinkers.
01:35:29.000What does everyone have with the popular device?
01:35:32.000An iPhone, not a fucking Android, because women aren't critical and independent thinkers most of the time.
01:35:37.000So they go with what everyone else does, so when you don't have an iPhone, they're like, what the fuck?
01:35:40.000Yo, when I think about it, that shit probably cost me a lot of pussy.
01:35:51.000The hotter the girl is, typically the lower the margin of error for, like, certain things that you have.
01:35:56.000Some girls will disqualify you simply off of having you having an Android because they automatically negatively have connotation that you might be a scammer, a criminal, lower socioeconomic status, you don't have money.
01:36:08.000They automatically assume negative things to an Android, unfortunately.
01:37:19.000And if you have an Android and you want to take your dating life seriously and get as many girls as possible, you are shooting yourself a bit in the...
01:42:33.000Because I was thinking, like, logically, like, I do have a lifetime best friend and a brother.
01:42:38.000So, I think I would give him, like, I would want to kind of tell him that that was wrong and give him the opportunity to go say something about it himself, maybe.
01:43:49.000And then number two, if they had agreed that they were going to be monogamous together, I would go to him and give him the opportunity to bring it up with her first.
01:43:59.000And if he agreed that they were monogamous to her, but then decided to do shady shit behind her back, and I gave him the option to go and speak about it and rectify that situation and explain what he actually wanted in the relationship long term, because that's the only way it's going to work, long term, right?
01:44:14.000If he wants to go and sleep with other women, but he loves her, the only way that's going to happen is if he is 100% honest.
01:44:21.000So you would tell him, you gotta go tell her the truth?
01:44:36.000But because I would feel morally, if he's saying I love her and I want to be with other women and he never told her that at the start, that's my 20 year friend.
01:44:57.000Because, like I said, I don't really have experience with my brother, but if I did have a brother, I would tell my friend first because she deserves to know.
01:49:17.000And at the moment, I'm not looking to depend on a guy, so I have to depend on myself, which means I'm going to have to find a career to provide for myself.
01:49:28.000So is that, like, conducive to actually creating a family?
01:50:24.000Oh gosh, I don't even, I don't know, I guess culmination of doing well in my career in finance, doing well in modeling and just keeping my body right and my friendships and happy.
01:51:42.000It's also like you come from a family, like I come from a family that really values education and really values my success and it doesn't have to take away from a relationship.
01:51:51.000I'm happy to do the relationship stuff too, but I come from a family that made me, you know, I couldn't drop out of college and it wasn't an option, you know?
01:52:01.000No, but Chris, how would she actually tackle that if she's single?
01:52:23.000I don't know if you do that to women and if you have a girl in your life that you do that to, but a guy's never been like, cool, you don't have an income, let me be that right now from the jump.
01:52:34.000Maybe a guy who has a business can put you on payroll eventually or something like that, but he can't do it from the start when he doesn't really know you.
01:52:42.000I mean, long story short, just see what a guy wants, see what he likes in the girl.
01:52:46.000For example, if I was you, I'd be like, you know what?
01:52:51.000So if you're like Brandon Carter, a big money baller, you know, more or less, you have to know what a guy wants in terms of his day-to-day basis.
01:53:45.000I feel like my priority is to think of ways of how I can grow for my future.
01:53:51.000For example, starting the business that I have, trying to find multiple different connections, networking, trying to find a place for my future financially and using all those connections I can build and grow from that.
01:54:10.000Do you think the man that you actually want to be with long term wants those things to be a part of your priority?
01:54:16.000I mean, it's kind of like a side hustle.
01:54:19.000It's not like, oh, the man has to depend on me or I have to depend on him.
01:54:28.000They like having a girl that can depend on them, you know?
01:54:33.000But I feel like I would just have my own thing and my guy can have his own thing and we both grow and support each other and build together.
01:56:07.000So of course like your job or whatever, I feel like that's just a daily responsibility and like you can hate or like the answer I'm going to give, but my biggest priority in life right now is sacrificing my personal wants and just letting like God take the course of my life.
01:56:23.000I've been really trying to give up my personal needs and I think that would help me honestly get the husband I'm looking for in the future.
01:56:30.000Because I think building my relationship with him and, like, when you strive to talk to him every day and love him correctly, that follows over into your relationship with your husband, I would think.
01:56:40.000Wait, so what's your number one priorities in life right now?
01:56:51.000You have to do a healthy, balanced lifestyle.
01:56:55.000Okay, so, like, your number one priority, would you say it's work then?
01:56:57.000Or is that just something that you're kind of doing right now?
01:57:00.000That's just like, I'm always going to work, but that's not like my priority.
01:57:04.000Sounds like your relationship with God.
01:57:05.000Yeah, my relationship with God is my priority.
01:57:08.000Okay, and then the question is, do you think that you prioritizing God is going to be conducive to finding the man that you inevitably want to settle with?
01:58:40.000What you're saying makes a lot of sense because when you go through a lot of shit and you cause a lot of shit, go through shit and you possibly cause it through your actions and how you are, then it can cause you to seek You know, those things more so, like seek a relationship with God.
01:58:56.000So I completely agree with you in that regard.
01:58:59.000For me, so I'm a bit older than most of the women on this panel.
01:59:12.000None of it's ever made me fully happy.
01:59:13.000You hit a goal and it's like, okay, what the fuck is next?
01:59:17.000And even down to a scientific level, there's really only four main happiness chemicals in the brain.
01:59:23.000The top one that overrides everything is a chemical called oxytocin.
01:59:26.000And you can only get that through genuine devotion and love and pursuit of other people in your life.
01:59:31.000And yeah, you can do that through your work.
01:59:33.000You can do that through service of other people.
01:59:35.000But the easiest way to do that is through your husband, your family, and serving those people within your immediate circle.
01:59:42.000And so I've realized that no matter how much I achieve, on literally a scientific level and a philosophic level, it will never supersede me creating my own family and creating my own legacy.
01:59:53.000So knowing that, do you think women are pursuing an empty future, pursuing a career in status and income?
02:00:44.000I think because you're a little bit older than us, and I'm even older than you guys, I think our priorities are more career-oriented, but I think there's a time where you change.
02:00:54.000Do you also agree with that, or do you disagree?
02:04:23.000Ultimately, clarity is everything, right?
02:04:25.000Being able to see the end in mind and having that clarity, that depth of vision.
02:04:29.000And for guys, that's oftentimes a lot of the time easier because having a family does not come at an expense of a career because the two are not mutually exclusive.
02:04:37.000Whereas for a woman, oftentimes it is because it's very hard to direct equal amount of focus into both things.
02:04:43.000So I think If you really want to be a person who is self-directed, who knows what you want in life and who gives yourself the best opportunity to be able to actually achieve that, being able to clearly define it very early on is key.
02:04:54.000Therefore, being able to differentiate, okay, family, career.
02:04:58.000It's not to say that you can't have both, but which one are you going to prioritize ultimately and being able to make those decisions very early on and decide what are you willing to sacrifice in order to get to that goal.
02:05:08.000Even if we go with that premise, right?
02:06:34.000But I think what they're talking about is ultimately when you are entirely career driven...
02:06:38.000You're going to ultimately end up absorbing and exemplifying a lot of characteristics that maybe take you out of the ideal mother, the ideal partner, because oftentimes in order to succeed in your career, you do need to kind of take on more masculine characteristics,
02:06:57.000which can sometimes maybe make you not as sensitive as a partner.
02:07:00.000Maybe not as empathetic as a mother, these various other things.
02:07:03.000So I think it's not more so about it's this or that, but mostly being mindful of these things and these various different things that really impact the journey and ultimately knowing where you want to go and making your decisions accordingly.
02:07:14.000It's not like it's this or that, but just having more awareness.
02:08:30.000That's what I'm saying, where I see some contradictions because there are literally on enough high-value men to take care of all of these women here.
02:10:43.000If you got a relationship and you want to change court, what happened to you is you focused on your career and it sounds like you fucked up your relationships as a result.
02:10:56.000Not necessarily, but I'm able to recognize that maybe I... It wasn't the best.
02:13:07.000You're proud of yourself, what you did at work, but you're not, you know, taken away from the fact that you did your workout and you want to look nice and you want to dress up and you want to go meet a boy and see how it goes.
02:13:21.000You think about what industries they probably work in.
02:13:24.000The chick who's a financial analyst versus like a chick who doesn't have a job or something, who's in a better position to meet the kind of guy you guys are talking about?
02:14:06.000The girl who can go on a trip to Europe next week is usually the girl who can have enough PTO or can take her job with her or things like that.
02:14:14.000There are traits that are more desirable.
02:14:18.000The Wall Street guys I know The girls they end up with are fucking Wall Street girls.
02:15:59.000And I want to make sure, did anyone else have anything on this topic of what your priority is versus conducive to find a man that you want?
02:16:33.000So I think what Amy was trying to describe, right, which I agree with and understand, women, on average, most women, want a relationship with a man who's going to be the predominant breadwinner and leader in the relationship, right, and be able to work kind of from a leisure standpoint.
02:16:49.000Work, because she wants to, electively versus mandatorily versus the man as the main provider, right?
02:16:54.000And what Amy is saying is that The pursuit of resources, income, and status, right, contradicts that to a degree.
02:17:05.000And the reason why is because a woman has a finite amount of time to utilize her beauty to get the highest status man that she can, because beauty is a woman's main commodity.
02:17:15.000Men sell success, women sell sex, right?
02:17:17.000So, what she's saying is, if you prioritize your career in your 20s, which is great, I think what she's trying to say, and I'm going to kind of give my insight on this, women need to go into it with their eyes wide open.
02:17:29.000And what I mean by this is, You guys that are single, that are young, pursue your career, go to school, chase the success.
02:17:36.000However, I think women need to have a shifting priority here where if the right guy comes along, that can be this predominant breadwinner, etc.
02:17:44.000You need to be able to shift that priority to him and put your career on the back burner.
02:17:49.000I think that's the most important and applicable advice for modern day women because of course, Most guys are not going to be able to support and take care of you as a single breadwinner.
02:18:01.000I think women need to be able to shift and understand that if you find that guy in that time with that window, you need to be able to shift.
02:18:12.000I think the issue is the girl that, let's say she's in med school or about to go to med school and she finds that fucking guy.
02:18:19.000And he says, I want you to move with me, blah, blah, blah.
02:18:21.000She says, no, I'm going to prioritize my career.
02:18:25.000You can do that, but understand that that guy might not come along again.
02:18:35.000Because a lot of guys will say, I want you to split 50-50 with me.
02:18:38.000I want this to be a partnership, whatever, because we live in a very feminized world where guys don't understand being leaders and being dominant anymore.
02:18:45.000They think that men and women are equal.
02:18:47.000So, I think if women can make peace with the fact that that guy comes along, maybe once or twice in your lifetime, you are willing to say, no, I can do better, or no, I'm not willing to give up my career, you need to live with the fact that you're probably going to have to deal with a guy that might not be able to provide that lifestyle that you wanted.
02:19:05.000And the thing why this is an issue is that Typically, to acquire status and resources takes time.
02:19:15.000And for a woman to do that, she's got to give up her peak years to do it.
02:19:52.000Next thing you know, you're 39, 40, 45 years old, making 300K per year, but you can't command a guy that makes that kind of money to commit to you.
02:21:51.000I was just thinking, what are they going to do in the meantime?
02:21:55.000Because I have a sister, she's a doctor, and I had this conversation with her, and I had to tell her, yo, you've got to find a guy now when you're in your 20s.
02:22:04.000It's only going to suck more as you make more money and become a specialist.
02:22:27.000Thanks to FNF for providing such entertainment and value, especially on a day like today when I had to put down my 14 and a half year old dog.
02:22:48.000Can2Times goes, women be like, if he cheat, I will too.
02:22:51.000And then if he can have multiple women, why can't I? But if men were the only ones jumping off a cliff, would you do it just because they can?
02:22:56.000Following deplorable actions will leave you a deplorable person.
02:24:00.000One thing I've always said that kind of sucks for women that are attractive but smart is they won't be taken seriously.
02:24:08.000They've got to deal with that first hump of being labeled a bimbo or whatever because most girls that are attractive are fucking retarded, unfortunately.
02:24:17.000Ladies, children tend to be emotionally unstable, lack critical thinking skills, and are frankly a liability.
02:24:23.000If an adult says someone with XX chromosomes shares those same characteristics, wouldn't it be entirely appropriate for them to be treated as such?
02:24:43.000He's saying that a lot of women behave like children because a lot of girls don't have critical thinking skills and are emotionally unstable.
02:26:35.000And you're 22, bro, so make sure that you don't become a victim of, you know, we talked about this earlier, when guys, like, make money and they don't have, like, some rudimentary basics in place.
02:26:49.000If you have super bad habits, just bad habits, regular bad habits, if you start getting success and you have leverage at that point, then you can really magnify those and really fuck your life up way more than you could have when you were broke.
02:27:01.000It exacerbates a lot of your weaknesses.
02:27:04.000Let's say you have a weakness for alcohol and drugs.
02:27:06.000It's going to be even worse because now you have the resources and ability to do so.
02:27:09.000If you're simping on chicks, you're going to...
02:27:14.000The guys that sipped on chicks when they were broke, when they got some money, like a lot of these rappers, they start tricking off on a whole other level, bro.
02:28:53.000Do you want to be 100% of the time teaching your children or do you want another person or the state to educate while your career uses more of your time?
02:29:04.000And I think a woman's got to understand that sacrifice, the more and more she climbs up the social totem pole.
02:29:11.000Because high income, high status comes with a lot of times a high amount of time that's required to maintain that level of status and income.
02:29:19.000Brandon, a woman shouldn't spend her entire life making work a priority, passing on good men who do not qualify for them because there is a high likelihood they will die alone.
02:29:28.000If a family is what truly makes you happy, choose a man and stick with him.
02:29:38.000He's saying in the meantime, when a girl is young, pursue a job, pursue a career, pursue an education, do that.
02:29:45.000But when the right guy comes along, you got to be able to identify that and shift.
02:30:47.000I watched a video of Brandon today because I wanted to get a little bit more familiar with him.
02:30:51.000And he mentioned that he doesn't necessarily know if he believes in the law of attraction, but he believes in the reticular activating system, which is a part of the subconscious brain.
02:31:02.000I'd just love to know a little bit about that from your perspective.
02:31:05.000Well, it's just like, if you get the reticular activation system, it's a part of your brain located at the bottom of your brainstem, and its purpose is to To bring things to your attention, right?
02:31:18.000Because there's so much stimulus, so many colors, sounds.
02:31:21.000It's like a million things that are happening.
02:36:10.000And I'm showing receipts that I paid for my own visa and handled all of that shit after the fact a couple years later when I was able to actually pay for my own lawyer.
02:36:20.000Wait, this wasn't the last guy that you were with?
02:36:22.000No, they were talking to my ex-husband.
02:36:24.000So after my ex-husband and I broke up, about six months after that, I started dating.
02:37:31.000Superchat goes, women should be at home assisting their dad learning how to maintain a house and wife skills until they find a guy like their dad not in an SJW camp for four years and learning job skills.
02:37:53.000I think as long as women understand that to adapt to the current dating marketplace right that go out there do what I tell girls all the time go ahead chase your career whatever just be prepared to shift I think once women understand that their career isn't that important to the guy that you want that could pay the bills I think that's the most important thing that women need to understand.
02:38:11.000Like, your career really doesn't matter when you find that guy.
02:38:15.000Alright, ladies, if you don't mind, questions, comments, statements, or...
02:38:33.000If you didn't learn nothing, it's fine.
02:38:35.000I definitely got a new perspective, especially coming from a man's perspective.
02:38:39.000You know, I feel like as women, we don't get that a lot, especially because there's so much controversy within our society now about how women should be or how a man wants a woman to be.
02:38:50.000So I definitely have a lot more insight on that.
02:39:01.000I think if women listen to the podcast, they'd be put on so much game.
02:39:05.000And yeah, I think we looked at it from like different perspectives and went into detail that normally doesn't happen when we have a bigger panel.
02:40:36.000We don't ask our guy or whatever, what do you think about this though?
02:40:41.000Because that's just an awkward conversation to have.
02:40:43.000Do you think it's an awkward conversation or women just don't give a shit?
02:40:47.000I personally find it awkward to, like, talk about that stuff, like, personally one-on-one with a man, but other people could not give a shit, but not me.
02:40:56.000I think most women don't care, to be honest with you.
02:41:11.000Because they're going to college, they're spending this time and resources on going to school, so I'm attacking their ego investments, if that makes sense.
02:41:20.000Of course, their natural defense mechanism is to say, well, you're wrong, but The reality is that men don't care about these things, but men can't be honest with women, is what I've come to realize.
02:41:30.000Like, if a guy tells a girl, eh, your career really doesn't matter, because all y'all said you want the guy to be the predominant breadwinner, right?
02:43:09.000Like always, I love everything about this show.
02:43:14.000I feel like women around the world really need to tune in and actually watch this show before you start saying some fucking misogyny or some shit like that because it's not really nothing like that.
02:43:27.000Question, is the show what prompted you to fix your relationship with your dad?