Gaines for Girls with Riley Gaines - Ballerina Farm, Emily Ratajkowski, and the Motherhood Myth Sold to Young Women ｜ The Riley Gaines Show

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00:00:34.540 Over the weekend, I saw two stories from two different women, two women both exercising

00:00:39.800 free agency, but how they viewed motherhood, how they viewed women in general, how they

00:00:46.020 viewed relationship with men, how they viewed purpose and fulfillment could not be more

00:00:51.400 different.

00:00:52.000 And the message that it's sending to young women could not be more different.

00:00:55.140 One worldview says become yourself. The other worldview says give yourself. So today we're

00:01:00.580 going to talk about where both of these women find their purpose and what their reported outcome and

00:01:05.460 feelings and fulfillment towards themselves and the world around them really is. Let's start with

00:01:09.860 Emily Ratajkowski. If you don't know who she is, you've probably seen her before, actually. I've

00:01:14.860 got a picture of her on screen. She's a supermodel. Clearly makes sense. She's beautiful, gorgeous, 1.00

00:01:21.080 stunning like so symmetrical her hair her face her body uh body t that's what the young people

00:01:27.320 are saying she's got 28 million followers on instagram actually she's an actress she played

00:01:33.120 in gone girl also an author she wrote a book titled my body a few years ago which is like

00:01:39.000 this collection of essays about the modeling industry and consent and objectification and

00:01:45.000 feminism and how her body had been both her power and something that over the years others tried to

00:01:51.060 and as she describes it, have successfully owned. One more thing about her that I learned in 0.99

00:01:56.340 researching her for this episode was that she's a spokesperson for Planned Parenthood, which makes

00:02:02.160 her reported experience of motherhood and feelings towards being a mom that we're going to break down

00:02:08.280 a little less surprising. She is a self-described, a self-identified feminist. I would argue most

00:02:15.380 importantly, even if maybe she doesn't agree, most importantly, she is a mom to, I believe,

00:02:21.400 a now five-year-old boy. I saw this article, at least the headline, the cover photo of this

00:02:27.860 article pop up on my Instagram over the weekend. We've got the photo on screen, which feels a

00:02:35.660 little explicit to show. I don't know how we're going to have to edit this to make sure this is

00:02:40.160 even able to stay up on YouTube. Uh, you see Emily Ratajkowski again, beautiful, um, very large

00:02:48.200 breast, right? Uh, you see her posing here with an open shirt. Uh, she's got a baby. I thought 1.00

00:02:54.860 this was a real baby at first, uh, debunked. This is a baby doll. So a fake baby, the setting looks

00:03:01.560 like a New York city apartment. She lives in New York city. I found out from this article.

00:03:04.760 if you're looking on screen, you can see that she's holding the baby, obviously emulating

00:03:10.180 nursing. So she has this fake baby doll that looks like a real baby sucking on her breasts. 0.99

00:03:17.580 There are also photos, look, we're scrolling through here. So on one hand, she's nursing 0.99

00:03:22.540 her baby. The other hand, she has, it looks like alcohol. And based on the article, I think this 0.99

00:03:29.100 is a gin martini. So over the weekend, this photo pops up on my Instagram. It was the first thing I

00:03:33.400 saw before knowing anything about the article or the crux of the article. Um, I see this photo

00:03:37.900 and the first thing that pops into my mind is I don't like this. This is uncomfortable. Um,

00:03:44.760 I'm looking at these pictures, trying to understand again, what's going on here at the

00:03:48.560 time, thinking this was a real baby. This photo is genuinely disturbing, right? Like this is a

00:03:54.060 very clear and desperate cry for attention. At least that's how I see it. Um, I see a woman who

00:04:00.420 has completely lost sense of taste and class and has crossed into the realm of pure ridiculousness. 1.00

00:04:09.020 And I know some people will say like, you know, Riley, this is art. We're just showcasing the

00:04:13.500 dichotomy that can exist with moms. On one hand, you can be an attentive mother and be there for 1.00

00:04:18.780 your child. On the other hand, you can prioritize yourself and go out and have fun and drink alcohol.

00:04:23.440 I don't really see this as art. Maybe the message that's trying to be sent here is a good one,

00:04:29.600 but I believe this image actually totally distracts from that message. I think the issue

00:04:35.080 here is turning this into like a sensual photo shoot while a baby, a fake baby, albeit he's 0.99

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00:04:44.900 especially a little baby girl that there should never, ever, ever be a setting where a child is

00:04:49.980 placed in a context that's meant to be sexy or provocative. Right. And I think society actually

00:04:55.580 agrees with that. Most people aren't okay with that. It crosses a line for many people,

00:05:00.120 certainly myself included. And honestly, Emily Ratajkowski's platform is a little bit ironic

00:05:05.020 because I mentioned her book, My Body. In it, I was reading some online. She's very clear on her

00:05:11.280 stance on the objectification of women. Yet this is a woman who has done a lot of highly sexualized 1.00

00:05:19.000 work. She's in various shoots for Sports Illustrated. Actually, one of the things that 1.00

00:05:22.920 actually probably the thing that made her as famous as she is now was being cast and starring

00:05:28.640 in robin thick's music video for blurred lines uh that music video made her famous for showing her

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00:06:15.340 thanks to what she calls the cis hetero patriarchal construct that we live in i don't know it feels 1.00

00:06:21.280 very Meghan Markle of her. Anyways, she was married to Sebastian Bear McClard. They were

00:06:25.820 married for four years. I think he's like a movie producer. They were married for about four years

00:06:30.240 before divorcing, but the article actually says they stopped having sex about six months postpartum,

00:06:36.100 post-birth. She says, actually, that is the piece that led to their separation and their divorce,

00:06:41.080 which was finalized in 2025. The piece that she wrote was titled Mother Effer, which actually in

00:06:47.320 the literal sense kind of makes sense based on what she's describing. She describes embarking

00:06:52.100 on this period of compulsive dating, following her separation, saying that she's just trying

00:06:57.860 to figure out what kind of woman that she wanted to become. So ironically, this self-described

00:07:03.440 feminist needed men to tell her what kind of women she can and should be. Just to go through 1.00

00:07:08.340 some of the articles, she talks about the birth experience that she had with her five-year-old

00:07:12.100 son. Uh, and she describes it as pretty horrific. Uh, she says it was four hours of pushing severe

00:07:18.380 tearing. She actually describes how, uh, in pretty graphic detail, by the way, I'm just summarizing

00:07:23.060 here. Uh, she describes how the muscle between her anus and her vagina like ripped. Um, she said 1.00

00:07:30.780 that her baby had matching scabs on his head from being tugged out similar to the scabs that she had

00:07:37.220 on her downstairs region. She says verbatim, it was a violent transition into a new reality

00:07:44.160 of a screaming baby on her aching tit. I don't want to discount or discredit any woman's birth

00:07:48.780 experience or birth story because labor in its literal sense, by the way, is traumatic. Like

00:07:53.680 it's a traumatic thing for your body to go through. Nothing is where it's supposed to be.

00:07:57.720 Your organs have shifted, especially women who go through a C-section. I mean, you're physically

00:08:01.960 being cut open, like sliced in half, if you will. So is it uncomfortable in like 99% of experiences?

00:08:13.340 Yes. Does it come with pain? Yes. Does it come with trauma? Certainly. But if you talk to most

00:08:18.220 moms about their labor and delivery, you know, maybe they'll recount the pain, but it will almost

00:08:23.680 pretty immediately be followed with, but I would do it 10,000 times over because it gave me this

00:08:28.400 beautiful little child that I'm now holding in my hands. That doesn't seem to be how Emily

00:08:32.200 Ratajkowski viewed it. I talk about it all the time. And this is just really another example

00:08:35.880 of this. But the messaging that young women are fed all the time online and on social media about

00:08:41.980 pregnancy and delivery and postpartum and having a baby that turns into a toddler,

00:08:47.360 the toddler tantrums and the newborn trenches, and you're never going to sleep again.

00:08:50.680 And your life changes dramatically. You're never going to be able to go out and have fun or late

00:08:54.780 now with your friends. Your relationship with your husband is going to change. Motherhood is

00:08:58.660 just filled with sacrifices. Look, I'm not here to say that some of those things, or in some cases,

00:09:05.200 maybe all of those things are true. But what that's not followed with, the message that young

00:09:09.520 women aren't receiving, is the purpose that you find in being a mom. How I believe it's the highest

00:09:16.120 calling for women. How beautiful and unique and intentional God's design for us as women is to be

00:09:21.160 able to grow a child and to push a baby out of our body, how our body changes and adapts

00:09:27.160 specifically so we can do these things, how we're able to then nurture our baby. Our body contains

00:09:32.820 everything we could possibly need to literally grow a human being. It's so cool. I don't think

00:09:37.440 it's a bad thing necessarily that she talks about her pretty horrendous birthing experience because

00:09:41.540 I think it's a good thing for women to know that, but it's also important to know that that's not

00:09:46.900 the case for everyone. I've talked about it. I had a fantastic, positive, lovely birthing experience.

00:09:53.280 It is the closest I have ever felt to God, to heaven. It felt ethereal. I loved it so much so

00:09:57.860 that I'm ready to do it again immediately. Whenever is my time to get pregnant, I am ready,

00:10:03.440 God willing. But as I said, she goes on to then start compulsively dating to figure out what kind 1.00

00:10:08.640 of woman that she wants to be. She says that she'd only slept with eight people prior to motherhood. 1.00

00:10:14.000 she had always avoided one night stands because she wanted to stay precious. She wanted to

00:10:18.540 maintain this good girl persona. But now, word for word, she decided to F her way into a new

00:10:25.800 kind of woman. This is a quote from the article. She says, I wanted to destroy the Madonna,

00:10:30.880 the special girl I'd worked so hard to be before an eight pound baby had torn my vagina in two 1.00

00:10:35.180 and replaced her with the whore. She writes about some of the dates that she went on, 1.00

00:10:42.720 which range from weird, I think at best, to absolutely degrading and demeaning. She talks

00:10:49.820 about a DJ that she was with who was into incest pornography. She mentions an older guy in the

00:10:56.380 piece, a guy she refers to as elder millennial who got off on degrading her, calling her names 1.00

00:11:01.920 like streetwalker and dirty whore during sex and slapping her around. Yet she consistently went 1.00

00:11:07.080 back because she wanted to be the praying mantis. She felt like she had power over him. Although

00:11:13.400 again, he's the one slapping her around, which that alone, I think sends a pretty horrific

00:11:18.860 message to women. She would talk about how she would end these relationship with these men when 1.00

00:11:23.260 they say they love her. And so her big takeaway was the more that she seemed not to need a man,

00:11:31.300 the more that those men desperately needed her. And so it spends the majority of the article

00:11:36.700 talking about her dating life and the purpose that she found in that and being this dominatrix

00:11:44.120 all while being slapped around in bed. But the very end of the article, I'm talking like it

00:11:49.280 spends a pretty short paragraph on this. She talks about how she's proud ultimately that she left

00:11:56.260 her husband. She talks about initially struggling with feelings of rejection and being alone and

00:12:01.800 being seen as the single mother. She says, I wasn't the one that was left. I actually left.

00:12:08.400 I'm assuming talking about her marriage, that being able to leave to say no was the real

00:12:13.320 superpower that I'd gained through divorce. And so her core reflection that you only really get

00:12:17.940 once you get to the very bottom of the article was that leaving her marriage was the very brave

00:12:23.380 thing to do. Single motherhood is not ruinous. She rejects, you know, the pitying looks that

00:12:28.900 single moms get or the divorce single mom label. I think the main point she wanted to make in this

00:12:33.480 article was that purpose for a woman or for a mom comes through sexual self-reclamation, 0.68

00:12:39.940 and proving that you need nothing from men, all while still attracting, desperately attracting

00:12:47.140 that attention. One more quote in the article. She said, what I wanted was his attention. I wanted to

00:12:51.760 feel a man's desire and to be reminded that I was a sexual being, not just a mother of a toddler. 0.97

00:12:56.660 She goes on to say having a child with the wrong man was the fastest way to ruin your life as a woman.

00:13:01.300 It meant having no freedom, no choices, no emergency exit, all baggage and no security, which this breaks my heart to read because you have to imagine that her son maybe will one day grow up and read this.

00:13:14.540 I don't want to shame Emily Ratajkowski, although I do believe that as a society, we should bring back a level of shame.

00:13:21.840 first and foremost, is that this was absolutely and totally out of touch with reality and with

00:13:28.300 real people. Clearly, she is a super model. She can afford daycare or a nanny. She has, I guess, 0.99

00:13:35.820 access to endless amount of guys, affluent men, by the way, in her sleeping around era, 1.00

00:13:42.940 whereas most single moms don't really have that. They can't just go to the bar in New York City 1.00

00:13:47.240 and pick up a really rich man to then take back to his apartment and sleep with. A lot of women 1.00

00:13:51.460 online saw this as insulting to single moms who are truly struggling every day to survive. They 1.00

00:13:57.340 didn't really feel like they could relate with her single mother experience. But beyond some of the

00:14:01.160 backlash for the cover photo, the photos that we showed on the show, and kind of like the out-of-touch

00:14:06.580 celebrity privilege narrative that doesn't represent typical single mom realities, there

00:14:12.500 was a lot of praise for Emily Ratajkowski. I'm sure you're shocked, right? The internet praises

00:14:17.300 self-identified feminist who's attempting to find herself by sleeping with a bunch of men while her

00:14:22.820 child's at home with the nanny sleeping in the crib right shocker but i shared this with you

00:14:26.340 though because i wanted to explicitly highlight the hypocrisy and the difference in response that

00:14:30.980 we see from a story like this you know the response from people online and social media

00:14:35.540 comments from media outlets from societal institutions versus a woman like hannah

00:14:42.420 Nealman or Ballerina Farm, who is a mom of nine and a CEO of a company. First and foremost, who 1.00

00:14:48.360 is Ballerina Farm? Like I said, her name is Hannah Nealman. She's also objectively beautiful. I've

00:14:54.640 got a picture of her and her husband on screen. And you can just tell by the photo, they look

00:14:59.180 happy. They look content. She's 35 years old. Her husband is Daniel, the guy in the photo.

00:15:04.720 Important to mention that he was independently very wealthy, or at least his family is very

00:15:10.540 wealthy. He's the son of JetBlue founder. She trained as a ballerina at Juilliard. It's actually

00:15:15.400 where she met her husband. They got married. They're Mormon. They have nine children together.

00:15:21.300 I think the ninth was born this past March. To have nine children by 35 is pretty impressive.

00:15:27.480 I mean, just from like a biological standpoint, they live in Utah on a 300 plus acre ranch.

00:15:33.660 Her and her husband are also co-CEOs of Ballerina Farm. That's their brand. She homeschools in like

00:15:39.060 a barn schoolhouse. She posts a lot of her content and lifestyle online. It's very beautiful. It's

00:15:44.620 very curated. It's very aesthetic. Uh, she has like these glowing videos of homemade meals and

00:15:50.560 her kids playing in the yard and dirt in their feet and all of her animals and that, that 0.98

00:15:55.780 beautiful AGA stove. Let's actually watch one of her videos. On June 26th, summer belongs to the

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00:16:27.880 one of my favorite family traditions that we do our birthday breakfast on the kid's birthday

00:16:34.800 so we got going this morning because Henry is turning 13 today and I'll never forget 13 years

00:16:42.620 ago Henry was born in a little hospital in Brooklyn New York just six days before my college

00:16:49.560 graduation so I remember walking across the stage to receive my diploma and holding tiny little

00:16:56.040 Henry in my arms it was such a special memory that I'll cherish forever and it feels like

00:17:00.480 yesterday. So crazy that it's been 13 years. So today we made his favorite, which was

00:17:06.060 German pancakes and Daniel made some homemade yogurt and water kefir last night. Charles made

00:17:12.220 some glazed carrots. Daniel whipped up some beautiful French omelets. The kids had fun

00:17:19.000 setting the table and lighting all the candles for Henry. He's the best oldest son to this crazy 0.78

00:17:25.940 bunch of ours. He's patient and he's loving and he's a very hard worker and he's a foodie and we

00:17:32.860 love celebrating him today. Like, come on, that's beautiful and peaceful and wholesome. At least to

00:17:38.040 me, that is the depiction, the embodiment of wholesome. As you saw, I mean, she posts her

00:17:43.600 content online. She's clearly not just a homemaker. She has this company with her husband.

00:17:48.020 She's an entrepreneur. She's a brand builder. She's a creator. She's a public figure, which

00:17:52.800 goes against the entire reason why she's in the news as of recent anyways. There's a best-selling 1.00

00:17:57.640 novel by Carol Claire Burke called Yesteryear, which totally pokes fun at, you know, makes the 0.94

00:18:04.880 whole trad wife movement very satirical. Many readers couldn't help but notice the parallels

00:18:09.280 between the main character, Natalie, in the book Yesteryear and Hannah or Ballerina Farm, saying

00:18:14.460 that this book was very clearly inspired by Ballerina Farm. A reporter asked Ballerina Farm

00:18:19.040 about this. And she rejects the trad wife, which I guess I haven't really defined trad wife. Maybe

00:18:24.340 I should. Trad wife is women who reject modern gender roles and reverted to a more old fashioned 1.00

00:18:31.440 definition of womanhood, right? Trad meaning traditional. So traditional wife. But Hannah 0.82

00:18:37.100 rejects this label altogether. She says, yes, I have nine kids. Yes, I love my husband. Yes,

00:18:41.400 I care about my family and my role as a mom to my children. But she says, I'm kind of the

00:18:47.300 furthest thing from traditional. You know, she has a high earning job as a contributor to their

00:18:52.260 family farm. She was a palerina at Juilliard. She says, those things don't really seem traditional 0.94

00:18:57.180 to me, but I don't pay attention to the labels or to the noise online. I just focus on my family

00:19:03.180 and I really do what God feels like he's leading me to do. And that sort of security and confidence,

00:19:09.040 confidence that you find in being a present mom, it drives people crazy. Let's watch some TikToks.

00:19:15.020 If you don't believe yet that patriarchy operates like a cult, look no further than this ballerina 1.00

00:19:20.760 lady. Whether we view their content as aspirational and we secretly want to be like them,

00:19:25.100 or whether we are critical of them and view them through a feminist lens that says the kind of

00:19:29.440 content they create and profit off of, the kind of content they are selling to us is patriarchal 0.93

00:19:35.600 anti-feminist content intent on subjugating women. It was, is, and always will be about 0.98

00:19:42.140 the subjugation of women and for some reason y'all just aren't grasping it the cruelty is the

00:19:48.240 point y'all i see hannah or ballerina farm getting mocked all of the time online and it's not just

00:19:56.120 hannah it's anyone who really loves motherhood and homemaking and family life and spending time

00:20:02.820 in the word and growing in your relationship with the lord individually but also with your your

00:20:07.700 husband or your spouse or your partner. Okay. I see people getting mocked for that all the time

00:20:12.680 online. People like feel the need to psychoanalyze Ballerina Farm. She, she must secretly

00:20:19.780 be unhappy, right? You know, is she trapped? Is her husband have her trapped in that marriage?

00:20:24.900 Is she brainwashed? Uh, there's this whole thing performative. She's constantly called

00:20:30.520 regressive. Her content is called patriarchal propaganda. She's accused all the time of

00:20:36.520 hiding her wealth and the help that she has. She's told constantly that she's the one who's 0.99

00:20:42.440 sending women back, taking us back in time. So just to be very clear, that same culture that

00:20:46.800 often celebrates and encourages that sexual autonomy narrative for young women treats the

00:20:52.940 visible choice of a large family and making that large family a domestic priority as dangerous.

00:21:00.100 And the response online should tell us something. The internet cannot handle a woman who finds joy 1.00

00:21:05.500 and contentment in a life that is not centered on self-optimization. And actually, I really do 1.00

00:21:12.180 believe this. I think the people mocking Ballerina Farm online live in this primal state of jealousy.

00:21:19.900 I think they're jealous of what Hannah has, how she portrays herself, and the things that she

00:21:25.300 finds joy in. People are oftentimes, I've learned this over the past few years, they're oftentimes

00:21:30.280 most offended by someone who seems happy, who lives a life that they like, a life that they

00:21:36.880 chose to live, mind you. And that's what Hannah does. She appears content, even how she's

00:21:41.920 responded to reporters over the years and just saying, look, I keep my head down. I don't focus

00:21:45.560 on the noise. That sort of contentment drives people crazy. And it's deeply threatening,

00:21:52.120 particularly when it comes from a life that modern elites oftentimes just dismiss.

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00:23:17.020 So to just compare the two worldviews, again, that of Emily Ratajkowski and that of Hannah 0.60

00:23:23.620 Nealman or Ballerina Farm. Ballerina Farm, Hannah, she talks about her greatest work being within the

00:23:29.900 walls, the four walls of her home. She talks about how motherhood has gotten sweeter with time and

00:23:35.300 with every child. You know, she loves the chaos. She never tries to hide the fact that motherhood

00:23:40.260 is in fact a sacrifice. She talks about her sacrifice all the time, or one of them. There

00:23:45.760 are many sacrifices you make, but the big one for her was she sacrificed the professional ballet path

00:23:50.840 because she wanted to, because family mattered more to her. Purpose and legacy for her, they come

00:23:58.120 from what her children will say about her, not from any sort of public opinion or climbing some

00:24:04.100 external or corporate ladder. She really frames it as leaning into, as I said, the talents that

00:24:10.060 God gave her, nurturing and building something entrepreneurial, but more importantly, a legacy

00:24:16.080 for her kids to carry on. And that was one thing I noticed when looking at these two stories.

00:24:20.500 For Hannah, her legacy is relational and it's multi-generational. She talks about what her

00:24:26.500 children will say about her and her farm and her family culture. These are things that will

00:24:30.900 outlast her. It didn't seem as if Emily thought much past, you know, the next guy she would be

00:24:36.700 under or on top of, I don't know. Emily was into self-gratification. I mean, literally even sexual

00:24:43.620 self-gratification. She talks about it in her piece. She's into self-gratification, immediate

00:24:48.940 gratification. There was nothing long-term about her thinking. And I'm not surprised by the response

00:24:54.340 that we have seen, especially from media outlets and online, because that's the world that we live

00:25:00.160 in. It is very self-serving. It is a very immediate. And so the thought of sacrifice,

00:25:04.860 I think society is increasingly uncomfortable with. We live in a very me, me, me, I, I, I

00:25:10.140 society. So someone else pouring into others is like a foreign concept. Comparing their view of

00:25:15.880 motherhood for Emily, it's this violent body altering rupture that requires active offsetting 1.00

00:25:25.180 through sexual agency and dating. It's real and raw. Like I said, in the essay, you have to give

00:25:32.360 it to her. She's, she is vulnerable in talking about the tearing and the scabs and the aching

00:25:38.100 tit, but the story arc is, uh, and then I went out and reclaimed my sexuality anyway. Uh, so

00:25:44.460 motherhood to Emily, it appears to me again, I'm just analyzing this and interpreting how I read

00:25:49.060 the piece. Motherhood to Emily is something that you survive and then transcend or balance with

00:25:55.580 hot single mob sexual energy. Uh, but for Hannah, it starts hard. Yes. Like she mentions this last 1.00

00:26:03.840 last pregnancy, her ninth one was very tough with a sciatic injury. So it starts hard for Hannah,

00:26:10.340 but it gets sweeter. Uh, she talks about loving being covered in babies. What a blessing, uh,

00:26:16.380 motherhood to Hannah, again, based on how I'm interpreting it is not an obstacle to overcome

00:26:22.540 or a season to escape, it's central to her. It's an irreplaceable vocation that reshapes

00:26:30.040 everything else, how you view the world, your perspective on every topic, including how she

00:26:36.020 runs her business. Clearly, those two frameworks and mindsets could not be more different on how

00:26:40.760 these women view moms, view other women. Also important to mention how they view men is

00:26:48.040 entirely different. Here's what I'll kind of wrap it up with. Obviously, both of these women are

00:26:53.480 exercising agency and free will. But these messages, they land differently in a culture 1.00

00:27:01.520 that's already struggling with loneliness, especially my generation, especially young

00:27:07.800 women, a generation that is struggling and suffering with feelings of isolation and

00:27:14.440 desperation and anxiety and high suicide rates and declining marriage and birth rates. Young women,

00:27:21.900 they do, they often report high anxiety about the future. You have one narrative that we discussed

00:27:26.780 today that feeds the idea to young women, especially that family and traditional forms

00:27:32.800 of femininity are obstacles to power. Those are hurdles. Those are in the way. And you have 1.00

00:27:39.500 another narrative that quietly demonstrates that they can be sources of power and beauty

00:27:46.420 and legacy. It's a really chaotic time, I believe this, to be a young woman. They're fed so many

00:27:54.080 conflicting messages. On one hand, they're told, you know, get married. And there's a level of

00:27:58.260 pressure to that. And I think a lot of times young women want that, but they have a hard time finding

00:28:02.060 their person. So they're stressed with that. On the other hand, they're told, you know,

00:28:06.920 You don't need to get married.

00:28:07.920 Go sleep around, have fun in your 20s.

00:28:09.660 That will be there later for you in life.

00:28:11.120 Go travel the world, climb the corporate ladder. 1.00

00:28:13.660 All sorts of conflicting messages for young women.

00:28:15.740 You don't have to want Hannah Nealman's life or Ballerina Farm's life. 0.91

00:28:20.300 You don't have to want Emily Ratajkowski's life. 0.97

00:28:24.380 But let's at least be honest that these women represent competing visions of life. 0.99

00:28:31.920 one that is primarily rooted in self-definition, one that is rooted in family and sacrifice.

00:28:40.880 And every young woman who's watching online, not just this show, but who has social media,

00:28:45.940 who consumes content, they're learning from both of those worldviews. My hope isn't that all young

00:28:53.640 women make identical choices and go out and have their farm and do the homestead trad wife thing.

00:28:59.120 My hope is that women are free to choose without being mocked, free to embrace motherhood without

00:29:06.640 apology, free to build beautiful homes and families if they desire, free to pursue careers

00:29:12.040 if they so desire, but above all, free to recognize that their worth doesn't come from likes or beauty

00:29:20.140 or status or sexuality or achievement. Their worth is inherent. It comes from

00:29:28.740 the Lord and every culture, it really does. It eventually reflects what its women are taught

00:29:36.520 to value most. So I guess the bigger question is, what are we teaching young women now?

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Gaines for Girls with Riley Gaines - June 23, 2026

Ballerina Farm, Emily Ratajkowski, and the Motherhood Myth Sold to Young Women ｜ The Riley Gaines Show

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