JustPearlyThings - All Boss Babes STRUGGLE In This Particular Area

00:00:00.000 So who do you think's up here, yeah?

00:00:01.440 A girl that is stressing about a business,

00:00:03.540 running it, employees, this and that.

00:00:04.760 Yeah, but she might not be stressing about it, though.

00:00:06.560 No, I'm not.

00:00:07.940 If it's successful.

00:00:09.120 You can't.

00:00:10.520 There's no way you're making money

00:00:12.340 and you are not stressed about it.

00:00:13.820 I promise to God,

00:00:15.360 any girl that says otherwise is capping.

00:00:18.260 And the thing is, our hormones are different,

00:00:19.960 so we don't deal with stress

00:00:21.160 the same way that men deal with stress.

00:00:23.580 And that's like,

00:00:24.540 especially since I've gotten into management,

00:00:26.340 I understand why women are bad at it,

00:00:28.300 to be honest.

00:00:28.580 Women are horrible at management.

00:00:30.200 No, because seriously,

00:00:31.860 we are not meant to.

00:00:33.180 I talked to a doctor.

00:00:35.020 I interviewed him, I don't know,

00:00:36.700 a week or two ago.

00:00:37.860 And he was telling me,

00:00:38.640 we do not process stress

00:00:40.400 the same way that men do.

00:00:41.580 We're not built for it.

00:00:43.180 And we're more agreeable.

00:00:44.640 So you have to go against how,

00:00:45.880 because when you're managing someone,

00:00:47.360 you have to be on them

00:00:48.080 to make sure they're doing their job.

00:00:49.600 And that causes us stress

00:00:51.300 because women are more agreeable than men.

00:00:53.520 So a lot of times they sell you this,

00:00:55.400 oh, you can just run a business

00:00:56.920 and not be stressed.

00:00:57.860 There's no way.

00:00:58.700 I think if it's successful,

00:01:00.240 unless you're,

00:01:01.120 unless it's unsuccessful.

00:01:03.660 If you're not making money,

00:01:05.080 you very well,

00:01:05.900 you,

00:01:06.080 you,

00:01:06.380 you might not be stressed.

00:01:07.540 But sorry,

00:01:07.860 go ahead.

00:01:08.420 I was just saying,

00:01:08.980 I think when you have a business

00:01:12.040 and you're stressed,

00:01:12.880 it's not a bad stress

00:01:14.740 because you know that you're going to get there.

00:01:16.340 You've got kids to look after about it.

00:01:18.060 Yes, it is.

00:01:18.220 Yes, it is.

00:01:18.500 You've got a family to provide for it.

00:01:19.520 I just mean in the sense.

00:01:20.180 You haven't got time to look after a business

00:01:21.980 and stress over it,

00:01:22.720 like look after employees.

00:01:24.100 You have kids,

00:01:24.920 you have a husband,

00:01:25.460 you have a household to look after.

00:01:26.540 I think you take the right type of person

00:01:28.180 to be honest.

00:01:29.400 Because not everyone's

00:01:30.140 I understand where you're coming from

00:01:33.080 because like I'm really passionate about

00:01:34.900 like what I do.

00:01:36.040 And so on one level,

00:01:37.060 you're right.

00:01:37.700 It's not the same type of work.

00:01:39.320 Like when I used to work in sales

00:01:40.800 and that was horrible.

00:01:42.060 God,

00:01:42.380 I hate it.

00:01:42.680 Because you weren't interested in it.

00:01:43.640 Correct.

00:01:44.160 And so when there is a type of like love

00:01:46.060 you get from doing something

00:01:47.320 you're interested in.

00:01:48.180 But I'm telling you,

00:01:49.400 if you,

00:01:49.720 if you become successful

00:01:51.200 and you get to the point

00:01:52.260 where you're making good money,

00:01:53.660 it comes with a lot of problems.

00:01:56.320 Yeah.

00:01:56.960 No money,

00:01:57.540 no problems.

00:01:57.860 Everything good worth having

00:01:59.180 comes with some sort of issue

00:02:01.020 because it wouldn't be worth having.

00:02:02.360 And that's the thing.

00:02:03.160 It's a trade-off.

00:02:04.460 Yeah.

00:02:04.840 And the issue is like as a woman,

00:02:06.600 if you make more money,

00:02:07.600 it is tougher for you in dating.

00:02:09.280 It is not an asset to men

00:02:10.820 and men do not care about it.

00:02:12.360 Yeah.

00:02:12.640 It is not,

00:02:13.120 it is not a bonus,

00:02:13.880 like especially to the men that we want.

00:02:16.220 It is nothing to them.

00:02:17.700 Yeah.

00:02:17.920 But I'm not doing it for a man.

00:02:19.520 I'm doing it for me.

00:02:20.660 Right.

00:02:21.140 But that's the original problem though

00:02:23.380 is as women,

00:02:23.860 we never think about like what the men want.

00:02:26.520 Yeah.

00:02:26.740 I'm sure,

00:02:27.040 but I'm sure there's men out there

00:02:28.060 that would want a woman to have a business,

00:02:30.120 not necessarily a business,

00:02:31.240 but have a career.

00:02:32.100 You're right.

00:02:32.780 The broke ones.

00:02:34.720 Yeah,

00:02:35.140 but not always.

00:02:36.040 I have guy friends

00:02:37.440 that are doing extremely well for themselves

00:02:39.160 and they want the best for me

00:02:40.800 in the sense that

00:02:42.040 it's more attractive for them

00:02:43.680 to have someone who's not a housewife.

00:02:45.320 But then there's other guys

00:02:46.300 that would probably want a housewife.

00:02:47.700 So again,

00:02:48.040 it comes down to your environment

00:02:49.420 and how you've grown up in.

00:02:50.460 The reason,

00:02:50.960 I mean,

00:02:51.620 some guys,

00:02:52.340 like they want girls with money

00:02:53.620 to offset the risk of marriage,

00:02:55.360 but it's not really an attraction thing.

00:02:57.300 And like men,

00:02:58.260 men are never going to look at Oprah

00:02:59.720 and say,

00:03:00.100 oh,

00:03:00.160 she's so hot because she's rich.

00:03:02.320 Yeah.

00:03:02.860 But,

00:03:03.080 but women will look at say Trump,

00:03:05.060 like how many hot girls have slept with Trump?

00:03:06.640 That man is not like,

00:03:07.460 let's just,

00:03:08.000 he's not attractive,

00:03:09.000 right?

00:03:09.340 Because he has power,

00:03:10.440 status,

00:03:10.860 money.

00:03:11.360 And so we're just not attracted

00:03:12.560 to the same things.

00:03:14.800 Yeah.

00:03:15.300 I get,

00:03:15.620 I get what you're saying,

00:03:16.580 but I don't think,

00:03:17.300 I don't really agree to be honest.

00:03:19.940 You think men are lined up

00:03:21.140 to sleep with Oprah?

00:03:22.880 No,

00:03:23.360 no,

00:03:23.620 not that at all.

00:03:24.400 I just,

00:03:24.840 like,

00:03:25.100 I don't know.

00:03:25.440 It's just the whole power thing.

00:03:26.940 Like,

00:03:27.100 I think,

00:03:27.900 as a woman.

00:03:28.680 You don't think women want to sleep

00:03:29.760 with kings,

00:03:30.520 presidents?

00:03:31.560 Yeah.

00:03:31.920 I mean,

00:03:32.120 I agree with that.

00:03:33.080 So women do love power.

00:03:34.800 You don't think women want to sleep

00:03:36.440 with the CEO of companies?

00:03:38.300 It takes it,

00:03:38.940 but that's a,

00:03:39.520 specific?

00:03:42.580 Specific.

00:03:43.320 That word,

00:03:44.060 type of woman though,

00:03:45.220 because I wouldn't,

00:03:46.280 I would,

00:03:47.000 one girl might look at a man

00:03:48.420 with tons of money and think,

00:03:49.420 oh my gosh,

00:03:49.940 yes,

00:03:50.300 that's who I want,

00:03:51.720 I'm going to chase him.

00:03:52.360 But I would look at a man

00:03:53.020 and be like,

00:03:53.640 congratulations,

00:03:54.640 but that doesn't impress me.

00:03:55.700 Girls,

00:03:55.940 can we admit something?

00:03:56.620 Can we just admit something?

00:03:57.420 Let's just admit something,

00:03:58.400 yeah?

00:03:59.040 Cool.

00:03:59.440 You girls would rather have someone

00:04:00.960 that's important

00:04:01.920 to not important.

00:04:03.080 Easy as,

00:04:03.620 yes or no?

00:04:04.080 Yeah,

00:04:04.460 of course.

00:04:05.100 Yeah,

00:04:05.320 that's it.

00:04:06.160 Easy as.

00:04:06.680 But being important

00:04:07.300 doesn't mean money though.

00:04:08.440 What does it mean then?

00:04:09.680 Who you are as an individual.

00:04:10.760 Who you are,

00:04:11.200 cool.

00:04:11.420 Let's say a homeless guy,

00:04:12.300 who he is.

00:04:13.200 Yeah?

00:04:13.960 So you rather sleep

00:04:14.600 with a homeless guy,

00:04:15.400 I see what you're saying,

00:04:20.260 but would you sleep

00:04:22.640 with a homeless person

00:04:23.420 because she was a virgin?

00:04:24.360 It's not the same thing,

00:04:25.180 bro.

00:04:25.520 Well,

00:04:25.740 it kind of is though.

00:04:27.920 It kind of is though.

00:04:29.200 No,

00:04:29.420 it's not.

00:04:29.780 I mean,

00:04:30.060 you know,

00:04:30.720 kind of,

00:04:31.340 like men prefer women

00:04:32.480 that live with their parents.

00:04:34.240 Exactly.

00:04:34.820 So in a way,

00:04:35.560 that's it.

00:04:35.940 No,

00:04:36.120 I'm saying,

00:04:36.420 I mean,

00:04:36.580 I don't think they want,

00:04:37.440 come on,

00:04:38.080 if a girl's homeless

00:04:38.800 on the street,

00:04:39.780 she had to have made

00:04:40.320 some bad life choices

00:04:41.480 to get there.

00:04:41.960 It is so hard

00:04:42.660 to be homeless.

00:04:43.360 Do you know how many

00:04:43.840 women's shelters

00:04:44.500 there are?

00:04:45.800 Like,

00:04:46.040 you have no relatives

00:04:47.080 that'll take you in,

00:04:48.120 no ex-boyfriend.

00:04:49.040 There's always gonna be something.

00:04:50.260 Yeah,

00:04:50.280 yeah,

00:04:50.480 but men,

00:04:51.000 like genuinely,

00:04:51.380 I've heard men talk about,

00:04:52.740 like,

00:04:52.840 they prefer women

00:04:53.620 that live with their parents.

00:04:55.480 Really?

00:04:55.980 They're not sure

00:04:56.420 someone is homeless.

00:04:57.560 Yeah,

00:04:57.680 because think about it,

00:04:58.480 you're not doing

00:04:58.920 as much madness

00:04:59.840 if you're,

00:05:00.520 you got,

00:05:00.820 your dad's gotta see it.

00:05:02.240 True.

00:05:02.420 Unless you got a weird,

00:05:03.400 I know some people

00:05:04.080 got that weird relationship

00:05:05.400 where their parents let them.

00:05:06.900 Pearl,

00:05:07.520 do you think it's

00:05:08.160 because of the dependability?

00:05:09.920 Because if a woman

00:05:10.700 is living with her parents,

00:05:12.260 she's more dependable.

00:05:14.380 And that transfers

00:05:14.980 to moving in with a man

00:05:16.480 and depending on him

00:05:17.260 and submitting to him.

00:05:18.020 that's that,

00:05:18.520 you know,

00:05:18.720 that's the big difference.

00:05:19.720 Like,

00:05:19.960 before the 20s,

00:05:20.920 before,

00:05:21.360 that was like when women

00:05:22.300 first started to move out

00:05:23.580 and have a period

00:05:24.380 between living with their parents

00:05:26.260 and living with their husband

00:05:27.860 and that's when you see

00:05:29.140 like the birth rates

00:05:30.040 start to drop

00:05:30.860 and marriage rates

00:05:31.680 start to drop

00:05:32.280 was actually in the 20s.

00:05:33.320 The 60s like accelerated it

00:05:34.820 but it actually started

00:05:35.620 in the 20s.

00:05:36.740 And so,

00:05:37.540 you know,

00:05:38.160 it's kind of,

00:05:39.040 I would say the evidence

00:05:39.920 is clear that like

00:05:40.860 careers

00:05:41.760 may,

00:05:44.000 started,

00:05:44.880 kind of started the downfall

00:05:46.020 of like women,

00:05:46.740 like the family unit

00:05:47.740 to be honest.

00:05:49.040 I mean,

00:05:49.540 yeah,

00:05:49.800 100%

00:05:50.320 because obviously

00:05:51.000 the woman's

00:05:51.700 out of the house more

00:05:52.800 so she can't be

00:05:54.060 in two places

00:05:54.840 at the same time

00:05:55.580 of course

00:05:55.980 and she can't have,

00:05:57.360 well,

00:05:57.580 no,

00:05:57.840 because you can have a family

00:05:58.800 when you have a business.

00:05:59.820 Of course you can.

00:06:00.580 It doesn't,

00:06:01.100 it's not going to be easy

00:06:01.860 but.

00:06:03.880 What's the point,

00:06:04.860 bro?

00:06:05.460 But there's so many women

00:06:06.560 out there with,

00:06:07.340 that have businesses.

00:06:08.500 Wouldn't you want to give

00:06:09.360 your all to your family though?

00:06:11.120 Wouldn't you want to give

00:06:11.820 like 100% of your time,

00:06:13.940 your energy and love

00:06:14.660 to your child?

00:06:15.640 The person that I am,

00:06:16.680 I know I could do both.

00:06:18.360 I don't care what anyone says.

00:06:19.400 I know I could do both.

00:06:20.400 I know I appreciate that.

00:06:21.600 It's not really like logical

00:06:23.000 for that though.

00:06:23.620 Who's watching the kids?

00:06:24.140 But you don't know.

00:06:24.900 When you're at work,

00:06:25.680 who's watching the kids?

00:06:27.120 So,

00:06:27.500 I mean,

00:06:28.100 when they're old enough

00:06:28.860 they'll be in school,

00:06:29.600 obviously.

00:06:30.340 When they're younger

00:06:30.840 they'll be in nursery.

00:06:31.680 When they're a baby,

00:06:32.380 I will be there

00:06:33.100 all the time.

00:06:33.960 It's not until

00:06:34.740 that they're at an age.

00:06:36.020 So,

00:06:36.480 but business is cutthroat.

00:06:38.320 It is cutthroat.

00:06:39.380 If you don't,

00:06:39.760 if you're not,

00:06:40.340 so you can't just take

00:06:41.420 five years off

00:06:42.320 and then come back

00:06:43.020 and say it is cutthroat.

00:06:43.920 Yeah,

00:06:44.060 no,

00:06:44.180 of course,

00:06:44.580 because obviously every day

00:06:45.960 there's new things coming in

00:06:50.400 this at my fingertip

00:06:52.240 while I could also be catering

00:06:53.620 for my child.

00:06:54.860 It's done.

00:06:55.360 I know people in real estate

00:06:56.580 that will be at home

00:06:57.700 with their kids

00:06:58.120 but they're still doing

00:06:58.740 business calls.

00:06:59.500 Yeah,

00:06:59.800 and I think that's the problem

00:07:01.240 to be honest.

00:07:02.220 I think that,

00:07:02.840 I think it's the way

00:07:03.360 you look at it though.

00:07:04.380 I think we look at the outcomes.

00:07:06.360 What has that done for society?

00:07:08.020 Has it made it better or worse?

00:07:09.240 Like the family unit

00:07:10.180 stronger or weaker?

00:07:11.200 It's made it weaker.

00:07:12.180 I mean,

00:07:12.700 my parents,

00:07:13.800 Like that's why kids

00:07:14.360 are so messed up now.

00:07:15.940 Like you have a mom

00:07:16.980 that's paying attention

00:07:17.800 to her business.

00:07:18.500 She's not paying attention

00:07:19.300 to you.

00:07:19.900 So you live in the same household

00:07:21.460 but you barely know her

00:07:22.520 because she's spending

00:07:23.060 all her time on her business.

00:07:24.020 And you're on your tablet

00:07:25.020 and watching TV all day.

00:07:26.540 Why do you think

00:07:27.060 all these kids come out

00:07:28.020 with all this like,

00:07:28.720 God,

00:07:28.960 I'm so tired of hearing

00:07:29.960 these women's like trauma.

00:07:31.460 Like God,

00:07:31.780 my trauma for my child.

00:07:33.260 It's just,

00:07:33.660 and it's just like,

00:07:35.300 it doesn't lead

00:07:36.140 to good outcomes.

00:07:37.340 Yeah.

00:07:37.780 But I think it's a balance though.

00:07:39.380 I think if,

00:07:40.260 if you can balance

00:07:41.520 having a business

00:07:42.140 as having a kid,

00:07:43.380 100%.

00:07:43.920 But what do you think

00:07:44.500 is more important

00:07:44.920 to your child?

00:07:45.880 Like do you?

00:07:46.220 I've already said

00:07:46.960 that I think having a family

00:07:48.280 is more important

00:07:48.860 than my career.

00:07:49.500 Because I need that.

00:07:51.440 I need that.

00:07:52.260 I don't need a career.

00:07:53.680 I want one

00:07:54.360 because I know

00:07:55.100 what I can offer

00:07:56.180 and what I want to get

00:07:57.280 out of the world.

00:07:58.360 But I need that family

00:08:00.040 because without having

00:08:01.200 a husband and kids,

00:08:02.100 I won't have any family

00:08:03.600 because I've got family

00:08:04.600 in Australia.

00:08:05.140 I've got family

00:08:05.580 in Scotland.

00:08:06.720 I only have,

00:08:07.220 I haven't got any siblings

00:08:08.000 so I won't have

00:08:08.860 brothers and sisters

00:08:10.340 growing up.

00:08:10.960 Do you know what I mean?

00:08:11.680 That's very respectable.

00:08:12.780 I can't lie.

00:08:13.320 The fact that you want kids

00:08:14.480 but a loving family,

00:08:16.180 that's respectable.

00:08:16.960 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:08:17.700 And you'd rather choose

00:08:19.100 a family over a job,

00:08:20.500 over a business?

00:08:21.340 If I had to make a choice,

00:08:23.380 yes,

00:08:23.760 I would choose a family.

00:08:24.840 Okay,

00:08:25.140 but let me tell you something.

00:08:26.700 Let me ask you something.

00:08:27.660 Would you prefer a rich guy

00:08:29.320 that you get married to?

00:08:30.420 Not even rich,

00:08:31.040 just wealthy.

00:08:31.920 Yeah,

00:08:32.300 that can look after you,

00:08:33.480 that can look after your kids.

00:08:34.840 Yeah.

00:08:35.060 Or would you prefer

00:08:36.480 to get married

00:08:37.160 to the same rich guy,

00:08:39.140 have the kids

00:08:39.840 but still run no business

00:08:40.860 for no reason?

00:08:42.440 Well,

00:08:42.600 it wouldn't be for no reason.

00:08:43.340 It would be for no reason

00:08:44.280 because you're already set for,

00:08:45.280 you're set for life.

00:08:46.080 Why do you need to run a business?

00:08:46.720 But that's not me

00:08:47.500 in my head

00:08:48.300 being set for life,

00:08:49.360 relying on someone else

00:08:50.280 because he could walk

00:08:51.340 and leave him.

00:08:52.160 But he loves you.

00:08:52.740 You could walk

00:08:53.320 and leave him.

00:08:54.240 You could walk

00:08:54.720 and leave him.

00:08:55.400 Yeah,

00:08:55.420 true,

00:08:55.780 true,

00:08:56.360 true,

00:08:56.480 true.

00:08:56.880 That's scarcity and lack.

00:08:58.260 But this is,

00:08:58.780 yeah,

00:08:58.920 this is the propaganda

00:08:59.840 that they're always saying

00:09:00.820 that you can't rely on men,

00:09:01.920 you always need a backup plan.

00:09:03.260 No,

00:09:03.460 you don't.

00:09:04.800 It is okay to need a man

00:09:07.800 to know that you can't live

00:09:08.940 without him.

00:09:09.880 Yeah.

00:09:10.280 They teach,

00:09:11.180 I don't know why,

00:09:11.840 they have this fear-mongering

00:09:13.220 in women

00:09:13.800 and they literally,

00:09:15.540 it's propaganda.

00:09:17.100 Sorry,

00:09:17.340 go ahead.

00:09:17.900 No,

00:09:18.080 I was going to say it.

00:09:18.640 I mean,

00:09:18.940 I haven't once said

00:09:20.560 that I don't need a man

00:09:21.520 because to have a family,

00:09:23.500 I need a man,

00:09:24.220 obviously.

00:09:25.860 But I just think

00:09:26.820 women are so capable

00:09:28.060 of doing things

00:09:29.120 for themselves now

00:09:29.920 that it's not that

00:09:30.580 we don't need a man,

00:09:31.480 but we don't need

00:09:32.420 to rely on a man.

00:09:34.180 I think that's the,

00:09:35.160 I think it's,

00:09:36.120 I think I love

00:09:36.820 how modern women are.

00:09:38.380 I love how independent women are.

00:09:40.140 I love how powerful women

00:09:41.440 are nowadays.

00:09:42.300 And I think it's so,

00:09:43.600 I think you should encourage women

00:09:45.000 to want to do well

00:09:46.100 for themselves.

00:09:47.280 I just think it's so inspiring

00:09:48.620 when you see women

00:09:50.420 doing what,

00:09:51.120 like the Kardashians,

00:09:52.280 they have a family,

00:09:53.420 they take care of a family.

00:09:54.640 And look at the outcomes.

00:09:56.560 Like genuinely,

00:09:57.540 is it good North

00:09:58.700 is twerking on TikTok now?

00:10:00.340 I mean,

00:10:00.540 I don't agree with that.

00:10:01.480 I don't agree with that.

00:10:02.220 And now they're like kids

00:10:03.540 and they're already

00:10:03.980 exploiting the dog.

00:10:05.300 Yeah.

00:10:06.060 And look at,

00:10:06.940 look at what happened

00:10:07.760 like when he picked

00:10:08.580 the modern woman.

00:10:09.760 And you know,

00:10:10.160 I'll give Kim her credit.

00:10:11.280 She's super successful.

00:10:12.860 Yeah.

00:10:13.140 But look at,

00:10:14.260 look at what it's done

00:10:14.980 to their family.

00:10:16.120 Yeah.

00:10:16.440 She,

00:10:16.680 she divorced a billionaire,

00:10:18.620 like the top,

00:10:19.460 what,

00:10:19.740 1% of men,

00:10:20.700 she divorced him.

00:10:21.860 And like,

00:10:22.680 how,

00:10:22.980 how selfish is that

00:10:23.840 for the kids?

00:10:24.720 And that,

00:10:25.220 that's the problem

00:10:25.960 is when we tell women,

00:10:27.000 like our feelings come first,

00:10:28.880 like we translate that

00:10:30.040 until we're children

00:10:30.960 where we won't stick anything out

00:10:32.740 for the sake of the kids.

00:10:34.560 I do hear that.

00:10:35.600 But also say if my,

00:10:37.660 I mean,

00:10:37.860 my parents have been married

00:10:39.000 for like 42 years.

00:10:40.540 They got married

00:10:40.960 when they were 21.

00:10:42.100 Yeah.

00:10:42.280 That's amazing.

00:10:43.040 Yeah.

00:10:43.380 I mean,

00:10:43.700 for their,

00:10:44.040 it's not very rare

00:10:45.020 to still have parents

00:10:45.820 that are still together

00:10:46.460 as well.

00:10:46.700 They like each other?

00:10:48.280 They,

00:10:48.780 they love each other.

00:10:49.720 Yeah.

00:10:49.900 They obviously,

00:10:50.320 they had their moments

00:10:51.160 where they're bickering,

00:10:51.780 but they,

00:10:52.240 you can see the love.

00:10:53.140 And your mom stayed,

00:10:54.280 right?

00:10:54.680 Yeah.

00:10:55.060 Yeah.

00:10:55.420 And that's,

00:10:55.780 that's,

00:10:56.020 they don't make women

00:10:56.660 like that anymore.

00:10:57.600 Yeah.

JustPearlyThings - July 11, 2023

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