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00:02:48.000Rumble.com slash Fresh Your Fit and CastleClub.tv, guys.
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00:02:51.000We made a big announcement over there on CastleClub.tv.
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00:03:34.000Don't just fly in the same exact day and say, hey, I'm here.
00:08:39.000After my last relationship, I wanted to take a break because I was traumatized after that relationship, so I wanted to do some self-work because no man wants baggage when you're getting into a relationship, a brand new one.
00:08:50.000So after I went to therapy and I started working out a lot more, I feel like I'm ready now.
00:08:56.000And I've also studied to become a personal trainer.
00:11:13.000If you have a structured plan that you actually follow and you're working the muscle groups that you're supposed to be working daily, you'll find results.
00:12:09.000I will say I understand that because a lot of black people, a lot of black women nowadays, all you see online is them half-naked, them twerking, them saying, hey y'all!
00:12:18.000A lot of them are very illiterate, loud, combative, and I understand that.
00:12:27.000And just the way that I was raised, I wasn't raised like that, and I used to actually get made fun of because of the way I was raised.
00:25:34.000Well, STI is more like chlamydia and gonorrhea.
00:25:37.000Oh, so if it's serious, it's STD. Yeah, so if it's syphilis, herpes, and HIV, that's considered STD. They used to say STDs or HIV. Now they're putting it in STDs.
00:26:31.000Yeah, so I'll read the ones that came in, but from this point forward, we're going to read 20 bucks and up, guys, because we've got a tighter show.
00:26:37.000What do you ladies think about the concept of shaming in society?
00:26:40.000Do you think shaming is a net positive or net negative?
00:26:43.000Lastly, do you or have you personally felt shame or ashamed for anything?
00:28:39.000I think it comes down to, you know, the use of social media where it's really emphasized.
00:28:43.000And I think it has a huge effect on mental health.
00:28:46.000You see celebrities talk about it every day, people that you think are stars, even confronting, you know, society about how they feel about it.
00:28:54.000And the last time I remember really being shamed on social media, I posted a dance video that went viral.
00:29:02.000And I got shamed for being too white, which, you know, I was in college, like, whatever, like, I know I'm white, I'm a dancer, whatever, I dance a little white, but it still affected me.
00:29:15.000I know who I am, and I own it, but it still affected me a little bit, and I just, I don't like knowing that it's affecting other people in society.
00:30:10.000Do you think shaming is good or bad, and why?
00:30:12.000I think shaming, honestly, is necessary because a lot of people that are shaming you, it comes from actual facts that they're trying to tell you.
00:30:19.000If you're overweight, you should know that you're overweight.
00:30:21.000I mean, I guess it depends, like, if you're asking for their opinion on it, they will tell you that you're overweight.
00:33:02.000I mean, like, when I was a little bit more chubbier, I'm not gonna lie, like, a lot of people would be like, oh, like, you know, you'd be prettier.
00:35:55.000I'm assuming in DOD you probably got at least a secret, or did you get a TS? I got a clearance.
00:35:59.000A lot of you said that shaming is good.
00:36:08.000For the girls that think it's horrible, do you guys think that society would be better if we didn't shame?
00:36:15.000I think there's a difference between shaming and constructive criticism you know growing up as a dancer I had a lot of constructive criticism and I had to grow upon that it was hard but there's a difference between that and completely bullying someone or coming at them from a different view or viewpoint and you know I think there's a lot of ways where we can learn to express ourselves and our feelings towards people that's constructive and in a positive manner and I look forward to like Eventually having a world like that,
00:36:46.000But wouldn't it be fair to say that the person might interpret it however they want, so you might construe it as, hey, this is a constructive criticism, but they'll be like, you're shaming me?
00:36:55.000That's one of the things that I feel like growing up in Venezuela was like, I never took anything that people say to me as shaming, just because maybe at the time I was really fat and this person came up to me, yes, you're fat.
00:37:09.000I'm aware of that, so why I will take it as shame, you know?
00:37:29.000No, I think there's constructive criticism, and I think there's shaming, and I think there's a fine line where maybe we can work together to figure out how to communicate.
00:39:39.000It depends on who's a better communicator.
00:39:44.000I definitely feel like men have to because they kind of like just with the role of being a man, they kind of have to, you know, kind of women can just kind of cry.
00:39:54.000Alright, so you think women, you think men.
00:41:46.000Women, a lot of times if someone were to tell you, oh, you're doing this wrong, we're going to just break down and we won't want to do it right.
00:45:20.000I mean, he tried to get me to not talk to friends.
00:45:24.000He tried to get me to delete my Instagram.
00:45:26.000He tried to get me to not wear certain clothes, not talk to certain people.
00:45:33.000And I know you guys are like, oh, this sounds great.
00:45:37.000But it's not because it totally was changing who I was.
00:45:39.000Someone should fall in love with me for who I am.
00:45:42.000And yes, it should be a respectful relationship, and if I wasn't who he was looking for, then fine, but it shouldn't get to a point where it's abusive and controlling.
00:46:35.000You have to show me everything you post before you post it and then it turned into you're not allowed to have an Instagram and then it turned into like days where he would take my phone and like hide it and just like yeah.
00:47:47.000But what I am saying is that a lot of girls tend to misconstrue a man caring about them and they say, oh, he's controlling because he put limits on me doing certain things that I was able to do when I was single, but isn't that the whole point of a relationship?
00:48:00.000I see where you're coming from, especially because in relationships, it's a lot about compromising and having respect for each other.
00:48:06.000And it's your point of view and your perspective of what respect is.
00:48:09.000And some of that is covering up a little more, being a little more classy, not talking to certain people that could come in between that relationship.
00:48:35.000Okay, so you just didn't want to I guess You didn't like that he put these boundaries on you you felt like it changed you So be true to yourself is what you would say.
00:48:46.000Yeah be true to yourself obviously be respectful like You know when you're in a relationship and you want to change things about yourself for someone because that's who you're truly meant to be and And flow into.
00:48:57.000For example, if I found a guy where I felt comfortable, of course there's certain people I would stop talking to.
00:49:02.000There's certain things I would stop doing naturally because that would be a natural flow of things.
00:49:28.000What I've realized just from talking with the girls, because we actually had a girl say a bunch of stuff about her boyfriend and he called into the show.
00:49:55.000Maybe you were dressing in a certain way or whatever and he felt like, yo, I gotta put...
00:49:59.000Typically men don't put strong boundaries up like that unless the woman has done something to somewhat deserve it.
00:50:06.000Not saying you deserve any type of treatment like that, but I always am skeptical when women tell me that men are controlling because they never say what they did wrong.
00:50:14.000Yeah, no, I totally understand what you're saying, especially because there's a lot of women who Are on the wrong side of things where they're like over-exaggerating or it's like they're very selfish and they want it to be all about them.
00:50:40.000I mean, I'm really about mental health and like being the best person I can be personally just because of all the shit that I have been through.
00:50:58.000One thing you learned from your last relationship.
00:51:01.000I guess I can piggyback off hers is that I would say knowing who you are as a person, what you're not willing to change, and what you're not willing to give in if you're going to dress up as a quote-unquote hoe.
00:51:16.000So what are you not willing to give up now?
00:52:05.000And since you're a fairly masculine woman and you're competitive, wouldn't it be fair to say that you probably need a guy that's even more competitive than yourself and more dominant than you are?
00:52:19.000Are you going to change to find a man?
00:52:21.000It would have to get to the point where I actually achieve my career where I'm not actually striving to it on the ladder until I get there and I know what I'm capable of.
00:52:29.000Then I can settle down because it's not forever.
00:52:32.000How long are you going to strive to go up the ladder?
00:53:45.000Because when you are a mother and when you're a parent, I really truly believe that you are going to focus strictly on that over career and money.
00:54:00.000But if you chase a career now and you wait until your 30s, do you think that you can have a family then when you're older and have a child and a bit older?
00:54:52.000Well, I mean, if I want to have kids, it would really depend on where I'm at with my career.
00:55:09.000I just have come to realize that most women derive satisfaction or life fulfillment through family and children, not necessarily a career and income.
00:55:22.000Oh, that is true, but I also do have a son.
00:56:11.000But at the same time, you don't go into that knowingly knowing, hey, you're a terrible father, you're a terrible person, I'm going to get impregnated by you.
00:56:19.000But okay, be honest though, you might have seen some signs beforehand.
00:56:23.000So this is where I was hopping off on her question, on her answer, is that knowing what you want, who you are, and sticking to it.
00:56:31.000Was he, just out of curiosity, was he like a breadwinner type guy?
00:58:59.000Yeah, so I was really just kind of tied to a lot of the things that he said and his actions weren't really like incincise with what he was saying a lot.
00:59:27.000You know, like, I dated here for like three years, but you know, like, when I have a problem, I want to solve it instead of you avoiding me.
00:59:37.000Well, because I was trying to have a conversation with him, trying to communicate, like, we have an issue, and he didn't want to talk about it.
00:59:45.000So the issue was, I don't know if you guys know, there is a group on Facebook called, Are We Getting The Same Guy?
00:59:57.000Someone posted him and, you know, they have a picture of him and they're like, hey, this guy is like red flags, blah, blah, blah, you know?
01:00:05.000And I was like, so, you know, I screenshot it and send it to him, like, yo, like, what the fuck?
01:04:03.000So, typically what happens is, a guy that's not making a lot of money, he's actually finessing you because, once again, he's not getting a job, you're paying for his stuff.
01:07:31.000Marvin, 10 bucks, goes, do women think it's acceptable for the woman to have a higher body count slash sex experience than the man for marriage?
01:08:51.000So, um, I think a guy would prefer, actually I'm pretty sure for the most part, nine times out of 10, a guy would prefer a girl with less mileage, uh, You know what I'm saying?
01:09:03.000Like a girl with high mileage, I would say it's very hard to get them to be a normal.
01:09:10.000Like when you live that lifestyle where you have sex with 500 dudes, you're not going to be the same as a normal girl that's probably, you know, might have been with one guy.
01:09:42.000I guess when you're married to someone, especially being a wife, you have a responsibility, and I feel like you want to...
01:09:51.000Make your husband proud and kind of be his kind of like you know like you don't want your husband to be like ashamed of you and like okay there's someone a guy that pops up and he slept with you and now you're his wife and it's just you want to kind of like okay support and keep what about you what do you think?
01:10:07.000I don't think it's acceptable for a woman to have a higher body count than her man.
01:10:10.000Because a man is supposed to have experience and know his way around a woman's body.
01:10:15.000A woman doesn't necessarily have to know everything about what a man likes sexually.
01:10:19.000And also because when it comes to being a mother, you want to be a role model for your kids.
01:10:50.000Because if you're with a man, and this is exactly what she said, and...
01:10:55.000If you realize, oh, this many men have been in you, like entering you, penetrating you, I think it's a very different scenario.
01:11:03.000Whereas if a guy has slept with many women, you would never, as I, okay, my personal opinion, if you meet a guy and he says he's a virgin, would you still sleep with him?
01:11:59.000You wouldn't sleep with a man that is a virgin because if he can't find the G-spot after 10 women, what makes you think he's going to find one after none?
01:12:42.000I don't feel like oh like I'm a slut, you know, and it really is a societal thing it really is a second ago be true to yourself Be comfortable and if he's okay if for some reason you have a higher number then that's yourself Maybe I would prefer to have a smaller number,
01:14:02.000Let's say your son was going to get with a woman and you knew that her body count was pretty damn high, probably higher than his because he was a good boy.
01:19:53.000I've realized that girls find it more attractive when you have a higher body count.
01:19:57.000Now again, that doesn't mean you tell her, I have a million, No, but the behaviors that you exhibit when you have a higher body count tend to make you more attractive because you know your way around females, so therefore you're more attractive because you've had a lot of experience and you understand what makes women go,
01:20:13.000oh, this is hot, versus like, oh, this is not.
01:20:15.000Now, she won't ask a question, but she'll make it to us like, oh, was your other chick last night?
01:21:22.000Because he was in the Air Force, so he's gone to a lot of different countries.
01:21:24.000Anywho, he told me all the women that he would go through, and he said that it was something about my mom when he met her, because when he met her, it was in a club.
01:21:31.000He said that by the way she was standing at the bar, he could tell that she was a virgin, which she was.
01:22:15.000I've even told him about the things that you both say about sleeping around having multiple women and stuff and he said that it's just because they're young guys and they probably are new to having a lot of girls.
01:23:01.000I mean, if you make a commitment to a woman and you say, you know what, I'm going to be with just you and only you, I want to start a family with you, then why break that commitment that you started?
01:23:10.000That's the foundation of a relationship.
01:23:11.000Well, again, like I said earlier, it's the man's choice.
01:23:14.000But it's super hard when you have multiple partners from the past to change that behavior.
01:24:12.000Yes, but if you make a commitment to a woman and you say that you're a real man, you're honorable, you're all these things, I mean, you shouldn't break that.
01:27:57.000So, with that said, once a man gets to a certain level where he's no longer expendable and he's attractive and a bunch of women want him, he's rare.
01:28:41.000I think the issue comes down to when you have these urges.
01:28:46.000Like, I know you like money, so, you know, I don't know if you've read the book Think and Grow Rich.
01:28:51.000So they have a part in the book where they talk about sexual transmutation and the fact that most men fail in life because they can't control their sexual urges.
01:29:00.000Now, of course, like, you know, you're a man, you're going to do what you want to do.
01:29:03.000At the end of the day and nothing's gonna stop you but it's something to kind of just keep in mind You know as you go along with the journey and then obviously like having sex with women you already know that we're emotionally Charged when it comes to sex and things like that so it's like Are you really trying to fuck around with a lot of crazy women's emotions at this point you get what I'm saying?
01:29:24.000So it's a it's a it's a you know I mean, yes, men should absolutely control themselves.
01:29:33.000Men should, to a degree, control themselves.
01:29:38.000But what I'm saying is that once a man reaches a certain level and he's effectively a black belt and he's successful, why should he not be able to enjoy the fruits of his labor?
01:32:17.000No, but I think this goes back to the dojo concept.
01:32:20.000I think you're coming from a place of hurt.
01:32:22.000No, this comes back to the dojo concept where he's been working on it and then you just don't understand because you've never done it because you're a woman and you're an attractive woman.
01:33:34.000I said, you worked for 30 years to be in a dojo with a black belt.
01:33:38.000Your response literally was, give it up for these five gray belts and a white belt.
01:33:41.000That tells me in itself, you don't understand what it's like to train in the dojo, so therefore you're coming from a position where you don't understand.
01:33:48.000And what I stated before, you're saying it's a place of hurt.
01:34:23.000Nothing towards you, but society being more soft and not understanding because everyone's trying to equal and be level with everybody, but it's not practical and it's not economical.
01:35:24.000The guy that you got with that was successful, I know it was an abusive relationship or whatever, but he was highly successful, but he was okay with dating you and he was okay with supporting you.
01:35:39.000Females with one security, that's why.
01:35:42.000Well, yeah, I mean, yes, but I'd be okay with giving myself security over a man giving me security if he could give me security in a relationship.
01:36:13.000I would rather have everything paid for myself and have him secure with me in a relationship than him pay for everything and fucking around.
01:36:38.000If people are watching this, they're gonna figure it out.
01:36:41.000So I'm from Indiana, and when I moved down here after my ex, I moved back down here to just do everything on my own from a fresh, clean start.
01:36:49.000My friend hooked me up with his number.
01:36:52.000We all thought he was still in a relationship.
01:36:54.000They were like, you know, you shouldn't be alone down here.
01:37:05.000But we followed each other on Instagram, kind of like kept in touch.
01:37:09.000And then I was invited out by him and we kind of like digged each other and...
01:37:14.000The point I'm trying to make is that socioeconomic status and income is an absolute metric that you need in your man, but men don't care about it in women.
01:39:15.000The more money a man makes, the less he cares.
01:39:17.000The less money a man makes, the more he does care.
01:39:19.000But the thing I want to say that's very important is that a man's sexual attraction to a female has absolutely nothing to do with her socioeconomic status.
01:39:31.000So, like, no guy's gonna be like, damn, you make a hundred grand a year, my dick is hard.
01:39:35.000It's like, she's attractive or she's not, and then if she makes money, it's a plus, and then the more money you make, the less of a plus it is, the less you care.
01:40:21.000He'll look at it more as a compatible partner, but his attraction to the woman is not going to be contingent upon her income, versus her attraction to him is absolutely contingent upon his income.
01:41:52.000He was like, oh man, this guy's really attractive.
01:41:54.000Then you find out he's a barista versus he was a lawyer.
01:41:56.000It's absolutely going to change your perception on him 1000%.
01:41:59.000Versus if I went out with a girl and I found out that she was a lawyer versus a barista, I'm not going to give a fuck that she's a lawyer or a barista.
01:47:37.000And he came out of prison in great shape.
01:47:40.000Yeah, but you don't think that a woman that is literally like a personal trainer lives in the gym that the guy's not going to want to, like...
01:47:51.000I'll be honest with y'all ladies, if you can actually influence your man to that significant degree where he was a fat piece of shit and then you get him in shape, you don't want to be with him in the first place.
01:48:01.000Because women are attracted to men that lead.
01:49:49.000We have to do all of these things to be able to keep control of all the kids in the house and be able to provide for every single one of them.
01:49:58.000If this kid is sick, but it's taken away from this kid because we have to help them with their homework, we have a lot of stuff we have to do, too.
01:50:34.000So that consistency, that discipline, that being selfless, that comes after children.
01:50:38.000But for men, that needs to be in you from the beginning because you need to be selfless to be able to provide for a woman and for children in the future.
01:50:45.000So men cannot afford to be naturally as selfish as women are.
01:50:49.000And here's the thing, I'm not going for doing it.
01:50:51.000Go for it because you need to get the best guy to have the best children.
01:50:56.000But what if the man is already chubby and he wants to go to the gym and, like, work out and you're just inspiring him to go do what he already wants to do?
01:51:22.000But her telling him, you should go to the gym and train, blah, blah, blah.
01:51:25.000It's an L. He should be doing it on his own.
01:51:27.000You should be making his mission easier, but the mission's already forged out.
01:51:30.000But if you're being his inspiration and he needs to go to the gym off of you, then it's an L off rip.
01:51:35.000Because women, again, back to what I said before, it's ridiculous, it's counterproductive to get your motivation from someone who's inherently lazier than you are when it comes to resource creation about your masculine imperative.
01:51:48.000And that's not to be an asshole or anything like that, but men and women are very different and we view the world differently and we have different strengths and weaknesses.
01:51:55.000And unfortunately, resource creation and being successful is not the female trait.
01:51:59.000Some girls are good at it, sure, right?
01:52:01.000But as far and few between, how many people are in your career field that are women?
01:52:26.000Yes, in the engineer department in Virginia, because my job is in Virginia, it's 70%, but we also have the engineer department in Argentina, and we have in other countries, and I would say in India, in Argentina, they are mostly males,
01:53:34.000Once again, if you've got something to go to the gym, I mean, that's an L. No, like, he should want to go to the gym and he wants to go more because of you, is what I was saying.
01:53:41.000Like, it's not your rule to, like, make him go.
01:54:18.000I mean, you got to treat women like children for them to really respect you.
01:54:21.000If I'm going to be all the way honest, you've got to treat them like children.
01:54:24.000You've got to protect them from themselves, their impulsivities, their emotional outbursts, etc.
01:54:28.000That's why men have to be in authority roles over women.
01:54:32.000And I know you didn't like what I said earlier, potentially with boundaries and everything, and obviously he should have never put his hands on you, because that's a man that's out of control at that point, and not in control.
01:54:43.000But I think women respond the most favorably to men that treat them like children.
01:54:47.000Because he protects for you, provides for you, you don't have to really do anything, just be pretty, be there, be quiet, don't be a pain in the ass, help him out in the house, and you'll be good, man.
01:54:57.000So, women get mad at me and say, you're misogynistic, but women are attracted to men that have misogynistic tendencies by their fucking...
01:55:35.000If we really think about that critically and people, you know, controversial take, whatever, like literally women love being infantilized by a man.
01:58:08.000It's just that, see, when I say these things, It's politically incorrect and it's looked at as like sexist or misogynistic or whatever the fucking bullshit buzz term that people want to use.
01:58:17.000But women are attracted and aroused by these things.
01:58:19.000The things that women like and are attracted to are not politically correct.
01:58:23.000So when I say these things, it's like, oh my god, this is so fucked up.
02:00:07.000How would you constructively criticize and advise someone about exposing themselves on something that is incredibly damaging to one's future?
02:00:16.000I think what they're saying is if somebody who's on OnlyFans, how would you kind of tell them to maybe choose the light side instead of the dark side?
02:12:35.000Question for the woman, if a friend tried to ruin your relationship, okay, out of jealousy, would you try to fix the friendship or move on with the relationship and hope the friend gets it together?
02:12:43.000Okay, so you're with a man that you like, okay, all y'all are leaving?
02:12:56.000I've been through this situation before, and I kind of tried, but once I saw it was kind of getting to the next level, that jealousy is something more deep-rooted than...
02:13:07.000I feel like you as a friend, you can never go into your friend's relationship because you're always going to be a bad man.
02:13:15.000You're never going to be right, and they're always going to get back together.
02:15:10.000I think for development, if you're an average person, the books you read, the environment, people you're around will help you grow.
02:15:22.000But the business itself is kind of like iffy because you have to get people to join your team and it's always going to be either detriment.
02:15:30.000So it's kind of tricky, that industry.
02:16:01.000Besides my mother, of course my mother.
02:16:02.000But outside of my mom, Candace Owens, for sure.
02:16:05.000And honestly, watching your guys' podcast helped me realize, like I said, what I've been doing wrong and things about myself that I needed to change and fix.
02:16:11.000I mean, I know a lot of people talk about how therapy doesn't really do much, but I think that you guys are also part, you guys are like therapists.
02:16:25.000We brought Psych Hacks on and he gives therapy and he's a psychologist and one of the things he says is that he's real big on telling people, okay, well you fucked up and you need to do this.
02:16:36.000It's not just listening to their problems, it's actually coming up with actionable solutions as well.
02:19:35.000There was some kind of shocking stat that came out that, like, Something, wow, like one in three or one in four or five men go to get paternity tests and they can't disclose it, obviously.
02:22:10.000I don't want to tell you what you want.
02:22:16.000Tell her what to do and what to not do.
02:22:20.000When I say that, when you as men are looking at that and you think that I'm over-sexualizing myself, let me know and then I will take it down.
02:22:29.000Pretty much any bikini pic, you know, that's what they do.
02:22:33.000Any bikini pics, anything showing thongs, showing ass, anything like that, pretty much too much skin, yeah, anything like that.
02:25:24.000I understand that, but I'm saying in the public eye now, they're going to, oh, that really articulate, like, really logically sound female.
02:25:31.000Now they're going to be like, ah, she's one of those.
02:25:35.000That's how they're going to look at it.
02:25:50.000Like I've always said, if you're a woman, and you're actually intelligent, and you have a good head on your shoulders, whatever, the last thing you want to do is sexualize yourself.
02:25:57.000Because what ends up happening is men just look at that, and that's all they equate you to.
02:26:01.000No matter how smart you are, no matter how well-rounded you are, they're just going to be like...
02:26:52.000I'll tell you this, if someone that actually spoke to you and heard you before I saw you, Yeah, a lot of guys are going to be disappointed.
02:29:03.000And please excuse me, I don't have the stat on hand, but I'm going to go look it up.
02:29:07.000But yeah, some wild number of men are not the biological fathers, but the doctor can't disclose it because of HIPAA laws and the privacy of the woman.
02:31:31.000I can, you know, have a good argument with you guys.
02:31:34.000You guys don't, like, I don't know, like, on IG, it makes me think that you guys are, like, rude or something, but honestly, like, it's not, and I enjoy it.
02:33:43.000To be honest, my brother put me on you guys, so you guys, like, I used to, like, I used to be kind of outgoing.
02:33:48.000I didn't do anything bad, but you guys really taught me a lot, and I really enjoyed being on the show, so thank you for giving me this opportunity.
02:33:55.000It's not going to stop Abdul from getting rocks.
02:34:21.000So, for guys to be on this podcast, they have to provide something or have some type of influence or, you know...
02:34:28.000And there was one guest that I saw that came on here that I didn't think embodies that at all that was a good person to have on here and that's that Charleston white man.
02:34:36.000I did see that he had racist videos talking about how he graped women in the past and his friends would lace their cigarettes with crack and he doesn't like Asians and Asian children should be sodomized.
02:34:48.000When looking for these types of men to come on here Like, what are you really looking for?
02:34:53.000Because I just don't think that him, out of everybody to bring on, anyone to bring on, I don't think he was a good option.
02:35:01.000Well, I mean, guests that come on shows, they're individuals, and they have platforms of themselves, and they'll say what they want to say.
02:35:10.000Now, for us, obviously, we want to bring a diverse panel of people and guests, because bringing the same people on will be redundant, but His views are his views.
02:35:29.000Again, the level of controversy that you have is going to be determined by your audience.
02:35:35.000I'm just saying for us itself, guests come on to get their perspective and We may not always agree, but on some level, it does add an aspect of enlightenment.
02:35:45.000But then why give a man like that platform at all?
02:36:27.000When he talked about that, I want to emphasize that he was talking about his past, and he was referring to a song from a two-life crew, right?
02:36:37.000His life story about his life of crime, the stupid shit that he had done before, how he went to prison, and how it reformed him.
02:36:44.000So I want to make sure that the context is there, that he was describing his life story, was talking about a song, and the stupid shit that he did when he was young, including murder and everything else.
02:37:06.000No, I've seen videos off your platform.
02:37:10.000I saw him talking about it when he was in a bathroom, talking about the stuff that he did with his friends, and when he was in a car, the stuff that talked about the Asians and stuff.
02:37:18.000So to address your first thing, so he was talking about his life, right?
02:37:20.000And he was referring to the two live crew, and then he was talking about all the mistakes he made in his life, and he was building up to it.
02:37:25.000Then he went to jail for murder, blah, blah, blah, right?
02:37:56.000And there's a bunch of other reasons for that as well.
02:37:58.000But as far as the context of the grave comments, that was him describing his life.
02:38:03.000We don't agree with that, but we understand that that was a part of his life and mistakes that he made in his youth, and he talked about that, and he was referring to the song Two Life Crew.
02:38:22.000Because people have asked that question, so this actually gave me the chance to finally answer it fully.
02:38:27.000But that's what it was as far as addressing the grave site and then the racist comments.
02:38:31.000That was after we had him on the platform.
02:38:33.000Because it's like one thing having someone that doesn't agree with you totally and you have them on your platform to have a debate on it, but it's just like, I just didn't understand that person.
02:38:42.000Yeah, and the thing is, I know people said, oh, you should have pushed back or blah, blah, blah.
02:38:46.000How are we going to push back on him telling his life story?
02:39:10.000I don't know about you two, but I've seen Myron talk about it mostly.
02:39:13.000Why do you not see yourself ever being able to fall in love with a woman?
02:39:18.000You said that you would have love for one but never fall in love with one.
02:39:21.000Because all rationality and objectivity goes out the window once you fall in love with a woman as a man.
02:39:26.000And that's when you open yourself up and you become susceptible to making really bad decisions like hitting a woman or attacking a woman because of your emotions blinding you.
02:39:34.000But men are really good at being stoic.
02:39:36.000You lose that stoicism once you fall in love with a woman.
02:39:51.000It's the closest to idealistic loving that you're going to get.
02:39:55.000Since men love women idealistically, That tends to have very, and don't get it twisted, women love men too, but they love men for different reasons.
02:40:04.000But the way that a man, if the love isn't reciprocated or the man doesn't feel that appreciation or he feels some type of way, the negative ramifications that can manifest from him not getting what he thinks he deserves, from that woman can manifest in very violent and terrible ways.
02:40:21.000So I would say, so if you're saying that men love women for real, how could you say men love women for real if you're not willing to actually fall in love with one?
02:40:28.000Having love for one is completely different to actually being in love with one.
02:40:30.000No, I'm saying like when they do fall in love with a woman, they look for real.
02:42:01.000Women are literally driven by their emotions.
02:42:03.000Women do a lot of the stupid shit that they do off their emotions.
02:42:06.000And men do stupid shit off their emotions as well.
02:42:07.000But when men do stupid shit off their emotions, typically there's violent consequences.
02:42:11.000School shootings, attacking their woman, etc.
02:42:14.000Men manifest their emotions in violent ways.
02:42:17.000So then would you say that if a man is marrying a woman, it's not because he's in love with her, it's just because I have some type of love for you?
02:42:58.000But she told me that she, because he doesn't have anybody, like everyone on his side died, everyone, and that we're all he has, so she stays.
02:43:06.000And I agree that, honestly, a lot of relationships and marriages, it shouldn't be about, are you happy and you should just leave because you're not happy?
02:48:25.000I mean most are so So the thing is, is that, like, that's why I say if a girl has one of these traits, doesn't mean that she's a hoe automatically.
02:48:34.000No, that's why it's important to look at behaviors, look at pattern, look, and you got to do this over a period of time.
02:50:42.000If I see her in a sports car, if I see her in a Ferrari or a Lamborghini, slut.
02:50:49.000All these things, and it's crazy to me because women don't know.
02:50:52.000I'll see girls post this shit on their Instagram and I'm like, what the fuck are you doing?
02:50:56.000Do you not realize that you're making yourself less attractive from a relationship standpoint?
02:51:01.000You're like, oh yeah, you're hot, you're living life, whatever, but men look at this and they're like, oh yeah, I'm going to fuck this bitch.
02:51:06.000They don't think I'm going to wife her.
02:51:07.000No, because if I see a girl in a Ferrari, I know that's a nigga's Ferrari.
02:52:11.000They go, not saying that you are one, but again, that's why I'm saying this question is so important.
02:52:15.000Like, if you see her do one thing, it's like, all right, red flag.
02:52:18.000But then you need to look at all the other behaviors, and you've got to do it over a period of time, and then you're able to assess the female.
02:52:24.000That's why I said there's so many different traits, and not every single one is a gift, like a telltale, like, oh, 100% a slut!
02:52:32.000You know, I mean, there's some ones that are way more than others, but if a girl's going to dinners with successful dudes, and there's a big group of them, I already know what the niggas are doing.
02:52:40.000They paid a promoter, the promoter went and rounded up a bunch of girls, they got those girls because they're single, and the guys are trying to fuck those girls.
02:52:46.000And a big part of the reason why those promoters picked those girls is because they fuck.
02:53:39.000I see what you're saying, and you know what?
02:53:41.000I'm getting to the age where I'm realizing that, and I do want to settle down someday, and I'm like, okay, I don't want to really hang around those people.
02:53:58.000It doesn't matter, and I'll tell you why, going back to what I said before.
02:54:00.000If I've been training in the dojo for 30 years, and you've been outside just living life, Can you really identify with my struggles, me being in the dojo for 30 years?
02:55:46.000I mean, I think if she knows, like, the man's needs, like, you know, if they really communicate that, then it would be, you know, more of a benefit to him, you know what I'm saying?
02:58:09.000So it's an L. Just so the women understand the functional equivalent, let's say you're with a guy, you liked him, but he only calls you to have sex at 2 o'clock in the morning, but he never cares about what you gotta say, never has conversation with you.