Why Girls Like Black Guys w- Cousin Jay
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Summary
In this episode of Fresh Start, Cousin Jay joins the BBB Gang to talk about the BBL, dating in college, and how to get laid in your 20's and 30's. We also talk about how to find a girl.
Transcript
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Guys, welcome back to episode 4 of Fresh Start with Cousin Jay.
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So listen, I know who Cousin J is from Nelk, doing the videos, having people laugh with the Riz, but they may not know who you are.
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I'm soon going to be streaming, such as yourself, and I like to skate.
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So listen, I've known Cousin Jay for quite some time, man.
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I met him with Salim, Nutboys, but he's always in the mix, having fun, getting lit.
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I don't know what it is, but they just love you, bro.
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But, guys, today's episode is sponsored by none other than White Carrot.
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It's a great company here in Florida and as well, Canada.
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They have the best jewelry in town, hands down.
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My ring, my bracelet, and my chain is from White Carrot.
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But, guys, without further ado, we're back on the channel.
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But we need to figure out something with dating bro.
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Remember we did an episode with your boy and he needed to find a girl?
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So we need to figure out what's going on here because obviously we have it a little bit easier.
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That's what caused the chaos, the obstruction for us.
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The girls, that's what's making it hard for us.
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I know, bro, but let's say my brothers are white or they're Asian, bro.
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We give out our confidence, but we need to include them in the Riz, bro.
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Because, dude, you be getting all the sauce, bro.
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And I'm like, yo, Jay's be killing this shit, bro.
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But, Jay, whatever you're doing is working, bro.
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I actually met him like maybe five minutes away because I got an Airbnb over here.
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And we were just like thinking of ideas of what to do for my channel.
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I don't know if they can see him on the screen.
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Yeah, but we're going to show the screen right now.
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But, like, man, like, what you do is, like, really inspiring.
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Because I'm doing, like, a dating series on my channel where I'm trying to help people find love.
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I feel like I've been close to it, but not fully.
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You have to focus on Happy Dad's doing really well.
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You have to prioritize the certain things that you're doing in life, you know?
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Alright, so we're gonna play the video real quick, guys.
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This is like the intro part of it where he does ladies' skits.
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Okay, let's explain this to them real quick, what this is.
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You pretty much go up to a girl and you say, if I wasn't gay...
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And I pretty much said exactly what he said to her.
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And it seemed like she was actually interested.
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I feel like girls like when you just don't care.
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No, that's AI. That's, like, not actually a camera.
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I didn't know they had the hus in here like that.
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My videographer, my manager, and then that's just like somebody who's a to be.
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So, obviously, I've seen way better chicks than this.
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But the confidence you had to walk up to chicks, how do you gain that, bro?
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You know, when I graduated high school, that's when I lost a lot of confidence because now we're stepping into the real world, you know.
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It's just fucking different, you know, going from high school to reality, high school to college.
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For a lot of people out there, I feel like, because I was a man, you know.
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I developed the confidence from just constantly...
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I was watching dating videos on YouTube and dumb shit.
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Every time after we would film videos, after we filmed pranks, I would try to go up to two or three girls.
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And sometimes it would take me hours to just say hi to a girl.
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Like, I don't know what it was when I graduated.
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Is that why you guys walked into Sephora right now?
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No, we walked here so we can get some smell good from my friend Chase, who's crippled.
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And I'm actually trying to find him the love of his life.
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Emily with an E. I'm going to call her right now to see if it's fake.
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I'm feeling like I look good, but I think I look a little better.
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He honestly told me in the elevator that he was having a hard time trying to get with girls since he's been disabled.
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What was going through your head when you saw me, bro?
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But it's always good vibes when I see you, bro.
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He enjoys life, has fun with the girls, and it's just, like, a good vibe, you know?
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I had a little car accident, but, you know, getting better every single day.
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Because you look like you need some damage control.
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Okay, I'm getting controlled, but I can, you know...
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Because you look like you need some damage control.
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Okay, I'm getting controlled, but I cannot I can, you know, I can get in there.
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Do you like old shit or do you like middle-aged shit?
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Wait, so you're saying go to a girl and say find shit and give her your phone?
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A to B. Some people are A to Z. Some people are A to B. Get shit done.
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Listen, he's single right now, looking for a wife, and who wants to actually take care of and be with him.
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Well, how do you know it if you've never tried?
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This guy can barely walk, but he can definitely shoot a shot.
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I feel like she was going to go for it, but she...
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If it wasn't cameras, is that what you're saying?
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So, she might have went for it in a different way, but this is kind of like a bit too interface to the camera.
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But if my shorty was like this, I'd be like, yo, shorty, just cut that shit and walk away.
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Oh, you're saying once you make them laugh and giggle, you can make...
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If Chase made your girl wiggle, how are you feeling?
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Well, first of all, any girl that I smash that Chase wants to smash, we're not in the same realm, bro.
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I'm just saying, like, you know what I'm saying?
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We got DominicanUD says, yo, this is Kaz, taking notes.
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Listen, guys, it's an action and skill you've got to master.
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But now he does videos talking to girls in real time for you guys on camera, on YouTube, by the way.
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So you got to go out there, talk to girls, talk to people, and as well, try.
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Let's continue Don't let the cripple in this morning No, no, no Sorry to disappoint you, but I believe in this, look Looking back at like 10 years, you're going to be like, oh my god Love of my life I already have the right guy Ah, okay I like that, good shit I'll tell you that Amazing She's loyal, she's loyal We got to get you a Brazilian, go to Brazil There's a lot of girls in Brazil and they are off
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Fun fact, the book goes from Brazil they are For everybody.
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So girls in Brazil, my buddy obviously has been there for quite some time.
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They don't hold back because they want to have sex.
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So in that sense, I would say to find a little Brazilian girl may not be the easiest thing to do.
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You got more experience than I do in this dating room, so I trust your word.
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I know, but still, you know, you're still doing the actions that help you become better, you know?
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If Chase wasn't crippled, do you think he could pull easier?
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If he wasn't crippled, I think it almost might be an advantage that he is crippled.
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I don't look at it as a disadvantage because, like, I feel like everybody has that one superpower and his cane is his superpower.
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Listen, I gotta go, because I gotta run some numbers myself.
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So listen, Jay, I've been very close to watching you guys blow up from day one at NELC. You're doing everything with Salim.
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And then what's the key in plan from here on out with YouTube and content creation?
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Every week on YouTube, we're posting every Sunday for the rest of this year.
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I haven't figured out the name of it, but once I do, you guys will see it on my channel.
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Pretty much like at the start of the video, when I introduce the guest, it's going to have like that little pop-up, little animation.
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I thought we were doing a show called For the Love of Fresh.
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So let's say, for example, dating itself nowadays at your age.
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Is it about, like, you being, like, that guy that's known in campus?
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Like, what do you think is the best way to get girls nowadays at your age, 24?
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Honestly, in this reaction, that's contradicting to what I'm saying, but in general...
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Like the reaction before this with the girl inside Sephora.
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I don't really go up to girls and tell them who I am.
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But just for the plot in that one, I was like, okay, let me do it.
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Just because I don't really want to date a girl who's in the same room as I am.
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The girl who I actually date, I would not want it on the internet.
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Guys, you've seen us have girls on the internet and it's definitely not been the best.
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They try to hide that shit from you when you're young.
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I'm sure a couple years ago it wasn't that way.
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Either way, though, I think that right now we got a chance to change a game.
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I just think that, like, right now, they need help.
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Listen, I think Instagram is one of the best ways you can talk to people nowadays.
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Having a good profile, good content, good pictures, and, of course, having the right setup so when you see a dimmer girl, she wants to respond to you.
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And in between, yeah, you have your fair share.
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But, like, Just because girls be screenshotting shit.
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I've realized with creators especially, or someone that has clout, if you just say anything, you could put an emoji.
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Well, that too, but they'll respond to you for the most part.
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So that's why I think guys should create a profile for themselves that is definitely them, but obviously have some following, have some status, and then go ahead and send a DM. Because if you send a DM randomly, you got pictures in the bathroom selfie.
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I feel like, I mean, if you're a social media influencer too, it would probably be way easier to get a response to.
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But then, you still got to understand how to get that from Instagram.
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Because I think that path itself is hard to do sometimes.
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And at the same time, that's like screening you before we go on a date.
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Because what's about going on a date if you're not actually getting, for example, the months?
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Dominant sense that she's actually going to play into it and be a part of your mission.
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So do you think before you go on a date, you're able to tell whether she's type with it or not?
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What are some signs that would show you that a girl is with it?
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So the thing is with this FaceTime call, you've got to ask questions to qualify her, right?
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Because she might be like, I'll give you my phone number, but I'm not into it like that.
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All it is is her response, your questions, and how she's, like, giving you answers.
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So, for example, I can ask her, listen, I think you're pretty cute.
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I'm taking you out on Wednesday when you're free.
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I'll pick you up at 8. She can say, for example, oh, I don't know.
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So I know off rip her response is telling me she's ready.
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So FaceTime is like you're locked in for 10 minutes, 50 minutes max.
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For example, I'll say, hey, when are you free for a FaceTime call?
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After I meet her in person, I might text her, say, hey, it's cousin, or hey, you know what I mean?
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And then, next day or two, like, whenever I'll remember, I'll hit her up.
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I'll just randomly FaceTime, whether I text her or not.
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I will say that that works, too, because, like, they're like, who is this calling me?
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And they'll pick up the phone for FaceTime most of the time.
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But, you can have it where, like, you just set it up where, are you free this time?
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I feel like you're really good at communicating.
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Even with me developing my own team, my channel, it's hard for me to communicate because I like to keep shit to myself.
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But being around extroverts such as yourself, I mean, would you consider yourself an extrovert?
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Is that, like, I understand what I have to do to make things happen.
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Like, for example, going to D.C. for inauguration.
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I didn't want to go there, but I had to because I know for the team, I gotta make sure I connect to people.
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I see what's happening in the future with social media, what's happening with the current rules and regulations.
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And it's like, yo, now I know what's happening for the future, I can move accordingly to make things happen.
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So, I think for me, I'm not really an extrovert.
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And I feel like as you get older, you start to realize that.
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And I'm realizing you just got to get shit done.
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I could stay home, play my game, just watch a movie, and just, like, chill with my dog.
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But having to go outside and meet people and, like, make connections, that's, like, a whole process in itself.
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And it's like, oh, you make it look easy, but it's not easy.
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It's like putting your reps in, like, how you do.
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We're going to talk to new people to try to do business.
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Like, for example, you can talk to girls now because you've been through the reps and the skills of talking to girls.
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If you're going to have a lot of status and get girls, what about the average guy?
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And is it better to travel abroad or be in America?
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I feel like you're appreciated where you're not known, just in general.
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I feel like stepping out of your hometown, it's eye-opening, and then it challenges you to speak to different people and go on with a different mindset wherever you're from.
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Yeah, but being a normal guy, I still look at myself as a normal person, which I still am.
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I have, like, an audience of people that watch me, but if I were to take that away, start from scratch, I mean, I would hang around extroverts, people that talk more than I do.
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When you first started your career, you know, how'd you get involved, make it content, and getting to milk itself?
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So, 2017, I came up with the idea of filming content.
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But first, before that, I would paint canvases, murals, acrylic, like, all different types of art.
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And I was posting that on my Instagram, Cousin J Online.
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Like, that's where there's an archive of, like, all of my old shit.
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I archived a lot of it because, like, yeah, I'm an introvert with the art.
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And so, like, you know, being an artist, I'm weird.
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Time goes by, I keep doing that, and I bump into Slim, and he's not doing videos, but he kind of tried to roast me, and he said I look like Kodak, like I mentioned before.
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I'm not going to host you, but you kind of do, actually.
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And I was pretty much like, get the fuck out of my face.
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He doesn't post that much, how he used to, but...
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That's what he would do on the videos that we filmed.
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And so, like, I was like, we should move to L.A. Like, if shit starts popping off, and just go full throttle.
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And that's why we're speaking to each other today.
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He expedited his process with graduating because I was like...
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We need to get out of here ASAP. Either you dropping out or we're moving straight.
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I mean, or you're going to, like, take, like, a class to, like, expedite it.
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How did you know that it was time to, like, move on and make content?
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I told him to reach out to Worldstar and just DM all the random pages.
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Worldstar was charging people $3,000 to post your video.
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Yeah, and I was like, nigga, we ain't got that type of money.
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I was making money from selling clothes and art, but not consistently to have 3K to just invest into it.
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So I was going through their following and see who were the managers or whoever is posting their shit.
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I sent them three accounts, I believe, and I was like, just send them their video and see what happens.
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Literally the next morning, I think one of them sent laughing emojis and just started posting every single video.
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And it changed the whole trajectory of what we were doing.
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And I was like, nigga, we gotta get out of here.
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So, this is actually funny because a lot of people don't understand how social media works.
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Like, I haven't done anything on my channel now.
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But once I get monetized again, I'm going to blow this shit up so big.
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Videos that go on WorldStar have backlinks, right?
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That trail to your videos on YouTube, Rumble, wherever you post your main videos, right?
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It just means a video that has links to your other channels.
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So, which means, I've watched a video on WorldStar.
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I'm watching the video, and the links go to my YouTube right after.
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Guys, understand that, like, that through your channel is a huge boost.
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So, having WorldStar post your videos is insane.
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So, my pranks on WorldStar were kind of the same thing.
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Where, like, I said, am I going to think of pranks?
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So it's the Fresh Prince CEO. The Gold Digging Prince?
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So, I'm a YouTuber that did it before and he helped me up and I got a special.
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It's your boy, Freshprint CEO. We're out here once again.
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But today, we're going to do the gold digger prank, right?
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This is actually a plug because now, if you can put videos on Rollstar or, for example, any other platform, Shade Room, whatever it is, and you backlinks your main channel, mad traffic.
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Like, how do you grow your channel organically?
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How do you grow it, like, outside of your platform, like YouTube, Twitch, X? It's by doing shit like this.
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And at that time, what I was going to say is that...
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Sometimes we would skip school just to get the content because we had a great idea.
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But the time Worldstar posted it is when we were at maybe 6-7k on Instagram on his page.
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And when they posted it, those views went from like...
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30k views, 100k views to like 500,000, 700,000 on average.
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If you look at his page on Instagram, you'll literally see the numbers like at the time.
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So do you think that like, okay, let's say I'm new to YouTube, right?
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What's the best way you go ask someone to blow up now?
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Like you tell them, listen, do X, Y, Z, step one, two, three.
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Me being nice to everybody, I feel like that's why I'm still in the game.
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But that can make you be fake, you know what I'm saying, if I say that vaguely.
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Jack Doherty, and you start fucking managing, you know?
00:45:50.000
Okay, and then let's say we talked about having videos outside of YouTube on the platforms.
00:45:58.000
Oh, you definitely got to post short-form content.
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That's how people know my face, like outside of note.
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I post clips on TikTok, YouTube shorts, and my most viral shit is from a clip.
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It just takes like six seconds for somebody to really fuck with you.
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Oh, so like when we were in L.A., when we moved there from Sacramento, we met them at a house party.
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And I didn't really know who they were at first.
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I would hear them talk about it when we were in school.
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And when we started collabing, the videos just went through the roof every single time.
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They let us move into their spot because we were couch surfing.
00:47:05.000
Okay, so back then, money-wise, how much were you actually making?
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I mean, I would make money from just asking people at the gas station, like, could you give me money for gas?
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I'd get like $20 for a bag of chips or some shit.
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Sometimes it would take like three, four stops just to get to UCLA. And then all the way back to the house that we were sleeping at, you know?
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We were just honestly just talking about girls.
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I feel like that's the best way to connect with people.
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Like, the best, that's also, the reason why I had a hard time like communicating with people after high school is because I realized that everyone's alcoholics.
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And so, like, I felt like a weirdo for not drinking and shit, you know?
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I personally don't drink because that fucked up my family, for real.
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But I think it's very important to have father figures.
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That should be your name once you get up there.
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Drinking in that room with my family, so that's why I don't really do that shit.
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And I shotgun some shit with P&E. It's YouTubers.
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After like a month and a half, I think, of filming with them.
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Like, every single video we did with them for their channel.
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Because I was full-time filming for Slim at the time.
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Like, imagine 20, 30 videos in a row, like, outperforming the last one.
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Because mentally, you've got to prepare the next video, keep it going.
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I have at least five editors cooking up at all times.
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When you have a synergy of people that just have like minds, it just makes everything so much easier.
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But that's why, if I can have people around me, like my crew, just with good energy, I can do it.
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If anything else, other than that, and then we'll move on.
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It's a parade where a bunch of people dress up as pirates.
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But if you guys want to catch me, see me in person.
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If you don't know me, you can find me on Instagram at RealCousinJay.
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I'd say the most recent YouTube video that you were in.
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This is the craziest shit on my Instagram, I feel like.
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This mom's granddaughter is like, yo, they're famous!
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I would never knowingly go into a situation trying to bag some shit.
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boom she wanna go you gotta start up the new year right my husband you gotta this is why generations that's somebody's uh that's someone's And mother.
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But if you think about it, we have to come to the realization, this is what Martin Luther King died for.
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Hold on, he's there for grandmother's to twerk on niggas?
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This wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for the king.
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So, he did it justice, but with justice, there comes disjustice.
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But he's coming out with his episodes that you can see on his YouTube channel.
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And as well, you're going to be at Gasparilla, you said?
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And you'll be seeing, if you guys want to meet fresh, definitely pull up to Gasparilla because he'll be there.
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But Penn State, literally anytime someone asks me, that's the first thing that comes to mind.
00:55:02.000
Well, it's a lot harder nowadays, bro, for sure.
00:55:09.000
I don't know about Arizona, but it's definitely...
00:55:16.000
I'm not going to marry a girl who's fucking fine as shit.
00:55:23.000
I mean, it's fine as shit to what other people view it as.
00:55:33.000
I don't have a problem with it, but she's not going to rely on makeup.
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Brazil was like, was it hard to like close or was it just like, yo, we're here, we're lit, we're having fun?