JustPearlyThings - A SIMP is a TYPE of Man

00:00:00.000 coming up next would you date a simp a simp wouldn't have the confidence to approach me

00:00:04.340 a simp is not a man it's a it's a tiger wow but now you're a leftover for him there's a lot of

00:00:10.080 men that won't cheat on you you just don't want them if we required marriage to get laid we would 1.00

00:00:14.580 all be married women are potentially the problem with the dating market because of this delusion 1.00

00:00:18.760 that they they carry i don't agree okay men have a problem we hate the toxic and we hate the 0.61

00:00:24.460 manipulative guys why are we sleeping with them so the topic today is what do you have to offer a

00:00:30.960 man that you haven't given any other man i like this question so um i'm gonna start with um why

00:00:41.280 don't you start i knew you was gonna say yeah yeah see they're new you're a seasoned vet

00:00:45.540 i don't i don't know the answer to that question honestly

00:00:50.620 i guess in this stage of my life i can offer more maturity in my relationship would you say you

00:01:00.820 haven't offered that before uh i have but i think with age and time and experience i've got more

00:01:07.660 mature and i have a better understanding in relationships okay honestly i don't know but um

00:01:16.300 what's happening this conversation earlier since every man is different i feel like with a different

00:01:23.280 man i bring something different to them so i think it depends on the man okay um i think like

00:01:32.600 you said i just think every man's different all relationships are compromise getting to know each

00:01:38.420 other building together understanding each other so i think at this stage probably i understand myself

00:01:43.500 better my non-negotiables my negotiables so i think like there's more clarity now i think on my part

00:01:50.420 as to what i would require or what so what you offer is you know what you want i know what i want

00:01:56.560 and i know what i would like to gain at the same time okay go ahead um i feel like there's nothing

00:02:04.280 i can offer a man that he can't already get okay i mean i've had a child so okay i mean yeah okay

00:02:14.760 so um question for the man what would you guys like a girl to offer you that you haven't gotten

00:02:20.900 that she hasn't given to another guy peace peace peace of mind i'm telling you i think after a long

00:02:29.600 day of just working going to the gym just want to come home to peace i don't know if it's possible

00:02:36.120 or if it actually exists but yeah and how how would a girl offer that to you and did any and did any of 1.00

00:02:43.700 the answers that they gave sound like something you would want of that that was of value to you

00:02:48.540 yeah um both of their answers okay tell me why in terms of like

00:02:55.260 maturing in a relationship i guess if it's your first relationship you're gonna make mistakes

00:03:01.540 and it's your first time you're not really gonna you've never experienced it before

00:03:04.900 and you're gonna learn from your experiences and be a better person so it's good to like for someone

00:03:10.580 to actually be able to realize right in my first experience i weren't really doing what i was meant

00:03:16.180 to or i didn't understand certain things but now i'm willing to so okay and what about you same

00:03:21.100 questions well i'm married so sorry i should say what did you get what did i get yes uh can at least

00:03:28.800 be no i mean virginity really oh you married a virgin yeah oh that's great yeah that was that's pretty

00:03:35.080 much it but i'd say something similar like peace okay um do you want to

00:03:40.540 okay okay i didn't you seem like okay um who okay who is the prize men or women

00:03:50.200 uh why do you have to always know okay you're a seasoned vet this is what happens when you're a

00:03:56.700 veteran on the show i'm a veteran i'm still smiling i'm still here um for me men and women are the

00:04:04.380 prize to each other okay how oh okay you know actually no i don't accept that answer pick one

00:04:14.440 yeah pick one men or women someone has to reach someone someone's a prize

00:04:18.920 in the pursuit for happiness i think women are the prize okay um but as you you kind of cut off my 0.73

00:04:30.540 answer so i can't give you the answer i wanted to give but in that yeah women are the prize for men 1.00

00:04:36.100 okay what do you guys think i feel like women are the prize i feel like from a young age i've always

00:04:42.880 seen the woman just sits there and the man is always chasing after the woman so it just looks

00:04:48.140 like the woman is the prize okay um i think it depends on what stage of life you're at for me

00:04:58.800 personally i think if we're gonna go like just we're just looking right now i would say women are 1.00

00:05:04.420 the prize as in she's the trophy on your arm you kind of create her as to what looks good for you

00:05:09.300 you take her out you get the all of the compliments that's your woman she's amazing but i think as a

00:05:15.060 woman i just think i don't know i feel like it works but like what she said i just feel like the age

00:05:21.560 i'm at we should both be a prize to each other like there should be some middle ground or i can't

00:05:27.180 expect the man to do everything same way i'm very traditional but we have to adapt to the to the world

00:05:32.760 that we're in if that makes sense so i think if you just want me to say yes or no i would say women

00:05:36.400 are the prize from a young age you're cute your hair's long you're this you're that however i think

00:05:41.200 as you grow up you realize morals values like integrity even beliefs like do you get it i feel

00:05:48.160 like those things are all things that intertwine and will defend will determine if you're a prize if

00:05:54.300 you're some people are beautiful but they're dusty inside so i have a question you said you're

00:05:59.320 traditional how are you traditional if you're not married because then you wouldn't you have

00:06:03.560 traditional outcomes well me personally i think i'm traditional in terms of my morals and my

00:06:10.020 beliefs in regards to men and women so when i say i think i've watched your podcast before you

00:06:13.760 talking about submission i know this generation anti-submission yeah yeah but i believe we're in

00:06:20.200 a world where men and women are not equal yes we should be ideally but we're not and i think that

00:06:25.840 as you get older you just need to understand yourself i'm not gonna go in and project myself

00:06:30.360 onto someone's son i need to have my stuff together whether it's psychologically spiritually

00:06:34.740 financially in check and then we can do it together i don't think there's a time for or

00:06:39.500 you could also be traditional get married and then get divorced so at the end of the day i just think

00:06:43.320 well i would say if i got divorced i wouldn't be traditional then like because to me like

00:06:47.060 traditional is traditional outcomes you're married with kids like i don't think you can say

00:06:51.480 you're traditional no that's the end goal 100 yeah but i'm saying like until you have

00:06:55.140 traditional outcomes how can someone claim to be traditional fair enough yeah i mean i'm not

00:06:59.900 i'm not saying i'm traditional either like i'm not okay i sorry i i believe that in the beginning

00:07:08.140 the woman is the prize so as in in in a woman a woman has her prime stage and then when she 1.00

00:07:15.700 gets to a certain stage in her life it switches over and the man becomes the prize so like when

00:07:22.000 women become um like i'd say from about 40 onwards okay when the sexual market yeah it switches over 1.00

00:07:32.140 and the men become the prize and the women are not so much the price that's a good answer okay what

00:07:36.100 do you guys think men or women i think men are the prize i'm not gonna lie i'll be honest at all

00:07:41.560 stages you think men are the prize pretty much not even in a way like to say oh i'm 100 let me say

00:07:48.580 why yeah because as a guy right now at my age and even in all of our ages especially like us guys

00:07:55.860 in our 20s i don't feel like there's what pride like what do i get from being in a relationship right

00:08:02.880 now for me personally in in this current market right now if i go out with a girl she's gonna get 1.00

00:08:07.400 dates she's gonna get driven around wherever she's gonna go on holidays what do i get what kind of 0.79

00:08:12.940 woman are you looking for yeah no but okay yeah what can he get that he can't get from a hooker and 0.96

00:08:18.780 a maid love yeah love what is what is what does that mean because a lot of times when i ask girls 0.81

00:08:24.780 this they give like broad statements without specifics so could i could i have something 1.00

00:08:28.080 specific yeah um so you're saying that you're gonna date her take her on holidays i mean a stupid 0.99

00:08:34.620 generally generally yeah good stuff yeah generally yeah there's no woman on this planet that will get 1.00

00:08:40.680 all that good stuff and not give you love i think amber heard jada pinkett smith yeah

00:08:47.280 there are women who are opportunists there are women who see that he is the prize and don't go for it 1.00

00:08:52.280 but i'm saying well but the thing is like i'm saying today like modern women i think it's a bad deal 1.00

00:08:56.760 lucky yeah because we're not we're not virgins anymore like except septem he found one

00:09:02.200 question was you a virgin when you married your wife no okay okay the average age of first marriage

00:09:10.020 in the uk is 31 so we don't have the youth anymore and the purity so like what what do they get so i

00:09:15.460 think you guys get the better end of the stick which is what makes us the prize we're gone i was

00:09:18.640 gonna say all right you're saying the hookah all of that in my in my mind yeah yeah apart from sex all

00:09:23.380 of that yeah in my head i feel like you would have um you know women are nurturing well most women 1.00

00:09:28.380 hopefully you would have that like i'm talking whether it's um psychological you know you have

00:09:34.000 people that are your friends before you get into relationships that friendship that whole like

00:09:38.800 being there for you ever is through a mental breakdown that sincerity of not using you for

00:09:43.560 what you have i feel like that is what you potentially would would get from a sincere person

00:09:48.460 if you get what i'm saying so yeah from a friend though like my guy but i'm saying what i'm saying like

00:09:54.260 like that's a woman's point of view because i think that's what you would want is like sincerity

00:09:57.600 from a guy but like so a lot of times like as girls when we think about what we want like we

00:10:02.160 project it into what guys want they just kind of just want us to shut up peace of mind i said it

00:10:07.880 you know i think most i think for most men so like the average men um i think women are the prize 0.97

00:10:15.800 because supposedly a lot of men don't get women so yeah i think women would be the prize however i think

00:10:23.060 the highest or like the most optimal prize would be a man because most like they they tend to 0.98

00:10:30.620 skew the market a bit more because like like kevin samuels is his like version of a high value man

00:10:37.580 or what have you they seem to be the biggest prize that you could possibly get in dating however i think

00:10:42.980 for most men women are the prize because they don't get women anyway if that makes sense well wouldn't 1.00

00:10:48.300 you say those guys don't ever get a woman like because one out of three men are virgins or haven't

00:10:52.200 had sex in the past year yeah so that's why i would say like yeah if those type of guys got a

00:10:56.340 woman they would feel like they got a prize yeah but i don't really think they ever get into

00:10:59.980 relationships like to me it's like there's two types of guys there's a guy that's always getting

00:11:04.960 girls and then there's a second one that gets their leftovers at 30. 1.00

00:11:08.480 i think also it's about confidence from the man's perspective i think a lot of men in this society

00:11:16.460 are not empowered and given confidence to step forth as men they're kind of they're battened down

00:11:22.720 to the female perspective of you know i feel and because i feel this you must basically accommodate 0.99

00:11:31.300 those feelings and so so sorry finish finish what you're saying if men were allowed to have the 0.98

00:11:37.080 confidence as men in their masculinity there would be more space for them to actually pursue women a

00:11:43.740 lot of men don't know how to talk to women they don't know how to approach women because everything's

00:11:48.240 offensive oh you know why are you looking at me well you dress a certain way i want to look nice i want

00:11:53.900 guys to look at me when the guy looks at you why are you looking at me you get what i mean so how are men

00:11:58.940 supposed to feel confident when 80 when women find 80 percent of men is unattractive not okay or

00:12:03.760 whatever they they literally think they're unattractive and then there's another 10 percent

00:12:07.260 that they find uh okay maybe here or there in the last 10 percent that they'd go first well it's not

00:12:11.640 first of all biology natural selection the problem yeah but like if how would you feel if they found 80

00:12:17.340 percent of women unattractive it'd be kind of hard to you know feel confident in yourself i guess if you 1.00

00:12:22.740 have externalized where your confidence comes from i think when you build confidence within yourself and you

00:12:28.640 know who you are then you step out into the world world as a confident man eg i'll give you an

00:12:34.340 example and let's say i don't like to give this example box for example future to me he's not a

00:12:41.680 confident man but he projects confidence into the space where women will be like oh he's got money

00:12:47.080 you sure he's made some bold moves yeah some bold moves yeah wouldn't you have to be confident to

00:12:52.300 project confidence huh like wouldn't you have to be confident to project confidence no no no because

00:12:57.320 you can have low to some degree at all no no no you can use that you so projecting confidence to

00:13:02.900 attract women's attention and actually getting women are two different things yeah but what is

00:13:07.880 self-esteem self-esteem doesn't exist what do you mean like there's no way to measure it there's no like

00:13:12.780 self-esteem isn't real it's just like a thing that the left says well it is no no there's no there's

00:13:19.080 no statistical way to measure self-esteem okay there's no way to measure self-esteem but there's

00:13:24.700 a way to measure measure behaviors right okay and behaviors coming from men with low self-esteem

00:13:30.620 eg we call them simps we call them all kind of funny names now if you're in an arena where women are 1.00

00:13:36.400 dominant and they're allowed to say and do as they wish which we have right now we have platforms social

00:13:42.760 media etc a lot of men will shy away from their true self just to appease the women in the arena

00:13:50.420 because as a man you want women to attract to you it's a natural thing it's a biological thing do you

00:13:56.280 get what i mean so a lot of guys don't have they don't know how to talk to women i've experienced it

00:14:01.680 and i've seen it but i think it's hard for men because when you think about it like they're told if

00:14:06.900 they approach a girl the wrong way they can their girl can cry sa yeah and so how are they going to be 0.63

00:14:11.900 confident when they're told many many shit from the time they're 12 how do the other men do it how 0.96

00:14:16.820 do the confident men do it well because because um we have a smaller and smaller percentage of men 0.99

00:14:20.960 screwing all the girls so again women find 80 of men is unattractive and they only swipe right five 0.99

00:14:26.480 percent of the time on dating apps so the reason the dating market's kind of effed up right now is

00:14:31.060 because four girls that are fours five six and sevens are sleeping with the eights nines and tens and 1.00

00:14:35.620 they think they're on that level and they're not and they're rejecting the guys that are on their

00:14:37.960 level because a guy is willing to sleep with anyone right so but that doesn't mean that doesn't

00:14:42.620 that doesn't mean you're that hot it's an open market that's the difference time for me to get

00:14:47.480 to add to that as well you have to remember that women are also breaking up the homes so the men that 1.00

00:14:53.600 would that would traditionally raise other men to become men are no longer there because as we know

00:14:59.280 about 80 to 90 percent of women did leave or divorce their husband for the primary reason being

00:15:04.240 financial reasons and the second being um infidelity but infidelity doesn't matter because we cheat a

00:15:08.760 similar race so most women are leaving the men because of financial reasons and then these men 0.95

00:15:13.880 are now raised by women and then they try to chase women but women don't know how to call women so 0.99

00:15:18.560 then these men are left thinking okay my mom told me to be nice and buy her flowers and then she looks 0.99

00:15:22.240 and then she he tries to do that for the girl she's like look at this waste man yeah and how are they

00:15:27.380 supposed to feel confident if they didn't have a man to like raise them i agree with that i agree with you i do agree

00:15:33.820 with you as you know when it comes to masculine confidence it's best it comes from a man be it

00:15:39.640 your dad be it your uncle whoever's available to you and as a woman who has had a strong relationship

00:15:46.560 with her dad it makes you a different type of woman on the market you have a different level of 1.00

00:15:52.080 confidence you have realistic more realistic expectations towards men and you know there's

00:15:58.620 certain things that my dad helped me understand as a woman i'm i'm more forgiving than women in

00:16:04.520 my age group when it comes to not forgiving that's the wrong word but i have a better understanding of

00:16:11.080 the hardships that men face and i have a bit more empathy towards their position do you get what i mean

00:16:16.660 but at the same time having that understanding with a group of men who haven't had that nurturing

00:16:23.580 is still very difficult i got a question for you then would you date a simp what's this is it a

00:16:30.080 simp wouldn't have the confidence to approach me but you're sympathetic of their position and

00:16:35.180 obviously you're being raised by your father that's had influence on you so would you date a simp 0.97

00:16:39.720 being sympathetic well first of all in my opinion a simp is not a man it's a it's a tiger oh ouch wow 0.58

00:16:47.360 no no it's not a man in my opinion like if you don't have a dialogue talk in your mic oh sorry

00:16:52.680 if you don't have certain attributes then you're not on my radar so for example i'm not a materialistic

00:16:58.700 person i don't look for someone with nice clothes nice things blah blah blah but i do look for a man

00:17:04.240 who has logic direction knows how to so is your answer no yes no i wouldn't date a simp okay right but

00:17:11.080 like if you're sympathetic to the plight of man i didn't say sympathetic i said empathetic empathetic okay

00:17:15.780 empathetic why wouldn't you date a simp yeah i wouldn't there's no there's no compatibility there

00:17:21.300 for me i know that a man with logic provisions knows what he's about would fit better with me 0.93

00:17:28.720 so that's why so um question do you guys think that women date up or down up up up i think depending 0.97

00:17:37.660 on age okay so then then what you say up i say what would you guys say up oh yeah so how can we

00:17:46.160 say women are the prize if they date up and men date down it's a good question that's a great question 1.00

00:17:51.340 you know do you know that's an amazing question i feel like the generation we're in now uh-huh i feel

00:17:57.180 like everybody just has to date up because no no everybody can't no so so this is someone someone's

00:18:05.220 reaching every relationship someone likes the other more exactly someone's reaching someone's

00:18:09.500 settling yeah okay go ahead personally i genuinely feel like where we are in this life here

00:18:14.440 everything is so difficult yeah everything is getting worse out and worse it's not check your

00:18:20.680 friend zone wow that was a good one it's not yeah but i feel like a lot of my guy friends

00:18:26.840 we're compatible as friends and i'm not and i don't want to lose that no no no no you're not

00:18:31.500 attracted to them like that or so if you like the attention no i'm definitely attracted to some

00:18:36.300 of my guy friends i just wouldn't want to go there would they want to go there with you possibly

00:18:40.060 however i just know that the boundaries and i'd rather i treasure the friendship i'm not i'm not

00:18:45.560 trying to do that yeah because more time if relationship ends up bad i've lost you as a friend

00:18:49.280 yeah and as that and if i value the friendship i feel like but you can end up good what the

00:18:53.780 relationship that's that's the risk in it sounds quite pessimistic do you really see yourself

00:18:58.900 having a lot of male friends once you get married is that really helpful yeah so healthy that's not

00:19:02.720 healthy that's not so what's the point of having them around no but i just feel like i'd like in

00:19:09.280 this day and age like you have i feel like a lot of people are mad okay so what do you what do you

00:19:13.700 what do you see as the problems in the dating market the problems in the dating market i feel

00:19:17.540 like um everything has become so what can i get what can i get materialistic and i feel like people

00:19:23.040 aren't looking at character anymore do you think that's the men or the women i think it's both

00:19:26.740 so you think it's the men also the women i feel like women have become this which means that the

00:19:32.500 men don't even care anymore it's like you want me for maybe materialistic things there are quite a

00:19:37.500 few women so it's kind of like if that's all you look at me for then all right cool i'll take you 0.97

00:19:41.640 your sister your auntie and then what could you explain that more okay so what i mean by that is

00:19:46.600 there's a lot of guys who let's say faithfulness was something that let's say 10 years ago was key

00:19:51.720 right now in this generation it's like nobody cares or quite a few people don't care if the

00:19:56.180 guy's faithful or not as long as he's looking after them so you've got a lot of men who maybe

00:19:59.640 they were faithful growing up now it's like i don't even need to be faithful because i can get

00:20:03.060 the 10 yeah is that the fault of the men or the women that's what i'm saying it's the fault of the

00:20:06.440 woman yeah yeah i agree with you oh yeah sorry i genuinely believe it's the fault of the women 1.00

00:20:10.120 because it's like if you hand them a silver platter why would they not take it yeah and why do i need to

00:20:14.860 be faithful um um spiritual distance if you're not even required so why did you say women are the 1.00

00:20:20.620 prize then because okay so i feel like when you're growing up like i said from a young age

00:20:24.840 you're pretty you're this or that i think when you get to a certain age you need to understand

00:20:28.320 you need to understand the flower of your youth when it's finished darling understand it's finished

00:20:32.920 however i feel like um naturally you're taught today up because i just feel like

00:20:38.300 he just needs to be the head of the household if that makes sense so the head

00:20:41.860 would mean he's up yeah so then he would be the prize yeah but that's what my answer was when

00:20:47.080 you get to a certain age i feel like it flips what age roughly me okay i think let's say 25 and up

00:20:53.340 25 and up i think after high school i'll be honest no i agree with you what what do you think i i think

00:21:00.320 i think men are always the prize because because the women the women that men want like women 50% of

00:21:05.740 women that hit 30 are single and childless so so the most do you think men understand they're the prize

00:21:11.400 from young i think i think the small percentage of men do when they have when they have at their

00:21:15.760 doorstep like from from the time that from the time they're kid you know because it's only a very

00:21:22.040 small percentage of men that get that and then you know the the women like the women that won't settle 1.00

00:21:29.700 and i think they're just going to die alone no seriously because yeah and they won't have kids

00:21:36.180 and but fulfill their biological imperative so you have to compromise right yeah i mean

00:21:40.800 somebody willing to yeah but this is the thing like we compromise where it always benefits us and

00:21:45.560 never benefits the man because when we compromise it's like at 30 literally and that's not what men

00:21:50.760 want like when you talked about the dating market do all the women on the panel believe that women 0.98

00:21:56.920 are the problem with the dating market no they contribute they contribute 100 they contribute

00:22:02.440 because there's one can i just say this there's more women on the market in the dating market and 1.00

00:22:08.560 how i would put it is everyone so a lot of women say they're the prize but they don't act like a prize 1.00

00:22:14.180 so they're readily available if you're available to 25 men how are you a prize you're readily

00:22:20.320 available i put it like this if you have a rolex they don't advertise rolex you know the value of

00:22:26.180 it if you see a ferrari they don't advertise that you know the value of it if you're on socials

00:22:32.220 dating apps advertising yourself with no clothes you know trying to get male attention are you really

00:22:38.720 a prize but what that sounds like to me is a cognitive dissonance huh that that sounds like a cognitive

00:22:43.180 dissonance to me so like you think of one thing but you're not the other so that still goes back to

00:22:47.400 the fact that women are potentially the problem in the dating market because of this delusion that 1.00

00:22:51.680 they they carry i'm the prize yeah i deserve this and i deserve that yet read i'm not actually the

00:22:56.280 prize like how can you be a prize at all if you're a virgin if you're not a virgin

00:23:00.140 if you're not so much no i'm saying like back in the 19 in the 1950s like like you were a hoe 0.99

00:23:08.880 if you if you slept with like two people i think men nowadays would pray for two

00:23:12.900 and so it's like like what how are you a prize if you're not a virgin and you're well the first of

00:23:20.420 all that sorry the social parameters have changed okay we know this and we're acknowledging that's the

00:23:25.640 case here in this but men haven't changed just because the social parameters have changed but the

00:23:29.980 thing is the social the social parameters have changed to appease women yeah and so so met but men

00:23:34.640 have remained the same they they want the same things women have changed no but as i said the

00:23:39.620 social parameters have changed so the social parameters for men have changed and the social

00:23:44.120 parameters for women have changed what do you mean what do you define social parameters so for example 1.00

00:23:48.760 materialistically men are supposed to still provide be able to provide at a higher rate at a faster rate 0.92

00:23:57.340 from a younger age this is a social parameter change it's not realistic it is set out by women i agree 1.00

00:24:03.780 but with the women with the ladies now a lot of us we have a materialistic approach to how we view men

00:24:11.240 and when they can't provide that we get upset we don't actually look at like what you said the

00:24:17.000 characteristics the moralistic values we don't look at actually when i look at this man do i see

00:24:22.840 family because a lot of people they're there they want uh financial benefits but they don't actually

00:24:30.200 want family what doesn't that make women the problem then yeah because because men are the 0.91

00:24:34.720 same like if anything more is expected of men is less is given to them because they look sorry no go

00:24:40.960 ahead go ahead i think that um we're getting married a lot later in life and that's you know part of it

00:24:47.520 so like for example maybe 50 years ago getting married at age 16 to 18 might not have been a big deal

00:24:55.340 whereas now when a when a young woman wants to get married at 21 it's like are you ready for this

00:25:02.460 you know have you finished uni yeah have you traveled there's there's so much that women are doing that 1.00

00:25:08.040 they weren't doing 50 years ago that they're doing now and it's it's affecting the the age that people

00:25:13.280 get married so that's gonna make women the problem yeah oh i never i never said women are not but then 0.99

00:25:18.260 did you not say that they were that they were the prize i said we're the prize when we're younger

00:25:23.400 oh yeah yeah before 40 and i'm curious i haven't heard much from you what do you think because i

00:25:28.820 don't agree okay i feel like men have a problem okay oh great tell me why tell me why because i'm

00:25:35.380 young isn't it so i'm just thinking when i was younger women were always the one um more involved

00:25:43.160 in the relationships men were always the one cheating treating the women wrong so that now i'm 21

00:25:50.140 all of us are tired at the age of 21 why did you pick them

00:25:53.640 if you if you if women hate being cheated on why'd you pick the ones that cheat girls know you know 1.00

00:26:00.820 early on that they're gonna cheat on you you know you know damn well which you know you know you know

00:26:04.600 you know damn well you know damn well that that guy is capable of cheating so how that's how is that

00:26:10.500 on him when you picked him do you know what after i finished with the guys that cheat i was not like 0.94

00:26:15.500 let me go to a nice guy yeah but now you're but now you're a leftover for him oh but i was only

00:26:20.640 like 18 so look i'm not i'm not saying i'm just saying that's how men view it 18 yeah i mean i mean

00:26:26.060 i don't i don't know i'm not gonna ask like what i'm just saying like i'm saying this is common so

00:26:31.380 so you're young but i'm saying this is common where girls will go through the bad boys and the cheaters

00:26:35.140 until they're 27 28 and then come to the nice guys who they've been rejecting the last decade

00:26:40.060 right and saying take me oh i'm ready for you and they're like well now you're you're chad's

00:26:45.940 leftovers and i hear that but it's like how is that on them when we pick them because one out of three

00:26:52.360 men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the last year so there's a lot of men that won't cheat

00:26:56.240 on you you just don't want them look at me go look in your friend zone or go to go to you guys 0.60

00:27:06.840 don't have talk do you guys have taco bell here you do go to go to taco bell ask the guy out behind

00:27:11.460 the counter i bet you he won't cheat on you come on don't do that go ask him out

00:27:16.280 you know how we're talking about the whole team don't we feel like back in the day there was no

00:27:23.800 social media like they were writing letters everyone's covered up from head to toe i feel

00:27:28.260 like because now there's more temptation even for the guys because women because yeah because women 0.63

00:27:32.960 got worse yeah because because men will do anything to get laid okay literally literally anything so

00:27:38.460 if if we required marriage to get laid we would all be married if we if we required a fancy date so

00:27:46.100 our values have lessened that's what you're saying i would say women have thrown it at them yeah like 1.00

00:27:50.720 we're less valuable to men because men are the same so can we ask the men that was valuable to

00:27:55.560 them that would be yeah go ahead go ahead start with like what do you mean like what what does

00:28:02.060 value mean to you in a woman uh femininity uh submission um being my piece that's the key one 0.54

00:28:13.460 yeah that's important so important i love that one yeah that's it yeah i would say literally the

00:28:18.400 same stuff as him like literally the same um being feminine peace of mind um being able to look at

00:28:25.000 yourself as well and have self-development like be able to actually say accountability yeah do you

00:28:29.620 know i mean and being able to have a conversation about stuff like if there's an issue which some

00:28:34.020 a lot of people can't do to be honest so also question do you guys value purity would you guys

00:28:39.740 would you guys rather have a girl that's up with 100 guys or one guy

00:28:42.780 okay let's let's say would you rather have a girl that's up with 10 guys or 50

00:28:52.020 10 okay okay so you value purity yeah yeah definitely yeah same thing yeah okay what about

00:28:58.460 you same as me boy you know what's crazy um that you're talking about purity i went into someone's

00:29:04.260 tiktok live but it's about purity and she was talking about andrew tate and you know he said the

00:29:07.920 same kind of thing yeah with girls sleeping with loads of people and the girls sleeping with less 1.00

00:29:11.720 um and she said well i don't really care what guys think i'll sleep with whoever i want and as

00:29:16.740 much people as i want there's nothing you could do about it in my head i just thought this is the

00:29:21.280 problem because i don't know if there's like something that's mad but they will still get left

00:29:25.380 so yeah but no i don't agree with it i don't agree with that i think that's where we tapped

00:29:30.420 but that's crazy but those kind of girls sorry but those kind of girls i feel like i i strongly

00:29:35.700 disagree it's mad because you get like let's say i've seen good guys that will go for that and

00:29:40.460 i'm just there like what i'll tell you why they're the nice guys picking up the leftovers and the

00:29:45.020 problem is those girls don't respect him because they actually want the dude that cheated 1.00

00:29:48.680 whenever whenever a girl whenever a girl has a guy that she always complains about that's who

00:29:53.600 she loved the most it's not it's not the one that she doesn't really talk about he said he was such

00:29:58.440 a good boyfriend he was she didn't like him you're laughing you know it's true and so those guys pick

00:30:05.060 them up at 30 and then they'll still cheat with the the guy they really wanted or wish they were with

00:30:10.580 him yeah what done for but that's why that's why like virgins should be preferred like if you if 1.00

00:30:18.160 you've slept with one person and you get married what is your chance of a happy marriage do you think

00:30:23.140 i heard your podcast you actually mentioned this and it was higher but then do you know what i

00:30:27.920 find crazy that you also get the guys that complain that oh my day she didn't know what

00:30:31.840 she was doing in bed and then now he started cheating five years down the line because she's 0.97

00:30:35.320 so dead and also no wait no wait no wait no i've heard a guy say we actually weren't sexually

00:30:39.700 compatible that's the reason why because he was probably too much of a freak most girls can't 0.97

00:30:43.820 have good sex serious most girls are not good at sex how do you know huh 1.00

00:30:48.600 honestly most girls just take wood let's be real like but if it's your partner would you not teach 0.98

00:30:58.640 them and would you not would you lot not like grow like as in you're teaching her what you like she's

00:31:03.540 teaching you what she likes of course it's contextual um i don't think you can be with a partner and not

00:31:08.720 expect her to like certain things but then that's what i'm saying certain guys they're just overly

00:31:12.960 freaky because most men are very simple to please you just blow up it's true but guys would prefer

00:31:19.920 a girl they could teach yes versus because if she's coming in a freak he's like where'd you learn that 0.99

00:31:24.800 where'd you where'd you i i i do you know what's so funny i have this discussion with like my male

00:31:31.720 cousins my brothers i feel like every guy says listen i've read men are from mars women are from

00:31:36.100 venus one of my favorite books men are so simple whoa what you lot say peace of mind

00:31:42.380 when they don't want to talk just leave them he will come back when he's ready and i feel like

00:31:46.760 because we're so emotional and erratic sometimes it's like you know how men are quite logical when

00:31:51.220 you call your man of a problem we just want to hear is it is it he's like the reality most times

00:31:56.160 we're not doing well because of our nature we don't we try in our heads we're like like me for

00:32:00.440 example i feel like i can be very peaceful i can be very understanding but there are times in the

00:32:07.180 month where i'm not i'm just not having it because of my i don't know maybe i can blame it on the

00:32:12.220 hormones or or that day is just not the day or i'm in my head about something that he's done

00:32:16.900 as much as i want to be peaceful i might not be peaceful that day and so i feel like

00:32:21.820 but then it wouldn't be your character no no i'm not i'm not i'm not saying that it's good that i'm

00:32:26.820 like that i know that it can be a problem but relationships are never perfect do you know i mean

00:32:31.200 so you could control that at work right i i can and the thing is i do control it in my relationship

00:32:36.280 as much as i can there's no relationship that doesn't have fights or arguments do you know i

00:32:40.180 mean so but sometimes you go from zero to 100 and you know you've done as long as you acknowledge

00:32:45.760 you've done it and you're able to apologize and accept accountability and try and change that's

00:32:50.760 quite interesting though because that um phil said you can for most women you can stay quiet at work

00:32:55.940 but at home you're letting loose like why is that i mean you have to communicate with someone

00:33:00.720 why does your boss have more power than you it depends on what you call letting loose some

00:33:04.740 women are mad and it's shouting and it's throwing plates i mean we see it on social media we see 1.00

00:33:11.020 movies and stuff like you know some women do throw things around the name up jordans 1.00

00:33:14.680 smashing phones smashing cars we see that yeah but a lot of women are not doing that and also can i 1.00

00:33:22.300 say something before you got with that women i'm gonna lie you should have seen her in all her 1.00

00:33:25.440 seasons when i say seasons i mean how she's reacting to like how she's talking when she don't know

00:33:29.840 that you're watching how she's dealing with certain situations i understand some women are 1.00

00:33:33.240 tapped some men are tapped but i also feel like if you're getting with a woman you should try and

00:33:36.940 see her you won't always see it though you you won't even i think i agree no i feel like you can

00:33:41.240 see everyone in their seasons you just have to i think in modern generation a lot of us lack

00:33:45.800 self-awareness so and i think that is more um more more women lack self-awareness for that i'm 0.93

00:33:52.420 going to say that just because of the situation we're talking about how prevalent are they you

00:33:57.380 don't really see men going out there and doing mad stuff like that you see women doing that more

00:34:01.100 so speak on it if you disagree i agree with you and it's shown it's shown i mean that's what i was

00:34:07.800 gonna say it's promoted to perpetuate to perpetuate it further and to empower people who don't have

00:34:14.660 the understanding so for me it's not about me but being self-reflective is a part of day-to-day life

00:34:22.500 as a partner to somebody else if you can't reflect on your own behaviors you shouldn't be on in a

00:34:28.320 relationship what do you mean by self-reflective what actionable items is that so if for example

00:34:34.020 you have a disagreement with your partner okay you should be able to communicate how how that came

00:34:41.300 about what because men they use less words yeah they don't want to hear a whole load of talking 0.99

00:34:46.360 let's be honest they just want to get straight to the point what can i do to be a better partner to

00:34:52.280 you in this situation communicating that to your partner because you're the you're the second in

00:34:57.900 command if you want to say your your man is a representation of you and you are a representation

00:35:03.280 of your man when he's not around and when he's around obviously do you think that's what men want

00:35:09.000 well i don't do you think they want like constant communication or do you think they want us to shut

00:35:13.460 up no no no no no no no what i will say i don't know what men want but i will ask them i don't assume

00:35:20.260 anything i'm going to ask you every man every man is different what say for example what davante

00:35:25.880 requires and what's your name so yeah oh sorry phil phil yeah what phil requires maybe totally

00:35:32.880 different spectrums you know phil's married to his wife she's got maybe not i don't know but maybe

00:35:39.500 she's got six attributes of maybe the 10 attributes he really loves and that is good enough and he can

00:35:45.900 work on that but if you don't if you're not self-reflective as a as a woman and a man together

00:35:51.620 i think i think women don't have to be self-aware though in today's society because

00:35:56.000 because of the accountability element so there is no impetus throughout your life as you're growing

00:36:01.160 older for you to have to be self-reflective and self-aware because especially if you're attractive

00:36:05.760 especially if you're attractive most men give you everything you want you can get there's no need 0.55

00:36:10.420 for you to have to think okay well how do i behave in this context or that context i think that comes

00:36:14.780 with maturity to give an example i was talking to a girl and she's very attractive and i told her

00:36:19.020 most of the girls around you are with you because you're pretty and most of the guys that chat you 0.99

00:36:22.300 just want to fuck you but to her she just thought oh this is all everybody loves me everybody loves 0.99

00:36:26.060 me so at what point in her life does she realize that she's being used and by the time she's able 1.00

00:36:30.720 to realize by where she's mature she's already beat out by bare man so where's her value at that point

00:36:36.020 it's the same why do why do women always think they're tens do they 1.00

00:36:40.340 constantly i do i do street interviews all the time girls will say i'm a 10 i'm a 10 i'm a 10 i've had so

00:36:47.600 many girls on the maybe their friends have lied to them but i'm saying that's but i don't have men 0.95

00:36:51.360 do that i've never my life i've never i've never i've never i've never in my life had a man say i'm

00:36:57.340 a 10. you know men are more honest i feel like if my like if i don't look nice my guy friend will say

00:37:02.100 you don't look nice like change that i get oh girl you look so cute so i feel like men accept the

00:37:07.680 reality and they're not gonna lie to you you have to you might not you sorry person x might be really

00:37:12.600 minus one however her girlfriends because of mental health and like a lot of things they might 0.93

00:37:18.080 just be like you're really beautiful right but that goes that goes back to the point that women 1.00

00:37:21.480 don't face reality i feel like the women who say that their tens don't really believe they are anyway

00:37:25.900 when you when you see how they behave they don't behave like they believe their tens they're just

00:37:30.980 saying it because of what they can get but the point is they can go out in society and be delusional

00:37:34.980 yeah and that's that's normal for women and women women are bailed out of every single bad decision 1.00

00:37:40.140 we make can i just every you know can i just say about the 10 business most of the women that lie 1.00

00:37:45.920 to their friends and say their friend is a 10 knowing she's a free allow sorry i do know that

00:37:52.500 happens because it allows those women who also feel that they're a three and a four yeah or maybe a 1.00

00:37:58.700 five or a six feel bolstered up in that group do you understand feel like the beautiful friend like oh

00:38:04.440 yeah girl you look good but when you go out like your friend's looking a bit tacky and

00:38:08.380 you feel a bit more attractive that's a dynamic in in play so they're more desirable to men it's

00:38:15.600 indirect is it insulting for a woman to be called average i think if it's the reality if it's the 1.00

00:38:21.420 reality it's the reality honestly if you're average your personality might be like out of this world but

00:38:27.260 the reality is to the human eye or to whoever's telling you your average that's their opinion i don't

00:38:31.480 think there's anything wrong with preference you might be um like 10 out of 10 to me you might be

00:38:36.320 five out of 10 someone else it's just and you can't but that's a female like you're not a 10 out 1.00

00:38:41.420 of 10 to anyone if you're average looking but then you can't take what someone else has said if you

00:38:45.240 are average you know you're average go and work on yourself or believe in your average and be that

00:38:49.120 great but i'm saying most people are average so like oftentimes if i tell a girl she's average they

00:38:56.280 get defensive and mad because it has a negative connotation but just tell them fix up and use

00:39:00.420 your brain what is a three what's a 10 let's clarify that what are the what are the things

00:39:08.280 that make people these rankings that's what i was talking about like women's primary value to the 1.00

00:39:13.120 world is your looks that's the most like valuable asset that you can see every year when they show

00:39:17.220 the most handsome man exactly and i'll just be like he's all right i don't think he's all that

00:39:21.400 but scientifically when you go out and ask people yeah because you find because you find 80% of men

00:39:25.900 unattractive that's why you think that no i think he's all right he's just not my type

00:39:29.740 i know but that's why like that's why you could find the most handsome man on the planet

00:39:33.340 no but i'm saying let me fit you keep interrupting me stop and you could find a guy in the top five

00:39:38.880 percent of male handsome and you still find him he's all right and like that's that's that's women 0.62

00:39:44.960 that's true women do we do let's be real we do it no but i think someone's so nice and she might 0.98

00:39:49.540 do even when you see someone with their boyfriend you'd be like i'll tell him he's nice

00:39:53.640 no no no you see someone with their boy so you don't think the boyfriend's nice no i'm saying

00:39:58.020 if i think someone's nice i believe no no if you don't think someone's boyfriend is nice how do you

00:40:02.300 behave it's not for me to come no it's the reaction what's your reaction at least he treats you nice

00:40:06.840 to answer your question i say eight to ten means you can get a modeling contract contract eight is

00:40:12.780 you're the prettiest girl in a small town nine means you're going to hollywood based on your looks 0.88

00:40:16.040 alone ten is damn near perfect seven i go off of kevin samuels scale so i don't do sevens

00:40:21.900 because people are either models or they're cute pretty five is normal six is cute below that

00:40:27.440 but yeah that's that's how so but a lot like on tiktok the other day um

00:40:37.100 i i got banned but before i got banned i commented on a girl because she was going off on my things 0.53

00:40:43.820 and i just said another average looking girl coping oh man right because she was 0.96

00:40:47.680 because she was mad because i was saying men prefer younger women it's just true it's not fun

00:40:53.280 i don't enjoy that i'm getting you know i'm 25 i'm gonna be 26 in november i don't enjoy that

00:40:57.360 but it's just true and if you're average looking at 30 you're below average

00:41:02.480 but you know she but like that's an it but do you see everyone's silent because that's an insult but it

00:41:08.860 shouldn't be it's not it was an insult if i i don't think it's an insult it's even but if i said

00:41:13.540 average looking guy no one would really yeah but it's contextualizing a man wants i agree with you

00:41:18.960 but yeah go ahead it's so crazy because it's like men want maybe what's younger than them maybe because

00:41:24.960 you're bendable you're movable it's like you're teachable whereas when you're older you're probably

00:41:29.680 more stuck in your ways and also you're probably prettier because you're younger unless you just don't

00:41:33.400 look your age that shouldn't be the case however people do people do lie because if if you walk

00:41:41.060 around you believe you're 10 and you're like i'm a 10 i'm a 10 people are going to shut you down and

00:41:44.560 say no you're not but if you go around saying i'm a 2 they would also try and pump you up and say no

00:41:49.380 you're not even a 2 you're 5 and it's true most people don't want to be honest about what they really

00:41:54.180 think because they don't want to hurt feelings which is understandable but i think if women really got 1.00

00:41:57.980 that pushback there wouldn't be so many claiming their 10s that's true so i don't think i think women 1.00

00:42:02.680 true but if a man goes on social media and he says i'm a 10 i'm a 10 i'm a 10 i swear to god women 1.00

00:42:07.260 will be the first ones even even you this is the most handsome man on the planet for a magazine

00:42:13.440 and your first comment is he's all right it's i'm no hate to you it's just part of like women 0.81

00:42:20.820 but my thing is yeah we're not all gonna think attractive is attractive that's my point do you

00:42:26.240 know what i think it is as well some most for women's i thought for me let me speak for myself like

00:42:30.760 when when i'm if i see a man and i don't think he's attractive or my type i think my mind could

00:42:36.500 change when i start talking to him or when i get to know him or see his vibes i think sometimes because

00:42:41.000 women don't see looks first if he's feminine he starts talking like a girl and he don't like women 0.64

00:42:46.020 he don't like women if he's talking to me 1.00

00:42:49.340 if he if you ever had a guy that was very attractive then he opened his mouth and he like sounds like a

00:42:55.300 girl and his voice is so high-pitched and you're like oh god i'll assume he's a i can't say it

00:43:01.740 um okay so if so going back to the prize analogy if women date up and they claim they're the prize 1.00

00:43:12.720 and she is the prize in a relationship then isn't that relationship destined to fail

00:43:18.360 say that again say that again sorry so if women if women claims that she's the prize isn't that 1.00

00:43:25.380 relationship destined to fail because women date up 1.00

00:43:28.700 i don't want to speak first okay why don't you you're quiet so you got yeah yeah i'm thinking

00:43:39.800 i'm not sure i'm not sure i just think the man is the head i feel like the man is the head the

00:43:47.140 woman is the neck we all work as one so women don't actually know how much power they have in 1.00

00:43:52.000 regards to like you could get a man to do something just by maybe advising or changing the way you speak

00:43:58.400 and it can be done so if we're going technically i would say yeah because for her to be what was the

00:44:04.040 context of the prize so if she thinks she's the prize already i already think like we need to

00:44:09.980 understand that the man you see the word prize is a bit have you okay have you ever seen a girl

00:44:15.260 that like genuinely feels like she married down oh like like like that she she runs the show she has 0.99

00:44:21.840 her husband by the it's like she she walks all over yeah does that does that's like we're horrible to

00:44:26.840 see i don't like that because i feel like the man like he's just disrespect when he when he puts her

00:44:32.360 on a pedestal yeah like will smith remember a couple i called i called will smith before any when

00:44:38.280 he was remember at all the award shows girls don't like that they don't respect that but in that

00:44:44.780 relationship she she he felt like she was the prize and now and now you have one of the a guy in the 0.98

00:44:51.640 top one percent of looks money i think it used to be muscles sorry but like looking stupid he looks 0.98

00:45:00.720 like a fool because of his woman the whole like that relationship has failed then 100 oh yeah jada 0.98

00:45:07.520 and you're saying that's because she because he looked at jada as the price partially gave her the 1.00

00:45:12.940 control well partially yeah because she like jada jada wanted to be with a tupac and then and so and 1.00

00:45:20.140 that's what that's what that's when we go back to the bad boys and the nice guys well because he

00:45:24.080 he picked a girl he picked a girl that'd been ran through by by tupac yeah maybe he got tupac's

00:45:31.460 leftovers yeah so i think you mentioned something where you said um it was along the lines of you

00:45:39.080 guys have basically gassed up the girl to make like you said she thinks people like her but they don't 1.00

00:45:44.340 it's just her looks so therefore you guys have played that well but i was also going to say you

00:45:48.020 know how the women the term women are mad i think we are visibly more mad because we act out i also

00:45:55.260 think there are some guys whether it's narcissistic tendencies or psychologically they may and it's

00:45:59.600 not seen on social media it's not seen out there all we see is the woman going mad the woman burning

00:46:04.040 shoes the woman doing this but i feel like sometimes you get a lot of mad men who i don't

00:46:08.360 know what they studied but they get into a woman's head and it may not be like he's actively doing

00:46:13.740 something but those men were raised by women i'll tell you that now those men weren't raised by men

00:46:18.420 what those tendencies you're talking about that's a manipulation against your head and that's what

00:46:22.560 women do that's what women do to their husbands that's what men do when they have kids that's 1.00

00:46:27.080 women so the men you're talking about goes back to women angry woman this well and at the end of 1.00

00:46:33.100 the day women are in control of relationships i know men get to pick who they're in a relationship 1.00

00:46:37.040 with but you could argue that women are in control because we're in control of sex and these days that 1.00

00:46:40.780 seems to come first so we're picking so if we we hate the toxic and we hate the manipulative guys

00:46:47.000 why are we sleeping with them as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on

00:46:54.340 a daily basis on this platform if you want to help please consider sending a super thanks below

00:47:01.140 every donation helps and it helps make what we do possible

JustPearlyThings - March 20, 2023

A SIMP is a TYPE of Man

Episode Stats

Summary

Transcript