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00:01:57.000Either A, he hasn't committed to you, but you want something more serious, or B, you don't know where he stands necessarily and if he's the best guy, so you're still betting options.
00:02:07.000It could be a combination of the two, but one of those two is going to be probably giving more.
00:02:13.000So in other words, either you like him more than he likes you, and he's not ready to commit, or he likes you more than you like him, and you're seeing other options.
00:04:40.000And then I also am a UGC creator, so I work with brands on TikTok and create ads for them.
00:04:45.000So you're the one that creates the content and then the ads go, excuse me, then the businesses buy it from you and go ahead and run it and pay for ads on social media.
00:08:56.000But it's just like, you know, once a man stops being a man to you, you do not have an obligation to stick around no matter how long y'all been together.
00:09:38.000I'm just asking because, like, in Jersey, if you're married, if you're, like, lived together for more than seven years and you're not married, you're considered married.
00:09:44.000Well, that's if it's a common law marriage.
00:09:46.000But, I mean, a lot of states don't practice that.
00:09:48.000And you don't have to necessarily file for a divorce with breaking up, even though they might look at it as a marriage.
00:09:53.000What if he thought that I was his wifey?
00:18:52.000So going outside, and when you say outside, namely nightclubs, establishments where alcohol is served.
00:18:57.000If you're a girl and you're dating my little brother and I see you at Booby Trap and my little brother is not with you, I will for sure be telling him.
00:19:56.000Like, If, in a period of your relationship, you were all about the person, like, wanting physical affection all the time, and then, after a while, you start getting distant, like, you don't want to kiss, like, you don't want to sleep together, you don't want to, you know...
00:20:22.000Would it be fair to say, I always have to say the quote, a woman can't serve two masters.
00:20:28.000Do you think that pretty much a telltale sign a girl doesn't like you anymore is that she's not being physically intimate with you anymore?
00:21:57.000What would you do if your brother came to you and said, hey, this girl that I'm seeing, we've been together for two years, I really love her, but she keeps mentioning this fucking guy at work all the time.
00:26:42.000Because they can be fugly and just post to OnlyFans and still get sad men on their line and they can make money and be an independent woman.
00:26:56.000And, yeah, I don't think you really have to bring much to the table other than having a pussy and some tits these days.
00:31:37.000And I think women, because I think women have a good way of manipulating men into getting what they want.
00:31:49.000And especially in big cities like this or New York, There is a lot of money around, and women are always going to be in clubs for free, drinking for free, at nice dinners for free.
00:32:17.000Women have such an easy way of making money.
00:32:20.000Predominantly, yes, men should be breadwinners.
00:32:24.000But I mean, with platforms like OnlyFans and if anyone's familiar with Fandom Twitter and things like that, girls are making six figures in a month for nothing.
00:33:47.000Do you think If you applied for a job with a man, both of you guys are equally competent, equal education, equal job experience, equal degree, all factors being equal, who do you think has a higher likelihood of getting that job?
00:34:58.000So, it's because many workplaces, whether it's corporate, law enforcement, maybe jobs that have been historically, masculinely dominated, they want diversity.
00:35:08.000So, since they want diversity, they look for clients, or excuse me, applicants, that can check as many boxes as possible so they can say that they have a diversified workplace.
00:35:23.000Going back to that scenario I gave you, if all things are equal between the two individuals, you have a higher likelihood of getting the job because you're a female and you're black, which checks two boxes for the business.
00:35:45.000Are you aware that many businesses and or government employers, etc., have specific diversity hiring announcements that are not open to Caucasian males?
00:35:55.000Do you know that many individuals that say on government jobs are mostly older men?
00:36:00.000Which is exactly why they have diversity hires to bring women on.
00:36:22.000But the thing is, is that when you get a leadership position, you typically earned it through merit.
00:36:26.000What I'm saying is that you get the opportunity.
00:36:28.000You're making an argument for equality of outcome.
00:36:31.000I'm making an argument for equality of opportunity.
00:36:34.000You get the opportunity if you were to compete with a man, but you might not necessarily get the same outcome because you have to still perform once you get the job.
00:36:41.000My argument is that you have a higher likelihood of getting the job.
00:36:48.000I mean, ladies, with all due respect, you're both incorrect.
00:36:52.000They've done studies on this and they found that if you are an African-American woman and you apply for a job and let's say there's a qualified applicant that has the same exact metrics as you and he's a white male, statistically speaking, you are far more likely to get the job.
00:37:30.000Okay, so how are you going to speak to the hiring practices of other businesses, corporations, and the government when you've never even been through an application process?
00:37:52.000From your experience, you're going to say that we have data shows it's the opposite.
00:37:57.000Are you aware of the fact that your personal experiences might not necessarily reflect reality?
00:38:03.000You've always been an entrepreneur, which means since you've always been an entrepreneur, you've been able to work for yourself and you didn't have to be subject to a company hiring you based off of your qualifications.
00:38:13.000But what I am telling you is that the government does this, corporations does this, etc.
00:38:17.000The same company that I'm speaking of.
00:38:19.000Everything I'm speaking of is from experience.
00:39:20.000Now, when you beat those people up for that job, there's a bunch of reasons why you might have done it.
00:39:24.000You might have been more qualified, might have had more education, might have had more experience, or...
00:39:29.000You could have met a prerequisite of race or gender that the company is looking for.
00:39:33.000I am saying, statistically speaking, if everything is equal, white male, black female, y'all apply for a job, you are ten times more likely to get the job over the white male, even if everything is equal because of affirmative action.
00:46:58.000There was a time where I had really bad skin, like full of acne, and I could see the difference between the way I was treated like with that versus without.
00:48:26.000He's saying, if you take a very attractive man, handsome man, top tier guy, maybe in the top 1% of looks, 6'3", whatever, maybe a Chad, model, in good physical shape, Tyrone, and a very attractive woman, was just a female version, who would have more, I guess,
00:48:42.000opportunities, thanks to pretty privilege?
00:49:26.000It depends on which opportunities they're building.
00:49:27.000But from an overall standpoint, if you took all things equal, extremely handsome man, extremely attractive woman, who benefits from that pretty privilege more?
00:49:34.000I think it's subjective because some girls that are really beautiful are really dumb.
00:52:46.000Okay, so I feel like I'm understanding both sides of this and I feel like the disconnect in the argument is that I feel like she's thinking more like Sorry, I feel like she's thinking more long-term of like a relationship.
00:52:56.000And I feel like he's just generalizingly speaking as like you go into the club and you take pretty women into the club.
00:53:02.000Men aren't really going to care if you're smart or not because their intention is to take you home, right?
00:53:07.000But I feel like where she's coming with her angle is more so like when we're thinking long-term in a relationship, marriage, etc.
00:53:52.000All right, let's go back to the original question.
00:53:54.000All right, so you're saying, going back to what I was saying here, so you think women have, well, you said it's, you think it goes both ways.
00:54:02.000A woman's pretty privilege is equivalent to a male's.
00:58:18.000Well, you should see critical thinking is the skill set to take your own perspective, measure it against how the world really works, and then coming to an answer based on how the world works, not what you've seen.
01:01:21.000Are women willing to give a majority of their income and resources to a man to the same extent that a man will give his income and resources to a woman?
01:01:37.000The reason I say yes is let's say like you want to invest in what he got going on but you know it's going to be like a million dollar business.
01:04:52.000Or, like, dumb shit, like, oh, I need an Uber, or oh, and I'm like, okay, because sometimes he would throw it in my face, like, oh, I'm giving you, you know, exposure.
01:05:01.000That's interesting, though, but she was still getting value.
01:08:22.000A rich man that is average looking, but confident and ambitious and a good personality, Or, a very attractive man who's a model, but dumb and no money.
01:10:27.000So you think a woman that's 30 years old, that makes a lot of money, has more pull than an 18-year-old that's hot?
01:10:36.000I mean, for everybody else who want to be married and with kids, yes, they do have more pull because they have the life that every 18-year-old doesn't have.
01:10:44.000So who has more pull, the younger girl that's hot or the older woman with money?
01:12:05.000But what I am saying is that her decisions have consequences.
01:12:08.000So if you prioritize money, income status, etc.
01:12:11.000as a woman, you might not necessarily be able to compete for the man that you want with a woman that's 18 years old and doesn't have as much baggage.
01:13:47.000Okay, but if you were more attractive back then, Would it be fair to say that your chances of finding a guy have kind of come down since you've aged and you're not as attractive?
01:13:58.000I mean, if you want to find a husband or a guy that's just going to sleep with you?
01:16:21.000Because I feel like the average woman these days could go to average to attend with enhancements and weave and makeup and filters and all that other stuff.
01:16:33.000She's going to be attracted to somebody.
01:16:35.000Alright, so we've got a video to play here.
01:16:39.000Mo, give the background on this thing real quick.
01:16:44.000Okay, well, thanks, Mo, for being useless.
01:16:46.000So the video, guys, here, we're going to be talking about pretty privilege with women, and this comes from George Janko talking about this.
01:16:56.000Let's go ahead and enlarge it on our side, Chris.
01:16:58.000We're going to run this clip and then get the ladies' reaction to this.
01:17:02.000So, Summer, I used to get paid $10,000 to go to clubs.
01:20:59.000But I mean, even in Miami, they'll pay Atmos Girls to Atmosphere model a few hundred dollars to go out.
01:21:05.000I mean, I've gotten a few hundred dollars to go places for the night.
01:21:12.000By places, I mean like Kiki or something.
01:21:15.000I don't want to clarify that I'm like an...
01:21:18.000But Summer Rae, I think her body is a 10.
01:21:22.000She has a really, really nice body, but her face, I mean, I've followed Summer Rae on platforms for years and I really think she's kind of on the average side.
01:21:28.000I mean, not that I'm perfect or something, but...
01:23:55.000I believe it's true just because I know who she is and her being at a club, guys are going to see that and be like, I want to go to the club and meet her.
01:24:02.000I want to see her just because of the fame she has behind her.
01:24:18.000Okay, so ladies, I have a question for you guys.
01:24:21.000Throughout this podcast, we've talked about pretty privilege, women having more opportunities than men in general.
01:24:27.000Oh, and real quick, just so you guys know, because you guys said that men and women have the same looks, whatever, just to let you guys know.
01:24:34.000There was a study done, and they took a very attractive Tinder profile, that's a man, and a morbidly obese, ugly girl on Tinder, right?
01:25:11.000So what I'm trying to explain here is that even though Tinder might be more male than female, which is true, but that's a staggering ratio.
01:25:20.000That's a staggering ratio for 80% men, right?
01:25:50.000When we talk about the obese women, the obese women, it's like a misconception that women, period, people that's bigger, they don't have self-confidence and they're desperate and they need it.
01:28:26.000Um, I don't think men and women use dating apps in the same intention.
01:28:29.000And I think that like lower ranked girls, uglier girls, more average are going to have more matches because men are on there ideally to hook up.
01:28:39.000And women, if they're looking at, and I always say this to my friends, like I don't like dating apps because like if I'm on a dating app, I am looking for looks.
01:28:46.000I don't know anything about your personality.
01:28:48.000I don't know what you do, like whatever.
01:28:50.000But if I'm in person and I can catch someone's like energy and vibe right away, If you're average but I like your energy and I get to know more about you then I'm probably interested and I'm going to become attracted to you because I like your personality.
01:29:10.000The guy isn't even going to get a chance a lot of the times.
01:29:13.000Let's say you meet a guy and he only wanted sex from you, but you're able to get on a date and show redeeming qualities where, damn, okay, this girl ain't some annoying ass bitch.
01:32:09.000So we've established, right, that pretty much women have an overwhelming advantage when it comes to pretty privilege in almost all realms, right?
01:32:17.000Whether it's opportunities, whatever it may be.
01:34:07.000I have all of the, like, big influencers, and I ignored it because of him.
01:34:11.000I feel like, at the end of the day, it's controlling.
01:34:16.000And if you don't want to be with that girl because she's getting all this attention, because she's a body, because she's this, then don't be with her.
01:35:33.000Okay, he doesn't like that you were there, you know, replying to these messages, but now help him understand what you have going on and give him some sense of trust, you know?
01:35:45.000Because a man, okay, I'm young, too, but you're younger.
01:35:50.000And I don't know, you know, if you're still living with mom and dad, if you have your own place, or how far you got with that man.
01:35:56.000But when a man is providing for you, and when you live under a man's roof, he has some sense of control.
01:36:03.000When he's providing for you, I saw you shake your head.
01:37:10.000Because women love to say men are insecure when they put boundaries on women.
01:37:13.000But I argue that when a man puts a boundary on you, he's very secure because he's telling you what he really likes and doesn't like at the cost of possibly losing you.
01:37:22.000He's actually insecure if he doesn't say anything because he's not secure where the relationship is and he's scared to lose you.
01:37:29.000You have a point, but it's also secure that he won't let you wear whatever you want, that he won't let you go out with your friends, that he's scared of you, like, cheating.
01:39:00.000So I would argue that your boyfriend, number one, was very secure because he told you the truth.
01:39:04.000And then number two, when you advertise yourself a certain way, put a for sale sign on your neck, which unfortunately is what social media is, Then sometimes you got to deal with the consequences.
01:39:12.000No guy wants to pay full price for a car with a for sale sign on it.
01:39:16.000And because of your profession, you have to be extra, I want to say, explaining to your boyfriend.
01:39:22.000Because once again, you understand your career?
01:39:36.000You took care of him and you paid all the bills.
01:39:38.000Yeah, so so I can I can see Where that comes from which is why we actually tell guys on this podcast You need to make more money than your girl have to like you have to be You know if you're gonna have boundaries and you know control her sexuality like that to be the leader You need to be the fucking leader.
01:39:51.000So his problem is that he didn't have the leadership skills But at the same time women need to understand that when you advertise yourself a certain way on the internet or put out a certain image of A guy that's with you is going to lose respect for you and he's going to want you to change.
01:40:06.000So, I mean, it's up to girls how they want to move with that.
01:40:08.000But social media, right, to a degree, can be construed as cheating.
01:40:44.000You said if the real If the roles were reversed, you wouldn't like it.
01:40:49.000So when you're in a relationship with somebody, the same way I have things that I don't like, he's going to have things that he doesn't like.
01:40:56.000And you're both entitled to walk away whenever you want, no matter who's financially providing.
01:41:02.000You know what you're not entitled to do?
01:41:04.000Change yourself when you get into a relationship.
01:41:20.000If she was working as an OnlyFans model before her relationship and he got with her knowing that she was the OnlyFans model, how dare he tell her to stop that once he fall in love?
01:41:30.000How dare you save a quarter million dollars, buy the G-Wagon, bring it to your house, think that it's yours, then the salesman tell you you gotta put a for sale sign on it.
01:41:38.000How dare he go with her when he knew she was doing OnlyFans?
01:41:41.000What did I just say a second ago with the Mercedes?
01:43:13.000And it's disrespectful to you as the man purchasing the vehicle for the seller to come and tell you, oh, we're going to put a for sale sign on it after you spent all your money and time to purchase it.
01:43:22.000We were talking about already having the for sale sign.
01:43:55.000But for the men who do get a sexual model.
01:43:57.000Most guys don't want that, which is why anytime a guy gets with a dancer or stripper, OnlyFans girl, whatever, that tough conversation always comes.
01:44:17.000See, I'm just giving the other side, and all of you would have an issue with driving around a vehicle that had it for sale sign, but then when I say, yo, if you meet a guy you need to change for that man, it's a problem.
01:45:16.000You're telling me that you would give up all of that and that life and that love and that connection because you want to keep making $5,000 to $20,000 a month.
01:45:28.000On a platform that's not gonna last forever.
01:48:30.000I feel like if you're secure within your relationship, then you don't have to worry about what if they leave me and I have to be independent.
01:48:35.000Yeah, I mean, yeah, of course, you got to be secure in your relationship.
01:48:37.000What I'm saying is that women have this crazy fear that men are going to leave them a lot of times.
01:48:41.000And what I'm saying is that that's just not common.
01:48:43.000How many times has a guy broken up with you in your lifetime?
01:48:46.000They don't necessarily leave me, but they do cheat to the point where we need to be broken.
01:51:51.000It's disrespectful for the man to know that I have an OnlyFans, but it's not disrespectful for me to know that he cheated on me, potentially.
01:54:28.000I think it's just like a programming too.
01:54:30.000I think when women say, modern women say that they don't want a man to lead, I think that they're just, I'm sorry, it's nothing personal, but, you know, as a woman in an American modern society, we are programmed to an extent.
01:55:17.000So, if a man could take care of you and you could just...
01:55:20.000He can lead and I bring money to the table, but no.
01:55:22.000So, you want to go out in the world and fight demons for money when your man is saying, I will take care of you, you just stay at home, cater to me, cater to the children, cater to the house and the food?
01:56:28.000You're welcome to your decisions and what you want to make in life.
01:56:31.000What I'm saying is that are you okay with the consequence that as you become more successful, as you continue to age and get into your 30s, your chances of finding a man are going to come down.
01:59:14.000If he don't want to quit me for what I'm doing in my particular life, then I feel as though he's insecure and he should get it with a woman that he can tolerate.
01:59:23.000Well, that's an incorrect feeling to feel like he's insecure.
02:00:36.000Now, I wouldn't take care of a man, but if a man shows me, you know, certain aspects of a real relationship, then perhaps I would be willing to delete my OnlyFans.
02:02:25.000Why are you more willing to bend at the whim for a school district that doesn't really give a fuck about you, but you won't do it for a man that will take care of you and serve you as a man?
02:02:35.000Because you have an issue with authority when it comes from a man, but you don't have an issue with authority when it comes from your establishment that you work for.
02:03:47.000You never complained about pretty privilege because it benefits you.
02:03:49.000But now that we're talking about adhering to certain codes and regulations, it's not fair all of a sudden.
02:03:54.000Are we willing to take accountability for like our family dynamics and like our father wounds and mother wounds that may perpetuate like So it's not fair.
02:04:14.000My daddy was a strong figure in my life.
02:04:17.000But going back, again, I'm asking you, why are you okay with following the norms and the rules and the regulations from the school district, but you won't do it from a man?
02:04:31.000I'm gonna say I get paid from the school.
02:04:33.000I get a paycheck every single, you know, every two weeks.
02:04:35.000That's fine, but it's not secured to the point where you're gonna get a family, you're gonna get the security, you're gonna get the provisioning.
02:05:03.000When you meet a man, especially an attractive man, it's like working for a company.
02:05:06.000Guys that are higher status, higher value, have requirements of their woman.
02:05:10.000If you want to work at a prestigious law firm or at a prestigious school, you have to apply with all the other applicants that want to get that job.
02:05:17.000I don't know why women think that they shouldn't have to change or adhere to a man's programming, but you guys will gladly do that for a job and do everything else required for that job.
02:05:26.000You'll submit to a business, but you won't submit to your man.
02:06:11.000Yes, the question was before, given all the opportunities that women have nowadays, we're pretty privileged, which we went over in excruciating detail, money, the ability to get certain opportunities, all this other crap, because you're a female, should men...
02:06:25.000Protect their women from all those opportunities to limit risk in their relationship.
02:07:13.000Before we continue on with this question, was there anything else anyone wanted to say about submission to a business versus a man or anything else like that?
02:07:49.000So given all the opportunities that women have in today's day and age, we're pretty privileged, etc.
02:07:52.000Should men put boundaries on their girls to protect them from all these opportunities that could hurt their relationship?
02:07:56.000I think that if the man is the leader in the relationship, they're financially supporting the woman, then I think out of respect, I would do those things.
02:08:08.000And I guess it's kind of dependent on how you guys view your relationship.
02:08:12.000I mean, maybe some men are okay with their girl going out all the time, but I feel like for me, even if my man was okay with it, I wouldn't even want to be in that environment if I had someone I was at home with all the time.
02:08:25.000Would you agree with 90% of men don't like their girl going out to the club.
02:08:29.000It's just that they don't want to say it because they're scared of some type of fight breaking out?
02:09:12.000I'm talking like, even if we're 50-50, or if we're 100, I feel like you're already putting some kind of investment into our relationship, so that should give you some kind of leeway.
02:09:25.000If it's 50-50, I kind of want 50-50 Control per se, but if now you're paying 100% of my rent, if you're feeding me, if you're housing me, if we have children, you're taking care of our children, then sure, yeah, I'll give you that.
02:10:55.000Given the amounts of pretty privilege that women have now, do men need to put constraints on a relationship to protect their girl from society and all the advantages they have?
02:12:29.000Okay, I want you to understand my point.
02:12:31.000Do you see how it was more attractive when you just knocked the guy out for doing that to you?
02:12:35.000But in your example, you're saying you want him to tell you to not put yourself in situations when in reality it would just be more attractive if you did it on your own.
02:14:11.000That it's understandable if they do, but I don't think that they should just put boundaries like, hey, you need to stop doing this, you know, whatever.
02:14:18.000Like, especially if I was already doing OnlyFans.
02:14:19.000He comes into my life, he tells me to stop doing OnlyFans.
02:16:04.000What's different than a man getting with a girl that is involved in something that might not be as attractive and hoping that she has potential to take it off?
02:17:15.000Are you aware of the fact that reality is sexist?
02:17:19.000So then why would you make an argument that it's sexist when you benefit from sexism?
02:17:24.000So, because I benefit from sexism, I can't feel as though the man should get his ass up occasionally and clean the house, which he pays for.
02:17:32.000Or else, if I wasn't in the picture and he was paying for his own home, he would just live in filth?
02:20:50.000Well, then I kind of missed the argument because, no, if I had a guy that was going to provide everything for me and not hold it over my head, at least, I feel like that's where all of us kind of start butting heads about it is she's worried about control.
02:21:06.000Like, I don't want a guy to have to hold things over my head when it comes to money, and I don't have to worry about that doing OnlyFans, but I would be willing to stop all of it for a loving family and to be taken care of.
02:21:21.000With all the privilege that women have nowadays with pretty privilege, should men put constraints on females opportunities when in a relationship to mitigate risk?
02:23:42.000I think the woman should not have to be told.
02:23:45.000And what I was getting to was, in my recent situationships, I have done things like share my location and without them asking and that's just who I've grown into as a woman.
02:24:01.000That's not who I was five years ago, but who I am now as a matured woman.
02:24:05.000I have a deep desire to submit deeply and Stop the cap!
02:24:43.000I get it that you want to be submissive and it seems to me like you had a turning point in your life and you realized the things that you were doing before.
02:25:03.000Okay, but if you were very masculine before, it's going to be very difficult for you to go and be submissive now when you've been very hardened from your experiences.
02:27:20.000You're fairly masculine, and I can see that you're trying to change, but those masculine tendencies come out a lot, and I've noticed it from the conversation.
02:27:35.000I have to get you in your place multiple times, which, to be honest with you, you guys don't want to do.
02:27:39.000This is why men typically prefer younger girls that haven't had experiences because they're going to just be more naturally feminine because it's just natural.
02:27:47.000They haven't dealt with hard things and have baggage and have to suppress that part of their brain because they haven't dealt with it.
02:27:52.000When a girl does deal with it, she has to kind of figure out when to turn it on and off and it might just come out at times when it might not be opportune.
02:28:58.000You want to take a poll with the chat?
02:28:59.000I would say it's fairly objective at this point that you have masculine tendencies.
02:29:02.000The internet and having a two-hour conversation that's argumentative and back and forth when people are drinking in a hostile environment that you literally create a podcast to go back and forth and argue.
02:29:43.000The way a woman speaks about her man when he's not in the room tells you everything about that man.
02:29:47.000When a girl's with a dude that she loves, admires and respects and she really likes, she'll basically say, I'm not available or I'm talking to someone.
02:29:54.000But when a girl says that she's single, what she's doing is she's keeping the door open for a higher quality male to insert himself.
02:30:00.000But could it also be somewhere where like, okay, you guys have sat down and established like, hey, like we're not together, but you know, we're going to work it out and see if somewhere along the line.
02:30:13.000I already addressed that at the beginning of the show when I asked her about her status.
02:30:16.000I said, there's one of two things when a girl says it's complicated or whatever.
02:30:19.000It's either A, the girl doesn't like the guy as much and she's still vetting options, or B, the dude doesn't like her that much and he doesn't want to commit, so she doesn't know where to stand.
02:30:26.000So that's why she's saying I'm sort of single.
02:30:43.000It's going to hurt your profession to say you have a man.
02:30:45.000Which is why guys typically don't like to commit to sex workers because their business is contingent upon them appearing single, unfortunately.
02:30:53.000Whether it's Instagram modeling, strippers, OnlyFans, etc.
02:30:56.000Your business is contingent upon selling purity and being single.
02:31:16.000Yeah, he had to be involved when I was with him.
02:31:18.000Well, that's an exception to the rule because he's actively involved in the content creation versus you had it just by yourself and it's only you running it.
02:34:01.000The Rational Mail, Rola Somasi, says, What's disrespectful is that dropping OnlyFans for a high-value man without ever being asked by that guy isn't even out of thought to any of these girls.
02:35:39.000She said, if you're an adult, then all I can do is voice my opinion, tell you I don't like it, and if you continue to do it, you're an adult.
02:37:23.000Does a woman working in sex work and or monetizing their beauty, whether it's modeling, dressing provocatively, whatever on the internet, hurt her ability to find a husband in the future?
02:39:08.000I think, I mean, guys, I can't speak for all men, but I would think that they would want, like, Their woman to be more private than doing sex work.
02:41:21.000So I want to be fair to say that they're asking I need your phone password to compensate for the fact that you're going there, which was my point that they don't like you being at the bar.
02:42:30.000Do you think maybe he just didn't want to invest once he found out what your job was?
02:42:35.000No, he's just young and just, I just, I don't want to put his business out there, but yeah, he was just in a situation where he was still living with mom and dad and he's 24, 25.
02:43:02.000Like, you know how there's normal influencers on Instagram that they're fashion, they're showing clothes and makeup, like they're not in skimpy outfits and showing off.
02:43:10.000Would that also fit into that category with what you're clarifying?
02:43:14.000I would say that's an exception to the rule.
02:43:17.000Most of the women that make big money absolutely monetize their sexuality.
02:43:21.000But I know some influencers that they've built like a female following, you know what I'm saying?
02:44:43.000So it's because the money, you want to make the same amount of money.
02:44:47.000I don't feel comfortable working a 9 to 5 because I would not receive the same financial, whatever you want to call it.
02:44:55.000Would you take a temporary pay cut to earn less money but increase your ability to have better prospective men that will take you seriously?
02:45:02.000I don't want to sound dumb but say that in layman's terms.
02:45:05.000Would you be willing to make less so you can find a man that will make more and take care of you?
02:48:04.000And the scary part is if you do find him, right, given your background and stuff like that, what's the chances he would take you seriously when he can find another girl to take seriously that doesn't have that background?
02:48:31.000In the rest of the world, the people aren't going to even have the ability to make that kind of money, so we only have to go to the United States and first world countries.
02:52:05.000But I'm just saying, like, I'm just trying to give you guys, like, the reality of, like, what you want, given what you're offering, doesn't match up.
02:52:42.000To those who believe OnlyFans is okay, how would you feel if your daughter was doing that?
02:52:46.000How sad that the young beautiful girls are actually, wait, hold on, are actually based and willing to listen, but the older single ladies whose eggs are more than half evaporated can't accept reality.
02:54:29.000Ladies, if your son comes home crying to you because everyone at his school has seen your OnlyFans getting your cheeks clapped, what's your next move?
02:56:01.000You know, I'm a God-fearing woman and I I don't know I feel like I have like a very specific spiritual hygiene and you know if I don't match with me I love that word yeah I you know it's it's hard to explain to men because they're all about can you define what a spiritual hygiene is absolutely well it's hard explaining myself to you guys because you guys are men that are logical but women were led by the unseen and I'm very spiritual and
02:56:32.000I If you don't pray, if you don't believe in God, if you don't put God first, and I'm talking about Yahweh, Yeshua HaMashiach, Jesus Christ, not all these other gods.
02:58:20.000I think every day is a ceremony and the world is my altar.
02:58:25.000The way that I think, the way that I consume on the internet, the way that I eat and drink, the water that I drink, everything is very intentional.
03:02:18.000Do you think a man that worked his ass off to make a bunch of money, become successful, have status, etc., is going to have sex with one girl?
03:02:26.000So you guys can have sex before marriage, but we can't?
03:02:29.000Well, I'm not saying what can and can't be done.
03:02:31.000I'm not saying that because I'm not claiming to be religious.
03:02:34.000I'm just speaking from a straight biology standpoint that women, I mean, men are not designed to be monogamous versus women are to a more significant degree.
03:03:38.000Okay, when a guy's in a section at the club, right, and I like to use the club because it's one of the most primitive ways to look at human beings in their natural setting in modern day society.
03:04:41.000I feel like any woman looking for a husband to settle down and have children should have those kinds of standards.
03:04:47.000I'm not looking to do that anytime soon, by the way.
03:04:50.000I didn't say I wanted to, but if the day I do look for a husband and for somebody to have children with, yeah, I have those standards.
03:04:56.000Realistically speaking though, you're saying every woman should choose that, but does every woman qualify for a guy that makes that kind of money?
03:06:16.000That's why a lot of guys go other places.
03:06:19.000I mean, can't turn a hoe into a housewife.
03:06:21.000Yeah, I mean, guys would prefer that the odometer was on zero or close to it versus it's been refurbished and the odometer's on 100k, but it looks new.
03:06:29.000And also understanding, I feel like this has been said a lot, just because some of us have sex work, some of us have OnlyFans or strippers, that does not mean we belong to the streets.
03:08:43.000Because you're saying, well, that doesn't mean I'm always fucking, but I'm saying people are always going to assume they can't change that.
03:13:11.000But if I want to actually be with that man, I want that man so bad, and I want him to be by my side and not that girl's side, then I can bring him loyalty, commitment, respect.
03:13:23.000But wouldn't it be fair to say that's a requirement of any guy?
03:16:31.000Are the women on the panel aware that if they do not adhere to the boundaries that mentally sound men want, the chances of them not having a family and further pushing this false matriarchal mindset to the good women who are programmed by a mainstream is very high.
03:16:48.000I think girls are going to continue to do what benefits them and unfortunately that doesn't mean a family sometimes.
03:19:57.000If you saw them from afar, how would you feel?
03:20:02.000Look, because the thing is, it's confusing because with men, we're able to say, yo, we only care about looks so men are able to rate women based on looks.
03:20:08.000But women use a bunch of different shit.
03:20:10.000Money, income, confidence, ambition, all this bullshit.
03:22:57.000And then I'll probably give you like a 5 on the personality because I like a smart guy but not like I'm the smartest in the room type of guy.
03:32:40.000Ever since I started listening to, like, this thing, this is when I started picking up cues of, like, I wanted a high-value man forever, but, like, I realize now what they want from listening to this kind of stuff and, like, entertain.
03:32:54.000And I feel like women will take little clips you see on the internet, and then you'll judge and be like, oh, that's anti, like, I'm just crap, whatever.
03:33:04.000But I feel like when you actually sit and listen to the whole episode, like, Hours of and listen to the whole discussion, then you actually understand the point of views and sides where you guys are coming from.
03:33:15.000Prior to listening to our podcast or listening to Andrew or whatever it may be, did you like have zero clue of what higher status men wanted back from their girl?
03:33:59.000They don't want to hear you complain all the time.
03:34:02.000Like, I feel like now I've kind of realized like men want women to be their piece, especially if you're like successful, high value, and you deal with a lot of stress on a day to day, especially in business and things like that.
03:34:11.000Like, so when, you know, they have time to talk with you at the end of the day, they don't have time to text back and forth and answer a million FaceTimes and phone calls.
03:34:20.000And they're not just sitting around, you know, they have things to do.
03:34:23.000So when they finally do get that moment to talk to you, they don't want to hear 8 million complaints about how terrible your life is and how terrible your day was and how this went wrong and stupid shit that doesn't matter and hear you complain and complain and complain because it's more stress.
03:35:01.000I love the range of emotion and I enjoy the constructive criticism, even if I have a wrestling bitch face and I come off like a fucking asshole.
03:35:09.000You know, once you get to know me, I'm the sweetest, most lovable, most giving person.
03:35:16.000It's one of my, you know, personal traits and qualities that can't be bought.
03:35:23.000And I know, you know, first impressions are not my forte.
03:35:26.000And I'm willing to take accountability, but I appreciate you guys having me on.