JustPearlyThings - April 14, 2023


About How SELFISH Modern Women ARE


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

217.84052

Word Count

2,495

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

14

Hate Speech Sentences

7


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 that race relations are different that's that's that's the thing you could just never understand
00:00:03.680 someone else's point of view of certain things because you might think like you said that you
00:00:07.280 felt that that was racist yeah i don't i personally don't think that's to me i think he made it into
00:00:11.360 a race thing the way he generalized the whole um situation but i don't think that's basically
00:00:16.800 with races because i could sit here now and say you know what he's right i can relate to him my
00:00:21.680 son being black being put into a nursery and being raised in a nursery he um he was he wasn't eating
00:00:27.280 black food at home and i hated that and i'm just like what can i do we're in a white country and
00:00:32.080 they're what they're not gonna feed him rice they're not gonna cook him rice because i i asked him
00:00:36.720 they're gonna feed them the stuff that people eat in this country but that's a very different
00:00:40.080 situation because you're putting your child in an institution where they need to be looked after
00:00:43.440 and you're just unhappy with the food that they are providing the child he's talking about he's
00:00:48.320 talking about the individuals doing the care it's nothing to do with the food that's being
00:00:52.320 provided do you want to sound like this but yeah about the identity and the ethnicity of the
00:00:56.000 individual yeah and i feel the same way as well where at some point i was thinking to myself i
00:01:00.160 need to watch the nursery closer i don't want them to um neglect my son any type of way because i don't
00:01:05.040 think they might understand the certain things that he might naturally the certain characteristics
00:01:09.520 that he might naturally have as a black boy oh i understand that but i don't think it's right to
00:01:13.840 make a sweeping general relation me as a black woman i would never go in and laugh at you do you
00:01:18.480 want to sound like that's okay but you sound like he's made a sweeping generalization maybe you have
00:01:22.800 to be very careful yeah when you're making such generalizations about people's races and the care
00:01:27.440 that they're providing if you have an issue with the care itself and the fact that you're unhappy
00:01:31.840 putting your child sometimes the care no you can't now turn around and say that it's because these
00:01:36.800 people are immigrants it's because this is where they've come from that's an individual issue would you
00:01:41.040 like to answer yeah the point is the point is this a child is totally vulnerable you know
00:01:48.480 they're they're completely helpless and they're also these are their formative years that this is
00:01:53.520 their brain developing the damage done to a child can never be undone i agree and so that's why the
00:01:58.960 person that's overseeing their development should be the mother or if not the mother it should be
00:02:04.240 somebody close it should be a grandmother should be an aunt yeah when you throw them into a daycare
00:02:08.880 it's like you just get what you get and it could be these people and and you're right i mean and i'll
00:02:13.920 say this you could have a daycare worker who's the amazing you know no matter what the race could be
00:02:18.640 amazing and could love them so much that's often not what you get in these types of positions if it's
00:02:24.080 a retirement home retirement home doesn't pay super well to be like an orderly daycare worker doesn't
00:02:30.480 pay super well if you're like on a budget or something so they're bringing people in who even are
00:02:35.680 these people they pay him nothing here's my child during the most formative year in their development
00:02:40.720 are they going to get cared for the way a human being needs to i don't think so and and race
00:02:47.440 actually does play into that and immigration does play into that hundred percent i think it's also
00:02:53.920 elitist who can actually afford to have better care for their kids yeah i agree i think it's
00:03:00.640 socioeconomics but it's not it's not you don't have to be an elitist to to be a stay-at-home mother
00:03:05.440 socioeconomics can you afford to be a stay-at-home mother i think in this country there are numerous
00:03:11.600 muslim families who raise a dozen kids with one father and one mother one father one mother they
00:03:18.080 got the help from the community well bingo yeah where's where is the your local community i wish
00:03:24.240 we had it okay and good we agree on something those women are often able to go down in lifestyle for a
00:03:30.400 family where um women that are able to survive on one income are able to go down on lifestyle for a
00:03:37.680 family like a lot of women just they want to buy clothes all the time they want to go get their nails
00:03:42.240 done their hair done and then they're like oh oh i can't afford i can't we can't live off of one income
00:03:49.440 well if you're spending 500 bucks a month on your your maintenance to maintain you of course
00:03:55.760 of course you're not going to be able to afford kids do you know what the national average income
00:03:59.760 is in the uk um 34 000 pounds 36 at the moment 36 yeah and do you know how much it is to raise a kid
00:04:06.480 on average um no it's 11 000 a year yeah but that's assuming you're doing it on your own if you just
00:04:13.520 talked about muslim families yeah yeah it is assuming we're doing it on our own division of
00:04:20.000 labor yeah and the other thing they don't talk about with those stats is they often amp them up
00:04:25.680 i i talked to a woman in florida that's the thing that they sell women that oh you can't you can't
00:04:29.760 raise kids on like this amount of money but i talked to this lady in florida and she really
00:04:34.080 changed my perspective on it she raised 10 kids on ten thousand dollars a year yeah yeah i think that's
00:04:38.560 but she just i feel like everything is by choice she learned everything herself she learned how to
00:04:42.880 sew she learned how to cook like cook everything from scratch she grows her own food like there's
00:04:47.120 nothing stopping i feel like there's a spectrum to there's a spectrum to like every example we've
00:04:51.600 given here work you don't have to be like motivation can i just say something i think that there's like
00:04:58.080 a whole spectrum that i'm seeing in this conversation is from one end to the other you don't have to be
00:05:03.200 extremely at one end where like you have to sew each one of yours or like sellotape your kids you
00:05:09.600 can't you don't have to you don't that's one you don't have and and then the other end sorry the
00:05:15.040 other end is where you literally are spending so much on yourself on maintenance and you can't take
00:05:19.040 care of your kids you're sacrificing your own lifestyle for your kids i mean i feel like if you
00:05:23.520 study yourself you study your lifestyle and how many kids that you have and how often you're spreading
00:05:27.680 your legs you should know how to put yourself on a spectrum it's that easy and we can't blame we can
00:05:32.160 sit here and say oh um um when it comes to like money or economy we can say okay the government
00:05:37.840 and the community but really and truly the community did you didn't they didn't sign a
00:05:41.600 contract to help you look after your kids that's how personally you feel i'm not no no you can all
00:05:45.840 you could if you want children and you feel like you can't raise them on the salary that you're on
00:05:50.000 then get a a better job for a bigger salary than have the child but i just hate hearing how they always
00:05:56.640 make women i have a child so i hate people just stereotyping me thinking oh because
00:06:02.000 i have a child and at some point i was single that i was struggling i was never struggling
00:06:06.160 because i knew at that point in my life i had the right job i could get myself a car house everything
00:06:12.320 so i was able to maintain it don't just have children and be unsure of what the future holds
00:06:17.520 and then if the future doesn't go in your way with talk where we're holding up to like the government
00:06:22.480 the community that this that's absolutely bullshit to me or that you have to completely rid of any
00:06:27.520 kind of lifestyle just yeah my nails are done like my lashes are done and i still have a child and he's
00:06:33.440 he's and this that's what makes me happy that's why i said that because at some point i couldn't do
00:06:38.240 them things at some point i knew that my child came first i wanted to be like um a 21 year old female
00:06:45.200 in london in the uk traveling here and there all my friends used to ask me like let's go here let's go
00:06:50.480 there i had the money to book the flight when they wanted to i had the but i kind of stayed away from
00:06:54.800 them type of friendships not like i cut them off i told them i'm not in the right situation or them
00:06:59.520 friends they'll call me let's go out this weekend some some female some female friends that i know
00:07:04.640 with children if you call them and say let's go out this weekend they'll be looking for a babysitter
00:07:08.960 i don't want a situation that puts me in a situation in um in a state of mind where i have to now
00:07:15.120 maneuver my my son's lifestyle or his his ability to just be comfortable in his own home just because
00:07:21.120 i want to go out so we choose the lifestyle really if i chose to have that child and choose to and
00:07:28.240 that's a more traditional mindset because it's the kid before you but the modern mentality is me me me
00:07:33.920 me i'm going to put my happiness before my family i'm going to buy my happiness before my kid it's all
00:07:38.400 about me it's a shame they won't say it they won't say it but they that's what i said that's the
00:07:45.680 example that i just gave i was a 21 year old um young woman single with a child and just starting
00:07:51.760 university and with no family support or anything and i wanted to have the nicest hair i wanted to
00:07:57.520 have the nicest shoes all the designers i wanted it but i said you know what i put in in in my mind i
00:08:03.040 can use this money that i have to buy this and make myself happy but you're not in the right
00:08:08.480 financial means to do that so that's going to affect you you don't know what's going to
00:08:12.480 happen tomorrow in an emergency if something happens if i'm not able to care for my son i'm
00:08:17.200 going to look stupid because i failed as a mother did you see where i'm coming from so what do you
00:08:21.840 think can women have it all career me yeah i very much agree um i mean canner can't i think they can
00:08:29.680 but it's it's all about prioritizing what for the what is important for you for that moment
00:08:35.280 so i'm about to be 27 i've spent the last x number of years you know educating myself studying
00:08:41.920 spending the time for me to live the life that i would like but i also want a family at the end of
00:08:46.240 the day so i know that i i like the fact that you asked the question like can we have it all
00:08:51.920 at once because i think if you'd ask us a question can you have it all just at any point yeah i agree
00:08:58.400 with that i think i can be able to live my life in my 20s and then at the point where i feel like
00:09:02.480 i can settle down and have a family i'm now putting all of my time and my effort into that
00:09:07.760 but can i do that at the same time no that's very unrealistic very delusional and very irresponsible
00:09:13.680 because i'm not now going to have a job if i personally want to work have a corporate job i had
00:09:19.200 a corporate job work a corporate job and also have a family i cannot give my 100 to both yeah do you
00:09:24.880 think that spending your 20s um doing that it prepares you to be a wife i think well if the
00:09:32.480 idea if you want to be a wife then i feel like you should be pairing yourself anyway i don't understand
00:09:37.760 what is that in your 20s is that in your like i'm just saying typically i don't i don't think men
00:09:41.840 typically want women that have spent their 20s focusing on themselves and then say at 30 oh i'm ready
00:09:47.600 well i think that's a problem because you should be with somebody that is career driven and has
00:09:51.440 something outside of the home otherwise why should they be that why should they be why should they
00:09:57.520 ask you i'm just i'm just i'm just asking yeah i'm asking the question is as a man i'm obviously not a
00:10:01.920 man what is it that meant value in a women clearly it's very different but my idea my thought process
00:10:08.480 is i want to be able to have traveled be open-minded because if you're traditional men i'm assuming you
00:10:14.240 want to have a family you want to have kids don't you want to be with a woman that is worldly educated
00:10:19.600 well-traveled can bring something to the table rather than somebody that has absolutely no idea
00:10:25.440 about anything in life and really can't contribute anything outside of just being a woman um well
00:10:30.320 oh do you want to go first sorry yeah no that's a simple answer isn't it yeah no no we don't want
00:10:35.120 that at all okay on one there's on one key point there um the idea of being well traveled is a giant
00:10:41.440 red flag for most for most men um because typically when a woman if you if i look at a woman's instagram
00:10:48.400 page and i see pictures of her on a private jet on a yacht in multiple different fancy locations
00:10:53.600 she's in mykonos here she's in paris she's in dubai she's in new york my immediate assumption is this
00:10:59.040 woman is a hoe as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily
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