Riley's Pregnant!
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In this episode of the Gains For Girls Podcast, my husband and I announce the news that we are having a baby girl! We were at a Young Women s Leadership Summit at a Turning Point event and shared this exciting news with a room full of young, conservative women.
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With a towing capacity of 3,500 kilograms and a weighting depth of 900 millimeters,
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Clearly, this is a very, very special episode because I have a co-host with me today.
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Make my Gains for Girls podcast debut over here.
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The whole Gains for Girls brand and the show entirely have a new meaning.
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We announced some very, very exciting news that we have been keeping close to our chest
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But before we get into that, I want to tell you guys to go to youtube.com slash outkick.
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He is like passed out, mouth wide open, catching flies when he sleeps.
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As I said, we shared some very, very exciting news over the weekend.
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We'll insert a clip of how I shared this exciting news.
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Little context, we were at Young Women's Leadership Summit at a Turning Point event.
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Turning Point, of course, has been fantastic for the conservative movement, specifically
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You have leaders like Charlie Kirk, myself, getting on college campuses.
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So I really found there was no better place to share this information than to a room full
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I think the funniest thing about this to me and her saying, bully someone your own size,
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So that was the first exciting news that we shared.
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Of course, we are bringing life into this world.
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Maybe you could hear some of the audience in the clip.
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But again, so many young girls, it made me so emotional.
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I think this was kind of like the final step in admitting, of course, to everyone, but also
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It's happening and it's happening relatively soon.
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I was overwhelmed with emotion, like tears immediately came to my eyes.
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It was almost uncontrollable, but I kind of kept it in.
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But then I brought out a very, very special guest, my co-host of the Gainsborough Girls podcast
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Yeah, I was fortunate enough to be able to share that we are having a little girl, which
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just completely changes like everything that we've been working towards the last few years.
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It's even more personal now that like it's actually going to be our daughter that we've
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So it was pretty neat to be able to announce that.
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And again, to a room full of young girls, when we found out we were pregnant, I immediately
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Like at six or so weeks when we found out, I knew it was a girl.
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Typically, I would have bet our house on it, our life savings on the fact that it was a girl.
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But we, of course, you go through, we did the blood test, all the genetic testing to make
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sure everything was good and healthy, which, praise God, it is.
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Not that it would have mattered either way, but everything is fantastic.
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I'm right where I need to be in terms of health.
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We did like, I think it's called like the sneak peek results where they basically prick
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your arm, send your blood, a little vial of your blood off to a lab somewhere, and then
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The results come back the first time and it said inconclusive.
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But they reached back out and assured me that there was someone else's DNA, one of the handlers
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You want to tell how we found out together the sex with the baby?
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So we got, the results come through in an email.
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And so we were in the bathroom when the email came through.
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And so you just have to scroll down to the bottom and then it has in big letters, whether
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And so we scrolled down and there was definitely a brief pause after we had kind of like seen
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And so I was definitely shocked if it was a girl.
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But after that brief little pause, the first words that came out of my mouth were, I'm
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Which I think that's how, you know, you married the right man.
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When the first words that he says after finding out he is going to be a girl, dad, a dad to
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And I posted over on my Instagram just this weekend after we did the reveal.
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Let me know if you guys have any questions, because of course, we're going to be talking
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And you guys sent in so, so many questions, so many that I can't possibly get to them all.
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But I figured I would take the ones that were the most popular and answer some of those.
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So our little girl is due towards the back end of September, which I'm kind of nervous
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for because my birthday is also towards the end of September.
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And I think that my birthday is going to be co-opted.
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We're going to have to do my half birthday or something.
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I love you so much, but you are going to unfortunately be forgotten for the rest of...
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Like I said, we found out about six or so weeks, which nowadays I see on TikTok or on social
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media that you have girls who are finding out like three weeks, which is insane to me.
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Yeah, that's so crazy, but it speaks to the innovation of these pregnancy tests and results
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I woke up one day not feeling fantastic, nauseous, very, very dizzy.
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Like you stand up and immediately like your blood rushes to your head, you're lightheaded.
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I was on the phone with my sister and I stood up and it was like timber.
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I had passed out and my grandma's standing there and God bless her.
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And she's running over and she's like, Riley, Riley.
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I'm like there's no sort of heart condition that I knew of at the time.
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Like there was nothing that could have made that happen.
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And it was then I took a pregnancy test and it came back positive.
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But if you have been like a loyal fan of the show, a loyal watcher or follower, you may
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There was an episode with Gracie Hunt, the daughter of the air.
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She's the heiress of the Chiefs, the Kansas City Chiefs.
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You may remember if you watch the show, I had two shiners, like two black eyes and like
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a bruised nose where I had fallen so hard on my face.
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So that is how I found out that I was pregnant.
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But I kept this information from Louis, the father of the child, for about a week or so
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because in my defense, I was desperately trying to think of a cute way to tell him about this.
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I'm like, OK, I really, really need to tell him.
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But I was definitely surprised that she held it in for as long as you did.
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I said to you, I was like, I've got I've got exciting news and I'm not going to tell you.
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And you what you had to obviously try and one up and you're like, well, I've got exciting
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I thought you were doing that middle school game where it's like, oh, I know something
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you don't know, which is typical like Riley fashion.
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And I had just been told that my green card had been approved.
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And I'm sure some of you heard about all that stuff and just found out my green card had
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been accepted, approved, and it was on its way in the mail and it was going to be at the
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And so I just said, well, my green card is coming in tomorrow.
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And she pulls out the pregnancy test and just sets it on the counter in front of me.
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I still had like black eyes at this point, too.
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We did like just a relatively intimate little sex reveal.
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I don't like the whole verbiage of gender reveal, to be honest with you, because it kind
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of goes against everything that I have been declaring for years.
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Again, if you've been watching this podcast, you know that I have made the very, very firm
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So I prefer to say our baby sex reveal because, again, that is accurate.
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And when the results came in on our phone, like that email we were talking about that we
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Like, I just thought that was perfect and very, very fitting.
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So we had a relatively intimate little sex reveal with our family and our closest friends.
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And of course, the icing on the inside was pink.
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Next question, you guys, a lot of you guys were asking is why did we keep it private for
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Uh, it took us till week 26 to now come out and tell the public.
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Number one, because it took me a while to show.
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Um, I mean, even week 20 or so, like halfway through the pregnancy, I go to the anatomy scan.
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Of course, I can tell, like I can, I have, I'm very self-aware.
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I think being very fit and, and tuned into myself my whole life being an athlete, like
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I could tell that my body's changing and, and growing and shifting things internally.
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That was just about when you started saying, okay, my clothes are starting to feel tighter.
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So it took me a while to show, but then I would say like the past probably three or
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so weeks, it has really like every morning I wake up, I'm like, oh, that's not just like
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So that number one, and I think number two, people are just cruel.
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And I am so secure and, and firm in what I believe, uh, and with my convictions to be
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But even without my daughter, our daughter being in our arms yet, I feel this innate inherent
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I will say me and the blog button are like this nowadays, not really on X or, or like TikTok.
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I don't really read those comments, but Instagram, the notifications pop up so readily.
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And I see when people leave hateful comments, you won't get blocked in like 0.2 of a second.
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Like, yeah, like I don't, it's not because again, it makes me feel any, any sort of way.
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It's more so like, I don't want to give you the power to comment on my photo.
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I think it's so bizarre, like a grown adult going to another grown adults, social media
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It's like, grow up, find a hobby, maybe get a job.
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These are the same people who are protesting at the no Kings day, uh, protests all across
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Um, anyway, so I think those two things were a large part in why we kept it close to chess
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People are just crazy, you know, and it was something that was, that was personal to us.
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And we wanted the, we wanted the ability to tell people when we were ready.
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And, uh, yeah, I think what better time for us than at the young women's leadership summit,
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Like a lot of you were leaving comments on my social media, uh, saying like, Oh, are
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And it was funny because a lot of you would say like, it's not even because you look any
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different or we see a bump or anything like that, but there's just this glow about you.
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A lot of you were very, uh, you were in tune, uh, and, and way ahead of your time and knowing
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this information who was really, I think this is cool.
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Who was really like the first being to know our dog, our female dog, for sure.
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We, I remember this was probably like week two, like in, yeah, it was crazy.
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Like, like before you knew we'd be, we'd be in the kitchen, the dogs would be, you know,
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Lady is the female buddy and lady got together.
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Uh, so she was a mother before me, uh, and she had 10 puppies, Dumbo being one of them.
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Um, and they're like a little, their own little pack, if you will.
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Lady would, she'd almost like circle you like a shark and like sit on your feet.
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Now we're used to them being underneath our feet just cause they're, they're people,
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But lady would sit on your feet and I mean, she'd never like growl at the others, but
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It was like almost like a healer, like, like wanting to like nip or like ankle bite at the
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Uh, she would like at night, they would sleep in the bed with us.
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She would be, and she was, she's always slept very close to me, but it was like different.
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Like I could tell something was up with her and it's how she acted before she had her puppies.
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Like before she had alternative, her little puppies, she wanted to be sitting on my lap,
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touching me as close to me as possible when she was nesting, if you will.
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And so I think she, we both think that she was the very, very first being to know that
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there was a little baby inside of me, which is crazy.
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So you and her, she, she's the kind where she's going to sleep with her head, like on
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But she had, she'd switched a little bit and she was sleeping with her head, like on your
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So next thing, a lot of you were asking about symptoms that I've had.
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So many of you actually were commenting, like, please talk about how, how difficult the first
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Maybe I would hate this if I was a woman who had a very difficult first trimester.
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I truthfully have had zero symptoms this entire time.
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Um, no sickness, no fatigue, no, nothing really.
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Temp has been a little short every now and then I've been on the receiving end of a few
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I will say the first trimester I would wake up like angry for no reason at him.
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If I was still asleep when she woke up, I was cooked.
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But it only lasted like the first 10 minutes of the day.
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I just wanted to like be angry at you for 10 minutes.
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But I would say there's, there was like a four day stretch where the emotions I could
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tell were super heightened, uh, intense feelings of sadness and anger.
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But also when I was happy, that was a very intense feeling too.
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And it was frustrating to me because I knew like I, I could tell my emotions were heightened,
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but it didn't feel like there was anything I could do about it.
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So that was, that was a really bizarre, almost out of body feeling where, you know, you're
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acting irrational, but there's not a lot that can be done to prevent the irrationality.
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And so I had to just tell him, I'm like, just have grace with me.
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I don't really know, but I am either going to like, I think I'm going to just strangle
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So, but again, that only lasted like about four days.
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Yeah, it was, uh, it was a few four days where I was, I was dreading the rest of the
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If it was all, if it was going to be like that the entire time, but it really was, it
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Um, other symptoms, oftentimes they say with a girl, your face breaks out.
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I haven't really had any breakouts, but I do feel like my face is just kind of swollen.
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Um, I feel just like, I don't know if it's more drainage.
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I feel just like a little more puffy in my face.
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And I think that's been the hardest part for me of pregnancy.
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And I would imagine many athletes, especially athletes who have competed at a high level.
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I think, especially in sports like gymnastics or swimming, where you're either wearing a
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leotard or a very revealing skimpy bathing suit, if you will.
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Like it's hard because it's, your body is so revealed all the time and it's almost
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inevitable that you like observe it and evaluate it and, and critique your, your, your own
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It's why so many women, especially struggle once they're done with athletics again, and
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And what I experienced, like you're so in tune, you're so fit.
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You're training six plus hours every single day, swimming 10 plus miles, um, then all
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And so to have your body change, of course, you know, it's going to happen.
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Uh, I have been fortunate enough to stay relatively fit, still running, still exercising, lifting,
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Um, but I would say I haven't gained like in terms of body fat percentage, uh, not a ton
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And I think that happens as a woman too, as you get older into that childbearing stage
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Um, so the hardest part for me is how now growing this, this little tiny human inside of me,
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Your, your stomach is growing, which is very bizarre.
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I've always, uh, I mean, from the time I was like 10 years old, probably even younger
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Like I've always truthfully just had like a rock solid six pack of abs must be nice.
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I've, I think a lot of it is genetics, but a lot of it also is of course, hard work and,
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and your diet and all the things that go into it.
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And so now all of that is, is shifting and growing.
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And I feel like my, uh, I mean like your whole body.
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And so that has been the hardest, hardest part for me to be able to come to terms with
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And again, why the Simone comments to me reading that were even more outlandish than they would
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I have to remind you every now and then I'm like, you'll see, you'll be, you know, when
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we go and travel and doing stuff and you'll say, okay, I haven't got any clothes that fit
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They say with a girl, the dad's body changes too.
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They say that like when the white or like when you're having a girl, I don't know if there's
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Like hormones that are released, pheromones that are released, but they say.
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Otherwise, like in terms of exercise, I have been able to stay totally the same as before.
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I'll hear her wake up at like four o'clock and I'll be like, what on earth are you doing?
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I mean, the entirety of my pregnancy, still lifting.
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Don't come for me, but I feel like I'm actually can still lift pretty heavy and not feel any
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And that was what my doctor said, like, do as you were doing before.
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But if you're lifting and your body's adjusted to it, and that's fine.
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So like the other day, I mean, in back squat, I mean, we're back squatting six reps of 175,
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And I still don't feel any sort of discomfort or pain.
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I think I'm reaching that little brink, that point where it starts to feel different.
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And I think that's what's made the rest of pregnancy really a breeze for me is being fit.
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So this is my clarion call to everyone, especially women who are hoping to conceive at some point,
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whether it's in the near future or later down the road, get as fit as you can prior to conception.
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And I think that has been a large part of why pregnancy has been a breeze.
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I think that's something that I wish I'd kind of taken a little more seriously through the
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pregnancies because like, obviously you are now growing a human.
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So you've got to be on your A game, staying fit, staying active, drinking a lot of water,
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So he has a construction company here in Nashville, pouring concrete.
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Any of you who have done this know what this is like.
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Like it's blue collar, like soft hands around here.
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Like I would say probably 45 ish minutes away from home.
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If you're familiar with the Nashville area, he works a lot in Brentwood, which is about
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I guess you could pack a lunch from home, but it's a lot of on the road eating and we
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Yeah, I think that's something that dads should definitely focus on more is like, okay, so
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Dad should make it a challenge to take that nine months and get in as best shape as they
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That's going to be one of my one of the things that I think I focus on.
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I'm going to remind him of this in the morning when I wake up at 5 a.m. to go work out.
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Next question a lot of you ask is, have I always wanted to be a mother?
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I think this is because, again, I have a plethora of siblings and being the second oldest, like
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there is almost this nurturing capacity that I feel like I've always had.
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I've always said that I want like a basketball team of kids.
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I have thought for the longest time and I know, like, don't come for me.
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It's easier to say this when you haven't yet had a child.
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But I would like my dream is to have three kids under three.
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So I've always wanted to be a mom, but I will say again, since I think especially the,
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first of all, hearing the heartbeat for the first time, that was like when it's like,
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And you hear the heartbeat at the very, very first appointment at eight weeks.
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It's, it's not as strong as it continues to progress to be.
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Uh, it's, it was a lot faster than I thought it was.
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It was, that was, that was one thing that I was surprised about is even still, I think
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the last time we went, it was still 140, 130, something like that.
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That, that was, that caught me off guard a little bit.
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But that, and then the 20 week, like the anatomy scan where you see her little hands and her
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little feet, and we'll insert a picture here too, of what we saw.
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And you can see on the sonogram, like she's in there flipping around and moving and like
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hardly still enough for the, uh, nurse to take the photos that she needs to take to make
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So I think since seeing that with your own eyes and hearing that with your own ears,
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that makes that, that desire to be a mother, like, like more personal, like it, it's, it's
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And it's something that I don't know how at that point, how any woman could not want that.
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Like, that's how magical those moments really were.
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It's, you know, it is different for dads as well.
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Cause we're not, I don't want to say you forget about it, but like the baby's not inside
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So getting to see, getting to hear the heartbeat was really neat.
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And then the first ultrasound, I remember when we went for that, she looked like she,
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I seriously said, okay, why does she have a tail?
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Well, that freaked me out a little bit, but seeing the 20 week one was where it kind
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of really clicked that that's a, like, that's a baby.
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And see that the hands and like the nose, the mouth, the face, just seeing it all.
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It was, that was, that was where it kind of clicked.
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Um, if Riley goes, I've like tried to classically condition.
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She, uh, her only craving that I've noticed is Dr. Pepper.
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So if she does that little cough, it's like, she needs a doctor.
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So anytime, like it's been, yeah, he's been classically conditioned too.
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So, but other than that, I don't think I've had any like absurd cravings.
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I think prior, maybe it wasn't overly healthy, but prior to being pregnant, I don't think I,
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It's like my favorite type of food, breakfast food, eggs, bacon, all that stuff.
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But I don't feel like I was someone who prioritized eating breakfast every single day.
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But now I will say like, I, I definitely want a breakfast, a lunch and a dinner.
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But now like all of a sudden having never drank Dr. Pepper in my life, I do find myself liking
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Is there anything that you've noticed that you just cannot stand?
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Because a lot of people get put off of things like my mom could not eat chicken, still can
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Is there anything like that that you've noticed?
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I can recall one time we went to Texas Roadhouse and my meal, my order at Texas Roadhouse or
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It's virtually the same, uh, at all those steakhouses.
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It is ribeye is by far, hands down the best cut of meat.
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So medium rare ribeye with broccoli and Brussels sprouts.
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Um, but got, went to Texas Roadhouse, ordered the food, got to me and I could not eat a bite.
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But that was the only time that was the only, like, I think a lot of women have, uh, meat
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That was the only time where I was like, I, that I can't even sniff that.
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So what about, um, sports again, if you don't know who Louie is, or if you haven't followed
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me on other platforms or listen to the episodes where we're talking about, um, either our marriage
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or what he has gone through in relation to the whole, uh, legal immigration battle that
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Uh, you played rugby and some other sports growing up.
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Rugby, basketball, our football in England, not this hand, hand, egg sport that you guys
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Um, yeah, played a lot of sports growing up, but swimming was the one that I kind of gravitated
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towards in, I guess, the equivalent of high school.
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So with you being a swimmer and me being a swimmer, do you have hopes that our daughter
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That sounds like a, but there is a, but I know, I feel like we have done our sentence
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in swimming pools, whether it's even just on the pool deck or in the pool.
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I think she definitely needs to know how to swim.
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And I know everyone's going to say, ah, the pedigree, the pedigree, she's going to be a swimmer.
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You don't want to spend time in a hot, if you're like a swim parent or a swimmer, you
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You're like sniffing in like toxic chemicals for hours to watch a 30 second race.
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But, um, it is such a fantastic form of exercise that you can do for the rest of your life.
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So I don't think we'll put pressure on our kids, uh, our daughter to, uh, swim necessarily,
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but I am a big advocate for our daughter having to play sports.
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Um, now it's probably a form of child abuse to make your kids play sports, but it teaches
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I learned from playing sports from swimming that have translated to what I'm doing now.
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Like it's playing sports that taught me how to be a leader and to set goals and work to
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achieve those goals and to be resilient and, and, uh, persistent and all the things that
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again, we're utilizing now in the fight to, to, uh, fight for a future for our daughter.
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Sport a hundred percent, but any sport is on the table.
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I feel like this one, a lot of people asked me this question and I think it's a little taboo.
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I understand the struggles that exist with infertility and my heart goes out to those who,
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who struggle with this because again, both men and women, because again, I think it is
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so natural for women to want to be mothers, uh, to have to, and I have many friends even
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who have had trouble, um, conceiving or, or, uh, having a pregnancy that actually sticks and holds
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Uh, it was a concern of mine for no reason, an irrational fear, because again, you hear
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it so often where women have a hard time getting pregnant.
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It was a fear of mine, but really how it went for us.
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Um, we sat down over like around Christmas time of 2024 and we had discussed like, okay,
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Uh, we've been married for, uh, coming up on three years at that point.
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And my, I had a bit of a hesitation at the start, just, I mean, partly just to do with
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the line of work that, that you and we are in, there's too many crazy people out there.
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Like there, there have been too many situations that we were in where I was like, yeah, I
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think if we either had a child with us or you were carrying a child, again, I'd be in
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Like that, that was one of my hesitations from the start, but we've, there's been a
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shift, especially in how people are towards you over the last few years when I guess people
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have realized that, oh, you're not this big, scary person.
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That's just like attacking kids as they'd like to say, I guess.
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Um, so I think that kind of made it like the general public has shifted to where now people
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are more willing to offer their support and encouragement and agreement with the stance
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that we've taken in public as opposed to in private.
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And that certainly, again, I've always understood that perspective and understood that there are
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so many of us, so many more of us, uh, who agree it's literally insane to put men and
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women's sports and to say that men can become pregnant and to put tampons and boys
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bathrooms and all the things that come with the harmful gender ideology movement.
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But a lot of that support was private at first.
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And so it's, it's been great to see, especially from like the husband's point of view to see
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that shift where people are more open to support you.
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That made me a lot more confident saying, okay, I think, yeah, if, if it happens in 2025,
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Uh, it was January when we, I guess, conceived.
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Uh, and so it's pretty amazing to think about too, like just all of the, the things our daughter
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has been able to indirectly be a part of, uh, of course we were at inauguration.
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I can tell her this one day, uh, as Donald Trump was inaugurated as the 47th president
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of the United States, uh, she's been to the white house.
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Uh, she's been able to watch president Trump sign executive orders.
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Uh, she's been to the state of the union address or the joint address to Congress.
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You need to figure out how many states she's been to.
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So it's, it's pretty amazing to, to think of it that way.
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We haven't even really talked about this on yet.
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I think, you know, the statistic you've said it before, before they go to school or something,
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They get like 60 something vaccine, like 72 vaccines by the time you turn 12 years old.
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Something like that, which to me, that seems a little excessive.
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Uh, I think obviously ones like the longstanding ones like polio, MMR, smallpox, chickenpox,
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those ones that have been around for a long time all for it.
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But definitely, I think the best thing we can say is that everybody needs to do their
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own research into what the vaccines are, what's in them and what they're supposed to
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Um, I wouldn't say either of us are, are anti-vaxxers.
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If again, you've been following this show, you know, that I have been critical of, I mean,
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both of us we've been, I mean, critical to the COVID vaccine to the point where it prohibited
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him for three years, basic, almost three years of getting a green card.
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So we very much stand strongly on principles, but I think we, as a nation have been able
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It's just a matter of being able to, to really look into what is worth it.
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What is good, what is known to be, what is proven to be effective.
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Um, and for, uh, the best, I guess, outcome of our child and their, their health, their
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But at the same time, I mean, I would love any sort of recommendations from you guys.
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That's one of the things that we've had a hard time, uh, in the very brief minute, like
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moments we've discussed this, we really haven't talked about a lot where we've discussed
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It's, it's not easily accessible to, as a conservative with the viewpoints that we do
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to find information that lays it out of what is what.
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And again, being 25 years old, never having health problems before, I'm just not overly
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familiar with what each vaccine is, what it does, how long it's been around, how well
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But I will say, um, the thought of day one or the first day your child is born day zero,
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basically sending your child back with a doctor to get poked.
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Who knows how many times, uh, that is, that does not sit very well with me.
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I think it's, you know, research all around is pretty important.
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I think figuring out what is in them, what they do, you know, the background to them,
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but also researching the pediatricians as well, because something that we found out is that
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a lot of these providers have quotas and, you know, kickback schemes where, you know, if
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they have, if 80% of their patients get, you know, the completed vaccine series of
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everything, they get bonuses and stuff, which to me, that doesn't sit right because, you
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know, pediatricians will stop seeing patients if they're, if the parents are like, I don't
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know if I want my kids to get every single one of these, they'll stop seeing you because
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it's going to mess with their numbers and their stats and they're not going to get their
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So that's something that I think that we need to look into as well.
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And that I think that people should look into is, is who, who your pediatrician is, who
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the healthcare provider is and kind of what their values are and what their thought processes
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If they say, yeah, you need every single one of these, I'd ask why, you know, I'd ask the
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Last thing is birth plan, which we haven't really even discussed with each other again,
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because I think we've kind of just been putting it off, waiting to reveal it to the public
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to now make everything else more real, like crib, nursery, birth plan, packing like the
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postpartum bag or your hospital bag or whatever it is.
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Like, I feel like now is the time we'll really start to sit down and do all those things.
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So I haven't really talked about birth plan, but here's what I will say.
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Those of you, I mean, you were your moms who gave birth at home, whether you chose to,
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whether it happened kind of like involuntarily, this wasn't what you wanted, but you, it was
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Y'all are superheroes to me, but I just don't think that could be me.
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I really feel like I do, but if there's an option to not feel it, I don't want to feel
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Like, give me everything that will make me not feel it.
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Like the thought of like pushing out essentially a watermelon is, is that's terrifying to me.
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I'll be holding your hand and saying, you're doing a great job, sweetie, but I do not envy
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So I think a relatively standard birth plan hopefully goes out, goes off without a hitch.
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I will say my oldest sister, she had a baby about nine months ago.
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Uh, she, similar to me, had a fantastic pregnancy where no symptoms felt great, um, all the things.
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But then her delivery process was pretty brutal, uh, labor for like 24 hours.
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Uh, then they decided to ultimately do a C-section, um, which of course you want in that moment,
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whatever they have to do to make sure your baby is healthy, um, and is, is alive and well,
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and, and all the things, of course you will do whatever it takes.
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Um, hopefully we can, we can have this, this baby girl without a hitch.
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Um, but other than that, I think that's a pretty standard birth plan.
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Um, I went to a public school and I had a fantastic experience.
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Uh, when I graduated high school in 2018, compared to my younger sister, who is going to be a junior
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in high school next year, like at the same high school, it is totally different.
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Uh, we live in Tennessee where we are blessed to have the option of school choice.
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Um, we have a fantastic legislature and a wonderful governor who made sure this was a priority in
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Uh, so I think discussing what homeschooling would look like, I don't know if I'd be the
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If I like color, Deva, I spell all those differently.
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So I'm probably just going to confuse her if I teach her how to spell.
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By the way, July 4th is coming up, which I remind him every July 4th.
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I will, I will admit that I think I was probably just born on the wrong side of the revolution.
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You heard it here first on the games for girls podcast.
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Well, we appreciate you guys and the outpouring of support that we've received over the past,
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I mean, 72 hours at this point, uh, since releasing and sharing this exciting news, um,
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has just been, it has been the biggest blessing.
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Uh, we have, as I mentioned, I think growing life, it's made me radically pro-life, not
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because I've prior to, for clarity, prior to conceiving.
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I mean, I've always understood that life is to be valued, uh, because we have a creator
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who condemns the shedding of innocent blood and who has breathed purpose into every life,
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Um, so it hasn't made me more pro-life if you will, but growing a little girl inside of
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me, it has made me, uh, it has made the thought, the practice of abortion hurt deeply and viscerally.
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Um, you know, like at 20 weeks, I could not imagine, you know, a lot of these states where
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you can go late term, I don't get it as a provider.
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I don't get how you could sleep at night after, you know, after seeing the hands, the face,
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the feet, I mean, the whole body, like, like it, I mean, it's not just a human.
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It looked like a human at that point, you know, everyone's like, oh, clump of cells.
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I mean, it's, yeah, I don't know how people can sleep at night doing that.
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No, which is why, like, so many, uh, pregnancy centers or pro-life organizations, they really,
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really push for women to have that first ultrasound, have one ultrasound before you
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And of course, as we alluded to with, uh, in our intro by saying the meaning of gains
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It's just become more personal in a way where it makes it, it was worth it before, but knowing
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it's so much bigger than just you, you really are fighting for the next generation.
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Uh, and that future that you're fighting for, it's for your own daughters, um, is, is really,
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really special and has reinforced why we do what we do and why we will, we will continue
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It's, it's taken it out of the hypothetical and it's made it real.
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It's pretty, it's pretty funny when we revealed, uh, that, or when he was the one to reveal
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that we were having a girl on stage, he got out like three words and the whole audience
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It's, it's definitely, I'd say it's probably two thirds over the Atlantic right now.
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