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00:16:23.000So, guys, I know we said that it's a Friday, and we're going to go ahead and get your guys' questions, and we will, but I actually have a topic for today, and we've got a video to react to today.
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00:19:39.000I've been to a lot of places, British Virgin Islands, Mexico, UK, Scotland, Ireland, Italy, Switzerland, Amsterdam, Netherlands, France, Spain, Mozambique, South Africa, Austria,
00:19:56.000Germany, yeah, a lot of European countries, Italy.
00:20:02.000That's all I can think of off the top of my head.
00:22:50.000Well, I studied abroad in 2012 and I haven't returned to my home country ever since.
00:22:58.000So I've lived in Switzerland, in Spain, in France, in Dubai, in Lebanon, I've visited Amsterdam, I've visited Germany, I've visited Colombia,
00:24:35.000I think mostly traditional for the most part.
00:24:38.000Straight up Morocco, the women there were very traditional.
00:24:41.000However, why I ask, depending on definition, I do believe that the women in Western Europe, though, most European countries are pretty traditional as well.
00:24:50.000Which countries were the most traditional in Western Europe, in your opinion?
00:24:56.000I just feel like mostly because everyone just kind of sticks to a script there they really don't you know like they kind of just go with the flow of their life so I feel like same thing with Spain to Italy to France I feel like they just nobody's it's different in America where everyone's trying to like break out and like be it like I don't think there's like major Women starting their own businesses going out of their way that there is but it's just so you saw traditional women and you said Italy and where else?
00:25:21.000Spain as well, but mostly Morocco when it comes to the way you dress.
00:25:25.000Women still had differences for clothes, but I think women still were just wives and housewives still in those countries.
00:26:10.000I went to Spain, and I think most women over there are more traditional than here in Miami, but I think it's about the same, like nowadays.
00:26:21.000Some of them, I feel like older women are more traditional over there, but the youngest ones are, it's about the same as here, as Miami.
00:34:34.000I'm a woman, so I always cook and clean.
00:34:37.000It's nice some nights when I cook and slave over a stove and feed you and I've done everything all day that you say, yo, babe, go sit down.
00:34:56.000Okay, so for you, you said you guys share the chores.
00:34:59.000Yeah, I was like, but, you know, I take pride in those things, and I feel like it helps me make the home how it should be, so I think that's a responsibility of a woman, is making a home, being nurturing.
00:35:09.000I also think there's an aspect of, like, being very artistic and creative and knowing how to do traditional things, like sew and make clothing, play piano, like recite poetry, things like that, that make you hyper-feminine, that I think are very traditional and that I enjoy myself, so.
00:35:29.000I mean, I guess when it comes to being, like, traditional, it makes me, I guess, think back to, like, men versus female, like, hunters versus foragers.
00:35:36.000So, being, like, a woman, it's just more of, like, providing on, like, the easier ask.
00:35:41.000Like, the man does, like, the hard part, and you're there to kind of, you know, take care of, like, yeah, cleaning dishes, you know, getting the food, the shopping of the things that aren't, like, out of the way, but it's just being there and making sure everything's ready for, you know, I guess when they return home,
00:36:43.000I guess I would consider like traditional female roles, you know, cooking and cleaning, maintaining the household.
00:36:53.000Yeah, cooking, cleaning, maintaining the household.
00:36:57.000I think another really like important traditional womanly trait would be like Like having empathy, being kind, like being able to like feel emotions and like, you know what I'm saying?
00:37:20.000Like, for example, I feel like men, you guys work a lot.
00:37:24.000Y'all are, sometimes for the most part, like, the breadwinners of the house.
00:37:28.000And with work comes stress and comes, you know, conflict in your head.
00:37:33.000And as a woman, you come home and you're having a bad day, you're on edge, you're angry, whatever, like...
00:37:38.000You come home to your woman, and she grounds you, and she levels you, and she talks to you, and she's there for you, she's empathetic, she listens, you know, she's an ear for you, and she's someone who has completely different biology and a completely different point of view from you that,
00:37:53.000you know, maybe you could get knowledge from and learn from, and, yeah.
00:38:12.000And just to personify this, this is the United States, UK, Canada, pretty much any first world English-speaking country, Australia, New Zealand, etc., where feminism is pretty prominent.
00:38:24.000Do you think Western women are traditional?
00:39:14.000To be honest, if they're okay being independent and taking care of their household and taking care of their environment and stuff like that, no, they don't need a guy.
00:39:29.000Do you think Western women are traditional?
00:39:32.000I don't think Western women are traditional, no.
00:39:34.000Do you think that's a good or a bad thing in general for females?
00:39:37.000I mean calm like it's a I guess not the best opinion it's an unpopular opinion, but I think it's a bad thing okay like I I mean personally like I don't know like why everyone like got crazy and wanted to like do their own thing and do that like I'm totally cool just hanging out and like baking all day and staying at home.
00:41:00.000It really depends on where you are because I think, especially in America, there's a very split culture where people are becoming more traditional and then, you know, really breaking that mold and not following tradition.
00:42:13.000And I hate the terminology of trying to keep a man, but this is just what it is.
00:42:17.000So, I mean, my mama taught me, like, even being 12 and From showering certain times of the day to cleaning up behind myself.
00:42:25.000It's like, you'll understand what this means later when you have a man.
00:42:28.000And I didn't understand it then, but now when I'm in my own household and doing certain things, I find myself like, oh my God, I'm just like my mom.
00:42:36.000You know, I'm cleaning up after my man and you would think it would bother you because you're like, help me, help me.
00:42:41.000The untraditional is like, you're just taking your clothes off and leaving them at the door and you're not picking up after yourself, but he pays all the bills.
00:42:47.000He should be able to throw them wherever he wants the compromises.
00:42:52.000He loves you, so he's not just going to leave it at the door.
00:42:54.000But if he does, you better not complain about it.
00:46:14.000And when I got my man, it elevated 10 times more.
00:46:17.000I'm just saying from finances to credit to the way I think, the way I carry myself, whatever self-respect that I thought I had, it just elevated 10 times more.
00:46:25.000But that's when you find the right man.
00:46:27.000And he's your partner too, so I feel like it's different if you're in a situation with someone who also prefers tradition and you also are the same way.
00:46:35.000You found someone that fits into what you're looking for.
00:46:39.000Not every single man out there, not even most.
00:46:42.000I meet very little men who would expect that.
00:46:44.000And I have many male friends and I have conversations like, do you think, like, would you leave someone if they're not cooking, cleaning every day?
00:46:51.000Like, if I had my own life, you know, talking to exes and stuff, it's never been a problem.
00:46:55.000And I've noticed even men respect me more because I'm able to be like, listen, like...
00:47:06.000It's just like I am my own individual person.
00:47:09.000I am a whole different human being and my life does not just depend on if some dude's gonna fall in love with me one day.
00:47:15.000Yeah, maybe there's a certain caliber of men who won't like me because of what I do or because I'm not traditional, but I don't want to be with those men.
00:47:23.000The men that are okay with that and that support it and love an independent woman who just wants to do what she wants, they will come to me.
00:47:30.000And the men that want tradition will find women who love to be traditional.
00:48:16.000So you think, no, women are not traditional in the West, and you think that's a good thing because they deserve to get their Prince Charming anyway?
00:52:47.000DR and then work our way back this way.
00:52:49.000I think it has a lot to do with how you were raised.
00:52:52.000If you were raised in a religious household, then you're more likely to think like that girl, the second one.
00:53:00.000And a lot of foreign countries do instill a lot of religious beliefs in their children.
00:53:05.000However, in America, not really the case.
00:53:07.000So I think religion has a lot to do with it.
00:53:11.000Who do you think is gonna have the better relationship?
00:53:15.000We gave you guys a bunch of these placards, because whenever I say raise your hands, it's always a pain in the ass.
00:53:20.000So, give me a green if you guys think the foreign woman's gonna do better, or give me a red if you think the American woman is gonna do better.
00:53:26.000Who do you think is gonna do better in that relationship?
00:53:28.000Raise your hands, pull them up, put them up, put them up.
00:53:30.000I don't think from watching that video that you could decide that.
00:53:33.000Because I feel like both of their messages were the same.
00:54:31.000Why do you think the American girl is going to do better?
00:54:34.000For starters, I want to disclaim that I do not think I could accurately even make an assumption off of like the four second video I just watched of each of those women.
00:54:44.000I would say the American would have a better marriage only because I could tell in their chemistry, they were joking with each other.
00:55:31.000In the same way, can't really make a full judgment on their relationship, but when I see people who are very dynamic and having that chemistry, whether or not it's like a slight argument, I think that, or it's not an argument, it was just a kind of a joke.
00:56:45.000I start by saying that she feels 100% more committed the way that she's speaking to her significant other, while the American lady was a bit more called descendant,
00:57:22.000Sorry, kind of on the same page with her.
00:57:24.000After hearing, like, them talk about their opinion, I do agree, like, how they see it, and I see that.
00:57:30.000When I first saw the video, the reason why I voted what I did...
00:57:34.000Was just like watching that and then like during your vows though the way I saw it is like why at a time like at one of the most important times of your life during your vows you're gonna say you're not gonna obey your man?
00:58:56.000You guys can argue gender roles and this, that.
00:58:59.000There are gender roles, and that woman clearly understands her role to that man, and he understands his role to her.
00:59:05.000Like Myron keeps saying, the man can't pick and choose when to protect and provide, but you women get a chance to decide when you want to be submissive and let me lead.
00:59:17.000So she's probably going to have a better shot of a long-term marriage, whether it's 100% always happy or not, versus the American woman, because the American woman, she looks like...
00:59:27.000She don't know how to listen and that's a lot of a lot of women's problem They don't know how to listen and shut the fuck up.
00:59:33.000All right You also thought if I'm did you think that the traditional girl the foreign girl do better?
00:59:40.000No, you thought the American girl do better.
00:59:42.000Okay, why do you think the American girls gonna do better?
00:59:43.000Because there's equality in that relationship because there's equality Okay, you can tell that do you think?
00:59:52.000successful relationships operate on 50-50 yes Do you want a guy that's equal to you?
01:02:03.000I mean, you'll agree, we both have different roles.
01:02:07.000It it's not everyone's the exact same like some families like the guy cooks and cleans and the woman works, you know and Gorgeous like some of my best friends like I have like a really good friend.
01:03:49.000What I just described were tangible things about who, because she said, oh, I want a 50-50 partnership, equal partnership.
01:03:56.000But when I asked her, what does your dream man look like in every attribute, the guy, that's actually of some real consequence, by the way, the man is superior to her.
01:04:04.000So please explain to me how you're equal, right, in a relationship, but on paper, the man is superior to you in every way.
01:04:10.000That doesn't sound like a I'm telling you that it's not a matter of equality.
01:05:10.000Well, we could both make money, but the guy still has to make money, whereas if it was the other way around, the man wouldn't necessarily care about her making money.
01:05:16.000Women want equality when it suits them, but the reality is they want a guy that's better than them in every regard.
01:05:23.000And I look at it like if a man comes in and he's superior, he's got to come with some type of authority that comes with being superior because he's responsible.
01:05:30.000I'll be damned if I'm going to be responsible for a woman and be the leader, but not have the authority over them.
01:06:31.000And you gotta also understand that I'm speaking in general, just because you're okay with a more egalitarian relationship doesn't mean that other women are...
01:06:37.000So where do these statistics, like how many women have you sat, like how do you come up with women think this, women, is it because of maybe women you've come in contact with you've noticed have these traits, think these ways, or is it because of things you've been on the end?
01:06:50.000With a raise of hands, with green meaning you would want this.
01:06:54.000Would you prefer a man that can lead you, protect you, provide for you, and be the decision maker in the household?
01:07:01.000Raise of hands, what would you prefer?
01:08:08.000A problem-solving answer, but it's how you feel, so that's why it escaped you, because you felt that at that moment, and you had something to say, and then now I'm like, okay, well, no.
01:08:23.000I couldn't remember just because, like, I don't really appreciate how you're talking to me, and it does put me on edge, you know, so my brain, obviously, I did forget.
01:08:59.000They are both emotions expressed in different ways.
01:09:01.000Except with men, you let it build up, build up, build up in your body and then you express it like that and all of a sudden you're not emotional, you're a macho man.
01:09:50.000No disrespect, but it's like, you sit here and you're like, women this, like, most women all, you have no, like, you can't say that, because where's your statistics coming from?
01:10:05.000With that energy, this is why girls are, they say, like, girls are aggressive now and have all this masculine energy, because you haven't met a man who leads, who protects, who is more superior than you, so it doesn't allow you to be in your soft girl era.
01:11:10.000I don't want to make more money than my man.
01:11:12.000Because at some point he's going to become a bitch ass nigga to me.
01:11:15.000It's going to be cool for a while that I'm paying the bills and I'm going to hold it down if he loses it and I got to come in and hold it down.
01:11:21.000But that's only going to last for a certain length of time because eventually it doesn't allow you to be in your soft girl era.
01:11:27.000You can't worry about being a woman and nurturing him and loving on him the proper way because you got to do manly duties.
01:11:43.000But who you choose is up to you as well.
01:11:50.000So if you choose to protect, that's not that guy, then what do you expect?
01:11:54.000One thing I want to say is, point of view does matter, and the way you're raised and what you've seen, your perspective, that obviously does have an impact on how you think things should be.
01:12:32.000Like, most women want a breadwinner, most women want a protector, most women want a provider, most women want a guy that's stronger than them, everything.
01:12:38.000Nothing about that sounds equal to me.
01:13:00.000I'm gonna be completely, I'm not just saying this to prove my point, but I have recently found a guy, and we sat, and he thinks more similar to you guys than he does to me, but we're able to sit down and have really intellectual conversations, and,
01:14:48.000Because we've had conversations like, hey, where do you want this to go?
01:14:54.000I like spending time with you, you like spending time with me, what do we want to do moving forward, what are we working towards?
01:14:59.000And one thing we agreed on is, we enjoy each other's company, we take it day by day, we're gonna be genuine, and labels don't, like, labels don't matter.
01:16:10.000I just think that American women and women from different countries, we have different relationships with our men.
01:16:18.000Our relationship in America with our men is just more tattered and shit like that, so we can't really trust our man, so I get where she's coming from.
01:16:25.000At the same time, a woman from a different country, she might be able to trust her men more because Just the past and everything.
01:16:33.000Wait, are American women traditional or not?
01:21:06.000Men can be emotional as well, but men have a better ability to control their emotions and make deductive problem-solving decisions.
01:21:13.000This is why the world was built by men and not by women.
01:21:16.000So my thing is, if you got a girl that has the gall to disrespect you like that in front of all of your family and friends on the most important day where you're taking your vows and she's not going to obey you, Well, that's a tenement of being a part of a marriage.
01:21:31.000A woman must follow her man and obey her man.
01:21:33.000Whether you look at Islam, Christianity, Judaism, every single culture that's existed through this period of time, the man leads and the woman follows.
01:22:21.000However, that behavior transcends to everything.
01:22:24.000So, even though it was a joke in that instance, I guarantee you, outside of that courtroom or wherever they get married, she's made those jokes herself.
01:23:12.000And the only way that a woman's gonna respect you is if she fears losing you.
01:23:15.000So I can tell you right there off looking at that situation, he probably either A has money or he's doing something for her where she's willing to tolerate him.
01:23:22.000I was just gonna say, he's tolerating it.
01:24:21.000I would never, I mean, I would never, but like, if the man was to like, object, obviously you would have been able to see it.
01:24:28.000Like, he would have been like, wait, chill, like...
01:24:30.000But he didn't so that back to my point he's gonna tolerate whatever she like her terms and there's men like that that are that's a problem.
01:24:38.000They don't understand their value their pussies.
01:25:11.000A more fruitful relationship, not just enduring the bullshit.
01:25:14.000What I'm going off of on that, though, is if we bring it back to before when you were saying, so when we bring back the toleration, so the American man tolerating the American girl, and then I think...
01:25:26.000And then I think we brought up how the foreign girl might give up the act a little bit sooner because whatever.
01:25:32.000But if it's about toleration, do you really think, though, that that foreign girl, with how she was acting there, you think she's going to give up sooner?
01:25:41.000I feel like she's going to take longer, where the American man, he's going to give up sooner than her.
01:25:46.000So if it's about toleration, it's the foreign woman versus the American man who's going to hold stronger.
01:25:52.000If we're talking about toleration on the other day, I'm gonna say the American man's gonna give up sooner.
01:26:04.000Women initiate 70% of the divorces, so she's gonna leave his ass because he's a bitch.
01:26:09.000If she's talking like that at the altar, I guarantee you nine times out of ten, Because I've called numerous of men bitch ass niggas behind closed doors.
01:28:04.000Yeah, we weren't arguing respect on our relationship.
01:28:06.000What I mean is that the video that we saw, the woman, was completely obeying the man, and you guys, I mean, you are agreeing with that, but I don't.
01:28:17.000Because I don't agree with the fact that women have to obey the men in order for their relationship to work.
01:28:22.000I just don't think women should embarrass their men in the public.
01:28:26.000I don't feel like she was embarrassing him.
01:31:38.000Men must be competent and they must be in a position of authority over a woman for it to actually work where she can respect him and defer to his authority.
01:31:44.000It doesn't work where we're equal, okay?
01:31:47.000If I was as strong as you or I was as tall as you, I made as much money as you, as smart as you, you'd look at me, ah, he's an equal.
01:31:51.000But if I'd say, hey, we need to go and do this, you would have maybe a point of issue with that.
01:31:55.000But if I'm better than you at everything and I'm more experienced, you're going to defer to my authority.
01:32:24.000Your man must be more competent than you in things that actually matter.
01:32:28.000Maybe you can pick out the drapes or something for the house, but the guy's gotta be more competent in how the world works, making money, being more successful, being more intelligent than you are for it to work.
01:32:40.000Women don't want their equal in general.
01:32:42.000They want a guy that's better than them in every regard.
01:32:44.000I mean, I don't know how we don't understand common sense biology here.
01:32:47.000I appreciate that you guys invited me here.
01:32:49.000I never learned in biology that that's the case.
01:33:07.000The man, the woman, and then the kids.
01:33:09.000There's hierarchy wherever you look at it.
01:33:10.000And if you want to look at it in the Bible, you want to look at it in the Quran, you want to look at it in Asian culture, you want to look at it in Native American culture, you want to look at it in African culture, why is it that all human species, all different demographics of humans, put men in the leadership roles?
01:33:24.000Because y'all decided so early that you guys were so much better than us.
01:33:27.000And it's just like been a thing that's existed forever.
01:34:48.000I would argue that women have the easiest existence they've ever had.
01:34:52.000And I would argue that women live an easier life than men do and they have more opportunities than men do.
01:34:56.000As a matter of fact, if you really think that it's a patriarchy and it's so bad, name one right or privilege that men have that women don't.
01:35:21.000You meet a man, you have a conversation, people always respect men more naturally.
01:35:26.000Yes, because forever you guys have said we are the most competent and women aren't.
01:35:31.000That's why when, as a woman, the amount of times I've been told, like, when I first met you, I thought you were super dumb, but after talking to you, you're really smart.
01:35:37.000Men don't get told that because you meet a man and men automatically get respect.
01:36:15.000Women are far more likely to get a job if competing with a man.
01:36:17.000If a woman's name is on a resume, she's more likely to get that job, especially if it's in a male-dominated field.
01:36:22.000Nowadays, it's only that way because the past forever, it's been men, so they have to do that so that people can't be like, oh, you only hire men.
01:36:30.000They hire women because it looks good for them.
01:36:32.000Okay, so once again, explain to me how the patriarchy oppresses women, then, that you're claiming.
01:36:36.000Because to me, it sounds like y'all get a bunch of opportunities that we don't.
01:36:38.000It oppresses us in the way it's happening right now.
01:36:41.000There's a few men in here talking to us like we're stupid, purposely misunderstanding things we're saying, but we just have to put up with it because we're women, and you're men, so you get humbled so much less than us.
01:36:51.000We are forced to sit here and listen to you, and it is your podcast, and I get that, but it's also like you talk over us.
01:36:57.000If we talk to you the way you talk to us, that would never slide, ever.
01:37:01.000But men can do it because you're men, and we have to sit and listen, and it's been that way forever, but that doesn't make it right.
01:37:50.000Even if I mess a sentence up or something, you immediately are like, okay, why'd you word it like that?
01:37:54.000You say that to get in my head, when in reality, if you listen to my sentence, you would have known exactly what I meant because common sense and critical thinking.
01:38:01.000It's hearing a sentence and, oh, it's like when you get a text from your friend and it's a paragraph and one word's mistyped, you're not going to, like, send back and be like, what'd you say?
01:38:08.000Like, you're going to read it and you're going to figure it out.
01:40:23.000Just watch the podcast in the past, and then you can just see what they're talking about.
01:40:27.000I've seen them, but it's like, the amount of people you've had on, even altogether, like, combined, is such a minuscule amount of people compared to the amount of women in the world.
01:42:58.000And it may sound crazy, but because women get emotional when they make decisions, we also have this thing called chemical imbalance when we go through...
01:43:17.000So when you are working in the workplace and the reason why you're firing Tom is because he pissed you off today and you were on your period.
01:43:24.000The reason why Tom is firing Brian is because he didn't do his fucking job.
01:43:57.000Well, I feel like if I was with a guy because he provided for me financially and that was the main reason, then I can see myself getting tired years later because I'm an independent woman.
01:46:07.000And then you said, oh, men have more opportunities.
01:46:09.000No, that's not true either because women are far more likely, and they've done studies on this, to get a job over a man if it's a female name on the resume.
01:46:14.000One thing I will say is I can't agree that you could be correct there.
01:49:37.000My argument was that he's on my OnlyFans and he sees that.
01:49:40.000My argument was I meet you in the real world, in real life, and naturally men, when a man approaches a man, they more than likely have a really good intellectual conversation, whatever.
01:49:58.000I feel like men are more open to having conversations that they take seriously with other men.
01:50:03.000When it's a woman, the conversation is usually because the guy wants to fuck, not because he respects me, not because he wants to talk to me.
01:50:30.000And the man's not gonna even get invited to the room unless he reaches a certain level.
01:50:33.000The privilege that you guys have is insane.
01:50:36.000You're able to rub elbows with millionaires, billionaires, you're able to get on a yacht just for existing.
01:50:40.000As a man, you have to earn that ability to do so.
01:50:42.000So, yeah, you're saying, I'm not respected, but at least you get the opportunity to get the respect.
01:50:47.000I don't even get the opportunity to get the respect unless I built the respect beforehand and I'm invited.
01:50:52.000That's the difference between men and women.
01:50:54.000That's why I say women live life on easy mode, and unfortunately, that's why a lot of guys don't respect women, because the reality is, y'all don't have to work as hard as we do to make money and to become successful.
01:51:05.000You have the privilege of, I want to be a stay-at-home mom, which is great, but we don't have, I can't say I want to be a stay-at-home dad.
01:51:12.000No chick is going to take me seriously when I say, oh, by the way, I want you to work and I'm going to just stay at home and take care of the kids.
01:51:17.000No woman's going to give me an opportunity, but as a woman, you can go into a relationship and say, you know, I want to be a stay-at-home.
01:51:22.000Most guys are going to be okay with that.
01:51:27.000And that's what I mean when I say women live life on easy mode and they get angry, but at least you get the opportunity to meet them.
01:51:31.000They might not respect you, but at least you get the opportunity to build that respect that's on you if you fuck it up and they don't respect you because you didn't convey yourself properly.
01:51:37.000Maybe they found out about your background.
01:51:39.000And unfortunately, ladies, when you're a sex worker, men aren't going to respect you, period.
01:51:48.000And in the corporate world, right, if you guys did get a corporate job, they would actually respect you more because they don't want to get hit with sexual harassment.
01:51:57.000They ain't going to say shit because they know they get fired by HR. So if you did work a corporate job, I don't know if you guys ever have, I doubt it.
01:52:02.000Trust me, you guys would get preferential treatment, you would get hired, and they would treat you very well because HR is dominated by women.
01:52:08.000If there's one sexual harassment claim, they're getting fucking fired.
01:52:10.000So they're going to absolutely respect And you can learn how to have men respect you.
01:52:53.000I care a lot about being articulate and listening.
01:52:55.000And those are things that deem respect regardless of your gender.
01:52:59.000And so I think I've learned that from not feeling valued.
01:53:05.000by men and deciding no like I want to be seen as who I am authentically and genuinely and just gaining respect from being who I am and I agree there's kind of this dynamic of like do you want to be a boss or do you want to be a woman and I don't love that and I remember like one time talking to my mom and she was saying Tess like you're so opinionated you're so driven you're so passionate it's gonna be hard for you to find a rich man Because they want someone who's just gonna sit there and shut the fuck up.
01:53:35.000But, like, there are spaces where I can still exist and still be respected and loved for exactly what I bring to the table, but I think that doesn't mean that people aren't gonna still want to fuck me.
01:59:47.000Do you not understand that women value experience and men value inexperience and the fact that you're able to land a guy that's successful that could get a younger, better version of you, you are lucky beyond whatever and you need to be super happy.
02:05:50.000If you communicate with me and, like, if he came up and he was like, you're not wearing that, and that was the end and there was no discussion, then, you know, maybe I wouldn't end up wearing it, but I'd still be like, but...
02:06:00.000You know, if he came up, he was like, it would honestly kind of make me uncomfortable if you were that, like, tonight.
02:06:26.000Bender says, crazy how women essentially win the lottery at 18, and they think they deserve the world for doing nothing but making bad decisions.
02:10:44.000Why do you think no, it doesn't matter to men, your past?
02:10:48.000I think it depends on the guy that you're talking to, but I certainly think if they're more open-minded to the person that you are, they're gonna be receptive.
02:10:58.000If they're gonna get everything that I'm bringing to the table, then they have to accept- Education, cultured, well-traveled, can cook, can clean, can suck dick, all the things.
02:11:11.000And I can also be obedient and independent if I need to be because I can be responsible on my own.
02:17:51.000So explain to me how you can sit there and make someone pay full price for something that other people got for free, got for a dinner here, got for a McChicken here, or someone else paid a thousand here.
02:18:02.000It's amazing to me how women will sit there and say...
02:19:24.000I'm so thankful that God sent me a man that's able to forgive for the mistakes and the unknowledgeable Actions.
02:19:32.000Experiences that I've had in my life because now I know better.
02:19:35.000So I would never give myself to a man that didn't deserve it.
02:19:38.000I would never just go off of somebody talking to me and just because they said I was pretty or they bought me this, I'm going to give up the pussy.
02:24:14.000But when you start talking about what age and how much younger and when does the age gap start?
02:24:20.000So what I'm saying is, you being a 21-year-old girl dating a 35-year-old man, it's a little scary to me because I'm like, she ain't got nothing at 21.
02:27:36.000Like, really, like, you're single, and you're telling him something, he's telling you something, and you keep talking, that's why you're single!
02:27:43.000I mean, I'm just saying, like, you're not a man dealing with dating younger women, so...
02:27:51.000No offense, but your opinion is irrelevant.
02:27:53.000And I love how all you guys are trying to speak as, men should this, men should that, I think men this.
02:29:16.000I'm telling you what men in general want, and you guys are arguing with me about what men want, but if you guys told me what women want, I wouldn't argue with you when you said, I want a guy that's competent.
02:31:44.000Because they watch you and they're your fans and they agree with you because you're like one of the only people who like have these opinions publicly and they can like...
02:34:42.000I mean, if he's strong, if the guy that I happen to be with at that time is stronger than me, you know, I feel like he would have a better chance.
02:36:39.000The point you were making was that I don't deserve to be valued or respected, and one of the things you said was like, Oh yeah, your point was, I believe if I'm not wrong, when I brought up if I met a man and then a man met a man, he'd obviously take him seriously.
02:36:53.000And you brought up that I would actually have the chance to earn respect even though I'm incompetent, I have a pass, even though this and that, I would still get the opportunity.
02:37:12.000I know what I said, and I'm telling you that I said that at least you get, because you said, we don't get respect.
02:37:18.000I said, at least you get the opportunity to meet the man to earn the respect, whereas the other guy, a regular guy, wouldn't even get the opportunity.
02:37:24.000That was a different part, but you did when you were making the point.
02:39:59.000Women in general want a guy that's better than them because it's from a protective resource.
02:40:02.000I need a guy that's stronger than me, can make more money than me, has resources, etc.
02:40:05.000It's been that way since the beginning of time.
02:40:07.000Why is it that there's millionaire men that will go ahead and marry a chick that works at Hooters, but a chick that's a millionaire would never look at a dude that works at Hooters?
02:40:14.000Women since the beginning of time have married men across or above hierarchies.
02:40:18.000Because men are horny and y'all just like, y'all want someone super young and little and submissive and that's why y'all go for that.
02:40:24.000As a woman, like, I, I, even with my friends, I surround myself with people I look up to and I respect.
02:40:30.000Because I want to surround myself with people that I can learn from.
02:40:39.000I gave you the facts of why women want a day up, and instead of refuting what I said, you said, that's because X, Y, Z. But it doesn't change the fact that I'm correct.
02:40:50.000When this is done, rewatch this and look at yourself talking back to him.
02:40:55.000Instead of refuting what I said with another fact, all you did was say, well that's because, which makes my point even stronger, XYZ. Your facts aren't facts.
02:41:05.000It's just opinions you have that you're saying are facts.
02:42:33.000This is the difference between men and women.
02:42:35.000Men speak directly and say the truth regardless of how it might make them feel.
02:42:39.000You're probably not used to this because you don't, I don't know, guys want to fuck you, they don't tell you the truth, or maybe you communicate with a bunch of women, which women tend to beat around the bush and not necessarily be as direct because of their feelings.
02:44:55.000You know what I'm saying is true, you just don't like how it makes you feel, so you're gonna go and sit there and say, I disagree with your points.
02:46:29.000So I don't disagree with a lot of things you guys say, so I'm not going to sit up here and try to impose my ideology and my experiences on the way to...
02:47:53.000At the same time, I definitely agree with a lot of what Holiday was saying.
02:48:00.000I really feel like I bring a lot of those characteristics that aren't Typical and normal and I have a very dynamic, interesting life and I'm a dynamic, interesting and intelligent person.
02:48:13.000So I just enjoyed, you know, hearing what everyone has to say.
02:48:29.000I think I learned a lot, like, you know, hearing other people's opinions and also just seeing from...
02:48:33.000I think it's also good to get, like, a big perspective as a female into the male perspective.
02:48:38.000Because, like, you might have your own opinion at the end of the day, but, like, hearing from a male, the counterpart, like, you know what you're talking about.
02:48:55.000I mean, I know I get that way sometimes, but it's just like, I speak off of personal experience sometimes and stuff like that, and off of, like, how my, I guess, from my mother as, like, a coach, I guess.
02:50:15.000You know how hard that is for a woman?
02:50:21.000No, actually, I always enjoy listening to the different perspectives of everybody, and as long as we do it with respect, I think it's nice.
02:51:10.000It's nice sitting with a group of different people who come from different places and have different ways of thinking, come from different backgrounds, were raised differently.
02:51:47.000I'm not this exactly like exactly what you're saying, but similar like my my father He thinks very similar the guy I'm talking to even we've had debates like this But the thing is when we communicate it's not like it's not like this It's like I think this way.
02:53:16.000High response to it is up to you, but regardless, I am 100% correct in what I said as far as men and women and intersexual dynamics and women wanting a guy that's better than them.
02:54:23.000Okay, he says, Western women are just dumb, and they're expecting you to tell them that they're smart because they're feeling, feeling, feeling smart.
02:54:57.000Yeah, we got a couple, I think, that might want to come in or two.
02:54:59.000So we're going to go ahead and give you all couples therapy, and then we're going to start implementing some of the new stuff next week as well.
02:55:03.000I'm just waiting for the props to come in.