Advice Married Women NEED To HEAR
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about how to deal with comments from your partner that make you feel fat. Do you get offended when your partner says things like "you look amazing" or "you're a bit heavy" in the bedroom? Do you have a problem with these comments and how do you deal with them?
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You know, when you said, if your man commented on your body in the bedroom,
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Oh, no. I mean, I wouldn't like I just do something about it.
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It depends on what they say, though, and how they say it.
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And I think it's also the heart behind it as well.
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As well as the heart, because I trust my husband.
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So anything that he says, I know it's not like a malicious,
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but also my husband is a bit of an enemy of my progress because I want to lose weight.
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And he's very like, oh, well, you look amazing.
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But sometimes I just feel like if your partner says, oh, yeah,
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I'd love if you like turned up, it gives you that extra motivation to go turn up.
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I think there's a there's a way of going around it.
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So it's not like, oh, when you was when we was doing this and I felt this.
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I was just going to say I think it's all down to approach how things are said.
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Because if let's say you're getting busy with your guy and you're saying, oh,
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Well, handle my heaviness and get stronger then.
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Imagine you're in the moment and all of a sudden you're a bit heavy today.
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No, I was just saying, like, if let's say you're in the moment, you know, your mind's
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And then all of a sudden you hear a silly comment like, you're a bit heavy today.
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Personally, in the moment, I don't think that matters if it's true.
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I think it's good to date guys who like your body type if they're in the position.
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I said, I think it's important that you date guys that like your body type.
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I didn't look like this a couple of babies ago.
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I mean, you've grown together as a couple though.
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So by what she said, like, he met me one day, he could be like, oh, but I want you to go
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He doesn't care, but I'm saying if he cared, I probably would be more motivated to lose
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It wouldn't just be like my internal, I want to lose weight.
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But he's like, you know, can you buy me a chocolate?
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There are a lot of men who still expect their women to, even if she doesn't look exactly
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like how they met before kids, they still expect their women to look somewhat the same.
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So luckily your man's like, you know, we can eat chocolate together or whatever.
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But there are a lot of men are like, she's just, you know, and there are a lot of women
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that feel offended by it because it's like, oh, I've pushed out this baby.
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But like, well, I just think sometimes men feel like they can't say things that are true
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to us and like, we want them to communicate it in a feminine way.
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So when you say like, it's how you say it, it's very confusing to guys because they're like,
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I think men are required to be gentle with women because we are not like them.
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So I think in the same way we should not expect men to deliver in a way that a female would,
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they need to recognize that they're not speaking to a male.
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So yes, I feel like men should be able to be truthful, but they should do it gently because
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I just think that women need to grow a backbone and stop making excuses because if you're
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If you got to put on weight, you got to put on weight.
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No, but what I'm trying to say is that it all depends on your relationship and how you talk
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to each other because we're just quite straightforward and blunt to the point where people
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To your comment, it was like, because you said, but did you feel like that?
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So let's say the woman disagreed and then he's like, okay, but I want you to, you know,
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And she's like, no, I don't really feel like I need you to.
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If he then stepped out, are you saying that's like wrong or like his eyes are not going to
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But he has, he's like, he's telling me like, babe, please go to the gym.
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If you ask something and I, and I said, no, I don't feel like it.
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Your resolve can't be, then I'm just going to step out.
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If like, if there's a resolve that goes beyond us, continuing this conversation until we're
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both like, not satisfied, but there is some kind of middle ground here.
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But I, again, I think that's a lot of guys feel trapped in marriages cause they don't
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They don't want to put their kid at every statistical disadvantage they possibly could.
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So it's like, if they step, this is just how they see it.
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It's like, if they step out and you never find out because they're, you're not doing
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They, a lot of times guys feel like it's justified.
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No, I know, I know someone that said, because he has a child, he will never leave his child's
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Um, but if he's unhappy, he will go about his business behind her back, but he will never
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And I don't want him, not, not because he fears that she would keep him away from him.
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It's because he doesn't want his son to grow up outside of mum and dad lives here.
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I think there should be some kind of mutual agreement between the two parents, if that's
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No, because she can get infected by what she doesn't know might hurt her.
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If he cares so much about his child, he's going to care so much about his worst vagina.
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So cause his standards are so high, he's not going to go out and cheat and get something.
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He's going to be extremely careful because he's careful anyway.
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Do you guys believe a man can love you but still cheat?
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Long term cheating or do you like, oh, I've slept with this person and I've realised I was wrong.
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I think sometimes they just fall into some stripper, you know?
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I have a friend and he reckons all men cheat in a certain type of way.
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He calls it like a transfer window, like a window.
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You can sleep with someone else and still love you.
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But not like a long term relationship with a whole other family.
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I really think guys can love two women at the same time.
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I really, like, I mean, they did it throughout all of history.
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I mean, you're going to tell me that throughout all of history, when it's 17, it's one man
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reproduced for every 17 women that none of them loved their wives.
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I think historically 80% of, 80% of women have reproduced historically where only 40%
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I think sometimes you find out who's who when you go to funerals and you find out who's
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And that's when you find out sometime that the man had a whole family that nobody knew
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I'm just saying that's how the world's always been.
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I think it happens more with people older than me than now.
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You always know somebody and like they have somebody down the road.
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