JustPearlyThings - April 18, 2023


304 Claims That Good Men Are STUPID

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Bruno Mars
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Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

192.85

Word count

1,656

Sentence count

150

Harmful content

Misogyny

23

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Toxicity

12

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Hate speech

18

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Summary

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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and co-worker, to talk about dating and relationships. We talk about the differences between a woman and a man when it comes to dating, what it takes to be a good romantic partner, and why women are more likely to abuse power than men.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Do you know more people who enjoy dating or who complain about dating?
00:00:03.620 I feel like most people complain about dating.
00:00:05.560 Why do you think that is?
00:00:06.580 Because they're not happy in their relationships.
00:00:08.840 Now, if there was one thing that you wish that men understood better about women, what would it be?
00:00:13.860 How to be more catering, because I'm tired of giving.
00:00:17.800 You said catering?
00:00:19.280 Yes, because I give more than I receive.
00:00:21.800 So would you say that reciprocity is key in relationships?
00:00:24.680 Yes.
00:00:25.920 Now, do you feel like, who do you think typically invests more into building a relationship, the man or the woman?
00:00:33.280 The woman, of course. 0.90
00:00:34.900 Well, like, what exactly does a woman do to kind of build a relationship as opposed to what a man does? 1.00
00:00:40.140 Well, I feel like we're more supportive, first off.
00:00:42.580 And we're going to do more because we want to see you succeed more.
00:00:45.180 And I feel like most men aren't doing that.
00:00:47.620 I mean, I grew up with this all the time.
00:00:49.440 It's about, like, the guy doesn't treat me well.
00:00:51.380 He's not nice enough.
00:00:52.600 He's not holding the door for me.
00:00:54.620 And I've also been that guy who's done all of that. 1.00
00:00:57.980 And you are overlooked, overshadowed easily by the guy who treats you like shit and is an absolute douchebag. 1.00
00:01:05.400 So, well, see, when I think of, like, traditional, it's like the guy picking you up, taking you out to dinner, holding the doors, paying for the date, you know, waiting for sex. 1.00
00:01:16.320 I mean, yeah, I think that all that all, though, that lies on the woman, though, like, that's the power the woman has. 0.94
00:01:24.480 And they'll put this ideal up on a pedestal of what a man should be and what they want.
00:01:31.120 And then what they actually go seek out is the entire opposite.
00:01:34.140 And as someone who there's a lot of men out there just have a good heart and just want to be heard and really appreciated for that.
00:01:44.500 And a lot of times you don't feel like you can show that because once you show that compassion, once you show your true colors, it's looked at as a weakness.
00:01:54.140 You know, I feel men have to be the providers.
00:01:56.460 Men have to, you know, basically give up their entire lives to please a woman. 0.99
00:02:00.800 And when men, you know, we're only worth what we can provide.
00:02:05.100 Women are worth just for their looks or for, you know, basic things. 1.00
00:02:09.700 But we need to provide everything in a relationship or in any aspect of life.
00:02:13.920 And even if you're able to, you know, attract a woman, are you able to keep her happy, keep her satisfied?
00:02:20.720 Unless you can meet her list, no.
00:02:23.640 So you think that women are really more interested in the situation than they are in the actual man?
00:02:30.040 Yeah, I do.
00:02:31.480 Why do women divorce men 70 to 80 percent of the time, 90 percent if they're college educated? 1.00
00:02:37.280 I don't know.
00:02:37.620 I just heard that one, too.
00:02:40.140 If women have more unconditional love, doesn't it seem like then men would?
00:02:45.100 Well, from what I've seen that and usually I've seen that most of the divorces are instigated by women. 1.00
00:02:56.060 Instead of men are, I don't really know the answer to that. 0.97
00:02:59.040 I know on the other side, men are just more willing to stick something out and just work
00:03:03.900 at it, even though they're unhappy.
00:03:06.020 And if a man typically has to have looks, money, and status in order to attract lots of beautiful women,
00:03:10.800 how is the man not considered the prize?
00:03:13.640 Because a man loves a woman. 0.56
00:03:20.160 Doesn't a woman love a man? 1.00
00:03:21.400 A woman does love a man, but a woman loves money more. 1.00
00:03:24.600 So, do you think women are more interested in love or power? 1.00
00:03:28.280 Power.
00:03:29.220 Power of the punani. 0.96
00:03:31.820 Yeah.
00:03:32.480 What exactly does that mean?
00:03:35.200 The power, it's the power that a woman has naturally. 1.00
00:03:39.060 Like her superpower, basically that's what grabs a man. 1.00
00:03:42.640 That's what makes a man want you to begin with.
00:03:45.120 He doesn't even know you.
00:03:46.060 It's just you're a woman. 1.00
00:03:47.020 And what's the difference between using power and abusing power?
00:03:53.920 Using it is basically just utilizing it for its purpose.
00:03:58.840 Because abusing it is using it for your advantage, but it's going to be at a disadvantage for that other person.
00:04:08.500 So, when it comes to the power of the punani, do you think that women are more likely to use or abuse that power?
00:04:15.980 In general, they'll probably abuse it.
00:04:21.480 So, why isn't that giving more attention?
00:04:25.360 Because men are not really going to complain about it.
00:04:28.180 It's, you know, you just chalk it up.
00:04:31.180 That's just part of the game.
00:04:32.400 Like, you know, you get played sometimes.
00:04:36.180 It's very rare that I've ever felt that I can open up to a woman. 1.00
00:04:40.360 Because usually once you do, it kind of comes off as red flags.
00:04:44.020 It comes off as needy.
00:04:45.440 Oh, he's the nice guy.
00:04:47.100 Those kind of aspects.
00:04:48.600 And they want someone to take charge. 0.99
00:04:50.560 They want someone who's got their shit together. 0.99
00:04:52.560 And it's almost like it's always convoluted. 0.99
00:04:55.320 And the message is never on par.
00:04:58.940 It's you're asking for this.
00:05:00.480 You're getting that.
00:05:01.660 And there's no middle ground.
00:05:03.540 And it's, yeah.
00:05:05.200 So, it's very easy for women to kind of move on from a man if you're not meeting those attributes.
00:05:09.980 So, if women became more aware of these double standards and men's issues, how much do you think would actually change?
00:05:17.700 I would hope more.
00:05:19.980 I can't say for sure.
00:05:21.760 I mean, I've had these discussions prior.
00:05:24.540 And it seems to get heated.
00:05:27.620 And women go, you don't know what you're talking about. 1.00
00:05:29.880 So, you kind of brush it aside and try and find a way around it.
00:05:33.800 I mean, have you found certain women who are more receptive to these issues than other women?
00:05:40.140 Yes, absolutely.
00:05:41.060 I've got some great friends who are very empathetic, very compassionate.
00:05:45.580 And I think the world of them.
00:05:47.680 But as a whole, most men don't get the experience of that.
00:05:53.640 And they aren't treated that way by the majority of women. 0.99
00:05:57.180 Now, what are your thoughts on the expression, women don't care about a man's struggles. 1.00
00:06:01.500 They just want to show up at the finish line and pick the winners.
00:06:05.040 I honestly, you said women don't care about a man's struggles. 0.98
00:06:08.080 Basically, modern women today don't care about a man's struggles. 1.00
00:06:11.080 They just want to show up at the finish line and pick the winners.
00:06:13.000 Oh, I think that that's true.
00:06:13.800 Because someone like me, I'm going to be there for you and support you.
00:06:16.980 But these new age girls, I don't know about them. 1.00
00:06:19.200 They are just ridiculous. 0.99
00:06:20.180 And I feel like they're only in it to get what they can get out of it. 0.98
00:06:23.240 So, why do you think there's the expression, where have all the good men gone?
00:06:26.700 But nobody's asking, where have all the good women gone? 0.92
00:06:29.720 Well, where have all the good men gone? 1.00
00:06:32.420 They're stupid because they're dating these younger women. 1.00
00:06:34.980 And they're getting used. 1.00
00:06:36.560 So, the reason why there's so many good women out here is because we're being looked over. 1.00
00:06:40.180 Would you think that when they say that the answer to where have all the good men gone is in your 20s?
00:06:46.300 Like where it's like an expression where women would look over the good men in their 20s and pick the bad boys. 0.73
00:06:51.840 And then in their 30s, they're like, oh, well, take me now.
00:06:55.160 But it's like they're kind of salty because we overlooked them in our 20s.
00:06:59.640 So, yeah, we do overlook them in our 20s.
00:07:01.460 And I can say we overlook them in our 30s because I've been stuck with some bad men in the 30s.
00:07:07.000 And technically, I feel like now it's kind of like there are really no good men.
00:07:11.680 I haven't found a good guy.
00:07:12.700 So, we do overlook it.
00:07:14.660 Now, has there ever been a man you wanted that you weren't able to get?
00:07:17.920 Well, I'd like to talk about Bruno Mars.
00:07:19.680 I do want him.
00:07:20.960 And if he met me, he'd want me too.
00:07:23.860 Now, if you had the opportunity to hook up with Bruno Mars, would you take it?
00:07:26.760 I sure would.
00:07:27.660 So, when a woman says that I'm not that type of girl, isn't she really saying I'm not that type of girl with you, 0.92
00:07:32.640 but I am that type of girl with a guy like Bruno Mars?
00:07:35.580 No, because I'm going to be myself with him regardless of who he is.
00:07:39.660 So, if he's going to like me for who I am, then he's going to see that I'm a good woman regardless of anything.
00:07:44.220 Do you think it's true that women will make rules for the wrong guy but break rules for the right guy? 1.00
00:07:48.300 I do.
00:07:48.940 I do believe that.
00:07:50.860 I think so, too.
00:07:52.560 Well, I mean, sometimes we like the bad boys, so we tend to break the rules for them.
00:07:56.020 Do you think that women tend to lust after bad boys but want to settle down with nice guys? 0.71
00:07:59.820 Oh, we sure do.
00:08:00.620 I love a bad boy.
00:08:01.980 What's attractive about a bad boy?
00:08:03.380 They just have that quality that just is so attractive.
00:08:06.980 How do bad boys treat women?
00:08:08.440 Horrible.
00:08:09.120 So, then why would you want to be with a bad boy when they treat you badly?
00:08:12.500 Because they do other things that the good ones don't.
00:08:14.640 Like what?
00:08:15.440 I don't want to go there.
00:08:17.400 We know.
00:08:18.620 We know.
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