Gaines for Girls with Riley Gaines - Madi Prewett Troutt on Life After The Bachelor, Leaving Social Media & Finding Identity

00:00:00.480 Recently, our company's softball team lost the big game by one run.

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00:00:30.000 and so this world will say chase status chase relationships chase you know fame and glory and

00:00:36.000 all these things and you'll finally be satisfied but we can take a look at celebrities you know

00:00:40.160 right now and see really quick that that's not going to satisfy um okay so you guys well you

00:00:50.640 recently decided to take a social media hiatus i want to hear about this like what went into this

00:00:57.120 decision how long has it been since you've been off social media and how are you feeling now yeah

00:01:03.200 grant actually got off social media first so he started the trend okay so it is it's like a family

00:01:08.880 thing okay i followed he started it and he's probably nine months ahead of me um so i am

00:01:16.640 gosh i don't even know i got off in january so i'm horrible at math whatever that is

00:01:21.040 what month are we even in right now okay so about eight months yeah so okay we're eight months in

00:01:27.440 and riley when i tell you it has been the most freeing thing in my life i feel so much more

00:01:35.960 present everywhere that i am and everywhere that i go i'm not i don't have all these preconceived

00:01:41.360 you know understandings of what everyone's doing and what they're up to it's like i'm just like

00:01:46.500 how are you and whatever you tell me is exactly what I believe and what I know and so it's and

00:01:52.860 it's forced me I think to be even more intentional with my relationships to text my friends and be

00:01:57.040 like send me pictures send me updates I want to see your child like I want to know what's going

00:02:00.560 on in your life for those who don't live here and then for those who live near me just to be

00:02:04.500 more intentional with spending time together weekly and all the things so it has been such

00:02:09.100 a gift I also feel like for me when I came off The Bachelor like my my whole life just flipped

00:02:15.240 upside down almost instantly so fast it was so quick i mean i was in foster care and adoption

00:02:20.500 right before the show living a very like just normal like hidden life i guess in alabama and

00:02:27.540 had been through you know seminary and and wanted to teach the bible but never imagined that i would

00:02:34.160 be where i am today or that i would have gone through what i've been through but when i came

00:02:38.220 off the show and just like having this platform having all these opinions about me there was just

00:02:42.260 a lot of healing that needed to happen over the time, over the past like four years or so that

00:02:50.380 have. But I also think that this year in particular, the Lord just spoke to me at the beginning of the

00:02:56.260 year that this was a year of rest and restoration. And I just believe he wanted to restore so much

00:03:02.240 of like my identity and who I am apart from anything on social media, my purpose and my

00:03:08.000 calling and who I am apart from anything I can produce or anything that I can do because so much

00:03:13.260 I think of the world we live in today is our identity and our purpose is tied to what we can

00:03:18.800 produce and in what other people see and I just wanted to be at this place where I'm like Maddie

00:03:25.100 is enough as a mom as a wife as a friend as a human being apart from anything she can produce

00:03:31.800 that is seen and praised by other people

00:03:33.780 or criticized and hated by other people.

00:03:37.140 And it has been so healing for me.

00:03:40.500 And it also just, you know,

00:03:42.120 it fights that spirit of constant, like,

00:03:44.740 thirst for more or comparison or whatever it is.

00:03:47.900 And I just wanted to get to a place where I was like,

00:03:50.200 God, you are worth it all.

00:03:51.880 Like, if you ask of this, if you ask for this platform,

00:03:55.620 like, I'm giving it to you.

00:03:56.940 And I don't know when I'll get back on.

00:03:58.680 I don't know if I ever will.

00:03:59.980 I think I will.

00:04:00.520 but I'm just at a place where it's been so freeing and healing.

00:04:04.940 I'm so present with my daughter.

00:04:06.200 I have like the capacity to be like,

00:04:07.680 how do I want to be creative?

00:04:09.100 And, you know, think of ideas of how I can like disciple her today.

00:04:13.120 And we can make, you know, obstacle courses

00:04:15.500 and think about how we can be strong and courageous and face our fears.

00:04:18.080 And, you know, you can just like be creative.

00:04:20.480 And I think when I was constantly on my phone

00:04:22.400 and had social media weighing on me,

00:04:24.180 it was just hard for me to be as present and as creative and as free.

00:04:27.920 that's um it's so cool to hear because i find myself and honestly i feel like convicted now

00:04:35.140 because you do like i've noticed this with my attention span now and i'm sure it's from

00:04:40.740 tiktok or scrolling and you see like the 15 second videos even watching a movie feels like

00:04:46.420 laborious to me like it feels too long it feels too long to sit down for an hour and a half and

00:04:51.900 not pick up my phone like i want to be able to scroll if i'm bored in a scene to the next clip

00:04:56.240 and so listening to you say this like do you feel like you have more time in your day like you must

00:05:01.200 feel like I think my screen time I would probably be embarrassed if I looked at what my screen

00:05:05.700 screen time is on my phone because so much of your your job or your work or what you feel like

00:05:11.300 is your job or your work is on your phone I bet my screen time would be like probably six or so

00:05:17.240 hours a day and so I think if I got that time back in my day what would you do with it like

00:05:22.900 you would feel almost like invincible, right? Like you have so much more time in your day,

00:05:27.060 don't you? Totally. And just finding ways to replace it with something so much better. Because

00:05:31.340 if you don't get to the root, like you can still make yourself busy with other things, right? Like

00:05:35.500 I can take those hours and still, you know, find ways to be a busy body, right? But finding ways

00:05:41.740 to quiet my mind and love and serve those in front of me and spend time in God's word. And I'm not

00:05:47.480 always great at that. Like I'll still find, I'll still find ways around it, right? Like I'll still

00:05:51.240 like get on youtube and watch youtube videos or i'll like you know i'll watch like some i don't

00:05:57.440 know chosen episode or something like i i will still find ways sometimes and um to kind of like

00:06:03.400 feed that busy body spirit that we all have to fight but i think most of what i have seen and

00:06:11.240 learned through this experience is just that we were wired for the stillness like we were wired

00:06:16.820 to be bored like we i say we are all the time i feel like we as human beings weren't

00:06:23.560 designed to consume as much as we do we keep up with like all the celebrity sex scandals and the

00:06:29.860 weather and the natural disasters that are happening overseas and and what's happening

00:06:34.000 in washington dc like it is so much to consume on a daily basis and i feel like so much of what we

00:06:40.060 consume is outrageous. And therefore it makes us feel outraged. Right. Do you watch the news at all

00:06:47.180 anymore? Like, do you keep up with what's going on? Because I think I very scarcely am home and

00:06:54.620 sitting down enough on the couch to like turn on the TV. And so a lot of my news is from social

00:06:58.820 media channels. And so I feel like if that was removed, I don't know how I would keep up with

00:07:02.620 the news. So do you see what's going on? Truly through my parents and in-laws is like my only

00:07:07.540 form of being updated on what's going on in the world because we really don't watch TV. So like,

00:07:13.780 I really am not getting a whole lot of, obviously if there's anything big going on, like I want to

00:07:19.960 know about it. And so I have people that will inform me and let me know, or my parents will

00:07:24.340 let me know. Um, but I really do. Recently, our company softball team lost the big game by one

00:07:32.080 run. Then Dale tried to console us with the quote, winning isn't everything. Well, Dale and I are very

00:07:39.760 different. I get early payout from Bet365. If my team goes up big, I get paid out instantly, even

00:07:45.780 if they blow the lead later. Sound familiar, Dale? Thanks, Bet365. Must be 19 or older Ontario only.

00:07:52.480 Please play responsibly. If you have questions or concerns about your gambling or the gambling

00:07:55.080 of someone close to you, please go to ConnexOntario.ca and see supply. I don't know. I just

00:07:59.220 so believe like we were saying that our minds were so created for the right here right now and

00:08:05.000 not even to be so like interconnected with what's happening all around the world like i just so

00:08:10.480 believe that you know i mean back in the day like what they had to like walk by foot or by horseback

00:08:15.500 like they didn't have the ability to necessarily know what was going on in a different part of the

00:08:20.240 world and they lived in they had community with those right around them they would go from you

00:08:25.100 know house to house of like my you know their version of hanging out and doing something fun

00:08:29.920 was going over to so-and-so's house and you know creating some kind of fun game and I just think

00:08:34.860 we've gotten so far from that now it's like we don't even know our neighbors we don't even know

00:08:39.140 how to have community we feel so lonely and isolated but yet we're so interconnected we're

00:08:43.620 so online but yet we feel like does anybody really know me does anybody like does anyone

00:08:48.460 know what I'm feeling and going through and you know even if I was feeling all these things I

00:08:52.720 I don't even know who to call or who to tell.

00:08:54.300 And we're going through that constantly because we've lost the way that we were created to be,

00:08:59.460 which is to have community around us, to do life on life with people, to have still moments.

00:09:04.940 You know, God's word says, be still and know that I am God.

00:09:07.820 How are we going to know that he is God if we're not still, if we're constantly going and rushing and busy?

00:09:14.180 And so I just have seen in my own life, like how powerful it is to literally go outside, sit in the grass, look up at the sky, watch the birds.

00:09:22.060 you know think about the things of God spend time in his presence um even outside of like reading

00:09:29.120 the bible it's like even just sitting with him and just being with him and how much healing that is

00:09:35.520 for myself but also just how it creates such more closeness with God that when I'm in those busier

00:09:42.680 seasons and when I was on social media it was so easy like we were saying to fill all of those

00:09:47.560 little spare moments with well I gotta post this or I gotta see what's going on here or I gotta

00:09:51.340 and I constantly felt pulled in a million directions.

00:09:54.520 And yet my soul was so craving peace and rest.

00:09:58.200 And since getting off social media,

00:09:59.980 I've just seen that rest restored.

00:10:01.780 I've seen that peace restored.

00:10:03.380 And that might not be the answer for everyone,

00:10:05.800 but we were saying even right before this,

00:10:07.300 you were kind of saying some things

00:10:08.460 that you've implemented in your life,

00:10:09.900 which I think is so beautiful.

00:10:11.480 And I think asking God, like, what does that look like for me?

00:10:15.120 How can I create rest and peace in my life

00:10:18.440 and in my schedule to where I can be still and know that you are God.

00:10:22.400 So for us, and it's been this way since Margo was born,

00:10:27.580 which lines up almost to the day of when Charlie was assassinated.

00:10:32.660 His last and final book was Stop, Honor God in the Name of Sabbath.

00:10:37.100 And I read that book, and it really spoke to me.

00:10:41.540 And I realized how caught up that I get.

00:10:44.320 And inevitably, right?

00:10:45.560 Like it happens.

00:10:46.520 it's natural I guess although that's not an excuse I would imagine there are many people

00:10:50.380 who are watching this who who are kind of feeling it placed on their heart right now too

00:10:53.800 because we're all guilty of it of just how caught up I would be in the news cycle or or yeah feeling

00:10:59.280 like you have to like post or whatever and they're gonna they're gonna not notice or they're going to

00:11:03.880 notice if I don't post I guarantee you no one is looking that hard now that I've taken the time

00:11:09.000 and just just had the willingness in conjunction with my husband too he's really been kind of like

00:11:16.220 the forcing driver of this, but we put our phones away on the weekend. Um, it has been the most

00:11:21.160 fruitful thing. You feel so much more rested when Monday comes around and you pick up your phone

00:11:27.960 again. It has been the best thing for us so much. What does that look like practically? Are you

00:11:33.160 literally like turning your phone off? Uh, we'll keep it on, but if we're leaving the house,

00:11:38.680 generally I'll leave my phone at home. Um, so, you know, even to go to church or to go to

00:11:45.460 out to to eat or whatever it is I don't I just don't even bring my phone because I don't want

00:11:50.540 the distraction and so when I'm home we're spending time with with our little baby and my

00:11:55.960 husband works throughout the week and so it's you know at nighttime we get time both parents and the

00:12:01.500 baby all three of us together but he's he's gone a lot he's driving all over he works in construction

00:12:07.300 so he's always on a job site doing something and so we value that nighttime it feels very sacred

00:12:12.340 but the weekends too and so you get that full-time as a family unit to really pour into each other

00:12:18.400 um is really really special yeah yeah it's cool but i would be so i guess i kind of question for

00:12:26.080 you and more so i'm curious do you miss kind of the good parts of social media because there are

00:12:31.400 good there's good that can come from it like even just like you said being able to connect with your

00:12:36.560 friends and and you know maybe promote other like conferences or events that you're going to

00:12:41.900 to spread the word of the Lord, you can do that on socials. Like, do you miss that part of it?

00:12:46.140 I don't miss anything. Oh, that's so good to hear Maddie. I don't miss anything. I,

00:12:52.300 I mean, my, my podcast page is still running. I have someone who runs that for me, um, just so

00:12:57.940 I can still, you know, speak truth and reach people in a way that it's actual like long form

00:13:04.280 content. And it's like, Hey, here's, you know, here's like what God's revealing to me or speaking

00:13:09.960 to me or her you know I'll have my co-host come on every now and then and just like ask some

00:13:13.860 questions and we'll just kind of have conversations but that has really been my only form but I don't

00:13:20.300 even have access I don't even have it on my phone and that has been so good I think I didn't even

00:13:26.980 realize how much I have to fight this desire to be seen and this desire to be relevant and since

00:13:36.480 getting off social media i just felt like in my heart that god was just laying on my heart like

00:13:43.360 maddie fight to be irrelevant just fight to be irrelevant just fight to put yourself in positions

00:13:47.840 where you're not seen you're not praised you're not known and just serve and just love and just

00:13:53.440 be and let me heal those parts of your heart where you so desperately want to be seen or you want to

00:13:58.880 feel important or you want to feel whatever it is and i think too i'm just a very competitive person

00:14:05.200 um you get it with being you know when you're an athlete like you grow up just everything is like

00:14:11.820 performance and winning and that can filter into everything in life and so for me I just think it

00:14:18.640 was it's just been so healing in so many ways so there's really no aspect that I miss of social

00:14:23.340 media to be honest um I think I'd be so overwhelmed if I even like got on right now all the apps have

00:14:29.460 change too you'd be like how do i'm like how do i work navigating this yeah no literally i i really

00:14:34.800 don't miss anything i also think i just constantly felt like oh i need to do more like i'm not doing

00:14:42.460 enough i need to do more and it was just a constant like exhaustion that i was just battling in so many

00:14:47.900 ways and so i've just felt so freeing that's what i think is so funny is so many people riley will

00:14:52.540 be like maddie it's so cool like the sacrifice that you've made of getting off social media i'm

00:14:56.660 like sacrifice yeah this is the best decision i've ever made like not sacrifice it's actually

00:15:02.160 like so freeing to the point where i'm like okay lord if you ask me to get back on i want to be

00:15:05.780 like i want to be faithful to that i want to be obedient to that and not scared but it really has

00:15:10.460 just been nothing but amazing what's it been like watching grant become a dad i think especially a

00:15:17.040 little girl um and i ask this because in our experience of course you love your husband prior

00:15:24.500 to bringing life into this world. But at least for me, that love has deepened in a way. And now

00:15:32.420 I say the most attractive thing about my husband, who's objectively very handsome, like six foot

00:15:37.140 four, he's got this, you know, super awesome thick beard. The most attractive thing about him

00:15:42.720 is how great of a dad he is. And so what's that kind of transition been like watching Grant now

00:15:48.520 become a dad. It's been so cool. I think even just the gospel, like feeling like when I read

00:15:55.600 scripture, it feels like it gives a whole new meaning to like father and child and just who we

00:16:02.640 are to God and how much he loves us. And also as a child is so needy and can do truly like nothing

00:16:09.760 apart from a parent and like they can be covered in their own crap. And they're like, yeah, I can

00:16:15.140 do nothing i'm just gonna say her and scream you know and we're just like yep you literally can do

00:16:19.760 nothing apart from me is just so similar and how we are to god and it's been so cool to see grant

00:16:24.740 really step in in such a like he's so fun and joyful and playful and so she's getting that

00:16:30.960 aspect but also he's just such an incredible leader and she just like looks up to him so much

00:16:35.720 but it's really sweet like every time he comes home she gets so excited and she's just like

00:16:39.900 jumping up and down like the biggest smile she's like dad dad dad like runs up to him you think

00:16:44.080 She's a mom's girl.

00:16:45.600 I do think she's a mommy's girl.

00:16:46.840 Yeah, duh, right?

00:16:47.880 I know, I know.

00:16:49.300 But we also just spend so much more time together,

00:16:51.500 but she loves playing with her daddy.

00:16:54.280 So I think it's just, yeah, it's just different.

00:16:56.540 Obviously she's a year and a half,

00:16:57.960 which means you're about a year and a half postpartum.

00:17:01.020 So how are you feeling as, you know, yourself now?

00:17:05.040 Yeah, it took probably, I would say 10 months

00:17:08.680 to where I felt like my body started feeling

00:17:10.680 like my body again.

00:17:11.820 and i felt fully just honestly like myself again and that was longer than i expected i think i

00:17:19.520 so had the mindset of like you're saying we're i'm just gonna bounce back like it's gonna be so

00:17:23.160 quick my body's gonna go back to like what it was and everything's been great i would say

00:17:28.520 relatively speaking i was very blessed to have like my postpartum experience was hard physically

00:17:34.920 but i would say it was um i don't want to say easy emotionally and mentally but i would say

00:17:40.980 It was easier than some of my friends who have gone through harder postpartum experiences emotionally and mentally.

00:17:47.120 And truly, one of the biggest things that was such a blessing to me was memorizing scripture.

00:17:53.220 I like every time I had to wait to feed, I just was like memorizing scripture or any time I just was.

00:17:59.280 I don't know, because my time with the Lord looked so different than what I was used to of getting to go to coffee shops and just like sit there for hours, open with my Bible and have my cute coffee and kind of what I was used to.

00:18:10.500 And so I knew I had to change maybe what was the normal.

00:18:15.500 And for me, that looked like just memorizing scripture.

00:18:18.140 And I really felt like that renewed my mind and helped me even just like love Hosanna and love my husband to the best that I could.

00:18:26.900 And so that was huge for me.

00:18:28.340 And I would say community.

00:18:29.460 I had so many people that would just like show up in the times where it was really hard.

00:18:33.280 we had a kind of a scary moment right when i came home from the hospital with hosanna because she

00:18:39.160 hadn't peed or pooped in like over 30 hours which is like so scary especially the peeing part um

00:18:45.820 like they should be peeing and so she had not and that was so so stressful and i was crying like

00:18:51.800 i'm failing as a mom i something's wrong she's not getting enough milk and i was freaking out

00:18:57.540 and having come apart and i just had all these friends show up with frozen breast milk and to

00:19:02.640 pray and to just be there. And it was such a game changer. Like I was literally having a breakdown

00:19:08.860 and just didn't know what I was doing. You don't know, you're learning everything for the first.

00:19:14.180 And so that was so helpful. And then just having, you know, I had a lactation consultant come over

00:19:19.820 and you just like, you do the things that you need to do. But I do think community, God's word

00:19:24.340 was so helpful. Communicating a lot with Grant, like I need this from you, like this would be

00:19:29.520 helpful and sometimes that looks like hey you should go get a good night's sleep in the bed

00:19:34.920 upstairs like I'm gonna let you go get a good night's sleep um and then when you come back

00:19:39.660 well rested then I'm gonna I'm gonna take some more naps and I need you to watch her more and so

00:19:43.820 I think just communicating with your spouse and what you need so all of that was was very helpful

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00:22:04.520 You're going to be in these high pressure, high stress situations. Maybe there's conflict,

00:22:09.380 whatever it is if you can resort back to that because your brain it's a muscle too yeah and so

00:22:14.880 being able to exercise it in that way that's that's super duper cool what are some things that

00:22:20.060 you and grant do to keep a christ-centered marriage and i ask this because again there's

00:22:25.940 a lot of young women who watch and who listen uh who are striving for that maybe they've had

00:22:31.640 trouble finding even the right guy to help you know fulfill that in their lives and what they're

00:22:36.760 looking for so what are some of the things that you guys do to to do that yeah we love we pray

00:22:43.180 together every single night before bed that changed our marriage so much I feel like that

00:22:47.880 first year of marriage was really hard I don't know if you can relate at all that first year

00:22:52.260 marriage for us was really a lot of life changes a lot of life change we we had just moved cities

00:22:57.080 we had just changed jobs we were newly married we were forming now new community it was a lot

00:23:03.840 of new at one time. But more than anything, I mean, marriage is a mirror. And so it just exposes

00:23:09.260 everything that you've tolerated or you've thought you've dealt with or whatever it may be. It just

00:23:14.360 exposes it all, the good and the bad, right? And so this person's seeing you so up close and

00:23:19.640 they're seeing the best of you and the worst of you. And so that first year was really, really

00:23:23.240 hard. And for me, truly what changed our marriage, helped our marriage, healed our marriage, blessed

00:23:29.040 our marriage was the power of prayer and I saw it even just in the power of a praying wife like I

00:23:35.100 went from just complaining and frustrated all the time with just you know why are we fighting why

00:23:41.900 are we having the same conversations again again why doesn't he get me or whatever it may be right

00:23:45.300 and I just was like I'm gonna start praying but it started out very selfish I was like oh lord

00:23:51.360 please change him please change him and show him how to love me because he ain't loving me well

00:23:55.140 right? And as soon as I started praying that, you know, a couple of weeks into that, it was like

00:24:00.540 the Holy Spirit convicted my heart and brought me to this place of, no, no, I'm not being the

00:24:04.960 godly wife God's called me to be. I'm not being a helpmate. I'm being a hindrance. Like I'm not

00:24:09.560 being a servant. I'm being selfish. Like I'm not being who God has called me to be. And yet I'm

00:24:14.940 demanding him to be who God's called him to be. And so it was a very convicting time. And I just

00:24:20.260 started praying, like, instead of even focusing on him, I was just like, Lord, show me how to be a

00:24:23.920 godly wife. Show me how to be a godly wife. And I would just say that first and foremost for anyone

00:24:28.180 listening who is married. Just ask God to help you be the woman that God's called you to be,

00:24:33.780 the wife God's called you to be, the mom God has called you to be. And watch how that even

00:24:39.120 transforms your marriage. And still pray for your spouse also. But that was huge for us.

00:24:44.540 And then praying together. We started praying together every single night. And just the unity

00:24:48.660 that that creates like obviously we think about you know sex and sexual intimacy being such a

00:24:54.280 unifying thing and it is and I would say the the most intimate thing is spiritual intimacy and so

00:25:00.620 anything that you can do that just cultivates such a spiritual closeness and unity and intimacy and

00:25:07.260 so for us that's praying together often last night we took communion together and so even just taking

00:25:12.900 time, maybe once a week where you come together and you remember just the sacrifice of Jesus and

00:25:19.480 what he went through for us and reflecting on that and remembering that and worshiping him and

00:25:23.560 also praising him that he rose from the grave and that his spirit lives inside of you and just

00:25:28.000 taking that time to just remember, reflect, worship together. Because I think it is easy

00:25:33.500 to also have like two separate spiritual journeys where it's like, oh, that's his faith. This is my

00:25:38.540 faith this is my quiet time this is his quiet time and just fighting to like also have moments

00:25:44.080 where you can do that together married i i don't love that in dating personally everyone has

00:25:50.740 different opinions about that but in marriage um i believe that's one of the most beautiful powerful

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00:28:56.820 It's so cool to hear because that's a really rare mindset for people to have.

00:29:02.480 And it does make me reflect on my relationship with Louie because we're in different, I guess,

00:29:09.120 occupationally different areas and different realms and so he does his construction stuff

00:29:14.140 I'm over here he's the biggest support for me um anytime I have to travel somewhere he's right

00:29:20.800 there with me I actually will tell people like I'm like I won't travel if my husband and my baby

00:29:25.580 can't come because I very much do see us as a unit like when I do something I want it to be all of us

00:29:31.740 but it's a good point I don't feel like I as a wife have done a fantastic job of really really

00:29:38.180 pouring into him even even so much as even this sounds bad but acting interested in what he does

00:29:43.860 I think a lot of times in construction it's like so over my head that he'll get home at the end of

00:29:48.620 the day and I I don't find myself like oh like show me your concrete you poured today but I think

00:29:54.380 it would mean a lot to to even so much it's a small thing even to act interested in what he's

00:30:01.240 doing. Um, so that's, yeah, that's, that's really good. And it, like I said, it's, it's just really

00:30:07.500 rare to hear, I think, especially for, for young women to possess that mindset. What would be your

00:30:12.900 message to young women who are watching this, listening to this, um, who maybe feel like their

00:30:18.920 purpose is wrapped up in their identity outside of Christ? Um, again, maybe they're married,

00:30:26.360 Maybe they're searching for that person.

00:30:29.200 What would your message, I guess, to young women be right now?

00:30:32.620 I think about this moment in the Gospels when Peter and all the disciples are having this conversation with Jesus and Jesus looks at them and says, who do you say that I am?

00:30:42.560 And in that moment, Peter steps out and he's like, you are the Messiah, you are the Christ.

00:30:47.600 And it was in that moment when he declared who Jesus was, where he discovered who he was and what his purpose was.

00:30:54.060 Because then Jesus responded back, and you are Peter, you are the rock, and on this rock

00:30:58.420 I will build my church.

00:30:59.880 And so he was given in that moment his identity and his purpose.

00:31:03.580 And so I just say, when you know who he is, is only when you'll be able to know who you

00:31:08.280 are.

00:31:08.580 And if you don't know who he is, then you'll never be able to know who you truly are, because

00:31:13.000 we were made in God's image.

00:31:15.520 And so if we don't know God, how are we going to know who we are?

00:31:19.080 And so having that relationship with God and asking all those questions to Him of who do

00:31:24.740 you say that I am?

00:31:25.920 Why am I wired the way that I am?

00:31:27.920 Why have you made me the way that I am?

00:31:29.440 There were so many moments where I questioned the way that I was wired.

00:31:33.320 Like, why am I so strong?

00:31:34.640 Why am I so stubborn?

00:31:35.680 Like, whatever it may be of God, why did you make me this way?

00:31:38.380 And I think just like frustrated with my personality type.

00:31:42.100 And as I've just sat with the Lord and He's just shown me, no Maddie, it's just all about

00:31:46.480 how you steward that strength.

00:31:47.960 and the best strength is when it comes under submission to me.

00:31:52.100 Like you have to submit that strength to me

00:31:53.860 and under my authority and under my name.

00:31:56.280 And I've just learned so much, I think over the years

00:31:58.800 of just that God is so intentional

00:32:00.760 and he doesn't make mistakes

00:32:02.020 and just giving him all of you,

00:32:03.820 not just a part of your life, but all of your life.

00:32:06.100 Like he wants all of your heart.

00:32:08.940 That's what we're called to do

00:32:10.040 is love the Lord our God with all of our hearts.

00:32:11.960 And when we give him all of us,

00:32:13.600 that's when we really discover who we are,

00:32:15.820 why we're here, what we're called to do. Um, and I think it's so easy, especially in America to

00:32:21.700 have like a compartmentalized faith, you know, you have your relationship with God on Sundays,

00:32:26.560 you have your, you know, 15 minutes in the morning, quiet time. And that's the extent of

00:32:31.240 your relationship with God. But when he truly becomes your everything and everything you think

00:32:35.880 about and everything that you do is filtered through, does this glorify God? Does this honor

00:32:40.180 God? Is this in alignment with me saying that God is the God of my life? And thinking through that

00:32:47.060 with your finances, with your friendships, with your relationships, with your time, with your

00:32:52.180 money, with everything, right? And so that has been so huge. And I think when you know your

00:32:57.600 identity in Christ, then from that place, you'll be able to discover like, oh, this is what he

00:33:01.960 called me to do. This is what he made me to do. And I think about the great commission that we

00:33:07.240 are to go and make disciples of all nations. And kind of towards the very end of that, Jesus says,

00:33:12.040 and I will be with you wherever you go. And it's been so comforting to me to know that my purpose

00:33:19.300 is directly tied and connected to his presence. Like I don't have to figure this out on my own

00:33:25.000 and I don't have to go and make a path for myself. I don't have to go and build a name for myself,

00:33:29.080 but I get to just release it all knowing that it's all for God. It's all from God.

00:33:35.660 And, you know, I get to just have peace knowing like he's with me wherever I go.

00:33:40.500 And I want him to be the one who gets the glory anyways.

00:33:44.440 And so, yeah, that would be my encouragement is I just I pray that every woman knows that they are made in God's image,

00:33:50.820 that you're not going to find your worth in a job or in a man or in a status on social media.

00:33:57.860 It's only in the one who created you and the one who loves you and the one who wants a relationship with you

00:34:03.880 and in actually giving yourself fully to Him.

00:34:06.700 Like the Bible says, if you lose your life,

00:34:09.440 that's where you actually find life.

00:34:11.220 It's not in trying to find life in this life

00:34:13.560 that you find life.

00:34:14.500 It's in losing it all for the sake of knowing Christ

00:34:18.200 that you actually find everything that you were made for,

00:34:21.740 which is so cool and encouraging.

00:34:23.600 And Ecclesiastes 3.11 says that

00:34:25.240 God has put eternity on every man's heart.

00:34:27.940 And so this world will say, chase status,

00:34:30.240 chase relationships, chase fame and glory

00:34:33.600 and all these things and you'll finally be satisfied.

00:34:36.160 But we can take a look at celebrities, you know, right now

00:34:38.420 and see really quick that that's not going to satisfy.

00:34:41.840 And God says, no, no, it's actually in me

00:34:44.420 that you are fully satisfied

00:34:46.040 and find everything that you were made for.

00:34:48.380 Okay, tell people where they can find Stay True.

00:34:51.640 Stay True Podcast.

00:34:52.880 You can find us on Spotify, on Apple, on Instagram,

00:34:56.740 just Stay True Podcast.

00:34:58.580 And yeah, I think that's it.

00:35:00.280 People need, I think, again, young women especially,

00:35:03.600 And I think young women are really desperate for it right now.

00:35:07.640 That sort of truth that you're speaking, of course, reflecting the word.

00:35:12.260 So highly recommend everyone go over and subscribe, follow, listen, turn your post notifications, all the things on.

00:35:18.460 Maddie's not posting on her socials, but you should still go follow the socials if you have social media to get that word in you.

00:35:25.580 And so, Maddie, thank you for joining the Riley Gaines Show.

00:35:28.480 You're like I said, like I started this episode, you're just an inspiration to me, a real role model.

00:35:33.600 for, for parents to have for their daughters, um, for me to have for my daughter. So thank you,

00:35:38.920 Maddie. That's how I feel about you sister. So thank you for having me.

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