A Dark Future Awaits These Women
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about what it means to be single at 65 years old and the pressures on women and men to be in a relationship at that age. We also discuss what standards women should have in order to be attractive to men and what standards men are looking for in a partner.
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i'm curious would you guys rather be like so at 60 65 would you rather be by yourself or be with
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someone you're not attracted to be by myself be by myself yeah yeah yeah really no kids
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because to me it's like i'd rather be with someone i'm not attracted to than out of children
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i would feel like my life was like a failure if i didn't have kids no i'm not looking for
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companionship if it's real it's not what if it's real it's not what were you gonna say you
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definitely want kids yeah i know so i'm asking if you had the two options and you would still
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pick by yourself you said at 65. you just told me the age of 35 so no but i'm saying so in one scenario
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at 65 you have a husband you're not attracted to and children and a family and at the other one
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you're by yourself so i'm saying like as women we keep saying we need our standards to be on a certain
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level right and i hear this is super common it's not just you so it's like but when do we start
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lowering them if the men aren't meeting them because what's our other option bye dog
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that dog ain't giving you kids i'll tell you that um i think that's where it goes with the beauty beyond
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the eye you see you start you know you find out you don't find him attractive first and you really
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start liking him after but you see what i'm saying when i say that like i think that women and men
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have higher beauty standards than women like that they have to live up to because it's such a small
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percentage of men that we're even attracted to everyone here said they're picky but don't you feel
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like it happened to us first as women we had to level ourselves up to be a certain way when do you
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think we had to level ourselves up i'd say about 20 30 years ago i feel like we've gotten worse in the
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the last 20 to 30 years see so about 20 30 years no but i don't think we've leveled up i think women
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have leveled down oh yeah but i don't agree with that no i think i think you're i think you're right
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but i right i think what probably from my perspective i reckon what happened was that that there was that
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pressure on women to be you know you've got to look amazing all the time and blokes like back in the
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sort of the 80s and early 90s and stuff guys didn't really have to make an effort you know what i mean it
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was like you could have a beer gun and just like whatever football shirt on and oh yeah she's nice
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and you know it's very laddie kind of thing i've seen pictures of guys from like the i saw beach
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pictures from like the before the 60s everyone was hot back then i thought they were so much more
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attractive i think well and the women they were i feel like something switched in the food or something
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well maybe maybe just in england then but no i know what you mean because i've seen in pictures in
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like brazilian stuff like from the 70s no i'm talking the u.s like california pictures really
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yeah okay okay okay i don't know well i i from my perspective what i've seen i i think that standards
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for men have got higher in the last sort of 10 15 20 years that's that's just just my sense of it and
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maybe women's had to have been higher in the past but um it like i don't know it doesn't really help
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anybody does it you know what i mean like like um i i think i think now because of the thirstiness of
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guys and the fact that as you as we've said i mean guys are less selected than than women i think
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guys are now more less picky than they were do you know what i mean i think i think there are many
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guys who will take a woman who's perhaps less attractive than he would have preferred because
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he thinks that's his only option i think ultimately is finding someone you're compatible with
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so all these standards standards standards it's like what is a standard you know if he's a good guy
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he's a good girl and it's like you know it's compatible to you it's got the same values same
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you know principles and you get along well and you have the same you know goals in life i think that's
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what can be defined as a you know yeah i'm curious what what are your standards
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like what what do you guys look for in a guy i think i'm maybe not the right person i think like
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lots of women no because it's like you don't look for anything
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no because i i know that lots of women they look at just you know how much money my man is making
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how much you know good good life yeah yeah you don't have to say money it could be like whatever
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you look for for me it's like having emotional support most of everything and you know having
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someone that you know understands my needs you know on a mental level obviously you know we need to
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you know do life together and navigate you know challenges and everything but ultimately for me
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is about finding that compatible person which is very difficult to do because you know you're going
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to have always something you know that as a some character traits that are not really you know men
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and women are just different and as much as we want to play this card oh i want to be like a man
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i'm never going to be a man i wasn't born a man and i'm not going to understand what men so don't
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you think that asking him to understand your emotional needs is asking a man to be a woman when
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he's not a woman a little bit yes but not in a way like don't get me wrong yes maybe a little bit
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yes but at the same time i don't want to call the person you know in front of me no you know i want
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to have someone that is kind of empathic enough you know got a little bit that doesn't sound too hard to
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find a warm a nice guy you think that's hard um like what else there has to be yeah it's gonna be
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like yeah i mean there are but um there's gonna be loads of guys in the chat now i'm a nice guy
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i can emotionally support you no no i mean i mean i want to you know i want to say this like there are
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lots of great guys out there i don't want to be like oh yeah man it's just i find that
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this particular time that we're living guys are like finding very difficult in committing on the
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long term because you know a lot of pressure there is in this society so it's like i can't provide to
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my woman because you know the bills are going high you know the society is crazy at the moment you know
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and women wants always more more more the last clothes the last you know trend that is there you
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know i need to satisfy that and i feel like that it's quite detrimental so i feel like yes you're right
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maybe we can lower a little bit our standards and try trying to be more realistic with what we
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really you know how how old would you date like is there an age range like you said you're 37 right
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eight 38 okay so would you date a 21 year old guy i don't think so okay so so there's age yeah because
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it's a question i mean yeah i don't think so it has to be like you know mature enough for me to you
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know for me to get deep conversations without like oh what are you talking about without scaring him
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and i think like when you're 21 you still need to figure out a lot of things i'm not saying that
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by 38 you're gonna have everything no so you date a 55 year old guy that's okay
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no i don't think so okay so you know maybe maybe up until 45 45 yeah okay or less yeah anything else so
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he just has to be emotionally available under the age of 45 funny over 30 maybe over 30 yeah but i'm not
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doing like doing an advert out there no um it used to be me me me no no no no no there's not an advert um
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just as i said like for me the emotional support without being too much a woman is very important
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and to be able to you know understand like that trying to understand us because as we as women we're
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trying to understand men and we're trying to get into that masculine energy which is quite like
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difficult to do and at the same time i would love you know that the man's trying to be a little bit
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more empathetic and trying to understand without becoming a woman i mean it has to be men it has to
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be men um have you dated guys that weren't emotionally available before or emotional i forgot what words
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you said exactly but something like that um you just mentioned it a couple times i was just i think there
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are lots of emotionally of unavailable men out there because um it's everything has to do with
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i think traumas and things they they've been experiencing in life so if a man is emotionally
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unavailable it's just because it went maybe through something that is not capable of you might feel
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something but it's just not capable to just put everything out there um not saying that everyone is
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like that but i think a lot of people i mean again talking with a lot of friends and people that are
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all saying men they don't want to commit you know they don't want to see the long term they always
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but i feel also like maybe we need to look at ourselves and say like what's wrong with me why
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this is not working and trying to fix you know things uh what about you what do you look for in a
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guy what are you um ambition again emotional support as well because i feel like a lot of men do not
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know how to give emotional support and when you do question it they end up arguing with you or backing
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away um again like she said because of traumas and stuff that goes like wrong in their life and then
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they bring it into the relationship for from past experiences or being cheated on um so i think it is
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it's very tough to find that um as well what else um someone so you said ambitious um can we put a
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dollar amount to it is there a money how much because how old did you say you were 32 so how what
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old is the guy roughly how old yeah do you want him to be um my age and i'll say up to the age of 40.
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okay so let's say he's 40. okay how much does he have to be making roughly um i just think he just
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needs to be able to be a provider um especially if you're going into relationship you it's because
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i'm quite old school so i think a woman should play their role and a man should play their role
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um so if you're able to provide and you know pay um sorry run the household then then it's okay i don't
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think it how much does that cost well that depends on where you're living you could be living outside
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of london inside of london it that all depends um it's how many bedrooms you have it yeah it really
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all depends a rough could i get a rough number um i don't know um maybe about 40 40 that's like 50 i'm
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american so 55 000 that's like average salary right yeah okay that's not bad so average salary what
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else 40 30 30 to 40 roughly is what you said yeah your age or um average salary what else um yeah so
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you need to be be able to support me emotionally as well um again you need to you know have some sort
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of attraction there that's it really what about height how tall oh you need to be you need to be
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you need to be taller than me how tall are you i'm five six okay so five six is good about five seven
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and above five seven and up okay yeah so that's it it doesn't sound that hard it doesn't sound that hard
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it is really difficult a five seven guy making forty thousand dollars a year yeah that's emotionally
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available it doesn't seem that hard it is very hard i just feel like yeah a lot of guys are just not
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there anymore they have just very their minds elsewhere to be honest it's just interesting 40 like
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you said you you're old school right yeah do you think that women should be virgins the same way
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that men should be providers no why isn't that a double double standard because like if we expect
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them to be traditional providers shouldn't we be traditional virgins yeah but again i am old school
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but you have to know that this is the modern world as well so that's not really gonna happen so wouldn't
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you say the same thing with that provider guy like oh it's not gonna happen you need two incomes to
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survive to set an aspect yeah yeah okay what do you look for a man that can support me like i can
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support him and that doesn't just mean money i'm talking about generally and stuff that i like to do
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