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00:14:37.000But either way, assuming she was a Cape Verdean national and she got arrested and they tried to deport her, they would not take her back so she would be staying here.
00:15:47.000So I think the first time that we've had a girl that majors in psychology that actually is pursuing a higher level degree because a bachelor's degree in psychology is absolutely fucking useless.
00:15:56.000I say this and people call me an asshole and I'm like, bro, you literally can't do anything with a psychology degree unless you actually like...
00:16:01.000I'm assuming you're trying to go all the way, you're gonna be a psychiatrist or a psychologist?
00:16:37.000Yeah, because I can't think of another...
00:16:39.000That's where you make the real money and do whatever you want.
00:16:42.000It's like the one thing in the med field, like...
00:16:45.000Well, you're trying to get in there, so you know this.
00:16:48.000Being a physician's assistant, right, is kind of a way to get around it, or a nurse practitioner, where you don't have to go all the way and become a doctor, but you can make damn good money.
00:16:55.000In the psychology field, you can't do that.
00:16:57.000Is there anything that's equivalent to like...
00:16:59.000A psychologist aide or assistant that makes you six figures in the psychology field?
00:19:14.000I know you're cool with him, and you probably know him.
00:19:17.000I think the biggest thing that fucked him up in his career is he's extremely lazy, not consistent, he has a buzz and he doesn't run with it long enough, and he doesn't see things through.
00:19:26.000Like his little NFT, the little vape thing that he had, didn't push any of it through.
00:20:02.000But it kills me because I'm like, bro, you could have been so much bigger and made more money and not had these lawsuits and all his headaches if you just moved smarter, man.
00:27:56.000What do you think the best spread is from an age standpoint?
00:27:59.000I mean, I would want someone in my age range, ideally, because you don't want to have your husband be like 70 when you're 50 and he's just old and shriveled.
00:31:38.000You see where he's going there, right?
00:31:39.000Like she met her first boyfriend at 27 or 25, so she didn't have a serious boyfriend before then, so they're saying that she was, you know, dating around.
00:32:08.000Okay, so okay, so you guys all pretty much agree that the man should be older except for one And you disagree because you've seen your sister do it successfully But do you think in general that works out when the woman is older generally speaking?
00:32:24.000Okay, and my age range Okay, so that's to be what at what age does a woman need to be in your opinion where she could be older than the guy?
00:33:05.000Just understanding how the world works, being competent, being able to fix things, being a problem solver, being able to adjust to certain things, stuff like that.
00:33:14.000I grew up in a conservative environment in a male-dominated country.
00:33:21.000I believe that the man should be the provider, the more experienced in his life when it comes to work, struggles, a lot of things, in order to be able to be helping the woman.
00:33:34.000Because the woman is more like, I don't know, girls could be very smart too, but guys should be the one who guides.
00:33:41.000The man should guide, the man should provide.
00:34:18.000Does it worry you that you're pursuing a PhD in psychology and most men are not going to reach that level of intelligence and or competence?
00:35:15.000But what I'm asking you, though, is like someone that's your master's degree candidate right now, and then you're going to obviously pursue your PhD.
00:35:23.000So you're gonna be in a like top 1% of educated individuals, so I would assume, you know, by that you're gonna be more intelligent than most people, right?
00:36:03.000But you do understand that like as you reach higher and higher levels of education, the man that meets your requirements as you get smarter and smarter and get more and more education dwindles more and more, right?
00:41:40.000If you're sitting here saying you want a provider, by definition, that means you're probably not going to fuck with a dude that does 50-50.
00:46:06.000Do you guys agree with that statement that marrying a girl that's 19 years old instead of marrying a 41 year old is better because he doesn't have the old baggage?
00:47:07.000But you did say earlier that you come from a culture where it's more conservative, the man is a leader, the provider, he's more competent, he understands things, so wouldn't it be good for him to be older so he can guide her like you described earlier?
00:48:13.000I feel like there's certain things that like, like if you're a minor and like before you turn 18 or whatever, like obviously people are gonna look at you, obviously guys are gonna look at you, but I feel like it's a little bit predatory if she's 19 because obviously that means that you were looking at her before she was 19.
00:49:32.000My point of bringing that up was, like, if he didn't meet her before 18, but, like, because he met her at 18, like, there's nothing I can really say.
00:51:33.000So you think that he's filling a void by getting with a girl that's younger than him because he's trying to like relive his youth is kind of what you were saying?
00:51:41.000I feel like a lot of older men do that.
00:53:03.000being married and being with a man that you love and saying damn i missed out on my youth but i have a man or not getting married hitting 35 years old being single oh okay oh okay you know what it is taylor's salty right now she wished when she was 19 18 some wife threw up no i mean she saw the chance man she's 24.
00:53:26.000she's right there she got some time left okay so so your biggest thing is like the common place of conversation Yeah.
00:53:47.000Like, I have friends who range from, I don't know, 18, and then I have friends that are, I don't know, in my company, I was homies with, like, the 60-year-olds.
00:55:40.000I said, does baggage matter as much negatively for men as it does for women, knowing that baggage can help a man versus baggage typically hurts women?
00:56:45.000So, just curious, because you guys agree with her, so for you four in particular, what if I said, you guys are dumb, broke, stupid, and young, and you want to fill a void by being with a man that's more competent,
00:57:17.000If I were to have a void, I'd do something about it in a healthier way.
00:57:20.000Dating a guy who would fill a void is not going to last.
00:57:24.000Yeah, but wouldn't it be fair to say that you have to date men to fill a void because men and women are different and we bring different things to the table?
00:59:04.000So, would you guys agree, right, that Because you said, oh, he's filling a void, blah, blah, blah, all this other stuff.
00:59:09.000I can make the argument, hey, you guys are filling a void because you guys are dumb, young, and want a man that makes more money than you so you're poor.
00:59:18.000Wouldn't that be ridiculous for me to say that?
00:59:26.000Because these are things that you biologically want.
00:59:28.000A man that's more competent than you, smarter than you, that could be a leader, a guy that makes more money than you as a provider, a guy that's older than you.
00:59:35.000These are things that you naturally look for.
00:59:37.000And we've interviewed like 3,000 girls and overwhelmingly this is what women look for.
01:00:44.000Let's demonize what you want as a woman and shame it and call you dumb and poor because you want a guy that's smarter and has more money than you.
01:00:54.000So I find it interesting when girls say, well, it's predatory that you want a younger woman than you that doesn't have baggage or whatever.
01:03:20.000And at the same time, because I don't like, I don't like with just whoever or like to experience, oh, I want to experience, I want to do that with a guy or whatever.
01:03:31.000No, I want to do that with a man I would love and give myself to that person, that one person.
01:03:39.000So you're saying and advocating like women should go out and have experiences and live life.
01:03:47.000But, like you yourself, you're a virgin, and I'm not stupid, and you're not stupid.
01:03:51.000Me and you both know that you're a virgin because you know that if you go and fuck a bunch of guys, it's gonna hurt your ability to find the man that you want, right?
01:06:20.000You're not having sex and you're preserving yourself, but what you're saying and advocating for is girls should go find themselves or whatever, and typically in America, when you say that, that means go fuck people.
01:06:32.000Maybe you didn't mean it that way, but what I'm saying is that when you advocate it like that, that's how most people are gonna interpret it.
01:06:39.000Let them interpret it that way, but for me- That's destructive advice!
01:06:43.000Because they're going to hurt themselves, but you're smart enough to not hurt yourself.
01:07:02.000I think women need masculine leadership.
01:07:04.000Because I think if you don't have masculine leadership, whether it's a father, a brother, or a strong boyfriend or husband, you're gonna lead yourself to make really bad mistakes that will fuck you up.
01:07:14.000Whether you be a whore, do drugs, drink a lot, whatever.
01:07:17.000The thing with women is like, when you guys get baggage...
01:07:20.000You kind of carry it with you for a long time, right?
01:07:24.000I'm sure all of you guys have that one girlfriend in your group that's a slut, that has all this drama, all this trauma, and she can't really find meaningful relationships with men.
01:07:59.000Maybe for me, in my experience, I've been raised well in my household.
01:08:04.000When you're talking about masculine leadership, whether it was a father, in my experience, I have a very good father who I was raised well.
01:09:06.000But in general, most men, especially when their value is higher, they're going to want a girl somewhere in their 20s.
01:09:12.000So, if you only had a certain amount of time to find a man, Wouldn't it make sense to get married as young as possible so that you can get the best guy?
01:12:50.000Like, your education means virtually nothing versus his status and competency matters a lot.
01:12:58.000Do you know how many girls are in Miami with no job, just on yachts, at parties, at events, at celebrities' houses, and they don't have anything going for themselves?
01:14:09.000So what I'm saying is if I took your brain, as smart as you might be, pursuing your PhD, and I put it in the body of a man, you would not have met the individuals that you met, is my point.
01:16:33.000But women use that as like, oh, well, I'm going to stave off marriage because I'm going to go pursue my education or I need to find myself, like she was saying or whatever.
01:16:44.000But I'm saying that's a waste of time.
01:16:46.000That's like me saying, oh, bro, I can't get married until I really get my Jordan collection up to par.
01:16:53.000It doesn't benefit me to increase my Jordan collection to be more attractive to women.
01:16:57.000So you guys kind of waste your time pursuing an education because all it does really is just make you less attractive or makes it harder for you to find that guy.
01:17:12.000Let's say I spent my 20s focusing on making sure my manicure was on point, always getting a haircut every three days, always wearing the best designer, buying a bunch of sneakers, always well dressed.
01:22:23.000I think it's actually beautiful that he got with a 19 year old because she's at her peak and he's at his peak.
01:22:27.000I think men don't reach their peak until they're in their mid 30s to 40s and then women hit their peak like at 18 pretty much and then from there it kind of goes down.
01:22:38.000But for men like we start low like at 18 we have no value.
01:26:27.000I have a true crime channel where I talk about serial killers and all that shit.
01:26:32.000She has somewhat of an interest in it, but she got even more interested in it to assist me, right?
01:26:36.000So I think in the course of your relationship, if the man is like has some shit going on or whatever, he's interesting or whatever, the woman's naturally gonna fall into that and then you guys will end up having hobbies together, right?
01:26:48.000But generally speaking, A super masculine guy and a super feminine woman are gonna be polar opposites.
01:26:55.000And then the woman, if she's feminine, she's gonna adopt some of those interests of her man.
01:26:59.000Like, what I've noticed a lot of times with girls, if they watch sports with their guy, they naturally become the fan of whatever sports team he likes.
01:27:04.000If he's a Phillies fan, now she's a Phillies fan.
01:27:19.000Like, no, she hangs out with girlfriends and talks about girl shit because I don't want to sit there and gossip and talk about that stupid shit all the time because men and women just have different interests.
01:32:30.000Because we're both on go, and, like, my, like, his lifestyle is very intense, my lifestyle is very intense, like, I just try to keep the peace a lot of times.
01:42:28.000I mean, I feel like the man could have more pride, but I feel like there's also situations where a woman would want to have more pride in a relationship than a man.
01:42:36.000Who do you think has more pride in general?
01:44:28.000And I will say, I think that man needs to have pride in a relationship because if a man has pride, he's not going to let a woman disrespect him.
01:45:36.000And then you go, you think you can do better, you actually end up doing worse, and then you take an L, because you hurt yourself in that process of, like, fucking that new guy.
01:45:44.000So then you try to go back to the old guy, and if he has half a brain, he's gonna be like, fuck you.
01:45:48.000And he'll never take you seriously ever again.
01:46:04.000And then he has that pride and he's not going to let that girl disrespect him.
01:46:07.000Which actually makes him more attractive.
01:46:09.000So I think if anything, the man needs to have the pride.
01:46:11.000I think at first like the girl should have a little bit of pride and the man not have a pride certain extent but then later down the road when they're getting to know each other um I think like the man should show a little bit well here's the thing she actually said something that was correct uh the woman needs to have pride because of her man I genuinely believe a woman's value is based on the caliber of man she could attract yep like I'll give an example if a woman is 35 years old and single not married I look at her as a failure Sorry.
01:46:42.000If I see a guy that's 35 years old, single, not married, he has a bunch of options.
01:46:46.000Women want to take his last name, not the other way around.
01:46:49.000Because, like, if you see a girl that's, like, 40 years old, 35 years old, she makes $200,000 a year, super successful, but she doesn't have a man, what do you think, Oprah?
01:57:44.000I think that, like, also, at the same time, like, I'm a person where it's, like, boundaries.
01:57:49.000Like, if you make me feel unsafe or, like, you violate one of my boundaries, then it's, like, it's gonna be harder for me to open up to you.
01:58:02.000Yeah, I feel like if you're, like, pushing back, then I'm gonna be, like, the fuck are you pushing back on my boundaries for?
01:58:07.000Give me an example of a, I'm a little confused how you would have a boundary So if he violates a boundary that has nothing to do with sex, you're not going to want to give it to him then?
01:58:26.000Because that's a very nebulous way of describing it.
01:58:28.000So me like I'm the type of person where like I grew up with a really big family So like it took a lot for me to like open up and come like out and like say my truth and like say what I need to say so like it gets to a point where like if somebody like Interrupts me or like just like if I'm trying to tell you how I feel and like I'm telling you genuinely how I feel and you just say fuck me I just shut down and I guess like there's better ways that I can handle it of course there's always better What if your feeling is like invalid?
01:58:53.000Because feelings are temporary and a lot of times they might not reflect reality.
01:58:56.000So I definitely agree with that but my thing is I'm a person that like I overthink things and I also think that like I'm a big person where like okay if something bothering me now let me go shower on it let me take an hour maybe 20 minutes to still think about it.
01:59:08.000If it's still bothering me obviously I'm gonna still bring it up because it's still bothering me.
01:59:12.000Yeah but wouldn't be fair to say that like if you're like you're emotional and you're erratic like that that your feelings matter even less No, because I feel like even if I feel like I'm gonna bug out, I can compose myself and calmly tell you that.
01:59:29.000So if I'm calmly telling you that and you're like, bitch, fuck you!
01:59:31.000I don't know what the fuck you guys say!
01:59:32.000Well, it's not that, but it's just like, it ain't that serious, chill out.
01:59:40.000Like, obviously, if I feel like it's not that serious, I'll just be like, fuck it, let me go take a shower.
01:59:44.000So you're communicating that it's an issue for you, and if it tunes you out, then it's...
01:59:48.000Yeah, it's like, if I sit here and let you talk shit about me and hear you out for mad long, and then I try to say something that you just don't necessarily agree with, and you turn around on me, and then you just be like...
02:00:00.000Then it's like, I'm going to shut down.
02:00:02.000And it's like, what was the point of me bringing it up to you?
02:00:04.000I honestly think that I'm the type of person where, like, I don't bring things up unless they truly bother me.
02:00:09.000So it's like, if I'm truly bothering, like, truly bothered by it, and I come to you and I expect this to be a safe space, and you turn around and you make me feel, like, fucking stupid, it's like...
02:00:23.000No, no, it makes sense, but I think you're putting a very strong precedence on your feelings, and, um, I mean, I get it, you're a female, but I think this is precisely why women should never be leaders.
02:01:32.000But sometimes the feeling could not be fleeting and I could be like, all right, now I've got to stand on business and stand on what I feel.
02:01:37.000And then you'll be homeless and no money.
02:01:40.000Just so I get this straight, your current man, if he says to you, listen, Troy, are you bugging?
02:01:52.000Because sometimes I really do be bugging.
02:01:54.000So it's like, I feel like if he tells me I'm bugging, then I know I'm bugging.
02:01:58.000Sometimes he's telling me I'm bugging and I know I'm not bugging.
02:02:00.000There's a very important part of the situation or something that I could bring up that he might be wrong about, but because he's the man, I'm going to just be like, you know what, you got that.
02:06:06.000I just find it interesting how men are always expected, the whole purpose of that exercise, I didn't mean to get a gotcha moment, but I love to do this with women.
02:06:16.000Men are always expected to adhere to their duty, but women don't have to adhere to theirs.
02:09:20.000This is why I think men shouldn't be monogamous to women because of this very reason that we're discussing now because a lot of girls will sit there and be like, no.
02:09:27.000And I think the only way that girls really respect you and will always give you sex and really want to fuck you and suck your dick with that certain type of, you know, veracity is when you have another girl.
02:11:37.000The reality is that most men, unfortunately, can't get the variety that they want, so they have to be monogamous.
02:11:42.000My girl's attractive, I'm not good looking enough, or I don't have enough money, or I don't have the balls to tell my girl, I want another woman.
02:12:30.000If a guy comes to talk to you, right, and he has women around him and he has females talking to him and shit like that, you're going to be like, okay, this guy's probably cool and attractive because he's not a weirdo.
02:14:11.000Please answer the question, because right now, the girls answer the question right now, and you're fucking not doing, like, if you're tired and old and shit, then fucking leave.
02:14:44.000I think the general consensus here is many to understand is like women reserve the right to feel like they don't want to do it and you just...
02:14:51.000It's on you to just get it from somewhere else if they do that shit.