Gaines for Girls with Riley Gaines - Kappa Member： Men Don’t Belong in Our Sisterhood ｜ The Riley Gaines Show

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00:00:30.000 well alexis thanks for joining the riley gain show i'm super duper stoked to talk with you

00:00:40.280 um actually what kind of got my attention was i tweeted something about kappa kappa gamma

00:00:46.740 we actually just had two of the girls two of the plaintiffs who were suing uh the organization on

00:00:53.740 last week but um i tweeted about them and what they're going through and how kappa kappa gamma

00:00:58.260 is allowing men into their sororities. And I saw that you had tweeted that you were an active

00:01:03.400 Kappa Kappa Gamma member. And so I thought, what a fantastic thing to get someone who is currently

00:01:08.820 like immersed in all of it. First and foremost, the first thing actually that I want to ask you

00:01:13.880 is how strenuous the rushing process is, because I don't think a lot of people understand.

00:01:20.840 I quite frankly did not understand. I would see like the Alabama rush TikToks on my For You page,

00:01:27.580 but having never been involved in a sorority myself, I didn't realize like just how cutthroat

00:01:32.760 it is to be accepted into a sorority. So can you kind of talk about the rush process first and

00:01:39.020 foremost? Yes. So I went through spring COB. I did not go through like the fall rush process,

00:01:45.700 but I recruited this year. So I was kind of on the other side of it. Um, and I will say we had,

00:01:50.820 it's called like work week. So it's like a week where you're doing like content creation and you

00:01:54.600 do all these dances and like you're practicing like how to recruit girls so it's kind of like

00:01:58.740 a workshop for a whole week and I was there from like probably 8 a.m to like 5 p.m so it's kind of

00:02:03.280 like a full-time job it's a job and then after yes and then after that week you go into like

00:02:09.500 the recruitment process so there's three rounds and we had three rounds for the first round

00:02:14.620 and then or three days for the first round and then two days for the second round and then one

00:02:18.900 day for the third round and you're talking to girls from like 9 a.m to like even like 9 p.m like

00:02:25.440 it is all day and you get like maybe a break if you have like a round off but even then your break

00:02:30.020 is like an hour and you have to like eat and you have to do all this stuff you have to touch up

00:02:34.000 your makeup you're like going at it all the time and it's just it is a lot it is a lot yeah it

00:02:40.260 sounds like a lot it sounds like by the end of the day you're just like you want to be horizontal

00:02:45.800 and and you're yeah um yes and i'm of the mind that that small talk and talking to people especially

00:02:51.340 people you don't know it's an underrated skill it's hard to do and it is draining quite frankly

00:02:56.420 um so thank you for shedding light uh obviously you joined kappa kappa gamma what are some of

00:03:01.920 the benefits that maybe even immediately you felt from having this you know sisterhood that you had

00:03:08.960 been kind of gifted has that grown since like do you feel like the benefits of joining kappa

00:03:14.880 are noticeable? Yes, definitely. I think honestly, I can't really remember my life

00:03:21.780 like our social life pre sorority. I feel like once you join it, it kind of you're like so

00:03:26.400 immersed in the experience and it's like you're meeting so many girls and they become like your

00:03:29.500 best friends and like you have like your fam and then you hang out with them and do everything

00:03:33.680 together. So honestly, I feel like joining a sorority was definitely like a good decision.

00:03:38.280 And I like I love it. And the girls in my chapter are the sweetest people ever. And they're so

00:03:44.040 caring they're always there for you and it's just like i didn't grow up with a sister so i was always

00:03:49.100 like oh like sisterhood like oh like kind of cheesy whatever but it is genuine like a sisterhood and

00:03:53.660 you're always with like your friends and it's just such a good experience now when you learned

00:04:00.820 that kappa kappa gamma i guess in their definition of the word woman reasonably includes men as they

00:04:09.860 so said in the courtroom just last week um what did you make of it was this the first time that

00:04:15.940 you learned about your specific sororities bylaws and that this could potentially happen to you

00:04:21.920 at florida state yes so as soon as i heard about it i was honestly i wasn't even like i feel like

00:04:29.160 i was just disappointed like i was like this is like the one thing where i feel like this

00:04:32.620 shouldn't be happening it's like the protected sisterhood and i never would have expected it

00:04:37.360 to be like infiltrated by like biological men and i just feel like when that happened i was kind of

00:04:41.900 like what if this happens what you said what if this happens at fsu like i don't want to be a part

00:04:46.660 of that i would be so uncomfortable and i cannot imagine what those girls went through and i i it

00:04:51.780 like makes me so sad but i just think hearing about it i was kind of like thrown off like course

00:04:57.900 i was like this is a little intro like weird and i didn't really know what to think of it at the

00:05:03.440 time but like i feel like in the time we're living in like right now you don't expect something to

00:05:09.300 ever happen to you or like have it be associated with you and then when it does it's like a complete

00:05:13.300 smack in the face and it definitely makes you like rethink some of the like it's like joining

00:05:18.700 like a sorority i never expected this to happen so it's like what else could happen but i'm just

00:05:23.040 hoping that this never happens again and we like like contain it now so it doesn't spread to like

00:05:29.820 anywhere else. And I, of course, in your tweet that I saw, you were calling on Kappa to fix

00:05:36.160 their policies. Was there a level of, I guess, nervousness and, and publicly calling on your

00:05:45.220 sorority chapter or organization to, to make these changes? Because I, I mean, putting myself

00:05:52.520 in your shoes, granted, again, I wasn't in a sorority, but when I was in college and chose to,

00:05:58.720 you know, lend my voice and my experience to what I viewed as an injustice in our sports,

00:06:03.280 there was a level of fear. I didn't want to represent my university in a negative light,

00:06:08.740 um, or, or any of, you know, those authority figures who, who I did trust and who I did love

00:06:15.260 and who I do believe had our best interests at heart. Like there was a level of fear because

00:06:19.520 I didn't want to hurt anyone else. I guess, did you feel that? Like, was there a fear in

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00:06:58.820 Yes, it definitely was a little nerve-wracking.

00:07:01.900 I texted my dad and I was like, hi, this is the tweet that I'm going to send.

00:07:05.240 And he was like, he was like, buckle up. Anything can happen now.

00:07:08.100 And I was like, I'm ready. Like, I feel like I need to say something.

00:07:12.380 because I, I just feel like if I didn't say anything, I would be doing like an injustice

00:07:17.680 to myself because I started speaking out more publicly about my views. I was very involved

00:07:23.200 with like Charlie Kirk and Turning Point. And I think after his assassination that like woke up

00:07:27.620 something inside of me where I'm like, I'm not going to sit back and let's hope, hope someone

00:07:31.160 else does it for me. I'm just going to do it myself. And I think taking that first step is

00:07:35.700 something that I genuinely am so proud of myself for doing because it's scary. Like college campuses

00:07:40.260 are not very friendly to people who have opposing viewpoints and especially like in a sorority you

00:07:45.820 never know like like some of them are definitely like gonna like have problems with it some of

00:07:50.220 them will be supportive but i just feel like taking that first step genuinely helped me become

00:07:55.080 like the person i am today and being like so confident in my viewpoints of being able to

00:07:59.520 talk about it and just shed light on it and i'm very proud of that so yeah i agree well first of

00:08:06.900 I want to say I also text my dad anytime I'm like doing any public facing thing or I have a tweet

00:08:13.820 to put out I also text my dad so that makes me feel better he's like one of those chronic Fox

00:08:18.120 News watchers so I'm like dad what do you think about this so that's hilarious um and I agree

00:08:23.300 with you there's um on several fronts of course in talking about the radicalization that you felt

00:08:28.740 following Charlie's assassination but also just the feelings of of liberation when you speak freely

00:08:36.240 and when you speak honestly, more importantly, you feel like a weight has been lifted off of

00:08:41.280 your shoulders. What is like the current climate of being a conservative on a college campus now?

00:08:47.500 Obviously, you go to Florida State, which is in the state of Florida. So most people would,

00:08:52.340 you know, think it's in Florida. You don't have to worry as a conservative. Is that a fair

00:08:58.020 assumption? Or what's the current climate for a conservative on a college campus like FSU?

00:09:03.680 i i feel like fsu is definitely maybe like 60 40 and i honestly just feel like the democrats and

00:09:11.780 like the leftists they're just louder so it's harder to feel like you're like there's other

00:09:15.160 people like with you when they're like so overbearing and being like well you're like

00:09:18.900 this and you're that and i'm just like and i feel like something that also opened my eyes was the

00:09:23.340 one year um of charlie kirk's assassination um there's an app that we have and it's called

00:09:28.720 Yik Yak and it was just the worst like so vile like it's hard to like not get upset about it but

00:09:35.520 I also can't be like it's hard to speak out when there's so many people who have this like one like

00:09:40.920 thought and ideology and like I'm like the one person being like hey this isn't right and then

00:09:44.400 it just kind of gets pushed down by everyone else being like oh like whatever like we don't care

00:09:47.800 like so I feel like on FSU's campus specifically I don't think it's as bad as other campuses but

00:09:54.580 it definitely feels like you're kind of isolated but you also find your people like i'm a part of

00:10:00.220 turning point us or like the turning point usa chapter fsu and finding your people and like

00:10:06.220 being able to like talk about things that are happening and like certain um like instances on

00:10:11.000 campus it's just easier to have that sense of like community when everyone else it feels like

00:10:15.380 everyone else around you is against you it is true and i always say that like having i call them like

00:10:21.260 anchors in your life like people you can lean on rely on people who keep you grounded um yeah those

00:10:28.340 are those people in my life are really important and i would be a wreck without them so i i agree

00:10:33.860 with you the sentiment of of having people that um you know not saying you only have to surround

00:10:39.140 yourself by like-minded people and live in this bubble like i think oftentimes leftists do they'll

00:10:43.900 like cut off family members if they find out god forbid they voted for donald trump like that's

00:10:48.900 the cardinal sin the greatest sin that you can commit is voting for donald trump yes and don't

00:10:52.700 even get me started on the triple trumpers the people who voted for him three times um the left

00:10:57.880 will generally like or at least the i should say the far left they will like cut off family members

00:11:02.780 for that so i'm not saying you need to only be around like-minded people but i do think having

00:11:07.700 that sort of sounding board is really important and and feeling like you're not alone um so

00:11:13.580 that's cool what about okay i asked you this prior to recording but i think it's important

00:11:17.840 and super cool what are you studying and what are you wanting to do post college yes so right now i

00:11:26.560 am studying political science and then i'm double majoring in criminology and my path right now is

00:11:32.820 i'm going to go to law school and become hopefully a prosecuting attorney and if for some reason um

00:11:38.620 you know like that doesn't work out i'm also super involved in like politics i want to get involved

00:11:42.740 with like turning point and like future like do stuff in the future with them as well so i can

00:11:47.600 always i i would be so fine going into politics like maybe making my own podcast doing like certain

00:11:53.360 things but for like right now i'm definitely like leaning towards like law and like prosecuting

00:11:58.700 attorney but i could do i'm down to do both honestly i could do both were you able to vote

00:12:05.300 in the 2024 election were you 18 yet i missed it by a month i was so sad yeah well

00:12:12.640 it obviously we're approaching midterms now and you are able to vote is I guess I should frame

00:12:20.020 it as this what are some of the driving issues that you think will get young people I think even

00:12:26.220 more specifically young women out to vote and more to the point to vote for the conservative

00:12:33.620 option um yes I definitely feel like affordability that is the one thing I hear a lot of people talk

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00:12:51.560 that genuinely like byron donald's is a great example he's going out there and talking about

00:12:56.300 um doing all these things for like tax cuts and all this stuff so i'm super like excited to like

00:13:00.860 vote for him and i'm planning on doing that and um i just think more young people need to vote as

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00:15:07.760 comment. Do you think young people want to see young people in elected positions? Because I feel

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00:15:31.620 um do you think young people want to see young people representing them

00:15:35.760 um 100 i think having that like common like ground where you're like oh they're not like

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00:16:12.520 going to be so transformative for the conservative movement. And I think we also just need people

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00:16:37.220 or like religion so i feel like just having that connection would definitely be like impactful and

00:16:43.300 they we need to have younger political candidates for sure i agree with you i think especially with

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00:17:07.100 who he is, you know,

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00:17:16.900 Mitch McConnell in a wheelchair.

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00:17:53.880 yeah it's nothing it's very sad i hate it for him too so um i totally agree with you we need

00:18:01.020 younger people. And you mentioned like the disconnect. The world that we're living in now

00:18:06.440 is not our grandparents or even the same country that our parents grew up in, especially when it

00:18:13.200 comes to things like affordability. The unfortunate reality in today's world, especially

00:18:18.400 if you're living in like a, you know, like I said, I live in Nashville. It's really,

00:18:25.400 really hard for families to only have one income. And so I think oftentimes conservatives,

00:18:33.280 you know, we like to push traditional values and we like to embrace the idea of motherhood and

00:18:39.240 stay at home moms. And I love that. I think it's awesome. I think it's one of the most fruitful

00:18:42.740 things as a woman you can do if you have the ability to do. But that's kind of the kicker 0.87

00:18:46.900 in today's economy who really has the ability to do that. So all that to say, I think younger

00:18:54.020 people get it it's not our grandparents country um so i'm right there with you um alexis thanks

00:18:59.700 for joining it's cool just to get the perspective of someone who's younger who's living it um 0.97

00:19:05.000 especially with all the kappa stuff um which is crazy uh what are you kind of hoping to see out 1.00

00:19:11.820 of that and expecting like do you expect to see any sort of accountability from the organization 1.00

00:19:17.640 or do you have reason to believe that they will continue to i guess push their virtue signaling

00:19:23.600 wokeness unfortunately i think the time we're living in now i feel like that's kind of like

00:19:30.880 the expectation is like they like most people are going to be like well like we agree with this and

00:19:37.440 they're like okay well you agree with this so we're going to support this and i i just i honestly

00:19:41.580 don't see i just hope it never happens again one and done okay never happening again but i just

00:19:47.080 don't know if there's going to be like a a strict change i think this is definitely bringing light

00:19:51.840 to the situation and this is amazing and I'm so grateful that this is coming out now but if it

00:19:57.160 happens in the future I don't want to say I wouldn't be surprised but I just feel like the

00:20:02.060 path we're going down with like them not taking accountability and them like going around the 0.98

00:20:06.260 definition of a woman I just don't see it getting any better unless there's strict changes and like

00:20:12.740 there's multiple people like speaking out about it and like staying strong in their values but

00:20:17.700 i'm hoping i'm wrong and it changes and it never happens again but i just feel like the way it's

00:20:22.500 going it's not looking good but hopefully more people speak out it never happens again

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00:21:31.500 learn that 26 panhellenic chapters if that's the correct verbiage um other sororities i guess

00:21:40.160 um, organizationally, like at the highest level, um, also include men and their definition of

00:21:46.340 women. So it's not just Kappa. I don't know if that makes it worse or better. You're not alone

00:21:51.220 in your sorority that could allow a man to live in your living quarters. 26 Panhellenic chapters

00:21:57.860 do. So crazy stuff. There's lots of work to be done all around, but thank you for joining in

00:22:03.000 and sharing your perspective on all of the above. Yes. Thank you.

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Gaines for Girls with Riley Gaines - September 22, 2026

Kappa Member： Men Don’t Belong in Our Sisterhood ｜ The Riley Gaines Show

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