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00:08:59.000No, but that's what everybody said on this podcast, like on your comments.
00:09:04.000Everyone said that supposedly all three of my baby daddies were black, and just because I'm bigger, like only black guys like me, which is bullshit, because every guy I've ever been with are Hispanic, just so you guys know.
00:11:01.000I love theater and sociology and history, but I wanted to be a history teacher, but apparently when I did Playboy, they thought it was porn, so they told me, yeah, I lost that.
00:11:12.000I wanted to be a high school history teacher, and they were like, oh, and there's pictures just spread eagle, and I was young.
00:11:21.000I wanted to soak it all up, and I guess I did a little too much.
00:17:03.000Yeah, but, bro, I've been to Fort Worth and I've been to Austin many times.
00:17:13.000I'm a screenwriter, actress, artist, entrepreneur.
00:17:17.000I'm currently working on my organization called Awaken Our Earth, which focuses on gathering self-sustainable communities and eco-villages all over the globe to elevate the consciousness of humanity.
00:19:10.000How do you think you'll be able to heighten the consciousness when dudes literally have their consciousness at the lowest level trying to look at your ass?
00:19:21.000I feel like a lot of it comes to speaking and my confidence within myself, but I feel like we always have power to recreate our vision of reality in every moment and change our frequency and what's in our energy field because I really feel like our energy field is a part of manifesting and creating every moment that we experience.
00:22:36.000So you're a live streamer and all the other stuff.
00:22:39.000Okay, what's your highest education level completed?
00:22:41.000I'm actually currently in school right now, pursuing my bachelor's degree in organic regenerative agriculture, positive psychology, and cinematic arts and new media.
00:25:57.000Alright guys, from this point forward, 20 and up and I'll read.
00:25:59.000It's Friday, so we'll go ahead and get some of your questions, but I do have a line of questioning as well, and a video to react to, so I'll hit some of these chats real quick.
00:26:07.000Hopefully they don't go too hard on the ladies.
00:26:09.000Bender the Offender says, Ladies, do you think that abolishing no-fault divorce would be a good thing or a bad thing for both men and women?
00:26:15.000Alright ladies, do you think it's a good or bad thing if we were to get rid of divorce altogether?
00:29:48.000No, actually, he was forced to be present on my birthdays growing up because my mom would pay him to be there because my mom and my parents were not there.
00:31:02.000I don't think that divorce is bad necessarily.
00:31:06.000I think that, like you said earlier, if it's going bad, and I've personally been in some relationships where I'm like, oh my God, thank God I didn't Get married to this person.
00:31:18.000And I think divorce needs to stay there for a reason, but maybe some more mindful marriages, like in a sense, like more contemplation of who you're partnering with.
00:32:05.000I think that it would be good for both men and women, especially for men now because they go through a lot of stuff with child support and they work their whole lives to build things and then they have to give half of everything.
00:36:00.000I think that if someone's in multiple relationships, man, woman, I wonder if like, are they truly valuing the people that they get in the relationship with?
00:39:29.000I just feel like I attract a lot of guys, but I think they're not emotionally intelligent.
00:39:34.000And I don't want a guy who doesn't have sense.
00:39:37.000Can you define emotional intelligence for us?
00:39:40.000I feel like if you don't have control over your emotions, like let's say you're upset at something or you're sad about something and you react instead of handling it with precaution, I don't trust you because you're all over the place.
00:39:53.000And I can't trust you to leave me, basically.
00:40:24.000Too many relationships or single for a long period of time?
00:40:27.000I would say too many relationships because I feel like relationships can serve as a distraction from you facing yourself and being in stillness with yourself and meditation and just facing all of your own inner demons because a lot of people end up in relationships to distract themselves and project their issues and their traumas onto their partners instead of actually doing the inner work.
00:40:48.000And I've done the work being celibate for a while and spiritually cleansing myself and detoxing.
00:40:54.000And I feel like you have to be celibate for a while to attract a higher quality partner.
00:44:15.000Why do you think women's sexuality has been suppressed, restricted since the beginning of human civilization across pretty much all known cultures?
00:44:24.000Why did they suppress female sexuality since the beginning of time, ladies?
00:44:27.000Do you think it's good, bad, and do you think it makes sense?
00:44:32.000We can start right here with you, Miss Birthdance.
00:44:36.000Yeah, I feel like it's because women's wombs hold the ultimate power to creation.
00:44:42.000We're the ultimate souls that bridge the gateway between the physical realm and the spiritual realm through our very wombs because we literally birth...
00:44:51.000Life into this existence through our womb.
00:44:53.000So they've tried to suppress the woman's power and they've tried to create a sort of patriarchy where men are on top and distort the divine feminine and divine masculine from really working together as a unit like it was in ancient civilizations where they used to actually look up to the woman where the woman was actually the ruler.
00:45:12.000If you look into ancient Kemet and ancient Egypt it was really the woman and the divine goddess who...
00:45:26.000You said something about the patriarchy?
00:45:28.000Right, and that's why the feminine power has been so suppressed, because they don't want women really coming into our power and working as a unit together, because if we actually worked in unity and not jealousy, then we would transform the whole consciousness of humanity.
00:45:43.000But wouldn't we be able to say that men and women worked together, which is why the patriarchy was successful in the first place?
00:45:49.000No, it was because we weren't working together.
00:45:51.000There's a disconnection and we keep looping through traumas.
00:45:54.000It's only until the divine feminine and masculine actually work together that we'll see progression in this society, in this world.
00:46:00.000But we're just looping through a lot of traumas and unconscious patterns and that's why society and a lot of relationship issues...
00:46:08.000Happen the way they are today and why the world looks the way it is today and why society is so fucked up is because we're not actually looking in the mirror of ourselves and creating a space of safe and authentic communication between the masculine and feminine to actually heal and elevate and integrate our shadows and our traumas to truly progress into a higher reality and a higher frequency.
00:47:53.000To be honest, I think women are more emotional.
00:47:57.000And I think that's why a lot of men don't trust our judgment because sometimes we're emotional and we make the wrong decisions in the heat of the moment.
00:50:57.000Which you literally just were not a fan of when we talked about it before with a man.
00:51:02.000No, I'm not a fan of it, but at the same time, women play a dominant role in making sure that people are who they are right now as we speak.
00:53:37.000I think just because of cultures and religions, I think it, you know, people's cultures follow certain religions, and I have my religion, and other people have theirs, and I feel like for me...
00:53:55.000Everybody has their own religions and how they view sex and marriage and everything and who am I to tell someone that is Muslim to live a certain way and me have my own.
00:54:05.000It makes sense that these different religions, as long as they exist, it'll probably still continue.
00:54:56.000I think now that I'm older, I understand as to why women shouldn't be that promiscuous, and I feel that it's because we have an inner organ, and...
00:55:09.000I think that we have more like spiritual attachment when we engage with more men.
00:56:08.000Well, now we have birth control, but when...
00:56:10.000Like the era that the question is addressing, they didn't have no birth control.
00:56:14.000So it's very difficult for you to have children with multiple men because then they're not going to be providing for you because they're not going to provide for other men's children.
00:56:24.000So that's the way to keep the society cohesive by keeping family cohesive.
00:56:29.000And you do that by having the women not be promiscuous.
01:01:55.000There's actually a door in the bunny ranch that says hooker booker.
01:02:00.000And there was a little doormat that said this isn't, oh my gosh, I don't want to butcher the joke, but it was like, this is a whorehouse, not a whore home.
01:07:13.000So I went to a retreat recently and pretty much it's kind of weaving one with another, kind of bonding of people.
01:07:22.000Yeah, I guess to weave is tantra in a nutshell, but it's just weaving souls together to have a more passionate, intimate experience through sex.
01:08:31.000Have you ever seen a guy regret it, like I just soul-tied with a whore?
01:08:34.000You know, I've seen when they become angry after an orgasm, where it's called post-coidial rage, and I've seen that, where it's like they orgasm and then they get violent, and I've experienced that before.
01:09:57.000You could create a family or you could create a legacy through your career or your public image, whatever you choose.
01:10:03.000I feel like every woman has infinite potential within themselves and I don't feel like any woman should fit into a box.
01:10:08.000Okay, well that actually segues perfectly into my next question since you gave those two options.
01:10:12.000What do you think gives women the most personal satisfaction?
01:10:17.000For me personally, it's leaving a legacy behind for humanity.
01:10:20.000And how would you leave that legacy behind?
01:10:23.000Speaking my voice, speaking my truth, being different, being a revolutionary, and standing up for what's right, and educating humanity on the real history of what we have in the her story.
01:11:12.000Sexualizing yourself on OnlyFans and twerking and putting it all out there, do you think that would hurt your ability for people to take you seriously and actually get to see the other side of you that might be creative or, you know, I don't know.
01:11:27.000In a way I feel like it does because automatically you're objectifying yourself in a sense, so you're placing yourself in that role or in that position to be objectified.
01:11:38.000So in a way you do have to take accountability for that role that you're playing as a woman, but at the same time I'm a multi-dimensional being so I'm not limited to being perceived as that.
01:11:47.000What does that mean multi-dimensional?
01:12:14.000I feel like society has just programmed everyone and numbed them out and put a bunch of chemicals in the food, chemtrails in the sky to make us disconnected from who we really are.
01:12:43.000They try to poison our skies and our food and manipulate our consciousness to make us disconnected from tapping into our infinite potential that we really are.
01:13:23.000Just through being more in tune with their inner energy and who they really are, getting to know their own soul and not fitting into what society wants them to be and suppress them.
01:13:34.000And then you think what gives women the most personal satisfaction was, can you boil it down to like one sentence?
01:13:41.000I feel like for me personally, it's fulfilling my highest purpose.
01:13:45.000You can give yours, then you can give women in general.
01:13:47.000For me, it's knowing that I'm fulfilling a higher soul calling, a higher purpose.
01:14:39.000It's just as real as our physical body, but a lot of people don't study the aura in the meridian fields.
01:14:44.000But, for example, in acupuncture, acupressure, or other studies of the actual energetic field or meridian field, they know that we have certain points in our energy field that's connected to our bodily systems.
01:14:54.000And that all connects back to our thought forms and our energies.
01:14:58.000And through shifting our energies and our thoughts, we literally change reality and we can literally heal ourselves through our thoughts.
01:17:06.000I would say you know main desire for women possibly is having that a family but I guess maybe if the family didn't work out maybe the career is number two and that's speaking just for myself yeah So you think the most personal satisfaction is a family first?
01:18:02.000I have a fear with my condition that if little kids like let's say I did have kids for some reason and there was like two little kids and they're like mommy mommy we we gotta we want you to go to wake up it's time to go to school and I'm not able to do that like and I'm like physically like you know in a wheelchair or something then I break my heart in a sense like I would feel like a failure and so that's why I'm scared to have children like genuinely But,
01:18:27.000I mean, that's just me, and maybe I'll get over that pretty soon.
01:20:30.000Are there many black, Hispanic, white kids?
01:20:33.000Well, it's mainly blacks, because obviously when you have a non-profit, you have to go to zip codes that actually need help, and they are mainly black.
01:20:55.000Can I ask you, what did you think about her whole energy, alchemy, shveel, soul tie thing?
01:21:02.000I think that there's some stuff that she says that it's actually in the Bible, like the thoughts and what effects it has on your body, but I think that there's a lot of other stuff that are lies, and there is some truth to what she says,
01:21:19.000but it's so warped, In a bunch of other lies.
01:21:46.000But, for example, when she was talking about the thoughts, Jesus says that we need to control our thoughts and that even if we think certain stuff, it's a sin because it has an influence of the actions that we do if we keep thinking that thing.
01:22:52.000But however, I've had direct experiences with Yeshua, and I have my own way of connecting with Christ outside of organized religion.
01:23:00.000I feel like a lot of organized religion is mumbo-jumbo, and I feel like humanity has been dumped down and the Bible has been heavily altered for a long time.
01:23:40.000And basically, it's tied to alien abductions.
01:23:43.000So what happens is they take you up into this probe-like area with a metal surface, and they brainwash you, and you believe you're talking to a spirit or a higher being, but it's just like a demonic spirit.
01:25:40.000I thought about it with the sword, handing it all with her, and then it's like, bro, even if I behead her, it's not gonna do nothing.
01:25:47.000Personally, I feel like that's why the Illuminati uses the All-Seeing Eye or the Eye of Horus on their dollar bill, because they're trying to disconnect humanity from the All-Seeing Eye within ourselves.
01:26:21.000See, they just try to distort and twist everything that it actually is.
01:26:25.000The true origins of humanity and the true origins of our sacred nation.
01:26:28.000You know, it is something to think about that the fact that if you are a Christian and you have very strict morals, you're going against what it is.
01:26:37.000But you have the belief that we create our own reality.
01:28:06.000It depends on what your highest expression looks like as a woman, and I feel like that looks different and feels different for every woman.
01:28:12.000I mean, you said for you, you said a bunch of things when it comes to you, but when you said for most women, it would be through a family.
01:28:20.000I feel like through certain women, through their career, through their impact in the world, I don't necessarily like using the term career.
01:28:27.000But I would say through their acts of service in this reality.
01:30:53.000I want to get general thoughts on the clip from the ladies.
01:30:56.000Basically, you've got a 106-year-old woman telling her granddaughter or niece or whatever it may be, her relative, who's 38 years old, that she's fucking up by not having a man or having a family.
01:32:27.000He's still in my son's life now and he plays like a father role to my other two kids.
01:32:32.000So it was just like a moment of anger, I guess, that he said that.
01:32:36.000My second baby daddy, he never said he didn't want it, but like I said, he was a disaster and he was like, oh, I don't want a relationship because I just want to be in the street and do drugs and I'm not ready.
01:32:47.000So he dumped me in a good way because he was honest about he wasn't going to do anything.
01:32:59.000Like I said, I really didn't care at the moment because I thought that in my head, in my understanding at the moment, I thought that I was going to be able to do that by myself and me and my mom thought that we were going to be able to do that.
01:33:11.000But now that I'm older and I have three kids and it's been really, really hard, I realize that when kids don't have dads, they don't have any structure.
01:33:19.000As much as me and my mom have tried to play that role, we are not men.
01:33:24.000The person that I'm going out with now, like I said, he's a big fan of you guys.
01:33:49.000She told me to do it like every single time, but I didn't want to do that because I know that mentally I wasn't going to be able to live with that decision.
01:34:32.000So, yeah, I feel like every version of fulfillment depends on a woman, varies by the woman, depending on what she envisions for her highest experience of her life.
01:34:52.000I wanted to ask you, so if you think that through family you don't have fulfillment, like the most fulfillment, you think that things and experiences are more important than people in your life?
01:35:04.000Because I think that the only reason why, like, if I don't have anybody to love or that loves me, then why would I want to live?
01:36:55.000Yeah, we create our own community through connecting people who share a similar vision of literally inspiring humanity to ascend to higher levels of consciousness.
01:37:07.000So you're gonna grow tomatoes instead of have kids?
01:37:54.000I just want to cultivate a safe space for everyone to come to from all different backgrounds from all around the globe and create my own alternative news network that really spreads real news because a lot of the news has fake shit out there spreading certain narratives that they want to bombard you.
01:38:12.000Can you tell us what the fake news is then, in your opinion?
01:38:15.000I feel like a lot of the news is centered on keeping humanity in fear and keeping humanity in lower states of frequency because they don't want humanity to really know the real knowledge.
01:38:24.000What's the biggest line that the mainstream media pushes in your opinion?
01:38:46.000But really, it's really about connecting with people on a visceral level.
01:38:51.000It's always about boundaries, borders in different countries, boarding up against each other, but the only real way to create more peace for humanity is just...
01:40:03.000I think that it speaks on who she is as a woman, because men are the ones that pick who they marry.
01:40:10.000So if you get picked to get married, that means that you are an honorable woman.
01:40:17.000Not necessarily, because some men are not able to pick good quality women either, because they don't have examples.
01:40:24.000Well, they probably don't have a good example at home, so they probably don't have a father, which means that they were just raised by their mom.
01:40:33.000Some men have their father, but not their mom, and that's why they picked the wrong women, because they don't have that nurturing example.
01:41:00.000As much as I tried to convince myself that I wanted to be independent, that I could handle having three kids and fulfill that role, I can't.
01:41:07.000I cannot be a dad, and I cannot be a father, and I cannot be a man, and I cannot lead my two older sons to being a good man, because I'm not a man.
01:42:36.000Yeah, but it doesn't mean you are worthless.
01:42:39.000It just means that life, completely, like, taken as a whole, if you end up alone by yourself, you ain't nothing, because, I mean, you are by yourself.
01:44:44.000I would say I disagree because I feel like as a woman you're inherently valuable.
01:44:48.000However, I do feel like when you're raising a child you need a man and a woman to raise the child in the most healthy way possible.
01:44:54.000So you said women are inherently valuable, which I actually agree with because they do are born with value, but wouldn't it be fair to say that if you're born with value and you can't even attract a man that you've fucked up in some degree because you're born with value?
01:45:34.000Every girl I met says that she's celibate is not.
01:45:37.000Yeah, matter of fact, you broke your celibacy for a guy that you friendzoned for three years, so you didn't even really like him like that.
01:46:53.000And you don't necessarily live in reality.
01:46:55.000The guy that you're with right now is simply an opportunist and was waiting for you to cave in and move in with him so that he can get some sex.
01:47:11.000The point I'm trying to make is that...
01:47:13.000He's a guy that just wanted some sex, told you what you wanted to hear, because I'll be honest, you have a pretty loony outlook on life, and he just molded his ideology to fit with yours so that he can get some sex.
01:47:25.000I disagree, because even if you look down on his page and his social media, he's been posting about all the same things years before he met me.
01:47:32.000So he's always been having the same interests, and he's also a vegan too, for a while.
01:48:08.000Do you think if a man had your belief set about questioning reality and I make my own reality and all these weird things that you say, do you think you'd make it far in life?
01:48:19.000I feel like he would because he's not just submitting to the status quo.
01:48:23.000He's questioning things and making up his mind for himself.
01:48:26.000Do you think he has as many avenues to express his creativity, as you would call it, as you do?
01:48:36.000And how has that shown itself from success and financial capability, etc.?
01:48:42.000I would say, on and off, it just depends on the project.
01:48:45.000He designs logos too, and he makes his own art, and he also does it for his own fun and enjoyment.
01:48:52.000Okay, I'm just going to be honest here.
01:48:53.000I'm willing to bet that your boyfriend is a brokie, and I'm also willing to bet that if he shares the same mindset that you do, that more than likely he's probably not adhering to reality.
01:49:01.000He's either A, off his rocker and not successful, or B, selling you a dream so that he can get laid.
01:49:06.000But if he has the same mindset that you do, He's not going to go far in life because men have to live in reality.
01:49:10.000Men can't sit there and say, I make my own reality, etc., because we don't have the benefit of being able to be a sex worker or sell pictures of ourselves on the internet or be able to get an easy way out.
01:49:19.000Most of the people that watch you are men that are whacking off to your photos.
01:51:10.000Nine out of ten times when girls exercise some celibacy, they fucked a bunch of dudes in between, and then they say, all right, I gotta be celibate now.
01:51:16.000No, actually, I fucked a bunch of guys before I became celibate.
01:51:22.000When I was 18, I was super promiscuous.
01:51:30.000I don't want to say I never miss, but I know, bro, as soon as she said I was celibate, I already knew that she fucked a bunch of niggas and said, I can't do this no more.
01:51:43.000Actually, modest women and virgin girls and modest women never use the word celibacy.
01:52:15.000Like, yo, I was making money, but then I was struggling.
01:52:18.000I was able to travel, blah, blah, blah.
01:52:19.000I mean, I moved out of my mom's when I was young.
01:52:21.000I get that, but that's what I'm trying to explain to you is that, like, women have opportunities to do things that men would never be able to do.
01:52:26.000Like, if your boyfriend really has the same mindset as you, I know he's a brokie.
01:52:31.000Like, you were a brokie with this crazy-ass mindset, and you're a girl, and you were able to sell some pussy and or get guys to fly you out.
01:52:36.000There's no way a girl's gonna travel without money unless she's fucking pissed.
01:54:20.000Like, I know that, like, if somebody would think that I... If somebody thought I was ran through, I would say, okay, I see why you think that.
01:55:25.000I've been in the same position too before the ranch where you eat Maybe, yeah.
01:55:31.000You know, you get in this mode where it's kind of this defeated mode and you are in survival mode and you're just seeing whoever kind of crosses your path and they could be very dangerous.
01:55:43.000My question is, if someone does say, hey...
01:55:47.000You know, you're ran through, like in a sense where someone said that I'm ran through, I'd be like, okay, well, I validate that because, I mean, technically, it's true.
01:55:55.000Do you feel shame about saying that, you know, you are, or them saying it to you?
01:58:22.000Girls now are coping so hard that they think they can unfuck a dick and that it was never their fault and they were literally taken advantage of.
01:58:30.000That's the level of delusion we allow women to live in.
01:58:33.000When you have sex forced onto you, that is great.
01:59:16.000You cope a lot about a lot of things you say.
01:59:18.000Like I said, girls always say, oh yeah, I'm celibate now or whatever, but that's typically to cover up them being promiscuous.
01:59:26.000And at the end of the day, I'm not saying that you didn't go through some things, but you did make some decisions and have a lot of sex with a bunch of dudes.
02:01:50.000Men are always going to sexualize women.
02:01:52.000So if you're going to put yourself in a situation where a lot of men are around and there's opportunities to take, men are going to try to leverage sex for opportunities.
02:02:06.000And if they're going to want to fuck you, what are they going to try to get for it?
02:02:08.000If you're going to put yourself in a studio, if you're going to put yourself in a bunch of these promiscuous situations, you're going to be with a random restaurant owner, stuff like that, probably the guy's going to try to come on to you.
02:02:15.000And if you're in a barber shop all the time, eventually you're going to get a haircut.
02:02:25.000Not only that but like I'd be honest with y'all like men really don't give a fuck what you guys think That's why when you're saying this stuff about oh, yeah, my poetry blah blah blah As soon as you make an OF or you're twerking or whatever instant respect gone No one gives a fuck about what you got to write.
02:02:39.000That's none of that shit like men don't take you like if anything men always sexualize you It's your job to de-escalate any type of sexualizing that means dressing more modestly not behaving a certain way you got to protect What you're given.
02:03:17.000Men only sexualize women when they sexualize themselves first.
02:03:21.000Whether it's dressing provocatively, showing their figure off, dancing in a certain way, dressing in a certain way, behaving in a certain way, speaking in a certain way.
02:03:28.000Men only sexualize you when you sexualize yourself first.
02:04:06.000What was her statement that you disagree with so strongly?
02:04:08.000About women's body count counting, but men's body count not counting, I feel like women are entitled to explore their sexuality however they please.
02:04:16.000Okay, if they're entitled to explore their sexuality however they please, why did you take a length of celibacy?
02:04:22.000To cleanse my energy and cleanse myself.
02:04:25.000I experienced the best of both worlds.
02:04:31.000Not just that, but the cock affected my whole energy, so I had to clear it off.
02:04:35.000So, wouldn't it be fair to say by your own experience of you being promiscuous, you had to take an air of celibacy to deal with it versus guys aren't running around a lot of times saying, I need to take some time off for celibacy.
02:04:45.000I mean, there is men on NoFap who are being celibate for a while.
02:05:13.000I do agree with what you said where you said de-escalate the sexuality part because, you know, I've noticed at the ranch when I first started, I was like, you know, I'd been in Playboy.
02:05:21.000I was like, okay, well, I'm just going to show it all.
02:05:23.000I'm going to be in a, you know, pasties and this and that in the lineup because there's lineups.
02:05:30.000I was charging not what I would have been able to like, like my means and everything.
02:05:36.000Like, I don't know how to say that properly, but...
02:05:39.000When I started dressing better, like dressing better in a sense where I dressed more modestly, when I started going back, when I got more education, when I started studying certain things, I started noticing a change in the clientele I was attracting.
02:05:54.000So I do agree that, you know, the modesty did elevate that, even in the sex industry, it did.
02:06:09.000The thing is, ladies, is that women need to understand that, you know, respect...
02:06:14.000See, the way men view respect is respect is always earned.
02:06:17.000But for some odd reason, women think that respect is supposed to be given.
02:06:20.000And unfortunately, in today's day and age where you guys fought for equality and feminism, that respect now has to be earned just like it is with a man.
02:06:26.000So when a woman dresses a certain way, behaves a certain way, twerks on the internet, maybe says a bunch of weird mumbo-jumbo stuff, guys aren't gonna respect that a lot of times, unfortunately.
02:06:34.000So I get what you're saying, hey, it's not fair because men are always going to sexualize us.
02:06:42.000You've got to take a little bit of accountability.
02:06:44.000You make money off sexualizing yourself, so you've got to deal with the consequences of that.
02:06:48.000Men aren't going to respect you if you sexualize yourself, unfortunately.
02:06:51.000I feel like I have a lot of men that respect me too.
02:06:53.000I feel like if your creative projects are that impactful and that profound, they'll speak for themselves for people to respect you and respect your artist.
02:07:03.000Those men, ask them if they want to fuck and see what they say.
02:07:06.000I mean, I feel like all of them would.
02:07:29.000No, they don't because I've never done that, like, publicly for a while.
02:07:33.000Like, that OF stuff is recent for me, like, within the last couple months.
02:07:37.000Word gets around, they probably knew that you fucked some guy that they knew or whatever.
02:07:41.000You said you're promiscuous when you were 18.
02:07:49.000You have an inability to accept reality and take accountability for poor decisions that you made in your past, which has led to your current situation.
02:08:41.000Looking in the mirror of your reflection of how you're carrying yourself in the world, how you're thinking, your outside demeanor, how your approaches, how you interact with people.
02:09:42.000I can't hear it anymore, because you're not going to learn stuff.
02:09:45.000I got confused because I thought you said you grew up without your dad, but then you said your dad graped you, so I'm a little bit confused already.
02:09:51.000I did grow up without my dad, but he came to visit me a few times throughout my childhood.
02:09:55.000He came to visit me when I was four and five, and then he left my life and came back in when I was 11 and 12 cutting myself.
02:11:12.000I won't define myself by that, but I can see why somebody else would say that about me, and I'm not gonna disagree with them because I'm like, that's reality.
02:11:57.000You just gave her a bunch of bullshit ass advice, man.
02:12:00.000What she should do is, instead of shaking your ass on the internet and being an OF thought, what you should do is be an advocate for women that are abused and use your platform for good.
02:12:46.000But if you actually want to be taken seriously in the real world and be an advocate to help other women get out of the situation, you have to live in fucking reality.
02:12:53.000Not be shaking your ass on the internet to a bunch of thirsty ass niggas that are sitting there whacking off to you that don't give a fuck about your poetry.
02:13:51.000Sophus goes, I had an interesting debate with my wife last night, so I want to ask the ladies a question.
02:13:55.000Would you consider cheating if your husband paid for an escort and he told you he did it because he wanted to have sex with other women without an emotion?
02:14:00.000Would you guys consider cheating if he paid for an escort?
02:15:06.000The money exchanged because it's like, hey, I remember I used to work high-end poker games in Bel Air and pretty much They would be married, but then they would literally give us poker chips and they'd be like, here.
02:15:18.000And then they'd be like, we wouldn't have their phone numbers, nothing.
02:15:21.000They would just pay and then they would have their time and then it would be done.
02:15:25.000And there'd be no talk about it afterwards.
02:15:27.000And that's the way that, you know, kept them having their family life and just had their recreation activities at the poker games.
02:19:22.000Well, going and having sex with someone else is a bigger L. I mean, I guess it is for everybody else, but for me, I feel like a bigger L is to stay committed to somebody that's not committed to me.
02:19:33.000Remember how you said earlier that women are emotional and make bad decisions?
02:19:36.000I guess, but if you're not committed to me, I don't.
02:19:38.000This is an emotional decision that you're talking about right now.
02:21:13.000If he's not loyal, then okay, I'm going to go find somebody else, too.
02:21:15.000If I'm telling you that most men aren't going to be loyal, it wouldn't just make sense to be intelligent enough to find the guy that's loyal to you and going to take care of you and have a child with him?
02:21:24.000If I'm telling you 99% of guys are going to cheat on you anyway?
02:23:57.000It's that when men are given the ability to cheat without any real repercussions, they're typically going to take it.
02:24:02.000But, like, I believe in a godly marriage, so obviously within that marriage, the guy shouldn't cheat, but I should also always please my man.
02:24:15.000Yeah, but here's the thing is that whenever you get into like that deep years of like 10, 15, that means that you also have to please your man.
02:24:56.000That I need to satisfy him because I cannot ask him to be loyal if I'm always denying him the pleasure because I have a headache or I'm tired or this and that.
02:25:06.000I mean, that might help it, but men are always going to want variety in other women, man.
02:32:39.000But you want me to suppress my standards when I have to bust my ass to become attractive to even be able to have the ability to have multiple women.
02:33:05.000What I'm saying is that you're not willing to compromise on the man that you want.
02:33:09.000So why the fuck should I compromise on how many women I want?
02:33:11.000But if you're supposed to be with a girl, right, that you love and care about and value, why do you have to have an issue suppressing your urges?
02:33:20.000Okay, there's plenty of nice guys that will love and care about you.
02:33:23.000Why do you have to keep your standards high?
02:33:25.000Because I feel like as a woman, if I don't, then I'm gonna be a thought box.
02:33:29.000Okay, because as a man, I feel like if I don't have multiple girls, my chick's not gonna respect me and know where the fuck she got.
02:33:42.000All I'm trying to say here is I'm just taking your analogy where you're not willing to lower your standards, and I'm saying, okay, if I'm a man and I have to earn my value to even be able to be attractive to women, why am I going to lower my standard and what I want when you're not willing to lower your standard?
02:33:55.000I find it incredible that women will never lower their standards.
02:33:58.000They expect men to lower their standards on what they want.
02:34:32.000That's why bustin' a nut is so great because, well, not through porn, but through actually getting a girl's because you had to work to be able to earn that ability.
02:34:40.000Also, you have to work hard enough to have the free time to play video games and be fat all day.
02:35:42.000It doesn't benefit you to be a fat piece of shit, but it absolutely benefits you to deal with women, understand how they move, understand what attracts them, what arouses them, and then you're able to go ahead and filter women and put them in categories, and you understand, okay, this girl's a thot.
02:36:16.000Because the same reason that we talk about girls becoming ran through and then losing their soul tie, it becomes harder for a man to stay committed to one girl when you've been with a lot of girls.
02:36:26.000The justification on this podcast is that it's gaining experience and that you're learning about girls.
02:37:30.000Before you go to refresh, you saying that, we've talked about this, it would have been better, like, if I could go on a time machine again, it's better to go the route of not fucking a bunch of random girls for experience and then get with a couple girls that you want to be with long term.
02:37:43.000If I could take it back, if I could not, because now it's harder to have a pair bond.
02:37:47.000Men pair bond a lot, like women do as well.
02:37:49.000It's harder for me, and you get bored quicker.
02:37:52.000And also, we are affected by social media.
02:37:53.000When you're in this online space and you're around girls all the time, if you're in a barber shop all the time, you're gonna get a haircut.
02:37:58.000Putting yourself in those situations is gonna be more difficult, but I'm saying it's the practicality, it's the advice for the people watching the show.
02:38:05.000Is it better to fuck a bunch of whores or to find a girl that you want to settle down, a good quality woman to settle down?
02:38:09.000Is that why you have main girls and side girls and everything else like that?
02:38:15.000What I'm saying is that you have a main girl, and then you have other girls, and you're honest with your main chick, and you let her know what it is, and she's by her side.
02:38:21.000I've had that relationship, and I'm telling you, like, having a lot of side girls, it worked for a while, but the amount of, like, mental torture that she had to go through to justify it, like, a girl's never, like, realistically, when a girl's growing up and she's playing with the Barbie, she wants to have the Barbie be with the prince.
02:38:35.000She doesn't want to have the prince and a bunch of other Barbies.
02:39:08.000Well, with all the talk of the I guess the polygamous relationships.
02:39:14.000I believe that for me, like my perfect relationship, if I were to describe it, is I'm with a guy and he knows that if ever I get sick or if ever I'm, you know, not feeling great, like he can go see other women as long as like I'm there.
02:39:28.000I'll be damned if my like I I know that.
02:40:15.000When he's having a stressful time or if he's got other connections, cool, but I'll be there too and then when it's my time to hightail it to the hospital, I'm going.
02:40:24.000I'm not going to have him take care of me.
02:40:33.000I was gonna say that, like based on the logic that you were talking about, the main person would have privileges and that comes with a lot of money.
02:40:43.000So for her, it would also be transactional to stay in that relationship because she's getting the money, not because she has to go through all this psychological thing that she has to keep bearing, but because she's having the money and that's ultimately what she wants the most, she knows she has to make that sacrifice.
02:40:59.000So she suppresses her emotions in order to deal with that because she's having all the money.
02:41:06.000Obviously, I'm not gonna lie about that.
02:41:08.000Your social status and your income and money absolutely is a component of it.
02:41:10.000But that's why it's so important to also build an emotional connection with her where she actually likes you and understands that your happiness overall as a man overrides her own.
02:41:19.000And that's really when the relationship is the best.
02:41:21.000Women really thrive on being picked over other girls.
02:41:25.000I would say that's the only way you're going to get a woman to really be devoted to you and really respect and admire you is when you have the ability to have other women.
02:44:31.000Well, they're doing it through violence and other shit.
02:44:34.000I think a lot of times they don't need to.
02:44:37.000They use these types of tactics to keep the girls in line.
02:44:40.000Maybe this works for a lot of girls in Miami, for girls that have had pasts and stuff like that in this space, but there's a lot of good quality women that don't need to be in a constant state of emotional turmoil to be in a marriage.
02:45:31.000Depending on the woman's attractiveness, the amount of options she has, and her promiscuous past, those three factors right there are playing to how much you need to emotionally keep her invested.
02:45:39.000If she's not that much of a whore, she comes from a good family, etc., you don't need to play the games like that.
02:45:43.000But she needs to know that you can walk away.
02:45:45.000Do you think that's the best way to keep a woman interested?
02:48:29.000I wish we could all be super religious, whether it's through Islam or Christianity or Judaism or whatever, and be rest assured that we'd get a quality woman that was going to stay at home and cook and clean and not be a whore.
02:48:46.000If you still want that submissive, dutiful wife, it can still happen, but you have to switch up your mindset and you have to switch up how you operate.
02:48:52.000You gotta fight a gut fight with a gun.
02:49:49.000Look, that does this backwards, because you're saying a lot of Western guys are hopeless, too, if they're addicted to porn, if they follow all the vices, but we're trying to help them.
02:49:58.000Same reason with women that are growing up.
02:49:59.000We don't need to teach them that you need to go to TikTok immediately and then become delusional and go to OnlyFans.
02:50:03.000You don't need to think that everybody's doomed.
02:50:25.000You see pussy as- No no, Myron says pussy as cattle.
02:50:28.000Like every hoe he's fucking, he's fighting because it's revenge.
02:50:31.000It's literally a battle between two genders to have leverage and I want the man to have the leverage all the time because that's what women are attracted to.
02:50:38.000You know, do you think of it the same way too?
02:50:40.000Like every pussy you fuck is like leverage?
02:52:45.000So it's going to be worse until it gets better.
02:52:47.000Yeah, but Jesus is still going to be here even if it gets worse.
02:52:53.000And he's still going to be in your life and helping you and aiding you.
02:52:56.000So even if it's bad for everybody, because you were chosen and you believe in Jesus and you give your life to him, he will be there for you.
02:53:03.000So it doesn't matter what is happening out there.
02:53:05.000I agree, but again, I'm saying for most people, he's using the argument that, okay, in his current life right now, have a girlfriend and be only with her.
02:53:14.000But in reality speaking, people are going to do what they want to do.
02:53:17.000So my thing is, why commit to that person that's going to be what they want to do anyway?
02:53:23.000But it's the same thing with making money.
02:54:59.000But my thing is, It's not a fair trade anymore where a man is coming in and providing all these things, but girls aren't giving back what they used to give, which is what?
02:55:06.000A virgin body, not being a whore, being submissive, being dutiful, putting him first, sexually pleasing him, giving him children, giving him a house, being loyal, etc.
02:57:45.000We told her the truth about what it really is.
02:57:47.000But do you think it's the best use of your energy, outside of the podcast, to be viewing women as leverage and that you need to go and get revenge?
02:58:15.000Right, where they have all the leverage and you're the employee or it's a relationship with your friends or a business partner or whatever.
02:58:21.000Everything is based on leverage and relationships are no different with a woman.
02:58:24.000I would argue it's the highest level of leverage with the highest level of consequence just that guys are too stupid to understand that it is a battle of leverage.
02:58:31.000Just like when they're walking into their employer to negotiate for a better job.
02:58:34.000But what I'm saying is that as the men we get programmed to think Oh, it's okay for the woman to have leverage because she's going to be a good girl.
03:07:10.000Well, you said you gotta make her fear you, and what I'm saying is that respect is a byproduct of fear.
03:07:15.000No, you don't need to make her scared to get respect from her.
03:07:19.000If she respects you and everything you do and how you're providing for the family and how you are as a man and how you carry yourself, there doesn't need to be fear, manipulation, anxiety involved.
03:07:26.000Fear is an irrefutable ingredient to respect.
03:07:30.000Fear that she will leave, but she doesn't have to have separation anxiety just from cheating.
03:07:34.000It could be from the fact that she's going to lose a man that she really respects about.
03:07:37.000You still get to the end product of respect, but the thing I'm trying to say is that an ingredient that's necessary for respect is fear.
03:07:44.000Whether it's her afraid that you're going to leave her or whatever it may be, respect, right, is stemmed from fear.
03:07:50.000Right, but she could fear losing you without you fucking hoes.
03:07:52.000She could fear losing you because you're the man that she wants to be with so badly.
03:07:56.000The thought of losing you is enough, bro.
03:09:00.000I remember I left a guy and he had a lot of women and it was just like it was to the point where I felt invisible so I think that maybe like how much women is too much like is it just like is he being gluttonous or does he really love like all these women for like certain reasons or like he finds value in like their companionship.
03:10:58.000If you aren't able to differentiate content from a real relationship, you're just way too deep in and you need to stop watching streams and live your own life.